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Have you ever wanted to make a big change in your life — whether in your health, relationships or even a career change — but you didn’t go for it because you were afraid?

Maybe you were afraid you’d fail. Or afraid that you’re too old or too young to go for your dream. Or maybe you were afraid of not being “perfect” right out of the gate — and looking foolish or incompetent to others.

Or maybe you’re afraid you’re not good enough, motivated enough, focused enough or intelligent enough…

The reason I’m sharing this is because we received a question that really touched my heart. It’s from a hardworking, single mom named Rejani.

May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears. - Nelson Mandela Click To Tweet

She wrote in because she wants to make a big career change. Specifically, Rejani wants to heal others by entering healthcare and becoming a nurse.

But here’s the problem: she’s terrified. She’s afraid she doesn’t have the focus, motivation and support to bring her dream career to life. Plus, with the enormous responsibilities of being a working, single parent — she afraid of losing the security of her present job.

If fear has ever held you back from making a big career change, this MarieTV is for you.

In this episode, you’ll learn two must-have keys to making big change happen. Especially if the fear of failure is one of the obstacles that’s in your way.

Here’s a link to the video about The Power of Following Your Fear that I referred to in this episode.

Once you’ve had a chance to watch, I’d love to hear from you. Is there a dream you’re putting off, or a big career change you’re not making because you’re afraid you’ll lose motivation and let yourself down?

What’s one significant and deeply personal ‘why’ that if you focused on daily could fuel you past any challenge or roadblock that might come in your way?

Leave a comment below and let me know.

Remember, share as much detail as possible in your reply. Thousands of incredible souls come here each week for insight and inspiration, and your story may help someone else have a meaningful breakthrough.

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Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Your contribution lights up our community, and makes this corner of the Internet one of the brightest, kindest and most inspiring.

If you’ve been secretly dreaming of making an important change — a career change or something else — know that you have the power within you to do so. You have more strength and resilience than you could possibly imagine.

I hope you’ll use these two keys to commit to what’s in your heart and take action now.

With so much love,

XO

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  1. Alison

    As soon as I received this video in my email I had to watch it. I am stuck in a job that I want to leave, and I am so afraid to change. I have a dream of having my own business as a counsellor and holistic wellness expert. Financial concerns are the biggest fear I have; were it not for them I would be gone in a flash from this job! Anyway, thank you for this video. It brought tears to my eyes. And for Rejani – I am an RN and I highly recommend it as an amazing career. <3

    Thank you Marie.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Alison, we’re so glad to hear this episode arrived at a great time for you – and many thanks for your kind recommendation to Rejani 🙂

    • Alison – love your name! 😉 That’s mine too. DO it girl. Trust me you will figure out a way to make the finances work and you will be SO much happier. I made a similar shift recently and I am trusting the universe will help ensure money isn’t an issue. Sure I have less of it right now but I know it will come if I work hard and stay true to my path. <3

      Best of luck!!

      • Alison

        Hi Ali – Thanks for your kind words and congrats on making the transition 🙂

    • Hi Alison, I am in the same exact boat. I am stuck in a job I hate, but I would like to help people heal through food, not as an RD but as an integrative nutritionist. I am working at a non-profit so there’s no connection between the career I have now and the one I want. I want to help others in the way I have been helped in dealing with and healing from Inflammatory Bowel Disease. I am getting hung up with what sort of education to pursue and how to start to transition into working more directly with people. I hope you find the way to financial freedom you need to make a change.

    • Heidi

      Hi Alison,
      Have you thought about being a holistic expert on the side? Go for it! We need your expertise.

    • Alison, I’ve been there, felt it and done that. Hence, I cannot do more than stay true to my purpose, belief and passion to motivate you to go get it!!!! Although finances are important, don’t let them decide your dreams. If you follow your dreams, you will make the money needed, but a little investment in yourself will be required. But what’s a better investment than that?

    • Ana

      I am in the same shoes… but no full clarity on a business I want. I am so educated, driven, enthusiastic, motivated work in health insurance company for the last 4 years and my career is stagnant (I have been interviewing inside and outside of the company and nothing happens!). I am trying to decode this situation I never thought would happen to me.

    • Hey Alison, I was in the same position as you 2 years ago. I had just started a new role trying some different and I was miserable. It got to the point where I didn’t want to go into work and was praying the transport system would fail me each day (lol!). At a certain point, I had no choice but to resign as I was so unhappy. Fast-forward 2 years and after lots of hard work and some serious, ‘what am I doing?’ moments (still have those sometimes), my professional writing/PR business is going great. And I have started an online community/platform for women and young people to connect. You owe it to yourself to follow your dreams and trust that they will take you to a better place.

    • Hi Alison,
      I’m in the same place you are. I’m currently a freelance writer and I hate my job. I hate the clients that I work for and I detest my current writing job. I would like to fulfill my dreams of becoming a life and style coach, but I don’t have the money to pursue those dreams at the moment. I want something that’s more fulfilling and soulful for me, but I have to focus on generating an income even though my income has plummeted.
      The only thing I can do is to start small. So, I would offer that advice to you. Start small. Start a blog, if you haven’t already.
      You don’t have to focus on it hours at a time. Even 10 minutes a day is enough to push you on the path to your dreams.
      It’s good to know that I’m not alone and that there are other people struggling to get started on their dreams as well.

  2. Heidi Cox

    This email has come at such a perfect time! I am feeling like I am too old, not enough energy to accomplish much of anything new. My dreams are gone

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Heidi, I’m so glad to hear our episode arrived at the perfect time for you. I know you’re not alone in those feelings, and I hope that the tips Marie shared help inspire you to explore your dreams a little more. We firmly believe it’s never too late to do something we’ve always dreamed of, and know that we’re cheering you on all the way!

    • You are never to old to make a good life for yourself! <3 If you focus on the why, like Marie says, if it's a big enough WHY, it will energize you. Every morning I review my 2 page life vision to remind myself WHY I am working SO hard. It energizes me, motivates me for the day to keep going. Best of luck Heidi!!

    • Heidi, I hear you! It seems most of the advice is geared to women who are younger, at least from my perspective as “older”. My reason to pursue my dream comes back to what Marie mentioned, what can I become by pursuing a new path? I simply want more of a connection with other people and to share my love of making art.
      I’m too old to go back to school to get an art therapy degree, nor do I want to. I know I can’t follow a strategy that I would have chosen when I was younger. I know there is a way to realize this dream in a non-traditional way and I am working toward that. Your dreams aren’t gone but perhaps reframing them might make them seem possible again.

      • Caroline - Team Forleo

        Love this, Victoria!

    • Heidi, I hear you. I hope that Marie’s episode will help you to look at the possible reasons you are feeling that way. May I suggest an additional “something” that I used to make a shift when I felt that way (I was really depressed, sick, with a $5000 accumulated debt in only 3 months, my new computer just stolen and felt old, I was 54 then and now 62 with a great dream that was and is pretty scary).

      STOP everything you do, find a way to nurture yourself. It might be through reading positive thoughts, a book of your choice, by listening to a great movie, take long walks, have a massage, buy a pet, etc. Take a break and especially stop to beat yourself, if you do:-) for not being motivated at the moment.

      After that, take a piece of paper and pretend, just pretend that you have a perfect life. What would it be? Write it down with as much details as you can and look the magic happening. Your own magic since you are a powerful and creative being. We all are:-) I believe in you, you can do it!

      • Giovanna Minda

        Wow! This was just what I needed to hear as well. Thanks Monique! Beating myself up for not being motivated or not knowing what path to take in creating a life I was meant to live, at this stage in my life…..you hit the nail on the head. Looking forward to writing down what you said to do.
        xoxo
        Giovanna

  3. Thanks for this, Marie! Follow your fear and work your why is such simple yet profound advice, and the truth is that it just cuts to the core of everything. I like to tell people to imagine that the Earth is like huge brain, and every one of us is an individual neuron. Whoever you are and whatever you do, you are part of the whole. There is no right or wrong in it. Just experience your life and share it with the world.

    Keep doing what you do, Marie. Love it.

  4. Donna Cetroni

    Rejani, Just do it. I am a
    Nurse and feel blessed all of my career as it is a vocation of ❤️ Love ❤️ with vast choices for a career journey.

  5. Hi Marie,

    your video got to me at the right moment. I am a coach and I am preparing my first workshop and I find every excuse to not focus on the preparation! Connecting with the Why really helps me to get unstuck.
    Thank you for your support.

  6. Heidi

    OMG!! I am going through a similar situation as Rajani. I was a nursing student many years ago and I quit, but now, I found new strength, new focus to answer my soul’s calling to finish what I have started. So to begin my journey of making this huge exciting career change, I’m starting to take the classes that will help me apply to a nursing program. Thank you Marie! Don’t give up, Rajani – Go for it! Your spirit is calling, answer that call. You have inspired me to keep going. I truly believe I was guided to hear your story.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Love it, Heidi! You SO got this 🙂

  7. What’s a coincidence!
    Someone just mailed me about her fear to change her career because she was afraid of failure in the futur.
    The second coincidence is she is a nurse but she wants to get out of her job to beccome an entrepreneur. x)

    Thanks Marie for all your videos, i love your positive vibes!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Aline, it sounds like the universe is aligning for sure! 🙂 Thanks so much for your kind note, and we’re so glad to have you tuning in with us.

  8. Love this video! For so long I let fear of failure dictate the direction of my life. It wasn’t until mid last year that I took a good hard look at my life and realized it wasn’t going the way I truly wanted it to. I wasn’t happy. I was just going through the motions. I knew that I had always wanted to help people and write but I was afraid of failing at it and also afraid of what people would think.

    Now I’m committed to sharing my experiences and knowledge as a happiness and wellness blogger. I am set to launch a podcast next month and I am just leaning SO much into fear that it’s both scary and exciting. I continue to make decisions that make me feel expansive (going off your last video Marie!) and every time I feel fear I remember that it’s directing me towards something I probably need to do.

    I wish I could stress how important it is not to let fear dictate your life! You only have one life, it’s yours, no one elses. Live it on your terms! Fear is scary, but it will never go away. You just need to learn to move with it and enjoy the journey!

    Best of luck my friends! <3 <3

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Awesome, Ali! Thanks so much for your comment, and we’re wishing you so much success with your podcast launch next month 🙂

  9. Lena Nicholson

    I left my job in 2010 with dreams of starting my own fashion design business. I ended up paralyzed with fear – I was depressed, broke and felt I was un-hireable because of my age and the lack of job prospects. When I finally got offered a job, having been through all of those things made me more aware of what my needs are to be happy in any job I was doing, I was able to negotiate my own terms because I wasn’t afraid of “losing” my job. I left my first offer after 3 months because the toxicity of the environment was breaking my spirit and my body (I was in severe pain). Within months I found a new job (my goal for a few years was just to catch up on my debts). Now I stand a few years later – ready to take a new leap of faith. The challenge this time, is to accept and BELIEVE that I have transcended the nightmare outcome of my leap in 2010, and that this time I am equipped with more knowledge, more heart and more to give. Thank you Marie Forleo for all your years of advice and support. Blessings

  10. Lorri Carnevale

    Marie that was a great video and I do believe if you go after you fears you can conquer them thats what I tell everyone so why is it I cant face my own fears? I have a passion a purpose (why) a great design line, but I can’t seem to get myself out of my own way it’s like well I sabotage by myself and I don’t understand WHY if you have any “words of wisdom” girl I need to hear them as I feel myself slowly giving up…

    Always
    Imperfectly Beautiful
    Lorri
    xoxoxo

  11. Kelly Minor

    It is true that the obstacles to make a career change may seem overwhelming, but sometimes it takes a leap of faith! I worked in the healthcare field for years, but when I moved to North Carolina I made a change! I started my own small business making artisan food products. As I get ready to roll into Whole Foods in the South East Region, I tell people all the time follow your passion. Never stop learning, and sometimes you have roll with the punches!
    Good Luck 😎

  12. Vidya Naik

    It is an amazing video. There are things I am avoiding, due this same fear. Hope to implement the tips you gave in the video.
    As always all your videos are superb.

