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If you spend enough time reading books and listening to audios about finding the key to success — it’s inevitable that you’ll stumble upon contradicting advice. Of course, there’s not one right formula or approach to be successful. Different success methods work for different people. (Different methods also work for the same person at different stages of life.)

But I always pay a bit more attention when a ‘key to success’ hypothesis is backed up by academic research. That’s why I was thrilled when my buddy Brendon Burchard told me about the high performance study he was doing for his latest book, High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way.

He’s spent the past three years interviewing and tracking highly successful people just to prove to himself that what he believed about success was empirically true. Guess what? Some of it was — but a lot of it was not.

Turns out, only six habits clearly lead to sustained, long-term success.

Some of these habits shocked him. Can we really stop hustling and make it to the top? What if the key to success was joy instead of grit? Peace instead of discontent?

Achievement is not the problem, alignment is. @BrendonBurchard Click To Tweet

If you’ve ever felt like you don’t “have what it takes” to be successful, this episode is for you.

Because what Brendon discovered over the past few years may turn everything you thought you knew about success upside down.

You’re about to learn:

✓  Why “hustling” and “grinding” are actually hurting your chances at sustainable success
✓ The 6 habits that lead to high performance — and which one shocked the pants off Brendon
✓ The strange way the top 15% of high-performers talk to themselves (warning: if you overheard them doing this, you might think they were a little crazy ?)
✓ The real difference between your feelings and your emotions
✓ Why you must take credit for your work — or risk losing it all
✓ The 2-part system Brendon uses to maintain high levels of energy throughout the day (skip to 24:12 for the low-down)

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Please don’t ignore this message. Because if you continue to work yourself into the ground, you will inevitably burn out. I don’t want that for you. You have gifts to share, love to give, joy to experience!

So once you’ve watched, I’d love to know…

Which one habit from today’s show can you put into practice to experience more sustainable, enjoyable success? Is there anything we talked about that you’re already doing that you can re-commit to?

Share as much detail as you’d like in your comment. Thousands of incredible souls come here each week for insight and inspiration, and your story may help someone else have a meaningful breakthrough.

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From the bottom of my heart, thank you for reading, watching and sharing your stories.

More people need to realize that working 24/7/365 indefinitely is not a wise approach to achieve long-term health, wealth or well-being.

P.S  We’re hiring again! If you’d like to join Team Forleo and you’re a hungry social media designer, website designer or customer service extraordinaire — we want to hear from you.

More information and details to apply are here. Deadline for application is September 25th. If not you, please pass this on to anyone who is focused, passionate and has a big heart 🙂 .

With so much love,


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  1. Awesome job and you know it Marie! Well I’ve been following you for a few years now and I’ll say your content is always superb! This episode though was slamming with insight and I gained clarity about myself! The biggest take away for me today is, I generate Happiness and Joy! While I intuitively knew this…i could never clearly express it. Because I couldn’t express this one thing I often battled to defend my authenticity! That sucked…because it forced me into defense of my happiness! I understood this happiness coming from me was a true part of me…and not many people can accept it. Understanding the fact that they may not be able to generate happiness as easily gives me more clarity, and I am healed of ever thinking I need to defend my happy from low happy generators! However, I can express the truth of happiness and relish in it even more because despite my challenges; I generate Happiness to my liking and they can too!

    • Ruth

      Great comment, Cher! When we’re happy, joyful AND a high achiever, we have to defend our authenticity? Aha. Clarity! Not anymore, ‘cuz it’s not our problem. No more defending. I feel better already. Thanks!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Beautiful, Cher! Thank you so much for sharing this fantastic insight that was sparked for you. You’re absolutely a high performer and keep on letting that natural happiness of yours shine! It’s such a wonderful quality that you’re able to consistently generate happiness and joy for yourself and this undoubtedly spreads to those around you as well 🙂

      And thank you for your kind words about our content, we’re honored that you’re a long-time follower of Marie’s!

  2. Wow, haven’t watched the episode yet but I’m so excited. Yesterday, I watched Brendon’s behind the scene video and your clip, so I’m already on the edge of my seat to see this later today.
    I first saw Brendon live at PLF Live in Scottsdale. I know you also are a PLF owner. The circles that continue to swirl around me with these connections have been my confirmation of being on the right track.
    Thanks for being you, and sharing with all of us.

    • Subrena

      I cannot wait to purchase Brendon’s new book! I needed to hear this . I am in NWM and it’s so true it’s all about the hustle and grind. They say to be on social media 5 nights per week, and post 4-6 times per day. I work a fulltime job am and in traffic 2.5 hours per day outside of work. I am going to become fully engaged, enjoy, and be confident in what I do. Thank you!

  3. SO so happy to see joy and wellness being recognised as routes to success! (I think my heart knew this all along…)

    Thanks Marie & Brendon. <3

  4. The comment “strive satisfied” and conversation on joy brought a tear to my eye. Boy, we all need to hear that. Thanks for this, Marie.

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Absolutely, Chris – connecting with our joy and satisfaction is vitally important in our very achievement-focused and often overworked society. So glad this conversation resonated deeply with you!

    • Joni

      Ditto, joy!

  5. Da bomb! Thanks for this interview. I especially love the idea of speaking to yourself in 2nd or 3rd person rather than the typical “I am…” mantra. It seems more like a pep talk from someone I care about! I can’t wait to get Brendon’s book! Thanks!

    • Anna Emert

      Yes! Just like a pep talk you would give your best friend!

      • Ah! I love this parallel. I’m taking notes on this episode & Anna, this one’s definitely on paper. Yes. Thank YOU!

  6. Ruth

    My takeaway from Brendon’s interview? I want this book! That, and I’m going to continue to be happy, joyful and giving … because it works for me and being anything else will NOT help me achieve more than I already am achieving … which is a lot. Cool.

    Plus, I really like the idea of talking to myself in third person. Will def try that.

    Ultimately, I want to leave this world a better place for having lived and served within it.

    Thanks, Marie! Great show.

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Love these takeaways, Ruth! It’s fantastic that you’re already feeling connected to your joy, happiness and generosity and I love that you’re celebrating what you’ve already achieved. Keep up the awesome work, it’s so beautiful that you’re committed to service and leaving the world a better place! And yes – enjoy some supportive self-talk, I think you’ll be amazed by the results 🙂

  7. I have to say things to myself before I walk into a situation to make me better- Brendon.
    I like that. It sets the tone and puts the power back in your hand.

  8. Tre

    Thank you! This was an amazing episode and I just shared it with two of my clients who are struggling to find joy in the self defined hustle.

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Wonderful, Tre! We’re so glad to hear you enjoyed this episode and appreciate you sharing it with your clients. We hope it’s helpful for them in finding their joy!

  9. krista mays

    What a great episode! Thank you so much! I loved the idea of talking to yourself in the second or third person- feels like a coach or a witness kind of concept. Transitions! what a fantastic concept I can’t wait to try them both on!

  10. Two of my favorite inspirations! So good to see you two together.

  11. Beja

    WOW! As a creative, you can put HIGH value on the creative process. This can ultimately lead to getting stuck in getting it perfect. Thanks for letting me know that consistency is the habit of achievement because I get stuck in creation mode and can’t get into execution mode. This is holding me back.

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      This is such a great insight about the creative process, Beja. Consistency and execution are hugely important, particularly for creative and artistic people who can have perfectionist tendencies. Recognizing that this has been holding you back is a great step in the right direction! I think you’ll find this previous episode of MarieTV about how to work through perfectionism really helpful and wanted to share it with you:

      Thanks so much for sharing your experience here!

    • This is so true of many people in creative work, Beja! It’s where a lot of artists get stuck! Yes, creativity is about the process, but what you think process contains and means to you is often the key. Add consistency and completion to the definition of process! So many artists leave these out and think it’s only about the creation mode. 🙂

  12. Thank you! There were so many sparks, but the one that resonated with me today was talking with myself in the third person. I have done this a bit in the past, but am going to amp up my daily conversations with my awesome self. Enjoyed the give and take between Marie & Brendon, their friendship obvious and caring. Loved how relaxed Brendon was, so very personable.

  13. Excellent interview! My favorite part was the release and reset technique. I was aware of this idea but for bigger transitions (like coming home) but the idea of using the technique for something like a non-creative activity to a creative one is AWESOME! I’m going to use it today!!!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Awesome, Ree! We’re excited for you to apply the release and reset technique to other areas of your life. It’s so simple and powerful. Really glad you enjoyed this interview with Brendon and happy transitioning!

    • Jana

      I am also inspired to work on the BIG and small transitions during the day!

  14. You are honestly two of my favorite people in the world. Brendon, I cannot wait to read your new book! My favorite take-away from today – “The power plant doesn’t have energy. It creates it. We don’t have joy, we create it.” Thank you both for thirty-three minutes of pure joy!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Thank you for these incredibly kind words to Marie and Brendon, Heather! That alone is a very powerful takeaway – so true. Here’s to creating our own joy 🙂

      Thanks so much for taking the time to watch today and we hope you enjoy Brendon’s book!

  15. Love this interview! All of it is good – great exchange, great tips – but if I had to choose? The 22:25 mark about managing transitions is THE BEST. It’s SO true and while we might know this and do it some of the time, being mindful and processing every transition this way is such a key distinction and such a chance to upgrade a habit!! I’m excited and totally going for this today and can’t wait for the feeling of complete joyful success!! Thank you Marie and Brendan for another golden video 🙂

  16. Sionann Monroe

    His thoughts about anticipating obstacles and planning how to deal with them ahead of time reminded me of this great segment on NPR Hidden Brain about the ‘WOOP’ approach. Takes visualizing one step further.
    Actually, I would LOVE for you to have Gabriele Oettingen as a guest sometime 😉

  17. Biggest two insights: the discussions about emotions vs feelings, and self-talking. I’ve recently done some work on managing transitions and am finding that helpful; the release exercise will make that even more effective. My new mantra? “Strive satisfied”. Thank you.

  18. Deanne

    I can’t believe, I’ve been speaking to myself in third person for years but in the negative, how I can do better, how I can have better, that I deserve more. I’ve never given myself credit, I never celebrate my achievements. I’m like a one hit wonder. But have not been able to sustainably continue before getting totally burned. Recently, I touched the feeling of “alignment” and hustle and strain began to seem off. Now because this is such a new concept, I would love to appreciate the feeling that comes with the flow that has openned up. The last point that really sets in for me is the associating the type of feeling I’d like to have with the daily emotions that pop up for me. I absolutely took great value from this interview. Marie Forleo thank you so much.

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Deanne, this is such an incredible insight you’ve had about yourself! Switching out that self-talk to a narrative more supportive, positive, and conscious of celebrating yourself and all you have to give will be such a powerful shift. It’s awesome that you’ve experienced that feeling of alignment and flow recently – keep staying connected to the feelings you’re wanting to create for yourself! You’re absolutely on the right track, and we’re so glad you found this interview helpful. We’re cheering you on over here – you’ve SOOO got this!

  19. Gisela Murillo

    It’s interesting to learn that the non-stop “grind” is not the answer to long-term success. I’ve hit many “walls” which had falsely led me to think that I’m just being inconsistent. All along I wasn’t aligning myself correctly. Finally this is confirmation.

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Hi Gisela! We’re happy to hear this concept of alignment resonated with you and was the confirmation you needed about the walls you’ve been running into on your journey. If we’re not connected to our joy and deeper sense of purpose, a lack of flow and burnout are often a result in our lives. We’re excited for you to see all that opens up as the result of you creating this alignment!

  20. Inge

    Great interview and such helpful facts!!
    I definitely am learning and reminded to find the joy and happiness each day and not continuously put the desire on and feel guilty when I’m not!

    Also love the practice of release tension and set intention! Will try it out!!

  21. Denice Basnett

    This was wonderful, Marie! Thank you! It was just too short. Ha ha. I was really enjoying it. Going to go out and buy Brendon’s book today.
    My biggest take-away, and what I am going to have to think more about, was the distinction between emotions and feelings and how they operate in my life.
    Much praise and gratitude to you and Brendon.

  22. Jean

    Is this just another way of saying take a look at your priorities? Unfortunately, there’s a trend today where others want to tell you or force you to realign their way. This impedes healing and growth.

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Hi Jean! Yes, many of the strategies and qualities of successful people that Brendon shared in this interview come down to getting very clear and conscious about your priorities in life.

      We completely agree that this can never come from the outside, and ensuring that you’re aligned with what’s most important to you is a sense of knowing that can only come from within. Trust that wise inner voice telling you what you really want, need, and what truly connects you to a feeling of joy. Only you know what that is.

      We’re wishing you healing, growth, and a deep sense of satisfaction in your life!

  23. I took so many notes during this! My BIGGEST takeaway is “Release tension. Set Intention.” I love this as a way to transition from one thing to the next. Totally right, that we bleed energy by not being more intentional about how we move from one thing to the next.
    The other thing of note, is I do the same thing Brendon does before he speaks. I’m literally the person in the bathroom stall sweating and talking to myself to change my energy. I also remind myself that nerves are a gift, and the gift is that I have this opportunity to make a difference.
    Probably going to watch it again, and I’m going to order the book! Thanks for the best interviews, Marie! The last two weeks especially have been DYNAMIC!!! 🙂

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Wonderful, Colene! It’s fantastic that you’re so aware of your energy and are already using the self-talk in the bathroom technique! I love how you put that – reminding yourself that your nerves are the gift of having this opportunity to make a difference – beautiful.

      We’re thrilled that you’ve been enjoying these recent interviews and hope you enjoy Brendon’s book! Thank you so much for taking the time to tune in.

  24. Pam

    I loved hearing that positive self talk in the second or third person was the way to go!

  25. Jen

    Joy! Joy! Joy! I agree that it is an intuitive frame of mind that I know and learned as a child. As I got older, married, a parent, and distracted by life and work, it became hard to remember something so simple. Being aligned and having joy in my work and life are what I find so valuable in this episode. This will definitely be one of my favorite episodes!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      YES to joy, Jen! It’s amazing and powerful what can happen when we reconnect to this innate quality in ourselves – and you’re so right, that we can learn a great deal from our inner child in this regard. We’re wishing you so much joy and a sense of deep alignment in your life and are thrilled you enjoyed this episode!!

  26. Jas

    Awesome! Eye-opener. I will strive satisfied from now on. 🙂

  27. Kim

    Wow! Great insight and tools to use. My biggest takeaway is self talk, I started doing in my meditations/observing myself and now I will use it during my day. That was really powerful for me. The other is transitioning, actually having a step to mentally switch tasks, I can’t tell you how many times I burned myself out and then forced myself to keep going anyway – not a good feeling. THANKS Marie and Brendon for this:)

  28. Andrea

    Great interview! My favourite takeaways are the importance of transition in your day, and the idea that we generate joy and happiness. Those two golden tools will transform my days. Thank you:)

  29. I really loved the insight around transitioning. Too often I’ll be at my computer, moving quickly between activities and distracted from fully committing to each one. Taking a moment to release tension and then set intention is something I’m going to practice TODAY! Thanks so much, Brendon and Marie.

  30. Hi Marie!
    Loved this interview with Brendon! Thank you! I’ve practiced a for of the release tension and create intention for a while now without even realizing it. Whenever I go from one place, conversation, or project into another I pause, feel think about what I hope to experience or create and then proceed. So good to know that this is actually a valuable habit of high performers. Definitely gives me motivation to keep practicing it.
    Also, I LOVED the strived satisfied concept. I’m a really hard worker, yet the words hustle and grind have always irked me, even demotivated me sometimes and I never really could put my finger on why. This interview cleared that up for me. Thank you! Coming from of mindset of feeling satisfied and fulfilled just makes my heart happy and makes me feel like I have more to offer. It even motivates me to work more. Thank you again for this interview. Loved it!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Hi Mary! Thank you so much for sharing this here and we’re excited that you enjoyed this interview with Brendon. I can tell from the habits and attitudes you already have in place that you’re absolutely a top performer! Keep up the great work with the transition technique.

      We’re happy to hear this affirmed your commitment to joy and satisfaction in all you do – how beautiful that this attitude of fulfillment motivates you to work and serve MORE! You’re amazing 🙂

  31. I needed this episode!
    So inspired by the discussion about managing transition. I love how practical the practice is — take the time to release what has come before and reset your intentions. It’s time to clear the head and the emotions, and move to the next issue or role. I can’t wait to try this. I can also see that a modified version will be very powerful for my 6 year old who struggles mightily with transitions. Very timely information for me today!

