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Ever wonder what extraordinarily successful people are really like? Who is the real person behind the magazine covers and legendary stats? You probably know of Tim Ferriss: author of four #1 NY Times bestsellers, tech investor, speaker and host of his wildly popular podcast, The Tim Ferriss Show.

But did you know he struggles with bipolar depression and, at one point, meticulously planned his suicide? As he says, “It was really just a matter of luck that I didn’t wind up erasing myself.”

Or that his first mega-hit, The 4-Hour Workweek, was rejected 27 times? And that he still gets rejected till this day?

When he asked me to be in his latest book, Tribe of Mentors, I was honored. Tim is an incredible human. We’ve been friends for over a decade. In this episode he’s more open and real than I’ve ever seen him.

Fire up a fresh pot of coffee, grab a notebook, and strap yourself in for one of the most epic MarieTV interviews ever. You’ll learn:

  • The truth about Tim’s struggle with bipolar depression and suicide
  • How to overcome your fears (and why you should focus on “fear-setting” instead of “goal-setting”)
  • The “a-ha” moment 2 years ago that turned him into a hardcore advocate for self love
  • How to build a rock-solid writing routine
  • Why he writes his books “out of order” — plus a ton of actionable writing tips you can use no matter what you’re creating
  • The wrong way to think about marketing your books or products and what to focus on instead
  • And so much more

Yes, this conversation is longer than our typical MarieTV Interviews, but very worth your time. Particularly if you’re a writer or creative of any kind. Because this tweetable is worth it’s weight in gold:

If you try to make something that everyone is going to like, you’re going to make something that nobody’s going to love. @tferriss via @marieforleo

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In the last five years — what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?

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With endless love and appreciation,

XO

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  1. Vibeke Jansson

    In the past five years I quit a job where I wasn’t happy and started my own company.
    On my journey I have met hundreds af inspiring entrepreneurs making me push even more to pursue the life I want to live and follow my dreams. I made the decision to quit things that stole my energy like bad relationships and bad habits and I strive to live a healthier life. Today I live a more authentic life where I am my own boss in my business and in my life. I still have things I want to change but I´m on my way and enjoying the journey !

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Love it, Vibeke! It sounds like you’ve made some powerful changes in your life and they’re having a great effect. We’re so proud of you for taking the leap to start your own company and living your healthiest, happiest life. 🙂

    • Joanna Ruckenstein

      You’re really brave to leave bad relationships behind. Sometimes it can be really hard! 🙂

  2. Marie,
    Loved this today!
    If there is only one thing people take away from this, is his comment regarding suicide, “take all the pain you are feeling and multiply by 10 and impose it on the ones that love you” that is spot on!!! I lost my 1st husband (I was 22) to suicide. And that statement couldn’t be more right on what it does to the loved ones left behind. Just saying.
    Thank you, he gave a wonderful, wonderful interview!
    Marie Eatman

    • Me again! I love it, fuck you fuel!!!! I so get that!

      • Now that I have watched the whole conversation, I just have to say WOW!!!
        The one belief, thought or feeling that has truly changed my life is feeling gratitude. And that has been feeling all the way to my soul. It actually has only ben about 6 months, and although I had been practicing it, I didn’t truly, I mean truly feel it until I was in a bad car accident. Our car hydroplaned on the Turnpike and did the Mad Hatter ride, ending up in the middle of the Turnpike facing northbound in the southbound lanes. The airbag came down and I looked up to see a wall of cars and trucks stopped. Just stopped. We weren’t hurt and neither was anyone else. It was like someone had put their arms out and stopped everyone. I came away with such a feeling of drop to your knees type of gratitude, that has carried over into the tapestry of my life.
        Thank you for sharing such a wonderful conversation!
        Marie

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m really sorry for your loss, Marie. We’re sending so much love and healing wishes your way.

      • Marie Eatman

        Thank you, it was a long time ago, but something that will always zing when I hear something like that.
        Thank you

    • Deon Demouche

      Thats exactly what I was thinking last night.
      I had to watch this episode over a couple of days but got so much out of it- the other thing that stuck me hard was the reminder about the time with our parents, and to block out trips – so valueable and listening to Tim I had tears in my eyes.

  3. Wow. I loved this.
    I have to say Marie, I have watched a lot of Tim Ferris and read his books too, and I’m noticing a big difference in his energy just in this first half hour of the interview. He’s not even discussing self-love he is just embodying it. “Beautiful softness” as you’ve described it – is apt. Fascinating to hear how he got there.

    Thank you Tim for describing your struggle with depression and how you got to a place of self love, not in spite of, but actually including the depression. I counsel women and sometimes have a had a tough time identifying with and assisting women who describe themselves as depressed. This interview is a breakthrough for me, as I somehow know on a deep level that what you’ve said has given me some very powerful tools to be of higher service to those women.

    Thank you also for elaborating on Jesus’ “golden rule” from Matthew 7:12. You explained perfectly how there is an internal dialogue that we need to address.

    In the past 5 years, the thing that has made the biggest difference in my life is taking action on my intuition.

    Best Regards,
    Laura Gabriele

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s such a good distinction about self-love that includes depression vs. trying to achieve self-love in spite of depression. Thank you for bringing this up and we’ll be sending lots of love to all the women you’re working with.

    • Kate Koenig

      Laura,

      I am preparing to enter into the counseling field, and I have similar blocks around depression. Something that really opened a few “intuitive’ things up for me was listening to this podcast: Why Shamanism Now… All the episodes are on itunes, and there are a few about depression and some other things that REALLY spoke to me. It might be a little woowoo, but I felt like I needed to let you know!

      Warmth,
      Kate Koenig

  4. Change the people I spend the most time with, for sure!
    I always wondered how Tim, Lewis, James, Joe, you and so many other entrepreneurs I look up are able to jump into these amazing topics and have super insightful things to say. That’s how. You, and they spend time with people who also think about those challenging questions, their insights help shape your insights and vice versa and that eventually becomes a belief and a way of life.
    Incredible interview!

  5. The habit that has most improved my life in the last five years is using doTERRA essential oils. They have changed every aspect of my life and my relationships bringing immense joy, happiness and eagerness for what is to come in my future.

  6. Carrie

    This one with Tim was AMAZING!!! I have been listening to Tim for a few years and have always enjoyed the podcast, books, etc, found great value in the content. I feel like I got to experience Tim the human being with emotions and soul today!! The conversation was beautiful, inspiring and REAL!! Marie, as always your a gift to all of us! Thank you Marie and Tim for the value you add to this world! Cheers!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Thank you, Carrie! You can really tell when someone is sharing from the heart and Tim’s heart is wide open today. <3

  7. I left a 23 year marriage which had almost completely erased my authentic self, by simply letting God take the reigns. Fear was the most powerful force in my life- fear that I wouldn’t be able to escape my life and would be forever stuck in a place where my body was being riddled with several diseases. One after the other, attacking my systems and shutting me down. Eventually the fear of staying out shone the fear of leaving. So I prayed ” Show me the way and I promise that I’ll take every opportunity – I’ll walk through every door. Please help me.” Complete surrender. The fear dissolved and my divorce unfolded with ease. People and resources arrived daily to help me on my journey, connections appeared out of the mist, and I was free. My daily practice is gratitude. I write in a journal every night acknowledging the small and large miracles that showered my days. This gratitude reminds me that by surrendering, I have all I need and am loving taken care of each moment. I’m healthy (no illness in 4 years) and am discovering my true self. Learning to play again and embrace my weird bits…but I am again myself.

  8. This episode was amazingly insightful and helpful to me! I’ve adopted similar practices to Tim’s that have helped tremendously: the morning meditation routine, gratitude list, always having something to look forward to and understanding that loving oneself first is essential to deeply loving others. As far as meditation, I’ve come to realize so strongly that whenever I’m challenged or wanting to react, if I meditate and go inwards, I always discover the divine right answer to any question/issue/problem. The advice Tim gave when it comes to writing was also helpful. I like his idea of writing chapters that stand alone and writing to a “stadium of me.” I’ve been struggling with moving forward on completing a book, but with this advice, I feel read to finish it. Mainly because of knowing that I love to write, but oftentimes sit down and feel like I’ve “got to” write for a particular person, so writing for “me” frees me up to be creative and heartfelt in my efforts. Thank you!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      You can do it, Stacey! The world needs your book, so I’m really glad Tim’s tips are inspiring you.

  9. Something Tim said that resonated with me that I have been practicing in the past 5 years – I’m not getting attached to being the best coach for everyone. I may choose them as someone I’d like to work with but if they don’t choose me, I just say Next… One door closes and that leaves space for something else to open up. It has been soooo liberating!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Right on, Tammy! 🙂

  10. I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to see Tim on your show!! I’ve been a fan of both of yours for yeeaaars and I remember when I saw you in 4 Hour Body…I was like, “Holy shit! It’s Marie!” ._.

    This has been a long time coming and I’ve often wondered why he hadn’t been on the show. You guys made my day!! Two of my favorite people in one place having a REAL conversation. Thank you both for all the you do. You inspire me deeply.

  11. Yvonne Ling

    The most life-changing belief I’ve adopted is “the worst thing that can happen to me is a feeling/emotion (a physical vibration or sensation in my body). If I can tolerate ANY emotion, there’s nothing I cannot do.”

  12. Nancy Nuce

    This is hard to explain, but as a child I was always told that if I was “good enough” good things would happen to me. I was led to believe that I should never have to work hard for anything. That anything that was meant to be would come easy.

    I lived with this belief for over 65 years. In the past 5 years, I have been working on erasing it. I have found that I can have a much better life if I put some effort into it than I can by waiting for things to happen.

    I still have a long way to go.

    I am so amazed by the people who persist thru rejection after rejection. One rejection and I want to crawl under the bed.

    I truly need to find out how to learn to accept rejection and turn it into “fuck you” fuel. Any advice would be appreciated.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Maybe reframing rejection as a good thing would be helpful. What if rejections signal that there’s something better for you out there? For example, if a potential employer rejects you, think about how if they had accepted you it might not have worked out and you might have hated that job. Or if a publication rejects your writing, imagine that if they had accepted you the editor would have completely rewritten your piece and you wouldn’t have liked the final result. In both of these cases, rejection could be a good thing because it means there’s something better out there and it’s just a matter of finding it. I hope that helps! 🙂

  13. Shannon

    A life changing conversation! Thank you Marie & Tim!

  14. Wow! I got so much from your talk with Tim. I’ve taken so many notes! He’s endlessly fascinating and so knowledgeable. Thanks Marie!

  15. Nina Barretta

    Awesome interview with Tim!!!

