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Have you ever met someone who genuinely loves what they do? They’ll often quietly confess, “You know… I love it so much that it rarely feels like work.”

People like this have hit the career lottery. They’ve found a way to earn a living doing meaningful, profitable work that perfectly aligns with their skills, strengths and experience.

But what if those folks aren’t just lucky? What if there was a way you could crack the code and get your own golden ticket to livelihood Shangri-La, too?

Because let’s be real. When you’re creative and ambitious — not knowing what you’re “meant to do” quickly becomes one of the most overwhelming, frustrating, anxiety and shame-inducing struggles of your life.

You don’t have to choose between “doing what you love” and making a good living. @chrisguillebeau Click To Tweet

At least that was my experience, when I was first getting started on my path.

If you or anyone you know is struggling to figure out what you should be doing with your life, have a listen to my conversation with my friend and best-selling author, Chris Guillebeau.

He’s just written an entire book on the subject called Born For This and today he’s sharing some of the key lessons you need to find the work you were born to do.

Two parts of this wonderful conversation that I think you’ll love.

  • Why both myself and Chris fiercely believe that “Everyone should think like an entrepreneur.” (You need to hear this whether you plan to run a business or not!)
  • The reason Chris believes that, “Winners give up all the time.”

Since this is a topic close to my heart, here are three other episodes that’ll help you find clarity and perspective to move ahead.

Now, Chris and I would love to hear from you.

What’s the single biggest insight you’re taking away from today’s interview and how can you turn that aha into action?

Leave a comment below and let us know!

Remember, share as much detail as possible in your reply. Thousands of incredible souls come here each week for insight and inspiration and your story may help someone else have a meaningful breakthrough.

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Enormous thanks for sharing your voice and making Tuesday one of the brightest, most beautiful days the week!

With so much love and appreciation,

XO

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  1. Tracy

    Great video! Really needed this today!
    I’m not as young as I used to be and I feel I’ve wasted so many years (45) of them) spinning around in circles. But I know I have to figure this out soon…otherwise I’m going to have a lot of regrets. 🙁

    I’ll grab a copy of your book…hopefully it will help me.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      You’ve got this, Tracy. So many people feel this way, but you’ll definitely figure out what’s right for you! Don’t give up.

    • Tracy, Keep in mind that Julia Child didn’t publish her first cookbook until she was 49 (I think that is the correct). So we all know her as a chef but that journey didn’t start for her until later in life.

      • Lisa

        And, as a baking & pastry school student at the age of 51, that gives me SO much hope! Sometimes I forget it, and I start feeling panicked…like the clock is ticking, and I am running out of time, and I must hurry and figure out what direction to go after school…and on and on…and then I feel overwhelmed, afraid, and rushed…which I know is not conducive to either intuitive or rational thought and decision making! So, thank you for reminding the “more mature” crowd of Julia. You are very kind!

    • Rana

      Tracy I feel exactly the same way! I’m 46 and though have several degrees, I still can’t figure out what I truly LOVE to do! Sometimes options hinder rather than help

      • monica

        I SO empathise with you Rana!

      • Karin

        Hi Rana, I am in exactly the same boat – I too have several degrees and have many options, but I feel like you, that sometimes I’ve let too many options hinder instead of help me. And I now I really feel that time is ticking…

      • Laura

        Me too Rana! I also have several Bachelor Degrees and still have not found my path. My clock is almost done as I am 54. I guess I should pick up Chris’s new book!

    • Tracy I am 42 so I totally feel you. I am absorbing so much this months right now. I am finding my way. <3

    • I right there with you Tracy! Just had my 38th birthday and still feel like I am trying to sort out what I’m going to do “when I grow up”. And it just feels like it is time to start excelling in life now. I’m grabbing the book and getting ready for brighter days!

      • Janet and Tracy…I’m with ya, 38! I listen to Napoleon Hill a lot and he says that most people peak in their careers between 40’s-50’s! No need to get in a hurry because its just a ‘natural experience’ we are all having to find and establish ourselves. I loved this episode!! Those 2 questions are so key in plans I am making now, and in the moments I recently “gave up” a career! I feel incredibly excited and at peace from hearing this message…shout out to ya Chris! Thanks Marie!

    • Tracy,
      I’ve been there and it took me 47… check out also a book Marie has recommended called Fire Starter Sessions. I recommend this to clients who are mid-way and stuck.
      If you are determined, you will find your ‘thing’.
      Be patient..
      Karen
      Wellness Girl
      wellnessgirl dot net

    • Karin

      I so relate, Tracy! It’s encouraging to know I’m not the only one at this age feeling this way.

    • Tracy, I’m 48 and I still dont’ have it figured out but I don’t see my journey as a waste. You shouldn’t either. The 45 years you’ve been here, you don’t realize that you’ve done stuff and had an affect on people. If you are comparing yourself to Marie or Chris STOP that SH*T now! You are uniquely YOU and that’s the first step in discovering what you are meant to do. It took me a long time to come to this realization myself. Your work/life will look completely different from anyone else’s and THAT’S OKAY. You may not have 300K subscribers or make six figures but you WILL make a difference. Start by being okay with where you are now and go from there. I tell you all of this because I KNOW. I had the same thoughts you did. What helped me snap out of the “spinning around in circles?” Like Marie recommended on one of her episodes: 10 minutes of meditation every day. It changed my whole perspective on finding my purpose. Maybe it will do the same for you too. Peace. xo

      • Kellie

        Tracy, Karen, Dana, and all of you who are jumping in to add support and positivity to Tracy’s post, THANK YOU! I’m on the same page as you, Tracy, and it makes me feel so much better to see that I’m not alone. I’m not in love with my survival gig, but I’d love to figure out how to stop being a broke musician. My survival gig, ironically, is my own company, but it’s time consuming and can be really draining, and very hands on with lots of moving parts, and I’m worried that it is just another huge mistake — kind of like when I spent most of my cash paying musicians to play in my band at a series of showcases on the advice of my former manager. Looking back, that was totally stupid. I should have spent the money in the studio before everything was totally jacked up like it is now, where I might have made my money back… or not. Ugh. Loss. Lost. I so feel like a giant question mark on a lot of days.

    • Tracy, don’t feel bad! I wasted even more years and am back in school at age 59 finishing my bachelor’s degree, at last! How many times I’ve wished I had made this decision at your age! Remember, age is relative, and it’s all made up anyway! Best of luck with your changes.

    • Holly

      Tracy I feel the same way. I have a great job, making great money and with great benefits….but I’m miserable. At the age of 40, I feel stuck.

  2. This was so inspiring, Marie and Chris!!

    $100 dollar start up helped me start my first consulting side biz and being on an entrepreneurial path has been such a winding and rewarding experience. Excited to get the new book!

    The new site is so classy, fun and sophisticated… and I love all the new graphics and images.

    Well done Team Forleo!!

    Love,
    Carla xo

  3. I turned 40 last November and am resonating with this message for months now! Marie has been an integral part of my journey which is still unfolding. No regrets though and no going back. I’m moving forward to meet my life’s passion and work and not wasting another day doing what others say I’m supposed to be doing. Thanks Marie and great website. Totally ❤️ Your style ???

  4. ale

    In love with the new, clean and sleek look! Great episode!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much, Ale!!

  5. Marie, the new website is so smooth, classy and inviting! Gorgeous!

    Today’s episode is a great reminder about flow and asking if there’s still joy in what you do, even if there was at one point, things can change. My favorite takeaway was the permission to quit. If it’s not working and doesn’t bring you joy what is on the other side of continuing?

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thank you, Lana! So glad you’re liking the new site design 🙂

      And that takeaway is such a good one. I love the idea that quitting isn’t always a bad thing!

  6. I love the way Marie co-creates her teachings. Chris is one of my favourite authors. It is because of him and Marie that I am venturing into my business now. Scared but eager to move forward..

  7. I loved this episode!
    I am the Founder of Angels All Around You Military Ministry in Boerne, Texas and ONE of my visions is to help our Veterans apply this information to their lives and help them find their passion and purpose as they reintegrate back into civilian life!

  8. Walking away when the joy and happiness have left, even if it is somewhat working. Thank you! Love all of your great content, Marie and speakers. Thank you Chris!

  9. Great conversation. I think the money part is the new awareness–at least for me–but not as in the context it was presented. Meaning, yeah–if it’s NOT bringing in the money, the joy is fore sure stressed. However, however, however: We’ve been “caught/taught” that only certain routes bring money. Collective beliefs have built structures like cages, cubicles, prisons, that keep us from connecting to the idea that – hey, what you love to do, is valuable and it CAN support you. But YOU have to open the bridge to see/feel/believe/allow that. B-School community is invaluable in shifting the limits of what is impossible to possible. I think that is so RIGHT NOW. Opening to the unconventional, the creative, the out of the box BELIEFS that abundance/financial flow, is as limitless as you are. I love you Marie. You carry that energy and stir us all. XOXO

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      You’re amazing, Julie. Thank you for this comment – so insightful and true!

  10. OMG I’m on MarieTV!!!!!!!
    And I *love* the new site.
    Thanks so much for watching, everyone. I’ll check this thread throughout the day if any of you have any questions or feedback. 🙂

    • YJ

      Hey Chris, this is YJ from Malaysia. Was there at #WDS2013. Time to rethink “what am I good at” and what makes me flow! One point I’m taking away from this video is – It’s ok to try several things when I am starting out, the path will unfold! Thanks Marie TV for having Chris!

    • Hey Chris! This episode of MarieTV was just what I needed this morning, and I hopped right on Amazon and bought the Kindle version of your book. I have the joy & the flow which is awesome, and I’m grateful for that. But I’m in hobby territory still as I haven’t figured out the money part. I end up putting so much time in to each client’s project (because it’s fun), that my effective hourly rate is less than that Burger King job you were talking about! I look forward to reading your book and delighted to be introduced to you today by Marie.

    • I think the joy, money, flow concept is extremely smart as a litmus test for action. However, what frustrates me as a non-conformist (even one who has spent years on researching and trying different ways to make a living), is how challenging it is to savour joy and flow when you do something creative (like fiction writing–my first book out next year), but falter on the third: money. The creative life feels like a constant, exhausting tug of war. And marketing was lucrative, but I feel no energy/passion in it anymore, even when working with values-based firms. I embrace storytelling, over metrics and sales and SEO and click-throughs. So the struggle itself becomes so soul-sucking. I end up feeling lost, confused, moving in all directions at once, and feeling like a perpetual outsider. Where do you turn, when you’re reasonably resourceful, intelligent, very well educated, and creative, but have found life kicking the stuffing out of you in terms of making a living?

      • I hear ya Lori! I’ve been in marketing for years now but consider myself creative.

        I’m great at my job, and the flow bit is definitely there, but after changing to a values-based organisation in search of meaning in my work, I’m still not getting the joy (and because we are a not-for-profit org I’m now not getting the money either!)

        I tried to resolve it by starting a blog, but I’m facing similar issues as you – I love the writing, I love connecting with people, I like to think I’m good at it… and I reckon I could potentially make some money from it if I followed the advice out there on making your blog financially viable; but as soon as I think about moving it from a hobby to a business it takes the joy away, and I feel yucky about it!

        I’m off to get Chris’ book and hope that has some more tips for me!

        Thanks Chris and Maree, and thanks for naming up your struggle, Lori!

    • Thank you, Chris ! This interview was so inspiring ! The comment you mentioned….your ultimately responsible for your own career is so true ! I love my job and the people I meet in this career! Thanks again for all your insight and beliefs!

  11. Natalie Gaetani

    I love the ease and flow with which you talk about these subjects! The biggest take away from this episode is to use your happiness as an indicator for how to movr along your path, but ALSO look at how what your doing is interacting with the world. For most of my life I’ve always only looked at hapiness and ignored the fact that it still needs to be viable in order for me to happy. Im in the beginning stages of my path to finding a career and being financially independent. I know that I have a great heart and ead for the journey as well patience. Thank you for reminding me to try out new ideas and to let things go when its time, to be aware, and most importantly to realize that it doesnt happen over night.

  12. Danielle Jackson

    Getting ready to watch this new Tuesday video. Just wanted to say the website is looking GREATTT!!!!! I love how clean and interactive it is.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thank you SO much, Danielle! That means the world to us!!

  13. I was created to help end this alien control the interdimensional beings and bring light to a darkened world death was a lie the human race will become god my goal is to be a divine healer thank you marie

  14. Jila

    Thanks so much!! I really enjoyed this episode and even though it’s perhaps obvious– enjoyment, $$, and flow… it actually shows me a clear fork in the road that I am seeing right now.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thrilled to hear that, Jila!!

  15. Merci !! Thanks for this episode, which brings me back 10 years ago, when I walked away from a paralegal job to find what could bring me joy (and money). I listened to the signs, the synchronycity and wound up in an Event Planning job, and eventually created my own business in the field. I had vowed to avoid anything “lukewarm”, anything – as Chris says – that was either not working OR not making me happy. Thank you for putting words on a concept that I have been holding dear for the past 10 years.
    Great job, again, Team Forleo!!

  16. Sue

    Amazing timing….. I was just having this conversation.. Should I keep going or pack it in? I will imedeatley take into account ‘ is it working? ‘ and am I happy ‘ ?
    Thanks a bunch and I will be ordering the the book asap!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      So glad this episode was timely! Those are fantastic questions to ask yourself and we’re super proud of you for prioritizing what makes you happy and what works for you. 🙂

  17. Isabella

    Ooh Marie, I loved the video, but I loved the dress even more! Where is it from?

  18. Wonderful video and I have to buy this book. I love the idea that it is ok to let it go and walk away. I am 42 years old. Working a full time job that brings no pleasure or fulfillment and I am running a part time business. I am newly married. I have been doing both the unfufilling job and the business for three years and I am getting burned out. Herein someone say it is ok to let go of what isn’t working is a relief. Now I just have to figure out what to let go of. The unfufilling job that provides money and benefits or the dream business that I love but provides very little money and no benefits thank you again Marie and Team Forleo for the perfectly timed video. Much love to you all. Monica T.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Much love back to you Monica. I have no doubt you’ll make the right choice for yourself and your life. Congrats on your recent wedding, too!

    • Stephenie

      Monica,

      I don’t know what your dream job is or if the money piece is viable there but it sounds like the unfulfilling job is missing BOTH the joy and the flow. And I don’t think it’s possible to manufacture those… Something to consider. The message I got from this episode is that we need to have all three of those ingredients to feel happy and successful. Best of luck!