  32. Loved this episode and was so helpful to me for what we are calling “hurricane brain” here in Florida! Part of it getting back into that feeling of joy mode and beyond that ugh feeling!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Hi Marie! Our hearts are with you and your loved ones right now. The intensity and emotion that the weather has stirred up for you recently must have undoubtedly created an overwhelming “ugh” feeling. We’re sending light and joy your way, are are so glad this episode was helpful!

      • Marie Eatman

        Thank you, that episode was light and joy!

  33. Dale Blagrove

    What a great inspiring discussion/interview of two of my favorite cyber-mentors. ~ With Gratitude.

  34. Patricia

    Release!! My favorite take away for sure!

  35. Debra

    Thank you for this episode!!! I am a busy grad student with a career too. I have found myself coming home and discussing my gripes about not having enough time. My poor husband. He’s such a rock, but I’ve noticed his eyes glazing over lately. I will ABSOLUTELY us the transitions exercise. It will no doubt change my home life. With all of my busyiness, I’m going to add to it by buying this book. Thanks again Marie!!!!!

  36. Hi Marie,

    I just can’t tell you how grateful I am for your interview and for this work. I’m a Psychologist and Coach and daily see the negative effects of the hustle/never be satisfied mindset – burnout, depression, ruined relationships and poor health.

    This research is so hopeful, empowering and SO much more healthy! I have always had a sense that achievement did not have to come at price of joy, health and connect and I’m overjoyed that now we have the research to prove it.

    Thank you Brendon for this incredibly important work and Marie for helping him share his message.

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Hi Alison! Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us here. We couldn’t agree more about the importance of this research and are so glad that you’ve been helping spread an awareness of joy, health, and deep fulfillment to your clients as they go for their dreams. Keep up the amazing work you’re doing in the world, we’re honored to have you as part of our community!

  37. Zenaida

    I work with young opera singers, who are all so concerned with their performance and how to improve it. I’m definitely recommending this video and book to them. What an inspiring discussion, thanks Marie!

  38. Thank you! As always, you share what I need when I need it!
    I am going to implement the Transition exercise right now and am so excited!
    1. Releasing my daily in-box of emails, shipping orders etc
    2. Setting my Intentions to dive into writing the last 10% of my book.
    p.s. I’ve just ordered Brendan’s book and can’t wait to dive in.

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Happy to hear this was good timing for you, Beverly! Love these clear action steps for implementing the transition strategy. We’re wishing you all the best as you finish your book – how exciting! Thank you for watching and we hope you enjoy Brendon’s book, too 🙂

  39. Wonderful interview and great reminders of how to achieve, we need to the joy and alignment. It’s so easy to forget. It’s my first time seeing and hearing about Brendon, so thank you for introducing him and his work! Best takeaway? Our natural state is one of joy… not the grrr… Thank you!

  40. Absolutely loved this!
    The idea of *deciding* how you want to feel – as well as energy via alignment and not just achievement.
    Also Release and set intention. I’m sure I waste tons of energy everyday in transitions between things.
    So much amazing information. Thank you!
    This interview gave me so much energy and I LOVED feeling the rapport between you both. Very inspiring and beautiful to see.

  41. I LOVE THIS. I’m a officially a satisfied striver. BE IMPROVING JOYFULLY, is replacing Always. Be. Closing lol. I want to create a legacy, NOT hustle all of my days.

  42. Andrew Zeegers

    maybe the ‘release, release, release’ atitude helps to lift some fatigue too 🙂

  43. This whole interview is such a relief! I’ve known for awhile that ‘hustle’ and ‘grind’ were not options for me. I get burned out so easily so I’ve committed to taking care of myself and finding joy in the process, knowing that it might take longer to get where I want as a result. But to hear that this is how the most successful people live is amazing! I’ve been struggling with this belief that if I really want to get serious I’ll have to give up on some of my relationships and well-being. I’m ready to throw that belief out the window after watching this. Thanks so much!

  44. First of all, great interview, Marie and Brendon!

    Okay. Biggest takeaway for me?
    Third-person affirmations… I literally paused the video, went into the bathroom, looked in the mirror and had a heart-to-heart with myself; talking to my reflection as if it were another person. My reflection even cracked a smile, which I complimented it on 🙂

    Then I returned to finish watching the video.

    As a result, I’m going to get a lot accomplished today, and enjoy every minute. Rather than attempting to multitask, I will Release, Reset and jump into each project fully engaged. Tomorrow, I’ll wake up rested with a sense of accomplishment. Then, I’m going to rinse and repeat.

    Or should I say , Release and Reset?

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      LOVE this, Hal! Great job on having this heart-to-heart with yourself right away – we’re excited for you to experience the effects 🙂 Also fantastic that you’re implementing the release and reset technique to stay fully engaged with each task at hand. This is going to be such a powerful shift for you, and your commitment is so inspiring – keep up the amazing attitude!

  45. Roxanne Parsons

    What an incredible interview! The one thing that grabbed me, as a creative, is that creativity alone does not lead to success. I know that better than probably anyone. Typically, I am excited about developing and “what iffing”. Once that is begun, I move on to the next thing. So I would have to say “Seek Clarity” would be the most important point for me. I will definitely buy and read this book!

  46. Great episode again.
    My tip: Release and set intentions

    One of my habits but sometimes I forget and I lose myself/ my joy.

    For me it’s connected.

    Stop, breathe, release, set intentions and for me it’s to do it good and in a way I feel good. P

    When you do what ever it is even, some not so funny things, from a deep state of peace and joy IT FLOW AND IT WORK.


  47. I love Brendon’s energy and spirit and respect the fact that he had to pump himself up with self talk to do the interview. His self talk tip and his transition method is brilliant!! Lots of great advice that I’ll be implementing regularly! Thanks Brendon and Marie!

  48. Nori

    Release, release, release!! What a brilliant, but simple mantra. This was one of my favorite gems of today’s episode. I just told my husband this morning that I’m exhausted & feel like the days are all blending…work, family, even exercise all seems to be one big pile of something I can’t seem to separate! Taking the time to stop and “release” each of these before consciously walking into the other, I know will be of tremendous value. Thank you Marie & Brenden…beyond excited to read the new book!!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      This is such a great intention, Nori! We love hearing that this releasing and consciously setting an intention technique struck a chord with you. I think it will absolutely help with transitioning between and separating different areas of your life in a way that feels good to you! Thank you so much for watching and enjoy the book 🙂

  49. OMG Thank you!
    This is one of those episodes I’ll watch and re-watch time and time again.

    All parts are great and the one I’ll start doing today is the Transition. I’ve been feeling very bad for not been able to sell a business I own so everytime I have to stop my (to me meaningfull) work and get my ass there, my energy just goes down… I’ve been noticing I had a problem here, but now I know what to do!
    Thank you so much!!!

  50. Hi Brendon and Marie, thank you so much for this episode. My commitment is to Strive Satisfied. I’m the type of person who appreciates the little things every day; a cardinal at my birdfeeder, a beautiful sunset, the smile on my dogs face, a good joke, etc. When it comes to my achievements I tend to gloss over my successes and move on to the next thing not really thinking much of it or thinking it’s no big deal. I’m a holistic practitioner and help a lot of people release stress, tension & trauma. I’ve helped clients release major anxiety and move forward in their lives and while I find great joy in seeing them move forward, I have struggled with calling it my success. Does that make sense? Another way I’ve recently realize that I do this is with physical challenges that I’ve completed. For example last year I trained and completed my first ever Triathlon. My goal was to finish the race and finish I did….I was last over the finish line….but I finished. When it was over I felt like it was no big deal (it was difficult) and that I hadn’t accomplished anything great. This year I trained for a 2 mile open water swim. When I could swim a half mile I thought “well, I still have another mile and a half to go,” when I could swim a mile my thoughts immediately went to the next distance goal I needed to complete and so on. I love to swim but not giving myself the credit and celebrating the milestones along the way made it more of a chore than joyful. So, my commitment is to take joy, appreciate and celebrate all my successes along the way. Life is too short not to have fun. Thank you again for this episode and all the great content.
    Much love, Dawn

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Hi Dawn! These are such invaluable insights and we love the commitment you’re making to having fun and celebrating all your incredible accomplishments. You are absolutely AMAZING for completing a triathalon and training for these distance swims, not to mention all the positive impact you’ve had on the lives of others through your work. Absolutely, taking the time to really celebrate yourself and relish in the sense of joy you feel doing these activities will be a fantastic way to connect with a deeper satisfaction and fulfillment. You inspire us – keep up the amazing work!

  51. Maitari Simone

    Absolutely love this episode. Just ordered the book. I am going to implement the tool to handle with transitions in a different way. I often do multitasking and want to experience what difference it makes to release tension and set an intention before doing the next thing. Really excited to read the book. BIG thanks to the both of you and your whole team.

  52. DLN

    Wow! I am filled with gratitude and excitement after watching and absorbing this incredible message …..I struggle and have been for years, working in sales and truly having Attention Deficit Disorder I live in a constant state of “should”, and an endless cycle of feeling inadequate very likely driven deeper by negative self talk. I watch others succeed, and wonder how it can be so difficult for me. My biggest take away (so hard to choose just one!) is Alignment – knowing and appreciating what I want and need my life and business to look and FEEL like ……this will be my foundation as I move forward in all aspects of daily life. So much more to say, but I am ready to transition and focus on finding my ALIGNMENT ; )
    With joy,

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      We’re so glad this message was exciting for you, Deborah! You’re so not alone in struggling with comparison and negative self-talk, it’s something we’ve all dealt with at one time or another and is such a tough place to feel stuck. It’s truly incredible the shifts that can happen when we begin focusing within and aligning with what’s truly important to us, and what we want to create and feel in our own lives.

      I have a feeling you’ll also really enjoy this episode of MarieTV:

      Thank you for tuning in and we’re wishing you so much joy as you focus on your alignment!

  53. Rajat

    Thanks Brandon, thanks a lot this is what the valuable thoughts you share with us.I like mostely the two of them, release tension and set intention, this one is really amazing and the another one is the power plant and the joy what a relation, Newton’s law is their the change of form of energy, I really enjoyed a lot dear.

  54. Sylvia

    Wow! What an amazinggggggggg interview! One of the best ones yet! This gave me so much clarity, courage and intention ! I feel so compelled to go out and purchase Brendon’s book, like um, right now! The one thing that stuck out for me the most was aligning myself. But Im I feel a little stuck on where to start… I was wondering if you have any resources or videos of yourself talking about how to do this Marie. I know that this is what I need to do the most. I also loved the part about talking in third person, for years I have done this, however it was usually negative talk.. so today after watching the video I wrote and also spoke out loud to myself in third person positive things. I also very much enjoyed the part about changing your thought of work and achievement into it being necessary, so in my journaling this morning, I wrote things down like “it is necessary for me to give it my all today, it is necessary for me to enjoy the process..” “it is necessary for me to show up today” “it is necessary for me to serve others and perform at my high self and offer my gifts”

    Thank you for this amazing interview, for sharing all that you do, for inspiring all of us. I love you and your amazing team. You have made the greatest impact on my life.


    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Dear Sylvia, thank you so much for your lovely comment – we’re honored to know that our work has had an impact on you and you enjoyed this interview in particular! It’s awesome that these strategies have helped you to find clarity and intention, and great work on beginning to implement some of them already.

      We completely understand that aligning with your deeper purpose can feel a bit overwhelming and challenging! If you haven’t already received it, I’d encourage you to enter your email address here to get our “How to Get Anything You Want” audio training: This is a great place to begin getting clear on what you most want to create in your life!

      Next, there are a couple of great MarieTV interviews about exploring and finding the work you were born to do right here:

      I hope this is helpful for you!

  55. I haven’t watched any Marie TV episodes in a while but decided to watch this one. Boy am I glad I did. It’s so what I needed to hear right now! I am going through a lot of growth in my business but have been feeling drained of energy and not sure how to fix this. I knew that long-term I could not continue this way. My biggest takeaway was the “release and reset” technique. I am so excited to start doing this! And I am ordering this book right after I post this. I’m so happy this landed in my inbox at the exact time I needed it!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Amazing, Sara – we just love when the timing works out perfectly like that! We’re so glad this particular episode caught your eye and was just what you needed right now during this period of growth in your business. We hope the release and reset technique works well for you in terms of maximizing your energy! Thanks so much for taking the time to watch 🙂

  56. I do talk to myself A LOT and have a kind of different form of self-talk/encouragement. When I’m alone I’ll often envision something that I want to have happen for me, such as an art licensing deal, and talk about it like it already happened for me and I’m being asked or interviewed about it. It really motivates me and helps me focus on things I want to have happen!

  57. Well… I would have to say…
    My list of Marie fave’s has changed yet once again!!! Shufflin the top 5 Marie! This will be one of my go to’s. I have bought Brendan’s book The Charge and after hearing today’s episode, I am so inspired! Wowza. My head is churnin… I am on the right track. I am filled with great ideas, super creative, it’s my damn bad habits that drive my bus into concrete every time… It’s not ME it’s my HABITS… The universe keeps delivering the same message to me in different ways… (Mel Robbins is also doing a good job with this stuff). Will also be using the amazing transition tools… ground-breaking! Thank you my friend. Thank you.

  58. Jillian

    What a great episode! My sister text me to make sure I watched today, and I’m so glad I did. “Strive Satisfied” really got me today. I have not been choosing joy lately, almost as if I don’t deserve it since I don’t feel that I’m accomplishing my goals quick enough. Now I see that could be part of what’s holding me back from achieving! So many other lines from the show to put into practice – they’re now on a sticky note at my desk!
    Thank you, Marie. As always. I’ve been following you for five years now…you are such a light and inspiration, you feel like a friend. I appreciate what you put into this world.

    • Christie Trumbaturi

      I was looking for the ‘like’ button! Always know that everything will always work out in your best interest. I used to repeat this to myself on a daily basis – now I just know it like I know it, like I know it. Enjoy the process bc the process IS your life as you know it.. BEST of luck!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      We’re so happy that this was just the message you needed and that your sister encouraged you to watch today, Jillian! Choosing joy is such a powerful way to shift how you’re thinking about the work you’re doing towards your goals – much more uplifting and supportive of our well-being. We hope the other strategies Brendon shared and those sticky notes help to connect you to your joy more often!

      We’re so grateful that you’ve been following Marie for such a long time now, and to have you as a wonderful part of our community – thank you for your very kind words!

  59. Marie R.

    I love all of your interviews, but this one was particularly chock-full of useful ideas. You asked us to pick one. It is difficult to pick only one, but here goes. Transition. I am definitely going to start taking a short break between tasks and at the end of the day to chant “release” to myself and set the intent for the next task. One of my problems is that I don’t fully let go of a task and I find it encroaching on the next task because it is “still there.” Thanks, Marie, for all you do. Thanks to you too Brendon.

  60. Mara

    I’m almost speechless because my mind is running so fast. I’ve been a Marie follower for a long time and this is one of the best interviews yet because it resonated so deeply with me. There were so many nuggets of wisdom. I LOVED the release and reset tip. I am definitely going to start doing this. And I’m definitely getting Brendon’s book. Way to go Brendon. Way to go Marie. Life changing stuff right here.

  61. Adeline

    Hi marie, this was great! The point about alignment really struck a cord with me because Im trying to get my act together and jump start my online fashion business. Im passionate about the beauty of a woman both inside and out. I’m a work in progress…thanks for your many encouraging videos…i most especially loved the one with Damon…fubu/shark tank.

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Beautiful, Adeline – love that passion of yours! We’re all a work in progress, so we might as well enjoy the process and create all the joy we can along the way 🙂 Really glad to hear the topic of alignment struck a chord with you and that you enjoyed the interview with Damon as well. We’re cheering you on over here and wishing you tons of success with your online fashion biz – how exciting!

  62. Thank you Marie – I adore Brendon and you so this is my most favourite interview yet. My biggest insight is: to work on alignment – and managing my energy in between tasks. I am definitely going to read this book – the interview made me energetic 🙂 Thank you LOVED it – Katie xox

  63. Christie Trumbaturi

    What a great interview!
    Not being able to focus my emotions and feelings into a positive experience WAS ?my biggest struggle. When I felt that uncomfortable feeling I cringed and questioned myself, and who was I to be there. I always spoke to myself in the third person but I thought “this is just for the moment – when will I ever just be fully confident in who I am???”, not realizing it’s NATURAL and I can use that feeling to generate happiness and true deserving success. I cannot wait to read the book in its entitreity. TrulyTrulyTruly, life transforming tweaks make all the difference. Thanks y’all!