  16. Carola Szemerey

    Wow this was a truly inspiring episode! I couldn’t believe that his book got rejected that many times, and really gave me some courage to continue what I am doing!
    What has most influenced my life the last 5 months is probably that I started listening to my body what she wants to tell me:)) instead of my head, being more present, meditating, self reflection and really get aligned with my purpose in order to know why I am doing the things I do.
    Very grateful! Amazing! Thank you so much!!:))

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s fantastic, Carola! It’s amazing how wise our intuition is. 🙂

  17. The habit that has made the biggest difference in my life is similar to what Tim said about learning to be nicer to yourself: for me it’s a practice of finding softness. I can be so hard on myself and that hardness extends to the people around me, leaving me feeling isolated and miserable. When I focus on softening and finding compassion for myself in any situation I can take much better care of myself and the people I love – and I’m much more curious and productive. I’ve identified a physical feeling in my body that I call “my inner smile” and during my daily meditation I try to find that feeling – even if it’s just the tiniest glimpse. It helps a lot.

    • I love the idea of finding an inner smile in meditation. That sounds like a great focal point. Thanks for sharing. Love, Yvon

  18. Patricia Rodriguez

    Thank you again for such an amazing interview with an amazing person! I loved how Tim defined risk and the process of fear setting. This has been one of the major blockers for me in starting my own company. I usually become paralyzed by all the what-ifs with no real perspective (will this have an irreversible outcome?) or remedies. So amazing and eye opening. I’m excited to start doing this exercise. Thank you so much!

    To answer your question, the one thing that I have started doing in the last couple of years is acknowledging my recent successes when doing my weekly status reports. I don’t actually share these status reports with anyone, they have actually become my space and time to really reflect on my week. I have found that by emphasizing my successes in my personal reports, my to-do list for next week seem so motivating and exciting. It also gives me the feeling of accomplishment and worthiness of rest, which I have found is so important for entrepreneurs because it sometimes feels our work is never really done.

    Thank you again Marie and the gang! You all do such amazing work that just brings such joy and light into the world. Keep up the good work!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s so smart, Patricia! I can see how that’s especially helpful for folks who hustle-hustle-hustle because they might be so busy that they don’t stop to appreciate the good work they’re doing or they might forget some of the successes that add up because they’re trying to work on the next thing.

  19. Bola

    In the last five years — what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved your life?
    GRATITUDE
    But after watching a recent Marie video I’m now super-charging that by showing APPRECIATION. I realised that although I was deeply and QUIETLY grateful I came across as maybe ungrateful . So now I’m focusing on SHOWING appreciation.

    This interview was simply EPIC and 3 months ago, faced with my business going under I was on the other side of the darkness that TF talks about and somehow (thanks to safe spaces, close friends and family) got to deal with irrational fears and put on the oxygen mask first and started to breather again.

    What Tim has to say is so relevant especially for me as I feel so much of the more macho language around success a) doesn’t talk about the emotional cost and b) doesn’t often give tools to help so kudos Tim for walking, talking and helping the walk and talk of life. Looking forward to seeing more of Buddha / Psychedelic* Tim than the ultra-competitor even if it was all for our benefit.

    *The direct to camera 3mins from the end was just jokes 😉

  20. Wow… great interview with Tim! Thank you!
    My life changing new belief is that I must allow life to flow through me and not block its stream of energy.
    (I’ve been binge listening to The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer for the past year). I’m a positive person who always had the ability to snap out of stress or problems. But I didn’t know that I was holding things in and blocking the release of energy. Now I’m truly more at peace by relaxing and releasing the energy.
    My life changing new behavior for the past several years has been meditation. My favorites are the Depak Oprah 21 day-ers. I love that they start with wisdom commentary from D and O and then lead into 10 minutes or less of meditation. And they also include a journal which I LOVE.
    Marie, thank you for all that I have learned from you and your guests on Marie TV.
    Xoxo Mary

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s awesome, Mary! Oprah and Deepak really do have some excellent meditations. 🙂

  21. Evelyn Garing

    about 5 years ago, I needed to move to new location, preferably in a different part of the country, but all my actions to move were being blocked. Suddenly I realized deeply, that this beautiful earth is living wise being that I could approach for guidance like a trusted best friend who knows me. I went for long walk in the forest, sharing my concerns and confusion. asking her for clear guidance for my next move. I received clear guidance that led me to not only the state, town, but actual neighborhood. Mama earth tuned into needs I had that I had not even thought about.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Wow! The universe came through beautifully. We hope you’re loving your new home!

  22. For me this was so far the most valuable conversation. I’m only halfway through the interview and I already feel like I’ve gained a ton of value. Tim Feriss is unbelievably inspirational in this interview! I love how he says that the idea that everyone has demons and that the idea that they lead perfect lives where they keep it all together so to speak is “bull shit”!
    This interview has raised so many questions for me. Wish I could speak to Tim directly!
    I’m a private chef and very passionate about inspiring people to eat more healthy and to be aware of their diets to be able to avoid diseases later on. It feels comforting to know that I’m not alone in feeling that life can be really hard sometimes, especially venturing out on your own. Tim is a true survivor!
    I’m so thankful to you Marie & Team Forleo for the work that you do…I needed to hear Tim today
    Bless!
    Joanna

  23. Andrea

    Loved the interview. Sooo inspirational.
    One of the things I’ve changed over the last few years is to put myself in the path of people who serve me and let go the people who don’t. Letting go of old friendships has often plagued me as being unfaithful but “life is short”. I’ve let go of the guilt and moved on. That doesn’t mean that I don’t have a space in my heart for good times shared in the past as they contributed to who I am now. As we change, so do our needs and that’s ok.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Right on, Andrea! Letting go of people is never an easy thing to do, so we’re proud of you for listening to your heart and doing what you felt was best.

  24. Wow!!! Really I love it for open minded new ever forever Tactic…
    Thank you so much

  25. Hi Marie Forleo,
    Thank you for many great ´episodes´ and your great spirit, in doing what you do!
    For the last five years I have practiced silence – typical in the morning and Saturdays – Sabbath´ish days – and I works for me, like ´play´days
    I also follow `The Practice Tribe` as part of my spiritual journey, as well as I attend The Global Leadership Summit in Chicago (now since 2005).
    Living in North Denmark, speaking a language few understand, I need to get ´wisdom´ from ´outside´, as well from ´inside´.
    I also follow you, for about 6 month or so, and it´s very inspirational, fun, informative and motivation in my daily life and work.
    To day was special – as I think so many people ´don´t know what they don´t know´ when it comes to ´inner life´, depression, bipolar, asperger – you name it – but during the last 5 years, I learned so much about ´diagnose´ language, both from loved ones and via a special `Systemizer` (positive word for ´aspies´ & autisme) group here in Denmark.
    Facts are your friends and set people free – as I also could here, in to days episode.
    Great week to you
    ~ Karen

  26. Jennifer

    I love what he says about risk (“RISK is the likelihood of an irreversible negative outcome”)…that resonated with me so powerfully and was the ‘ah-ha!’ moment I’ve really needed!

  27. Marie, I have been wanting this interview to happen for YEARS!!! You two are my favorite mentors! When I have to make a big decision, you and Tim are at the table and I try to channel the advice you might give me. You both changed my life FOREVER! I have so much gratitude and love for you both!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Thank you SO much, Carly! We’re thrilled we could have Tim on the show and are so glad you’re getting inspiration from both him and Marie! 🙂

  28. Avaleen Morris

    In the last five years, I’ve started asking myself two questions before I do anything and it’s changed my life. I ask 1) If I knew for certain that I was going to die in two weeks, would I do this? and 2) Do I really want to do this? Can you say #lifechanged ?? I approach my life more intentionally and spend so much less time in regret.

    • LOVE THESE Avaleen! Will be stealing. 😉 Thanks! 😘 xo

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Brilliant, Avaleen! That first question is like a punch to the gut and definitely a good gage for decision-making.

      • Laurie Powell

        Thx, Avalene. Added your questions to my toolbox.

  29. Hello from England! Such an amazing interview which resonated so much. Thank you. I went through my 30s doing all the ‘shoulds’ only to feel empty and unhappy. Hitting 40 was a bit of a now or never moment so I decided to move closer to my family and freelanced whilst I worked out my next move. However the opportunities that presented themselves meant that I’m still freelancing as a copywriter and loving it. By the way, I really appreciated the writing tips as being a novelist is ‘my other hat’. You definitely need other humans around! Writers’ retreats are a great solution or stay with a friend who leaves the house to a ‘proper’ job but is around to chill out with in the evening.

  30. Made it to the end. BAM!!! I’m going to celebrate by answering the question!
    The habit that’s really changed my life is saying “I love you” with weird and abnormal frequency. It’s saved my marriage because I say it every time I need to take a deep breath or sigh or get stressed. Stress is like a trigger to say I love you, or running late, or wanting to fight. I say it all the time. And it’s having a great effect (of course) on my kid who was so cute this morning (Mama, I love you so much too!). It draws me closer to friends and relatives and makes me happy. No regrets.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Love that, Emily! <3

  31. SANDRA MORALES

    the habit that has been improve my life tremendously… tapppinggg 🙂
    Great episode Marie… thanks both x

  32. Thanks Marie and Tim! Yummy, yummy stuff. I’ll be chewing for days/weeks/months/who knows!

    Without hesitation I can say that the one practice I’ve found most life changing in the last five years (ten really, but got serious five years ago) is YOGA, YOGA, YOGA. It has been my emotional Rx. That and the meditation practice that was a natural outgrowth of the yoga. HUGE stuff.

    Also, Tim, I just recently got back from my first I (and surely not last) plant medicine ceremony experience (Ayahuasca). Still processing this profound journey–so many layers, so much to integrate and explore. I highly recommend you take a gander at Rythmia in Costa Rica. Wow. Is all I will say.

    Again, guys, this was a rich and generous talk today. Thank you sooooo much, both, for what you do.

    Marie, as always, you are an anchor in my life. Love you sister. HEY! That would make another practice I’ve implemented in my life…just about five years ago now! MARIE FORLEO! xoxo

  33. Hey Marie ! Ive followed you for quite sometime now, but I never wrote, because of that old thought, oh, she has millions of fans, its not even possible that she or someone of her team are ever really gonna read. But you know, I just came into a big turning point in my life , so I guess if you read or not, its not about that, I just need to send the good energy your way anyways !
    I just came out from a really dark place, Im not even sure its been just a year or my whole life. Im not gonna go into deep details and bore you with it, because I really wanna tell you, your videos and specially the amazing interviews, really changed my life. Thank you so much for having the time to not only create some content for the audience and leads, but really transform my perspective of what is possible for me. Meaning my life, business, body, relationships and all. Its not by mistake you are friends with so many amazing people, but really, just wanted to thank you for being a breath of life on a Brazilian who lives in Colombia ! I’ll be in B school someday, and I’ll meet you someday to say thank you in person, for being my inspiration and my coach from a far, but until then, keep sharing with the world, the amazing gifts only you have. Love and big hugs !