      • This is true. I am a Licensed Acupuncturist trying to build a practice. I cannot financially jump in and run with this full time. So I am starting to be frustrated that I cannot pursue passion full time yet. I just need a money tree. 😉

        Thank you responding and reminding me of that very important piece.

  19. Sumesh Chhabria

    Great Video !!! I really needed this.

    I believe there is a very thin line between deciding when to give up and when not to give up & its so important to master this decision (making a correct decision) in every aspect of our life.

    I feel if we think about what we want in our mind & make that our dominant thought, we’ll bring that into our life 🙂

  20. Great video, thank you. I’m ok at being an artist and greetings card designer/ publisher, they sell and feedback is great – but I think I’m only OK at it and it doesn’t pay all the bills. It’s hard to know whether to pack it all in and do something else or just carry on being mediocre at it. However, it’s a job that allows me to work from home and be a mum – which I’m awesome at. BUT I want to be more commercially successful so your video has prompted me to do a bit more soul searching and see if I’m missing something deep within.
    Many thanks again Marie and the team. Love what you do!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Awesome, Jodi! It sounds like you’re on the cusp of transition, which is an exciting place to be. 🙂

  21. Daria

    Wow! I feel relieved after the episode. It came in at the right moment.
    My biggest take away is about giving up, or allowing yourself to move on.
    I started my small biz last year at the same time as B-School, and by now I started to realize that it isn’t working so well… and I’m not really excited about doing it. So I had some thoughts about moving on, but was too ashamed to give up. Thank you for the insight and a chance to quit with peace of mind 🙂

  22. Lisa

    I loved the takeaway of the “never give up” belief in our society, it gave me an instant “ah-ha!”. I realized I harbour this belief and it is time to let it go. Very insightful thank you Marie and Chris!

  23. Oh, this episode is so true of the path that most people take. I remember while I was working toward what I really wanted to do (professional photography) I worked several different jobs that helped me gain the experience I needed but I always kept my eye on the prize and when it was time to go, I left without turning back. All of those experiences were needed to get me to where I am today!

    • Jackie, I loved that take-away too. Great to be reminded that it’s ok to try lots of things until the thing that truly speaks to our soul shines through. Right on!

    • Michele

      Your comments overflow with wisdom and life experience. Thank you for sharing!

  24. Riya Mitra

    Fantastic episode Marie Forleo. Thank you Chris for sharing this incredible message with us. It is not only important to live our life purpose..Yes!! we all have some unique purpose. The website is looking great. Very minimalist yet savvy. So much love to Marie Forleo and Team for these insightful episodes of Marie TV. Love, Riya

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thanks for the kind words about our site, Riya! And I agree – we all have a unique purpose. So glad this episode resonated with you!

  25. Loved the video especially the quote “Quitting is a valuable skill.” I left a 23 year teaching career to launch a new business and career as a health coach and I have never been happier. While I loved teaching, the system had become toxic. I had to “quit” and trust that the restlessness I was feeling had a purpose in getting me to be where I am supposed to be. Thanks again for the inspiration.

    • Susan

      I wish you every success and joy in your future pathway, Kathleen! It takes a lot of courage to do what you have done, I know as I have done exactly the same as you, after the same length of service for exactly the same reasons to set up my own counselling practice. And I don’t regret a single minute, even when it gets tough. I went back to teaching for a year out of fear and quickly realised why I left the first time. When I have a wobble I reframe Chris’s simple questions of ‘does it bring me joy’ and ‘is it working’ into the past tense and I quickly snap back to the present and look to the future, and not wallow in the nostalgia of the past. A wonderful episode, I will be buying Chris’s book and the new look website is inspiring. Thank you, Marie and your team, for Inspiration Tuesdays!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      So proud of you, Kathleen! Good for you for following your purpose and making your dreams happen. 🙂

  26. I believe once you know what you are meant to do (i.e. purpose – or purposes), there is a transition period of incredibly hard work to pave the way to allow you to do work you love full-time for profit.

    Currently, I’m working on my first Young Adult fiction novel. I’m a storyteller, and thankfully employable as a content strategist for emerging and established brands. I juggle my personal writing time with client work, and I realize there will never be a more perfect time to pursue my purposeful dream than now.

    I love Chris. I’ve gone to the World Domination Summit twice now, and it’s the best non-conference-y type of event filled with inspiration, practical approaches, amazing people, and incredible Portland atmosphere. xo!

  27. This was a great episode on gaining clarity through confusion, especially for me as I am one that has many interests and choosing one was just something I could not do for the longest time. My number one takeaway was hearing Chris say that quitting is a great skill. I have always had that ability to walk away from things that weren’t working – it is highly reassuring to hear someone agree with me finally that that is not a bad thing.

  28. Kirsty Mallinder

    Thanks Marie and Chris!

    Sometimes finding a better way forward boils down to those 2 simple, yet fundamental questions “is it working?” and “am I happy?”. Thanks for the reminder!

    Kirsty x

  29. Stewart

    Thanks Marie for another wonder episode of MarieTV. I apologize that I don’t comment often but I can’t thank you enough for the valuable insights and wisdom you share. In my heart I trust you know you are greatly appreciated!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much, Stewart! We’re so glad you commented today and it’s an honor for all of us to hear how much Marie’s work means to you 🙂

  30. Thank you guys!! Joy, money, flow. The triumvirate. That is what I’m taking away. Where are the weak points and the strong bonds, between those three things, in my career! Beautiful new site layout. Thanks Team Forleo!

  31. Danielle Jackson

    Definitely interested in checking out Chris’s book.

  32. Dennis

    I love the “Quitting is a valuable skill”! It makes me feel good about stopping near the end of a project that I invested $10,000 in to regroup and reinvent. I have found joy!

  33. Thanks Matie and Chris! Just what I needed to hear this morn, esp. joy/$/flow, expand options THEN throw away what doesn’t bring joy, and “perserverance is good for some goals but not all of them”!

    Yes! Exactly what I needed. And I’d add: show yourself compassion on the process and for “mistakes” you’ve made, compassion for making a “wrong” turn, etc. Why is it so easy to show others compassion but not ourselves?

    THANK YOU!

  34. Love this video.
    Do I understand correctly that there’s information on this site for figuring out what business to do?
    I have too many ideas, and need to narrow it down.
    Thanks!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      You bet, Hope! We have a huge library of resources. If you visit our Get Started page, you can check out Marie’s amazing free training called How To Get Anything You Want which definitely can help with gaining clarity.

      I’d also recommend checking out our MarieTV collection focused on building a meaningful business here: http://www.marieforleo.com/category/build-a-meaningful-business.

      And you can always reach out to our team at infoATmarieforleoDOTcom if you have questions or would like more help!

  35. I wanted to become an artist (painter) but did not pursue it until my daughters were grown and I was 50. Finally, I started painting and entering in exhibits even when my work was not so good. I pushed myself and learned everything I could about painting. Ten years later, I co-manage an art studio with nine artists and regularly sell my paintings. I have won some first place awards and even sold five paintings to a famous golfer.
    It is never too later to reach for your dream. I often think of where I would be if I had focused on just the art instead of having a job. Then, I realize I am where I should be at this time. My past experiences help me express myself in my art. Painting is my passion and my joy. It grounds me for the other areas of my life. I still have a job that I love and paint as often as possible. Thankful that I have lots of energy! Love this episode Marie!

    • Amanda

      I love the new design. Less is more.
      I love this video. Just what I needed.
      I love the Joy-Money-Flow method. So simple, so fabulous.
      And Myra, you rock! I love that you let your past experiences inspire you instead of regretting the path you chose.

    • Love it Myra … your journey is inspiring and it’s so true how our journey infuses our work with greater depth of understanding. Would you have a website we could see?

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Congrats, Myra!! This is wonderful. It’s awesome hearing that you’re living your dream and doing what you love. You’re exactly where you should be and you arrived at the right time. 🙂

  36. Hey there…. I have a book for you!! Marie, Marie, pick me…. picture the kid going uh, uh, and raising her hand so high she’s coming up outta her seat. I’m the author of the book below, and you haven’t had any interviews like mine, not even close. My website will show you my book cover. I hold world records for climbing and skiing, and I set them on all male teams, and I’m a female. Then I lived with an indigenous tribe on each continent, solo, and created a book series called Vanishing Cultures….

    With my male/female experience, and then walking back in time living with indigenous tribes, I can give you such a perspective concerning who we are, where we come from, and where we are going. Right now I’m being hired to lecture and provide workshops for the corporate and military worlds about how men and women can work together better, and to support the females in any androcentric environment…. I’ve lived it.

    I’ve been interviewed by Jane Pauley, Bryant Gumble, and Tom Brokaw all separately on the Today show, so feel very at home in an interview…. I specialize in supporting women, creating balance of power in the workforce, and just plain going for what you love to do in this world… It was heartbreaking for my parents to watch their daughter go risk her life time and again, with these great big guys, over in the Himalaya and beyond…but for me, there was absolutely nothing else in the world I wanted to do at that time. No regrets, and living big choices every day, every hour, and thriving on it….

    Now I have about 20 books out, many for children, and I work in schools inspiring children to go for it, whatever it is that catches their fancy…. pick me, pick me, for MarieTV, please send this to Marie, Thanks, you’re a pal!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Hi Jan! We received your email and sent you a response. It has details on how to submit your name for consideration for the show, so I hope you received it.

  37. Really like this one! So important to find what you’re meant to do…and it definitely is a process for most of us. Thanks for posting!

  38. Validation that I am living a full life doing what I love. For me I have always followed my inner gps! It started with one thing I enjoy doing and over the years branched out to many things I enjoy doing. So today I have choices and many doors open to produce an income that keeps growing. 26 years later I am coaching some of the worlds wealthiest and famous people on how to find balance and fulfillment in their lives! And it’s a blast for me because it comes so natural. Big hug Marie! Your awesome.

  39. Jaime Lynch

    Love this episode – so timely! My 9-5 position is being eliminated at the end of June and I now how the opportunity to take my side hustle (online marketing + copywriting) full-time. My biggest takeaway from this episode is that it’s okay to pursue multiple business ideas, especially at first, until you gain a good sense of what will bring the most joy, money, and flow. I have so many ideas swirling around right now and have been trying to lock in on ONE great idea…now I feel liberated to “try on” multiple ideas for size. Ahh…sweet freedom!

    Congratulations on the gorgeous new site, too. It’s a keeper. 🙂

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thanks for the kind words, Jaime, and a huge congrats on taking your business full time!

  40. Two of my favorite business minds in one place! Thanks for all that both of you do to remind us of what it means to look for the best in life!
    Thanks Chris for helping me to find Marie and Bschool – it has been an amazing experience. You both add flavor to life!

    Marci

  41. I have been struggling for months with, “What is my purpose?” and don’t know how to go about finding it.

    After seeing this video, I feel I’ve realized what is NOT working so that’s a start, right? Haha.

    The struggle is real. 🙂

    • Great take-aways … giving us all greater clarity and insight. Love it.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Realizing what’s not working is a big step and definitely something to be proud of. As Marie says, it’s all about “progress, not perfection,” so please know that you’re on the journey to finding your purpose and no step is too small. If you write to us at infoATmarieforleoDOTcom we’ll be happy to send some encouraging episodes your way. Be sure to reference your comment here so we can send you the ones that best fit what you’re going through.

  42. The gold nuggets
    Be OK when you give up something when it don’t fit anymore with us
    And the two questions
    Is it working?
    Are you happy?
    Simple and Efficient
    ps: and again the new web site of marie forleo is amazing

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Those are great takeaways, Hadda! And thank you SO much for the kind words!

  43. Great video. Thanks. Two major takeaways: joy-money-flow; and if an idea or project doesn’t make you feel joy, don’t do it. Makes perfect sense.

  44. Thank you so much for this. I’ve been debating on whether or not to tweek, continue, or drop my 5 month old family wellness start up that i poured so much time and money into and worked so relentlessly on. I’m not loving it anymore; I’m just ok at teaching the classes; I’m still losing money on it; and I’m not getting as many people in the door as i was expecting. I think giving myself permission to change or take a step back is just what i needed. All of those points were so helpful. I’ll definitely be buying that book!

    • It’s difficult to let something go … I had a lovely boutique that supported Canadian artists predominantly women. I loved that I was creating space for women to gather and connect and that I was also supporting women who were taking a bold leap of faith to make a living from their art. I loved what I had created but 6 years in when I checked in on my core values (something I should have done years ago!) I discovered that FREEDOM was my number 1! With this came the realization how confined and restricted my business made me feel. That was an incredible light bulb moment. When the time came and I was ready to let go to pursue my passion and my joy it was difficult because although I was ok with the transition other folks didn’t want to let go! I so hear you Kristi … and I have to say congratulations to you for taking a leap of faith to try … that’s just awesome because as Marie is forever telling us … clarity comes with engagement … well done YOU!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Whatever you decide, trust that the right decision is the one that lights up your soul. 🙂

  45. I only really found my new business passion last year. I have spent my life (35 years) sewing and knitting wondering how I could ever make money from the hobby I love.

    Well last year I finally figured it out. I have been watching your videos and slowly building my dream to teach others these lost life skills. I’m now ready to officially launch online courses and my own sewing, knitting and crochet patterns to the world. Thank you for your encouragement and inspiration.

    • Nicole

      Hi babs! You might love this book I recently read: “the knitting Sutras”! Good luck with your new business ! May it bring you joy, money and flow !

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Congrats!! It makes us so happy to hear that! We’re cheering you on as you launch your business!

  46. This was so exciting to listen to today! I’ve just made a career decision and I feel like I’m on an adventure, but this made me more excited to be heading back to a company I love in a job I’m excited to do!!

    Also, kudos for mentioning Queen Bey 😉

    Laura x

  47. Great message! I won’t beat myself as much if I don’t see results. Maybe it is time to let go.

  48. Over Seven years I spent my life creating a website that I thought for sure was going to be solving all the fashion boutiques’ problems all over the world by my genius called digishon.com. Cut too seven months ago ( 7 is my lucky number) just returned from having taken a two month sabbatical to Central America and it dawned on me that I was no longer in love with this concept. First – my choice to create this business had come at a time when the housing market collapsed, but when I saw my friends at Squarespace and Uber get funded and I wasn’t getting any VC monies, I kept at it. It never clicked. Maybe deep pockets had wanted to give it to someone prettier, smarter or had a better pedegree than me, but I didn’t even realize I stopped wanting to do this, and was increasingly dreading this. Looking back I had been making a symbiotic choice to not go back and get an MBA and instead took a chance on learning a technology business. I had not been failing, I had been learning how to make something out of nothing in a business I hadn’t known much about. Here I was July 2015 and I knew instinctually, I was done. Not because it had sucked at it, I was quite good at it, but it had groomed me to learning the problems of a tech startup. Today I am a storyteller for technology and fashion, brands and businesses – all in the line with my core competencies. I love marketing, and writing and teaching all in the name of helping lead a businesses grow and become part of the positive conversations with their customers and audiences.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Love it, Mildred! So glad you followed your heart. 🙂

  49. Joi

    Oh my goodness! This episode is right on time. I am also a multi-passionate entrepreneur and everyone keeps telling me to focus on only one thing. But at times it feels impossible! This advice hit me right in the sweet spot. First, giving myself permission to try many things and see what works. Secondly, to be more conscious about what I do and what I quit. I love the “joy, money, flow” idea. I love the idea that if it doesn’t give you joy when you think about it, don’t do it. This episode really helped me put things in perspective. Thank you. As always.