  64. He gave so much great information it’s hard to choose just one. The ones that I’m going to implement are to release tension, set an intention and to strive satisfied. I’m truly grateful for this information. I really needed it.

  65. Today was a day I was looking for motivation. I’m struggling with transitioning back to my real estate career after a divorce and now as a single mom. Fear has become my motivator and I feel like I don’t align well with that. There is more than just one thing that struck a chord, including the performance necessity. Defining my feelings and transitioning my mind set are the two that stood out the most, however. I know WHY I chose to come back to real estate, but I also know I need to change how I approach my performance in it. Thank you so much for this very special and influential episode. I am looking forward to reading the book!

    • Katy G – You’ve got this!! You made these decisions for a reason, and you’re so capable! Live your life with balance and vigor, and take time for you! YOU ROCK!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Katy, we’re thrilled to hear that this episode brought the motivation your needed today! This is a big transition, and we know how tough things can feel when you’re feeling fearful a lot of the time. Absolutely, shifting your mindset around your real estate career to connect and align with something more positive that it brings into your life will be so powerful! We’re wishing you all the best as you begin this new chapter and hope you enjoy Brendon’s book, too 🙂

  66. Ashley

    Hey Marie!!!

    Excellent show today. I always enjoy your messages and aspire to live differently by practicing your advice. This episode with Brendon was exactly what I needed. It will be saved and re visited often 🙂

    I am currently working on building a business offering financial services and all of my mentors and higher levels cohorts all say the same thing. “Hustle hard, every day all day. Don’t be idle for even a second. You should always be on and working. NO DAYS OFF!” It makes me tired just listening to them and I can feel my shame building for not always being on.. Wait until I tell them that’s actually a deterrent to long term sucees! It has lifted a huge weight off my shoulders to hear this message backed by research.

    Being engaged, being present, and giving myself credit for the work I have done WHILE continuing to strive satisfied will be my new frame of mind. 🙂

    THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING! And thank you, Brendon. This book is now on my list 🙂

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Hey Ashley! We’re so happy that this message from Brendon about striving satisfied and connecting to your joy while working hard lifted a weight off your shoulders and was what you needed to hear. It’s really amazing to know that this approach actually promotes sustainable, long-term success, isn’t it?! Your instincts are right on. Keep up the engagement, keep enjoying the journey, and celebrating your accomplishments along the way!

  67. WOW!
    Thank you so much; I really saw a lot of myself in your conversation, especially toward the end where the conversation was about being on vacation, relaxed, everything was beautiful and then getting to work and being grr. Or the transition to home – seems like my son manages to get my grr too often.
    So the whole transition time in the car before going into the house, and the mindset at work (everything is beautiful) are the two biggest takeaways for me.
    I’m leaving this up on my computer so I can watch it again later today. And tomorrow, and the next day. I want to absorb all the goodness you’re sharing here!! Thanks again!!

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Awesome insights, Mary Jo! You watch as many times as you need to let these strategies really sink in 🙂 Thank you for tuning in!

  68. Marva

    Thanks Marie. I definitely do the self talk:) I see the difference when I don’t. Also the release/intention, I have never given it a name, but it’s what I do to be able to move from one thing to another. However in the past year, I’ve suffered by not paying attention to health, to my joyful state. Getting back on track now. Listening to every little bit of useful reinforcement helps.

  69. I loved this episode and Brendon’s message reminded me SO MUCH of yoga and its underlying philosophy. The idea of being joyful while at the same time moving forward is a biggie in my life and in my teaching. My favorite was the bit about transitions. Whether between tasks at work or moving from one part of your life to another, the concept of releasing tension and setting an intention really spoke to me. I can’t wait to put it into action.

  70. Thank you for another awesome interview. I found myself in agreement with all the key points. The biggest take away for me was a delightful surprise – I am a high performer and experiencing success right now. Now, to give myself credit for my achievements. 🙂

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      YES, Cathy! This is such a delightful takeaway. Give yourself the credit you deserve – you’re already on top of your game! Keep it up, you’re amazing, and the world needs more examples like you 🙂

  71. My biggest take away is that we don’t have joy, we create joy. This is incredible! Thank you

  72. Your interview with Brendan today was life affirming! I feel slightly vindicated in my convictions about transitions an intentions and really found a kindred spirit in the “Release of tension.” This has been a main tenet of my work for years! The confirmations just kept coming as well as the lessons!! I cannot wait to get the book! Love you both!!

  73. Great interview! So many take-aways. Thank you.
    1.Busy work isn’t life’s work – so spot on. We all distract ourselves with busy work, thinking oh we’re too busy. Busyness is an excuse. It takes away from our real deal and puts on the procrastination road. I’m pretty good at this one; or I at least recognize when I’m doing the ‘busy’ thing.
    2. Release tension, set intention. Great little ritual to do throughout the day as we shift into different areas/roles. I will be doing this.
    3. Self-talk in third person. I will be doing this.

  74. Bob

    The “Release” technique is priceless! Thanks for another great MarieTV episode!

  75. Melanie M

    Thanks for validating what I’ve been finding out on my own. I cringe every time people use the word “Hustle.” No matter how passionate they are thinking “Hustling” is the way and their advice is golden. That word carries too much negative energy for me so my brain and soul shuts it out. That word instantly makes me feel the person giving advice is telling me to be “dishonest in my practice, be deceiving, steal, mislead and scam” people for money. I can’t do that and I hold my self to high standards of integrity. Tupac’s lyrics says ” Hey man, I made a G today. Ya, but you made it in a sleazy way.” This video highlighted on “how you want to feel.” That word brings no good feelings and I have also began to be aware of setting the intention of how I want to feel when I negotiate or run my business. Happy you care enough for us to comment and post your video’s. You’re like a virtual big sis. Thanks for being quirky, chic and stylish. So smart

    • Julia - Team Forleo

      Melanie, it’s wonderful to hear that this validated what you’ve been feeling yourself already. You’re on the right track, so keep following those great instincts of yours! Love that Tupac quote 🙂 Your commitment to integrity is such a gift. Stay connected to those feelings you’re wanting to create in your life and business, that’s your alignment sweet spot!

      We so appreciate your kind words to Marie, and just love having you as an amazing part of our community.

  76. I’m so glad I took the time to watch this video this morning. It was a reset button I didn’t know I needed to push. The concept of discerning the subtle difference between our emotions and our feelings was a powerhouse awareness for me…but just one of many from the discussion. Buying the book! Thank you!

  77. Captivating interview. Thank you. I am working to bring a physical product to life that facilitates well-being. I am inspired to have heard him say high performers value well-bring more than almost any other demographic they studied.
    One of the key ah-ha’s for me is around alignment. I plan now to go back and review our Vision/Mission/Values statement and assess my workflows/behaviors to see where I could tighten up this alignment.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Wonderful, Aimée! We’re glad this message resonated so deeply with your own work. Thanks for stopping by today!

  78. Gladys Caro

    Hello Marie: What an incredible rich interview with Brendon!!!! I had electricity though my entire body most of the time. The one thing I would like to start using today is “You don’t have happiness, you have to generate Happiness, You don’t have joy, you have to generate joy”. Thanks so much for another amazing episode. This is what I needed to hear today.
    With love and immense gratitude for your loving work to the universe.

  79. What a valuable interview! I loved it. Thank you Marie and Brendan, I was taking notes through the entire video. What I especially valued were the simple and actionable tools shared. They seem to have a payoff way above the effort needed to take the steps.

    The distinction between feeling and emotion, combined with a simple way to reframe the emotion into a productive feeling seems like the most important single piece of self help advice that our society needs right now!

    I am a breathwork facilitator, yogi, and a swimmer. The breath is a powerful tool in my life and in what I teach to my clients. As a little girl my mother taught me that the body registers fear and excitement the same way, (the only difference is that we hold our breath when we are afraid and we breathe when we are excited). From that day on when I felt fear, I would start breathing and tell myself something exciting must be about to happen.

    People constantly tease me about how much I talk to myself. My chatter includes full conversations with myself. I was so grateful for Brendan’s opinion that this is constructive behavior. Even though I had no plans to quit talking to myself, there was a part of me that questioned whether it was in fact an odd thing that I did it.

    My takeaway is that my performance cant help but improve if my goals are in alignment with my priorities and desires. If I reframe my emotions into productive feelings. Make success, and the standards required to succeed, a necessity. Manage transitions with the release and visualization technique (this is another simple, effective tool I’ll be adopting). Finally; allowing myself to know when I have done enough and to feel satisfied by my accomplishments. This gives me the payoff and reward for my efforts. Feeling good about my accomplishments can then spiral me into the energy and excitement of the next project…
    Sounds awesome!

  80. Rose

    Fabulous episode. I just started watching Marie TV recently. I am blown away by the insights of the guests. Marie’s relaxed playful interviewing draws out the guest. I loved this episode and ordered Brendon’s book while watching. Looking forward to reading it soon!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for the kind words, Rose! We’re thrilled to hear you’ve been enjoying MarieTV so far and we hope you have a blast reading Brendon’s book. Thanks for tuning in!

  81. So great to have two of my very favorite personal development role models together in one interview! I love you both! All the information provided today was awesome and I am so inspired now buy Brendon’s new book right away. This was exactly what I needed to hear. The insight that I will use right away is to use my self talk (in the 3rd person) for good and not for evil. I realized that whenever I talk to myself that way it is usually not in a kind way and I am going to turn that around today! Another great peiece of advice is the release and reset technique which I am also going to try today. Thanks Brendon! I really needed this.

  82. I mean… Wow! I love when science and heart and soul meet to create passionate and practical information. This is one of my favourite Marie TV episodes; mainly because of how inspiring and grounding it is. Brendon doesn’t just get us excited about high performance; he gives us tools we can apply immediately to become high performers, and they’re backed by extensive research. From deciding how I’m going to feel, to practicing self-talk, to honouring transition by releasing and intention setting; there are major nuggets here, and the biggest is that there’s no shame in taking control and responsibility for that which I CAN manage – myself. Almost forgot… The bit on high performance state had me shouting “TOLD YA!” I believed it in my bones that hustling and grinding wasn’t the way, and I believed that rhetoric had to change – here’s scientific proof backed by research. I honour and appreciate you both. ❤️

  83. Elfin

    Release Tension……..Set Intention
    Brilliant Mantra for the rest of my life Thank you so much Marie and Brendon. How lucky we are to have exposure to wizards like you !

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Release, set, repeat. Love this, Elfin! Thanks for sharing!

  84. Janelle

    Thank you for this interview! I already talk to myself in 3rd person, however usually scoldingly. I will do this in a more positive and motivating way. Also, my takeaways are: Distinguish between emotions and feelings. Release tension, set intention. Strive satisfied. It is a joyous journey! Don’t wait for happiness, generate it! To strive satisfied really hit me and definitely the one ☝️ thing that resonates with me. So grateful for you both!?

  85. Oh my! This was epic. Probably my most favorite interview so far. So many people stress the same thing in their books, I found this to be very unique and on point. Love that it’s backed up by research, well done!

  86. Danielle Mayber

    This was such a great interview. I’m definitely going to start talking to myself in 3rd person! I also loved the technique for transitions. And I enjoyed hearing about the true high performance state. I ain’t about that “hustle”… full engagement, joy, and confidence feels so much better! 🙂

  87. I loved the exercise “Release Tension / Set Intention” – This is something that I can not only immediately offer myself, but my team as well. We are always looking for great ways to open up meetings (Icebreakers!), but maybe what we’ve been missing is a great approach to pivoting into the possible.

  88. Wow. This video was made up of all the things I wanted to hear. I am a creative, but I am not a hustler. It is ingrained in our society that hustler + creativity = the only way you are going to be successful. Hustling has always felt so unnatural to me. It literally takes the joy out of what I love doing. You guys have put into words how I feel and put science behind it. Yippeeeee! I could (and probably will) watch this video 50 more times to soak in all the take-aways. The one snippet that REALLY caught my attention was how to transition during the day. That segment was a priceless piece of information for me to bring my awareness to, and integrate into my day. I cannot thank you enough for this video. Mind blown.

  89. Sarah

    Hello Marie and Brendon, thanks so much for this wonderful hit of joyous information! I learned a ton. Biggest take away was to release tension and set intension between projects or events. Also that we have to generate our own happiness. So important to be reminded that this journey of life is so much more enjoyable if I remember it’s an inside job! Thanks to both of you. Take good care of yourselves!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Beautifully put, Sarah! We’re so glad you enjoyed this interview and that it gave you a few great takeaways to implement “in” your own life. Thanks for tuning in!

  90. My Tuesdays are amazing cause one of the reasons is because of your emails. I look forward to them. This has to be one of my favorites! I have been in such a funk… and several “ah ha” moments



  92. Ada Gonzalez

    I loved the presentation today. What I took home was the three attitudes of the high achieving: full engagement, joy and confidence. AND to focus on the transitions. I already feel more energetic with these tips and will faithfully apply starting NOW. Thank you Marie!

  93. Eli ALVEBERG

    Ive experienced that to talk posetiv to myself and situasions really changes things,to bould up selfsteam is importent and somethimes i found it difficult.But i so believe in the thoughts power.
    Thangyou for very nice program

  94. The greatest takeaway was about being satisfied with your accomplishments. Pause to savor the moments and replenish energy and motivation to keep you going on to the next level. Thanks and Congratulations Marie and Brendon, for your streams of successes and positive influences!

  95. My two most favorite people in one video!!! What a treat! Brendon, I just got the notification my copy of High-Performance Habits was delivered and can not wait to read it. My top takeaway is TRANSITIONS! I am the worlds worse at “multitasking” and feel it all the time that it is the major cause of burnout and disengagement that I feel. I have been susceptible to the message of “grind it! grind it!” and am in the midst of retraining my brain and impulses to slow down and enjoy the moments. Thank you, Marie & Brendon, for the great episodes, podcasts, books… the wealth of information. I always watch with my notepad taking notes.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      So awesome, Jewel! Multi-tasking is so tricky but we hope these tips help you find a bit more of balance. We’re so glad you enjoyed Marie and Brendon’s interview and that their work has been a source of inspiration along your own creative journey. Thanks for sharing!

  96. Ashley

    This video was EXACTLY what I needed at this point in time. Thank you so much for all of these amazing insights! The tips about self-talk, being present, identifying emotion, and generating joy are so useful.

    I will be keeping all of these things in mind. Also Marie, your dress is so beautiful and you are beautiful <3

  97. Gerri

    Thank you Marie and Brendon for this great episode!
    My greatest take-away:
    When completing a task, release if fully and set a new intention for the upcoming one. I had always thought of intention setting in a broad perspective but Brendon’s way of setting (micro) intentions makes a great deal of sense!
    Thanks again!

  98. Hi Marie and Brendon,
    The biggest takeaway I took from this (if I really have to narrow it down–because dang, that was hard!) was the “Release Tension, Set Intention.” I’ve been running myself ragged between client work (I freelance write and graphic design), launching the last two books in my YA scifi series this fall, and taking on my husband’s 2 older boys starting last month, who previously lived in the UK (bringing our number of kids in the house up to 5 – all ranging from high school, to toddler). Needless to say, my go-go-go-go-go attitude has landed me with stress-induced TMJ pain and headaches. Ugh. Stop clenching your teeth, Carissa. So, I’m deliberately decompressing, destressing, removing caffeine from the diet, continuing the workouts and meditations, as well as recentering on joy again. This video, I kid you not, was divinely timed for me. Thank you both for an amazingly insightful video. Brendon, I’m checking out High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way and getting the hardcover ordered today!
    Carissa Andrews

  99. WOW amazing. I loved the release+ intention while transitioning form an action to another. and also the difference between emotion and feeling. so powerful understand how much we can get back our power if we manage our feeling.
    thanks you both

  100. I appreciate the insight about transitions. It especially struck me since I started watching the interview over lunch, and when I finished eating I paused the video to answer some email, while also trying to update a page on my website and upload a video. Yikes! I decided to finish the video, leave this comment, and then I’ll transition more intentionally back to my website. Thanks!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Ohhh we’ve all been there, Eileen. Thanks so much for sharing your “takeaway” from today’s interview and huge high fives for already implementing it in your life– you seriously rock!

