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Decade In Review: Part 1 Transcript
Marie Forleo: Hey, everyone. It’s Marie Forleo, and welcome to another episode of MarieTV and The Marie Forleo Podcast.
Marie Forleo: New Years is around the corner and one of my favorite things to do in December is something called a year in review. Now, 2019, this was a monster year for me. I mean, it was amazing and it was exhausting and it was everything in between. So our business, right, it’s like the biggest and the best that it’s ever been, and I gave birth actually to a book baby. Wah, wah. She actually popped out an instant number one New York Times Bestseller, and she’s already speaking 27 languages. What? Then I had this idea. I said, “Imagine if a Beyonce concert and a TED Talk had a baby and then threw a block party,” and we did that. We did that here in New York City, you guys, and I actually popped up on the stage from a damn toaster.
Marie Forleo: While 2019 was super extra, what I think is even more exciting is the fact that we are about to enter a whole new decade. So rather than just doing the typical year in review, I’m going to up the ante for all of us and help us do a decade in review. Now, you may be asking yourself, why? Because you’re amazing and your time on the planet matters, and I bet a lot’s happened for you over this past 10 years. Am I right? I mean, some of it has probably been incredible and some of it has frankly been pretty difficult. At least that’s been true for me.
Marie Forleo: When you take the time to really honor where you’ve been and you get super intentional about what you want to create in the future, I promise you, you are going to set yourself up to have the best damn decade ever. Now, before we get started, you are going to need a few supplies. You’re going to need a journal or a notebook, nothing fancy, just like a good old college-ruled little notebook, and you’re also going to need some pens or pencils. Or in my case, gel pens, because I just think colored gel pens make everything a whole lot more fun.
Marie Forleo: To make sure that this process isn’t overwhelming, what I’m going to do is I’m going to break this into three parts. It’s a little how to do a decade in review tutorial. Every video is going to be short. We’ll make it to the point as possible and it’ll be easy to execute so you have gotten no excuses to get this thing done. This is actually an awesome activity to do with your friends and your family, so please share this. I promise, if you do it together you’re going to learn so many beautiful things about the people in your life that you care about and all of you will know how to better support each other as you move into the future. Remember, you’ve got to build your figureoutable force field. If you don’t know what the hell I’m talking about with a figureoutable force field, guess what? You need to get this damn book already and read it.
Marie Forleo: Now, of course, I want you to subscribe to the show and to the podcast so you know when the next lesson drops. If you want to share your progress with me, which I would love you to do. Tag me, @MarieForleo on social, and use the hashtag #MFdecadeinreview so I can cheer you on. So are you ready? I’m ready. Let’s do this.
Marie Forleo: At the top of your journal or your notebook, you’re going to write Decade in Review, 2010s. Then the first section we’re going to work on together is this, it’s called Section One: What I’m Proud Of. All right, so in this section I want you to ask yourself, over these past 10 years, what have you done that you’re super proud of? What are the obstacles that you’ve overcome? What are some of the results that you’ve created, whether it’s in your career or your business or your life since 2010? I know going back 10 years, it’s a big deal, right? So if you need to jog your memory, check out some of your old calendars, look at journals, you can even go back in emails, or honestly, looking through all the photos on your phone is an excellent way to get your mind thinking of everything that you’ve done.
Marie Forleo: I know it might take a little bit of time, but I am telling you this is so worth it. Most of us move so fast in life these days and we have so many things that we’re working on that we rarely, if ever, actually just stop, right? And take the time to digest and acknowledge all the progress we’ve made and actually see how far we’ve come, because we’re pretty awesome. Plus, so many of us are super critical of ourselves and we’re constantly feeling like we didn’t get enough done, that we didn’t get enough accomplished. From that place of feeling just so deflated about what you’ve done, I got to say, nothing good is going to happen. So I want you to really think about this. Think about the past 10 years.
Marie Forleo: Have you made major changes in your life, think about your finances, or your health or your career, or maybe your living situation. Are there certain things that you’ve created or overcome in your family, or maybe in your creative life? Maybe it has to do with your physical space, your home, or your emotional habits. I want you to list it all down, big and small, and everything in between.