    Thanks,
    Vidya

    • Chelsea

      Thank you Vidya, you’re so kind and we love having you tuning in!

  13. Thank you Marie, for all the positive, authenticity you share with the world. You’re truly inspiring.
    I’m in the process of trying to make a major career change, from 20 yrs as a health care professional, to a Life Coaching Business. Particularly, for Women struggling through divorce. I’m a single Mom, divorced for 7 years and feel called to inspire other women to thrive, grow and expand through the transformational process of divorce.
    My big WHY…I was utterly overwhelmed, bewildered and stressed, throughout my divorce proceedings. BUT, despite all my many fears, there was always an inner “knowing” that I was doing the right thing for myself and my children. Because I blindly followed that inner sense, when everything was stacked against me, I persevered. As a result, I now know, that inner “knowing” is the gift of intuition. I have since strengthened and honed this gift, so when I’m facing uncertainty, I get quiet and listen to it. So…my intuition says it’s time for this big change, because I have what it takes and my gifts are needed in this capacity. I experience fear about it often. I often question how it’s all going to work. But, I no longer question that “knowing” because it’s calling me to do more, be more, give more. I don’t know exactly how it’s all going to come together, but I do know, if I trust my intuition and focus on forging forward, one step at a time, the results will gradually come to fruition. Fear is an indicator of growth for me, so thanks for reinforcing “follow your fear”.

  14. Marilu Nunez

    Hi Marie, this is crazy how the universe aligns itself with you and your actions to bring answers. I saw the subject of your topic and knew I had to listen to it. I just quit my job yesterday which I despised and I quit because I’m just so tired of being unhappy and doing things I dislike but now I’m terrified! How am I going to pay my bills and rent? I have a dream of forming an organization of helping teens and young adults believe in themselves and make them aware that there is so much out there that they can be and achieve. Just thinking about doing that makes me light up, light up so much that I would help these teens and young adults without asking for any money but what do I do now? I also have bills and expenses. Just about a year ago, I moved to Florida to be with my sick parents leaving behind my children and grandchildren which I adore back in New York. This weekend, my son surprised me for my birthday and came to visit me. Instead of being happy and thankful for his visit, I napped and felt depressed most of the time thinking he had to go back home and I would stay here working jobs that I hate. All my life I’ve been working jobs just because of the money and my obligations as a mother but not because I’ve enjoyed doing what I was doing. Yes, I want to have plenty of money to be able to spend quality time with my loved ones but at the same time, I also want to be happy. I want to be able to get up and feel excited about what I’m about to do like helping others. I’ve been very unhappy for a few years now and even was diagnosed being clinically depressed about 3 years ago. I miraculously overcame the depression without medication but instead used lots of prayer, faith and hope that things would get better. And things did get better for a bit but must admit that sometimes I feel I can fall into a depression again and I don’t want that to happen just because I went through a terrible time last time I went through depression. Marie, what do I do? I’m so tired of working jobs because I need the money. I want to be able to do the things I love and at the same time, earn money. I’m desperate for some answers right now, what can I do?

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Marilu, thank you so much for sharing your comment here, and I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling down at the moment. It sounds like leaving your job was a good first step, but it’s understandable that you’d feel some fear as you’re considering what you might like to do next.

      The first thing I wanted to mention is that you can absolutely start working toward your dreams right now, even if you need to take on a bridge job or something part time in the meantime to help pay the bills. Especially if you’re not sure exactly how to get started, that can be a great way to bring in some income while still working toward your goals. We’ve done a few great other MarieTV episodes about that, as well as one about getting started with any big project or idea, so definitely check these out for some nuggets of wisdom:

      http://marieforleo.com/2011/05/start-turning-big-idea-reality/
      http://www.marieforleo.com/2013/10/bridge-job/
      http://www.marieforleo.com/2016/11/day-job-and-follow-dreams/

      It’s wonderful to hear that you were able to overcome depression in the past, and I sincerely hope that you feel better soon. If you find it’s becoming challenging to cope with feeling down however, I might recommend talking to professional like a trusted counselor – someone who can help guide you through tough times.

      Please know that we believe in you, and you’re always welcome to tune in here for tips for your business and life. I hope our work helps serve you in the best way possible as you’re working toward your goals!

  15. The survival force of the human being is great as his mind, from the beginning of civilization was ingenious to invent something that will improve the quality of life from a spear, to hunt, to the most sophisticated program we now use.

    If we reunited the great geniuses (for me all humanity has something of genius) to create free cure for the most deadly diseases that kill millions more than any war … it would be another story, but it is a utopia since it does not Is in the interest of large companies.

    However there are many people who have good ideas and intentions but do not have to create a business but do not have the financial help or find a good partner that can help them.

  16. My big fear is I am too old to make a change (55) and because I am 55 the possible financial change (reduction) of it all scares me to death! I am still moving forward with formulating a plan to find freedom and passion – but I am scared to death a lot! I just got my life coach certification and now, you will be proud, I am about to go to Costa Rica to get my yoga teacher training! Still working full time in the job I don’t want to do anymore but the end is near I am sure!
    Thank you for this GREAT video! Encouraging stuff!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Wonderful, Laurien! It’s awesome that you’re feeling the fear and doing it anyway. You SO got this!

  17. Savannah

    My dream is to be an author and to support myself with my writing. I have been touched by so many of the books that I’ve read and I want to contribute to that experience in others lives. Over the weekend I went into a bookstore and imagined seeing my books on the shelves. I had an emotional reaction (a good one!) to this and it helped solidify in my mind that this is what I’m being called to do. I am struggling to create the time and space in my life to dedicate to my writing. I keep day dreaming about what it would be like to quit my full time job and either pursue a part time job or take a risk and focus 100% on my writing. Sometimes I sit down to write and I suffer from perfection paralysis which spirals into thinking I can’t do this. I am also thinking about creating a website to help aspiring authors like myself. I would love for this to also generate income. Every day I try to focus on the LOVE I feel for my dream instead of the FEAR that holds me back. This video came at a great time and I appreciate the message. Thank you Marie!

  18. Jag Cunliffe

    My fear that holds me back… is my health : (
    I have Fibromyalgia following a Road Traffic Accident in June 2015 and it has been real tough living with this illness. I have an ambition and keen to take on B-School although I worry my health being up & down on a daily basis, will hold me back.

    I fear I will struggle to become successful in making my ambition a business. I have been watching recent B-School clips on youtube & wondered if Marie has participants who have been successful in running a business alongside having a disability. This would really help.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Hi Jag, thank you so much for your note, and we’re honored to hear you’re considering joining us in B-School. We’d love to have you join us if it feels like a good fit!

      We have indeed had participants who run a business while having disabilities. I highly recommend checking out our reviews page for some incredible stories from real B-Schoolers: https://marieforleobschool.com/reviews/

      A couple B-Schoolers on there mention building a business alongside a disability, or after/during a time they went through illness, so definitely check out that resource for some insights.

      Of course we’re always happy to help if you have any questions about the program, and you can email us at bschool AT marieforleo DOT com 🙂

      • Jag Cunliffe

        Thank you Caroline & really appreciate your advice! I feel a sense of hope & motivation. Thank You and I will definitely check out the links you have shared. : )

  19. Anna C

    Great timing Marie, Thank you. I decided to walk toward my potential by creating a business dedicated to helping others tap into their potential so they create a profession they love. After this video, I realized that my spirit (potential talking to me) is the destination and fear is my navigation system (GPS). Staying in my old job because of the money fear, age fear, not fitting-in fear, not being enough fear, has actually taught me that I am worth the risk. I love your antidote “I win or I learn, but I never lose”. Resilience = Potential + Fear. Without fear, I would have never understood what Resilience meant.

  20. I too needed to watch this week’s installment of Marie TV. I’ve been wanting to leave my employer for years but felt my exit would be a grave mistake because my finances were not right or I had nothing in place in my preparation to go on a different path. I’m a graphic designer for a media company but want to launch and monetize a blog where I post my experiences as an arts enthusiast. I know I need to go for it because I’m at that age where I should strike off items on my bucket list. It would be my biggest regret if I fail to pursue this.

    Thank you Marie and Team Forleo for this chance to reflect and move forward. The best of luck to those you encourage.

  21. I wholeheartedly agree with Marie — your fears can’t keep you small. But it’s necessary to face them anyway because it’s only human to have them.

    I made a massive career change in my 40s from a corporate career to being a therapist. If there’s one thing I learned, it’s that a bit transition like this will bring up all of the limiting beliefs you have about yourself (which are usually based in fear): “I won’t make enough money, I’m not good enough, I shouldn’t be here, Who do you think you are?” etc. It’s a real roller-coaster ride.

    And after you’ve looked at those and have pushed through your fears, you’re still in the land of uncertainty because there are no guarantees.

    I thought I was following my calling and was moving into a career to serve others, but it didn’t turn out the way I thought. I fought through several hard years of trying to make it work, before realizing that I had to pivot. I’m on my third career now, as a writer and blogger, hoping to start a revolutionary insight movement.

    And I still don’t know if it will work! But that’s the exciting part right? Fear and excitement can feel similar. The risk is in not knowing the outcome and that feels really vulnerable.

    All I can say, as someone who is going through the thick of it now, is that you will learn so much more about yourself than you would have if you stay in a job out of comfort. But only you can decide what is right for you. Listen to your intuition and trust yourself. Good luck to everyone out there who is considering taking the leap. My heart is with you.

    • Jag Cunliffe

      Thanks Suzanne for sharing your experience. Its made me see things from a different perspective : )

  22. Madeleine Childers

    Rebranding my coaching business to focus on creatives who want to write and are constantly held back from sharing their message. Fear/ego keeps holding me back and I need to move forward. This episode was well timed.

  23. Susan M Harrison

    Age discrimination. I have been in countless interviews, in some, prior to my in person, they couldn’t wait to get me in the door… then, during EVERY interview, there is a dig at my age, questioning if I could ‘hang tough’ on Beer Pong Thursday, or worse yet, if I had moved beyond using WYSIWYG…. yes…. and actual question. (It’s not on my resume, but was anot assault/slam on my age)

  24. Allison Rossiter

    Marie suggested another related video to watch, but it doesn’t seem to be linked anywhere. Could you please supply the link?

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Oh no, sorry about that, Allison! We’ll look into it right away to make sure the link is working for everyone. In the meantime, you can check out that episode Marie referred to (including a fun clip of her moonwalking) here: https://www.marieforleo.com/2016/03/follow-your-fear/

  25. Tony

    I did this, and failed. After 27 years in an arts career, I went back to school for paramedic and failed the lift test. Due to various injuries from heavy lifting, I was not able to continue the program. It had taken me about 5 years to muster the internal strength to try something so drastically different, and now I’m sidelined until September when I will restart the whole program. At 46, there’s a lot of doubt battles going on in my head about getting through this. Focussing on my why is my most useful takehome from today’s episode. I need to work my why without wavering if I’m going to get back up again from this spill. Thoughts?

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Tony, I absolutely hear where you’re coming from, and I’m so sorry to hear you were sidelined with an injury.

      We did another great MarieTV episode recently about a few tips for getting back up after a “failure” or setback, so definitely do check that one out for some nuggets of wisdom: https://www.marieforleo.com/2017/01/fear-of-failure/

      I also wanted to mention I’ve actually recently gone through an injury personally that affects my hobbies and sidelined me too, so I know how frustrating and disheartening it is. One thing that’s kept me motivated is thinking about my goals as a long-term project. In the long term, it’s much better to take time off, recover, heal fully, and rebuild smartly than rush into things and get hurt again. That doesn’t mean it’s not frustrating at times, but keeping your eye on your longer term goals can help a lot.