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      We’re so glad you commented, Gabriela! We read every comment, email, tweet, you name it. We love hearing from you and really appreciate your kind message. I’m sorry to hear you’ve been going through a challenging time, though it means the world to us that MarieTV could be a source of inspiration and encouragement. Thank you for tuning in and being a part of our beautiful community! 🙂

  34. The define, prevent, repair matrix is also sooo useful. I feel like I’m already there in terms of hitting a low that I was afraid of and didn’t act to prevent. So now I’m in the “repair” stage. This talk helped me further see my situation as an amazing opportunity to develop empathy and the ability to not care what others think. I’ve recently dealt with sick kids and the inability to pay their medical expenses which is probably one of my worst fears, and I’m being supported by the universe to make it through with everyone happy and healthy. This low is a gift. Thank you for this perspective!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      You can do it, Anna! We believe in you and hope things get better soon.

  35. Incredible. Thanks for this and thank you Marie for being such a supportive and deep listener.

  36. Incredible interview! I saw Tim’s TED talk and it was so impactful. What have been doing over the past 5 years? Basically, on a journey to discover who I really am and and define what I want to do/be for the rest of my life. I have taken charge of me. My health has improved, I am doing a lot of inner work via Logotherapy courses (and helping others as well). Many of the practices Tim offered I have been doing and coaching others on. Gratitude journaling, meditation, And now I am learning to love myself so that I can love and serve others better. I am creating workshops for the older population and focusing on living in wellness and joy and creating income for impoverished aging society. I am 68 years old and now living a fulfilling life!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s wonderful, Miryam! You’re doing beautiful work in the world. 🙂

  37. Tim described the 1000 true fan base model — I completely identified with that concept for Tim’s fan base – I remember when I was 19 reading the four hour work week and devouring the techniques and really taking life style design to heart. I’ve enjoying following Tim’s trajectory in life and it’s reassuring to see he continues to live a life of powerful vulnerability and transparency through the years.
    My habit or belief in the last 5 years? The belief that on the other side of pain and discomfort or fear of the unknown is deep rooted joy. Leaving a marriage and the identity that I tried to box myself in as a young twenty something year old and daring to start over has led me to a life full of autonomy, freedom and genuine relationship not only with others but most importantly my self. Thank you Tim and Marie for this session – I LOVE these long episodes!!!

  38. Mahal

    How excited was I! Marie, I am a regular listener of Tim’s podcasts. You have such a gift of bringing out yet another side of him in this interview. Thank you for being a safe and refreshing host who allows her guests to open themselves up in different ways that leaves the rest of us feeling energized. This episode gave me a dose of courage. Blessings, Marie!

  39. Yvette

    This soul has just made such a profound impression on me, thanks for this interview.
    One behavior I’ve used that’s changed the way I treat my daughter as well as everything else.. stop and observe this life in awe, no matter what’s going on.

  40. Mary Krow

    Marie and Tim, you are two of my favorite podcasters! In the last 5 years, the best habit or practice that I have developed would have to be starting the morning with a candle, a cup of coffee, and quiet time. It genuinely changes my mood for the entire day. I would love to be able to turn my phone to airplane mode through the night and into the first 30 minutes of the morning. How do you deal with the anxiety of missing an important phone call, such as a health related emergency from family…?

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s a really good question, Mary, and definitely something I bet is a concern for a lot of people. We’d love for you to submit this Q for consideration for a future Q&A Tuesday! The link to submit is on this page https://www.marieforleo.com/marietv/ or if you have any questions you can write to us at infoATmarieforleoDOTcom and we’ll be happy to help.

  41. First – THANK YOU so much for this! I love Marie and Tim so this was a no-questions-asked-stop-everything and watch for me 🙂

    As for the thing that has most changed my life in the last five years – tracking my nutrition and exercise has given me such a profound sense of both control and (thereby) freedom around so many aspects of my life, I can’t even begin to quantify. I had a large weight gain after losing a job two years ago, and tried everything I could to drop that 30 pounds. I did Isagenix and lost 20 lbs in two months only to gain it all back in a few weeks after stopping. I tried a ketogenic diet that did not work for me on many levels. I did Whole 30 for months at a time and was miserable.
    Then, this past summer (2017) I found crossfit. I jumped right in and loved it from the get go – so after about two months, I was really excited to jump on the scale and see my progress! I figured I had to have lost 6 or 8 pounds AT LEAST.
    I’d gained 10! 🙁 I freaked out and went crying to one of my coaches who talked to me about my macros and how to manage how much of different types of food I was eating. That conversation made the BIGGEST difference in my weight, energy and sleep. I was able to hit more workouts with better results and have been fine tuning my nutrition ever since. I suffered a mild shoulder injury last month and had to take a couple weeks off from the gym and was terrified that I’d gain a bunch of weight and fall out of shape – but after that time away and eating pretty much whatever I wanted I didn’t gain a single pound. This has given me so much freedom around food and has helped me break out of a lot of my emotional behaviors around eating.
    As for the gym – the thing that I’ve learned from Crossfit has been to let go of the outcome and focus on the effort. As long as I give it everything I have, it doesn’t matter how fast or how heavy. It matters that I did a thing that was good for me.

    This has crossed over into my work life too – as a freelancer I’m pitching all the time and my focus is on making my pitch as beautiful and well thought out as possible – not on whether or not I get the job. Just last week I had someone pass on a project I’d sent them, but then someone they spoke to emailed me to say he’d seen my pitch deck and could I come teach his team how to build them! That beautiful effort is what got me this gig – not selling that particular project. It’s always just one foot in front of the other with everything you have. Not given everything you have to get to the finish line.

  42. gigi

    Since I subbscrided to Tim Ferris a long time before I receive your wonderful trainings. Thanks so much!

  43. Veronica

    Five years ago I moved from Denver, Colorado to Houston, Texas for a former partner’s position in oil and gas. I never thought that being plucked from my comfort zone in the Rockies Mountains and thrown into the humid armpit of America would cause me to reach down and cultivate my inner hippie. I have always dabbled in the practice of yoga and meditation, however, it was here in Houston, TX, of all places, where I’ve found a deeper appreciation for the practice and the inseparable connection between mind body and soul.

    Though, I’ve always been aware that there was a connection, my yoga community here has taught me that in every pose, in every decision, in every interaction we have in life, we have a choice. The choice we have is to react to all things from a space of love or a space of fear. In our community we call it “above the line,” (coming from love – aka your most authentic self) and “below the line,” (coming from a space of fear). Over the last 5 years, I ask myself this question for things as large as do I want to move forward in this relationship or job to things as small as should I take my earbuds and talk to the person checking me out at the grocery store. I also remind myself that “below the line actions, get below the line reactions,” just as “above the line responses elicits above the line responses.” It is such an easy and simple way to make decisions in life. Where is this coming from? A space of love or fear? When I ask myself this question, no matter what, I know that I have a choice and control of MY actions and response.

    Marianne Williamson has a beautiful way of summing it up in her book A Return to love:

    “Love in your mind produces love in your life. This is the meaning of heaven.
    Fear in your mind produces fear in your life. This is the meaning of hell.”

    This “simple,” concept, can be a challenge, and is a practice that gets easier, just like anything else. I am grateful for having this tool over the last 5 years to help guide my life.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That makes so much sense, Veronica. Thank you for sharing this wisdom with us. And we hope you and everyone in Houston is doing okay after the hurricane––our hearts are with you.

  44. To answer the question, what’s made most difference to my life has been my increasing love of quiet stoicism plus the courage to begin to say no to things I don’t want to do.
    Which is why this interview particularly piqued my interest. I’ll be honest: as a Brit choosing to live in the poorest EU country (shout out and nazdrave to Tim’s Bulgarian assistant), lots of the current US-centric lifestyle advice comes across as at best well-intentioned vacuous nonsense, and at worst indulgent elitist horse shit. Which is why I hadn’t read any of Tim’s books despite being aware of his popularity, and why I was pleasantly surprised by the candour, nuanced discussion and depth to this piece. Part of my resistance to all this is that I am rubbish at committing to and documenting patterns and extrapolating anything at all from past experience, but hats off to Tim for his obvious rigour in this department. I found it a beguiling and illuminating interview. Marie, you are brill at giving us a peek behind the wizard-of-Oz curtains of “celebrity” gurus and your grit and smart humanity are inspiring. Great job. X

  45. Lily C.

    Wow — this has been such a insightful interview. I owned most of Tim Ferriss’ books, and am looking forward to buying and reading his next one.

    The one habit or behavior that has been life-changing for me was adopting a ketogenic lifestyle, which Tim has recently mentioned (in an article I just read) that he is a “firm believer” of, including the practice of fasting. As someone who is also on the spectrum of manic depression and also actually diagnosed with adult ADHD, I have found this simple hack to be tremendously helpful for my body, mind, and productivity. I am actually able to sit down and work on creative writing projects longer than I ever dreamed I could in the past, and have found life stressors to be just a tad more easier, having stable blood sugars, making me a better person to be around.

    And now that habit is in place, I’m slowly adding in other balls in the air, like meditation, which Tim and Marie mentioned, and am now working on adding consistent exercise/movement into my life. The one thing I got out of this interview that really moved me was the piece about “self-love.” I am still trying to fine-tune that piece, and this interview really was a great reminder to continue to work on this.

    Thank you so much for this in-depth interview with Tim and Marie! I love that, when it comes down to it, we’re all a little bit of a “weirdo.” Love that!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for sharing, Lily! We’re so glad you enjoyed this episode and that Tim’s work resonates so deeply with you. It’s so wonderful that you’ve found a diet that works so well for you and are developing a consistent exercise and meditation practice. Self-love is a powerful takeaway and something that seems to be an ever-evolving process, but you’ve already taken some incredible steps in the right direction. Keep up the amazing work. Thanks for being part of our community!

  46. Robyn Leone

    Thank you for this amazing session! In the last five years I have focused on staying physically fit and have pushed myself in ways I never thought possible. Now a 65 mile bike ride is not only a great workout it’s a meditative practice as well. Focusing on my physical wellbeing has made me stronger emotionally and spiritually too!

  47. Elena

    Nice interview!
    Last 5 years. Hmmm. There are 2 things I have given myself which are loving and created great progress through the swamps of my dysfunction.
    I allowed myself to simmer with rage (this is a no-no for women in our society…but I stuck my tongue out defiantly ’til I was completely done). I acknowledged inside, not searching for agreement from others, that that rage was utterly justified, and forgiveness, inappropriate. I did decompress, deflated all issues I was screaming about, the fog lifted, and a new clarity emerged.
    Secondly, I took up chanting with an organized group (for self-attainment and for others’ happiness–world peace). In joining the SGI, I discovered commonality of purpose and a discipline that takes true grit to perform 2X’s daily. I think, as Tim Ferris has had his interest peaked by Psychedelics….(as did Stan Grof (Holotropic Breathing?) and Timothy Leary in my day), that CHANTING changes our chemistry. This is the kind of research/proof that has potential to heal civilizations. That sea-change may require the formation of particular chemical bonds, or adding free floating oxygen molecules to the system, or some glut of dopamine or oxytocin formed; I don’t know what, but it raises our energy vibration. We become more capable of seeing the forest for the trees, make better choices, accept sincere support and are grateful.