  50. This is one of my favorite videos yet! (hard to pick just one as I love so many of your video’s Marie.) I really needed to hear this as it is something I’ve been struggling with for the past several years. I am the type of person who has been trying out a bunch of different things and as a result ended up running 2-3 businesses as once (but hardly making a profit)! I’ve always struggled with where to focus and have found I’m good at many different things, but it has spread my energy too thin. I’ve known for a while I need to let something go that has been taking all my energy for the past four years and that just isn’t working well enough. It’s taken me the last several months to even come to terms with this and accept it (because I was so focused on “not giving up”) But it is okay, I love that this video reminds us it is okay to move on and often for the best!

  51. Best takeaway from the show – nine easy words:
    Joy, Money, Flow. Is it working? Am I happy?
    Thanks for this episode! I’ve already started processing these questions for myself around several different issues. And the best part is that I was starting to ask myself these questions already but my inner critic was coming up and telling me a bunch of “shoulds” that would have compromised these things for myself. It’s so great to hear successful people saying the things my intuition was trying to tell me already.

  52. I am making a huge career shift and this episode was so great in prompting me asking questions to re-enforce my belief that I am moving in the right direction. I liked the note on “Is it working?” and “Am I happy?” – so great to keep these questions in mind as we go about our lives and careers.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m so glad this episode came at just the right time for you! Especially since it reenforced that you’re doing the right thing through your career shift. 🙂

  53. Love this. Especially not being pressured to pick one thing.
    I have too many passions and loves to just pick one thing.
    Also, the new site is GORGEOUS Marie. Great work Team Forleo!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thank you Megan!!

  54. cristina breccia

    Thanks Marie interesting subjects and i like it the way was tackled by your guest Chris.
    My question is: when ones is trying a new activity at what point should one ask oneself if it is working and eventually decide to get off without being a quitter? Since a new enterprise or a new job always require effort and perseverance well beyond the initial expectation, just asking is it working can be very deceptive! Any rule of thumb?

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Great question, Cristina. I wonder if it can be something you continually ask yourself over time to gauge if the response changes, since there might not be a standard timeframe that can apply to every situation. Perhaps you’ll hit a point where your response is the same each time you ask yourself, and you’ll know better if it’s working for you or not.

  55. Allison

    Thank you so much for this great advice.
    I have been struggling in a battle with myself upon making the decision of which direction I want to go in; beacuse I am afraid of making the wrong choice. I have done lots of work on this, but listening to your conversation made me realize that this is not a problem only I face. Whew!
    I’m ready to get on with it already, and do SOMETHING. Beacuse, it IS alright to change my mind later.

    • Preach it sister. Like Marie always says Clarity comes through engagement. Now it’s time to act. Get out there and show the world who you are.

      Good luck on your journey.

  56. Jim Buchanan

    The Joy/Renumeration/Flow triad is so succinct and on point! I am in a class studying the great early titans of American industry, and to your point that not everyone knows what they are meant to do or what direction to go from early on, John D. Rockefeller was a bookkeeper/accountant, who became interested in selling/trading commodities. He only later “stepped into” the oil refining business (which he astutely saw as a burgeoning opportunity), but when he did, his eagle eye for numbers and details and “balancing the books” allowed him to eventually become probably the richest American of all time!

  57. Well…doing something I love and it is starting to work…so hopefully I’ll get there. Applying it on old jobb I had; no more love and was it really working? So thinking about it this way helps putting that one behind me – Thank you!

  58. eve

    Thank you, this was great.
    I’m at a point were I’ve got so many things I want to do but don’t know where to focus my energies. Having spent my life not ‘working for myself’ but for others’ I now beginning to look at what I’m born for. I recognise the importance of always being self employed even if you’re working for someone else.
    I feel relieved to hear that it’s okay not to focus because I get stressed and feel I want to give up if I have to ‘choose’ something now and repeatedly get told – ‘you have to focus on one thing’ and ‘chase 2 rabbits and catch none’. I think I need to recognise I’m just not quite there yet… as frustrating as this is sometimes.

    Thank you!

  59. Chris is so awesome! I was really happy to see that he was on your episode today! His books have inspired me a lot over the years of running my business to walk my own path, to be different, and to always go my own way despite what everyone else is doing. Great interview, and can’t wait to read the new book! xo Emily

  60. Great video! I can totally relate!

    My main gig is doing makeup+hair for wedding for over the last decade, but I love trying new things (photography, lash extensions, waxing, beauty blogging, etc).

    Some of those other choices (even though somewhat related to what I’m already doing) I had to give up on, as they totally were not working.

    But photography and blogging were/are kind of working, but not. Now I’m on the fence about whether to drop them entirely or tweak something so that it works. It’s so hard to choose!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Do blogging and photography make you happy? If yes, tweaking might be good. If not, permission to quit is granted. (Not that you need permission, but if you’re guilting yourself over quitting know it’s totally okay and that doing so can open doors for other avenues of your creativity.) 🙂

  61. I actually was inspired to send this to my daughter, and I bought the book for her Kindle! It’s great to hear concrete thought points such as when you think of doing something does it make you feel bad? Or, if it works and makes you happy then you are on the right track. or, it’s ok to quit if it’s not working. I almost quit my business a year ago after 8 years of struggle but gave it a defined time period before making a decision and then everything exploded for me, in a good way. The joy part is so important, because if it’s not working but you love it it helps to hang in there.Thank you for another fabulous Marie TV episode.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      So cool, Laurel! I hope your daughter enjoys the episode and the book too. 🙂

  62. Robyn Barnes

    Your video with Chris came at a pivotal moment in my life. I found what I love to do—but it ended. I loved being a mom but my son has graduated from college and doesn’t need me like he once did, so it’s time to move on. At 60, I don’t have a lot of time left to find my joy again but it’s time to start looking.
    I passed this video on to my son, since it’s now his turn as a college graduate to look around and find his joy. More college grads should hear what you and Chris have to say!

    • From one Robyn to another. It’s never too late to find joy and to evolve. Take life by the horns and live life without regrets and don’t apologise for the journey.

      Good luck for the road ahead. 🙂

  63. Cassie

    Currently doing that job that just pays the bills and finances classes and other trainings/travel. (Note: Bartending). I’m always excited for anything that gives me an opportunity and permission to say to myself “EXPERIMENT! Don’t be so single minded and just have fun!” especially when you are a multi-passionate human being. It gives me permission to chase Joy and let the money follow.

    From the video I took away this free-write that I am about to do:
    -ALL The ideas of things I could do (whether you want to or not, ALL the things) and then once you’ve listed everything, SPRING CLEANING. Scratch off anything that doesn’t bring me joy.

    Thanks for this!

  64. Sharing this with my nephew, who is first year college, and my niece, who is two years behind him. This is such valuable insight and information for our late high school and college-aged youth to hear. I wish someone had shared this with me at that age…

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Yes! That’s a really good point, Dawn. I feel like kids especially are told they should never quit, even when things aren’t working or making them happy, so being able to reprogram those mindsets at a young age can save a lot of struggle down the road.

  65. Are you happy ?
    Is it working ?

    Great questions for any area of my life. I will be using these two questions to evaluate both my personal and business idea. Love it. Thank you Marie and team.

  66. Carole Audet

    Love the new site and thanks Marie and Chris for the great episode.

  67. The most powerful nudge from this episode is – GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO SUCCEED AND TO LET GO.

    Wow. That really hit me where it hurts but happy to hear it. Every now and again we need to remind ourselves that it’s ok not to follow the tradition lines of business and success. Being a little adventurous with our lives stimulates our creative juices and helps us be who we really are. The traditional way of getting a job and doing the 1, 2, 3 will be there if we want to go back to it. But I don’t think you will once you get a taste of that good old’ freedom.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Ah, so true Robyn. So true!

  68. Loved watching this episode today. I think I need to pick up Chris’s book because I have been working in my own business for almost 2 years. I finally went full time into it this past January and man is it tough. I enjoy what I’m doing and every day brings something new, however, financially, it has been tough. I wonder sometimes whether this is really what I am meant to do?

    Every now and then I’ll think about what I would like to be in my next career and that’s a psychologist. I have always been very interested in people, the mind and how we think. I think about going back to school sometimes to pursue this, however, I feel maybe this thought process is what’s holding me back from really hustling at what I’ve created. Hopefully Chris’s book will tell me what to do.

  69. I can’t get past the “hot hockey player” comment.
    Does he think Wayne Gretzky is hot? Or that he was really “popular”? hehe
    And Joy. Money. Flow. is a great take away.

  70. Katherine

    Not only was this episode good for me, but I’m sending it to my two sons in college. As a parent, we try encourage them choose one area of career choice. This is a great reminder to take the journey, but with purpose. And to those who are 40…I just turned 60, but I’m not giving up on finding my flow. That’s why I signed up for B-School.
    Thanks Marie and Chris!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Love it, Katherine!! It’s never too late to find your flow. So glad this episode resonated with you so much – and thrilled you’re a B-Schooler!

  71. So glad to hear it’s ok to experiment for a bit and ok to say “no”. I love photography but put it off for most of my career because it wasn’t the corporate path I thought family and friends wanted me to take.
    I’ve been working on making photography a business for the past 3.5 years. Since deciding to give it a go, I’ve tried so many types of photography from babies to weddings to food, to corporate work. I spent time weeding out the areas or styles that I “could do” but didn’t love to do or areas that were too technically complex for me to master.
    Now that I’ve experimented and honed in on my specialty, I’m able to charge ahead knowing that I’ve found my niche and can feel confident knowing that it’s where I belong (for now).

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Wonderful, Jackie — it sounds like you’re in a great place! We love that this episode confirmed what you’re already doing and thinking.

    • That’s great Jackie and now I am really curious at what your specialty is?

  72. Can

    Thank you for this episode, which was so good for me to watch today. I’m in the process of closing down my first venture, and it is helpful to know that my answers to both of Chris’ questions ((1) is it working? and (2) am I happy?) are “no”. I’m a high achieving lawyer by training, and the biggest learning curve for me as an entrepreneur is knowing when to fail fast and move on. I agree that the “never give up” belief in our society doesn’t always work in our favor.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Exactly, and what freedom we can feel in getting to move on to something else that does answer those questions with “yes and yes!”

  73. Kathy Duncan

    This was such a timely piece! I am a text book case of what happens when you keep going with something that isn’t working and doesn’t make you happy. 2 years ago I realized that I was no longer happy were I was and that it really did not meet my needs and didn’t align with my values; but I stayed for fear of not finding something else (there’s a nugget o’ wisdom “never stay with something that is draining your enthusiasm for fear of not finding something else”). Really that should be the signal that it is time to try something else. In my case, my inaction prompted the universe (or whatever you want to call it) to squeeze me out like a tick and force me to look for alternatives. Now, as if by divine timing, comes a discussion on “How to find the work you were meant to do”! I am so grateful to you for the work you do Marie (and team Marie); thank you for bringing insight and inspiration. p.s. The new website looks great!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Thank you, Kathy!!

    • Kathy … your tick comment made me smile … always great when it is possible to breathe humour into those difficult turning points AND so very true that we are sometimes forced to make a change. Your comment really resonated. I know I didn’t want my turning point, it was a deeply painful time BUT I really and truly love and cherish my life now! Wishing you so much good luck and good fortune with everything.

  74. Crystal Rhodes

    Hi Marie,
    I love this episode. Listening to Chris talk about “winners giving up” brought a saying to my mind. Albert Einstein once said, “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” With the two key questions Chris mentioned 1) is it working and 2) am I happy, I believe it will be easier for me to get out of the insanity cycle and realize that it’s ok to quit and move on and with practice realize sooner when that time to quit arrives.

  75. I love your new site..very elegant and luscious colours.
    Thank-you Marie for motivating me every week with all your great info.
    I have been jumping from being a potter to painter and both passions
    are really difficult to make a living with.I have been working on a new web-site on my own and it had been taking a long time to finalize. So I know very well about feeling like I am going in circles. I try to visualize where and how my life should look like but don’t see any conclusion as of yet. So I will keep on painting
    and hopefully an idea will come soon. Thanks for all the encouragement
    Marie.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Jane, we’re absolutely thrilled you’re feeling motivated here each week, AND that you love the new site. Thank you!

      There are also some other episodes linked up above in this blog post that are related to the same topic that you might also enjoy.

      One thing that Chris mentions in this episode that’s also something Marie often says is that we can gain so much more clarity by continuing to take action than oftentimes we can by thinking. Definitely keep trying things on and pushing yourself to take small actions in new directions, and then listen to your gut on the joy factor and checking to see if it’s working.

      Thank you for watching today!

  76. Pam

    “Quitting is a valuable skill.” Thank you! Thank you! I have been going around in circles for more years than I care to admit. Feeling really good about finally letting “ideas” go today! Thank you for such great content.

  77. This is GREAT! This episode (and this book) belongs in the hands of every High School and College student – it should be a “new” field of life/career planning – and what does our educational establishment do, and reward? Exactly the things that Chris cautions – never give up! I like the simplicity and clarity of Chris’s thinking – joy – money – flow – and as always, Marie you bring beauty and intelligence to your offerings – and you are not only enjoyable, but inspiring. Thank you!

  78. Jeannette Naughton

    I so enjoyed this episode, I’m on this journey half way there… I have found the work I love, the next step is doing it for myself and creating a commercial profitable business that will give me a business and life that I love even more than my existing life xxx

  79. Lib

    Great video! I took away the value in giving yourself permission to experiment with a variety of things, to explore, to use these experiences to get clarity around what you are born to do and also what makes sense for you to do in your business. Great, great stuff. Thanks so much!

