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Not sure you have what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur?

If you’re an introvert, empath, homebody, or just plain shy, read this twice:

You don’t have to be an outgoing, type A go-getter to start and grow a successful business.

I promise.

Thick skin and charisma aren’t prerequisites for success. They are skills you can build without changing your personality or compromising who you are. 

In today’s MarieTV, media strategist and B-School grad Angela Chee helps me answer this far-too-common listener question from Tamara:

“I have this irritating belief that I just don’t have entrepreneurial skills. I’m quite shy. I’m not the pushiest of people. I’m introverted. I feel like all these qualities are NOT good if I want to be a successful business woman. Can people like myself still create a successful business?”

“You already have everything you need to succeed. You just need to amplify it.” @AngelaCheeTV Click To Tweet

This dangerous myth about “what it takes” squashes thousands of aspiring entrepreneurs like Tamara before they even get started.

Don’t let it stop you, too.

Watch now and learn how to:

  • Gain the business skills you need without changing your personality.
  • Build unshakeable confidence in your unique voice.
  • Get over your fear of being on camera — for good.
  • Grow a mega-successful brand without leaving the house.
  • Delete the destructive stereotypes that hold you back.
  • Be 100% yourself and THRIVE in business.

If you dream about starting a business but struggle with self-doubt, watch this episode now.

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DIVE DEEPER: If you’re a business owner (or want to be), get your butt into B-School right now because we’re doing our first ever summer session! I’ll be with you every single week to help you make more money, make more impact, and have more freedom than you ever imagined possible. Go to JoinBSchool.com to learn more and enroll.

Now, it’s your turn.

Take a moment to think about the biggest insight you had from today’s conversation. More importantly, brainstorm what you can do to turn that insight into action starting right now. Because where inspiration meets action? That’s where all the magic happens.

Take the first step by answering these two questions in a comment below:

  1. What assumptions about successful entrepreneurs are holding you back?
  2. What qualities do you already have that would make you an amazing business owner?

Sure, you could just think about your answers. But I STRONGLY urge you to leave a comment below because amazing insights come when we share our thoughts and ideas with others. Share your answers in a comment and — for bonus points — respond to another aspiring entrepreneur with some encouragement!

Remember, we all have new skills to develop and business lessons to learn, but that does NOT mean you need a new personality to succeed. Who you are right now is absolutely perfect.

XO

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33 comments

  1. Helen

    Some sage advice here – i especially love Angela’s “Honour Your Energy”. As an ambivert also (i suspect many of us actually are but the tests have to pick a side) trying to “follow” any extrovert’s or introvert’s behaviours, routines, or formulae always leaves me wanting, burned out, or feeling empty somehow. Finding the balance & listening to your own body is key. Particularly for women, whose natural cycles do not follow the same rules as men’s (who, let’s face it, wrote the rules) and who need to honour the energetic ebbs & flows in life.

    That old “go-getter” entrepreneur archetype is very masculine…. and tired! It’s as outdated as those 80s shoulder-pads (except for the occasional fancy dress party). There are some hugely successful and influential introverts out there – and equally sizeable and under-served audiences & markets for them too. Denise Duffield-Thomas’ Chillpreneur is a must-read for any introvert-entrepreneur. As is Susan Cain’s work, of course. My favourite male entrepreneur is Chris Guillebeau and, no surprises, he’s also an introvert!

    I hope Tamara can truly embrace who she is rather than thinking she needs to become someone else to succeed. It broke my heart a little bit listening to her question. I wholeheartedly agree with Angela – we need more difference, not more of the same… This was a beautiful discussion – and reminder – thank you all! 🙏✨🌸 ☺️

    PS. In response to your Qs:
    1) That they’ve all got their sh*t together already!
    2) Vision, Conscientiousness, Care

    • Laurie

      I feel like this was meant for me to hear today. I am starting a course for Moms now that I know can make such a difference in their lives. I have never done anything like it before so those negative thoughts and self doubt are really strong and keep me second guessing what I am doing. Listening to this makes me realize why I am doing this and for who. It is not about me. I am ready to do it being myself even though I feel out of my league still. I have to start somewhere. I can learn and grow.

      • teamforleo

        Hi Helen,

        We are so happy that this episode resonated with you! Yes, agree you have to start somewhere to learn and grow, so very well said. Kudos to you!