Marie Forleo: Then once you do that, I want you to go back through that big list, right, and ask yourself, out of everything that you’ve achieved, what’s the most important thing, or things, to you on that list, and why? And just start circling whatever jumps out to you. Once you do that, we’re going to make a new little subsection called What Was Most Important and Why. Once you have that, you’re going to write a few sentences about the most important things that you’re proud of and why that actually matters. Because here’s the truth. When you know what’s been the most meaningful and the most significant things to you, when you really understand what’s moved the needle the most and made the biggest difference in the quality of your life over these past 10 years, I’m going to tell you, that insight is going to help you make wise decisions about how to spend the next 10 years.
Marie Forleo: Awesome job. You’re almost there. We’ve got another section for today, and that section is this. It’s called Section Two: My Learnings. My Learnings. In this section you’re going to answer this question: what have you learned over the past 10 years? What wisdom has just become crystal clear to you? Again, think through your business, or your career, or your family, or your relationships, or your health, or whatever. One of the best ways I think to actually find all the best lessons is to actually look for your mistakes, right? The places where you ran into the wall or you found yourself on your knees or it was really painful. What are some of the things that didn’t go so well over this last decade, and how can you really learn and leverage those experiences?
Marie Forleo: Write everything down. Again, no lesson is too small, big and small. Then ask yourself, in these past 10 years, what are the most game-changing things that you’ve learned and why? What do you really want to make sure that you remember as you move into this brand new decade? Then you’re going to write a new little subheading that says The Most Important Lessons and Why They Matter. You’re going to write down your most important lessons and why they matter to you. I have to say that this section is so crucial and it’s something that you should really look at often. The reason why is many of us have this pattern. We make the same damn mistakes over and over and over again, and this list will actually help you avoid that.
Marie Forleo: Once you’re finished, great job. That’s actually all you have to do for part one, and you did amazing. Next week in part two we’re actually going to work on the next section of our decade in review process. This is kind of like an emotional colonic, so to speak. Really, really good. I promise you, once you have this thing done, right, this is going to be your own personal wisdom map to help you rock the next decade. You’re going to love it.
Marie Forleo: Now in the meantime, I would actually love to hear some of the things you’re most proud of. What are some of your biggest lessons from the past 10 years? Tag me, @MarieForleo on social, use the hashtag #MFdecadeinreview so I can cheer you on. Finally, if you’re not subscribed to our email list, please go do it now at MarieForleo.com. I send amazing, positive, loving emails that will keep you focused, inspired and moving ahead. Until next time, stay on your game and keep going for your dreams, because the world really does need that very special gift that only you have. Thanks for tuning into MarieTV and The Marie Forleo Podcast, and I’ll catch you next time.
Marie Forleo: Hey, you having trouble bringing your dreams to life? Well, guess what? The problem isn’t you. It’s not that you’re not hardworking or intelligent or deserving, it’s that you haven’t yet installed the one key belief that will change it all. Everything is Figureoutable. It’s my new book and you can order it now at everythingisfigureoutable.com
Decade in Review: Part 2 Transcript
Marie Forleo: Hey everyone, it’s Marie Forleo. And welcome to another episode of MarieTV and the Marie Forleo Podcast. So this right here, this is part two of our three-part series, How To Do A Decade In Review. #MFDECADEINREVIEW.
So in part one we walked through how to gather up all your accomplishments, right? What you are super proud of from the past 10 years. Then we talked about how to leverage all your learning. So if you missed any of that, you need to go back and check out part one right now and get her done.
Now, today what we’re going to tackle is the next section, and I promise what you’re doing right now is going to set you up to really have the most joyful, the most productive, and the most meaningful decade ahead. And that’s what it’s all about. So make sure that you’ve got your journals and you got your gel pens, and we’re ready to go.
Now the next section you’re going to work on is this. It’s called section three, which is What I’m Willing To Let Go Of. Oh my goodness, you guys. This is such a big one. This is the only one that we’re going to work on today. Here’s where you going to get to write down all the things that you are ready and willing to let go of before you enter this brand new decade.
And there’s actually three places that you’re going to look for these things to release. Little subsections, if you will. And the first is this. Old projects and goals. So are there any projects or I should do this type of goals that have just been circling around your head for years that you’ve never made time for? Because honestly, maybe you didn’t really want them that bad in the first place. Maybe it was an idea from someone else that you took on, but it wasn’t true to your heart. Or maybe it was an expectation from a family member or society that was never really yours in the first place.