  80. Permission to quit! In October of 2014 I walked away from my high powered corporate job, money, power, success, and being at the top of my industry. It took me five years to get unstuck from that rut because it “looked good on paper”. In my new life space of “figureoutable”, I am totally inspired today as I hear Chris elevate this revelatory idea! I am clear that my purpose is to raise the vibration on the planet, now I pray to Spirit everyday may the path be illuminated before me.
    Marie, I am so inspired by you, your content and the work you are doing in the world. With deep gratitude, thank you!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Donna, thank you so much for your kind words. We’re excited for you!

  81. Dara

    Winners do quit. Wise words.

  82. Gillian

    Absolutely love the new website! Will now have a listen to you and Chris.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Awesome, Gillian!!

  83. I’ve seen these three things “joy, money, flow” but with other names “passion, market to sell, ability”, etc. And I’m using them as a guide, but most of the time I’m confused, I feel like I don’t have all the information, all the focus I need, I feel like some things are in front of me and I can´t see them. I feel like I need a brain cold shower to wake up almost all the time.
    I wish I could move faster.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Liliana, you’re not alone in having those feelings of impatience with your own progress. However, it’s so much more important for you to keep making progress of any kind by taking action and trying things, than it is to do it quickly or at a certain pace.

      Don’t give up, and be extra kind and patient with yourself. We’re so glad you tuned in today.

  84. Alleluia! I was thrilled to press play on this interview today. For months I’ve been told that I ‘must find my niche’, but to be honest, I’m just not there yet. I’ve got a dozen really great ideas on how to grow my business and the notion of picking just one puts out my creative fires. Thank you both for liberating my entrepreneurial exploration once more!

  85. S…t, I which I could give up…
    my business is not working and I am not happy because of this!
    How can I just give it ?
    🙁
    Hills

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Hills, we hear you. That’s a really tough one, and something only you will know the full answer to without us knowing all the inner-workings, struggles, and what’s not working.

      As Chris shares in this episode, sometimes it’s a matter of tweaking things so that they do work — maybe hiring more out, raising your prices, taking more breaks to do other things you love, etc.

      We have a great episode on how to know when to close down a business, and I’ll pop that link in below for you — hope it gives you some food for thought. Keep listening to that heart!

      http://www.marieforleo.com/2013/05/close-a-business/

  86. Pat

    Excelent Episode. And the website is beautiful guys. Congratulations!
    Thank you for the inspiration 🙂

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much for celebrating the site newness with us! 🙂

  87. Jenn

    Lots of great insights on when to walk away and how to tell when you are doing what you are meant to do. I have a question though, I have always wanted to be a psychologist and my greatest strength is listening and helping people realize their potential. But for various reasons I did not go to university and am now 43. I’m not in a position to go back to school but would love to live my strengths. Is it necessary to get a life coach certificate and if so, is there a more reputable one I should be looking at?

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Hi Jenn! It depends on your experience and what type of coaching you’d like to do, and there are specific laws around certificates and licensing depending on the services you want to offer. Anything that resembles counseling or therapy does require a degree and formal training, but there are all different kinds of coaching that do not.

      Finding the right program for you and what you’re most hoping to impart is a deeply personal decision, so if you feel you need or want further training, we recommend just starting to look around at the options and thoroughly evaluating what they offer to see if it’s in line with your goals and learning style!

  88. Hey Chris & Marie!

    Love this topic so much too! It’s been a passion of mine for years and years! What would the world look like if everyone was doing something they loved??

    Such great questions and tips and tools to use throughout the journey Chris, so thank you for that support. (gotta check out the book now!)

    I definitely resonate with the ‘letting go’ and ‘quitting’ aspects as I did this over the holidays. I let go of everything, focused on my family, and received so much clarity and inspiration that the work I am doing now is so much more aligned and coming from a space of inspiration and love.

    Lovin’ this beautiful new site Marie! Wow! What an accomplishment for you and all of TeamForleo – give yourselves a huge virtual high-five! Amazing! Excited to see where the journey leads next! 🙂

  89. Diana

    My biggest takeaway was that it was okay to let go. I recently let go of a job that did not make me happy- many in my inner circle questioned that decision, but I felt it was imperative, righteous even, to walk away. This episode is a reminder to continue on this path of self-realization- that there are others that have walked it before me and succeeded. Thank you!

  90. Hi Marie, as usual there is not one single piece of inspiration I am taking away from this, but instead many. Chris is amazing! and quietly so. I am impressed he’s not a person that jumps around to get you going. Instead, just his words ring true and gave me Ah-Hah moments. I love your insight that his advice can be applied to revenue streams when deciding if you should move ahead with a client or project. Is it financially viable? Is it deserving of your time? Excellent! Thank you Marie & Chris!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Mary Beth, we love your takeaways and that there are multiple things that you were inspired by in today’s episode! 🙂

  91. Thanks Marie

    Love Tuesdays… 🙂 I will definitely pick up the book as I feel like though i am SLOWLY moving to where i want to be… there are still some tweeks along the way. !

  92. Loved the video and love watching your weekly episodes.
    One thing I learned from this video today is the importance of really knowing myself and figuring out what I’m passionate about.
    Thank you for the inspiration!

  93. Great advice but how can this be more effective than “I’ll just stumble around and say “Yes” to everything until something sticks?
    I’ve been self-employed for over 16 years and often it feels more like sales than passion. It seems that, more often than not, I am trying to be so confident that I am agreeing to things that I’m not actually an expert in, just to land the gig.
    I’d be really interested in an episode that was how to narrow your offerings instead of expanding them.
    That being said, this was a beautiful slice of inspiration for the day. Thank you!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Karen, so glad you enjoyed the episode and were inspired by it. There are definitely some pieces of advice that Chris and Marie share in this episode, especially around 11 minutes in to 15 minutes in or so for how to narrow down your offerings or revenue streams. If you didn’t make it to that part yet, I highly recommend giving those 5 minutes a watch.

      There are two questions Chris mentions that you can absolutely ask yourself and apply to revenue streams, and not just career path decisions. Based on what you shared, it seems like things are working for you, but not bringing you joy. So it sounds like it may be time for some tweaking and restructuring!

      Thank you, again, for watching today.

  94. Javairia

    This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      YAY — we’re so glad to hear that.

  95. Erin

    The single biggest takeaway for me is just to go try different things. At 45, I have been a graphic designer for 20 years, and I like what I do, but I have felt for some time that there is something more for me…but what? I used to do creative things outside of work just because I enjoyed doing them. Recently, I realized that I have not done this in the past 5 or 6 years. So, I think taking the time to be creative on my own terms again, and trying new things may open something up for me. The challenge for me is to not be tied to an outcome, but to simply enjoy the doing so that I can feel the real joy of it.

    Thank you, Marie.

  96. Great episode! I struggle with this SO much, because I love to do many different things. Should I stick with marketing, or become a bike mechanic, or sell my photography, or be a social media consultant, or design furniture…it’s ridiculous! I’ve changed by business a few times already, trying to figure out the perfect spot.
    I like the idea of keeping hobbies as business on the backburner. Really trying to focus on one thing, grow it, and then start other businesses once one is successful.

  97. I’ve struggled with this all my life.
    I learned (for some of us) what you are met to do, is part of an evolving process that embrace personal characteristics,
    and life experiences. The synergy of all of this, will mold you into your uniqueness (as Marie says) to do or offer something we only can. To know or get to that point is the greatest joy and reward.

  98. Tessa

    Absolutely inspiring, Marie. Wandering through life to find your “calling” as been the hardest thing mankind is faced with, but with people like you and Chris coming in to make the path easier, we don’t have to perish searching for what we were born to do.

    Great as always, Marie.

  99. I LOVED LOVED LOVED the freedom that I felt when Chris shared that you should have a lot of experiences in order to determine what to eliminate! And then Marie followed up by saying you do not have to focus too fast! OMG! I can breathe again. So freeing…thank you thank you thank you!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      YES! 🙂

  100. I can’t remember how I stumbled upto Marie Forleo, and I have been incredibly inspired since I have. I loved this video, it just reassured me I am doing the right things because I can only picture myself being happy doing and learning what I am now! Onwards and upwards!! Xoxo

  101. I loved this video! My husband and I recently closed down our catering business that provided us a comfy income, lots of free time and the ability to work from home while our kiddos were little but we hit a wall at about the 10 year mark where we started dreading each event. Just couldn’t do it anymore… it was still working but the joy was gone. Now we are both feeling out new industries and I think this advice wrings true for where we’ve been and also where we’re going! Thanks for the inspiring video.

  102. Thank you so much for this great video and message! My biggest takeaway was “Winners give up all the time.” I recently quit a very secure and high paying job that was extremely toxic and I was completely miserable in. I love following my passion but I’ve struggled with feeling like a “quitter”. I greatly appreciate the encouragement and inspiration you shared Chris and Marie!

  103. Petra

    Super interview, I feel so inspired and can’t wait to get my hands on the book. Think this will be very helpfull for me. Thank you for a great programe and the new webiste is fierce 🙂 Love it!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Petra, thank you so much!!

  104. Great video – perfectly timed for my “stuckness” right now. Also, love the new website – it looks gorgeous and is very easy to use. Nice job to you and your team!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      We deeply appreciate your feedback, Sarah. 🙂

  105. Today is my 58th birthday and I so relate to all of us who are saying things like “I’ve wasted so much time.” I’ve done many things in my life: taught middle school, worked in book stores and libraries, done natural resource management for the Feds, while raising kids and being married. I trained as a life coach a few years ago, but coaching doesn’t feel like flow or joy to me. What I’m good at is learning and organizing what I learn so others can understand it more easily. And that’s so fun for me! So here I am, 58 years old, letting the coaching go and embracing myself as a researcher/writer. That feels good! Thanks for joy, money, and flow, and for the encouragement to quit something that’s not working.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Happy Birthday Barb!!! We’re excited for you and the freedom you’re opening your heart up to. Hope the whole day is beautiful and joy-filled for you.

  106. Mindi

    “Is this working?” and “Am I happy?” are the two questions I needed to hear today. Looking back on my life I realize these two answers were at the heart of all of my career changes. It all makes sense now; I always changed careers when one of the answers was “no.”

    Thank you Chris and Marie for the clarity on this subject! Now I have a clearer picture of when to switch gears and try something new until I discover my life’s purpose.

  107. Nathalie

    Thank you for this energizing and valuable video.
    I deeply share the idea of developping an entrepreneurial mindset even when evolving in the corporate world, ad the comapnies need this mindset: joy & flow, courage & choice are key words I pick. I agree so much with all you say in this talk, it’s the way I work with my clients here in Switzerland, and it feels good to hear you 🙂

  108. Ala

    This video was very helpful for me. I receive a lot of questions now as freshly unemployed, what my next job is going to be. And I don´t know how to answer them. I many times feel pushed to some sort of category, but there are just many options. I do write articles for my blog, I translate, I want to start teaching again. I want to work with nice people and follow my dreams. I am approaching my 30th birthday soon and want to find my way in life. And after this video I understand, why I felt so many times miserable at my previous jobs. Sometime there was a lot of joy and fullfillment, but bad payment. Other times money was great, but the job itself not so much. Thanks a lot to all of you Marie Forleo team Ala

  109. Tamara

    So, I’ve been a very quiet participant. I usually don’t leave comments, but I needed this video SO BADLY! I finished college with honors, 6 years ago and I knew the moment I took my first job that the career I’d chosen…wasn’t for me! I studied Graphic Design, and though I love some aspects of it, on the daily basis you really spend most of your time behind a computer, and all I wanted to do was be outside, or doing any other number of activities.

    So I would just quit my safe job, do something completely different for a while (working as a nanny, decorating rooms, baking cupcakes, anything I could think of, really) and then I would go back to a company or advertising agency, because I wasn’t making nearly enough money to live in peace. I felt so unfullfilled. Everyone would tell me to JUST PICK ONE THING, but I couldn’t. I had to try everything. I still kinda of do, and it’s so reassuring to hear that it’s OK.

    I’ve also discovered that amongst the things that make me happiest, the ones I would do for free and that I absolutely love is Photography. I don’t know how good I am at it yet, ’cause I’m just getting started, but I feel so inspired when I do it. The feeling I get while I’m shooting, and even later when I actually have to sit down on a computer and pick the pictures I want, is unlike anything I’ve felt before. I get surprised any time someone wants to PAY me for doing it.

    I also love telling stories, reading, researching, and discovering all kinds of tales from the past and present. I would love to go around the world doing this, taking pictures, making videos, and you know what? Today it actually felt possible. Thank you Marie and Chris. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Oh Tamara! You are so not alone and it’s SO wonderful to hear that this interview made you feel like your dream is possible. It IS possible. We’re cheering you on!

      • Wow Tamara … that’s sounds so exotic and so very exciting … wishing you the best of luck .. it is such an amazing feeling to do what we love.

  110. Christine

    Hi Marie & Team Forleo! Love this episode as I have loved many of them! I’m 51 and a Multi Passionate Human as well. Do you think this book would help an 18 year old M.P.H.? I have three sons and the 18 and 24 year olds are feeling the pressure of knowing what they want to be when they grow up right now! Please let me know if you think this book would be a good fit, or perhaps another from this author. Many thanks and tons of love from one Jersey girl to another! 😉

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Christine – I think so! Maybe you can have them check it out and see if it speaks to where they are in life right now 🙂

  111. This was super-powerful. The 2 questions “Is it working?” and “Am I happy?” were my big take away. I’m excited to hear Chris in Victoria BC when he is here in May. Thanks Marie et al for all you do!

  112. Carrie

    Holy smokes, I loved this video! I am so thrilled to know that other folks believe “quitting” is ok sometimes, too. The big takeaway for me was the joy-money-flow test. I have one job that pays my bills and another that feeds my soul but doesn’t pay my bills. Yet. 🙂 I’ve been on the fence for a while now about starting my own business, but I think y’all may have just pushed me over to the other side. 🙂 Thank you, thank you both so much for offering your insight and support and reminding me (and everyone else!) that we should believe and invest in ourselves.

  113. Margaret Gathunguri

    I love this video and the new web design!

    I must say that the “not giving up” pressure is not just part of the American culture. Coming from a Kenyan culture, there are many times that I have had to stand my ground to my parents/family when I decided that a path ( changing my undergrad degree to leaving mid-way peace corps after a year of service) I was on is just now working from me anymore.

    Although I struggled with the shame feeling that followed when I decided that I must figure something else out, quitting and redirecting my energy to what my heart was telling me most always brought about such phenomenal growth and unexpected discovery (sometimes rediscovery) of what I enjoy doing, and reaffirms my belief that the universe is friendly.

    Incredibly my quitting “events” was not only valuable to me but also my family. Though they don’t fully understand what direction I am heading, they (and I) can see that not every journey needs to be linear to be “successful”.