  48. Patricia Pariente

    In the past 5 years I’ve become less afraid of being true to myself and finding my purpose. I feel more hopeful than before and having mentors like Marie that comes up with very helpful interviews and ideas all the time keeps me moving forward. So thank you!!!!

  49. This was a great episode! Thanks to Tim’s book, we decided to leave Canada in 2008 to move to FL, from there we did a 5 week holiday in 2013 to Europe and haven’t stopped. 6 continents and 81 countries later… 🙂

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Wow, Chantal! You must have quite the collection of passport stamps by now. How cool that Tim’s book inspired you to take the first steps on your journey of a lifetime. Happy travels!

  50. L. Wood

    Well, it’s been a crazy ass year of change. I didn’t change things myself so-to-speak, but things were changed for me, and in reality, they’ve been for the best.

    New Habits:
    1. Meditation: It has seriously changed my thoughts process.
    2. Thought process: Thoughts change your mood, therefore; everytime I have a negative thought, right away I kill it with a positive one.
    3. I have to look after myself first, before anyone else. This has been really hard and I’ve had to practice it in baby steps.
    4. I can’t fix others. This is a huge deal.
    5. I keep my power. I used to give my power away, “not anymore.” This has been a big life changer for me.
    Now if I can just start using all of my education and skill and paint and write my heart out.

  51. Shoshana

    I usually enjoy these interviews, but I came away from this one feeling like this guy was trying to manipulate me. I enjoy a glass of wine or beer here and there, but I’ve never heard so much encouragement of heavy drinking and drug taking. I’m surprised Marie left those bits in the video.

  52. This was a great interview. Thank you Marie and Tim.
    What things have I done differently in the past 5 years?
    Several things really. 5 years ago I completely uprooted my life and jumped at an opportunity to pursue a dream I thought was far-fetched (it was not really all that well-thought out as a spontaneous decision, but I was determined) after realizing I wasn’t getting the support I felt I needed to pursue a different dream. To cut a long story short, I ended up moving to Italy where I’ve learned to let go of the things I can’t control and have faith that it will work out somehow if I continue doing my part when I’m supposed to.
    Communicate more and often until you know that others understand you and your needs when it is important. Rejection is not always about you. We never really know what is going on in the mind and lives of others who don’t communicate clearly with you.
    I live more simply and more authentically – I don’t really need so much stuff. I focus on improving my habits and identifying the ones that support me and the others that need to change or be replaced with better ones.
    I could go on and on, but these are perhaps some of the biggest changes in my life in the past 5 years that have come about as a result of living in a new culture and still being interested in self-improvement despite the environment where I live making many things so difficult and different from the one I grew up with.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Beautiful, Stephanie! Congratulations on taking an incredible leap of faith and following your dreams. We’re so glad that you’re feeling more at ease in your new home every day and we’re sending along our best wishes for continued peace in the next chapter of your journey. Thanks for being a part of our vibrant, global community!

    • Arloa TenKley

      Kudos for choosing to experience life in a different culture. I grew up in a different one, and then moved back to the US (supposedly home), where things were definitely not what I was used to. Yes, communicate the best you can, and continually strive to do it better, but at the end of the day, take it all with a sense of humor. Communication will never be “perfect”, (even with those of your same culture or family!) and that’s OK. You are being stretched, and you are stretching others. Life is about becoming. When there is no more becoming, there is no more life.

  53. Rebecca

    “You have to figure out a way to love yourself to love other people fully.”

    Don’t.
    Can’t.
    Won’t.

  54. Awesome episode. I really resonate with folks who can be fucking real. There’s so many of us who feel we need to act like something we aren’t online, so I find candor incredibly refreshing.

    I can’t remember if I found Marie because of Tim, or Tim because of Marie, but you two go hand-in-hand when I think of mentors who have shaped my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

    The new belief that has shaped my life the most? The idea that we (you/me/everyone) can’t be fixed because we aren’t broken. In need of healing? Absolutely. But we are each complete and whole. Imperfectly perfect, and capable of containing that contradiction.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Love that, Holly. Like the old saying goes, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” 🙂

    • Laurie Powell

      OMG, Holly. Your post was like a revelatory thunderbolt. I immediately tried to screen shot it on my iPhone – even though I’ve been taking notes all along. I needed to process what you said! In my enthusiasm & haste, I shut off my phone accidentally, then panicked that I’d lose my place in this long thread. Whew! It came back on in the right place & I’m so grateful to my iPhone & your insight. Thank you!

  55. Thanks Tim for keeping it real.

  56. Paula McConnell

    Marie (and amazing Team Marie) and Tim,
    What’s the thing that has changed me the most in the past 5 years? Tim, I’ve been a fan since I had to special order 4 HOUR WORKWEEK in hardcover at my local indie book store. (Yeah, I was one of those tech chicks.) Over the summer, however, when you got real about what was going on in your life, it went beyond fandom to being a sister in mental wellness; I got real too. I quit drinking, and after a lifetime of difficulties, my doc and I decided it was time to call it Bipolar 2, with neurotic extrication. (Runs in my family too.) I’m on the right drugs and sober; and at 53, I can finally say I’m doing ok. I’m in graduate school getting skills and looking forward to what is next. So, Marie thanks for having Tim on the show; and Tim, thanks. I hope someday we can meet and have a carbonated water together.

    • Colleen

      Paula,
      You are amazing. I am so into your post. Thank you for being open and honest and sharing your story with us.
      Rock On!
      C

  57. Syndee

    My mind is a little blown because for the longest time I wanted to connect with Tim and his books but felt that something was missing for me. That something I think was hearing more vulnerability from Tim. Thank you for being so brave Tim and for showing up in the interview today. It was really touching to hear about your struggles and how you are tapping into loving yourself to deal with those struggles. Its profound work that I have been in for about a year now.
    I took a 4 month sabbatical from work as a massage therapist. I just unplugged and drove across the country to NYC. I have struggled with anxiety and depression for so long in my life but couldn’t get to the root of it until this year. I discovered that i have insecure attachment issues and that manifests in co-dependent behavior in relationships. I get my self worth from outside of myself. I started going to CODA meetings and started really digging into the root of the matter. I am learning what it means to love myself and create my own self worth and confidence. The work is hard and the reward is great. Its daily and I am newly devoted. Thank you Marie and Tim for this interview today. Big love from Portland, Oregon. PS … this interview has made me a true fan and I am drawn to buying your book Tim. Im grateful.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      We’re so, SO proud of you, Syndee. It sounds like you’ve been on an incredible journey and you’ve done a lot of personal development work. I know it’s not an easy thing to do, but it’s so worthwhile. We’re glad you have the courage to do what’s best for you so you can live healthier and happier.

      • Laurie Powell

        Syndee, thank you for putting into words what I do in relationship. Identifying the behavior is the the biggest step in changing it. Thank you!

  58. susanne

    hello dearest Marie,
    thank you so much for the gift you bring me every week…
    you are inspiring and a real light in my life.
    i feel so happy when i see and hear you and the amazing people you bring to your TV.
    it gives me hope and guidance how to be my best me for the world and the people around me.
    today i learned how important it is to love myself i would say for my good first!
    and then for those i want to love and serve.
    Tim Ferris is an amasing soul and I will for sure listen to this episode again and again.
    i do feel that im still at the very beginning of my journey back to myself and todaz a big issue was allowing myself to have an easy day and keep it simple not needing the drama and hard work to feel im worthy…
    with love
    susanne

  59. Paul Mikoloski

    Tim is right about the beard but I love him so he can really do no wrong!

  60. Colleen

    “You are already whole”
    Four words.
    The most simple phrase I have ever heard.
    This changed my life last year.
    Obviously, this is a very common phrase and concept with many ways of being said. But this way clicked with me. I guess sometimes we know things but don’t necessarily embody them. I needed to hear it at the time I heard it and it just freed me up to rest and breathe in the fact that I don’t have to try to be or do anything. I am already whole.

    Feeling this took the pressure off me to be and do what I wanted with my life.
    I am the biggest underachiever with the mind-war battle of type A overachieving mindset. I repeat this to myself as a reminder.

    Thank you for this interview.
    I am blown away.
    I watch all your videos but this one had such a beyond tender energy.
    I am a new fan of TM. Always heard of him and always skimmed over.
    I am thankful to see his reenforcement throughout his responses of being nicer to yourself.
    Thank you for keeping this video length and not editing it out.
    I am sincerely warm hearted from watching this (and I have a new pile of research notes)
    Love to you.
    C

    • Colleen

      I meant TM*
      ..lordy I need a copy cure.
      Har 🙂

  61. Colleen

    Seriously?..I meant TF*
    …I’m going to be nice to myself about this typo issue.
    Sorry for the giant comment thread.
    peace

    • Hey Mollie, thanks for being human and having typo issues – and for the beautiful four words. Very simple yet subtle. I’m going to go and sit in the sunshine and let them sink in. Thanks! 🙂

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      No worries, we’re so glad you commented! “You are already whole” is such a beautiful mantra and we’re really glad you shared it with us.

  62. Well this clip sums up how I feel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TiWg7L0NJYU

  63. Yes I would have to agree my morning routine is so important to the success of my day;
    I start with prayer and meditation, then I go for a walk, when returning home, I do 15 – 20 mins of yoga and light weights.

  64. Hi Marie,
    I love both of you and Tim! Was so happy to watch this interview!
    I bought Tim’s book and I love it! Loved what Jerome Jarre had to say. He is so awesome, as all other mentors are.
    Meditation also changed my life and drinking warm lemon water first thing in the morning. 🙂
    Thank you for sharing this awesome interview with us!
    Thank you for all you do!
    Your fan,
    Lucia

  65. Melanie

    Hi guys,
    I absolutely loved this. It is such a joy to listen to you both!

    To your question:
    The New Earth book from Eckhart Tolle saved me from suicidal thoughts, especially his deconstruction of the egoic mind.

    Since then, the life became a meditation and a beautiful, peaceful place to live in.

    Thank you so much for sharing your gifts with us.

    XOXO Melanie

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m so glad to hear that, Melanie! The New Earth sounds like a powerful book and we’re really happy you found it when you needed it most.

  66. By far watching my own patterns so that I can run the show instead.

    Thank you Marie and Tim – amazing insights
    xo

  67. In the last five years I’ve begun to practice response instead of reaction. Also, I practice sowing positivity to create self love. Taking the moment to give a kind comment, compliment someone, and be kind to the people. The cashier receives the same respect as the potential client who receives the same respect at the person waiting on me at a coffee shop. Sowing positivity has been transformational for me. Sometimes it is difficult to do. Yet the sun shines much brighter in my soul when I make the choice. One more thing, I’ve decided to practice why not or why can’t I. This has made a big difference in my business.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Beautiful, Pamela! I know everyone you encounter is thankful for those seeds of positivity. 🙂

  68. This is my favorite episode to date!

  69. Hey Marie and Tim,

    Thanks for an awesome conversation. I’ve been a bit doubting about the methods in Tim’s books – always thought his stuff was too extreme (that’s just me, avoiding ease and going for old fashioned long-suffering instead). Yet here I am, totally impressed with the man himself – intense, feeling, humane and inspiring. I’m going to take another look at what his books have to say.