      Starting out on something a little bit older does mean that occasionally it can take us longer, but that doesn’t mean we can’t get there. Our bodies might dictate our timelines sometimes, and that’s okay. When you’re going for something you love, even the process of getting there can be fulfilling.

      It can also help to find strategies to keep you in the game as much as possible. Perhaps there are extra classes you could take, or ways you could keep connecting with others in the paramedic field while you’re recovering. That way you can feel like you’re making progress and keeping in the loop until you can start again in September.

      I hope that helps, and know that we’re sending our best wishes your way!

      • Tony

        Thanks so much! I’ll check that other link and follow all this great advice. Wonderful stuff. Here I come!!!

      • Jag Cunliffe

        Thanks for sharing your experience and advice Caroline : )

  26. To life a meaningful life, I want to build a community of women online and in person, helping them use holistic tools to grow into their authentic creative selves. I’ve been called a Tastemaker, a Social Butterfly, a Thought Leader… But I’m a Multi-Passionate Entrepreneur like you (thanks for that phrase!). I’ve had a few businesses before that I learned from, but financially my father bailed me out of them in the end. As a girl bachelor at 40 years old, I want to be more connected to others in an authentic way. Helping other women gives my life meaning. I need support to figure out how to accomplish this goal while inviting abundance at the same time.

    • Wow — I could’ve written this! I feel ya, all the way. Best of luck …

      • Christina

        Farah, Your website is beautiful. I’m traveling to Europe soon. After 20 years of waiting for a partner to travel with, I’m just going alone finally!

        • I agree Farah it is beautiful! I will look forward to following your adventures 🙂
          Also thank you to all the amazing people who have the “courage” to share their challenges and Dreams so honestly with us all on here. I find it Inspiring and in itself it’s a kick in the butt to “fear”!! Never give up ladies xx

  27. You are always FANTASTIC!!!
    Thanks so much.

  28. Emily

    I am WORKIN MY WHY. I laminated it and read it first thing when I wake up and last thing before I go to sleep. My son, my husband, my health, my financial freedom and the fulfillment of my literary dreams are my reasons for doing this. I am totally committed.

  29. I watch, listen to and read many, many thoughts on manifesting my heart’s desires and creating a business is at the forefront of all desires I have. I say that fear isn’t the obstacle, but if it wasn’t why was I drawn to this video. I’m trying to allow the universe to unfold for me, but I need to make some decisions that require a financial investment and I’m allowing the fear of financial insecurity stand in my way. How do I overcome this concern?

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Leeanne, I absolutely hear you – I think the fear of financial insecurity is a huge part of why most people don’t go for their dreams and goals.

      One thing you might like to consider is keeping a day job or finding a part time job to help bring in enough income in the meantime while you’re working toward your goals. That can alleviate some of the concerns about paying rent or putting food on the table, while still allowing you to move toward your dreams. Definitely check out this other great MarieTV episode for more tips: http://www.marieforleo.com/2016/11/day-job-and-follow-dreams/

  30. So I recently relocated myself from Texas to South Korea, to pursue my all-time dream of living abroad. It. Was. Hard. So many steps, and for a while, I thought I’d never get a job in SK … but I did it! Sometimes I can’t believe it! All my friends think I’m living the dream and am a badass for doing this (hint: so do I!).

    So, then, why do I still feel like my dream of being a location-independent e-course creator is sooo far off — nay, unattainable? I’m farther along than most; I have launched the affiliated blog and I’ve taken some of the best courses out there in how to create, market and launch an e-course. So why do I feel like I’m a fail before I even get out the gate??

    I will try Marie’s exercises and keep going for it. Baby steps, right??

    • Hi Farah,
      I can’t find a Follow button for your blog is that just me? Also I will drop you an email via your Contact form with a couple of things you might find helpful 🙂

  31. Colleen M Hargis

    after years of working from home part time I jumped back into a full time outside of the home job. The first 4 months were awesome and i LOVED it…then the boss announced that my honeymoon period was over and became a total a**-****. He turned into a micromanaging nightmare and 3 months later I deemed my sanity was worth more than the salary. Now, I am scared to ever take another position again? Also–for years I have wanted to write a children’s book series…even have illustrations done but again—paralyzed by fear of failure. Sometimes I believe that by NOT doing it at least I still have it tucked away for ‘someday’…but if i do it and fail, then all I have is failure. wacked thinking, i know.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Colleen, I think you hit the nail right on the head with your note about having things tucked away for someday – it’s a lot easier to imagine we can dive into a big project someday than jump in and worry about failing. I know I’ve done that for sure!

      The down side is that we can fail at things we DON’T love just as easily as we can fail at things we do, so sometimes it can really be worth the effort to go after the things we love.

      I hope that this episode helps provide a few tips and nuggets of wisdom for you as you’re thinking about some of these dreams. Maybe “someday” could become now! 🙂

  32. I’ve had my career development and change coaching biz since late 2013 and have been helping millennial women be bold in all aspects of their career and life full time since mid 2015. It’s been really eye-opening and amazing, and in 2016, despite the ebbs and flows of having a consulting practice, I earned a full-time salary living in NYC. For awhile now, I’ve also wanted to take my biz to the next level- online courses (I launched one in January!), international retreats (I was an event planner and love travel, culture and food), working with women AT companies as part of the company’s employee development budget and a more stable income. I feel stuck because the course was not a commercial success (although I am very proud of it and KNOW the content is excellent), and I don’t know how to keep moving. I feel like I’m stuck in quicksand daily, now that I’ve launched the course and don’t know what to do next.

    So my why may help (And I teach clients this too!) : Ultimate freedom from fear of scarcity so that I can go out in the world and continue to help even more women “BE BOLD” in their careers with no hesitation. Deep connection to the work I do & the people I do it with, so we can create wonderful programs and ways for women to step into their ideal career with grace and enthusiasm. And then of course, freedom from scarcity so I can work from anywhere (Buenos Aires, anyone?) and take my husband with me so we can create adventurous and fun memories together!

  33. Hey there, Marie! Being a Keynote Speaker on Overcoming Fear, I can definitely appreciate and relate to the “I win, I earn but I never lose”. Resilience is Key! Happy Tuesday! Dale

  34. Christina mori

    Hi everyone! I can totally relate to the ‘fear’! I fear I’m too old, too busy, no support network, blah blah blah…. but I also know I have some big whys. Teaching my children to reach for the dreams that seem so far out of reach will only make you and those around you stronger and wiser which will help you create the life you love forever. I want them to be happy and fulfilled! I want them to learn that from me- their mom. Time but empty the fear bucket and fill it love. So grateful for Marie and for Gabby Bernstein for bringing her into my world. ❤

  35. Yugen

    Dreaming and wanting change is a beautiful and exhilarating; It makes you feel alive! Even though there are step-by-step processes to follow to re-awaken your heart to dreaming, bringing clarity and determination to pursue such dreams, no amount of positive thinking, vision books, faith, fierceness, and meditation are going to replace having a VERY detailed plan about the steps you need to take to get to those dreams. Not to say these don’t work, but they are often romanticized stories, and can be misleading. One thing to keep in mind is that many people giving advice and encouraging you to pursue your passion and that are making large salaries doing so have been doing this for quite a few years, don’t come from financially and educational disadvantaged backgrounds—at least have a college degree, or some sort of professional/technical skill—yoga teachers, trained coaches, AND are married/have partners.
    PLAN PLAN PLAN, and test your ideas PRIOR making any drastic decisions or transitions—Ex. quitting a job with under 2 years worth of savings or relocating to a new city. You have to know the amount of time and consistent effort you need to invest daily, and most importantly (I cannot empathize this one enough) you MUST have a VERY detailed plan about EVERY penny it will take to start your dream business/keep it in business for the first two-three years without relying on it as your main source of income. Also have a solid way to finance yourself through building your dreams (a job), or a substantial amount of savings (Unless you have a partner/spouse/family that will back you up financially, have excellent credit to get loans for your small business, college or personal loans or don’t mind ending up sleeping in people’s couches and the streets). I share this, because twice (once when I was 17 , and recently late 20’s) I took a “leap of faith” without a plan , and the first time I spent 9 years in a super tough/uber expensive city (New York) “keeping the faith” and “putting myself out there” , sleeping in people’s couches, or in roommate situations, simultaneously working several menial jobs that while going to school. I ended up up so exhausted with nothing tangible to speak for the effort. Then in my late twenties, I had an unfulfilling corporate job (but that nonetheless allowed me to cover my living expenses and my startup’s), and decided to take a 2nd leap of faith to pursue my dream business. I did absolutely every recommendation floating around the internet from coaches—The clarity, the asking for exactly what I want, the visualization, the “feeling as if you already have it” the action the clearing the limiting beliefs (Which were pretty large ones) the daily meditations, the connecting to my higher self, the consistent work (12-16 hours a day), positivity, putting yourself out there, I also had saved a large amount of money, etc. I ended up running out of savings, living in a hotel and after 9 years of never having to ask for any sort of financial assistance having to move back home. Did I learn and grow spiritually—yes, did I lose my ability to dream and faith? no. Did I get any of what I had very clearly and specifically asked the universe for/diligently meditated and prayed for or a better version of it—nope.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Yugen, I’m so sorry to hear that happened to you, and your advice to plan ahead can be a helpful strategy. Some people see great results from taking big risks or making big changes without a “safety net,” but that’s absolutely not right for everyone, so getting clear on strategy and next steps can be a great approach for many people!

  36. Martina

    I have decided to become a firefighter as of the beginning of the year. I currently work in tech marketing, so this is a HUGE shift (at 35 no less!). I have been a fitness coach on the side for 5 years and recently started teaching yoga as well. In my teacher training I Was pushed to dig deep about who I want to be in the world and I identified my core values as: moving/challenging my body physically (being “bullet proof strong”), being of service to my community, and being on a team. I’ve always admired first responders, and I finally had a lightbulb moment that I too could choose that career, which encompasses all of my highest values. It is no easy feet to prepare for the application process (and then get chosen for academy, and then maybe get a probationary position). I have had financial fears for many years that have been keeping me from going for a dream career that fulfills my soul – watching this episode totally brought tears to my eyes. It’s everything I needed to hear and be reminded of as I move through the process. I am scheduled to take my CPAT April 20th, 2017 (candidate physical ability test), wish me luck! Next step is EMT certification…then written test, then I’m in the running to apply for academy! Thank you for the reminder to chase down my dreams, to allow fear to be a catalyst for my path in life, and to open my heart to my highest version of myself – no limits!! Namaste.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Ooh amazing, Martina. Good luck – we’re sending our best wishes for so much success! 🙂

  37. Paul Wertanen

    I do not see that fear is keeping from a career change but from changing my career. Let me explain. I have a job that I love with flexibility and something that gives me the ability to help others. What I have always feared is taking the next leap in the job. After 10 years in my career I would be considered an expert in several areas that pertain to my job. I would like to publish papers maybe even put together a book. What stops me is my fear that I am not enough of an expert in my field. I have an associates degree and a portfolio of various training’s that my employers have sent me to over the years, but over half of my experience comes from being self taught. I have been told by other industry experts that this is what sets me ahead of others. I have the drive to teach myself when others who have gotten the formal education will not have, the passion for what we do. Just a small road block that is holding my back and I am working, slowly to overcome it. I would love to see my confidence move faster but we will see.

  38. Hi,

    Thank you for this video.
    Does the advices also apply to the “fear of success”? I am building my own business as a life coach, and strangely, the biggest fear I am facing is the fear of wining. It’s holding me back to play big and be really seen.
    I used to play tennis in a women team. The same thing happened, and it was very confusing to lose against people I knew I was physically stronger. My coach at the time told me “you are afraid of wining”. That was my introduction to this strange concept. Sabotaging myself because “what if I win?”.