  114. Amy

    This is so helpful! I have felt stuck for so long and didn’t know how to figure out what to change or how to find a new direction. This is such a simple formula to figuring it out.

    Additionally, I had a traumatic accident at a young age, which resulted in a spinal cord injury. I am paralyzed from the shoulders down and rely on other people for all aspects of my daily life. I feel like I never got the opportunity to try all different kinds of things at a young age. I’m still learning what gives me joy and what flows for me. Now I have more tools to figure out. Thank you Marie for the work that you do.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Amy, it’s an honor to know that Marie’s work helps you so much!

  115. Thank you Marie and Chris – I am so inspired by the both of you!
    I have always been compelled to do what I love, which like Marie has been and continues to be, a lot of different things…but the money piece has been a struggle. I am missing something in my quest for entrepreneurial success. So I am anxiously awaiting my copy of Born for This, and am psyched to see Chris on tour in Boston in a couple of weeks!

    At 47 I don’t yet feel like I’m running out of time, but I am SO ready to step out of the “meh” and into the “yes!”

    Thank you both for all you do to help us do just that!
    Christina

  116. ChrisL

    First time I actually viewed a video though I have been a subscriber for some time.
    I also agree that giving up is very important as I seriously believe that clinginess is NOT a formula for success.
    Thanks Chris and Marie.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thank you for tuning in, Chris. So glad to hear you enjoyed this interview!

  117. Hi Marie! Hi Chris!

    This was another great video – a few years back I read the $100 Start-Up and it inspired me so much. I’m totally going to buy this book, too!

    From this episode, the biggest insight I am taking with me are the two questions to ask myself: “Is it working?” and “Am I happy?”. Because I believe, and feel, that it applies to everything in life in addition to business. Such great, yet simple, questions to keep yourself on the right path.

    Obviously this also requires a lot of self-knowledge to be able to determine when something is worth dropping because it’s really not right for you and when you yourself are just not being patient enough or hard-working enough. So there’s that responsibility that we have to take in our own lives and in our actions in order for those questions to really benefit us.

    Thanks again, Marie and Chris!

  118. Thank you for the video!
    What was best for me to hear was that its ok to have many things I´d like to do, and that I can keep on do it until I find out what I am best on – and that focus on that.

    I could also use the two questions “Is it working? + Am I happy?” to make me understand that my latest relationship maybe isn’t worth fighting for…

    When its not working and I am not happy its better to stop.

    Thank You <3

  119. What a great video! I am and have been stuck in the “I can’t give up” game. I have always believed that no matter what I CAN’T quit, I have to keep going. The video today has brought a huge sense of relief to me for a couple of reasons.
    1)It is okay to quit what doesn’t bring me joy or serve me. Thank YOU!
    2) I am all over the map with my career ideas. I have been literally punishing myself for the last month-overthinking, over processing and trying to find 1 thing that I can focus on. I am a multi-tasker, multi-thinker and honestly the thought of putting all my energy into 1 idea or job does not bring me joy. I like doing different things and want to continue to have a variety of things I can do and rely on. However, it is difficult trying to bring my ideas together or figuring out what idea should go in what career path. I don’t know how to process that so I can gain clarity.

  120. Jen

    Great episode!! I have been in my biz for 3 years now and have experimented with lots of new things. And I’ve been feeling in the back of my mind the last few months that I should be focusing on only a few core things. This message today has meant so much to me. I feel like I’m on the right track and I’m doing everything I need to be doing. Thank you Marie & Chris for the great insight 🙂

  121. Great interview. Looks like a really good book! I love the Joy Money Flow idea. So simple and so potent. Yes! Marie, you always introduce me to people who end up really influencing me. Thanks mama!

  122. Crystal

    Thank you for this topic as I feel it is one that is overlooked regularly and it is vital!

  123. Nina

    Some of the comments brought to my mind that there are some dangers to always expecting the work you are meant for to bring you joy, or in thinking that if the answer is “No” to the questions “Am I happy?” or “Is it working?”, then it isn’t what you’re meant to do. Maybe it isn’t working RIGHT NOW because you are doing something wrong, even some small, fixable, thing. And I have heard it said before that all endeavours will have a U shape, and when you get to the bottom of the U and can’t see your way across to the other side, things will get very hard and discouraging, but if you keep going, you may get to the other side of the U. Now, of course, getting to the uphill slope doesn’t always happen. But I think it takes more than asking “Is it working?” and “Am I happy?” to make a good decision re whether or not to give up. I think you have to go on to ask “WHY isn’t it working?” “WHY am I not happy?” If it is because fundamentally the work doesn’t resonate with your identity and your higher life goal, or if just is not financially feasible, then LET IT GO (which I have done a few times). But if you’re just discouraged because things are not going well right now, then it may not yet be time to quit.

  124. Liz

    Thanks for the video. I found it motivating and gives me hope to reinvent my career and have a fresh start. Still struggling with that to do. I am going to order the book today. Thanks!

  125. Lyz

    Loved this and was EXACTLY what I needed- can’t wait to learn more!
    I’ve been a creature of creativity since I was born, love so many things (and pick them up quickly) but have never made money at them. Am involved with many entrepreneur hubs but they cater more to the post figured-it-out part. I have often asked for resources of honing in on *that thing* and replies are often vague and “just go with your gut” or “listen to your inside voice” – my inside voice is either silent or is the star of a one man show with 21 characters in it – and I can’t pick just one or even a few. I’m antsy pantsy as I’m sure once I’m focused and feel confident in it, I’ll freakin totally ace it and there will be no stopping me.
    Am so looking forward to the read and thank you Marie and the team for bringing this to the light 🙂 XO

  126. Alexandra

    This video ir so much useful for everyone! I loved! I think like this since forever, but because of my Family structure and the lack of couraging I’ve been following a path whre I don’t fit in. And I’m always hearing that I’m a dreamer.
    I think you two should start a program with young people. Young who are starting their career should have the opportunity to learn about being entrepeneur. I’m 27 now and I hope that by 30 I’ll get there!

  127. What a terrific discussion – and perfect timing as always. Isn’t that amazing how these talks come just when you need them?

    Also – great work to Marie and Team Forleo! The new look of the site is glorious! It’s expansive, aesthetically clean, edgy and beautifully organized. It creates a feeling of abundance of ideas, community and design. You keep inspiring us to grow, change, develop and raise the bar to fortify branding. It makes your “house” a warm place to visit because you care about your guests and followers. It shows in all you do. Thank you!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Debi, thank you SO much! You’re so kind!

  128. Lashpal

    I like thisVDO. I will listen it again if can help me to take my next step. I am multitalented from teacher , speaker, actor, leader and writer but in USA I am stuck in substitute job not knowing how can be running my own shows. Any guidance please.

  129. Natalia

    Thank you for another inspiring interview team!! I feel proud and thankful to be part of your community!!

    In case it doesn’t get said enough: I absolutely love your new website!! It is so glam,so organised and with so much light! you have done such an amazing job!! Thank you for keeping inspired team Forleo and providing us with such goodies!!

    Keep skyrocketing ;-))

    Besos!!

    Natalia

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Natalia, that is so thoughtful of you. Thank you!!

  130. Thank you Marie; you are an inspiration in the way you bring things forward and the way you share them; so much insight and at the same time focus! I love this video. I like the idea that no matter what is the stage we are in our experience there is always a good time to ask questions and explore, and ask ourselves if what we are doing it is still the thing we resonate with; there is nothing fix in our life and we can change that; I like the concept of the two questions: is this working for me? and it is flowing?
    I feel for my experience that things are not usually black and white; I am in that place that I am not sure if it is really working and still many thing I still enjoy and at the same time I know I want a change. So I trust my intuition that is not yet time to let go or give up , rather how can I transform this experience and redirect it towards what I really want. I know nobody can give me a straight answer for that, the only way to know the answer is keep asking the questions while going through the process. Thank you again for your amazing being!

  131. Here’s a question for Chris if he sees this: In contemplating the difference between instinct and judgement – what is a guttural “no, this isn’t okay” and what are my personal hangups – I realized that maybe the reason my freelancing business isn’t doing better is because I don’t like my title. I have big judgements, big hangups about the word “copywriter” because I believe marketing/advertisement/persuasion (and the people behind it) are partly responsible for, you know…BIG world problems. All the big consumer issues, environmental and so forth. THAT SAID! I fall a little bit in love with all my clients. They keep me around (if the projects are ongoing), and I’ve yet to work with a business that has any nefarious motives. Have you ever encountered this? A person who maybe has some skills in a field but they’re at personal odds with it? I’m working to reconcile this judgement, but…the resentment seems to run deep. Thank you, Chris and Marie. P.s., the site is beautimous!

    • Caroline

      Also, (hi, Caroline again:), I like weighty, dense, beautiful, language-driven writing. I take memoir classes and travel for writing residencies. I LOVE vocabulary. And copywriting has that “write like you talk, don’t use big words, persuade, sell, etc.” ideology driving it. It’s its own genre. It’s not beautiful. But it is a type of writing that could, potentially, pay the bills. You see? Judgements. Okay, I’m done 🙂 Thank you again.

  132. andrea albarran

    Whenever I watch Marie Tv I feel so much hope. It is nice to know that being “lost” is actually a road to whatever my soul and heart are craving! I struggle with fear and anxiety because I feel so much pressure from myself and from my parents. I had to move out because they think Im crazy and I over heard a conversation and they “feel sorry for me”. Its exausting to try to explain something that I can’t explain, I can only feel. Ever since I was little I just love adventure. Some call it trouble, I call it adventure. Thats why I NEED to watch these videos, because it reminds me I AM NOT CRAZY! haha. I finished my health coaching course, Im currently in B-School and worked my a@# off to get both of these. I am going on a road I am creating for myself and thats why I am always “attacked” when I inform my parents what Im doing next. They know I am smart, and they know that they can’t stop me. How can enjoy this time of trying different things? I keep repeating that everything will turn out fine but its still hard to wake up and not feel like theres a huge elephant on my chest…. Maybe someone can relate?

    • Pam Consear

      It’s hard to go against what the people around you expect of you, but you’re bravely being true to yourself. Keep at it, and I bet that in a few years you will amaze them with the life you’ve created, and it will all make perfect sense to them.

  133. Nikki

    Love this video! Thanks so much! I loved the quote of giving ourselves permission to experiment. I hate that we’ve been conditioned as a culture to stick with one job for 20+ years, esp. if you’re doing it just for a check. Thanks Marie!

  134. Thanks for this today! I often feel lately like I’m a little lost, as if I’m just feeling my way along in the dark. This has reminded me to not be afraid of the dark, if I just keep going in the “flow zones” and stay out of the prickly places- the dread places- it’s going to come along okay. It also reminded me that it’s good to say no, that I don’t have to keep-on with something just because it’s what I’ve been doing. Thanks again!

  135. Masha

    This was great!!! Loved this episode!!
    I am 26 years old and i am working right now as a web programmer but i feel like there is more in me than just being a developer.
    My dream is to work with people, may be as an like coach, therapist or even as a business/marketing consultant.
    I want to sound my voice and i am looking for my way right now.
    This episode was just in time, and gave me a clear idea what should i do next to find my path 🙂
    Thank You Marie!!
    You are great as always!!

  136. Kim

    First, I want to say I’m head over heels in love with the new site! And this episode was fantastic and right on time. The biggest takeaway for me is that you don’t have to feel the pressure to choose just one thing to pursue. You can try several things that are on your heart. I share with my coaching students that clarity comes by taking action. As you take action on the idea it becomes clear to you if it’s a fit or not. Thanks Marie and Team for all the value you provide! xo Kim

  137. After watching this episode, I just had to leave a comment! I just finished my first book and am so excited to be a published author. I’m already thinking about my next book, and just this morning in fact, I was stressing because I have a few different directions I want to go (I’d like to try fiction as well as nonfiction). I was feeling overwhelmed by the traditional wisdom that says pick one thing and go with it. When Chris talked about trying out different things when you’re just starting out I felt like I had my answer! This totally lifted a weight off my little entrepreneurial heart 🙂 can’t wait to read the book!

  138. Brittany

    This was such an insightful interview filled with information that I knew, but have failed to act upon. The aha moment for me was when Chris said eliminate the ideas that don’t bring you joy when you think of them. It’s so simple yet I have never done it. I have often forced myself to do things that I hate because everyone is saying you have to do this if you want to be successful. No more after today. Thanks Marie and Chris.

  139. Teresa

    Thank you for giving me permission to take the time to figure out the work that I truly want to do. After leaving a job in October, I feel a lot of pressure to find something new. You just reinforced the importance of taking the time to find something I love. Thanks!

  140. sigh. yes. courage to take the time to figure it out. I have at least six different ‘gifts and special talents’… and the dilemma has created butterflies in the stomach and heart ache since I was 15. So, clothing designs, books, acting, writing, illustrating, healing energy work…omg. Right now I’ve MERGED two which is totally fun- acting and healing work are super cool… But truth be told, I still get flutterbyes of sadness thinking of all the other possibilities that lie waiting… weird. one day at a time here on planet earth and with HelP we work our way Home xoxoxox
    Thanks to you both for your inspired work.

  141. Thanks, you two. I feel like you’ve just validated the entire trajectory of my adult life! I spent the first 2 decades of it as a school teacher, something I mostly enjoyed and was good at. People were surprised, worried and confused when I walked away from it (it was still working but I wasn’t happy) to start a business doing… all kinds of different things, because I’m also “multi-passionate.”
    Over the past 8-9 years of entrepreneurship I’ve been able to try lots of things and gradually eliminate the ones that I didn’t enjoy or weren’t working. My art interest and teaching ability converged and I now happily earn a living as a full-time artist, leading community mural projects, team-building events, and teaching art classes.
    It’s been a continual tweaking process, with lots of frustration along the way because I couldn’t, for the life of me, “specialize” the way everyone told me I should. But now in hind sight I see how each piece of the puzzle was being collected and shaped to fit together, forming a joyful career. Best of all, I am equipped to bring immense joy to others through the work that I do. (And B-School is helping me sharpen my focus even more!)
    I know I’ll always be tweaking, but with the confidence that every experience, good or bad, is helping to shape a more fulfilling future.

  142. Rianne

    I just recently discovered Marie TV and since subscribing to the show I have been binge watching episodes! Marie TV is so inspiring and informative.

    My single biggest insight is this nugget of wisdom:
    “When you’re starting out, expand your options and do everything you can to have a lot of different experiences. As you become more successful and experienced, you limit.”

