Marie Forleo: Hey, it’s Marie and you’re watching Marie TV, business and life advice that works. We are here in the East Village of New York City, and I’m bringing you something different, not a normal Q&A Tuesday. We’ve got a very special interview, so come on.
Marie Forleo: Are you only getting a fraction of what you want in your business and life? Are the things that you’re looking to achieve taking way too long to come your way? If so, Gabby Bernstein may have your answer. In fact, she says that to manifest anything you want in your business, whether it’s career goals, maybe it’s relationships, your health, your happiness, the real work is an inside job. I am so thrilled today to bring you my dear friend and bestselling author, Miss. Gabby Bernstein. Yeah, can you believe you’re on Marie TV?
Gabby Bernstein: I know. I was saying I was on Oprah today. It’s just like being on Oprah.
Marie Forleo: This is awesome. So manifesting is such a cool topic. It’s something that a lot of people may have some resistance to if they think it’s a little too woo, woo and it’s a little too passive. I know for me in my life, I’m such a go getting, driven girl that in the past, I used to have my own resistance to it. But as I’ve become older and a little more mature, I’ve opened my mind and I actually do consider myself quite a good manifester. So for our audience, can you define what exactly is manifesting?
Gabby Bernstein: Manifesting is acquiring the experience of what it is that you want to feel, and being and living and believing in that experience, and then allowing that experience to come into form.
Marie Forleo: So not only the experience, like say, wanting to go on a vacation, but even if you want something like a new MacBook Air. You can manifest a new computer or-
Gabby Bernstein: Absolutely.
Marie Forleo: … or being a published author, or having your business reach a certain level, so everything falls into that [crosstalk 00:01:50].
Gabby Bernstein: Everything falls in that category. Sometimes we manifest things far beyond our wildest dreams. Sometimes, if we have a vision of something, it happens in a far greater way, so we want to stay open. We can say, “I want that MacBook Air,” but maybe we get that MacBook Air that’s a little bit bigger than we thought, or maybe it comes with an extra little gift, but allowing ourselves to be open this or something more.
Marie Forleo: Cool. The way that I think about manifesting too, it’s involved in the process of creation or creating. I consider myself an artist and a creator. Do you see a distinction between manifesting and creating?
Gabby Bernstein: Manifesting is very creative. It is the process of using your power energy and being in that presence of your high powered energy and allowing the energy to co-create with the energy that’s around you. So you’re vibrating at a high frequency. I’m vibrating at a high frequency. We’ve done a lot of work. We’ve cleaned up a lot of our own crap. We believe in ourselves today. That that energy of believing in ourselves has attracted us together today and brought us into this space where we, together, are co-creating and teaching. If I hadn’t cleaned up my side of the street and if I didn’t believe in myself the way I do, I would never have manifested being on Marie TV.
Marie Forleo: That’s very true. So I know I like to always believe that I’m co-creating with the universe because I really believe there are no such things as coincidences. I’ve had too many experiences in my life where I’m like, “Oh my God, that’s what I wanted,” and it all seemed to line up and it was incredible. So that’s really part of what we’re talking about here, right, is our ability to play an active role, but almost paradoxically, a passive role in helping things that we want come into our life.
Gabby Bernstein: Yeah, there’s a really nice line from A Course in Miracles, which is the metaphysical text I teach. It is, miracles occur naturally and when they’re not occurring, something has gone wrong.
Marie Forleo: That’s interesting.
Gabby Bernstein: It’s a good one, right? What happens is, is that synchronicity, that flow, that effortless action, that just allowing, oh, I was thinking about that and it just showed up, that’s how life is supposed to be. We get in the way. Our negative belief systems, our fears, our anxiety, or our anger towards the past, that future tripping and projecting, all of that energy gets in the way of allowing all of the miracles to occur naturally.
Marie Forleo: This is awesome. What I like to do on Marie TV, which you know, because I know you watch this every week, is to take this, an idea or a concept, and really break it down and make it super actionable. So if someone has never heard of manifesting or maybe they have, but they’ve been quite a skeptic and they’re like, “This is BS. This stuff doesn’t work.” Can you break it down, how to manifest? What’s the first thing that we should be doing?
Gabby Bernstein: The first step of manifestation is to get very, very clear. If we’re not clear about what we desire, then we can call in some really funky stuff.
Marie Forleo: Yeah, this is big. I just want to interrupt you for a moment because one of the things that I say again and again, when I’m working with clients, I can help you get anything you want, but you have to tell me what that is.