  101. It’s so important for people to hear that “grind” doesn’t work long term (especially from successful people). Using necessity and renaming certain feelings to your advantage is a great tip. Self-talk rules! Thanks for introducing me to Brendon’s work.

    Marie Forleo rules!

    xoxo LL

  102. LOVED this thank you. Biggest takeaway for me was being conscious of transitions and setting an intention. Between tasks and then from situation to situation, work to family for e.g. … simple but so effective! And yesssssss to work and live in JOY with confidence and mindful engagement. Buying this book for sure!
    Love and light


  103. Kitty Howard

    I discovered Brendon in 2012 when I found a copy of The Millionaire Messenger and “knew” that is where I wanted to be in the next stage of life. He has become one of my favourite humans because of his curiosity and dedication to finding answers and sharing stories.

    This interview speaks to me as I’ve spent the last little while (3yrs) figuring out the direction I want to go. Just recently this aligned for me and my anxiety dropped and my happiness skyrocketed again. So, when he said sometimes people are just off by 4 or 5 degrees and once they align things improve; I felt even more solid with the shift that just took place inside.

    Thank you both for existing and sharing yourselves with all of us. xo

  104. Great conversation! I could relate to running myself to exhaustion trying to accomplish everything. I really loved Brendon’s advice to “Release Tension, Set Intention” before transitioning tasks. I plan to try it soon!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      We’re so glad this message resonated with you, Linda! Thanks for stopping by today.

  105. Chelsea

    The transitions part is genius and I’m doing that from now on. This is my favorite Marie TV episode so far, (though they’re all pretty darn great!) because it’s got the action items I so needed to hear. Thanks Marie and Brendan, excited to pick up the book!

  106. Bravo Brendon and Marie! Great tips for dreamers and entrepreneurs. My favorite nugget was about the ability to generate energy. As a busy working mom, I sometimes don’t manage my transitions well and as a result, the person who suffers is me. I am confident that I can work, achieve my dreams and show up for my family but sometimes I forget these simple tools. I plan to read your book ASAP. Thanks to you both for your inspirational work! xo

  107. I’ve been talking to myself all of my adult life (Mary, don’t be so blonde; Mary, stop getting distracted; Mary, it’s a wonder you have any friends). But it’s always been self criticism. Time to turn that around. Thanks so much.

  108. Hannah

    I watched the episode this morning, and I have been doing the third-person transition tool! I like it already and I am really looking forward to the results. I also checked Brendon’s new book out from the library and am so excited to read it and share it. Thanks Marie and Brendon! I would not have been exposed to this awesome work if not for Marie inviting Brendon on the show and Brendon making the time to come, so I’m really grateful you both had the good idea to do this and did it! Thanks also to your teams, because I’m sure making it happen involved tons of emails and clothes ironing and video editing and studio cleaning and all that – so thanks to the many behind-the-scenes superstars too.


  109. Thank you so much for this amazing episode. With a 10-month-old it almost took me all day to finish watching, but I gotter done. Yay to me!!! The big takeaway was at the end when Brandon was talking about never being satisfied. Leaving this life and never letting yourself feel satisfied, giving myself credit or good job. I’m still emotional while writing this comment. I don’t remember the last time I felt like I did something worth acknowledging. This could be the very reason I resist social media…Thank you again for this video. I will be posting some of those nuggets of wisdom around my home. I look forward to a renewed me!

    • Cynthia – I love your idea of posting nuggets around your home! What a terrific way to make a good idea into a regular habit. Kudos to you for your determination.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Beautiful, Cynthia! Thanks so much for sharing. From your comment alone, it’s clear that you’re not only a dedicated and present mom to your little one, but also deeply committed to your personal growth– two things absolutely worth celebrating. We’re so glad this message resonated with you at the perfect moment and we hope it continues to inspire and encourage you along your creative journey– we’re all cheering you on!

  110. Leslie

    Hi Marie and Brendon. I love and follow you both. This interview was most interesting. I used to care what other people thought and I frequently let what other people said shape how I felt. I was working for one of the big financial institutions in a senior position. When our division got bought out, I prayed for a package. They asked for volunteers at the senior level. My hand flew up without another thought. I no longer felt that my job was in alignment with my values. In that moment, I felt an unburdening like I’ve never felt before. In the following hours, I had so many colleagues ‘drop-in’ to chat. By the end of the day, I was depleted like I’d never felt before. That week, I came to realize that I couldn’t give other people that power over me. The message of alignment really hit home and that it is ok to be happy in life and successful and happy in business without being miserable. Thanks for the reminder!

  111. Cathy Murphy

    As an elementary school teacher, I am thrilled with everything I heard today! These practices are very applicable and teachable. I always strive to create a joyful classroom environment, and I think this work will most definitely be a delightful piece to implement and share with my students. Thanks so much:)

  112. I feel affirmed in the way I’m aligning my life: Engaging fully in my entrepreneurial work, and giving lots of time and energy to self-care and to having fun adventures with my husband and friends. Hearing Brendon and Marie talk about alignment helps to relieve the anxious feeling I get that I should always be working, getting stuff done!
    What I’ll start doing is coaching myself using my name and setting intentions more frequently through the day as I transition from one activity to the next.
    The relative lack of importance of creativity is a shocker, but it means I can show up whether I’m feeling creative or not and still be productive. I like that!
    Thanks for the useful and inspiring advice!

  113. This was so great! Right before watching this, I was filling out a workbook I bought by Cara Alwill Leyba called “Style Your Mind”. She asked me to define success in my own terms. I wrote that it was the ability to feel joyful and fulfilled more often than not. I realized that I’m already successful! Then I watched this interview, and it confirmed it for me.
    Also, I’ll be buying your book ASAP Brendon!

  114. I need to buy this book! I think the greatest takeaways are the self talk. We often downplay things like self talk (which I do naturally cause I’m an oral processor) because we think they’re weird and it’s almost too simple. However, this proves how crucial it is to actual, sustainable success. Simplicity in its truest form should bring success. I’m going to start encouraging myself more, haha.

  115. Lindsay S.

    LOVE this! Adding the book to my must-read list 😉 My biggest takeaway was the practice of transitions — everyone could benefit from his technique but especially women– I think we have somehow begun to wear the idea of ‘multi-tasking’ as badge of honor, but it never FEELS good. When I’m trying to juggle work, making some food, taking a moment for myself and being there for a loved one all at once, it never ends well… I’m going to do the Release tension + Set Intention practice now before my next task. Thanks for sharing!

  116. Tara

    One of my mentors was a master acupuncturist and healing presence, Bob Duggan from the Tai Sophia Institute. He taught thousands of new practitioners the concept and importance of “designing your mood”. I think it is really what Brendan is saying too. We can decide how we show up and how we will feel. Very true and this is a very powerful life skill. I can do it automatically now but when I first learned it, I used to have a sticky note on my bathroom mirror reminding me: “what will your mood be today?”. I also love, love, love the concept of “improving joyfully”. Thanks!

  117. Alignment! Alignment is the key variable that has been missing to my high achievement innate core of being. In the last two weeks, I have been moving toward and forward on a path that leaves behind a past career (s) that worked well for me at that moment in time, but it took a decade to do it with joy and not feeling regret or guilt. My LinkedIn profile is full of great success – grateful for them- however, now I get to explore my new multi path and applying those refined habits. Brendon has been a favorite of mine, if you have not read Life’s Golden Ticket, pick it up, wow, just wow! P.S. the transition of release…set new intention was the cherry on top.

  118. Great interview! All points discussed were on the mark but I think the transition segment was the most important for me. I am usually still thinking about the last thing I was doing. I am going to work on the Release technique.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Wonderful, Bonita! We hope that implementing this technique in your life is an enlightening and inspiring experience for you. Thanks for tuning in today!

  119. Mitzi Sinnott

    RELEASE tension SET intention!
    Runnin’ with this one 😉
    thank you

  120. Kitty

    Hi Marie and Brendon and your teams,
    What a wonderful gift this interview is not only for myself but also to my son (6)! We both struggle with our ‘performance intelligence’ so to speak and the biggest insight for me today is one that I feel will help us both big time!!! It’s the transition between activities that often gets us to freeze up and get all confused and we try so hard to cover it up by running into the next thing. By actually taking time out to make the transition: first release tension, then set a specific intention, I truly believe this might really help us to keep ourselves in alignment, our focus clear and actually become a lot more pro-active (rather than re-active).
    I want to thank you so much and from the bottom of my very heart for this amazing insight that I am going to firmly implement into ‘my system’ and help my son with also!!!
    Lots of love,

  121. Louise

    I loved the transitioning advice of releasing tension and setting intention. VERY helpful. And to allow joy, in fact, to know that we are the generators of joy, is so nice to hear. We know this stuff deep down, but it’s wonderful to have it said out loud. Especially with all the “grind and hustle” nonsense on social media, as you guys pointed out.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      We’re so glad this message resonated with you, Louise! Thanks for taking a moment to share your “takeaway” with us. Cheers to more joy!

  122. Getting Brendon’s book! I love that he set out to prove what is true for high performers. There are sooooo many books out there, well intentioned, that perhaps are not as exhaustive as Brendon’s study. My big takeaway was about transitions. I do feel like I go through my day moving between projects and not fully engaging in each one. I love this idea of stopping, releasing, setting intention and then going for it. Makes so much sense. Also, when I’m feel “rrrrgh” I’m gonna stop and think of myself on a beach enjoying the view! 🙂 And tap back into my sense awe and wonder. Thanks for this episode.

  123. Nancy

    Love love love love love this episode. My biggest take away was the self-talk tip. I address myself sometimes, but not in the way Brendon did in this episode. I think a heart-to-heart with myself is long overdue. I’ll be getting to that now. Thank you so much to Brendon and everyone at Marie TV. You guys rock!

  124. Rini

    Being satisfied with yourself (life, work, family, etc.) and improving for the joy of it. Self-talk in the second/third person. Releasing your previous activity and setting an intention and vision for the next activity. Aligning your life by a few degrees to give it more meaning and substance. Becoming more emotionally intelligent and cultivating joy.

    Those are all very empowering and it takes away all of that self-esteem-depleting pressure we put on ourselves to hustle, grind, outperform, provide… where finally at the end there is supposed to be some unicorn where we finally feel approved of, valued, and fulfilled. Feeling that way NOW, and moving towards goals because they inspire us, is so much more energizing and fulfilling than trying to work our whole lives for it – as if it wasn’t our birthright to feel like we’re already worthy of satisfaction, fulfillment, love, and joy! If it’s about the journey, not the destination, then we can set our GPS, align as needed, and focus on our bitchin’ journeys! Because they’re right, you know… we ARE badasses! Let’s stop kicking our own butts and give ourselves permission to feel satisfied, joyous, and excited, and kick butt at life!

  125. Megan R.

    Creating Transitions! Oh, what an amazing tip. Something rather basic yet I feel will be a powerful addition to my days. I’m guilty of multi-tasking way too much without stopping in between to just breathe and prepare myself for the next task. This will be super helpful even in the basic steps of getting myself out of the bed and ready in the mornings as I tend to hit the ground in a flurry instead of noticing the moments and mentally psyching myself up for the beautiful day ahead. Another great interview, Marie!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Great example, Megan! This simple technique truly has the potential to make some big changes in our everyday life. Thanks for stopping by today!

  126. Hi, Marie and Team Fabulous Forelo;
    Thank you for a fabulous episode that allows me to gain some insight and turn it into action.
    Long-term success is just as much about execution and consistency and showing up as a creative edge. Love your message about “high performers are sustaining long-term success. Get our relationships, our health, and our career all in alignment.” This message resonates with me as I am taking action on my health, career, and building long-lasting rich social friendships. I lost about 20 lbs and still working on my healthy weight as I measure my BMI and body fat consistently to know the real value of my weight. Working with great mentors to gain more insights on my career. Joining certain groups that strike my interest and engage with high performers always striving. The other last thing I am going to do is self-talk in the third person. I use to say” I am fabulous”. I use the I AM affirmations, but I am going to try the third person. Sandy you are a tremendously fabulous hard worker who is determined to stay current in the world of technology.

  127. MârieJosée L. Gabriel

    I Love it and in the same time, i’m amazed to see that the Universal truth applies into life and into the sequence of Yoga! 🙂

  128. Me too loving the Release and Reset idea – and focus /set intention for one thing at a time. So much more sane than the overwhelm of multi-tasking.
    …. Ah, can we start a campaign to get rid of the scourge of multi-tasking?! (that cultural pressure to multi-task). Please? 🙂 Thanks!

  129. I just love Brandon (and you, Marie, of course)! The energy you two created was so happy and joyful….and contagious. 🙂 The BIG takeaway for me was to “Release tension and SET intention”. So incredibly helpful. I know from experience that this works—but I don’t do it consistently so, from now on, I AM going to do that. Thank you for all the good you do in the world. You are making it a better place. 🙂

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for the kind words, Suzie! We’re so glad you enjoyed today’s interview and that it gave you a great “takeaway” to try out in your own life. Thanks for sharing!

  130. My favourites were: Release tension and set intention! I could feel it immediately how it would work when Brendon explained it – brilliant!! Defining the feeling and then have a good selftalk in sec and third person about it. Loved that too! (Already doing some selftalk so only need to upgrade it slightly…)

  131. I really, really enjoyed this interview! I’ve been such a huge fan of Brendon Burchard for a couple of years now. My biggest takeaway from this interview is the ‘transition’ method, love, love it!! I love the mantra of releasing after each activity, setting the intention of how you want to feel in the new task and visualizing it. That was a huge ‘Aha’ for me. Admittedly, I do have the tendency to multi-task exactly as he described it. I’m going to try this method from now on. Really incredible interview, with a ton of value. Thank you Marie and Brendon! Superb. Abby xo 🙂

  132. Renee

    Hi Marie,

    The most memorable lesson I gained today came at 31:00 when Brendon made that face, lol. My struggle is that I’m in that facial “grind” nearly every day – a 5 year medical school program that has me completely burnt out. I know that I wear that “face at 31:00” (lol) nearly every day bc I’m exhausted and quite honestly sick of being in school. I so badly want to be out living my dreams on my terms! But I don’t have control over that yet. I do have to get through school first, so my challenge is practicing the (second memorable lesson) “generation of happiness / generation of joy”. Setting an intention when I have to be somewhere I don’t want to be for a quite a long time. I do wonder if there are any exceptions to being able to generate happiness when you have to be somewhere you don’t want to be? lol.. just curious 😉 Thank you for this video! I am so glad I found Brendon’s work. I am buying his book today.

  133. Marli

    This information is AMAZING!
    Thank you for all your research Brendan!
    The two that stood out for me were: changing my self talk from first person to third person… I already tried it and it feels immediately better and more believable!!!
    The other I am going t implement from now is managing transitions…. release….set my intention for next.
    Thank you Brendan and Marie!
    (Oh, and I’m going to buy the book ?)

  134. Kathy

    Release the TENSION, set INTENTION! I’m a full-time public school teacher and rapidly growing my side business, and find myself regularly between both worlds throughout the day. I might be in e-mail/spreadsheet planning mode for my side business, and five minutes later I’ll have a group of third graders arriving after lunch. There are plenty of times that I enter a new space still with the mindset or emotional worry of the other space, and it can be unfair to both parties when I’m not present. It also significantly impacts my mood and mindset about what needs to get done. I’m really going to practice these transition tools with releasing tension and setting intention for the different parts of my day! Thank you Marie and Brendon!

  135. Extraordinary interview!
    I loved the definition of clarity as having clear the feeling you are when doing something.

    Thank you!

  136. Marcia Teperman

    Strive, satisfy – love the idea of taking a moment to be apreciative of our own work output when we are daily doing what it takes to be meaninful today and give a sense of satisfaction. Thank you! Both of my favourite people in this planet.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for the kind words, Marcia! We’re grateful to have you in our community. Thanks for sharing your “takeaway” today!

  137. andreea

    this guy s speech i sooooo boring!! he doesnt have the gifts of a great speaker and he is so plain. too bad that the content is so offering and useful for o]all of us. marie, please give a free speaking course to the guests who are so placid.

  138. Suzanna Nichols

    Wow! So many great points, it is hard to pick a favorite.
    The one I will work on today is Release tension, Set intention. I have used it in other areas, but not in the area of going from e mails to creative flow. Brandon explains it so clearly!
    Thank you Marie & Brandon for this great segment!