    I am so grateful that I have reached this point in my life where I have a handful of options on my plate that I could see myself pursuing and finding joy in. However, having all these options is overwhelming and confusing to me. I didn’t know where to start or which one to pick. Now I know that I don’t have to choose just one. It is acceptable and encouraged to dabble in as many experiences I can get my hands on and go from there.

  143. Devon

    Oh man, Marie. Divine timing with this video for me. First off, thank you so much for all you do, for all the love you bring to the world. When you talk about that being the work you meant to do, you glow. We can feel it. And it makes a difference on a micro and macro level. So, thank you so much.

    The biggest insight I took away from this video was the fact that it’s okay to a) make mistakes b) change up your career and go down different paths.

    When I was a little girl, I would wake up at the crack of dawn, run downstairs, sit on the couch in the newly rising sun and write. I got lost in stories. Hours would pass, my parents would eventually come down, and I’d have (in my 6 year old mind) a book to show them.

    Another big part of who I was as a child was to be a loving, caring person. I used to ask for a little sister for Christmas so I could love someone up. My teachers wrote that I’d “give the shirt off my back” to fellow students. When I was in 4th grade, a boy flipped over his handle bars on a bike outside of school and no one was around. I found him badly hurt and alone. I ran and got a teacher and although they told me it was okay to leave, I couldn’t I stayed with him until the ambulance and his parents came and I gave him my sweater to squeeze onto when the pain got bad.

    These aspects of who I was never left. I grew up and graduated with Journalism, and then decided to try my hand in design. I went back to school for design, graduated and started my own clothing line. After knowing it was time to let that go, I applied for a job and for the past couple of years, have designed children’s accessories for a company out west. And yet, I’m about to embark again on another journey that feels so right I could cry. I’ve decided to take the huge leap into becoming a coach and helping businesses with holistic/heart-centered branding.

    This has brought up so much fear and like you said, I have times where I feel schizophrenic. But this video reminded me that it’s okay. IT’S OKAY to try and fail and try again. I even get myself in a tizzy when I don’t know how to explain in teh correct terms WHAT I want to do (a coach? image consulant? what is it?!). But you’ve reminded me, that who’s about WHO I want to be. And who I want to be is someone who helps people feel safe, loved, and cared for.

    Thank you Marie.

    Best,
    Devon

  144. Have the courage to experiment. As a new business owner, this is both scary, insightful and guiding.

  145. Maija Wade

    Thank you Marie and Chris for the permission to experiment. That’s exactly what I needed to hear this week. I especially like the line, “…do everything you can to have a lot of different experiences.” I say no to “a lot of different experiences” that sound wonderful but don’t have a clear path to monetization. In the absence of those experiences, I’m left guessing and longing for insight while repeating old, safe work types. It’s a relief to understand that I don’t have to know how my new experiences will turn out and that saying yes to them might bring the joy, money, flow combo. It’s also comforting to give myself permission to continue doing my old work while building up time and money for exploring the new things. Marie, I also want to say that your teachings, “everything is figureoutable” and “engagement breeds clarity, not the other way around,” as well as your coined term “multi-passionate entrepreneur” have kept the flame of entrepreneurship burning in me for years (I started following you in 2008 and did B-school in 20013) even though I felt stuck and overwhelmed my many different ideas. Today’s episode + your tried and true teachings presented ideas in such a way that it clicked for me…I now know what I need to say yes to next. Thank you so much!

  146. Nicole Ansari

    I love this video! I am one of these people who have known what they want to do/ be/ are since I was 6 years old: act! The challenge with that calling is that as actors we are so dependent on others giving us a job! So I went into certifications to become a Yoga Instructor, a coach and an OM Trainer. But really all I want to do is act! What to do when so much of your career is dependent on others wanting you? I am doing all the internal work, believe me. BUT….

  147. Valeria Danielle

    Hi Marie, and everybody else. I am happy to watch this video, I consider myself lucky, becouse I work in something I love, social programs in Medellín and Antioquia (Colombia), helping people to be more autonomous and proactive towards their lives. I also want to take this opportunity to congratulate you and the Team Forleo, becose the new site is great, modern and… cheerful. Thank you all for being there for all of us

  148. Bob

    I’ve lived your lesson this past week.
    I’m 67 and have a pretty easy job that lets me work from home and get paid Alexandria, VA wages. The work has its few moments of satisfaction, but its mostly monotony. I had told my self that 2016 was my last year and the exact date would tell me. Well last week the work told me. The level of stupidity and incompetence rose higher than I could stand. I looked at the calendar, and April has 3 paydays… perfect… I have a month of vacation saved up so I can at least keep my health bene’s till June and then Social security will kick in. And I get paid for a holiday while I am on vacation too.
    I was commiserating with one of my former workers/bosses and he told me he had a very successful business trip to Japan and asked if I would help him out if they were in a pinch. Yea life is good.
    So I’m soon to be back to Joy, money and flow.
    Great show, as always!
    Bob

  149. I loved ‘eliminate ideas that don’t bring you joy when you think of them!’ I think those non-joy ideas fall into the ‘should’ column of our lives, and frankly, I’ve lived too many years in that place. I want joy!

    • great take-aways … and your visual is pretty powerful Denise … thank you.

  150. Shona

    The point that you should let something go if you are not enjoying it even if you are good at it and the other side of the coin – you are not great at it yet but you derive great joy from it! I am in school to become an Equine Osteopath and as this is a complete career change at this point in my life and I am loving it but definitively struggling with it. I have been in IT for years and am good at it but am also not deriving the joy I once did from the work. Your video gave me things to think about. I would love to create an online business that is somehow related to this field I am studying but as I am a newbie it’s hard to figure it out and structure it to make money. Thanks for all these great bullet points to ponder on to make the path a bit clearer.

  151. Deon Kappenman

    Wow, I cant believe how perfect this message was. Thank you, Marie! I am enrolled in B-School and have been going through an unexpected re-evaluation of my career path. I found myself with lots of inner angst about whether or not I am in the right place and trying to convince myself that its just me and I am trying to self-sabotage the direction I already chose. As time goes on I am realizing I am trying to work with others who are not on the same page as me (business partners) and I am not here to change them. I am here to change myself from within and it seems to be pushing me in a new (slightly intimidating) direction. This video soothed my fears and gave me a great tool, the two questions, to take action.

  152. Laura

    Marie not only I enjoy today’s episode but I absolutely loved the new design of your web page. You wen’t from cool and easy to use to pretty classic, wide, and future-oriented. I feel like I have a Mac as my desktop computer when I really have a Dell. I’m sorry if I was too detailed is just that YOU-REALLY-DELIVERED! WOW! Great Work! Back to the episode, the most important lesson I learned from Chris was: IS OKAY TO FAIL because it comes with AMAZING OPPORTUNITIES. As you both said, society has programmed us to believe that we CANNOT GIVE UP. But sometimes is okay to give up and try a new way, a new path, a new career, a new love, or even a brand new life because you never know what this new “something” may get you into. It might as well be something as great as Marie TV. A round of applause for everyone who’s behind this great work.

  153. Definitely at a cross roads at the moment with my tea for dogs business that I launched about a year ago. Have an offer to sell it. On the fence because I know that I have not put the effort into growing it and it has potential. I’ve been consumed with my other business that actually makes money – my photography studio. Don’t want to have regrets either way. This episode was helpful. Loved the • how is it going? & • is it bringing joy?
    Have some soul searching to do….

  154. I liked this video, but there are certain aspects of being an entrepreneur which I don’t love and don’t experience the ‘flow’. I don’t think this means I should stop doing these things. Maybe what that requires is wrapping a different mindset around those activities and becoming aware of any negative attributions…
    Thanks Marie.
    xo,
    Karen
    Wellnessgirl.net

  155. Elaine Dolan

    Chris inspired me in a sort-of surprise way. Hah! First, I know I limit myself by the thinking, *Get over it. It’s too late for you, deary, as age has done it’s un-magic that it does to us all.* However, I have also been thinking that I’m doing this fascinating *job* even though I’m not being payed for it….I am cut out to be a critic and editor and sales person for GOOD books. Who woulda thunk, right? The multi-faceted part may be combining my insights in trauma therapies and writing for myself. Hmm.

  156. Kayli Chapman

    Loved this episode! I really liked hearing the advice to take your time figuring things out. I’m a young woman getting started in my career and I still feel somewhat aimless… It’s good to hear to take my time in trying different things. I’ve always been passionate and an entrepreneur-minded person, just haven’t known where to focus that energy. I look forward to the day when I’m doing what I was born for – whatever that may be! God help me figure it out.

  157. As usual another good episode of Marie TV. I love the comment that it’s ok to do several things and then once success (however, you determine it) rains down on you, you can be more selective about what you might say no to. I want to create an online business (am enrolled in B-School:-), but right now opportunities are popping up that are not online. However, they are of a similar nature to what I want to do online, and may end up fueling my online business, so I’m going with them. This comment validated my path right now; thank you Marie and Chris!

  158. I’ve been struggling with this subject for a long time and go back and forth trying to make some headway. The main touch point that sticks with me are the two key factors that you have to ask yourself 1. Is it working? 2. Are you happy?
    One of my favorite points from Tim Ferris (my alltime fav author) is if the movie sucks, stop watching it… if the recipe sucks, it doesn’t matter how good of a cook you are. It’s ok to quit!
    I will definitely be buying this book!

  159. This episode spoke to me on so many levels!!! I feel like I know what I want to do and it really has been a combination of interests that have led me to this discovery, but I can’t seem to make the transition from hobby to career. I have another job that I am very grateful for, but I do feel like my talents, skills and energy are being spent on work that leaves me very unfulfilled. I want so badly to follow my passion, but seem to lack the know-how to really make it happen. Thank you so much for the advice you give so freely because it really is inspiring and uplifting when you start feeling stuck!

  160. Kelly Anne Buchanan

    Enjoyed this conversation. Thanks Marie & Chris! Being in the flow and doing what you love for a living is so important (especially when most of us are spending 40+ hours a week at work!). I look forward to checking out your book Chris. I’m always looking for great reading recommendations for my clients.

  161. Angela

    Wow! I can actually say I do what I love and I’m sustaining my income. Thank you for sharing this gift if only everyone knew they had this potential. You to got it going on!!!!

  162. Troy Hanson

    Love the ideas and will definitely be buying this book for myself and my two teenage daughters. One piece of advice I might add (from experience); Don’t limit your options by getting too far in debt and taking on too many responsibilities before you feel like you have found what you were meant to do. I am 48 and still owe $40,000 in student loans and am trying to give my three children opportunities to become their best self and find their passions – while working a soul-sucking job that I hate, knowing what else I “should have been” and was meant to do, but will never be able to.

  163. LOVED THIS!!! I’ve been on the path of discovery for the past few years and it’s often the mishaps and detours that have led me to where I need to be. So much gold in this interview and such an awesome reminder that life is short, and we need to go after what’s right for us.

    Grabbing the book today !

  164. Cat

    I see I’m not alone. I was in tears watching this, because the frustration of not knowing which path(s) to take has me paralyzed, for fear of losing time, money or opportunities. I’ll be 40 this year and have unsuccessfully switched paths multiple times. I can’t afford another dead end. I hope the book will help!

  165. I loved the validation around quitting what 1) isn’t working and 2) doesn’t make me happy. I’ve always rolled this way, but often felt judged as a quitter or a flake. But I’ve learned that the only way to grow and succeed is to take consistent action and accelerate decisions. When you’re regularly focused on taking the next best step and doing so expeditiously, you’re bound to take a wrong turn here and there. No biggie, I say. Learn and pivot quickly, too.

  166. Anne

    This video helped me to get more clear about what I’m doing. 6 months ago I started a 1 year coaching program, invested quite a bit of money on it, and I am starting to feel like it is more busy work than actually being inspiring. I have no idea if I’m good at it, even though I am getting coaching experience. I would have to give it more time and increase my effort to know for sure if it will ultimately make me happy (right now it isn’t) and if it is working for me (not sure yet.) I am committed to sticking with it for the short term.
    Answering the 2 questions, “is it working?” and “is it making me happy?” will help me to make the right decision about continuing or quitting. Mind blowing, really, for someone with a mindset that winners never quit.

  167. Devan Vasquez

    It’s alright to give up on one dream and find another…
    I always have thought that I should do one job because I’m good at it and financially it’s great but happiness wasn’t always a factor. I had these unrealistic expectations for myself to be at a certain stage in my life by now. Being able to see that I can venture into many domains to find out what is right for me instead of just choosing one is important. I am afraid financially how I’m going to expand to another job/graduate school but I feel much better after seeing this video! I’m 25 and am thinking of going to graduate school to become a children’s librarian. People kept telling me that it would be boring, not as impactful as being a teacher and more negative aspects. I feel that might be my calling but honestly I am afraid of financially affording it, losing insurance from not having a full time job and more – would this be the right thing to go for myself? I feel much better after seeing this video but the fear of the unknown is still there.

  168. Love, love, love this video & topic you shared today! While I don’t particularly struggle with what it is I feel I’m meant to do, I have struggled with the confidence of pushing forward with it! I can relate to all the major points Chris pointed out, but especially the one about allowing yourself to experiment and try different experiences. I’ve done that in my own professional life, and what I found is that I always come back to that burning desire of my dream to be an entrepreneur and what I feel in my core I am meant to do.

    With that being said, I have finally summoned the courage to put that dream into the world. Like Marie, I also just launched my new website this week! Btw, just want to say that your new site rocks and I’m loving the look. To Marie and the whole team – thank you for doing what you do. I’ve been a fan for years and look forward to every Tuesday for your informative and inspirational videos. I also completed the B-School course 2 years ago, and although it took me some time to launch, I’ve stopped beating myself up about it and know that action (at any time) is better than living with the question of ‘what if?’ You discussed this in your latest MF insider email on the creative process and I truly felt you were speaking to me personally:)

    Again, thank you for being such a wonderful coach & inspiring force! Look forward to continuing the journey with you & all the valuable content you share with us.

  169. Amy

    Great advice. I wonder what Chris would say to a Neophile (craver of novelty) about getting bored – even with the things I enjoy(ed)? The one endeavor I’m getting paid the most for, is starting to bore me the most, but I’m good at it/it comes easy. The other endeavors – are a bit of the reverse – they would be considered hobbies. Though, wouldn’t mind getting paid more for doing them. 🙂

  170. Meka

    Hello! This video really spoke to me. I’ve always wanted to be a lawyer since I was a kid and recently graduated from law school and passes the Bar. However, I’ve been having a hard time finding a job in the area I targeted most of my experience to, thinking that if I got tons of experience in a particular area of law it would be easy. This video made me realize that I can explore other practice options because if it’s not working and if I’m not happy it’s time to move on.