    Thank you for what you are BEING and sharing. It’s inspiring.
    With care,
    Jess

  39. Thanks, Marie, for this wonderful moment. Thanks also to Rejani- I believe in you. As a mother, I can relate and I just know that you can do this! I took the leap toward my dream job when I was pregnant with my son. Now he is almost two, and I am making progress. But I have been dealing with a lot of fear lately, and overwhelm. It’s funny because I have more clients on deck right now than ever before, and I am overflowing with ideas… and while finances are still tight, it’s amazing. Buuuut…. I feel more afraid than when I had barely any clients! Are fear of failure and fear of success two sides of the same coin?

    I have so many ideas of where I want to take my work, and as organized/motivated as I try to be, fear still gets in the way. Marie, your free audio on How to Get Anything You Want was a game changer for me. Thanks for the reminder today about staying close to our why, and your mantra about fear- so, so helpful.

    Onwards and upwards… I am grateful for this community!

  40. Thanks Marie and all! I’ve been scared to launch my new healthy eating course, but I am going to do it!!

  41. Julie

    I just witnessed fear of failing with my 8yr old, second grader granddaughter as she resisted completing a homework project. She had to build a fulcrum to throw a ball to her dog and then video it to show her class. After listening to the crying and words of resistance for a little while after days of her procrastination, my very in-tune son and her wise step-mom were able to encourage her to start the project and moved through it with her, having fun as she completed it with her Dad.
    After it was finished my son asked her, with well placed words, why she had resisted. She stated, “I was afraid of failing.” We verbally applauded her for recognizing that and also remarked about her success.
    Fear of failing starts early in life and I am grateful my granddaughter has parents who foster success in their daughter. It was a challenge relative to age, but a significant example of how early our fear of failure begins.

  42. Eli

    I have been really interested lately in the idea of fear as something to move toward, not away from, and want–at this point, NEED–to experiment with this more.

    But now, at 34, I feel stuck. From the outside (I am told), I appear confident, sociable, funny, and talented. I’ve worked super hard at a lot of things, most of them creative, and have some achievements and degrees to show for it. But I got most of these on paths that seemed like some kind of viable compromise, elaborate “responsible” schemes that would allow me to hover near what I loved with minimal financial risk and maximum socially acceptable “achievement.” In short, for the last 12 years, I’ve lacked both the focus and huevos to go for what I wanted, or even think too hard about it. “Legitimacy” was too important.

    Fairly recently, I allowed myself to quit a high-ranked and very well-respected PhD program because I finally accepted that that road just wasn’t right for me. My ego didn’t take this sitting down, of course; there followed a few months of frantic job-searching… and a real crisis of meaning. While I firmly believe that how one does something is far more important than what one does, I also find it difficult to get on board with the values that seem to drive most of the world and its work.

    So there is, of course, a money issue. And then, separately but not, there is the purpose issue. I have spent my life learning and teaching, often giving (I also teach yoga, do Reiki and healing, etc.), but, in my burned-out state, I have come to question the value of this, too, and to ask how much of this giving has been compulsive.

    I am, and have always been, a writer and performer. I didn’t choose this; it chose me–and, while I’ve said yes to extensive training in the literary field and published some, I’ve mostly just fought it, and damn hard too. What is the deal with this? It’s what I always used to want to do, even arranged my life so that someday I’d have time to do it (someday!!)… And now I’m wrestling with a question I never thought I’d ask: Whether or not writing even matters, and why I should be person who risks it.

    Finally sitting down and making friends with the fears is pretty odd. I know some smart and supportive people who offer and embody completely different perspectives, and while I value their advice, I’m the only one who knows me.

    Anyway, I appreciate the work, humor, and community here, and look forward to more.

  43. Giovanni

    I’m three years into building a massage business and I’m finding out it’s not right for me at all. There isn’t enough that I love about it feeding me AND I’m an extremely busy parent on top of that, so when I finally do have lots of repeat clients and new clients coming in, I’m so drained I can no longer function-I deal with disability and this cannot keep going on. I’ve wanted to be a professional author/artist for pretty much my entire life, and I thought all my creativity and drive to create stories and art were gone after working for a particularly abusive boss at a day job a couple years ago. But, recently, I’ve finally broken through the trauma and fear of her former hold on me, and my creativity is coming back full force. I really really want to just sell all my massage equipment, cancel my lease and jump into the publishing industry but I know it’s not that easy, and I still have bills to pay. Are there any episodes on creating exit strategies that I can watch? And/or has anyone ideas on how to road map an exit strategy?

  44. Love today’s episode. I’m in transition, too. And I’m in my late thirties … 🙂 but I’m gonna do it anyway because life is short. I know that now … because I’m in my late thirties.

  45. Grace

    Fear held me back for many many years. I have stepped out and now I am hosting my first summit called Dream Big. I still have some fear, that people wont show up, and they wont sign-up for the programs I am offering. What will they say? Will my guest speakers do well? Can I deliver a provocative speech that would cause change in mindsets? I have so many questions, but I am doing it anyway. Hell, what do I have to lose, I have already wasted years, because of fear. So now, I am climbing up to the next level. How can I build a business from my vision?

    • Chelsea

      Grace, good for you! We’re THRILLED you’re seeing some of those fears for what they are, and moving through them to go for your goals. Everyone has to do that, no matter what level they’re at.

      I’m not sure if you’ve checked out the free training series we have available right now, but I think you’d love the first 2 videos we’ve released so far (the 3rd will be available Thursday). You can watch them over at https://marieforleobschool.com/. They are so good at inspiring you to go to the next level with your business and laying out a clear path forward.

      Thanks for tuning in!

  46. Christine

    This video really resonated with me. My wish is to write a book. I started it but I’m afraid to finish in fears that no on would like my story. I will implement what I’ve learned in the video and my dream will become a reality. Thanks

  47. Jennifer P

    Great timing as always. I recently gave my two weeks notice at my job and my last day of work is coming soon – AH! I am excited and scared at the same time. I remind myself that it’s okay to feel scared because it means I am doing something brave. I had contemplated leaving for a long time, and realized I wasn’t able to make a change because it was zapping all my energy so I finally took the plunge. I have a side gig as a dog walker (which I love) so that will help pay the bills and am hopeful more opportunities will open up soon as well. I’ve also applied to grad school to be a therapist to follow my passions, interests, and strengths. (I hope B School is still around in a few years so I can take it when setting up a private practice!). Something I’ve learned is that we are more resourceful than we think we are. Whenever I am making a change, I get really nervous like I don’t know if I’ll make it through or if I’ll regret it. But every time, I surprise myself in how resilient and creative I can be to make sure that I not only survive, but thrive. I think it does take trusting that you have what it takes to have an amazing life and you truly deserve it. That is something I have to remind myself of a lot… that I DESERVE to be happy. I appreciate what Marie said that we need to stay focused on the WHY we want this for ourselves – that will help me get through the doubts and fears that creep up on my from time to time!

  48. Perfect timing Marie! I really needed this. I haven’t been focusing on my health coach business for various reasons and I’ve been feeling so guilty. But I need to realize that I am still trying and am creating a business even if it’s taking me a little longer than I wanted. I work part-time as a CPA and I am also a mom to a fabulous two year old girl. Thank you for reminding me that “You can only truly fail if you stop trying and if you stop growing”. That’s a message I certainly want to convey to her and that’s one of the reasons I’m going to continue building my business. I want her to pursue her dreams and be aligned with her true self in this world.

  49. Whenever I start to feel like giving up on my dreams or feel like they are too hard or too “crazy”, I come back to remembering that my main goal is to help teach others to heal themselves, the way that I learned how to heal myself. The personal healing I have encountered in my life through others’ teachings and spiritual healing has been what’s saved my life in many ways, and it is the reason for everything I do- my private healing practice, my YouTube channel, and my current studies as an acupuncture student. So whenever something starts to bring me down, I return that focus to myself, my past, and all of the healing that I have received in life, and I remember that I am passing it on.
    Much love to you this beautiful Valentine’s Day Marie and Team!
    <3 Tara

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      YES, such a beautiful insight to remember about yourself and your dreams, Tara. We’re sending all kinds of Valentine love back your way! XOXO

  50. Jan

    Love this advice! I have a bit of a unique connection to this topic, as I changed careers twice by the age of 32. I went from being a study abroad manager to a classroom teacher to a makeup artist. Good luck finding a lot in common between those three! This meant going back to makeup school at 32 with students who were in their early 20’s, but honestly when you change careers you are willing to fight for your new career in ways that others may not. I felt the same jumping in front of a class of middle schoolers with zero, I mean zero, experience. Even though it is no longer what I’m doing, at the time it felt right. I just jumped right in, worked hard and tried not to let those kids see me sweat. Changing careers allowed me to push myself to learn as much as I can because it’s completely in my hands to be as good as I want to be. No one is telling me I need to be doing this, I made the choice and man that’s empowering. Sure it doesn’t always make your life easy, but I have never once regretted taking a risk to go in a different direction. I’m sure I have learned more than I ever would have if I didn’t test the waters in a few different careers. Changing careers has meant giving up comforts, communities I worked with, steady paychecks, and even being far from friends and family to live my dream. But ultimately we’re got one shot at this, so isn’t not taking the risk an even bigger one? We can reconnect with who we are at any point, whether it’s the artist we’ve always been or another part of you that just laid dormant for a while. That’s okay, life is complicated sometimes. Marie inspires me because she has helped me see that there are no mistakes, we are just constantly building on our previous experience and learning, learning, learning. As cheesy as it may sound, we are all just beautiful works of art in progress. Here’s to change, growth and grabbing life by the you know what.

    • Wow Jan, that’s super inspiring. 🙂 I too have given up living near friends and family, and the lack of steady paychecks has been getting to me lately! But I’m committed, and agree with you that not taking the risks is actually the bigger risk.

  51. Kendra

    Where is the link for the video within the video? It didn’t pop up for me.

    Thanks!

  52. Amy

    I always appreciate your wise words, Marie. Thank you for the inspiration to bring my gifts into the world. Choosing love over fear today! xo

  53. Lisha Loveberry

    I am a teacher, but have lost my passion for teaching in the classroom setting. My heart is teaching, but it is teaching to people, kids, families about making healthy life choices so that we can all be around for those we love longer. I want to become a health coach! For the past two years, I have been thinking about this move, but have been afraid of doing it for fear of failure. I have attempted to step into my fear, but I always stop after a bit and I don’t get very far. This field (health, healthy eating, healthy life choices/changes) I am very passionate and excited about and want to make this move.

  54. Maria Hampvent

    Dear Marie,
    I have been on the fence about B-school for 2 going on 3 years….I had the support of an amazing husband to leave a job that was too stressful and destroying my health. That was almost 6 years ago now, and I am in the final stages of a Masters degree and in the meantime we created my 4th child, who is now almost 4 years old.
    The fear of failure is looming over my head, as I was moderately successful in my financial planning career that spanned 18 years of my life. My new passion is Social Enterprise, my degree has focussed on Leadership and Sustainability. Now it is time for me to create and launch my new career which is likely still going to be financial coaching or counselling in some way but I lack clarity of focus and direction on my unique value proposition, and not wanting to continue living in an extremely small community and “put myself out there”, until I am 100% ready and committed to a direction and expertise.
    I am currently in the final stage of a Masters with a research project looming and cannot seem to crystallize or distill the focus. This episode is the first I have felt called to watch in awhile, thank you for addressing my issue in such a warm way, I believe I have my “whys” I wish I had Rejani’s clarity of direction.