        -Antoinette

  2. “Ambivert”. I never knew this word before today, but this is me. I grew up shy and a practiced wallflower, having grown up in a abusive home where saying anything at the wrong time brought the wrong kind of attention. I later learned that I have natural speaking abilities and that, with practice and training, I could be really, really good at presenting in front of an audience. I found this terrifying. Still do. But it’s exhilarating, as well, finding out that I can impact, move, and inspire people. I don’t want to be on the stage all the time, though. I want grow to find it less terrifying, because I live to inspire others. To love and inspire others and help them to be more optimistic is way more important to me and to have fun doing it no matter what form that takes. Sometimes it’s my eyes smiling at someone (when I’m masked up) at the grocery store. I LOVE when people respond to me when I make the effort to perk up their day, lol!
    Things that are cool about me? I care, I am genuine, I love to learn, I am an empath (and an ambivert), and I am tenacious.
    I really thought that successful businesspeople had all their stuff together, too, but I am finding out from experience that businesses sometimes need to be re-structured and re-organized from time to time. Go figure!

    • teamforleo

      Your story is so inspiring, Marquina! Thanks so much for sharing.

      – Jeremy

  3. The biggest thing holding me back is the idea that one has to give up everything else in order to build a successful business. I still have a kid at home and want to be there for her and I know that building a business requires a lot of hours that either I don’t have or don’t want to give up right now. I get up at 5:30 to workout and sleep is a priority so the whole “get up before anyone else to work on your business is already happening” plus I’m in school so I have to make time for that. Maybe this all sounds like excuses but I feel like I’m stretched pretty thin. Not complaining here- just not sure where to fit in grow a business too.

    Qualities I have that would make me an amazing business owner are that I am not afraid to work my a$$ off, I know just beyond the fear is success (still working on that one), and I have a special way of connecting with people despite being an introvert. I enjoy speaking on a stage (love that actually) and teaching people and helping others but would much rather hang out at home with my kids and my dogs than go to a party. I don’t mind networking, a skill I built over time. I know my worth though am sometimes unsure if others do and I’ve gotten good at not drinking the “compareschlager “ as Marie says.

    Introverts are cool people too.

  4. This is in the top-3 of my favorite episodes! I hope it helps Tamara. It definitely helps me, being an introvert, struggling with being an introvert ALL the time. It is such a relief to learn that you can just be yourself AND be successful. Trying to be the typical business woman (with shoulder pads 😉 is sooo tiring! This episode brought tears to my eyes and was just what I needed. So thanks Tamara for your question, and thanks Marie and Angela for your great, inspiring insights! I am sure this episode helps a lot of introverts out there. I will watch it over and over again. Love love love it.

    • teamforleo

      Barbara, we’re so happy to hear the episode was helpful for you! We appreciate having you in the community.

      – Jeremy

  5. Mindy

    Honor Your Energy

  6. I definitely struggled when I started my business as I’m an introvert, but then found that offering coaching via email gave me a niche to work with other introverts and seemed to work just as well.

    “I have this extra capability to be able to contextualise things so that i can be effective in who i am and what I do” – This is so important. Everything I’ve found in my degrees and life experience is that we are not taught the life skills of reflection, thought-challenging, problem-solving, and how to ignite that inner capability we have naturally as human beings.

    It’s so important to acknowledge and highlight the differences too, between ‘growing and evolving’ versus ‘changing your personality’ as these are totally different things. This is why I teach person reinvention from the roots of who you already are instead of a “brand new you.”

    We are all so much more capable than we realise, and we can learn so many of the skills we often feel we are lacking.

  7. This episode was such a great one for me to hear. I, to, am a bit of an introvert. But I also love to teach. I love the prep stage, the admin stage AND the being front and center as the teacher…BUT…then I need to be able to step down, go find a quiet corner, and recharge. This is the part people don’t get, lol. I often tell my kids “you need to stop talking now, I have heard too many words today”. Seriously, I say that several times a week, lol.

  8. “Honour your energy”
    Loved this. Need to work on it more and just be at peace and know that I don’t have “low energy” – my energy is exactly what I need and the world needs. I need to honour it and let it shine and be of use to others, however that will show up.

    Thanks so much Marie and Angela and Tamara. Loved it

  9. The Video reminded me simply of being okay the way I am.
    I don´t have to change who I am, just learn the skills I need to bring my message out there.
    Thank you so much Marie & Angela!

  10. What a timely message for me! Focus on your purpose, on your why, who can you serve, message and mission, instead of yourself. I’ve been struggling with this for a while, putting myself in some projects then holding back again. Thanks for this video TeamForleo. I finally enrolled in B-school after thinking of it for years. I’m so excited to learn from all of you, work on my transformation so I can serve my audience and live a life by design!

    • Anna

      Congratulations Marge! I also just joined B-school and I’m excited for both of us to make progress and serve the world better 🙂

  11. Anna

    Love this episode and it came at just the right time! Focusing on my impact rather than myself is huge for me right now.

    1) I assume entrepreneurs were focused on earning money from the time they were young.

    2) I am really good at working on my own! I’ve heard entrepreneurship can be lonely, but in that sense I think being introverted can be an advantage.