    The revelations for me in this interview come from the particular focus you took in the first part – looking at fear and how it can not only be overcome but used to advantage.

    On the topic of fear and anxiety, the most useful practice I’ve taken up in the last five years is an oldie but a goodie – I think it was from Susan Jeffers book ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’. When anxiety comes up in my day to day thinking and seriously holds me back I’ve learned to acknowledge it fully, let it be what it is and in the face of any fear say to myself, ‘Everything’s going perfectly. Whatever happens I’ll handle it’.

    It may sound contradictory to say ‘Everything’s going perfectly’ when it may not be but the meaning is actually ‘everything is perfectly what it is’ – Tim touched on this about depression being in his genes – if it’s there, let’s acknowledge it. In other words, the aim isn’t to be anxiety-free but to recognise anxiety itself as a natural part of life and to move on regardless, trusting that you really can handle whatever comes up. To my immense surprise, this has turned out to be perfectly true – I really can handle it.

    I’m going to add Tim’s ‘Fear Setting’ to my repertoire. Brilliant. Thank you both so much.

  70. Arloa TenKley

    One of the things that has changed me over the past few years is the purposeful, conscious, setting of intention. (I picked this up from Brendan Burchard.) I did have goals, but they would always be knocked out by circumstances that just seemed to happen. Once I learned to set my intention and created triggers to remind myself throughout the day of what I truly meant to have happen, then things started to change. I no longer feel out of control and a victim of other people’s agendas or chance. When I finally “got” that I could change my world, I have been able to truly move forward. I no longer blame others for my misery, I get to work! I’ve made important decisions about relationships – eliminating some, and staying committed to others; I’ve accomplished many of my creative goals, and am excited about life again! I am so thankful.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Right on, Arloa! That’s fantastic!

  71. Eden

    Thanks for this interview, Marie and Tim. It was very real, and quite helpful. So many nuggets. I think the biggest game changer for me was asking myself whenever I felt conflicted or pressured to make bad choices…”What would I do if I truly loved myself?”

  72. Sam

    In the past five years I not only lost my very long held belief that ‘everything happens for a reason’ when I feel into a deep depression but I regained it after more than two years of trying to dig myself out of a hole that seemed deeper than I had ever experienced before. The new belief that I gained in the losing and finding of this mantra is that tragedy and change can make us feel like the world is upside down but if you just keep moving forward, regardless of whether or not you are able to see any actual progress on the surface at the time you are moving forward each day, that you will one day turn around and see that everything has changed and that you have become better for it. So the idea and importance I place behind the concept of persistence is both my belief, behavior and habit – especially when it looks like nothing is happening on the surface because its not, change happens deep within and that kind of change is lasting.

  73. Mariza

    In the last five years I quit a marriage that that was founded on toxic love. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to quit. But it’s helped me become a better person, appreciate and respect again my ex and work on loving my self. I’m also working on being open to make new friends and to overcome fear of solo travel. Love your videos Marie this was a joy to watch. Such an honest conversation!!! Keep it up

  74. This conversation was incredibly motivating and empowering and came at just the right time. Thanks so much for sharing it with us!

  75. Thank you for this excellent interview, Marie. I loved it! I had to stop and start it a few times in order to not miss any of Tim’s messages. I am one of those people that have been living in a hole since I have never read or seen any interviews with him in the past.

    Tim Ferris @tferriss- I think you are freaking awesome! Thank you for sharing.

    To answer your question: In the last five years — what new belief, behavior or habit has most improved my life?

    I have learned more about myself in the past 5 years than I have in the first 45 years of my life. There have been so many call-to-growth moments that it makes me have to laugh out loud. In a good way!

    Acting on my own intuition and going with my gut and creating an action plan after the thought and then taking the necessary steps to get myself where I want to be.

    Example: Moving across the pond, back to my home country of Sweden after having been gone for 39 years. Starting over.

    Another example: Deciding to leave my job in order to start my own business. I need to help people in a way that I feel uses my strengths. Risky but I did it! 🙂

    Now at the age of 50, why shouldn’t I spend the rest of my life being who I really am and doing what makes a bigger impact on the world?

    Bottom line is this… Believing in myself FIRST.

    Hugs from Sweden!
    Åsa

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Excellent, Åsa! Believing in yourself really is key. In some previous episodes, Marie has said how doing what’s best for you is always what serves the highest good of others too. 🙂

  76. Jourdie Ross

    Hi Marie, Tim, and everybody!

    Wow, thank you so much for this thoughtful and real conversation. So many pearls to reflect on!

    Probably the most life-changing habit or behavior for me in the last five years is that of redirecting negative thoughts. It takes practice and effort (meditation helps; the way Tim describes it is spot on), but essentially, when I notice I’m blaming myself or some one else for a crappy situation or getting angry or feeling incapable and starting on that nasty cycle of thinking of all the reasons why things are so hard or so-and-so is at fault, I just try to catch it and remind myself that even though those feelings are legitimate and those things may be true, harping on it is only going to drag me down and further solidify the habit of focusing on the negative and feeling stuck.
    Instead, I try to look at the situation and focus on the opposite aspect. How the other person probably didn’t mean to cause harm, how it likely came from a place of their own hurt, and how caring they can be in other situations. How lucky I am to have the freedom and good conditions I have in life that I so often take for granted.
    Thoughts may be intangible, but they define so much of our experience of life and the world. Slowly training in maintaining a kinder, more positive outlook really makes life easier and obstacles less overwhelming in day to day life.

  77. For Tim & Marie:
    Last year I wrote a book targeted at international school teachers that was published by Palgrave Macmillan in May this year. The review was incredible and said that every teacher should own a copy. It has also been nominated for the Best Qualitative Book Award 2018

    The launch though was almost non-existent and sales have been low.
    How do I get it out there to teachers? Should I just send out ecopies to a 1000 teachers?

    HELP!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That sounds tough, Carmen. I’m sorry to hear sales haven’t been what you were hoping for.

      It sounds like you’re looking for more info on 1000 True Fans. Based on what Tim shared, I think the key is to reach 1000 teachers who are the right fit for your product, as opposed to 1000 random teachers who may not teach in the curriculum or teaching environment your book covers. The revised “1000 True Fans” essay from Kevin Kelly is in Tim’s book, Tools of Titans. There’s also a video where Kevin summarizes the ideas in the essay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wlg3808gDic

      Marie also has tips on marketing, which I hope you’ll find helpful as well: https://www.marieforleo.com/?s=marketing

  78. Probably one of my favourite Marie TV episodes to date…..maybe because the information shared is SO REAL and constructive, THANK YOU!
    For me (and this has happened in the past 2 years)….being present in the moment, the NOW. I realized I had lived most of my life either in the past of “I should have/could have” or in the future with “what if’s and maybes”….daily meditation and yoga has helped me become more aware and in tune with that.
    And daily little mental “chants” of encouragement to myself saying “you are good enough/you are worthy/you are capable of greatness” these little habits help me get through some difficult patches xx

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Love it, Jody! Being present and living in the moment is one of the things Marie encourages everyone to do because it’s such a game-changer. So glad you’re on it!

  79. This interview really spoke to my deeper self, especially about battling fears and realizing that the things we fear most aren’t that scary… Just in time when I’m to become a first time mom and the fear and anxiety of changes both excite and freak me out!

    In the past five years, the most important change I’ve made in my mindset is that I learned that there’s nothing I can’t do if I start small, with no big expectations and keep my consistency.

    Some wonderful things that happened:

    1. After spending my whole life telling myself that I’m not fit and sportive, I trained myself to run 10K.
    2. I started practicing yoga and meditation and became a calmer and happier person. I also battled the belief that I am clumsy and unbalanced because now I can hold a tree pose for as long as I want 😀
    3. I took a vegan fast twice a year, eating vegan for 40 days and completely changed my attitude towards food and animals.

    Thank you all for sharing and reading! Amazing community 🙂

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Woohoo, go Antoniya! It sounds like you’ve made some powerful changes that have really served you well and proven you can do anything, even the things you previously thought you couldn’t. And congrats on your soon-to-arrive little one!

  80. We hear this all the time yet I still have to credit 5 years ago when I leaned into the belief that I am 100% responsible for myself– every thought, feeling, and choice. My deep dive into seeing myself clearer is unending and so is the freedom from it (on the other side of struggling with acceptance). I still have moments of blame-shifting, but whenever I come back and re-learn this truth on another level it’s mind-blowing all over again.

  81. P.S. I remember when the 4 hour work week first came out and I sat in Barnes and Noble skimming the entire thing– almost embarrassed that I held it in my hands (is this a gimmick? Am I a shmuck for wanting to peer inside)?

    At the time I worked in a grueling mental health profession job and I continued to for many years. It was a painful and necessary beautiful part of my journey. However, now I have my own coaching business and live a lifestyle so far out of the box I think I can trace it back to some of the ideas that slipped in via skimming that book… Thank you!

  82. Hey, Marie!
    First of all – loved this interview. I made time this morning to watch the whole thing and I’m SO glad I did. Tim’s really an incredible guy and has been one of the people I’m grateful for in my life, even though we’ve never met or spoken.
    One of the biggest changes I’ve experienced in the last 5 years – well, there have been a LOT as I’m only 24 – but one of the biggest was realizing that I don’t need to be constantly working or being productive to be loved and cared for. I’ve experienced a lot of what Tim talks about, from thoughts of suicide to depression, anger with myself and the world, and feeling like my worth comes from my ability to endure more pain. But a lot of that is gone now, and it’s all thanks to meditation and a better ability to love myself.
    You’re doing great things, and I’m excited to see what you put out in your email list now that I’ve joined. 🙂
    Much love,
    Bill

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s so spot on, Bill. Your worth is not tied to your productivity or work output––you matter on your own, just as you are. We’re thrilled you enjoyed this episode and that you subscribed to Marie’s newsletter. We can’t wait to share more with you soon!

  83. Wow that was incredible thank you! Discovering Yoga and the secret of breathing deeply more regularly has changed my life and my health! And making a habit of listening to people like you more regularly as changed my life too! Being inspired constantly by people out there who do life different and don’t just accept “normal” in their lives is changing my “normal” every day and making me more comfortable with stepping out and taking risks!

    Love you both this was incredible thank you again!

    xxx

  84. Lisa Graiff

    Thanks so much for the great interview! One thing that has really helped me is looking at every person that I meet as a unique individual that can teach me something if I pay attention. I find that it helps me to maintain a learning mindset, and to recognize that every interaction is worthwhile (pleasant or not is a different thing).

    PS. You folks were talking about desk treadmills. You can also get under desk cycles and ellipticals. I haven’t tried them yet, but they sound like a great idea. Has anyone tried them?