  171. Maz-

    Great video for relationships too!

  172. Maz-

    Apply this advice to relationships too! Thank you!!!

  173. Shannon

    I’m currently enrolled in MF’s B-School. This topic and question has been a real struggle for me. I know what my strengths are (thanks for confirming, B-School!) and I think I know how I can contribute to the world. However!!! I tried to go down that path and I wasn’t successful. I stopped trying (it was after the 2008 collapse) and I just haven’t been able to find my way back onto the horse. I feel scared. I let it become “my story” (the failure). I don’t have the financial resources to make it come alive again so I would need a partner.

    What do you do when you know where you should be but can’t figure out how to get there?

    • Totally hear you, Shannon! Those stories we tell ourselves are so powerful… My story is that I’m really good at my craft (coaching) but not good at business (which is why I’m in B-School as well). But, sometimes I think my story keeps me from doing what is necessary to move forward. I can hide behind being “bad at business.” It almost becomes an excuse for not putting myself out there. :-/

      • Shannon

        Hi Marjorie,
        Glad to hear you are in B School too. I think it is helping but it also brings a lot of things to the surface. All good in that we have to deal with them! I really hear you when you talk about your “story”. It can be a great place to hid, that’s for sure.
        Best of luck. xo

    • Alison

      Hi Shannon,
      You just spelled out my situation – practically verbatim, including timing and the sense of ‘returning’ to something unfinished (not yet failure, but six years is a long time to be sitting in the same place…); allowing that to define my story and not having the financial resources to revisit options. Sigh.
      Looks like we’re in the right place… Hang in there!

  174. Great job, Chris! And thanks, Marie, for hosting him! Us Boomers were indoctrinated with the “don’t be a quitter” mantra, so it’s refreshing to know that that mindset is on its way out. And, at my age, I appreciate this info as much as the new-to-careers and career-changers! Finding meaningful work that brings in Chris’ Big 3 is a life long activity and creates that “happiness of pursuit”!

  175. It made me question some ideas and experiences, so that alone was a great exercise. Pausing and thinking about some of my projects to check if that’s working for me…

  176. I love that last uuummm Marie it almost feels like there should be an accent over the u.

  177. Suresh

    Your work or a career of your choice is very important. You have to be very selfish in making a choice of your work because your survival and happiness depend upon it. Most people have failed in this department . I have notice that the parasites don’t love their work
    You asked some very intelligent questions. I enjoyed the video

  178. This is so inspiring… I know I’m doing what I’m meant to be doing, but I still got lots of nuggets of goodness out of this interview. And I agree: sometimes we do have to tweak a few things here and there, and that’s ok. It’s ok to let go of what is not working anymore. Thanks for sharing this with us.

    BTW, I love your new website design! So clean and polished. It looks so beautiful! 🙂

    Have a wonderful week!

  179. Sofía

    I always had that voice in my head telling Focus Focus is encouraging to hear that this should not be so, I can do several things and look what I like and what I like and is profitable

  180. Love the new website. Thanks for this video. I really need this now.
    I’m 33 and I’m starting to understand now a lot about me. So I know I’m a good photographer, I would love to be an artist. I don’t know maybe I should do a master to improve my skills. Thanks for this video. Love you Marie. I’m sure I’m gonna buy this book. xxx

  181. Oh this was just what I needed as I sit in the abyss between what I know I’m good at and want to contribute and what I love, and want to explore.. Im reminded I can do them both! In fact it sounds like in order for me to find out what will bring me joy and is workable, Its imperative I try them both!

  182. Angie

    Great video. Thank you. The biggest take away for me is that I need to give myself permission to stop working at a job that is no longer serving me. Thank you Marie & Chris

  183. I really loved this!

    I want to THANK YOU BOTH for stressing out that “it’s okay to quit”. So many people make us feel like failures when we leave something unfinished even though it didn’t feel right for us anymore.

    I took an acting class that I loved but after starting my second year in the same school, something was off. Plus, I had finally joined a group of writers to help develop this skill and it felt like home. I decided to leave and I have no regrets. It’s not that the school wasn’t good, it’s that I found a home.

    Thank you!

  184. Katherine

    FANTASTIC episode!!! Thank you so much! My greatest insight was what he said about medeocracy – I am good enough to make money at lots of things that however DO NOT bring me joy. ? His example about accounting was such an eye-opener … I need to quit things even if I am good at them so can find the thing that I EXCELL at and the feeds my heart and soul! Anyone else have that resonate with them? Who’s with me?

    • Such a good point wasn’t it Katherine! It made me think of the phrase: Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Here’s to JOY and heart and soul 😀

  185. Like you Marie I have many passions and I’ve started many projects and businesses to find out which one’s “the One”. Yesterday I sent a prayer to the universe and asked to show me the steps I need to take to find out what it is that I should be doing. The next day I had your email in my inbox – magic! I stopped the video twice to write things down, the first time when Chris talked about “Joy, Money & Flow” and the second time when you said – or he said, can’t remember – “Eliminate ideas that don’t bring you joy when you think of them”. That was some great advice. And I think I can eliminate most of them straight away. At least for now. If I’m meant to be doing it, it’ll come back to me. I guess the letting go is a big one for me, freeing myself from the burden that some of these ideas and projects have become. Thanks for your wisdom Marie and Chris. x

  186. Great video! The biggest take away for me is “Joy Money and Flow”. Love this concept. I also appreciate hearing that it is okay to rearrange the puzzle pieces. Recently I retired to pursue my passion of doing art. The sales are slow in coming. I feel that I’ve found my joy and my flow but the money is not happening (yet). So, its OK to let go (of the idealized vision) of making a living from art and to find a source of income until I have all my ducks in a row. And I have “Joy Money and Flow”!! Thank you.

  187. Kate

    I like the advice not to beat ourselves up.
    And there’s a lot here that seems a bit unrealistic. I don’t think Chris has ever been a single mom! 😉
    Back to B-School lessons

  188. Wow. You made me realize that part of my struggle is I used to love what I do and now I’m feeling stuck and can’t quit. Anyone who has worked with me and knows me would tell you I’m great at my job. I’ve loved it for many, many years but the boss I loved working with retired and I wanted to try and make my hobby, my work. The paralegal offers started coming in. Feeling pressured to make more money I went on an interview thinking I’ll shoot for the sky. I was shocked and felt like I couldn’t say no after they gave me everything I asked for and then some.

    I know people would say I’m crazy to quit but I’m in a larger firm and not as happy. I do have good days but I just said to my husband the other day – “my heart just isn’t in it”. Watching this just confirmed for me it’s time to be done. I don’t think a smaller firm is even the answer. It’s time for me to move on and I know it. But it’s also scary. Thanks for all the support. I plan to watch the other episodes you listed here!

  189. I really enjoyed this week’s episodes and reading everyone else’s journey and take-aways. I love the idea about it being ok to try lots of things … it gives me and a lot of other folks tremendous validation and resulting clarity. Love it!! Also loved being reminded that it is ok to quit something … it’s all about the journey and what we learn on the way … super important and so fantastic to be reminded it’s all ok … loved it all … love how you inspire .. and I LOVE your new website … it’s light and bright … just like your awesome self and your team. THANK YOU!!!

  190. LEA

    Marie and Chris,. thanks for coming together again of another great episode. I loved this so much because it has allowed me the frame of mind and space to let go of some of my team members.,something that wasn’t working and not bringing any joy anymore. Really battled with this one for awhile. Thank You for the reminder.

    P.S. The website is on FAYAHHH!!

  191. Adrian

    The part about trying out different things has resonated with me. Over the last 20 years I’ve worked in different areas (English teacher & trainer, translator, technical writer, care worker, and youth worker) and completed three degrees. In most cases, jobs have worked okay, I’ve been happy enough, and it supports my family, so I’ve kept going with different projects which have mostly resulted in mediocre satisfactory performances. This video and your free audio training have been helpful in stimulating my thoughts on how I could feel a greater sense of flow and enjoyment in my working life. Although I don’t know it yet, it’s encouraging to believe that I could contribute something useful/something more to society and experience the feeling of been born to do it. Thanking you and your team. With best wishes, Adrian

  192. Jen Olsen

    Left “just ok” and am now in expansive mode. Only joy, money and flow from now on. Thank you both!

  193. This video is the one That what Im looking for.. I Like it! Thanks Marie and Chris…Im on the same situation and because of this video I hope It will help me to find the right career for me. Thanks

  194. Diana

    Another great Q&A tuesday Marie, love you!

  195. Great interview! And super interesting timing, Marie… You dropped this video in my Inbox this morning and I just received an invitation to Chris’s OC Book tour, in Irvine, CA this week! Looking forward to attending the event with other’s that are asking the same questions as me.

    Thanks for sharing the good stuff!

  196. LOVE the new website so much, especially the emphasis on philanthropy, giving back and making a difference – these are my passion areas!

    Fantastic episode here too – looks like I have another book to add to my epic reading list!

    Thank you all!

  197. Sophia

    I have always thought of myself as ‘scattered’ becasue I like all the things and frequently have amazing ideas that I end up abandoning in pursuit of something else. I alwasy felt ashamed of that, but now I feel proud becasue all those paths and ideas and decisions have lead me to here. And here is only getting better.

  198. Just the video I needed to watch to start my day! As an entrepreneur we go through so many changes and challenges. My business is currently going in a new direction but I’m unsure what to do with the clients that don’t make me happy and have me questioning is this working. I would only be keeping them on for financial security. What I took from the video is it’s okay to move on. To ask yourself, 1. is it working? 2. am I happy?
    I live in Australia so Q&A Tuesdays is my Wednesday morning treat 🙂

  199. I love this! As a college student, I feel like it is forced on you to know RIGHT NOW what you are going to do after you graduate. As if people expect you to have your entire career mapped out now.

    Today’s video really reinforced for me the importance of being open to any possibility, to have the courage to both follow a unique path as well as say no to something that is not making me happy and bringing me joy. It is difficult for me to trust that everything will work out once I graduate, even if I still don’t yet know exactly what I want to be doing.

  200. Tara

    Me again… I LOVE the new website!!! One of the best websites I’ve seen in a while. Fun and personal, all while having a great business structure.

  201. Lucy

    This episode is such a nice validation for me – I’ve tried lots of things, I’ve felt like everyone else knows what path they’re on but I’m still faffing about trying to figure it out, AND I’ve tried things and then quit them – and I’ve always felt guilty, bad and like a quitter for not sticking with things. I have also thought – if I did a course or a job and then by learning about that particular career path I have realised ‘Whoa! That is SO NOT what I want to do with my life’ and so pulled out of it and moved onto something else – surely that is a good thing, rather than working for years in that field and being miserable – I’m a super fast learner and I think I do understand pretty quickly what I DON’T want. There are no things that I’ve quit that I regret! So thank you for making me feel like that path is totally valid.
    New site looks great 🙂

  202. Thank you for sharing this topic.
    It is very good to hear that it is ok to change our direction. I also like to add to much into my business but it is good to stay clear with what I really like to do, or change my way of direction to something I truly love.
    Thank you!

  203. I loved the “how to know when to quit” part! I get this question a lot and it is never a cut and dry answer. Those 2 questions can provide such a perfect framework to figure things out. Thank you for sharing.

  204. Candy

    I believe that the universe aligns to give you what you need and I really needed this advice! I thought I wanted to become a doctor. Ever since I was in high school that was my goal and then I kept kind of working towards this goal but even when I tried applying this past year I felt like my hear wasn’t in it and like I was dragging my feet. I think I was afraid to admit to myself and to my dad, who has done to much to help, that it just didn’t feel right. I’ve decided instead to apply to be a physician assistant and I’m still a little torn because I feel like I’ve let go of something I thought I wanted for so long and I have to say it’s really scary, but I’m finding that applying to PA school is flowing so easily, like you said in the video. It’s scary changing your mind after so many years and going for something else but I’m trying to think that maybe this was what I was supposed to be doing. I look forward to reading the book and gaining more tools and skills as I go forward.

  205. Lauren

    Love the suggestion that you don’t have to concentrate on just ONE idea… and that it’s safe to let go of what is not working. Very inspiring! Thank you xo

  206. This video was so awesome! I am getting this book! I own a successful Virtual Assistant company and although I love what I do I still feel like I can be doing more. My goal is to help people – I love helping my clients grow their businesses and I love providing jobs to hard working and creative individuals. My brain never stops and I always have a million ideas of more things I can be doing. I’m very anxious to read this book!

  207. Rob

    Whoa, what an amazing site design.

  208. Lori

    This was such a great episode for me to watch. It I was great to hear that it is ok to quit something that just isn’t working. I have a business venture that in the words of today’s episode has become a “hobby”. This venture does support itself…but it does not support me (financially). Although I have been very happy doing it, I have started to see the pint of time it is taking away from spending time doing things with my family and friends. One of the reasons I have not quit is that I thought it would give the appearance that I had failed. Yes, I said the “appearance that I failed”. As I write this I find that I am actually spending my valuable time on something…just to prove a point to other people that I did not fail…silly, huh? And all this time, I am sure the “other people” aren’t even paying attention and couldn’t care less if I quit.

    So, I quit! I will fulfill my immediate commitments, all while giving notice not only to those I partner with, but to me also. Wow! How liberating!

    Now I will have more time for family, friends, and me!

    And I will have more time for my other business that I spring boarded into off of a 25 year corporate career…and that I LOVE to do and MAKES me MONEY!

    Thank you, thank you for sharing this very important episode of Marie TV!

  209. What resonated the most for me – when Chris talked about studying accounting and that if he had been ok at it, he might have continued.
    So what happens if you’re ok at something, you’ve built up your skill set over time, but inside you still feel like you’re only ok at it, even if you know you’re way ahead of where others are with this skill set (and so you could easily do this for others) – do you keep going (when you alternate days where you like it and days where you want to throw the towel in)? or do you let it go?

  210. Amber

    Thank you Chris and Marie.
    Still learning about when to give up on something and let it go.
    Thanks for the reminder about not having to pick one specific area and that it takes time for things to happen.
    Great, informative video!

  211. Thanks for another great video. I am not familiar with Chris’ books but I love his perspective and insights.
    Two take aways for me. 1. Winners know when it’s okay to lose/stop/quit ( no more beating our heads against the wall)
    2. Always be in search of opportunities that bring, joy, money and flow.

    Really good stuff, thank you!

  212. Banging new site Team Forleo, congratulations!

  213. Ingrid

    Love this topic! I give hope…I was 61 (15 years ago!) when I finally nailed the combination…passion, purpose and fulfilment. How thrilled am I to report that is my best year yet….and I said that last year too!!