  139. Love the positive self talk in the second or third person as an affirmation!! Makes sense! You have to be on your side. After all you’re the only one that matters when it comes to your success!! How can you serve others in a healthy manner if you can’t serve yourself!! Excellent interview! Great stuff! Now I’ll read the book!

    • Sheila

      Hi Marie/Brendan
      loved this whole interview, and your outfit too Marie sorry gotta get that in there!
      For me it was release tension set intention, I am using this for sure from tomorrow its 10.39pm here in Ireland as I type but I am so glad I watched this interview. I work in a preschool lots of energetic children and I love my role encouraging creativity and watching the little stars shine but here’s the thing its challenging lots of little personalities to negotiate so I am going to walk away when I need to and Release then Set my new intention – I’m sharing this nugget of wisdom with my co-workers too.
      Thank you both, books sounds amazing too ! Congratulations Brendan and thank you both
      slan from Ireland

  140. Natalia

    Love, love, love this interview! My take away is self-coaching talk. Thank you ❤️️

  141. Hi there Marie,
    I feel really inspired after watching your interview with Bredan. I’m beginning my new journey as a personal and executive coach and so much of what he shared resonated with me.
    With gratitude

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Wonderful, Ayo! We’re so glad this message resonated with you at the perfect moment. Congratulations on taking the next steps toward your dreams as a coach– we’re all cheering you on!

  142. Lena

    First of all, I love your dress! Just looking at that made me happy! Secondly, that I don’t have to overwork myself to achieve. I think we hear that all too often, and it doesn’t leave much time for anything else in your life. That work life balance is really important and now I don’t feel like it will be that hard to obtain. All the stories told related from the book were very inspiring!

  143. Debbie Evans

    Oh my gosh – choosing just one thing is tough because this was awesome!! But for me it’s gotta be the self talk – I’m such a Negative Nellie. Can’t wait to get this book, and to start RIGHT NOW speaking kindly and positively to myself – in the 3rd person, of course 🙂
    Thanks Marie and Brendon!!

  144. I loved the discussion on transitions! I didn’t realize how much I struggled with this aspect of my life/business until watching this episode. I live and work in the same space, so finding the boundary between work time and personal life time can be very tricky for me. Setting a clear boundary by implementing the methods recommended by Brendon sounds like just the ticket! Can’t wait to work on my transitions!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      You’re so not alone, Claire! As our team is entirely virtual, and most of us work from home, this is something we’re always working on too. Thanks so much for sharing!

  145. Such an ah-ha moment today around transitioning between activities by releasing the last and setting an intention for the next. Started employing that tactic immediately and it seems to be working!

  146. Lydia Maria Eichiner

    Release … Release Intention This is what I missed – I already am in the Joy bit, and enjoy also the process. But I missed the release (relax after some work done) and right after Intention – great! I will writte it on my board to keep focus on it.

  147. My biggest takeaway – I am on track when I prioritise my life! And I loved the 3 – joy, confident, engaged 🙂

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Perfectly put, Natasha! Thanks so much for tuning in today.

  148. Nancy Vala

    It was all completely awesome but one of the first statements — that creativity is not strongly correlated with success — was mind-bending for me. I’m an artist and I always put the creativity front and center and responsible which left me feeling insecure when things didn’t go well. Lots to think about — I will probably get the book. Thank you for this episode!

  149. Helen

    Thanks once again Marie! I was questioning myself last night. What else can I do? I am burnt out and need to get some energy back whilst having a day job and starting a business designing and making handbags. You’re show topics always seem to give me what I need at the time I need it. From the bottom of my heart “Thank you Marie!”

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Isn’t it funny how the right messages always seem to find us at the perfect moment? We’re so glad you enjoyed this episode, Helen. Thanks for being a part of our world!

  150. loved the transition exercise and emotion versus feeling.Going to be using transition in my activities 🙂

  151. Evey

    I found the “Release Tension/Set Intention” concept intriguing. For me it resonated with the very old concept of “Sabbath rest”, (“Rest of God” -Mark Buchanan) or the idea of taking a break from all we do to reset ourselves. Constant striving is a killer. Thanks for this, Marie and Brendon!

  152. Samira

    Thank you Marie and Brendon!
    Release tension, set intention…… So easy and simple and rewarding!!
    I definitely going to apply this in my life. It is kind of like meditation. I am all about meditation. After completing one job take a little break and close my eyes, say release for few minutes and then set intention for the next job. Prepare myself for the next job without opening my eyes.
    Talking to myself as the second person mentioning my name …. I usually do that as the first person but now I am going to pep talk this way.
    The biggest lesson I am going to change my desire to succeed into necessity to succeed.

    Thank you once again.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      True, Samira! It is like meditation. 🙂 It’s so good you’re already a fan of meditating. Marie is a big believer in how it can change lives for the better. If you haven’t seen her episode on meditating, I think you’ll like it!

  153. Brenda

    So many things were said that everything was a great take-away! I want the book!

  154. :)

    Thank you!!! Both of you ?
    Best interview ! Really enjoyed . Love part about emotions and feelings, so simple explanation.
    You/ I generate happiness, generate joy 🙂 Best message :)!

  155. Marie,
    This video is truly inspiring. I realized that I am a high performer. Without knowing, I practice many of the feelings and self-talk that you and Brandon experience and practice to be who you are. I am who I am. I feel joy that I am pursuing a career as a writer and entrepreneur. It requires a lot of mental thoughts and emotional feelings or simply: hard work, but I love what I am creating…a 69-year-old woman with a purpose. That feels good!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s awesome, Frances! We’re so happy you’re doing what you love and are doing it at a high performing level. Woohoo! 🙂

  156. Faye

    Hi Marie and Brandon
    Great conversation. Necessity: I do feel it’s necessary to continue painting, selling and enjoying at least one venue to display and sell. Why? I know there’s more inside me that has to be delivered to the world at large. A Santa Fe artist, Sam Scott, said “Artists bring the news to the world”. Also, I love the transition that’s so necessary during the course of the day when I can get so wound up and feel like I have to catch up businesswise with my archive of paintings and pen and ink work from the last 30 years.
    I often feel that I have to figure everything out in one day to make up for lost time. (It wasn’t lost. I was a high school English teacher for many years to support my family – I was a single parent, no child support)
    . Instead of first person, I intend on using third person to focus, release and reset!!!
    Thank you again. Also, Marie, I enjoyed the video of your Texas trip, it was fun and entertaining.
    Thank you Marie and Brandon. Cheers!!!!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      You’re so strong and talented, Faye. We can’t wait to hear where your dreams take you next!

  157. Sharon

    Thanks, Marie – loved this interview! I love that experiencing joy and satisfaction is aligned with high performance. This so rings true for me! Hustle and grind, not so much.

  158. I LOVED this interview!!!

    I must say I laughed quite hard when Brendon said:
    Imagine getting to teh end of your life and saying:
    “You know what I never felt satisfied!!”

  159. Callum Stowell

    Best episode ever!
    That’s all.

  160. Suzanne

    Thank you for sharing. My biggest takeaway from this video was the tip: what might happen today that could trip me up, and how am I going to bring my best self to that? From what I had heard from other speakers and philosophies was that I shouldn’t focus on what could possibly happen because what I focus on can then become reality. But Brendon’s point is so true. It’s like a personal contingency plan. Contingency plans are good business practice for organizations so why wouldn’t it be good practice for individuals as well? And especially on a daily basis. Great point, and well done.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Good point, Suzanne! Some of the prevailing wisdom encourages us not to think about the bad things that could happen, but that doesn’t adequately prepare us for how to handle those bad things when they do happen. Like the old saying goes, “luck favors the well-prepared.” So glad you enjoyed this episode!

  161. Holy shit! This is an eye-opener. I learned so much here, and all of it I can apply right away! The most practical idea I got from this was to release tension, then set an intention. I do so many different types of things throughout my typical 12-hour day, and this will be a HUGE help.

    Another is being a ‘satisfied striver’. I love that! From now on, I will acknowledge my own achievements more, enjoy the process more, and bask in the joy of it all a whole lot more.

    This has been a profoundly useful interview, Marie. Thank you, and thank you, Brendon!

  162. Wow. Wow. Wow. I could feel the cells in my body , literally, jumping for Joy. Every step was helpful and resonates with me. I loved the Release and Set Intention step. It has never occurred to me to do this and I could feel the difference it will make in my days.
    The biggest takeaway though, was being satisfied, taking it in when a job is well done. I realized, I am happy and excited when someone appreciates my work – but only for about 5 minutes – then I find myself questioning the validity of the moment and the sincerity of comments. I begin to think it may never happen again and before I know it I’m worrying about the next event and down the rabbit hole I go, when I could still be celebrating and enjoying well deserved down time. Big ah-ha. Huge!
    So thank you again Marie for another life changing episode. Truly, life changing.

  163. Great episode! First of all, what I learned most from you both is JOY. I love how you both live what you teach. You are curious, loving, playful, joyful, smart people who model what it is to live high performance. ???

    As for specific tips, I LOVE the transition tip of releasing tension + setting intention. ???

    I also never tire of being reminded that happiness doesn’t just land on us. In my business, I say “joy is a practice.” I loved Brendon’s reminder that happiness, like energy, is something we can generate!

    Thank you both. And congratulations to Brendon on the new book. Mine just arrived this afternoon!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I love what you shared about joy being a practice, Sherry. That’s such a beautiful way to word it! 🙂

  164. Anastasia

    Brendon just hit something I can not stress enough.
    I used to ‘hustle’ or try to consistently improve myself however when I quit my high pressure job and not so much lower my standards but began to appreciate what I had and give myself credit, I began living a more joyful lifestyle.
    I perform so much better when I have a quick moment and pull myself back to the center of Anastasia. As I started to become more present I have nailed an amazing job, partner, friends and I also gained sponsorship as bodybuilding athlete. When I remember my values and my morals it helps me accept the inevitable. So if I don’t win my trophies, or if I don’t get that sale it’s not the end of the world because, and dare I say it kittens, everything is in fact ‘figure-out-able’.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      YES! Love it, Anastasia! Congrats on all the good things that have come into your life since becoming more present and aligned. 🙂

  165. Jill

    Excellent interview!! I really connected with so much of it and learned new stuff. I’m intrigued by the feelings vs. Emotions. AND Brendon’s book arrived today so this was a great intro to it!! Thanks!

  166. Wowee thank you so much Maree and Anthony! It is so incredible to hear these great tips and to KNOW that they are backed up by rigorous academic research. I am so grateful to begin integrating these techniques and strategies into my daily life. I gotta say that the “managing transitions” is such a deep and profound practice. I meditate daily and could instantly feel the affect of releasing the previous task, and see the benefits of setting my intention. I will be buying this book!

  167. Greg DeGuglielmo

    Practical Idealism is a phrase that popped in my head and stayed with me since I was a kid. Practical Idealism is what came to mind after watching this episode of MarieTV. Much needed distinctions made here… reminding us, yet again, sometimes less IS more. The Puritan Work Ethic, in many ways, has outlived its pertinence in America. Allowing ourselves to ease into a sort of relaxed vigilance is a great goal in itself. Aligning into the three states mentioned: 1) Full engagement 2) Joy! 3) Confidence is not attained by working harder but rather by employing the best habits! I do cringe a bit inside though with Brendon’s way of presenting Creativity as a sort of quantifiable entity. The Creative Process is complex and many a great book has been written about it. Many a great soul has immersed their life in it to unrequited credit. A few are commercially successful if only for a fleeting time. It’s funny, I heard Liz Gilbert once, via Marie, use the term “recovering perfectionist.” Full disclosure here: yes, I am one of the tribe! 🙂 And as such, I’ve since realized that equating decades of work & effort with being a “successful” or high-achieving creative is not in the best interest of Creativity itself. Creativity is it’s own reason for being. The great American composer, Charles Ives, sold insurance to pay his bills; he felt his Art was healthiest not being used to make a living or as any measure of high-achievement in America. Anyway, I loved this episode and agree whole-heartedly with much of it. Thank you Marie! 🙂

  168. I had so many takeaways from this. On a super practical level- transitions. Release + set intention is something I’m committing to. The more holistic and inspiring were alignment and strive satisfied. The comment made about achieving yourself into something that isn’t actually right for you really resonated. I am at this stage in my life right now where I realize I want a life of simple joy- working in the garden, appreciating nature, eating good food, loving my family, and working on my side-hustle (one day full-time hustle) – not the life I’ve cultivated to date of regular promotions, and constant working harder to prove myself ready for the next “thing” in a field I have no heart for anymore. Thank you and I want this book!

  169. Thank you, Marie and Brendon. The most interesting part of the interview for me was about transitioning. I’ll take that advice and use it to practice my next presentation (which is due in two days, so yikes). Let’s see how it goes.
    Keep up the awesome work!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      You can do it, Andrea! 🙂

  170. Divyesh

    Hi! I loved it ’cause I’ve trying to find something and I don’t know but This is it one of thing I found something. But I just little confuse Between Full Engagement & Confidence. So Explain in Brief that would be great. I loved it…

  171. LindaJill

    I really connected to the distinction between emotions and feelings and how we attach certain meanings to what is going on. I need to figure out how to rewire my thinking so I avoid using so much energy when it’s not necessary. I also loved the method of releasing tension before doing a new task. At the end of the day I feel I am left with no energy. I will try Brendons’ suggestion.

  172. This was great! Thank you!
    I loved the release “mantra”! I’ve adopted that one, for sure.
    And self talk in third person! Great. I’ll start that one right away.
    Thank you, both of you!

  173. Pieter Engelbrecht

    What I do is to talk in the third person and that works. For long my self-talk was in the first person and I was frustrated. For a few weeks, I do it in the third person and there is a total change in my behaviour. Previously I should get angry, now it is like water role of my back.
    What I had learned to do is to release and the intention to focus on the next project that will be busy with.
    Thank you, Mari and Brendon.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s fantastic, Pieter! Sometimes the smallest shifts can make the biggest difference. I’m so glad switching from first to third person has been a game-changer.

  174. The greatest take away for me was the part of raising necessity. I ‘m in a place of feeling very content where I am. Total acceptance of who and where I am right now, feels really good, so good that I am not feeling the necessity to come into action. Giving myself purpose to share my gifts because the world is waiting for it feels good…….

  175. Anne-kirstine Klitmark

    So many take aways!. I came across Brandon, in the beginning when he was doing his youtube video’s – I feel no coincidence seeing this episodes and the insights that come through. Managing transitions was an important tool to become aware of for me. I am off to order the book. Thank you so much to both of you – so lovely to resonate with the messages, once again on Marie TV, you rock! <3

  176. Angela Gabriela Horne

    Thank you, Marie,
    The interview was so life-affirming.
    I am proceeding with confidence and generating joy in every moment.

  177. Alanna M.

    Excellent message! I enjoy listening to successful people that study other successful people. This video provided so many great takeaways. I felt better (mentally) after being reminded to “align” my relationships, my health, in order to perform my best. I also appreciated the tool Brendon provided on how to use anxiety to our advantage–what a great plot twist, yah?!

    Overall, my greatest takeaway from this is learning to strive satisfied and to take joy in the moment. I’m a future thinker/shaker/mover, and rarely live in the present. I used to feel like not being satisfied was my way to push myself to do more and be more (not in a burnout type of way, but a “I don’t feel right if I don’t feel right kind of way”). However, this mindset doesn’t allow me to enjoy the “now.” So this, MarieTV, was liberating! Thank you.

  178. Eugenie

    Great stuff — thank you Marie, thank you Brendon.

    Loving the release technique: I far too frequently dive straight from low-level inbox stuff into something creative, then back and forth again multiple times, and then wonder why there’s no flow.

    That’s going to change. Right now!

    Greatly looking forward to reading Brendon’s book 🙂

  179. Bridget

    Hi Brandon and Marie,

    Whoa. I never realized how often I tell myself the story that success only comes out of slog and grind…or how much I allow that story to be reaffirmed when I don’t set intentions for my work.

    After listening to this, I’m committed to taking a few minutes to remind myself why the work I’m doing matters to me and to the people around me. As I’ve practiced this, I’ve realized that I do find joy and meaning in many things I’m doing day-to-day — I was just forgetting to notice!

    Can’t wait to read the book.

    • Bridget

      Oops, sorry, Brendon! Excuse the misspell.