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s such a great mindset. Everyone has unique wisdom to share, so why not learn from all we can? 🙂

      I haven’t tried an under-desk cycle or elliptical, but a couple of us on the team have FitDesks, which is a stationary bike with a desk attachment on top. It’s not something you’d want to sit on all day because bike seats are unkind to the tush, but it’s great for those moments where you’re feeling antsy and just need to move your legs.

  85. In terms of what Tim says regarding book writing, I love the idea of “treating every chapter as a magazine feature article”.
    Great interview!
    XO
    Jean

  86. The thing that has changed my life over the past five years is self travel as well as yoga. I visit an ashram in the Bahamas and it is amazing. Also, my travels throughout China and Thailand have made an impact on my life that I could never have gained without taking a risk and exploring the world on my own.

    Also, I decided to get out of my head and get going … book the trips you want to take and start moving forward on the projects you are thinking about. Life is too short not too!!!

  87. Anna

    A side queation: what is the author of the Fishes of the World book? I know a little boy that may love it.

  88. I’m a huge fan of you both so I really enjoyed the conversation! My wife and I own an adventure company and produced a film last year, and are forming a company based on that film. Looking forward to growing the new business and inspiring even more lives. One of my favorites from today was “put on your own oxygen mask first” so so true, and meditation has also changed my life, thank you! 🙂

  89. Jo

    Wow!! Thank you both for a heartfelt, joy-fueled and also incredibly useful interview – this is pure gold! I invested 2 baby lunchtime naps to watch the whole thing and it was SO worth it 😉 Lots of tips & inspiration for my next book, thank you!

    A special thanks for speaking about the time in your life when you were close to suicide, Tim. Your courage in sharing this can help others, I’m sure, thank you. The teen audience really need to hear this too.

    My life has changed considerably in the last 5 years; the question that has probably helped most is ‘If not now, then when?’ and adopting Marie’s trusty belief ‘Progress not perfection’. Those two things have unlocked a lot of positive change, thank you! Next up, I’m intrigued by Tim’s question of ‘What might this look like if it were easy…?’ – looking forward to applying that one!

    Thanks so much to you both!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Love the “if not now, when?” question! That really puts things into perspective.

  90. Daily meditation has become important for me. I can feel the difference in the rest of the day. When I have taken the time for meditation I am less reactive. I am able to be present to what’s happening without my monkey brain screaming at me.

  91. Marisa Quiroz

    Hi, Marie! This chapter was so great! I mean, I have loved every single one of them but this one really got into my heart and has so many great insights that I think I will rewatch it soon and write down so many of them! Wow! Thank you so much for the work you and your team do to create so many special content!

    As for the the question you asked us to answer, I would say that the two believes that have improved my life in the last 5 years is to:

    (1) Treat myself kindly and loving myself no matter what cuz at the end of the day, it is me the one that will be staring at the roof. I will be acompanying me the whole time so I better get alone with myself, right? haha

    (2) Expect less from people. I think I spended my early twenties wanting things from people and expecting them to behave in a certain way and if they didn’t i would get frustrated. Nowadays, I just accept the things the way they are. It seems something simple but it really isn’t but ultimate it is been a great habit to embrace. You get to love everything in ways you never did before and it is so relieving for everyone, specially myself.

    I think this might be it! Tons of love for you guys!

  92. Meditation! I practice primordial sound meditation every damn day 🙂

  93. I’ve learned how to let go of my perfectionism in the last five years. I used to struggle with it to the point of severe anxiety. As a child who was never good enough, I was hard on myself for years. After I graduated from a private college with a 4.0, failed a business, and learned how to overcome my fears of not being perfect, my life truly changed. In fact, to the funny point – recently my husband accidentally made a whole inside of my brand new car. I laughed it off, whereas in the past I’d dwell on it for a long time 🙂

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for sharing, Anya! Perfectionism is something so many people struggle with, and a topic that comes up often on MarieTV, so just know you’re not alone. We’re so glad that you’ve found peace in the “recovery” process over the past few years, and we hope you’re able to continue enjoying the present, holes and all 😉

  94. This has been so inspiring and I want to share it with everyone…..it “should” be shown in all schools !!!
    Having a gratitude practise is the most enriching process that i have bought into my life.
    A little prey of gratitude before I sleep and more often when I wake {except when I’m deciphering a dream } grounds me , keeps me lite with love and centre.

    I’m so grateful for Marie , her team and today Tim Farris XXX

  95. Karen Heyman

    Loved this interview. One of the quotes that I had to stop and write down was: “You have to figure out a way to Love yourself to love other people fully! This is so powerful, I work on personal improvement and time for myself which is something I have been striving for in the last years. Love yourself, as much as I thought I do struck me as also meaning to acknowledge all you have accomplished. It also means to be kind to yourself!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Such a powerful takeaway, Karen! We’re glad this message resonated so deeply with you and we hope it continues to inspire you to make time for reflection and rejuvenation. Thanks for tuning in this week!

  96. Nick Bell

    Thanks Marie and Tim for a great video.
    The belief that has helped me in the last five years is one from Mark Forster, English time management expert: Whatever you give sufficient focused regular attention to will change.
    A new one that I want to integrate into my life is taking the ‘never’ out of ‘I am always never enough’, so it becomes ‘I am always enough.’

  97. In the last five years, I would say that the new belief and habit that changed my life the most is the belief that money is a good thing and my new habit of looking after it and using it to my advantage so that I can make a positive change in the world. I used to think I was good with money but discovered that I was good at doing without it. I hired a coach and took the time to learn how to also be good at making and having money.
    Being an expert in doing without money also has the benefit of removing the fear of financial disaster, ’cause I’ve lived it, and it wasn’t so bad. 🙂

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      LOVE this, Tammy! As you may already know, Marie is a huge advocate for financial independence and developing a healthy relationship with money, and we’re all sending you big high fives. Congratulations on taking steps to be more proactive with your resources and using them to further your own dreams– you seriously rock. Thanks for stopping by!

  98. My respect and admiration for Tim just shot off the charts. What a human being.

    To answer your question: The behaviour that has most positively improved my life recently is I’ve started having real conversations with people; showing a deep and genuine interest in who they are, what they love and what matters to them. Years ago, I only spoke to people to determine where I belonged in the world relative to them, or to see what I could get from them. Not anymore, and my life has changed dramatically as a result.

    My relationship with my folks has also taken a dramatic turn. They each live many miles away from me – one in the mountains and one by the beach. I now take a day off every month or so go spend time with them – just them and me. It’s wonderful, and I wish I’d done it decades sooner.

    Thank you so much for this incredibly valuable conversation. It was such a powerful and heart-warming surprise. My copy of Tim’s book is now ordered and I very much look forward to absorbing every morsel of it.

    Love you both.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for sharing, Peter! We’re glad you enjoyed this interview and that Tim’s message resonated so deeply with you. We hope his new book will continue to spark some powerful conversations for you. It’s so wonderful that you’ve already been implementing some positive changes in your own life and have seen such an improvement in your relationships. We’re sending our very best wishes to you and your parents and hope your time together continues to provide happy memories for many more years to come.

  99. The past 5 years have been the hardest and most rewarding so far because I finally showed up to my life. I got divorced, moved 3,000 miles away where I knew no one, struggled with how to find who I am when I’m not under lock and key of someone, and had a lot of heartache.
    Being a thetahealer among other things, I’ve removed a lot of beliefs and replaced them with positive ones. But the biggest thing is that I finally want to be here in my life. When Tim talked about suicide, I really tuned in. Those feelings were so alive in me from elementary school until earlier this year. I even wrote a song about it for my last band’s EP.
    But recently, I finally wake up every day and don’t think about that. It allowed me to find a great new love, and though my job hunt has been rough due to my past, I believe someone will see the new me. I’m not sure I’m ready to work on my own, as I still feel a bit incapable, but watching this helped me realize that softness and showing up can make for incredible shifts.
    Thank you as always, Marie. MarieTV, Marie Unplugged, and B-School have been very meaningful to a woman who’s still finding out what it’s like to actually be alive.
    love,
    Elyza

  100. Wonderful interview, thanks for everyone involved for taking the time to do something so thorough. Lots hit home. Especially the part about how much time we spend with parents. My parents are in their 80’s and we live so far apart. To spend more quality time has been a dream. I love the idea of making that happen and why. Many thanks!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks for stopping by, Cindi! We’re so glad this conversation has inspired you to spend some more quality time with your parents, even if it’s over the phone. We hope Tim’s story will continue to spark some new ideas and inspiring conversations for you. Thanks for being part of our community!

  101. The best habit I’ve learned and have started to practice is one you’ve emphasized here, is to give myself the same regard I’d give to others; in the way I’d have them give to m

  102. Kathy

    WOW! Love his whole back story and how self-aware he has become. For me ACCEPTANCE has been the key in my life the past few years. Accepting where I am at this point of my life without kids or a relationship, in my job and career and especially when my parents both died. Especially when my Mother died unexpectedly. ACCEPTING that everything happened exactly as it was suppose to happen, when it was suppose to happen and how it happened. ACCEPTING the world around you and especially myself has been the biggest game-changer for me the past five years.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      This is so powerful, Kathy. Thank you for sharing a bit of your story with us. We’re so sorry to hear about the sudden loss of your mother– we can only imagine how difficult the healing process has been but we’re so glad that you’ve found a sense of peace by focusing on the present over the past few years. We’re continuing to send you our very best wishes for peace and abundance in the next chapter of your life and beyond. Thanks for being a part of our world.

  103. sonja

    I am with Tim in that the one major practice has been being nice to myself. For me it started with Kamal Ravikant’s book Love Yourself As If Your Life Depended On It. It has been amazing to me that by simply repeating – endlessly – I Love Myself, my monkey mind has almost disappeared. When it does speak up it is not anywhere near as mean! The things we utter to ourselves about ourselves we would never in a million years say to anyone else.

    I am also learning to conquer my fear of living a full and meaningful life. Very long process but worth all the time and effort. Learning to BELIEVE that I am loved, I am safe, and life is as it is meant to be. Always make the choice that is best for my higher self and harms no one, and it is the right choice. Why we make this hard on ourselves I don’t know, but I have been the queen of making my life full of fog. Now it is only sunshine for me!

  104. Deanna Fernandez

    Realizing that every thought I think and every word I speak are brush strokes to my future life. I am now determined to stay positive and that has made all the difference in my life.

  105. Rosa F. Brissos

    Last 5 years?
    Let’s just say last two, I’ve been surrounding myself of people that inspire me. And by surrounding myself I have to say that in the beginning was virtually speaking and one of the people was Tim, Marie, Lewis, Tom…well you know, all these amazing people that are true mentors!
    Learning by observing, by their examples, their experience and today I have to say, I’ve learned how to love myself and to be kind to myself.
    I have started to value my work and I took control of my life!
    Thank you!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Amazing, Rosa! We’re honored that Marie’s work has been a source of inspiration for you over the past few years. Learning to love ourselves is often the biggest obstacle and you’ve already taken some incredible leaps forward. We’re grateful to have you in our community and for the opportunity to support you along your journey. Thanks for tuning in this week!