Gabby Bernstein: Yeah, that’s it.
Marie Forleo: The clarity is really, it’s that secret key
Gabby Bernstein: Because you’re like a manifestation can opener. If somebody gets clear about what they want-
Marie Forleo: That’s really funny.
Gabby Bernstein: That’s your new name.
Marie Forleo: That’s my new title, manifestation can opener.
Gabby Bernstein: Yes, go for it. It’s true because if somebody gets really clear about what they want, your work is just releasing all the blocks and all the disbelief. So if you’re clear, first and foremost, you must be clear. You must be clear because if you are unclear, you’ll start to call in some things that are not really what you want. You’ll be confused. The other piece is that once you’re clear, you can also then get clear about all the ways that you don’t believe, all of the limiting beliefs, all of the negativity that might be blocking it.
Marie Forleo: Oh, this is good, so let’s use an example. Let’s take it from a top. I know, for both of us, this is something we share. You’re a published author, I’m a published author and I know many people in the world, it’s one of their dreams to have their own book out in the shelf. So I know you must have gotten clear at one point, I am going to be a published author, right? So clarity, step number one. Number two, getting clear on everything that’s preventing that, right, your limiting beliefs?
Gabby Bernstein: Yes.
Marie Forleo: So tell us some of yours when you first had that clarity.
Gabby Bernstein: Well, I often joke that I was a published author three years before I actually was a published author because I believed so deeply. But of course, there was disbelief and there was actually a period in my life where it was right when the recession hit. My stepfather says to me … I’m telling him all about my book that I wanted to bring into the world, and he said to me, “Well, it’s a really tough time. It’s going to be really hard,” because we’ve got resistors, people just having a hard time with the realities of the world and saying, “Oh, you’re going to have a hard time getting your book published.”
Gabby Bernstein: I looked at him with so much conviction and so much faith and I said, “I believe in miracles. I believe I am a published author.” One month later, my first book was published. So that faithfulness, that belief system is what allows it to come into the reality that we live. But what we must understand is that I had done quite a significant amount of work to release all of the limiting beliefs that I had been holding onto. A limiting belief, I have eighth grade English. I have never written anything beyond eighth grade.
Marie Forleo: Yes.
Gabby Bernstein: I had to teach myself how to write. So the limiting belief, which, I’m not a writer, I don’t know how to write, that was a major one for me to overcome.
Marie Forleo: This is great. We have step one and step two. It’s getting clear on the thing that you want, and then also having the courage to really look inside and see all the limiting beliefs that can be holding you back from that. Okay, good, so we’ve-
Gabby Bernstein: Then clean them up.
Marie Forleo: Then clean them up, okay, awesome. Tell me, so can that be as simple as recognizing that it’s a story you’re telling yourself is just simply doesn’t have to be the truth?
Gabby Bernstein: Yes. The healing process of anything can just be the witnessing of, okay, that’s not working, that limiting belief is holding me back. When we wake up to that call of, that’s not working, that’s when teachers like you come into our life. That’s when books fall off the shelf. That’s when we land on Marie TV because we’re tooling around YouTube, right? We are led to what we need to heal. So the first point is just to recognize how you are blocking yourself and trust that the universe will give you exactly what you need to heal those limiting beliefs.
Marie Forleo: Awesome. Okay, so we’ve got our two steps. Is there a third step? Now we’re in the process. We’re healing. We’re healing our limiting beliefs. We’re active. We’re engaged. We’re aware. What do we do next?
Gabby Bernstein: We’re getting into the know.
Marie Forleo: We’re getting into the know. Okay, so step three, step three is getting into the know.
Gabby Bernstein: Know the universe has your back.
Marie Forleo: Love that.
Gabby Bernstein: I think my mug says it, “The universe knows.”
Marie Forleo: Awesome. Tell me more about what that means.
Gabby Bernstein: Okay, so what happens when we get into the know is that we have released … we’re working on releasing that disbelief and that’s a daily process. The more we let go of that disbelief, the more we begin to acquire the presence of what it feels like to be in that manifestation, so the same way I was saying I was a published author. I felt like a published author years before I was a published author. I felt abundant even when I was scrapping to get by. I still felt the presence of abundance, which has allowed abundance to come into my life.