  180. I loved the talk about transitions–this is a big problem for me. Also, I get distracted into multitasking on my computer… I think I’m going to try to make more intentional transitions today and observe how it changes my day! Thanks for this great episode!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      You’re not alone, Heather. The computer is terrible for multitasking! The constant notifications encourage it. It can be a challenge to rewire our brains to be more present, but it’s so worth it. It’s great to hear you’re feeling inspired! 🙂

  181. Holy Smokes, this is a lot of good stuff! I’m going to watch this video several times and take notes. I have a feeling that my copy of that book is going to have lots of sticky flags in it.
    I’m going to start working on my transitions. As a mom to a toddler and a new entrepreneur, I have so many different things going on. It is so easy to get distracted. When I have a bit of time while kiddo is at nursery school, it’s overwhelming! Do all the things, now! So yes, going to work on those transitions to give tasks my full and joyful attention!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      A book with sticky notes is the best kind! 🙂 It’s awesome to hear you’re a new entrepreneur––congrats!––and I’m so glad the tip on transitions was helpful.

  182. Hugette

    This was absolutely PHENOMENAL!!!! So blessed by this message and insight. I LOVED, “Strive Satisfied.” I have found this to be not only 100% true, but also something to be reminded of constantly. Your work flows best when you come from a space of gratitude and JOY! Forever grateful! Thanks Marie and Brendon! =)

  183. Thank your for this interview. Two of my most important mentors!! Love it! My biggest insight… transitions. Stopping releasing and setting an Intention for all we engage in, especially who we show up as with those we most love. Awesome!

  184. Hi Marie!
    I really am glad I saw the video! For some time I’ve been exploring, watching, and searching for such motivational interviews and clips and each time I watch a new video I gain new knowledge. I highly believe that execution is important and perhaps more important than just laying out ideas and work less. I found that the more I overthink the more confused I get. So I’m teaching myself especially these days to execute more than overthink what’s the next step and such. The other point I liked which was mentioned in the video is defining feelings. It’s really important to know how we’re feeling all the time to know how to deal with these feelings. One more point which I’m working on a lot these days is higher performance. Once you set goals to achieve more, benefit people and learn new things every day it’ll all add up to a better performance and better life.

    Thank you so much for the short interview and I can’t wait to watch more!

  185. Rose

    Lovely guy.
    Great interview.
    So helpful
    Thank you!

  186. No words for how much I loved this episode. One of my biggest struggles is allowing myself to enjoy my work. I love what I do, which is why I started doing it, but I come from a grind, grind, grind background. In my family, work is work and if you’re enjoying it you’re not doing it right, you’re not working hard enough and you’re “lazy.” So I would fill my days with the aspects of my work that I like least, so that I would feel that I was “working.” I can see so clearly that I do my best (and frankly, most well-received) work when I’m allowing myself to HAVE FUN. I struggle with this on a daily basis. I need to watch some fun movies for an upcoming project, which feels like a sin to me . Watching fun movies while everyone else is “working?” SHAME! But I know now that idea is 100% wrong and that work does not equal torture. I will be keeping Brendon’s words in mind as I work through these issues and I WILL be reading his book! Thank you, Marie and Brendon.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Love this, Kelly! You can work hard and have fun at the same time. It’s like that old saying, “if you love what you do you’ll never work a day in your life.”

  187. Rose

    Most helpful take-away/s:
    How do I want / need to feel as I go into a high stakes (or any) situation.
    Release …then set intention…before next action
    …And aim for /generate satisfaction.

  188. Janine

    The release tension, set intention is a true revelation for me! I spent months and maybe years of my life without being really able to focus on one thing because of so many tasks coming up all together. I was constantly feeling overwhelmed. I wrote the “release tension, set intention” mantra on my desk and I will look at it every time I need to switch from one task to another.

  189. Transitions!!! SOOO helpful.
    I was just doing yoga, and of course they talk about how lifeon the mat is reflectedin your day to day. I’ve seen how awesome it is to pay attention on the mat and was wondering how to take that practice into my life, literally just yesterday! This video answered my question with EXACTLY what I needed to know to up my JOY and long term success. Thanks!!

  190. Gina

    “Release tension, set intention”.

  191. Leslie Jones

    I’m at work in tears. Never expected so much clarity during my lunch break. “Achievement is not the problem, alignment is.” I have always been one who leads and achieves but lately, my work has seemed so depleting and stressful. This was baffling to me because I’m good at what I do, I’m often recognized for it and I actually enjoy it most days. I was thinking I am not doing enough, that I need to better at what I do and how I do it – you know that grind harder mentality? Now I realize alignment and striving satisfied are key to my peace. I’m truly grateful for this episode. Thank you!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      You’re doing great, Leslie. Whatever you can give is always good enough. <3

  192. Oh my goodness. Okay this one was really good. (As usual.) I stepped back from well, most of what I’d been doing (outside of work) so I could take a break from the crazies outside of myself. Mostly on social networking and relationships. I tend to pull back into my self when I need to realign. As he mentioned, the grind only wears one down. When I feel it coming, I pull back more. Even if I don’t want to, I’ll feel I need to. And some of what he spoke to really hit home. I love the part about repeating release, and setting intention of what you want out of the task/moment/event coming next. Also about not just talking to yourself in first, but in second and third. Been doing it somewhat, but never REALLY committed to that. I was always using “I am,” statements, but I can appreciate the difference in the third, as in, “Kim you are,” statements. It is a feeling inside that is different. Gonna focus more on that now. Putting that book on my to be read!

  193. Milla

    I started watching this video slouching in my chair, eyes half-open and chewing a chewing gum. Within minutes of listening, my jaw had dropped and so had the chewing gum. By the 15-minute mark, I was sitting up straight and couldn’t wait to buy this guy’s book.

    I’m a creative underachiever and spend most of my time wondering what the hell is wrong with me. I’m not necessarily looking to be a high-performer, just fulfilled. I thought I’d tried everything and heard everything, but what I just heard from you gave me hope that feels completely . . . fresh. This is incredible value for a free video. Thank you so much, both of you.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      YAY, Milla! That’s awesome! We’re thrilled we were able to get Brendon on the show and that his wisdom resonated with you. 🙂

  194. WOW – thank you for this gift! After 20 years in the corporate world, I started my own business 5 months ago, so when I saw this topics I was intrigued to see if there are habits I can identify with. And there are a few…yay!! My biggest take away is the need to stop multi-tasking. I’m guilty of working on 3 different things at the same time. I love the idea of releasing and setting an intention and it will become a new habit. Sticky note is already on my screen. Now let me take a minute to buy Brandon’s book!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Congrats on your new business, Hanni! That’s so exciting and it’s really cool to hear that you have some of these great habits in place already. 🙂

  195. I love Brendon Burchard. This interview is amazing!

  196. Maria Cristina Dadalt

    Hey Marie. First time commenting. I’m always afraid to say something because english is not my native language. But this episode was so reveling to me! I always felt that being anxious was a bad thing and always said to myself: “you need to calm down, you need to relax”. But, I don’t know why, because of this episode, I started to see this anxiousness as something good! I mean – if I can transform it to good energy, to motivated energy… Man! I think I could do anything. Thank you so much for that!!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      We’re so glad you commented, Maria! Your English is beautiful and you’re always welcome in our global family.

      • Maria Cristina

        Thank you! You’re very kind!!

  197. I didn’t comment yesterday because I knew that whatever struck me would be running through my mind today. I just climbed into bed and thought about transitions.


    Clear the old, make space and intentions for the new.

    I swear I am tried because I don’t do that. It’s 5 minutes of x / Facebook message / 4 minutes of y / email.

    Focus on transitions makes so much sense to me.

    Mind blown. As per usual.

    Thanks Marie and Brendon.

  198. The idea of building necessity–or rather, linking internal drive to external calling was sort of an ah-ha for me. I think at different times I’ve had a good view of one or the other, but felt something was a bit off, still. The linkage is the key! I’m going to be pondering that for some time, I think. Very cool and I’m super grateful! Thanks! =)

  199. OH Marie this ep was epic! He’s so filled with beautiful knowledge. I’m a big advocate of balance while achieving so this spoke directly to my heart. Thanks for all you do. I truly love your work. Overflowing with joy & achievement is the best. Kx

  200. Release. Release. Release.

    Using the release and set intention method AFTER the workday to separate it from evening to come – I cannot wait to utilize this tactic. Thank you!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      This one seems like a total game-changer, doesn’t it? I hope you find some peace in the release, Allison!

  201. Giovanna

    Hi Marie and Brendan,
    Wowowowowow! That was fantastic! This blew me away. I took more notes than ever before! Lol! So many valuable nuggets of wisdom that were aha’s and a punch in the gut too. Yikes. Sometimes I get so caught up in my state of indecisiveness and being unsure that I don’t quite get my butt going in any direction for too long and then lose time and get annoyed with myself and feel like I haven’t accomplished much and don’t have that drive to motivate me and can’t figure out why. When he talked about not feeling it’s necessary to win, succeed and serve but that high performers feel it’s necessary and especially not wanting to waste their gifts….that really hit me like a slap in the face. I need to get my habits and life all in alignment and remember that execution and consistency matter so much more. Thank you for the kick in the butt I so needed.

  202. Another fantastic interview Marie! First of all, I was thrilled to learn that I already have about half of these habits-yay me! Generated more confidence and happiness with that revelation. My biggest takeaways were the importance of managing transitions and speaking to myself in third person. Both incorporate setting an intention and/or feeling. I cant’ wait to employ these in my life. I never regret watching you, thanks for coming up with just what I need to hear at just the right time.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Wonderful, Tracie! We’re so glad this message resonated with you at the perfect moment. Happy this helped confirm you’re on the right track with your current habits, and even gave you a few new techniques to try out!

  203. Release and reset, I only got halfway through the interview when I had to leave for a client meeting, (I watched the rest just now), and I was able to suggest this to this client. She loved it and is going to put it into practice! Great interview as always, thank you

  204. Another GREAT episode! THANK YOU! My takeaway – lots of stuff! But…the one that resonates most with me is the transition exercise. Like so many people, I multi-task and feel overwhelmed most of the time because of this. It’s so unproductive and stressful! As of now, I will go through this transition exercise! Love it!

  205. Great episode! Love BB…can’t wait to read the book. My favorite tidbit was Release Tension. Set Intention. So powerful!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Such a good one, Tyona! Thanks so much for tuning in this week.

  206. Kathryn Raleigh

    So much good stuff in this interview…will have to purchase the book for sure & will share video with my husband. Loved the 3rd & 2nd person affirmation concept, so easy to implement! The releasing tension-set intention is gold, and it is just so true what Brendan said “dissatisfied people burn out & quit”…personal experience with this!

  207. Darryl Collins

    Thanks Marie, this was useful and helpful. Great stuff.

  208. Cecile

    Holy cannoli! I watched this episode two days ago and have been doing the transition thing — release, release, release; and then talking to myself in the second person about my intention for the next thing — and it is like I swallowed a magic pill. I don’t know how else to sum up how dramatic the change over the past 36 hours has been.

    Yesterday I skipped my afternoon cup of coffee AND was still awake and full of energy and FOCUSED and able to do some work a good hour past my bedtime, and 2-3 hours past when I’m normally ready to crash for the day. My level of presence and engagement in everything I did was hugely increased. I manifested my intentions. And last night, I slept better than I have in months, and woke up feeling rested and motivated for the day.

    Thank you, thank you, thank you, Marie, for introducing me to Brendon Burchard!

  209. Sherrie Fehring

    I took away the fact: execute and be consistent in what you are trying to achieve.
    Create a good habit of consistency. Thank you ! Can’t wait to read the book.

  210. I loved this interview and bought the book straight away! Marie, you are such an inspiration! You are a “Friend in my head” and give me that kick I need sometimes to stay my course, be true to myself, and evaluate my purpose. Im so happy you have uploaded the TV to podcasts so I can listen on the go. Ive been a long time listener/tv watcher. I feel I have witnessed your growth and cheer you on from the sidelines! Keep doing what you are doing! (oh and you are hilarious too!) xo

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for your kind words for Marie, Cynthia! We’re so glad you’ve been enjoying the podcast, too. Thanks for being such a bright spot in our world!

  211. Awesome interview. I loved the release and set your intention idea. Was feeling exhausted and depleted energy-wise. The idea came to me, why don’t you try this, and see it works. I closed my eyes, and repeated the word release, several times. All kinds of emotions came up. I remembered to take a breath! I then set my intention to feel energized and focused again. I took a breath and opened my eyes. Amazing! Works. I am resuming my day, filled with joy and purpose. Saw Brendon Burchard speak at a conference in Johannesburg. Really was inspiring. Thanks Marie, for giving so much to the world.

  212. Marie- oh my gosh, this video made me cry. When Brendon revealed that many people have built a ladder of achievement and placed it against the wrong building, I thought- “OMG, that’s me!”

    I have two successful businesses, yet for the past year I haven’t been joyful. It’s hard to convince yourself that what you’ve dreamed about and believed to be your passion for so long isn’t, but you and Brendon confirmed my suspicions. I’m not sure which building my ladder is supposed to be against, but now I can at least start pulling it away from the building it’s on.

  213. I loved this, thanks for doing this episode, I ordered the book and can’t wait to read it. I’m especially intrigued by the idea of finding ‘alignment’ for your life. I think that will help me if I can figure it out. I watched this a couple days ago and I’ve already tried the ‘release tension, set intention’ for my transitions and it’s been so helpful! I’ve used it while at home, going between watching kids and working at my computer, and putting a kid in timeout and going back to the dinner table!

  214. SO inspiring, thank you Marie and Brendon! I’m going to put your ‘release tension, set intention’ advice into practice immediately. It’s exactly what I needed to hear today. Oh and I’ll be calling myself Naomi from now on 😉 Thanks again for everything! XO

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Love that, Naomi! We’re so glad you enjoyed this episode and hope you have a blast implementing these powerful practices. Thanks for stopping by!

  215. The one thing I took on that I am committing to is more meditation! I’m going to sit back more before doing the next task instead of just work work work!

  216. A

    Dear Marie – amazing interview! Every single thing that you and Brendan mentioned was relevant and interesting to me. As I listened, it made me realize why I burned out in graduate school. I used to believe that killing myself in class and work was the way to succeed. Fortunately, I’ve gained a lot of clarity about that since I’ve been watching your videos for the past few months. You help to shed light on the fact that I can succeed in my true passion. It makes sense that living joyfully and having a regular feeling of fulfillment and satisfaction would lead to long-term success and achievement.
    Thank you so much for what you do. You’re doing the right thing and you changed my life.

  217. Sara

    This. Was. Amazing. And yes, yes, yes. I so resonated with the transition piece, having just done it accidentally last week and I ended up pulling a 17 hour day with just as much energy at the last hour as at the first. Now I now WHY it worked and I will use this technique again and again. Much love to you and all you do.

  218. I loved this video! It was the perfect timing for my life. A an unfortunate situation created a trigger for me around the words “joy and happiness”. This talk helped me to unhook from those words. I generate happy. I generate joy. Yes. Yes, I do! I loved Brendon’s book Motivation Manifesto and I can’t wait to get High Performance Habits. Thank you, Marie and Brendon.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Wow, Heather! That’s so powerful. You’re definitely generating happiness and joy right now– we’re feelin’ it! Thanks for sharing.

  219. Ana

    My comment comes late because i couldn’t watch Tuesday and i like to see the episode with pen and notebook in hand. I wanted to say: Kudos to Brendon, Marie, team and the above insights from followers after watching the episode. As a multipassionate person who often struggles with time and productivity (yep, that’s why i am hooked to Marietv since 2011!), i have many takeaways from this interview. Biggest insight for me was to realize that many of the habits and tips shared have to do with training your brain muscle to be in control of your thinking to then perform well and consistently. It is thus no wonder that some of these habits are practiced by best athletes who deal with a lot of stress and consistent improvement in performance. Like many other insiders above, I have chosen the release/reset habit because i believe will help me connect with my often elusive intention and generate new energy to focus on the next task with joy and freshness. I will pass along the message and Sincere Thank You!!!

  220. I don’t know how you do it but you always seem to be reading my mind! You give me the answers to my problems. I just recently acknowledged the fact that I am burnt out by trying to to achieve success and this episode is just what I needed! It has given me the direction to slow it down, to refocus my energy & that I need to avoid jeopardizing my personal relationships for my work.
    Clarity is key and I am redefining my focus so I can heal myself and move forward to give people my best self.
    Your work is incredibly unique and I am so glad to have you in my life! You save me!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Beautifully said, Charlotte! Yes to healing, refocusing, and reconnecting. We’re so glad this message resonated with you at the perfect moment. Thanks for being in our vibrant community!