  106. Marie and Tim toghether.
    Love it!!

  107. Farah

    Thanks again Marie,,,,,

    I lose track of my life every time a major event happens to me and so much of this last interview makes sense to me. I think for me, choosing my emotions is one of my greatest stumbling blocks when I’m already overwhelmed. Thank you for pointing me in the right direction once again. Blessings,,,,,,Farah

  108. Michelle

    A lot has changed for me in the last five years. But one thing that will impact my life more than anything else- and the life of my children- is that I’ve come to understand that what was happening in our home was abuse. And that I don’t have to tolerate it. I am freeing myself and my little ones from an abusive and toxic home and I don’t have to feel guilty about all of the things many in my situation think they should have guilt over. I can’t wait to see what will happen for us.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for sharing a bit of your story with us, Michelle. We’re so sorry to hear about what you and your family have gone through over the past few years. Recognizing abusive behavior, especially from those we love and trust, can be incredibly difficult but we’re so glad that you’ve been able to find freedom and healing in the process. It sounds like you’re already setting a beautiful example for your children to look up to and we’re sending along our best wishes for this next chapter of your lives.

  109. Jessica Baskin

    I absolutely loved this episode – so much wisdom here! Among many things, it’s inspired me to get back on track with meditation and to be kinder to myself. Thank you!

  110. Thank you Tim and Marie for a very uplifting, insightful episode. I’m going back to watch it again without my pen and notebook!!
    To answer the question though, one habit I have changed in the past year is to give myself permission to slow down. To not cram every second of every day with, well, everything at breakneck speed! And (not to hammer a current catchphrase but) to be more mindful of myself (especially before others), to recognise situations that create or fuel anxiety, fear or anger and to sit in that space and acknowledge the feeling first and the trigger.
    I have recently started a beginner’s yoga course and part of that is an introduction to meditation. And I love it! A year ago I wouldn’t have allowed myself to slow down enough to accept this practice as worthwhile if my time. Today I do.
    A year ago I had an accident that has left me recovering from concussion, a debilitating and sometimes frustrating recovery. However, it is only frustrating if you push too hard and not allow the brain to heal on a daily basis. Being forced to slow down was the silver lining from my accident. The universe spoke and I chose to listen.
    In slowing down I have become more aware of where I was heading and changed, not my trajectory but the quality of the journey. I’ve changed my eating habits, I’m spending more quality time with my teenagers, working less hours and cutting out distracting elements of my work that were pulling me away from what I really wanted to spend time on and create.
    I have always been a giver – Pilates instructor, dance teacher, graphic designer and photographer – I have always done things for other people. I still do but now I’m a receiver too. I’m slowing down and listening and finding my way again. Here’s to learning to love ourselves so we can love others fully – I’ve heard this said so many ways, so many times in my life but this time it has stuck! Nx

  111. Diane

    Radical acceptance of what a situation currently is. Instead of fighting reality.

  112. Michelle E.

    Thanks Marie! This was one of the best interviews I have listened to in a long time, maybe ever. I love your spirit and energy, often finding many take always after watching your videos. However, sometimes I struggle with keeping my energy in a good place but just listening to Tim let’s me know I am not alone in needing to slay dragons sometimes! Thanks again, keep doing what you do!!!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Love this, Michelle! Thanks so much for the kind words for Marie. We’re glad Tim’s message resonated so deeply with you and we hope this powerful conversation will continue to be a source of insight and inspiration for you. Thanks for stopping by!

  113. Sunny

    Great episode! Is it possible to get a list of the books he mentioned? I’d like to check them out. Thanks! 🙂

  114. Lale

    I have realized that loving your self is the most important thing in our life. But it really takes time to work this out.
    Thank you for all you have both shared.

  115. What a great inspiring and thought provoking interview – thank you! Five years ago I lost my husband, my soul mate and best friend to an aggressive form of cancer. I began living my worse fear, a life without my man. Quickly I learnt my thinking had to change as I was falling into a black hole. Fuck fear….I had to get to know who I was, get to like then love myself, connect with my authenticity and embrace my inner strength which I didn’t know I had. I am the person I am today, in part, due to a life shared. I realized I was actually lucky and grateful for what I had, maybe I could find happiness again. What tools did I employ? – expanding on my yoga, meditation and gratitude practice, and undertaking teacher training. I now teach yoga, have established a yoga business and blog – how privileged to be able to share my life experiences with others and possibly help others who are struggling. Out of darkness, there is light. And I’ve learnt to go with the flow, a great new habit….well most of the time!

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      We’re truly sorry for your loss Julie. The beautiful thing here is that you’ve faced your greatest fear, and you’ve come through it in a blossoming that’s been within you all along. We love reading that you’ve been able to transform your grief into love for yourself, and in turn you’ve found a way to contribute to your community simply by being yourself. We’re wishing you much happiness and easy flow moving forward 🙂

  116. Henry Michael Africa

    ***** TRUE STORY – LONG BUT WORTH READING *****

    I have experienced thoughts of SUICIDE… I have even gone down the road, just to see where it leads. BUT there is a difference o this TRUE story. To the ordinary person, they will not understand what can allow you to arrive at the Point in Time when it feels like you can no longer handle the PAIN and the STRUGGLE… Why then am I still here today?
    * Why am I on the verge of securing a multi-million rand property deal?
    * Why am I on the verge of finishing my 1st Bestseller novel, “The Old Man + The Boy”?
    * Why did I not carry that thought to completion?

    I am going to be real with you… If it can help to save a life somewhere… It saved mine. Am I ashamed to admit that I am a BORN AGAIN Christian? Some would shake their heads and say…
    ** How could you even think that – if God walks with you?
    ** Where was God when you contemplated this action?
    Well, the 1st thing to do, is not to judge. You can help no one when you judge. Its a road not worth traveling. I no longer judge because God let me experience something. I have stood where Jesus stood when Satan said to him… “Throw yourself off the cliff”… God was right there when I wanted to end it all… The conversation went like this…
    God: “If you do this then you know you go to Hell Henry… right?”
    Henry: “But it just hurts so much God that I don’t care…”
    God: You have to care and you have to win Henry… And Winning Starts In Your Mind”
    Henry: “But its suffocating God… This feeling has wrapped me in something like a blanket… And I can’t get out…”
    God: A long time ago I spoke to Cain. he did not listen and murdered Abel. That led to consequences for him. SUICIDE is not the end Henry… Its the beginning of consequences.”
    Henry: “So what do you expect me to do God? I don’t want to go on God.”
    God: “Sit down and cry if you want to Henry… Cry for so many others who have succeeded where you are going to fail… This failure is a VICTORY… Show them that “Victory begins in Your Mind”… And show them that you can win… IF YOU CLAIM THE VICTORY, then others can too… Live for others like I did… ”

    Life did not go from struggle to victory … It went from struggle to… “Hanging onto God”… Satan would, and did, come back again and again in different forms… And God had my back… He still does. God said to me… “Winners never Quit and Quitters Never Win”… Napoleon Hill had that spot on… Don’t ever forget that Henry Michael Africa as you walk through life…

    As I walked away from that moment in time, it will be with the knowledge that it’s the beginning of a new struggle BUT I was alive to fight for my place in Heaven… If I had carried that action to completion then I would have snatched DEFEAT from the jaws of VICTORY… Given Satan my soul and claimed a place in Hell… Life is really challenging… You can have it all…Lose it all BUT you must keep God… God is the only object of any importance that matters… God is there for every one of us… When we lose and when we win… God can take it all away… he can give you twice as much back… Me, I learned how to hold onto God… It’s all I needed… Everything else is a bonus…
    All I can say is this… “Thank you God for saving me even when I could not save myself… God has allowed my mind to grow Stronger… Our minds need to because “VICTORY BEGINS IN THE MIND”. And in our minds, is the place we must conquer all our fears… The Fear Of Failure is easy to recognize but the Fear of Success is another imposter we must beat to a pulp… God Bless you as you fight for your right to the LIGHT… May we meet there one day… NEVER QUIT!!!

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      Henry, we’re so glad to hear that you’ve been able to continually remind yourself that you have so much to live for, so much to offer through your unique gifts, so much to accept from the people and environment surround you.

      That moment on the edge must have been a scary one, and it sounds like you’ve been able to find an anchor that helps you see the bigger picture. Thank you for sharing your story; we’re wishing you all the best as you continue to strengthen your mind.

  117. I have most improved my life by changing the food I eat. I went from eating pretty much whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted to kicking sugar and grains out of my diet and switching to a low carb high fat way of eating. This has so profoundly improved my life that I’ve changed careers to become a health coach.

  118. dmg00

    The most significant change I’ve made in the last five years is appreciating how important mindset work is in my life and including it in my daily routine. I’ve gone off to create my own business and I never realized how important and necessary this would be. I have been really focused on it this past year.
    In the past couple of weeks I slipped into a particularly dark place, it wasn’t overnight and not pretty. I was past feeling lost. What Tim shared in this interview struck many chords. I felt my oxygen mask drop down and I used it. You guys saved my spirit and soul with this interview and I know I’m not the only one touched so deeply by this. Thank you.

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      Our hearts are touched by this; thank you so much for sharing how this conversation has impacted your mindset and soul. We’re all wishing you peace, love, and an abundance of internal compassion as you sort your way back to the surface. Deep breaths always help.

  119. I love you both a lot and…as therapist who runs a global listening non profit based on our need for Human Connection the quote on Instagram that we have to love ourselves first isn’t exactly right. Shriek. I’m not saying this to troll. I’m saying this to resist the wound of hyperindividualism in our culture that says we must go away, alone somewhere, heal ourselves in order to be a loving contributor to others.

    We learn to love ourselves by being loved. Human connection is the healer. It is impossible to love ourselves alone, without the help of others. In soludarity, Traci Ruble

  120. Kate Koenig

    Laura,

    I am preparing to enter into the counseling field, and I have similar blocks around depression. Something that really opened a few “intuitive’ things up for me was listening to this podcast: Why Shamanism Now… All the episodes are on itunes, and there are a few about depression and some other things that REALLY spoke to me. It might be a little woowoo, but I felt like I needed to let you know!

    Warmth,
    Kate Koenig

  121. Kate Koenig

    Team Marie,
    Wow. This interview, has managed to pull me out of a dark place. I joined B school last year and have not touched it…out of fear of failure. Tim is such an incredible inspiration and hearing more about Marie’s reality and his I think have finally lit a fire for me to engage in B school starting mid-December. Thank you from the bottom of my soul.
    Big Hugs,
    Kate

  122. Jana K.

    Hi Marie,
    I’ve been a big fan of yours for quite some time and must confess that this episode is by far one of my most favourite (along with Brene’s Brown episode)! I look forward to your weekly emails as they always enrich my existence on some level! Thank you for your amazing work that is indispensable to so many people! 🙂 xxx
    And regular meditation practice has also been transformational for me! Life is so much easier when one becomes responsive as opposed to reactive! 😉

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      What a beautiful thing to read Jana; we’re thrilled to hear that our work is enriching your days. We pour our hearts into each and every episode, and it’s so lovely to hear that they’re adding value for you!