  12. Adriana

    This is such a brilliant episode!! I can so relate to Tamara’s question. I also used to be a newspaper reporter (not famous at all like Angela!!), but experienced in the Australian media, nonetheless. I haven’t worked in media since I had my children, but I also knew when I left that I had my own mission, writing my book, starting my own website, yet I felt like a bit of a “fraud” because I almost feel afraid to be “seen”, especially because I don’t fit the mould of an “A-type entreprenuer, bold in your face, always out there, pushing myself forward, promote, promote, promote” person. This seems crazy, considering I was always “seen” in my previous role and my name was on virtually everything I did. This episode really resonated with me, so grateful that you produced this and it will help many people to take the next step in the direction of their dreams. I’m looking forward the B-School summer school, too. 🙂

    • teamforleo

      Hi Adriana,

      Wahoo! Good for you and the very gift you are giving to yourself with B-School Summer 2021!

      -Antoinette

  13. ‘I can do it maybe not today but I can do it’

    Amazing. I think I will leave the link to this episode on my blog in the future. So important.

    Thank you.

  14. Wow, This is a great episode. A big thanks’ to both of you. 🙂

  15. I got teary eye while listening to the conversation of both of you. As Introverts myself it’s hard to to really mingle with other people. But listening to you idea on how to become successful without changing something from me, give me motivation to pursue what I like and not pay attention to what people say against you as long you are not hurting somebody.

    • teamforleo

      Hi Robert,

      That’s right! No need to change ourselves to be successful (especially when we also get to define what success means in our own lives individually). This episode is a fantastic reminder, and we’re so glad you found this as empowering as we did. All the best!

      – Jeremy, Team Forleo

  16. Kate

    Yesterday I was so focused on this same concern Tamara shared. What I was reminded of in this video was to maintain focus on who my intentions are really for, and that is who I am in service to.

    I have the innate skills to succeed but I keep searching for people to compare myself to, and therefore I inevitably find areas where I fall short compared to others’ successes. I am perfect just the way I am, which is exactly what I would tell the people I serve, but I so often forget to be my own cheerleader.

    I too am an introvert and homebody who thrives off of being on stage and being the center of attention, but I also must isolate myself to recover and relax. I can be both. I don’t have to wear the suit and follow the path I grew up watching on TV as the way to success. I already know I’m too stubborn not to do things my way. It’s the very reason I’ve struggled in so many other jobs and career paths. I can’t bring myself to conform to ways that do not honor my true self and belief system.

    I also want to acknowledge the concept of knowing I can do anything, even if I’m not capable of it yet. It’s a skill and mindset I developed as a varsity college rower, having never done the sport before college. I watched and felt my strength grow and develop with me after every ounce of work I put into training on and off the water. I learned that every opportunity to learn and work was another ounce of strength and skill acquired, and the faster and faster I got. Achieving goals, winning races, surpassing personal bests, and always pushing the bar forward–as long as I kept learning and training. “Putting money in the bank,” as we’d say. I had forgotten this perspective, concept, attitude, skill, mindset, fact, whatever you want to call it, till Angela brought it up, so thank you Angela for the reminder.

    • teamforleo

      Hi Kate,

      We love this line — “I also want to acknowledge the concept of knowing I can do anything, even if I’m not capable of it yet.”. It’s such an empowering reminder that we’re capable of anything we set our focus on. Thanks so much for sharing!

      – Jeremy, Team Forleo

  17. Thank you for your good article!

  18. Thanks for this episode! I think that the internet helps too and makes life easier for introverted entrepreneurs. I’m so grateful for all these communities of like-minded people!

    • teamforleo

      Hi Katie,

      We’re so grateful to have YOU in our community!

      -Monika, Team Forleo

  19. I thoroughly enjoyed this, thank you. I am definitely an introvert and putting myself out there is a challenge I have set for myself that I am actively working on. Besides this, my main take away is being true to yourself. This resonates with me and I just ‘feel’ that if I can find the balance of putting myself out there and being true to myself I will carve out a groove for myself. Feeling inspired, thanks again!

    • teamforleo

      Hi Stephanie,

      We’re happy to hear how much this interview resonated with you. We know you’ve got this! Even something as small as sharing your thoughts with us on this interview is a step towards overcoming those challenges. Thanks for stopping by!

      -Jeremy, Team Forleo

  20. I am here not for the first time. I like to read your emails. You are a very inspiring person.

    Soon I will write about you in one of my articles.

    It is nice to share with others the inspiration and motivation you have.

  21. An Entrepreneur, Writer, Philanthropist And An Unshakable Optimist …….

  22. This is such an inspirational message that a lot of people will benefit from hearing. Thanks for sharing these words of wisdom with all of us!

    • teamforleo

      Hi Elena,

      We’re so glad you enjoyed the message as much as we did! Thanks for stopping by.

      – Jeremy, Team Forleo

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