    Thanks again,
    Maria

    • Chelsea

      Maria, congratulations on all this amazing momentum you’ve been building up over the last 4 years towards creating something of your own — your 4th baby, changing career directions, your education and learning that you’ve been focusing on. These are all wonderful things!

      We’re so glad this episode spoke to you, and we know that those “whys” that you said you’re clear on will help guide you into the direction you should take with this current project, and the next after that and the next after that.

      We’ll be rooting for you! And of course, we’d love to see you in B-School. Reach out at bschool@marieforleo.com if you have any questions we can help with.

  55. Lena

    Hi, Marie and thank you for sharing your ideas with us.
    English is not my native language so I apologize in advance for any mistakes I’ve made.
    I’m 34 and I have left a top-manager job a couple of month ago because I wanted to follow my dream and become a writer at the game industry. I was really scared to do it, and I still am. In fact the job of my dream became a nightmare in reality. I was constantly insulted for the “low-quality” of my scripts and my more experienced co-workers was making fun of me because of my age. I spent 2 months living in fear and pain, and each day I was working hard to improve as a professional and overcome my fears as a person at the same time. And then I got fired. I was not very confident about my skills before but now I was devastated. I wanted to quit, to return to the safety and never try anything new again. But I’m not ready to give up on my dreams just yet. So I decided that I should start it all over again. Yes, I am still afraid of a failure. But I also see that as an opportunity to grow as a person, to become a better version of myself. It may be not an easy safe road, but it’s kinda fun and exciting at the same time. And MarieTV is a big help and support. Because now I know that it’s normal to make mistakes, and the key is to keep going. So thank you!

  56. Wendy Hansen

    This is sooooo me fear that I will fail to be successful with my online business and Palmistry Business. Fantastic motivating video and I know I can do it and I just have to take a leap of faith. Many thanks

  57. Ana

    This one resonates! Ever since I was a kid, I had dreamed of writing novels. Started one I’ve had written in my head for decades, but fear and lack of commitment get in the way.

    • Chelsea

      Ana, you’re not alone with those things getting in the way of your writing goals! You can absolutely do it though.

      We have 3 other MarieTV episodes I wanted to share with you — two of them on writing or writing within a busy schedule, and the third one is the one Marie mentions in this episode about following your fear.

      https://www.marieforleo.com/2016/03/follow-your-fear/
      https://www.marieforleo.com/2015/05/writing/
      https://www.marieforleo.com/2011/10/write-your-book/

      I hope those help you with establishing the right mindset and digging in. We’ve also interviewed Steven Pressfield a few times on MarieTV, and if you haven’t watched those episodes and heard his advice to authors, writers, and creators wanting to turn pro — definitely watch those!

  58. I’m currently in a job that I enjoy, but it wasn’t always that way. I used to have a completely different job, one I took because I needed the work and the money but didn’t really have a true interest in. Management changed dramatically and after a couple years of torture, the entire building of employees was laid off from our jobs. At first I was scared because I needed to find a new job, so I started looking for jobs in the same field, even though I knew deep down that it wasn’t something I enjoyed. (The people I worked with were the only things I truly enjoyed and would miss about the job.) Perhaps the universe knew I didn’t really want to go back into that field, because after over a year of being out of work, I still couldn’t find a job. I started applying for anything and everything, from receptionists to grocery clerks to a cashier at Jamba Juice. But it was at a time when unemployment rates were very high and it seemed like everyone was looking for work. I got some interviews but couldn’t seem to make the final cut.

    At last, my aunt suggested that I sit down with a career counselor at the local college where she worked, just to get some fresh ideas. The counselor asked me if I was interested in a job like I’d been doing, and I don’t know what face I made but it must not have been pretty because she immediately said, “Okay, let’s find something else for you.” LOL!

    It was a scary time but ultimately the best thing I’ve ever done, because (even through all my tears and worries) that counselor helped me really examine my skills and interests and narrow down possibilities to ones that really fit with who I am. And then I started out small… I took one class in the new field I wanted to try, just to see if it truly resonated with me like I thought it would. And I ended up loving the class and wanting more. And from there, even though going back to school was scary after over 15 years since I’d gotten my last college degree, I made it through and ended up doing something much more rewarding than what I’d been doing.

    So I just want to say to those who want to take steps but are afraid, you really never know until you try. And what helped me was getting more information. Talking to that career counselor gave me a ton of things to think about and ask more questions about, she gave me literature to read and information about what it would take to get a degree in that field, and what would be the best way to start, etc.

    Without information, everything seemed terrifying. I didn’t know what to do or where to start, so everything felt overwhelming. But once I got information, I was able to make decisions and feel more comfortable taking action. So I really recommend that if you’re feeling really scared, you might just need more info first. Once you have the info you need, you can take bigger steps (or choose not to, if it truly doesn’t feel right, after all).

    You never know. It could be one of the best decisions you’ve ever made! Good luck to everyone out there. I hope you find what you’re looking for. 🙂

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much for sharing this awesome story, Sherry! I’m so glad you found something you love and that you’re feeling good about what the future has in store for you. We’re super proud of you for taking the leap even when it was scary, and we’re cheering you on! 🙂

  59. Corrinn Davis

    Thank you for this Marie. I’ve known for DECADES that I’m not doing (for a living) what I was created to do. My biggest why is so that I don’t get all the way to the end of my life without having done it. I don’t want to die with the regret that I could have and should have served bigger. Time to relieve the nagging in my soul. CANNOT WAIT FOR B SCHOOL!!!!!

  60. Lauren

    I’ve been holding off on quitting my job to focus on art & travel out of fear, out of this voice in my head that I won’t be able to wing it, I’ll be destitute, my stuff’s not “good enough,” who am I to “loaf”?

    My why is to be more fulfilled, feel more free, channel the universe-spirit through me to do what I’m “meant” to. Thanks for the videos – always amazingly on point!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m so glad this week’s episode struck a chord with you, Lauren. Sometimes following your heart means following your fear and that can be scary. I think you might also like this episode of MarieTV since going for your dreams full force is something you’re considering: https://www.marieforleo.com/2016/02/safe-or-inspiring/

  61. Marie!!!
    Ah such a great question to answer!! For yes, we all have fears, especially when it comes to going after your dreams. My dream I’ve been pulling off due to fear is stepping forward as a healer. Its moreaso the fear of what people will think of me. Coming from a background where I was so lost in darkness, to now doing yoga daily, eating clean, reading self help books as if they were Facebook statuses, and expressing my deep belief that we are more than physical beings, we are spiritual beings on an amazing journey called life. So thinking about my why’s helps move me out the way and focus my energy on helping others heal. This was a great show today !! Infinite gratitude dear one!! Stay beaming bright. ✨

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Awesome, Rodrigo! So glad this episode was helpful and that you’re feeling inspired to share your gifts as a healer.

  62. This is exactly what I needed today! Fears always get the best of me (fear of losing people I love when I become too successful, fear of failure, fear of judgment, etc). I have two big projects in the works–writing my memoir and starting a travel video production company. My “why” for writing the book is to share my story authentically in order to help others and inspire them to live a life they love. Reminding people we are not alone and we can overcome. My “why” for the video production company is to help capture other people’s memories and adventures while funding me and my boyfriend to live a life we love too. Focusing on the why will definitely help me when I’m blocked.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Congrats on working on your memoir and your travel video production company! Both sound really exciting, and we’re so happy to hear you’re working toward what you love.

  63. Evelyn Ainlo

    one thing I know about myself is that without fulfilling my dream and destiny I feel myself even more failure and failured. I am sure that you have come so far that you will feel same way- you already know that you NEED to follow your dream to be absolutely fulfilled, happy and in the “core of yourself”. There is no other way for you- not anymore! The revelation and light has already hit you! Be blessed to run your way!

  64. Merry

    This isn’t it I am used to change and seem to handle it quite well. Step on over to the “Depression, sadness, and grief” section, that’s where you’ll find me.

  65. Lennin Saltos

    It is amazing how you motivate us with each video you upload in your page, i really say thank you… however the really success in this life depends on us and depends on our conviction of making the things come true.
    Regards from Ecuador .
    Lennin Saltos Wiesner

  66. I made a career change a few years ago from working in corporate communications and marketing to running my own business in the wellness industry as a Mindset Coach & Kinesiologist… I had to go back to school and take it one step at a time. But the journey has been SOOO worth it because I am now doing something I genuinely love!!

    I had to ask myself, if I got to my deathbed and I DIDN’T pursue my dream, would I be ok with it? The answer was no, so I made sure to do whatever it takes to bring my dream to life.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Congrats, Andra! It’s so fantastic to hear you’re doing what you love. I especially appreciate your note about taking baby steps and doing one thing at a time because that’s a good reminder for us all. As the old saying goes, “the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”

  67. Thanks Marie,
    I’ve never commented here before, but Rejani’s situation hit home for me. That fear of jumping off into a new career direction.
    I’ve worked in IT for 30 years but always had a notion that I’d like to write. Managing servers and fixing printers left me empty inside. But I didn’t know what I’d write about. A novel, an eBook, a copywriter? I’m not sure if I ever would have made a change if I wasn’t pushed off the gangplank.
    Our whole department was outsourced to an overseas contractor. I found myself unemployed in my 50’s – what should be my best earning years. A few weeks off is nice, but watching my neighbors go out to work and return day after day, while I sat idle made me do a lot of soul-searching.
    I started to write and thought I’d experiment with a blog. One of the first posts I wrote is about the fear of failure and how it can paralyze us. I don’t know if writing will work out for me, but I’ll give it a shot.
    If you read this Rejani, I hope you follow your dream of becoming a nurse. You owe it to yourself.
    Bill

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m really sorry to hear you were laid off, Bill! That sounds stressful, though I’m so glad you’re feeling optimistic and that you have time to write like you’ve always wanted. We’re cheering you on!

  68. Vicky

    Hi, Marie. I’ve been working as a teacher for 8 years and I’m trying to make a career change. The job I want is completely irrelevant to education. Besides, I have to train all by myself because no training courses are available in my area. I’m already 30 years old and it’s more difficult to absorb in lessons. When I look at younger people who are successful and able to do what they love, I can’t help feeling jealous and inferior. I know I have to try, but it’s really really tough.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m sorry to hear you’re going through a tough career transition, Vicky. We believe in you and we’ve got our fingers crossed that you’ll be able to make the career change you want soon.

  69. Stephanie Sframeli

    This was the exact message I needed to hear. I have been struggling while at work. I feel like I am meant to do more, and would rather be anywhere but where I am. With that being said, I have found myself saying “Be thankful you have a job with summers off, benefits, etc. So you shouldn’t complain, Without this job how would you pay your bills, keep roof over your head, and take care of your family” So how does one take that leap of faith and start a business doing something they are passionate about? I am currently doing it part time, but can’t put the time into marketing it much or working on my website because my full time job and family (kids activities and responsibilities) take up the whole day. At the end of the day I crash which leaves me no extra spunk to push through after hours to work on what I love. I am in desperate need of help/guidance.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That does sound really rough, Stephanie, and I’m sorry to hear you’re torn between the two. Another episode of MarieTV immediately came to mind as I read your message: https://www.marieforleo.com/2011/05/wanting-youre-ungrateful/ We believe that wanting more doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful, so I hope this episode will help you break through that block.

  70. My big career change that I haven’t done yet is to work at a job outside of my field which is business. I am having an amazing experience working in the academe, however my need for growth plus my family’s financial problems gave me a reality check. I cannot help my family if i will stay in the academe no matter how much I love it. I’m afraid about what other people will say.

    My big why is my youngest sibling who’s still vibrant and hopeful. I want her to grow up knowing that she can achieve anything she sets her heart to. And not be drowned in the negativity of our situation. I want to help her achieve her dreams and be a good example of courage.

    Thank you so much Marie for sharing this content. You helped me so much in the past four months since I started watching your free training videos. May you have more success in your business.