      Meditation is truly a transformative practice, and your insight on becoming responsive rather than reactive is spot-on.

  123. Loved this interview! I’ve heard of some of Tim’s work but didn’t really know who he was, so thank you for introducing me (yes, apparently I’ve been under a rock 😉
    Really appreciated hearing about his struggle with depression and would love to see more of that in the future as it’s something I struggle with also. In the last year or so I’ve realized that giving myself permission to take care of myself the way that I need (taking medication), and not the way that others think I need, has been very freeing. I’m still trying to find the best way to help myself, but learning to let go of others’ opinions and judgments has made a big difference.

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      We’re so glad to hear that you’re embracing different ways to take care of yourself Jennifer. Stories like yours and Tim’s are truly important, and though it’s a practice to release others’ opinions and judgments, the more you do so, the freer you feel. We’re sending all sorts of positive and good vibes your way!

      • Jennifer Giuffre-Donohue

        Thank you! Sending those positive vibes right back at you all. xoxo

  124. Matilde

    The last 5 years I have started writing practice inspired by Natalie Goldberg and my dutch teacher Geertje couwenbergh. Ik have created a space in my notebook where I van be truly free. And let my dreams and intuition come out.

  125. For the last four years I’ve been doing the embodiment practice of Focusing. As Tim so greatly put it, meditation is training for your mind, to help you react less in life—and notice what is happening in us. But what happens when you do react? What’s the tool to help you unpack what that was all about, so you can get to the bottom of it and learn from it? I have found that Gene Gendlin’s Focusing to be a powerful way to do this, as it is a practice that teaches us to listen to the wisdom our body has for us; and can also help us plan our response (our next steps when we’re torn). Most of us hear our intuition with rather large things, or while we’re in the shower or exercising. We get an insight out of nowhere. We don’t realize that if we listen in a softer way that there’s A LOT more to hear. Ironically, I’ve found Focusing not only super helpful to work through reactions and to better understand myself, but also to grow my Self (I love the Richard Schwartz’s 8Cs of Self Leadership: calmness, curiosity, clarity, compassion, confidence, creativity, courage, and connectedness, in discussing our multiple parts). So like Tim, I have been spending time becoming kinder to myself. The biggest way I have done that is by telling my critic that it must be helpful. With my 8Cs standing up for me, my critic is no longer a bully, but rather a helpful observer and coach.

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      Annette, thank you so much for sharing your experience of implementing the practice of Focusing into your daily routine. It sounds like this combined with meditation and living a more mindful life is having such a positive effect on you. We love hearing about new and different ways to listen and tune in.

  126. It’s been two things – a daily practice of 15 minute bodyweight high intensity circuit training followed by a 30-60 minute yoga practice, depending on how much time I have.

    And, a daily gratitude practice. In 2016 I completed, without missing a day, a 365 days of gratitude on Instagram – some days it was the smallest thing – and it was so effective. I’m going to do it again for 2018.

    This year, I will add 1 hour each day of my spanish lessons, because it’s something that I’ve been missing in my life and skip it to make room for other things, sometimes simply chilling on the cuddle chair with my pooch and hubby to watch a program – instead, we can practice our spanish.

    Lastly, this was my most favourite Marie TV interview thus far. Thank you for having Tim on the show to talk about these things. I sent the link to my 26 year old son – he has so much to benefit from this podcast – I hope he takes something from it and FLIES!

  127. As a Mindfulness Coach and someone for whom mindfulness/meditation have been hands-down the biggest game changers in my life over the past decade, it made me SO happy to hear Tim talking about the front-and-center importance of self-love. While I’ve appreciated his expertise in the realms of productivity and business over the years, his approach used to feel so far to the “masculine energy” side of the spectrum that it never fully resonated for me. To now hear him talking about Tara Brach as a mentor of his (one of my current meditation teachers) feels so exciting…like we’re really tipping the scales toward some potent sea change if even Tim Ferriss is on the self-compassion and mindfulness bandwagon 🙂 Thanks for an awesome episode!

  128. KG

    Hey, enjoyed today’s conversation. Glad to hear Tim talk about getting over not minding what other’s think, becoming less emotionally reactive. I’ve been in an intense bootcamp for getting over taking other people’s comments personally. Loved Tim’s book launch marketing tips. Most especially enjoyed hearing about how he focuses his book writing process. Great attitude, Tim. Thanks ya’ll!

  129. Hi everybody 🙂

    There are two major events that have occured within the last 5 years that have changed my life for the best. 3 years ago I became a father to a beautiful little girl named Annie. Annie is such a blessing in my life because my wife and I could not conceive naturally. After 2 years of failed infertility treatments, we were blessed with little Annie (and eventually a sister for her last year as well!) It was through IVF treatments that I learned what is important in my life. I stopped focusing on being perfect at work and stopped worrying about all the office politics that were a constant stress in my life.

    Event number 2 happened a week before Annie turned one. In a corporate reorganization, I lost my manager job and was demoted to a planner role at work. I was demoralized for like…..30 minutes, then kicked my butt in gear and started brainstorming ways that I could be my own boss. Eventually, I gathered up the courage to start an Etsy shop and 2 years later it is my absolute passion. I make handmade coasters and decals, and while I still have to work a “real job” for now, I know that I will someday have a career in the handmade marketplace 🙂

    I never would have started my Etsy shop without the heartbreak of a demotion. That demotion was just what I needed to believe and trust in my own abilities.

    Thanks for reading 🙂
    -Ryan

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      What a beautiful example of what’s possible, Ryan! Keep up the amazing work with your Etsy shop, and thank you so much for sharing ♥

  130. 18 months ago I became free from alcohol. This has been one of those keystone/cornerstone habits/addictions that once I got under control it has positively affected every.single.thing in my life. From relationships to business to health & wellness and finances, everything has gotten better. I just wish I would have done it sooner. Loved this interview. Thanks for all that you do.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Go, Melissa! We’re so proud of you and we believe it’s never too late to change your life for the better. We’re really glad you took the leap to do what’s best for you. Cheers to living happier and healthier!

  131. Laurie Powell

    For the past six years I have been practicing Transcendental Meditation. It has changed my life for the better in TOO many ways to mention here, but I’ll just write a few: daily meditation has helped me to finally grow up, cut out the heavy partying, repair broken family relationships, lose the friendships that weren’t based on mutual love & respect, get out of an unhealthy marriage, put myself & my health first, understand what is really of value (it’s not money or things), reconnect with my abundant creativity, to name a but a few improvements in my life. I would highly recommend TM. This interview w Tim was SO full of gems that I’ve listened to it 3x already. And, as fate would have it, I’ve just begun writing a book so I’m indebted to you both for all your wisdom. Thx, Maria. Thx, Tim. With love, Laurie

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Wow! It’s so wonderful to hear how TM has impacted your life in these profound ways. We’re thrilled you found it! We’ll be wishing you immense success with your book. You got this! 🙂

  132. My new belief is that I already have everything I need within me to reach my dreams and goals.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      YES! We believe that too––you can do it! 🙂

      • Thank you Mandy! I love Team Forleo – watching a Marie TV video is my daily pick me up. 🙂

    • Kelly

      Me too! And the added benefit of my yoga studio adding a 2x / week dance class! Love “letting it go” every week

  133. Really enjoyed the interview, so refreshing.
    The habit I have developed in the past 3 years is self love, I was never able to sleep, sit, or eat alone. Now I became my own person.

    • Heather- Team Forleo

      What a beautiful gift to give yourself, Rotana. May you love for yourself deepen with each passing day. xo

  134. Erica Harris

    It’s not all about me. This has allowed me to reframe some painful memories, to ask questions about past situations and current ones rather than just reacting. Making some of my buttons a lot harder to push! Life is more relaxing and less lonely as a consequence

  135. This was amazing. I mean, all the episodes are, but this one really hit me. I watch while I’m working out, and when Tim said the line about the exponential pain that erasing yourself would cause to those you love, I burst into tears with weights still over my head. Having just come crawling out of a pretty dark period, this episode was really timed perfectly for me. The whole staying up late/sleeping in being a depression trigger? Totally. So many amazing nuggets in this interview. To answer the final question, the belief/behavior/habit that has most improved my life has been getting a grip on mindset and controlling my thoughts (or how I handle said thoughts I suppose). Understanding that my parents’ story doesn’t have to be my story. Accepting that I’ve been given the gifts that I’ve been given for a reason, and that it isn’t ‘bad’ to make a living from them. So many things…but all definitely mindset blockages that have been broken through in the last 2 years, with the help of Marie, Sarah Prout, Denise Duffield-Thomas, Tim Ferriss, and so many more. It’s a new day, and I am soooo grateful <3

    • Heather- Team Forleo

      Beautiful Emily, thank you for sharing your words with us. Congratulations on the amazing, and tough, work that you’ve done to shift your mindset. Creating new pathways from ones that have been in existence for so long is never an easy thing to do. You, and your courageous heart, did that and you should be so proud. xo

      • So much love and gratitude to the Marie Forleo team! <3 <3 <3

  136. Hi Marie,
    To start with, I love, Love, love your Marie TV… and all the other stuff you do! A huge THANK YOU for your valuable insights, Guests, and mostly…. that you give so much to us!
    There is a question for you,
    How can anyone ( me ) deal with a guilty conscience, when someone’s life is in a better state than their older sibling…
    I know that my fear of being successful has something to do with that, and there is more to that story. I have always had my own drum beat and I live by that. I just can not figure out what Stopps me ( take action ) to become successful financially without this guilty feeling. We grew up in a less fortunate way and my parents did the best they could do. My Mother passes when I was 13 and I had to practically finish raising myself from that time on… hence my fierce independence! So what gives? How can I pass through that ceiling and go beyond?
    Thank you, I hope you consider my hmm questions… Much love and a greatful ❤️ Vera

  137. What new belief has most improved my life?
    That I am loved.

  138. For me, it has hands down been beginning my journaling with a list of things I’m grateful for recently. I have always journaled, but in the last few years I have done so more regularly and more intentionally. Now, when I journal, I begin every session by making a list of things I’m grateful for. This practice alone has helped me be happier in my life in general, and helps me stay positive over a longer period of time, whereas I have had the tendency to fall into periods of depression in periods of overwhelm, extended periods without seeming success in desired achievements or in winter (I live in the northeast USA). This gratitude list shows me that there is always something to be excited about having access to or experiencing in my life, regardless of any circumstance.

    Additionally, adding regular practice of reviewing recent successes (no matter how small) within the journaling, has helped me to build more confidence in my own actions and self-made commitments. It helps me stay focused and remember that I can only control my own actions and not those of others, so what makes me successful is having integrity with myself and achieving what I set out to, regardless of there actions of others. It also helps me acknowledge and celebrate when things go how I want them to.

  139. Marie, although this interview was posted awhile ago, I just wanted to let you know that I found it to be very helpful to me. Thank you for getting into a more deeper, personal level with Tim.

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