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Get Clarity on Anything With This Powerful Exercise

June 14, 2022

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We have an incredible well of internal wisdom that is always available inside us. @MarieForleo

STOP! Before you make any more life decisions, there’s someone you need to consult.

No, not your parents, friends, or neighbors. Not your boss, coworkers, mentors, or even your spouse. While everyone around you — in person and on your social feed — might happily share opinions about what you “should” or “shouldn’t” do, only ONE person can truly guide you.

The world has opinions. Future-You has answers.

See, all of us have another self who is coexisting with this one. I like to think of it as my kinder, more expansive, more experienced, wiser, and higher Future Self. In this MarieTV and in the blog post below the video, I share the two exercises I use daily to connect with my higher self and get total clarity on just about anything.

So next time you’re facing a decision and you don’t know what to do —

Should I move to Italy? Is it time to start my own business or take that promotion? Do I want to wear the blue shirt or the green one? What should I eat for lunch? Are they “the one”?

Try one of the exercises below for instant clarity so you’ll know — with 100% confidence — your next right step.

You won’t have to worry or wonder any longer. These simple practices will help you unlock your inner wisdom, get total clarity, and make the best choice for you… every time.

DIVE DEEPER: Feeling lost? When life doesn’t go according to plan, use these 4 tips to get back on track.

Don’t Know What to Do? Call on Your Highest & Wisest Self for Answers

Any time you feel lost, confused, or unclear about how to move forward, use this exercise to guide you.

  1. Put your hand over your heart.
  2. Close your eyes.
  3. Ask out loud or internally, Alright higher, wiser, future self, what do you really know to be true about this situation? Is it a yes? Is it a no? What's the wisdom that you have to offer me right now?
  4. Then wait, breathe, and listen for answers.

The most uncomfortable part is usually hanging out in silence, being still, and waiting. But I encourage you to give yourself enough time and space to feel what arises. If nothing comes, try these questions to get the inspiration flowing:

  • What's the truth for me in this situation?
  • What do I need to know?
  • What do I need to understand?
  • What's my best next move that'll support my growth?
  • Who do I need to ultimately become?
  • What does Future Me need right now?

There's so much noise from the external world, it’s easy to forget that this beautiful version of us exists. And that if we can pause long enough to hear her voice, the questions we’ve been wrestling with will have a clear answer.

How to Recognize the Voice of Your Higher Self

Here's what I've learned about the messages that come from our higher, wiser, future self. Like my friend and renowned psychic medium MaryAnn DiMarco shares, “guidance comes in your own voice.”

Your higher self or inner guidance will NOT:

  • Be harsh
  • Speak in a critical tone
  • Give confusing, convoluted, or unclear messages

Your higher self or inner guidance WILL:

  • Whisper (especially in the beginning!)
  • Communicate with simplicity and clarity
  • Appear as words, images, hunches, or ahas
  • Come through body sensations like lightness, heaviness, heat, chills, dread, or joy

For me, my guidance comes as a sense of lightness about moving in a certain direction rather than another. Or, one choice will feel fun and easy, while the other fills me with dread.

Your wisdom will come to you in its own way. And the more often you ask, the sooner you’ll learn to recognize it. So use this Higher and Wiser Self exercise as much as you can. No conundrum is too trivial to do a quick check-in with Future You. She’s here for you!

If you don't get the clarity you need from simply asking, this next guided writing practice takes it a step further.

Use This 3-Step Guided Writing Practice to Tap into Your Inner Knowing

This powerful journaling practice is called automatic or guided writing. It allows you to tap into that higher, wiser, more conscious part of yourself, and give it voice on the page.

When I was writing my book, Everything is Figureoutable, I used this practice constantly. Every time I hit a creative block, I’d turn to my journal. Which chapter should I write first? What information should I put where? What will serve my readers most? This practice saved my butt, and my book. And I still use it daily to stay clear on my highest and truest path.

Here’s how you can use guided writing to clarify your life decisions:

Step 1: Meditate for at least twenty minutes. You need time and space to let the chatter in your mind slow down. And twenty minutes of mindful breathing also slows your brain waves and promotes mind and heart coherence. To access that higher part of yourself, that’s essential

Step 2: Write this question at the top of a blank journal page: Dear higher self, what do I need to know about _________? Fill in the blank with the issue you want guidance on. Maybe you want to know what this next chapter of your life should be about, or whether you should say yes to a particular job offer, or how to navigate a relationship challenge. Whatever it is, just ask

Step 3: Allow your hand to start moving on the page. Once you write down that question, put your pen to paper and write, write, write! Don't worry about spelling. Don't worry about grammar. And definitely don’t judge your writing. Just let your pen move and the words come through.

Every single time I've done this, it's as though another energy is moving through me. And I promise you — if you ask with intention and allow yourself to let the words come through — you’ll be shocked at the wisdom that shows up.

How to Get the Most out of Your Guided Writing Practice

The most important rule to follow when you practice guided writing is this: DO NOT EDIT YOURSELF!

Don't worry about complete sentences, punctuation, or grammar. The moment you get into your analytical mind, you’re FUBAR. So, don't go there. This journal is for your eyes only. Just get into the writing flow, and you'll be blown away by what comes through.

Second, if you hit a stopping point but don’t have your answer yet, keep going! Here’s a trick that can help. Use one of these sentence stems to get that internal guidance flowing again:

  • What else do I need to know about _____?
  • Is there anything else you can tell me about  _____

Fill in the blank with your topic or question, then keep writing until you feel complete. When you’re done, you’ll have your answer.

Now, I’d love to hear from you.

In a comment below, let me know: Where in your life do you need guidance and clarity right now? 

Then, commit to trying ONE of the practices above. Ask your higher, wiser, future self to guide you. I’m excited to hear how it goes. Please share any insights your higher self offers you.

Remember, you have an incredible well of internal wisdom that is always available to you. Your job is to pause, ask, and listen.

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