Marie Forleo: I think that’s probably the hardest part for all of us, and I can almost hear our audience members. Again, we’re in 188 countries around the world. So some people are going like, “Okay, that all sounds cool, but if I don’t have any money, right, if I don’t have any resources, if people don’t believe in me, what can I do on a daily basis?” Is it just a matter of saying, I really know this, and just honestly, having that leap of faith and saying, I’ve got to stay in this state?
Gabby Bernstein: You cannot let your outside world dictate your internal condition. The outside world will reflect your internal condition. So if you are letting the outside stuff tell you, I’m not good enough, then you are a manifestation mishap. You are not allowing yourself to co-create.
Marie Forleo: I’m going to pause us there just for a second. A manifestation mishap, which you guys know, I love cute phrases for things. A manifestation mishap would be thinking oh, I’m having this clarity. I want to be a published author. But what would the mishap be there if they were …
Gabby Bernstein: Well, but my outside experience is not reflecting that. How am I going to get published? I don’t have enough, and all of that is really not supporting your desire.
Marie Forleo: Got it.
Gabby Bernstein: The most important point here is to not let the outside world dictate your internal condition. Your internal condition will support your external experiences. So your work is to focus on the internal. I’ve done that in many cases in my life, like picking up quarters to pay my gas money. In that presence of not having a lot of money, I still felt abundant. I did all that work to release my disbelief, and in that presence of believing in my abundance, I have allowed a tremendous amount of abundance to come into my life. So we’ve got to hold the energy and let the outside world reflect that amazingness inside.
Marie Forleo: Okay. So another piece of resistance that could be coming towards us right now from the audience, from someone saying, “Hey, you know what? I’ve I’ve manifested before, or I’m in this process, but it’s taken a long time. I’ve been in the knowing. I’m affirming, but it just aint here yet.” What would you say to someone like that who is just going, when is it going to come? When is this really going to happen?
Gabby Bernstein: The most important step in the manifestation process is patience. There’s another beautiful line from A Course in Miracles, which is “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.”
Marie Forleo: I freaking love this, and I’m going to make her say it again because it was that beautiful. Gab, say it one more time.
Gabby Bernstein: Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.
Marie Forleo: Love that.
Gabby Bernstein: When we have that presence of being certain, that certainty, I am a published author, that man is on the way, I am abundant, when we have that certainty, we can allow. We can be patient. We can be in the know. Another manifestation mishap when you’re not patient, is that you’re controlling. You’re grasping. You’re manipulating. You are therefore blocking the natural order. You’re blocking the positive energy to flow towards you because you were vibrating a frequency of negative energy. Because you’re in fear, you’re controlling and manipulating.
Marie Forleo: Love that. This is all really good stuff. Can you give us a quick recap again, our little manifesting how to, for anyone out there who, this is all new to them?
Gabby Bernstein: First is clarity, become very clear about what it is that you desire so you don’t call in some crazy crap, right?
Marie Forleo: Love it.
Gabby Bernstein: The next piece is to be clear about all the limiting beliefs that are blocking you from believing and knowing that you are worthy of what you desire.
Marie Forleo: That takes some courage, [crosstalk 00:11:46].
Gabby Bernstein: That takes courage, takes some time, and that willingness, you just wake up and say, I am willing. I’m ready to have that guidance come forward, and you’ll be led to teachers like Marie. Then the third step is to be in that presence, in that energy of knowing that you are ready to receive. That you are in that presence of believing and knowing, I am a published author, I am abundant, I am exactly what you want.
Marie Forleo: And having the patience.
Gabby Bernstein: Then the final step is the patience. To be really relaxed, released, and allow and stay in the know, letting the universe bring you exactly what it is that you desire.
Marie Forleo: That’s awesome, really, really great stuff. I absolutely love this. I actually want to hear from you guys. Do you have a manifesting story that you want to share in the comments below, or perhaps you have a manifesting mishap that you want to tell us about? We would love to hear from you. If you want to hear more from Gabby, she’s got so much great stuff. You can go to gabbyb.tv, and check her out.
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Gabby Bernstein: Thanks Marie.
Marie Forleo: Hope to catch you next time. Have an awesome day and we’ll see you soon. Thanks everybody.
Gabby Bernstein: Bye.
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Marie Forleo: We’re in the kitchen making tea nuggets.
Gabby Bernstein: Yeah, we’re in the kitchen cooking tea nuggets. Can you cook tea nuggets? We’re in the kitchen making tea, making tea nuggets.
Marie Forleo: Making tea.