Jen writes: I'm a photographer and my friends and family want me to do their photos which is both a blessing and a curse. I love to work with them but when it comes to the money part it's so awkward. I don't like taking money from them but they often get spots that full paying clients would get. What can I do to balance and keep my relationships intact while running my business?
This is a great question Jen because many people want the special friends and family discounts. so there's a few different ways to handle this but what really stood out in your question was where you said this, “I don't like taking money from them.” Here's the deal: your discomfort is keeping you from being clear about your policies and inviting all the awkwardness to come your way. For example, this is probably how you roll.
Jen, how much do I owe you for taking the portrait of my chihuahua?
Don't worry about it. We’re friends.
Wow, Jen! You’re so Jen-erous!
Understand this, 99% of the time people will take something for free overpaying for it any day of the week so it's up to you to set clear policies for what you do. I'll tell you that in my business some of my closest friends have paid me my full rate for programs and consulting and they've gotten amazing results with zero awkwardness. Why? because I respect my time and therefore my friends and family do too.
so Jen here are three strategies to handle the friends and family and discount. number one: set aside time. If you want to give special deals to family and friends just set aside one day per quarter for projects like this. this way you've got it in your schedule and you don't feel put out or like you're losing money to do it. number two: just say no. don't do special deals girl. when friends and family want to work with you use this script:
I'm thrilled you want to work together. Know that I'd never expect you to hire me just because of our relationship. Before we get started make sure that I'm the person you really want to work with because I don't offer a friends and family discount. If you want to move ahead here are my rates and three available dates.
Here's why this works. you say I'd never expect you to hire me. Using the word hire implies payment. see when you introduce that word you're planting the seed that they will pay even before you introduce your know friends and family discount policy. this way there's no, “hey you know I have to charge you,” awkward moment.
number three, make it clear in advance. If you want to gift your product or service or cut a special deal, make it clear in advance homie. saying this is my gift to you or this is a private offer outside of my regular rates, tells people that you're giving them something of value that not everybody can get. This allows you to take a proactive approach and avoid all the awkwardness. There you have it, Jen three different ways to deal with the friends and family discount. hope it helps.
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