    Love,
    Katey

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      It’s so sweet that your ‘why’ is your little sister! I know she’s thankful to have you as her older sister and mentor. You’re so kind to help your family through the financial struggles they’re experiencing. We really hope things will get better soon so you’ll feel more free to do what you love.

  71. Mimi

    I’d just decided NOT to apply for a job, even though I thought it sounded exciting. I was afraid. I saw the title of your email “Is a fear of failure keeping you from making a big career change?” I stopped dead on my tracks. I went back to the website, and submitted my resume for the job. Thanks! : )

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s so awesome, Mimi! We hope you get the job and that you love it. 🙂

  72. Thank you SO much for sharing this question Marie. I was in a similar situation with two little boys (3 and 5 years- and the oldest a type I diabetic) 20 years ago but chose to go into psychology. I am now a clinical psychologist with a specialty in neuropsychology. The boys now grown are an attorney and CPA. They tell me all the time how I gave them the gumption to continue with school and careers, and how they focused on a balanced life in school to “get through”. I won’t always say it was easy and there were more than a few nights when I sat on the floor of their room as they went to sleep and read my homework by flashlight – because to “lay down for a minute” did me in for the rest of the night! I don’t believe in accidents. If this desire is in your heart, embrace it with joy. Learning and education is a great luxury, and what a gift you can offer your son, the community and the world simply by following your dreams.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      It’s so beautiful to hear how you inspired your two boys to follow their dreams by giving them a front row seat to watch you following your dreams! You and your family are living proof that when you do what you love it helps you and everyone around you. We’re so happy for you! 🙂

  73. Joanne

    Marie I always wanted to be a filmmaker and a writer Im just so scared. 🙁 thank you for this quick motivation.

  74. Janice

    Hi Marie,

    I’m an artist and trying to start my art business doing art festivals. I have no emotional support at home and little financial support. My biggest fear of failure is my husband’s disapproval and “I told you so”. Art is something I can’t give up and several people have told me my work is very good. I just need to find my clients. I’m doing a festival in two months and hope that I do well and use it as a springboard for better shows. Wish me luck!

    • Siri Agnes Karlsen

      GOOD LUCK Janice,
      Dont ask people who put you down. Go for where you spirits are. Paolo Coelo says: You always know that you are close to your true mission on Earth, when what you do is touched by the spirit of enthusiasm. So PAINT – and let us see it!! Thank you for following your path! Siri

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      We’re wishing you tons of luck, Janice! I’m really sorry to hear you don’t have the support you need at home. It’s clear your art is important to you and we hope the people in your life will honor the gifts and talents you’re meant to share with the world.

  75. Jørgen

    I liked the video about dealing with fear. It reminded me of some times when I thought I could not make it. My mission was to help leader/owners of SMB,s who struggled in times of change to find their deepest vision – the reason why they started the business and believe they could go for a major change. For several years they had struggled with administrative burdens and lost their vision and confodence. Could I make it – could I really make an impact in their lives? My feelings went up and down like a jojo. But meeting these leaders and having time to talk about their deepest values and dreams made an impact. They started believing in themselves and made an important choice to go for it. It hit me and made me believe I could be of help to others.

  76. Ela

    My biggest dream is to have my own company. Last year I started a project with my friend that was supposed to be the beginning of this path and now…well more action is required to get it off the ground (marketing etc – btw thanks for amazing tips on that in the pre B-school videos! watching, taking notes, re-thinking ideas and planning to put it all into action within next 2 weeks!).
    I want to help people grow and do more of what makes them smile – whatever that might be! So I guess, I’m a bit like Marie here – I want others to believe that they can, I want to empower them and assist them on this journey by sharing my knowledge, experience and ability to listen and ask powerful questions. Recently I realised that working with students/college graduates would be something for me – to help them find their way in this crazy world and follow their heart while choosing their career/life path.
    I’ve been struggling with: “can I really do it? Do I have what it takes? Aren’t I too young/unexperienced? Or maybe I should take the easy way out and go back to a corporate world?” My biggest why is – my heart and that deep conviction that I’m meant to share my positive attitude, faith in people and ability to see their strengths where they don’t. I also know that by following my dream I’ll become this independent woman whom I’ve always seen myself as and I just may inspire someone to push a little bit harder too (and that would be an icing on the cake!).

    Marie and Team Forleo – Thank you for all the inspiring videos and words of wisdom. You guys do a great job!
    (PS my website is in Polish but I’m working on an English version as I’d love to go international :))

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Congrats on all the great work you’re doing, Ela! It means the world to us that you’re enjoying Marie’s videos. I think it’s awesome that you want to work with undergraduates—I remember feeling lost and unsure of the future, so I could’ve used your insight when I was one! We’re cheering you on and we appreciate you checking out MarieTV and Marie’s 3-part video series. Part 3 was just released today (February 16th).

  77. Kevin

    Hi Marie and Team,
    My fears of not being good enough and making a complete fool of myself have arisen when I was presented with a new job position. This was presented to me yesterday and I feel my anxiety really does take away any joy it may have given to anybody else who would see this as a great move in my career. So this episode (as they all seem to) has come at a great point in my life as I make a serious decision about this opportunity. My resolution yesterday was if nothing else I will learn a great deal more about myself, my skills and at least know for sure finally was this something I want to do (after all these years thinking I never could ever be that person with that career!) and can move on in a new direction. A stronger person then before the experience. So thank you. You have confirm at least I will never lose!

  78. Adonica Porteous

    Marie,
    First I’d like to say thank you for all the work you do. Truly amazing.. My names Adonica from Australia and I’ve been following you recently.. Im wanting to start a course in Holistic Counselling/Meditation/Life Coaching. I have a course picked out but the fear I have is that everyone seems to be doing it these days and even though I really want to be out in the world helping people evolve I’m worried I wont get employment due to the high volume of competition.. I know I can do the work and achieve great things I also get stuck on where to start.. Any insight would be helpful.. Love and Light Adonica

    • Siri Agnes Karlsen

      Adonica! Once I also believed in competition. Until I realised, that out of 9 peanutsellers, I would always be sure which to buy from: I go for the energy. I does not have to be “high”, “funny” or anything else smart. It just has to be congruent. Getting congruent – telling exactly what YOU offer, using your own words – will attract exactly the people who need exactly your way and speaking to understand this now a days commom, but still very challencing message of how to communicate, deal with conflicts and mediation. There are so many people out there! You can only take on a small percentage of us! Take YOURS! ***** Siri from Denmark

    • Hi Adonica, I have also doubted myself (with my art & desire to be a life coach) thinking that there are too many people doing it already. But then I remind myself that it seems that way, because those are the people that I am paying attention to. I have filled my awareness with all of these people, because it’s what I’m passionate (and wanting to learn) about. But most people are getting on with their day to day lives, wanting but perhaps not knowing anything about the incredible gifts of life-coaching, counselling, meditation, self-development. My greatest rolemodels these days are people who have built huge success around their authenticity, passion, & commitment…like Marie. If you are passionate and committed, I am sure that you will do well! What a wonderful contribution to make to the world.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m really sorry to hear fear is blocking you from doing what you love, Adonica. I know that “all been done before” feeling is hard to battle, so I wanted to share Marie’s advice on the topic in hopes that you’ll find it helpful: https://www.marieforleo.com/2016/06/feeling-unoriginal/

  79. Yes, Marie, I also believe that our dreams are the garantee that we are ready to go there – and that fear is a huge and welcoming path with deep guidance. And Yes – also my son is a major drive. Being his role model makes me now reach out to take my project of consciousness – The Star Path – to the next level: Planning a lecture tour on The Importance of You Being You as a Eurpoea in the US is about as wild a plan as yours Rijana. I tremble, but am utterly aware, that if I don’t throw myself ALL IN, I will have difficulties meeting myself in the mirror later on. The worst case is me not able to live with me. In this single life – GOOD EVERYTHING and GOdspeed – Much love from Siri

  80. Once again, THANK YOU Marie (& team) for another powerful, wise, heartfelt episode. I am a little further on down that path. In 2016 I did dive into my dream of changing careers. Both my husband and I actually! We left our teaching jobs (having worked to save money for a “grace period” year). 2016 was all about doing what we love (which is art and illustration) and finding a way to translate it into an income earning contribution to the world. To be honest, a lot of the year ended up being a spiritual journey for me (still is…)! I had a lot of figuring myself out to do, because I don’t think I had ever truly stood in my own identity. A little scary at times. Mostly, I realised that I wasn’t as clear as I had thought about who I am, my passions, and what rings my creative bell! Also, working at home, I have found that being on my own creates a lot of “head space”…which can result in a cacophony of self-doubt, what ifs, should be doings, fear formulations, and a burning desire for netflix and popcorn!!! Procrastination & self-doubt are my biggest challenges. Especially because I’m building something (it feels like) from the ground up. Having said all that, I have moments of pure bliss….waking up to the sound of birds instead of an alarm clock. Choosing where and when to channel my energy. Discovering who I really am, what I am capable of, and how I can most authentically contribute to this world. Highlight has been my spiritual awakening (no religious stuff there). I have been guided to learn and grow through a constant flow of books, videos, resources that reinforce a sense of our global community and our expanding consciousness. The transition into my new self-employment has been so much more than I had imagined! I do get stuck and I do still struggle with self-doubt. But I KNOW that I am on the right path. My heart tells me… And I realise that there isn’t a question that I could ask, or something that I need, that can’t be provided in our amazing world of internet connection.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      So cool, Tatum! I’m really glad you and your husband were both able to make career changes that you’re passionate about last year. It sounds like working from home and being an entrepreneur has been an incredible experience for you. Congrats! 🙂

      Since you mentioned that self-doubt creeps in sometimes, I wanted to share this MarieTV playlist on overcoming fear and self-doubt in hopes that you’ll find it inspiring and helpful: https://www.marieforleo.com/category/overcome-fear-and-self-doubt/

  81. Renee Malloy

    Hello Marie:
    Once again I am in “awe” with another video on being afraid to make a change. I recently found you and just love your motivation and your spirit. I am not so much afraid of failure as I am of success. I am a year and a half into getting my Associates in Management and decided at 53 years old to go to college and make a change for myself. I have a tendency to sabotage myself. As I am nearing the end of my studies my grades have dropped a little due to recently losing my dad. Obstacles and situations always seem to get in the way of me succeeding. In the beginning I was on the Deans list honor role and then life showed up again and now I have to make myself go to school. Anyway’s, I don’t know if anyone else has these types of problems but I know I have to finish what I started. If you have any suggestions on keeping me motivated let me know. I know I am worth being a success but that small voice inside me tells me I can’t.
    Thank you Marie
    Renee M.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m really sorry to hear your sweet dad passed away and that life keeps throwing you curveballs. We’re sending love, condolences, and healing wishes your way.

      The fear of success is actually more common than you might think! Marie created an episode of MarieTV about it that I think will give you some insight: https://www.marieforleo.com/2015/04/self-sabotage/

  82. Marie Sultana Robinson

    Marie-
    This was a great way to wake up to the morning.
    My heartfelt reason I want to create a business that centers around writing, and living in a RV and traveling, is because I’m tired of living a non-life as a widow. It’s like being the undead, I’m surviving, but I’m not thriving.
    However, I can’t figure out a way to get from here, to there.
    Thanks again for the awesome video.
    Best to you,
    Marie Sultana Robinson

    • Elena Shirley

      Dear Mrs. Robinson, I have so much respect for you sharing something so painful and personal. Wishing you every success, and every strength to get you from here to there –

      Elena

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m so glad this episode brightened your day, Marie! I’m sorry to hear you’ve been going through such a rough time after your partner’s passing. Our hearts are with you, and we’d love to see you going for your dreams.