I think about it like this: old goals and projects are kind of like leftovers in your fridge. Food that at one point you’re like, I should really eat that. I should really save that. But then it just sat in your fridge for weeks or months, taking up all kinds of space then it grew some fur, and then you feel guilty every time you open the fridge and you see it.
Well, guess what? Most of us got some old, moldy projects lurking around our mental fridge too. So this is your opportunity to get them out of your head and get them onto the page, so you can officially let them go. Because on a conscious or subconscious level, I got to be real. These old goals and projects, they’re taking up bandwidth, valuable bandwidth that you’re going to need to rock the 2020s. Cool. Excellent.
So the next little subsection is called resentments, anger, and upsets. This is a big one. So be honest. Are there any resentments or upsets that you’ve been hanging on to? Do you have some emotional baggage that you are willing to release? Is there anybody in your life that you need to forgive, including yourself? I want you to write it down. And even if you don’t know how you’re exactly going to do any of this at this moment, it’s totally okay. As long as you’re willing, I promise you, you will find a way or make a way to release all this crap. Remember, everything is figureoutable, right? I wrote a whole book about it. You could totally figure it out.
Now finally, the last subsection here, and this is the most important, it’s limiting beliefs or crappy old stories. So you’ve got to ask yourself what limiting beliefs or crappy old stories have you been telling yourself for the past 10 years or more. Stories that just no longer serve you.
So for example, maybe it’s time to let go of that limiting belief that you are too old or you’re too young to do the thing that you really want to do. Or maybe you’re finally done with that story that there’s no room for you, because it’s all been said or done before. Man, that thing is so tired.
Or maybe you’re ready to let go of your excuses about not having enough time or not having enough knowhow. Or possibly it’s time to let go of that crappy old story that you’re not good enough or you’re not capable enough to bring your dream to life. So look, can we just get real for a minute here? I need you to listen to me, so come closer. Come a little bit closer. You are so much more powerful and capable than you give yourself credit for. I know you know this deep down, but sometimes that little shit talker in your head, it gets the best of you, doesn’t it?
Yes it does. Am I right? I know I’m right, because it gets the best of all of us, myself included. But this is an amazing opportunity to let go of all the crap that holds you back before you go into a new decade. Get it?
Now, once you’ve written down all that stuff, I want you to reread your list. Then you’re going to write a new little subsection and it’s called this: What’s Most Important To Let Go Of And Why. Now, just like we did in part one, you’re going to identify the most important things that you need to let go of and why it’s vital you let all this crap go right now.
So ask yourself, what has this thing cost you over the past decade? What is holding onto this resentment or this limiting belief or this old story? What has it prevented you from experiencing or achieving and why is it crucial that you let this damn thing go now and once and for all?
I want you to write as much as you want. Remember, reasons come before results and purpose fuels persistence. And with that I got to say nice damn work, you did it. That’s all you got to do for today. So coming up next is the final piece of our three-part series. We are going to actually finish your decade in review and it’s going to be awesome. Next week actually includes this really fun time traveling exercise that I think you’re going to love.
But for right now I want to know, what’s the number one thing that you want to let go of before the new decade? Come tell me at marieforleo.com or tag me up @MarieForleo on social media and use the #MFDECADEINREVIEW, so I can share you on.
Of course, if you’re not yet subscribed to our email list, go do it now. What the hell are you waiting for? Our emails are bursting with love and positivity, and I promise you they will keep you focused and motivated and on track. And until next time, stay on your game and keep going for your dreams, because the world really does need that very special gift that only you have. Thank you so much for tuning into MarieTV and the Marie Forleo podcast, and I’ll catch you next time.
Hey, you having trouble bringing your dreams to life. Well, guess what? The problem isn’t you. It’s not that you’re not hard working or intelligent or deserving, it’s that you haven’t yet installed the one key belief that will change it all. Everything is Figureoutable. It’s my new book and you can order it now at everythingisfigureoutable.com.
Decade In Review: Part 3 Transcript
Marie Forleo: Hey everyone, it’s Marie Forleo and welcome to another episode of MarieTV and the Marie Forleo Podcast. So this is the final part of our three-part series of how to do a decade in review. Now if you missed part one and part two, what are you thinking? You need to go back and get them done now because they are excelente.