  221. Steph

    I’m going to use the idea of a mental reset button to manage transitions; the examples of setting intentions were very clear. Another ‘Aha!’ moment for me was when you spoke of anti-practices. Seeking improvement & striving for more doesn’t have to come from dissatisfaction, rather from curiosity & joy! I love that!

  222. Thank you for all your help. I’ve been indecisive and trying to figure out what direction I want to go and Brendan’s book sounds like a push I need.
    Also just saw your interview with Brene Brown—Wow! All I can say is WOW! THANK YOU! Getting her book too. Maybe BBs b4 Brenden’s. Thank you for all the very positive and powerful insights that your work brings.

  223. I remember that first interview LOL. It was SO fantastic and this one is too! Love it! Well done both of you!

  224. Christina

    THANK YOU MARIE AND BRENDAN!!! So so so needed this especially right now.
    Alignment. Get my self in the right direction & the rest will follow.
    Full engagement. Joy. Confidence.
    The amount of high performing stats I can pump out in myself (sounds egotistical but hear me out) all point to these things. I do my BEST work when I’m doing it for joy. And I succeed better. I’m not drained DAMN I love you two!! Thank you again team forleo!

  225. Bárbara

    I loved that I realized that sometimes I do talk to me in the second person… It usually happens when I’m freaking out and needing a friendly advice, so my best friend – myself – comes and talk to me, sometimes she’s hard to me, but she always says what I need to hear. Now that I realized how good it is to me, I’m sure doing it more often!
    Thanks for the interview! I can’t wait to read this book! 🙂

  226. Love love LOVE this episode! Such great action items and tips (totally trying the release tension, set intention method). Also I just went to go buy Brendan’s new book but it’s not yet available in audible (which is how I get in all my reading). Sending a message to the universe (and Brendan) in the hopes his book will be released in audio format soon 🙂

  227. Dear Marie and Team,
    I just wanted to take a moment to express my deep gratitude for all you do, but particularly for your decision to make these interviews available on i-Tunes as podcasts. I live in a rural area with very poor (and extremely expensive) internet. Now that I can download these podcasts at the library I get to listen to the longer interviews. I am so happy to be able to do this…I’d hug you all if I could. Thanks for making the world better,

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      Elaine, we’re so glad the podcast is helpful for you! We definitely don’t want you to be missing out on any of our MarieTV episodes. We’re honored to be in your ears each week. And shout out to your local library for providing you with such awesome internet!

  228. My takeaway is definitely to make transitions throughout my day! I love love LOVE to step away from my desk and get recentered, but often find that I get so engrossed that my day will fly by before I know it. Seeing Brendon give the visual for releasing & setting intention + picturing it happening right at my desk = the perfect example! Thanks to you both for this awesome interview!

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      Amanda, we’re so glad that exercise was helpful for you. Have a great time practicing it whenever you need to transition throughout your day!

  229. Loved it so much Marie! Shared it everywhere I could haha. Especially the scientific basis for joy and satisfaction NOT meaning you won’t strive to do better and improve nor that you will desolve into a aspirationless couchpotato.

    I’m also going to change my mantra from the first person to the second person form.

    This episode is going to change my feelings towards stuff I ‘felt ‘ but was not being able to back it up with proof. Now I feel I can really lean into joy and happiness without the nagging feeling from time to time that I am just making life to simple ( happening mostly after talking to people who adhere to grinding and hustling ). Thank you so much Brandon!

  230. Chantal

    Love it! I am always looking forward to your weekly interview. This one I could connect with really well not just from a professional perspectice but personal as well. I will have to go back and listen a second time. I often do that because it always takes me a while to absorb and connect with the message. Marie, I soak it all in so keep providing us with great interviews and your own thoughts.

  231. Anuli

    This is just absolutely amazing and brilliant!

    The part that got me was when Brendon said “Creativity is not strongly correlated with high performance.” It’s something I’ve come to realize recently and I think it bugs me because I’m a creative and I constantly struggle with execution, consistency (I actually watched one of your videos months back on “consistency” and it got me hooked.), or as was mentioned “NECESSITY”. So, I guess now I have to imbibe habits that push me towards more implementation as opposed to depending on creativity.
    And this is by the way, the emotion versus the feeling emotion bit is grand! Such an amazing insight.

    Thank you Marie…and Brendon of course.

  232. Great interview! Lots of great stuff. What landed on me the most was release and intention. I know I’ve learned that concept before yet the way Brandon broke it down was such an aha. From doing my yoga, to teaching lots of yoga, to writing blogs, to doing yoga videos, to editing etc…its been challenging to “muster up” the motivation to do the more sit down work. The same day as the interview, every time I had to switch gears, I gave the release/intention a try and I was way more productive. I felt much better about myself. Unfortunately it doesn’t work unless you do it, ha ha. So setting the intention to incorporate that practice in my daily routine. Thanks!

    • Cindi

      Oops, Brendon not Brandon!

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      Yes Cindi! When you do more physical work, in the body, it can be very challenging to fuel that same energy into the more administrative side of your workday. We’re so glad to hear that this transition exercise really helped you! It’s beautiful to know that you can use this as a tool in so many ways, and feel beautifully present in your body as well as your mind.

  233. Wonderful interview – my biggest takeaway was feeling justified! I’ve been using the release and intention practise but I always mess it up by feeling guilty for taking time out. Thank you!

  234. A dear friend shared this vid with me and the best takeaway is that it resonated with who I am and how I move through life (and my business).
    JOY on!

  235. Elizabeth

    Thank you SO much Marie and Brandon! I loved the ‘release the tension and set intention’ tip. I’m often so overwhelmed by having so many things n the go at the same time, that quite often I just completely stop doing anything at all. This leads me down the rabbit hole of guilt, shame, and frustration because now I’m failing at what I’m trying to accomplish. I’m excited to put this simply step into practice immediately! Thank you also for sharing how important it is to infuse joy into your work. As an entrepreneur I get inundated with the messages of do this and you’ll have six figure incomes as though that is the most important accomplishment (don’t get me wrong, I’d love six figures! Ha, ha!) Personally I want to feel a sense of fulfillment and that I’m helping make a positive difference in people’s lives as opposed to only focusing on the dollar amount in my bank account. That’s my joy!

    • Elizabeth

      Brendon, not Brandon! So excited to leave a reply I hit post before I reviewed…

  236. KG

    Great conversation you two! Loved all the habits you discussed that high performance people share and the anecdotes. Talking to myself in 2nd and 3rd person always feels so reassuring. Thank you!!

  237. Katerina

    Powerful messages! I think Brendan is re-incarnation of Mr. Napoleon Hill.
    What stayed with me? I got to get of the couch believing that is necessary to share the gifts I’s given at birth.
    Thank You Marie and Brendon for being high performers to shake and wake the rest of us!
    Love and light to both!
    Keep shinning!

  238. Great interview – what a lovely man. I’m taking away two things.
    Firstly, the transition exercise. It makes such good sense – I’ll definitely use that.
    The second was the discussion of being satisfied and joyful. To me that sounds like alignment and it’s something I’m personally working for.
    By the way, what is the significance of the blue 78 in the picture behind Brendan?
    Thanks for sharing.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s a good question, Fi. I’m not certain it’s supposed to look like a 78 since it’s an abstract painting, though I see it too now that you mention it!

  239. There were so many things that resonated with me in this episode but one of the biggest was the very short and practical practice of intentionally transitioning. “Release Tension: Set Intention”. So powerful. Thank you Marie and Brendan! xoxo

  240. Joyce

    Marie always brings awesome guests to her show! I’m new to the Marie community but I already bought books from Brene Brown and now Brendon Burchard! Love the ideas and positivity that Brendon shared and thank you ,Marie, for showing us so many great people on MarieTv, always looking forward to the next episode xoxox

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s wonderful, Joyce! We hope you enjoy their books as much as we did. Thanks for being a part of the MarieTV family!

  241. Sergio Murillo

    Hi Marie, this is Sergio Murillo from Mexico City.
    As you may know an earthquake just hit my city and other states in Mexico last week. Even though it’s hard to explain you how does it feel to look to my city devastated, the solidarity that people have shown in the streets is amazing and make everyone believe in humanity again.
    I’m starting a marketing company 2 months ago, and to watch your video in this moments made me feel empowered again to keep going harder.
    Thanks to Brandon cause he really added value with the high performers habits.
    Looking forward to see more of the content you produce, I send you my best wishes.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much for reaching out, Sergio. Our hearts are breaking for everyone affected by the earthquake in Mexico and Marie has encouraged her audience to donate to relief efforts. We’re really glad you’re safe and that Marie’s videos help you feel empowered. We appreciate you being a part of our global family and will be sending love and healing wishes to all in Mexico.

  242. Well, I’m not sure why, but I started out with a little resistance to this, but have to say, early on, I was truly “won over.”
    These ideas are so practical, doable, simple, yet VERY mighty and potent.
    Perhaps my two favorites were to choose to do self talk all day, and do it in the third person. (As long as I have taught and done self talk for nearly 20-25 years, I didn’t know the power of the third person, but I see why it works so well.) Brendon gave great examples which really brought it home.
    The second powerful idea was “Managing Transitions,” again with a simple, yet powerful 2 step process. Thank you so much. I am going to be doing both of these from now on.!

  243. Hi Marie,
    Great episode. The part about feelings and emotions struck a core with me as that is my biggest challenge. My emotions seem to run wild and then I make stories about it which is linked to past dramas which makes me feel worse for an extended period of time. The reverse is also true where I can get high on inspiration and it generates good feelings but they seem not to last that long like the icky, sucky, horrible uncomfortable feelings. I’ve been all over the place for a while emotionally and feeling wise while trying to focus on my new career of doing commissioned paintings for men who are looking for a unique personal gift for their women, a gift that is tailored to her, that speaks to her heart and mind. What stops me dead in my tracks, time and time again is my roller coaster of emotions/ feelings believing one minute is possible to make a sustainable living and then the next minute falling into the abyss of useless-land. My action that I have taken is getting professional help to learn skills to navigate my emotional roller coaster and use even the negative emotions/feelings as fuel for my dream. My why is very clear, to follow what makes me come alive which is painting and make a living from it (which by most opinions around me is totally impossible) to be a role model for my daughter, so that she can see from an early age that following your heart, having an impossible dream and learning the skills required to make it happen is very very very possible. Thank you for this episode, it served as more confirmation that I am on the right track personally and professionally. I will leave you with one of my favourite quotes; ” Self-knowledge is no guarantee of happiness, but it is on the side of happiness and can supply the courage to fight for it. ” – Simone De Beavoir

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s such a great quote, Sonja. You’re so not alone in having a rollercoaster of emotions about doing what you love––I bet many talented creatives have felt like that at some point in their journey. I’m so glad you’re getting help so you can live more peacefully as you create. We’re sending lots of love your way.

  244. Maureen Cioni

    I totally have my ladder against the wrong building. Still looking for the right one.

  245. Marlon

    Every single point covered in this interview was invaluable. Some of them, like the note about generating your own joy and happiness, I’ve experienced for myself and thought about in the past, but I definitely needed the reminder. The best habit I’m going to take away from this video though, is about managing transitions! I’m a free-lance professional dancer, and though I’ve already had some great success, it is not a remotely stable career path, so I regularly find myself transitioning between places, projects, colleagues, income streams, etc. The practice of ritualizing my transitions with “Release Tension, Set Intention” seems like an incredibly useful tool. In a broader sense, it applies not just to my daily activities but to the bigger transitions I’m making stages of my career and life. They say that the real dancing is in the transitions between steps… seems like that is just as much a rule of life as a rule of dance. 🙂

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s so smart, Marlon! Transitions can be big or small and it makes sense that the intention-setting tip can work for bigger life transitions too. 🙂

  246. Wow! I have listened to Brendon Burchard before, but this interview really grabbed my attention,maybe because it aligns with the exploration of brain science as it relates to happiness and motivation that I have been into recently. I am psyched to read this book, not for more self-help. I am so over trying to fix and improve myself and my business! But as a way to further align with joy and ease and gentle, playful power. Watching Marie and Brendon together gives me hope for this world! Thank you!

  247. Release and set intention – best part! Thank you Marie and Brendon . That’s always been the hardest part for me as a business owner that runs multiple projects.

  248. In my business I’m always looking to do things sustainably so I can enjoy my work more and more. Being in start up phase can highlight a need to ‘hustle’ however, I don’t believe that’s the way and that’s why I love this interview so much. Particularly Brendan’s ‘release tension and set an intention’ principle! Strive satisfied instead of trying hard to get ‘there’ and not being happy along the way definitely hits home for me. Time to change things up a little and keep embodying more high performing behaviours.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Right on, Tahleah! It’s interesting how “hustle” became such an accepted thing when hustling doesn’t necessarily lead to success. From what we’ve seen, sustainability, joy, and not burning out––like you mentioned––go a lot farther than hustle. So glad you’re running your startup with heart! We’re wishing you amazing success. 🙂

  249. Marisa Scott

    Great interview with Brendon! My nugget that I got, which had been bugging me for several days….. do we really have to work ourselves to “death” to become successful or achieve our hearts desires? I kept telling myself “I certainly don’t feel that way. I feel extremely successful in my marriage, business and life in general. Why is everyone saying you gotta work to the wee hours of the morning, you can’t relax until it’s done, on and on”……I would question myself, “am I doing something wrong?” Listening to this was fantastic, it reiterated what I’ve always believed. There needs to be balance. We need to take care of our SELVES, work on what’s important to you and all the rest falls into place. I am SO grateful, if I died today, my family and friends would know without a doubt that I lived a happy and joyous life.
    Looking forward to reading his book!

  250. Annette

    Marie, thank you so much for this great interview! You’ve done so many great interviews with so many wonderful personalities, but this interview spoke VOLUMES to me! Bless you, and Brendon!
    Every bit was a nugget o’ wisdom for me: the emotion vs feeling (I didn’t realise that I was internalising my emotions into feelings), the release tension and set intention, but I think the one that caught me was “your busy work isn’t your life’s work”. Wow… I have been putting my ladder up on the wrong building for sure. I gotta say, that after I watched this interview I looked up Brendon Burchard (I’ve not heard of him before, where have I been??) and I have been (binge) watching his videos since as well. Thank you for introducing him and his work to me.
    I’m so pleased to say that I have spent the better part of this year, and especially in recent months, thinking and planning and researching my next chapter in life. I want to start something new, for I have been doing that “busy work” for someone else, and not progressing my own dreams. I’m so psyched about it, nervous, scared, but excited all at the same time. I did your “Start the Right Business” course and I spent a long time mapping out all the ideas that I had and assessing its viability, and it kept changing and evolving, and now I feel like I have much better clarity as to what I want to do. I’m really looking forward to this change! Thank you so much to you and Brendon now for literally, realigning me to the path I should have taken ages ago! Much love!!!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for sharing, Annette! Congratulations on the amazing progress you’ve made so far in Start the Right Business– we can’t wait to hear how your business and ideas continue to grow and evolve. We’re all cheering you on as you take the next steps toward your dreams!

  251. Toni O'Dea

    What I loved is Brendon’s explanation of Emotions and Feelings! So bang on! We all have the same feelings, it’s how we react to and use those emotions that means we feel a certain way – I’ve heard this before but this is next level for me. I am starting to wonder now if this will not only help me in my life and business pursuits but maybe a talking point with my daughters who both deal with depression and anxiety (at differing levels). Is this the thing that could make the biggest difference to them? I’m so excited to see how this might work (even though inside my tummy it’s a nervous energy 😉 )

  252. Christie Varela

    The best part of this was when he spoke about releasing tension and set intention. So many times a day I say to myself “I want to do this today!” and stress and over thinking of the day or in my case night because I work overnight puts me in this funk that I just say I’ll do it tomorrow and I’ll rest today. I’ll tell myself I’m too tired, but the idea of releasing my tension of the night before and putting a stop to my over active brain and setting intention for what I want to accomplish before heading to bed is like the Boulder coming off my shoulders. For me it is the answer to prayers sort to speak. I can’t wait to go out and this book and put these habits into practice. Thank you!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Beautiful, Christie! We’re so glad Brendon’s message resonated with you and that you’ve already felt the positive effects of this powerful practice. Here’s to many more restful nights and refreshed mornings!