  83. Good morning MF TV community!! I remember how scared I was that I would not be able to make it through financially to becoming a veterinarian in my 40s. But, long before I heard of Simon Sinek, I knew how important why was. Thank god my parents had a little bit of Simon’s DNA in them, and they gave it to me. There were lots of times when I was afraid of people thinking that I was crazy, and afraid that I looked out of place in a classroom full of 20 somethings. But my Wi-Fi was stronger than any fear could ever be. Still was afraid, still made some mistakes along the way as we all did. Hold onto your why like a life preserver and go for it! You’ll only be sorry about the things that you didn’t try!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Right on, Elena! We believe you’re never too old to do what you love, so we’re really glad you didn’t let a classroom of 20-somethings stop you.

  84. Because the World needs that special gift that only I have 🙂 I speak the universal language of colours and translate her words with my heart.

  85. Deb Mowatt

    Wow! I am sitting at my computer, feeling stuck and overwhelmed. My thoughts are going over what I need to do, and what I’d like to do. And then I clicked on this email, and watched the video. I hope Regani takes the advice Marie gave to heart. I know I will. I have been mulling, half-heartedly planning, and speaking about having my own business for 2 years. Yet, in the space of 8 minutes, Marie broke down the areas which are missing in my thoughts. I will certainly Work my Why ( a great tagline, by the way). And I will acknowledge and accept my fear of failure. I have nothing really to lose by moving forward. Tomorrow happens whether I move or not, so I might as well move.
    Thank you Marie

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s so great to hear, Deb! I’m so happy this video came at just the right time and that it helped you break through those blocks. 🙂

  86. This post resonated with me because I am also a single mother and entering a completely new career, as a singer-songwriter. Music was always important to me in my youth, but when I grew up and got married, I stopped making music. When problems in my personal life escalated, I naturally returned to music for art therapy. At first, it was just for fun, but after over two years of songwriting and retraining my voice, I just felt compelled to share my music with others.
    I will be releasing my debut album this Spring (a dream come true), but also yesterday was a musical landmark. (It’s special, because I had just read this post and watched the video in the morning!) I got a notice that one of my songs was forwarded to a major recording label to be possibly picked up by an emerging artist. I also received a market report with 100 random reviews of one of my songs, with me singing as the artist. Some of the comments were so encouraging that they made me cry.
    Anyways, I thought I’d share with some folks in this community the secret to being successful- at least in the music business. There are a lot of talented artists out there that sing, play the guitar, and write better songs that I ever would be able to. But that does not measure their success, because I’ve seen many of them fall by the wayside. The ones that do succeed, follow these two steps:
    1) They believe in themselves.
    2) They never give up.
    I also repeat my mantra daily, which is “love never fails.” That helps me cope on my down days, when I feel like a failure as a single mother, a music artist, and a general human being.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Congrats, Brette!! That’s so exciting! 🙂

  87. Lovie

    Hi Marie – my fear is my own worst enemy… I need to take that bee-otch down!!! Thanks for the great video!!!

  88. Taylor Coen

    My dream is to work with children and I am currently studying for Praxis I and II in order to take classes during the Summer and Fall Semesters so I can become certified as a teacher. Every time I think about going back to school to teach in the Public School System, my heart jumps and my body fills with happiness. I know this is the right move and I am super excited to start my new career as a full-time teacher.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Right on, Taylor! We’re so happy for you and are glad you’re taking these great steps toward your dreams. I know your students are going to love you!

  89. Hi Marie,
    This episode was brilliant and the timing couldn’t have been better. You see, I am seriously considering leaving my full time corporate job to go and follow my dream/passion of being a full time self employed photographer. As you stated though, fear of failure is holding me back. I don’t currently like my job, I actually cant stand it and have been there for 12 years. This photography dream of mine has been just that for about 3 years now. I have a wife and 2 kids so of course if I quit my steady job/paycheck that leaves my family down to 1 income and this scares the hell out of me. I know I really should just do this and stop talking about because I don’t want to wake up and realize another 5 years have gotten behind me and I am still stuck at my job that I hate but the fear is paralyzing and so overwhelming. I don’t know how to overcome this fear.

  90. This video is great, appreciate the encouragement! I am a local artist in New Orleans and I dream of starting a movement of encouragement and bringing others messages of hope through art…one thing I have to remember, start where I am and be diligent, bloom where I am planted first and the path in which to go will take root in front of me. I think we make things so difficult sometimes and don’t value time spent learning and setting ourselves up for success before we jump. I didn’t always value time spent learning but it has made a huge difference in my outlook and motivation for why and what I want to do. 💕

  91. Fee

    Amazingly wow and perfect timing! I’m putting into action what I’ve been day dreaming about for yonks – my own business. I have a 6 year old daughter who I want to be the best role model for and Marie, your message about teaching our children to be brave and go for their dreams is spot on . My mum did that with me in her own life but its taken me this long (the 10th since she passed) to look within myself and recognise her legacy.

  92. Well, my goodness, talk about serendipitous moments. I was just speaking to my father about this very matter two days ago and my feeling scared about stepping out into the unknown – specifically about a professional opportunity and is more related to business than my full time job, but could develop me in regards to that role as well. I am aware that I have strengths and regularly people I meet or come in contact with recognize those strengths, but I realize I stay stuck in thoughts that could be distilled into three areas : “Am I ready to fill that role?!”, “You won’t be ready until you do it!”, and “I look so young and many people act a straight fool (disrespectful, demean) because they think they are dealing with someone younger than what I am”. I was so helped by the message from front to back in this video – make choices based on your hopes, not your fears! I am still making motions toward growing my health coaching practice, as well as possibly taking on leadership roles in business entities for women and am helped by the reminder that everything can be a lesson for us rather than anything else that we can have a tendency to make it. Thank you, Marie and company! Great dress, by the way!

  93. Perfect timing Marie. Thanks, I needed to hear that today. I’ve been thinking about setting up my own life coaching business. At the moment I am working more ‘behind the scenes’ where I feel safe, but this little voice inside me keeps nagging: “Do it!”
    I know if I take this step I will come alive, I will feel more content and confident, and helping others create change. Sure there are fears (what if you don’t have enough clients, don’t make enough money, aren’t good enough…), but the more I test the waters, the more I feel I was born to do this. 🙂

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s fantastic, Jessica! It sounds like the universe is trying to tell you something and I’m glad you’re listening. 🙂

  94. Failure is okay. The overiding question is: Is this something that aligns with my purpose to reach out to the world. I started building my dream the week after a business I had built fell apart – we had two directors who lacked integrity & they compromised our plan & the company got liquidated. So straight away I went to see an artist friend telling him that it was time to start something new; that I want to reach out to inspire the world through smilie, bold cartoon characters. A year & a half later he presented me with a large canvas painting of PAN panda & BAM boy. And now after doing an immense amount of work preparing I’m presented with the challenge to be enterprising & build the brand, or to retreat to a career.

    We are limitless, everything is possible & I have decided to believe that there will be ways forward. We have all made mistakes before & fallen. Each one of us has the chance to create something beautiful with our lives. I choose to share & care, I choose to create my dream & hope to meet many more people who can join me on the journey to build beautiful ways forward..

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I love how you started your new business just a week after the last one was closed. It’s clear you’re dedicated and a hard worker and we’re really glad you shared your story. I hope it’ll inspire others to follow their dreams, even when it’s scary.

  95. Marie, you’re like a Goddess, an Angel, for sure, a guiding light in my life. Every time I hear the words and the sincerity in your voice when you say “The world needs that special gift that only you have!” it means sooooo much to me. It gives me hope and I know it does the same for millions of other people in the world. Thank you for going after your dreams.

  96. Victoria Hornsby

    Hi Marie,
    I’ve started a mindfulness coaching business which I’ve wanted to do for a while however it’s all going well and have started with a few clients and more things are opening up for me but it’s overwhelming me and now I am doubting my abilities and the fear has taken over. I just want to stop and go back to the comfortable job and keep things the same but I know I can’t and this is something I have to do. I love the mantra ‘I win or learn but never lose’. It was just what I needed to hear but it’s still too much for me to handle and I’m not very good at a lot of the things I need to run the business but I am good at coaching. I feel like a fraud and don’t know how to move past this as I’m stuck with the fear. Can you help?

  97. Jill

    I currently have a great job but I have a burning desire to be a fashion designer. I have attempted it before but my fear of the competition and the learning curve (although I love learning) it can be frustrating trying to learn it on my own schedule. I also had a hard time cause as soon as people know that you know how to sew, they start asking you to do stuff for them and I never felt like my skills were at that level…..but I got bombarded with people asking (which I guess is a good thing that people like my stuff……but it was also overwhelming because I still had so much to learn).

    I took a year long break and I know now what I need to do differently so I’m ready to start again.

    I’m having a hard time figuring out the WHY in order to get me over the obstacles when I start again.. I don’t know why I want to do this, I just feel like it’s something I have to do. Is that Why enough to keep me going?

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      The question about your ‘why’ is a really good one! Marie interviewed Simon Sinek, who wrote the book Start With Why and did a really popular TED Talk about it, so I think you’ll enjoy his insights about this: https://www.marieforleo.com/2016/06/simon-sinek/

  98. Mara

    I completely understand this fear. I as a single mom have tried to go back to school to finish my BA unsuccessfully, opened a business that closed after a year or so, have tried several ventures, and too often find myself stuck in dead-end jobs that barely cover my bills. My determination (and stubborness) tell me DON’T QUIT AND DON’T SETTLE . But it’s easy to become paralyzed in fear of taking that first step because the reality of responsibilities and pressure get to me. I only just recently found your program. I watched the interview with Bryce Dallas Howard and something seemed to click. Something was screaming inside of me YES, I NEED to open my business and I can absolutely pull this off! It was an excitement I haven’t felt in a long time and I want to thank you. 🙂 I hope to be able to enroll in B-School soon.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s wonderful, Mara! I’m so glad Bryce’s interview really spoke to your heart. We believe in you and your dreams, and we’re cheering you on big time!

  99. Midnight

    Thank you for this video and related email and blog.
    It actually got me a little emotional as it speaks so closely to my life and situation. I fear looking incompetent to others as well as losing motivation and focus, this letting myself down like I have so many times before through lack of consistency. I’m scared to even try and start again. But I know I’ll never live a fulfilled life if I don’t. The passion for a life of freedom literally burns within me every day.
    Thanks Marie and Rejani for bringing up this question.
    Much love x

  100. Waqar

    Whats if, you fail…

    its even more miserable… i know from experience !

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m really sorry to hear that, Waqar! It’s tough to fail and can lead to all sorts of unpleasant feelings, so I hate to hear you’re experiencing that. Marie has an episode of MarieTV about how to overcome a devastating setback, which you may find helpful for this: https://www.marieforleo.com/2014/08/overcome-setbacks/ We’ve got our fingers crossed that things will get better soon.

  101. Suzanne Rivera

    Hi Marie,
    Suzanne from Australia here,, love getting your emails 🙂
    Here’s the thing I want to open a celebration cake shop – I own a shop, I have all the equipment including oven, having ran a business before I have the abilities to produce amazing cakes.
    My fear is leaving an amazing well paid job which supports myself and 4 children to enter a realm which may or may not work? I am totally a creative having qualifications for art teaching, art therapy, chef and my current job is administrative, picking a career path is also difficult, maybe I should stick to one path?
    Suzanne

  102. Hi Marie,
    I would like to respond to your question from this video on the fear of making a change:
    My big WHY for pursuing my dream of having a wildly fun and prolific online counseling and coaching practice is that I have tools and practices and wisdom to share with the world that can help people feel and express the best of who they are. I know because those same things have helped me transform from the survivor of childhood abuse and a long-term domestic violence relationship to a person who feels happy, healthy, peaceful, and free (not every moment, of course, but most of the time). I want to teach mindfulness and the science of happiness because I am passionate about these topics, and I know that simple practices can make a huge difference in the quality of life. I want to reach beyond the scope of the small isolated (wonderful) island I live on to people all around the world. Because I love to travel and I love to experience life through the many cultural perspectives of the wonderful diverse community of humans on this planet. I am going to copy this WHY and post it where I can read it every day. I am not going to give up, and I will celebrate every step I take toward this dream. Now it is official! 🙂

  103. Nicole

    Dear Marie, thanks for your sharing about how to face with fear.
    I have a dream that my thought could help people, just like you. Your video always encouraging everyone. Recently, there are many tragedy happened in the world. I sometime to think: If people could understand each other is good. I’m not major psychology, I afraid that I am not qualified to give advice to others. But I will try to write blog to share my experience. I hope people who see the article will be same feeling.
    Thank you again.