Marie Forleo: Today, we are completing the last two steps of the process so you know what you need to do. That’s right. Grab that journal and grab your gel pens and let’s go. So the next section is this, section four. What’s next? What’s my future?
Marie Forleo: Okay, so this is super exciting. This is where you dream and this is where you write down all the things that you would love to create or experience or achieve in the next decade. So for example, what do you actually want? What do you want to create in terms of, let’s say, your health or well-being or how about financially? Are there any financial milestones that you would love to hit?
Marie Forleo: Think about your relationships with your family or your friends. How about your business or your career? How about anything that you want to give away or contribute, whether that’s volunteering, maybe some philanthropy, maybe there’s something in your community that you really want to give. Think about some emotional habits, right, or some experiences. When you think about the next decade, how do you want to feel on a more consistent basis? Do you want to experience more flexibility, more freedom? If so, to do what exactly?
Marie Forleo: So the goal here is to be as specific and concrete as possible. I want you to really envision the best possible decade of your life. You know there’s this great maxim and at first appeared in a book in 1965 by a computer scientist and his name was J.C.R. Licklider and he said this, “People overestimate what can be done in one year and underestimate what can be done in ten.” I find that to be so true. So please let yourself really dream in this section. Do not underestimate what you can achieve. This is such an amazing opportunity to like fire up your imagination, to tap into your heart and to create the life that you really want to have.
Marie Forleo: Now, understandably, this should take you a few minutes because I bet you got a lot of dreams, I know I do, but once it’s done, here’s what you’re going to do. you’re going to make that big list, then you’re going to look back over it and you’re going to write a new section underneath it that says this: My three most important goals for the next year. Okay, great.
Marie Forleo: Now I want you to review the list above and then write down your top three most important goals and things that you really want to focus on over the next 12 months. Plus, I want you to write down exactly why these goals are important, and who you need to become in order to bring each of them to life.
Marie Forleo: So in other words, what character traits or what habit or what skills do you need to develop or strengthen now in order to make these dreams actually happen? Now once that’s done, there’s just one more exercise to go and I got to say, this is a super fun one. You’re actually going to do some time traveling.
Marie Forleo: Not like that, but something like that. So future you, the actual 2030 version of you, is gone drop some serious wisdom on current day you. So in your journal, write this. Section five: what future me wants me to know now. Then here’s what you’re going to do. You’re going to imagine yourself 10 years into the future. So whatever your age is right now, you’re going to add 10 years to it and then really let yourself go there emotionally, like imagine it’s the year 2030 and then allow your future self to write a letter to current day you.
Marie Forleo: So it’s going to sound something like this. “Dearest Marie, I would love you to know that…” And then all you’re going to do is let the older, wiser you in your imagination share some wisdom with current day you. Just let your hand move on the page, write whatever comes into your mind, into your heart. Like don’t judge yourself, don’t edit yourself, and do not pay any attention to like grammar or spelling or punctuation. None of that matters, I just want you to keep your hand moving.
Marie Forleo: Trust me on this. You have got so much wisdom inside, you have so much natural knowing if you just tap into your imagination and you let it flow. And if you find yourself like feeling weird or getting stuck, you can just start a new line and experiment with these prompts. “I’d love you to start…” “I’d love you to remember…” “I’d love you to focus on…” Now I know this might sound a little weird or wacky, but it is so powerful. You got to trust me on this. It’s going to help you access deep truths that you already know intuitively and that you’re going to be really glad that you articulated now before the whole next 10 years passes by.
Marie Forleo: And with that, amazing work. If you’ve done all three parts in this series, you’ve got this incredible personal wisdom map is going to help you rock the next 10 years like a freaking champ and if there is any goal on that list that you want so bad in your heart but you’re not sure how to actually make it happen, please for the love of all things holy, get this book, read this book and do this book. Everything is Figureoutable. I promise you, it will give you all the tools and strategies that you need to bring that big dream to life.
Marie Forleo: Speaking of big dreams, I want to know what are your top three goals that you’re going to focus on for this next year ahead? You can go leave a comment over on marieforleo.com it’s a very magical place, or you can tag me @MarieForleo on social and please use the #MFDecadeInReview, so I can cheer you on.
Marie Forleo: Until next time, stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world really does need that very special gift that only you have. Thank you so much for tuning into this special series and to MarieTV and the Marie Forleo Podcast and I will see you very soon.
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