  253. Amanda

    I watched this interview and loved it. I thought the research sounded fascinating and I trusted that it was REAL research. I decided to buy the book and went to Brendon’s website to do the personality test like it told me to. And now I’m getting these super spammy salesy emails from Brendon’s company that make me feel like I have just been conned.
    I understand that everyone needs to make money but I wouldn’t have bought the book if I knew I was going to have his $297 “habit building course” shoved in my face. Not to mention that the High Performance Institute website, which is supposed to have more in-depth information on the research, is just a collection of random blog posts and promotion for his coaching course. (As of today, September 29, the “/research” section of the website still displays a message saying the research will be published on September 19. )
    I’m sure there are great tips in the book but I really dislike being sold to in this way. So I have returned it and will continue to keep improving my life on my own and with other resources. Sorry, Marie, your interviews and advice are fantastic and I am still a fan, but I feel a bit let down on this one.

  254. Karolina

    Hi Marie, I’ve watched your channel for half a year now and it is a great experience every time! This video actually gives me a lot of validation, because this is what I’ve been doing myself – enjoying the experience of working, learning, helping others, however at some point I saw that other people are working harder and have worse effects, they also many times told me that I was the ‘lucky one’ and they were just not that lucky. And I started to believe them and got dragged into the race… Of course everything in my life went worse because of that. Now I see that my ways were good and what’s more important, that there are plenty amazing people who share this attitude for life. Hopefully I will find them in my life and will be able to enjoy their company like you and Brendon can with each other. For now I am surrounded with success=misery kind of guys, that’s why your channel is such a light in a tunnel ! Love, xo xo !

  255. Man! Did I need to hear this! The biggest takeaway for me was the piece on transitions. I am a high achiever who struggles with energy constantly. I am going to work on this practice of release and intention, starting NOW! Thanks so much Marie and Brendan!

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      We’re so glad to hear that the transition piece was so helpful for you Cerece. We’re hoping that you find even more strength, stamina, and newfound energy as you practice releasing and setting intentions. Have fun!

  256. Such an inspiring interview! A lot of lessons noted here! The release tension and set intention technique and the positive third person affirmation are definitely lessons that I value most! A lot of time, I forget to give myself credit, and pat on my own shoulder. I think that is why I feel drained and struggling to improve myself! I need to start practise these! Next time I have a client or important meeting, I will try this third person technique to ease my nervousness.
    And joy! Wow! I am just be reminded again about this powerful energy! When I work with flowers, I feel joy overflows and I can achieve my goals of the day wothout feeling drained! I need to remember this all the time.
    Thank you. And by the way your dress is so beautiful! ???

  257. I have found my “joy, ” I always thought that I had joy but I know that I have realized what that meant. My brother passed away in September at too young of an age and yet he lived a full life, he found his joy and held tight. In listening to his business partner speak at his memorial, I discovered that he was a high performer. He had joy and happiness in his life. I want to be like him when I grow up. Thank you for this fantastic interview and insight.

    • Donnell Cole-Price

      Wow! This is amazing! I get it… He had a secret weapon that his business partner saw more than others did! Now that you see his weapon now you get use it.

      Thanks for sharing!


      • Yes Donnell, I always knew he was High Performing but listening to her talk about him, helped me to see a person that other people saw, not just “my brother.” I am taking his Joy and using it.

        • Donnell Cole-Price

          BeaUtiful! 😀

  258. Donnell Cole-Price

    I’m speechless guys… I’ve felt that many of the philosophies that he mentioned here today were true for quite sometime (Ex. Hustle, hustle, hustle.. I felt that it was bullish since I was a teenager), and even when I tried to say those things to myself I felt uncomfortable over the past few years… This today has proven to explain so much. Keep spreading THE TRUTH!

    Thank you!


  259. Jennifer

    Thank you so much, Marie and Brendon, for this inspiration! I actually wrote down two things from the interview on a post-it that is now displayed at my desk.
    The first: “what might happen today that could trip me up, and how am I going to bring my best self to that?” I know that I have “productive” days and “unproductive” days, and I think this bit helped me to realize what it is that I do wrong on my unproductive days. I often sabotage myself (but won’t anymore!) by letting distractors get me off track. This includes my email or mindless busy work that is so much easier to do than the bigger, more important tasks.

    My solution to this is actually the second thing I wrote down: “Release tension. Set intention.” When Brendon said the bit about multi-tasking and not really being committed to any one task at a time, I totally related to that. Until today, I thought it was a good thing to “multi-task,” and now I see it as self-destructive. Setting a solid intention for the big tasks, and remembering why it is so important for me to complete them, is how I will get motivated to be in the zone with it and not distracted by other things. Thank you so much for this wisdom!

    So I’m closing out all of these other tabs I have open in my browser…

  260. Kevin

    You are very innovative, thank for your advice.

  261. I took 3 pages of notes while watching this inspiring interview, thanks guys for such insight. I no longer feel strange for talking to myself however my dialogue with myself will be much more friendlier instead of beating myself up for not doing things or having things done. I will become my new best friend who inspires me and coaches me towards full engagement, joy and confidence in all I do. Xoo

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      Janine, we love hearing that you’re committed to becoming your ‘new best friend’! That’s such a beautiful take-away from this episode, and we’d love to hear how your inner dialogue motivates you going forward!

  262. Hey Brendan, I was just re watching your interview and you mention how the research showed that creativity is not collated with high performance.

    One strength I share with you, and Marie is “visual thinking and communication” and highly developed aesthetic analysis. This aptitude is one of the main keys to the kingdom because, the internet is 90% visual. These skills are developed through creative pursuits, and the art of “looking at stuff” which is basically being creative and can lead to a well developed aptitude for all kinds of marketing. I wonder, if this type of creativity will become more prevalent in upcoming high performers over the next 5 years. o

  263. I liked the idea for transitions. It makes so much sense. So many of the topics and suggestions discussed gave me affirmation that I can end striving and busy.

    Thank you!

  264. Mariska

    The one thing that strikes me the most is the distinction achievement – alignment. Not sure if it will be easy for me to start living like this. Thank you so much for sharing this, it is so valuable.

  265. Marylin Bélanger

    This was a great interview, thank you both! I never thought of managing transitions before, but I’m sure it will have a positive impact.

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      Marylin, we’re so glad you joined us for this episode! We hope you get a lot out of the transition exercise, and we’re sure it’ll have a positive impact on your life. Thanks for stopping by.

  266. This was a fabulous interview Marie. I love Brendon Burchard and how he explained the highlights and depth to his new book.
    I loved the habit of energy transitions and how to “release” before moving on to something else.

  267. Gina

    Wow! Release tension/set intention! That is an eye-opening concept for me that really resonates. I always feel so busy and exhausted with my demands at work and home, but at the end of the day I struggle to understand why I feel that way and how I can truly quantify my accomplishments. I hold onto so many feelings and never release them; instead I carry the stress from earlier problems with me as I start the new task. I often joke that I even forget to go to the potty during the day (yes, mom of three-year-old here). Time to release tension and set intention (and take time to eat, drink and potty)!

  268. Judy

    Hi, I just watched three hours of You Tube videos with inspiring interviews and insight from you and all your great friends. I have had a rough year, with much disappointment and feeling unappreciated in the workplace. After watching the videos, I learned that it’s not intentional, everyone is stressed, trying to survive and overwhelmed. If given the time, my efforts would be noticed. I also learned that from your presentations and those who visit you, it is best to be in the moment, give the best I have. My first step was the morning when I got ready. I looked in the closet and noticed my clothes still looked beautiful. I picked an outfit, got to work, walked in the office, and someone gasped with a huge smile and said, “gosh I can’t even say anything!” My thought was “wow, my presence is my voice.” It was not how I looked that got attention, it was the energy I felt for giving myself a little more time. My teenage daughter, whom I rarely impress, even noticed when I got home and said “ooh fancy.” I had worn something I had for ten years, but it didn’t matter. Thank you, keep inspiring.

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      This just put the biggest smile on my face! I can sense the renewed sense of energy and the confidence that you must have exuded when walking into your office. This is beautiful, and we hope that you continue to remember just how powerful and beautiful you are, from the inside out.

  269. BRIANA

    Brendon’s seems like he’s an awesome dude. Can’t wait to get the book!

  270. Two of my fav peeps in the same room. Mirror work or “talking to oneself” are great ways to synthesize the many thoughts in our heads. Take what you need, leave behind what doesn’t serve you and take action from your authentic source.

  271. J

    Don’t think I’ve ever posted on here but this video really resonated with me. I am 25 years old and I have been having a rough time transitioning to the work load of university. I have my own fashion design business and my associate degree in fashion design. However I really wanted to further my education and learn more techniques, finishes and ways to build my business and products.
    So in order to do this I had to go overseas since there are no fashion schools in my country that offers a Bachelor’s Degree in Fashion Design. I have encountered numerous challenges outside of university life and managing time to do all the personal stuff, school and handle the various challenges, has been really tough. I am also living on my own. I’m also a perfectionist and really want to do my best and score high. So when I get a work load that I know would really take two weeks but we have to do it in 2 days I am overwhelmed and it’s really been taking a toll on my health. The self-talk mentioned in this video really spoke to me as well as the way we handle issues and transitioning from one tasks to another. I am going to try these techniques and I really hope they work.
    Thanks for doing this video, Marie and Brendon.

  272. It might be related to my parents’ assignment of my first name to me, but I am good on the satisfaction front… until I doubt my deserving of that satisfaction. Strangely enough, the times when I’m most likely to feel “down” like that are times when I haven’t given myself the gift of self-care or the space and intention needed to move effectively from one activity to another.
    The one thing I am going to implement in my own life, today and onward, is the practice of speaking that transitional mantra, “Release, release, release,” and then talking to myself about what I intend to do and feel in the next scene of my life.
    Thank you, Brendon, for your insight on simple tools which have helped other aspiring souls to accomplish their life purpose, despite distractions. And thank you, Marie, for continuing to nurture this community with your affirming content. You’re a blessing.

  273. After studying behaviours and habits for so long, it is a pleasant surprise to learn of the scientific research Brendon has done to bring the facts forward. Two pieces of information moved me the most; talk in 2nd or 3rd person when stating affirmations and the transition exercise, release tension, set intention. Love them both and I will begin using them today and share them with others. Brendon, thanks for your dedication and perseverance to completing this research and then sharing your results with the world. Thanks for the sacrifices you made to help all of us live a more joyful life. And thank you Marie for bringing this to light through the interview with who must be a fabulous friend! You both have inspirational energy!

  274. This is a blessed connection! WISE INTELLIGENT GENEROUS BEAUTIFUL HUMANS. I am happy you are both impacting so many people, including me. Thank you both for serving and sharing. “Generate Joy”

  275. Can’t wait to read this book! Great energy! So inspiring! Yes!

  276. Deepthi

    This video helped me so much. Just like the other million people out there. I’m so grateful that I discovered Marie TV and Brendan Burchard. I’ve been dealing with a few difficult things lately and I’m so grateful for the advice and its only because of positive people like you that I am positive human being today among all the jealousy and negativity.If it weren’t for you’re videos i wouldn’t be looking forward to life at all . i cant thank you enough for what you do. thank you.

    • Jillian - Team Forleo

      Deepthi, we can’t begin to tell you how grateful we are to have you in our world. We’re so glad that you found your way to our work, and that Marie’s words are providing positive and healing balm to your soul right now.

      You are a vibrant being, and while we know it can be challenging to work through feelings of jealousy and negativity, you’re already taking such important and meaningful steps to positively transform them.

      Thank you for sharing your words; we’re wishing you all the best!

  277. I loved this blog post! If youre looking to ways in which you can Kill Every Day a& Own Your Fuckin’ Life, is your way to go! They give you all the tools you need to take control of your life!

  278. Great video Marie!

    I enjoyed the entire talk. I think the transition advice is what I’ll try to apply to my life immediately. “Release” for a minute and then “set intention” in my mind’s eye for my next task.

    I was wondering if Brendon’s book helps people realize their ultimate dream as well? Or is it better suited for those who already know what they want?

  279. Jane Sorensen

    The take home for me – I wrote down a few – was that the “What could go wrong today?” can be done in a healthy way. I’m a little low on the Vigilance scale and really low on the Neurotic scale – instead, I have to deal with other forms of anxiety, performance being one of them. To me, “what could go wrong” has been a negative frame, a fear, and I’m just “what’s the point of fear until you are doing it and have no choice but to deal?” and this is a thing I really like about myself. Except I don’t like the witnessing of other people when I’m struggling with something, and the negative judgments of others while work is in progress bugs me. Sometimes, I put a thought I’m having during my process out there to defy the haters anyway. I know that you’re supposed to make everything look effortless. Maybe I’ll get there. Maybe I won’t.

    This “what could go wrong,” the way Brendon does it, is actually constructive and preparatory without veering off into vigilance/neuroticism. Yay! I can do this. I’ll probably perform better as a result.

    Another take home: science that counteracts the reputation that people who refer to themselves in the third person are more likely to be psychopaths! Though I’d personally use that as a third-person narration of a success in progress, I will use the second-person coaching/pep-talk formula.

  280. georgi georgiev

    The rule of happiness and joy is not but there are two kinds of happiness financially and spiritually happiness it all depends on yourself what you will choose how you will feel it how you understand it. In life both types of happiness have their meaning and place one without the other can not. Spiritual emotional happiness contributes to the inner sensation and outer radiance and luminosity of people for development in their personal lives. Financial happiness complements what you lack and has a good impact on the mental state. In the hectic and difficult life we ​​lead everyone, they must seek happiness and joy according to their abilities and qualities.

  281. It’s awesome Interview with Brendon & Great success for the New Book.

  282. Naomi Wardle

    Fantastic interview thank you Marie and Brendan!
    I loved the idea of using the emotion of anxiety to raise the necessity to do better. I understand that to mean that you can harness that butterfly feeling to give you a performance edge- and I think that self talk in the third person would be really beneficial here; Naomi, you are lucky to be in a position to be able to do this presentation today, let yourself use the energy of your emotions to do your best”.
    Lots to learn here and to try to implement- thank you!!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      What a beautiful takeaway, Naomi! Self-talk can be an incredibly powerful exercise for acknowledging and processing our emotions. We’re so glad you enjoyed this interview and hope Brendon’s story will continue to spark some ideas for you. Thanks for watching!

  283. Obumnemelum

    I learnt to engage fully in whatever I’m doing and also to take things one at a time!

  284. Landis Brozak

    So…Setting intention. As I watch and listened to this, my dogs were sleeping. When it was finished I was 5 min from getting on a conference call with my business partners so I thought “set the intention”. As I spoke to myself in third person I was energized. I opened my eyes and BOTH of my dogs jumped up, grabbed their respective tennis balls and ran around the kitchen. They picked up on the energy shift right away. I know that this sounds a bit hokey, but DANG. I am going to go with it!
    Many Thanks!

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Love that, Landis! Dogs are so intuitive, we totally think they were picking up on your positive vibes. We’re so glad you enjoyed this episode– thanks so much for tuning in!

  285. My biggest take away was being satisfied doesn’t mean settling. It was like I was given permission to relax for a minute and just breath.
    Thanks Marie and Brendon

  286. As temperatures are slowly rising, and dry weather sets in, herders in Mongolia are closely watching after the animals gave birth in spring. In times of climate change, the worrying question remains: Will there will be enough hay and fodder to feed them and to keep them alive?

  287. Liz

    This was so full of chills and tears. So much goodness it’s hard to choose. I love the tension/intention exercise and the satisfied striving mindset. I also want to stop being afraid and allow my anxiety/fear be transformed by envisioning the way I want to feel and allow myself to feel called to service. Thank you so, so much. I will be watching over again.

  288. Anna

    Another “oldie but goodie”! I watch/listen to this episode from time to time because it still has so many great reminders and inspirations. I’m glad you both talk about being human – that we shouldn’t just grind all the time, that we need to take a breath, enjoy the moment(s) in order to sustain a healthy and successful life. Thanks Marie and Brendon!

    • Sarah M - Team Forleo

      YES, Anna! We can’t pour from an empty cup, as much as we might try. Thanks so much for being here and tuning in. ?

  289. Thanks Marie & Brendon, I’m so happy to see joy and wellness being recognized as routes to success!

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