Always Putting Others First? Try This Now

December 5, 2023

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Do you tend to put others first?

You spend all day meeting deadlines for your clients. Then, you get home and help your kids finish their homework, give your partner a pep talk, call your friend who’s in crisis, feed the dog, clean up the house, and check on your parents…

You love them. You want to help.

But as you grow more and more exhausted, irritable, and resentful… These are tell-tale signs overgiving is taking its toll.

Now’s the time to take care of yourself — before you break. Because burnout is bad news for everyone.

In this Q&A Tuesday episode, I answer a question from Leaine, a bookkeeper in New Zealand who worked tirelessly to support small businesses in her community throughout the pandemic and is stepping up again during cataclysmic natural disasters in her area. She asks:

As a giver of help, how do I look after myself and still be the best possible helper I can be? Because these events affect me, too.

I love this question. Because taking care of yourself is the most important thing you can do. Especially when you have family, friends, clients, or co-workers relying on you.

In today’s MarieTV, I share three essential self-care practices for hard times. Plus:

If you’re feeling drained from overgiving, watch this short MarieTV now. These three powerful self-care practices will restore your energy so you can make the positive impact you were born to make.

DIVE DEEPER: Need help making time for yourself? Download my free Ultimate Guide to Saying No and set some loving boundaries!

Now, it’s your turn. How will you take care of yourself today?

You can use one — or all three — of the self-care practices we covered in today’s episode. Or, share one of your own favorite rituals in a comment below.

  1. Observe, Don’t Absorb

Next time you feel compelled to rescue someone or fix their problems for them, pause. Focus on being present. Witness their situation. Really seek to see and understand their experience. That alone can be transformative.

Repeat it to yourself: Observe, don’t absorb. You don’t need to take another person’s negative energy or burdens as your own. Your presence is unimaginably important. Your compassion is important. Your willingness to be there with an open heart and listen — to truly see and acknowledge someone — is oftentimes what many of us need most.

  1. Prioritize Your Own Joy

We're all witnessing incredibly tragic, heartbreaking events happening at an ever-quickening pace in this world. So you’re going to feel things. Hard things. And, it’s good and normal to feel things deeply! But at the same time, you have to protect your spirit so you can keep showing up and be healthy.

No matter what’s going on around you, protect time to experience your own joy. Whether it’s a movement practice, a delicious meal, flowers, or watching the sunrise. Practice finding beauty every single day. Appreciate the gift of this moment and being alive. Prioritize anything that brings you genuine, pure joy.

Seeking joy in hard times isn’t just healing for you. That joyful energy will have a ripple effect on your family, friends, clients, and community, too.

  1. The Power of Prayer

When it feels like there’s nothing else you can do, I invite you to pray. Whatever that looks like for you. For me, prayer means getting still and asking for peace, grace, strength, and comfort on behalf of someone else. I know this can be a controversial topic, so do your own research. Listen to your own heart and gut. Don’t do anything that doesn’t feel authentic and true for you!

For me, practicing prayer helps me connect deeply with others – even if they’re far away and we’ve never met. And when people pray for me, I feel the energetic resonance. It’s powerful and it means a lot.

We’re all on this Earth ship together. Let’s take care of it, ourselves, and each other along the way.

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