  104. For those of you who think you’re too old, you’re not. I’m doing it: from lawyer to Holistic Health Coach. I just launched my website and business and some days feel full of self doubt. I just listened to Marie’s 3 part free workshop and got so inspired. Now I’m going to enroll in her BSchool. See! it works–she just got a free plug and new client!

  105. I’ve been struggling with this fear all my life. I know I have a message to share, I just hold back from trying because I doubt my own authority to share it. Along with the voice that is telling me, “go for it”, there’s also the “who do you think you are? no one is going to listen to you”…so I keep my ideas to myself. But I’m at a point in my life where not speaking up is no longer an option. I always want to be motivated by my hopes, and my hope is to take this crazy idea of mine to the next level, and transform it into a business that can and will change lives. Look out world- here I come!

  106. My biggest dream (as of now) is to fill a plane with underprivileged girls and be able to work full time for my non-profit Girls Going Global. I feel like I’m always reminding myself of my why (so that girls can know there is more to the world than what they see every day) but get so frustrated and drained when I work on the how. This video reminded me that even when I think I’m not I’m STILL operating in fear. I’m afraid of financial strain and stress that’s why I decided to take a full-time role at another nonprofit rather than figuring out a way to pay myself with my own. Thank you for the reminder to make a plan and make it happen!

  107. Inez

    Hi Marie & team,
    I have been afraid for many years now to do what I love. I think I just never really new what it was that I loved. After some really difficult years personally & business related I was so down, the only way to go was up! Following your guidance and inspiration it took me a couple of months but I’m finally in the right direction. I discovered that I love to speak to people, teach, motivate & inspire them. When I see so many friends, family, strangers around me who are in the same situation as I was a couple of years ago it just hit me that that was what I wanted to do!! Help others find their way like I have found mine. Just hoping they wouldn’t have to go through the nasty ordeal I had to. There’s nothing better then doing something for someone else. It’s the best feeling! Thanks for your inspiration and guidance!
    Inez

  108. I realized that doing what you love, no matter what, can have the effect that you wake up one day and realize, the money somehow followed you along and you never worried about it.
    It starts getting critical when you think about how to make money with what you love. That is when your passion is in danger and everything can go wrong.

  109. Angela

    To Rejani and anyone who wishes to enter the health care field, I want you to know how much you are needed. I work in healthcare and I am retirement age along with many aging professionals. We need young blood and the way has been made easier through junior colleges and shorter training programs. If you wish to be a nurse you can start as an LVN and finish in a year and a half. So many women and men seeking second careers have done this and then gone on to receive their RN degrees. A 4 year university degree isn’t necessarily anymore. You will find out early on if this is for you. The people I have met in these programs work regular jobs and attend classes. If finances are an issue, you can start as a CNA (certified nursing assistant) getting licensed in a couple months. It will place you into the healthcare workforce and then you can gain sponsorship through the job to get your LVN and RN degrees. You can earn money and gain a free education. As I said, many communities are so short of healthcare professionals there are multiple programs to assist you. Good luck!

  110. Hello, changed my email address and would like to be included in future mailings.

  111. The last bit… the world needs me. It felt really good to hear and frankly today, I really needed it. I’ve been struggling with a lot of pressure from my career move to do my own thing and I’ve been having my bigger stumbles now, almost two years in. At first I was getting a taste of this , then the more involved I’ve become, the crazier the pressure. But I know I’m doing something incredible and if it’s worth it to me, it shouldn’t matter what anyone else thinks. I have positively impacted more lives and have put myself in a place where I feel I’m doing it right for the first time. Thanks for the support!

  112. Alida-Tania Malik

    Hi there, I’ve been sitting on the fence for a few days now.. Family and friends constantly tell me I should turn my passion and talent (Jewelry making) into a business, but I don’t know the first thing about business. I’ve never been interested in sales or marketing, until I came across B-school. It’s easy to love the program, but my question is, would all this be useful for online business only, or would the knowledge I gain also help if I wanted to open a shop one day? One of my biggest fears is around production. Even IF I started successfully selling my jewelry, how would I keep up with demand? Would I hire people? I don’t know anything about managing people… I live in Montreal, Qc, so language laws are also an issue. Something is really tugging at me to do this and I can’t imagine anything better than earning money by doing what I love. Any thoughts? Thanks in advance,
    much Love,
    Allie

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Awesome question, Allie! B-School would still be helpful if you wanted to open a brick-and-mortar shop because you’d still have a website and promote your business online. So you’d still be doing online marketing––you’d just be adding a physical location in addition to selling online. Either way, you can use your website and online marketing to drive people to come to your store or buy online if they can’t come to your store.

      In terms of keeping up with demand, sometimes growth does mean hiring. That could mean hiring another jewelry maker you trust to help with production or hiring out things like your business accounting so you can spend less time doing that and more time doing what you love.

  113. Thank you Marie – I changed by career twice and even though it’s scary as hell, it’s even more scary to see life pass you by

  114. I am soooo incredibly happy that I found this community. I am struggling with a career move and I just don’t know what to do. I am in a corporate marketing position at a major retailer – I’ve been here for seven years, but over the past two years I’ve lost my mojo. I have absolutely no passion for what I’m doing.

    What’s changed? Over the past two years I’ve been building an Etsy shop from the ground up and I enjoy ever single aspect of it. The branding, the handmade manufacturing process, the sole ownership of getting stuff done, and most important……the daily interaction I have with the people that buy my stuff.

    Every day when I walk out of my corporate marketing job I am so relieved because I get to go home and start my “real job”. I almost say this out loud when I leave work. Every. Single. Day.

    Problem is…..finances. I am a father to 2 beautiful young girls under the age of 2 and I absolutely cannot afford to take a drastic pay cut. I have so much faith in my own abilities that I feel somewhat foolish for not wanting to take the leap, but I want to best for my family. I can run the Etsy shop and get those warm fuzzy feelings at night when I’m doing my “real job”….but it’s not enough I just want them all day long.

    Marie – you’ve done more for me over the past 2 months since I’ve found you…..one of these days, you’re going to be the voice saying “just take the leap dude” and be the one that pushes me off the cliff. Thanks!

    • Annette

      Hi Ryan,
      I know exactly what you mean! I tell myself that every day when I leave the office now, it is mental! The insane thing is wondering why I am still doing this (for the money sadly) when it is such a soul- and energy-sapping thing. 🙁
      I hope that you’ll be able to do what you love on a full time basis soon, and get those fuzzy feelings every day, cos I can tell ya, you would be a happier person all round, and your girls would feel it too! All the best to you!

  115. Katie

    I LOVE Marie’s dress in this episode (she always looks fab). Where did she get it?

    #coachingwithstyle
    #thanksmarie

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much for your kind words, Katie! Marie has an amazing stylist who picks out her outfits for MarieTV so I’m not sure where this dress came from in particular. However I know that some of our favorite MarieTV outfits in the past came from ASOS.com, H&M, and Bar III from Macy’s, so those might be great places to check out for something similar.

      We’re so glad to have you tuning in with us!

  116. Kayla Paetow

    I have been a massage therapist for 11 years! I’ve always worked for spas or clinics that require a lot of your time and not always being paid or being overworked ,which I’m currently experiencing! Im at a spa working 6 days a week 5 massages a day and I’m completely exhausted! I am a single mom of 3 kids and need the money but lately my boss has been so difficult! I’ve always wanted to start my own massage business,but just have been too afraid of business side of things and have never found a good safe place to rent! I really need to do this for my kiddos !

  117. A big change can be daunting but you have to ask yourself why you think you need a change. Once you understand that, staying where you are unhappy will not reap the rewards that you want. Enjoyment and satisfaction.
    I was MD of a company and had taken it as far as I could go. So making the change was exciting. Setup a business and reading your article was exactly why it was worth it.
    make your move real. Don’t let years pass with you then saying ‘I wish I had done something else’

  118. I win or I learn but I never lose – this is so amazing!

  119. Annette

    Hi Marie,
    Thanks so much for this episode! I’m pretty new to your website, but I’m sitting here right now looking at your video library wanting to watch every single episode (I can’t yet, I’m in the office!). I’ve been at this crossroads before, when I was not married yet, and I took a leap of faith and took a professional cooking course (at the ripe “old” age of 32) and I even ended up working at Michelin-starred restaurants. However, I moved back to my home country when my visa was up and went back to doing my old desk job to try and make ends meet for the time being and for some reason, I got sucked back in into doing something that I’m not passionate about. Fast forward 5 years later, I am now a mother of a one-year old adorable little boy, and that question is now popping back in my heart again.
    I thought that having done it before, I would have the courage to do it again, but I think it is harder this time round to take the plunge because I have added responsibilities of being a wife and mother, and we are trying to make ends meet. I opted to work a shorter work week and although my pay has been pro-rated to reflect that, my hours are still pretty much a full day work week which makes me feel really awful and depressed as they were meant for me to spend time with my son. Instead he is at day care. The push for me to go has never been stronger than now!
    I can’t say that I have eradicated my fear completely after listening to your video, but it has at least validated my belief that I need to do this, for myself, my family, and like Rejani, for my son. You are right, he is going to look at his Mama one day and he will either learn to embrace his fears and do what is right and what his heart says, or he will waste away in a “comfort zone”, never fully realising his potential. You are also right, our clock is ticking and I don’t want to live till the end pondering on my what-ifs. Regrets are inconsolable.
    I hope that I can come back a year from now and look at this comment and add to it to say that I have finally taken that step and am well on my way to doing my own thing, and be proud of what I have achieved. Thank you also for Nelson Mandela’s tweetable, that our choices should reflect our hopes, not our fears. I am so floored by that! Much love!

  120. Matthew McGuire

    Hi Marie i am stuck in a job a really dislike and i want to become a nurse or a psychologist because i want to help my Latin American roots in America and in Peru. So that i can help my family be more caring of the poor in their lives too and also i want to make the world a better place because it needs love from me. My gift i have in my life is my big heart and i would love to give some good love to people in the way God needs from us. I am a Catholic young man on my way in life i hope you can help me with this dream Marie bye God bless you be in touch
    I love marie tv

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s wonderful, Matthew! I can definitely tell you have a big heart and want to help those who need it most. It may help to look at the schools near you and see if they have any training programs for nurses or medical programs you can apply to. We’ll be wishing you much success!

  121. Ashley Dobrzenski

    Thanks for sharing! Fear definitely drives us daily and it’s important we aren’t blinded by it! I work with career development and I ask often what and where people want to go. Usually I get a not-so-enthused answer. People are switching jobs for a multitude of reasons and often it’s not money, it’s comfort. I appreciate you writing about this and I’m going to pass it on to anyone I know that’s not having the confidence to make the leap!

    • Heather- Team Forleo

      Thanks for passing this along, Ashley. You never know when someone is going to need these words which could be just the right amount of fuel to cause a leap. We’re hearing similar things- it comes down to comfort and passion. Life is just too short. Sending you a big Team Forleo hug.

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