  214. Daphne Newman

    As per usual, I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your messages and who you bring on as your guests; they all seem to resonate with how my journey is evolving! Since I started watching Marie TV 3 years ago and being a 2014 grad of B-School, I personally have come full circle with my passion. It originated in my late teems/early 20s and ended 14 years later and it has taken another 20 years of many more experiments and life experiences to land here again at age 52. Those experiences had their success stories but in the end I know they were not “The ONE”. It used to be difficult to start and stop my ideas because you just can’t help but feel like a failure or appear like you don’t know what you are doing you feel like a scattered bozo and these ideas do cost lots of time, energy and money. But you do eventually realize that it is ok and that permission button becomes visible and you just can’t give a rat’s ….. I am very fortunate to have attracted some very wonderful people with good energy who support my ambitions, my obvious relentless crazy spirit and drive to not give up till I land this sucker once and for all 🙂

  215. Jennifer Campbell

    Loved this! !!! Thank you.

  216. ‘Successful people give up.’
    I think the quote went something like that 🙂 AWESOME!

  217. This video just backed up everything I’ve been learning at B-School for the last couple of weeks, Marie. I started it with some confusion over where I wanted to challenge my energy (out of my various passions/ideas), and now you’ve given me such clarity, that I know exactly where I’m going. Thank you so much both for B-School and for this great video, which confirms everything I now know 🙂

  218. Love this video! I am going to Chris’ book launch in Irvine on Friday and cannot wait to read the book. As a current B-schooler, this helped me get clearer on my business (and if it’s working and if I’m happy). Thank you!!

  219. Hi,
    I really identified with today’s video! I was 35 when I started to pursue the life I was meant to have. I was so miserable because I thought I should know at my age. I started trying things. I was a driving instructor, I got my Masters in Industrial Design. Low self-esteem kept me from sending my resume out. I had a decorator work with my living room and in the process we made my coat closet larger and changed the orientation of the closet doors. I designed the interior of my closet and my first business was born: The Closet Works. In the process of promoting my business, I taught a class at the local community college, called “One of These Days I’ll Get Organized”. I discovered I loved being in the classroom with adults more than crawling around in people’s closets.
    From there, I had enough self-esteem to send out a resume and was hired by a major University in the adult enrollment department. All my colleagues had a Masters in Counseling. I was hired because I started a business and had gone back to school as an adult. Around that time, I realized what my life’s purpose was which is to help people reach their full potential. When I looked back, I saw that all of my jobs were aligned with helping others reach their full potential, whether I was liberating women who were dependent on others to drive them places, teaching them to use their space in more practical ways or expand their organizing skills, in other words, helping them reach their full potential.
    I won’t go into the details of rest of my journey but in the 40 years since I started this journey, I’ve done personal and professional development work with college professors, homeless adults, staff, managers and leaders of a regional medical center, classroom teachers and most recently with older adults as a public health educator for a local health department. When I was 56 I got my doctorate in Adult Education.
    As you and Chris discussed, I expanded my options and then limited my options. I am a Life Coach and will be retiring at the end of May and am a bschooler, and ready to be an entrepreneur again. At this point I express my purpose this way, I help people discover and liberate the parts of themselves that are longing to emerge.
    It really has been a magnificent journey! (And, it’s not over).

  220. Dulce

    What I got from this episode is this – that finding your passion / what you’re designed to do is a process! We can be doing a lot of things right now, but once we decide that we need to do what we’re called to do, we now shift our focus and determine that career that just comes out naturally from us.

  221. Loved this video Marie.

    My favourite bit was the two questions to ask yourself when making a decision:

    (i) is it working?
    (ii) Do i still enjoy this?

    Thanks very much 🙂

  222. Marie- you continue to be an inspiration in my life and I whole-heartedly appreciate the work that you do! I am proud to be multi-passionate just like you. 🙂

    Chris- Alway and forever a fan (and of course a proud WDSer). Congrats on the new book! I will be picking up a copy soon. Thank you for addressing the Joy*Money*Flow aspect. It is key in life and I’m working to get all three aligned with your guidance.

    Thank you both! Stay beautiful!
    -Kristen

  223. Haylee

    Marie,

    Thank you so much for your videos! I love them – they ground me and help me. You are an inspiration. The biggest takeaway from this video was that quitting is actually a major skill to learn. That concept makes me feel more free to make choices based on what is best for me, and not what society believes is best for me.

    Important Question: What do you do when you love your job, but the environment is overly hostile, sarcastic, and negative? I am an outgoing, kind, and positive person, but this negative work environment is starting to weigh me down. What are my options? How can I continue to be positive without feeling tired and drained? Should I persevere and hope for the best? Or set my boundaries and move on? Please help!

    Lots of love,
    Haylee

    • Ivee B.

      Hey Haylee! Just wanted to share with you that I share a similar sentiment. I just quit my job because I simply could not work in an environment that you described— negative. At first I thought it was just me who was sensitive and negative, but then it really started to take a toll on my mental health and my work, to the point where I was just dragging myself every morning to go to work. The employee turnover in that company was an average of 2-3 months, so it said a lot about the culture too. I felt drained and unhappy. As for your situation, is the job something you won’t be able to find in another company or work setting? I’ve learned that as long as you have the skill set and disposition, you’ll find “that” job in many other places, not just in one company or industry. So is it really worth staying in that draining environment? As Chris said in the video: 1. Is it working, and 2. Are you happy? 🙂 Good luck and I hope you find the answers!

      • Haylee

        Ivee,

        Thank you SO much for your input and for sharing your personal story. I feel overwhelmed with support and encouragement. Similarly to your situation, the negative work environment is taking a toll on my mental and physical health. I was pressuring myself to keep this position because job itself is great and comes with many benefits. However, the culture is deplorable and it is not worth the jeopardy of my health. To answer your questions… Is it working? Eh, not really. Am I happy? Surely not. As we both know, it takes great strength to know when to say no, and I do believe that time is now.

        Thank you so much for being a positive supportive! I appreciate your kindness and generosity to respond to my post! 🙂

  224. Ivee B.

    Amazing! This came at such a perfect time. I’ve been watching your videos for a long time, Marie, but this is the first time I’m participating in the discussion. As always, your interview is packed with valuable insights, not only because of your kick-ass guests, but also because of your great interviewing skills.
    The biggest insight for me is “Quitting is a valuable skill”. I’m 27, and I’ve been in various industries (non-profit, food industry, education, heck even a year in graduate school, and now, a tech startup) and still searching. One thing I’m passionate about is music, but I’ve come to terms with the fact that it’s really a hobby and a craft that not necessarily needs to be a career. I just quit my last job at a tech startup because 1- It wasn’t working, and 2- I wasn’t happy. As an HSP (highly sensitive person), being in a toxic environment with an ego-centric boss was just not in line with my values. I was also given a job title that I didn’t apply for – project management assistant- and I suck at it. It’s just liberating to be able to free myself from something that’s not serving me anymore, and giving myself permission to continue with the search.

  225. Gabriella

    Thanks guys!!
    My fave quote is “Is it still working” and “Are you still happy”… questions a lot of people may not stop to ask themselves… Great questions to chew on!

  226. Give your self permission to quit ! Such a great piece of advice . How often do we waste our valuable energy trying to make things work . Thank you .

  227. Maria do Carmo Righini

    insight: we need to take the time we need to figure out what is it that we want to do. Forcing to focus too early may not be a good idea. I think it is a question of giving ourselves permission to try and also trusting ourselves. Thank you!

  228. Your episodes are always super timely, so thank you Marie and Chris!! Asking the 2 questions, then tweaking or quitting is a super duper helpful tip. I’m also LOVING the joy-money-flow concept and now I definitely will be expanding my options. I too have always felt a bit scattered with all my interests and passions, but now I am excited to throw my gifts out there and see which ones bring that joy-money-flow to life! La’Chaim!

  229. Charley

    It’s been my experience that you may know something you’re great at and have a strong desire to do, but the methods you’re using to be successful aren’t working. In which case, keep the dream but let go of the “how” you think you’ll achieve it. For me, that is acting – have loved performing since I was a kid; I’m a talented performer and that joy has always persisted. Now in my early 30s I still aspire to be a stage and film actor, but experience no current joy from the pursuit. In fact, after going through some rough circumstances that allowed me to step back and assess my life as of this point, I came to the conclusion that I have been going about achieving this in a narrow way – the typical move to the big city, work a meaningless day-job approach. I’ve been doing this since finishing grad school about 5 years ago, and it’s hindered my life in various ways. And I’m not even in L.A. or NYC yet – the thought of moving life there for more meaningless bread and butter work felt so horrible to me. So I let it go and removed the “hows” to being successful in the ways I desire from factoring into my perspective. In its place, I’ve been able to focus on happiness now and where I find that that – in love, new prosperity forthcoming, new paths that utilize much of what I love and am good at (beyond just performing). As new opportunities are showing up, new people coming into my life, I feel even more sure that I will find my treasured success. It first takes belief in yourself – talents and desires, then an openness to “how.” Marie and Chris are correct – letting go brings about a freedom. I didn’t realize how I was trapping myself for so long by so narrowly pursuing what I was/am “meant” to do. At this point, the right work will come, the money will come but the joy is already present because I know they are coming.

  230. I really loved the part about how to narrow your focus, when starting out with a number of interests/passions/talents. I’ve been soul searching around that topic for a while now. Thank you for giving me answers 🙂

  231. It is pretty cool content !

  232. Jennie Robertson

    Great video – my only criticism is Marie’s use of the term “schizophrenic”. As a clinical psychologist (and human being!), I feel very strongly about people incorrectly using mental health terminology, especially when it can further stigmatise people living with mental health problems.

  233. Cherie

    I like the advice that even if your mediocre at something, its ok to give up!

  234. OMG l loved this video and Chris’ concepts of Joy, Money and Flow and also thinking like an entrepreneur every time. Finding your purpose is a subject which should be thought in school to be honest. The reasons being that there is a lot of “cost” in the entire Universe through people not living their path as they are born to do so. A lot of psychological , financial and many other problems occur due to a lot of obstacles that people encounter. I love your concept Chris not only it will encourage people to persue their paths with much better understanding. I know how this feels because l have been there before. l spent years running away from that most crucial statement that my grandmother once shared with me “You are not in this world by accident. You need to find what your life purpose is. And when you find this, your true happiness begins and goes all the way down to freedom of your soul. Only then can you start to control your own destiny.”
    I wish l listened and connect more with myself long time ago though pretending as if that little voice which tells you to listen to your gut is not happening it has a “cost tag” attached to it.
    Thank you so much Marie you rock as always. Hmm beautiful heart , beautiful gifts, beautiful spirit and beautiful makeover of the site?

  235. Amazing! Thank you Chris and Marie! For a long time I have been ‘expanding’ and learning many paths of spirituality and teaching yoga, health and wellness to clients and trying many different things and then one day I found my path, however it was a quiet calling in my heart and I was not yet ready to let these other things go and to fully embrace this inner voice….which is to become a Book Author!! You have explained clearly what it is I have been feeling and I feel now it’s time to let go and fully embrace writing these books that keep flowing from my mind! Thank you with all the love from my heart! Annette xo

  236. Iamzhayla

    I totally love this episode cos I can relate so much with the struggle of finding that one thing to concentrate on. I also just set aside one of my business (I wasn’t happy) to pursue something that I love and hopefully eventually find a way to make it into a business. Thank you for validating that somehow I made the right decision and now I can just concentrate on all the action steps that I need to do in order to live the life that I want.

  237. I feel like I watched this video at the exact right time.

    I’ve been trying something I thought was right but I’m not getting anywhere and it’s not making me happy but I’ve been afraid to drop it because I worry that ‘giving up’ is failing and what that would mean for me.

    There is a different path that’s been calling my name for a while now and so I feel I need to be true to this. It’s not so wildly different from what I’m doing now it just involves some rejigging but I feel like it’s time to be honest with myself.

    Thank you for this video, it’s encouragement like this that stops me from torturing myself! x

    • Joy Manoleros

      Torturing myself! That’s the phrase I wad looking for!
      Congrats on your revelation and blessings for your new adventure!

  238. Sheryl Bishop

    I was thrilled to hear that if its not working financially, we can keep it as a hobby and move on to something else. This is now what I want to do with my work, which I haven’t been able to make financially successful, so now to look at trying something different. It feels like a relief, yet scary, but also feels like I will be more in the flow. Thank you, that is a big one for me.

  239. Richard de Groot

    Hi Marie, this discussion only showed me more about the decisions I made in life and that they were the right ones. I know where I need to go now as I have found the next direction to take. I am so grateful for your insight today.

  240. Great episode. My favourite nugget was that winners quit all the time. It’s true that we are constantly reminded not to give up but sometimes what we are doing is producing “just ok” results and no longer gives us that satisfaction that it once did. It is ok to take what you’ve learnt and move on to new projects.

    Thanks Marie and Chris!

    P.S. Love the new site too

  241. Indiana

    What a load of fantastic insights . . . I cannot thank you enough to have posted this interview. WOW, WOW, WOW!!! I love the concept: joy, money, flow, what an eye opener. I am so glad to learn every day I have been in the right path, I just need to stop procrastinating and listen to my own choice -not the one that are always crowding my senses!
    Many blessings to you Bella!
    Eventually yours
    Indiana Williams, Independent Beauty Consultant
    Mary Kay, Inc.

  242. Ramona

    This was really useful to me today because I´ve been offered a job and am not sure how to go about it. I want a new job and this is the first one I´ve been offered but I don´t feel happy! As Chris said: “Eliminate ideas that don´t bring you joy when you think about them”. No, I don´t feel joy so I think it´s better for me to start searching uuntil I feel it!
    Thanks Chris & Marie!

  243. Claudia

    LOOOOOOVE this sexy site!!!!! Yay!!!!!
    So the part where Chris discusses how to let go of something, or rather when to, those are great guidelines for making that change.
    I’ve excelled at tasks in mediocre teams, and so been looking for different teams. Now I am going it alone and hoping to tick both the happy and fulfilled boxes.
    xoxo

  244. Joy Manoleros

    “Eliminate ideas that don’t bring you joy when you think of them.” This smacked me in the head! Everything about this video was like a glass of cool water in the desert.
    I’m 52, still trying to get out of my own way, and y’all have given me permission to quit! I’ve tried the blog, running an Etsy shop, keeping up with my Facebook biz page…..all because that’s what you’re “supposed” to do to get yourself out there and get clients who buy your stuff. But I spin my wheels and have NO time to make art. I’ve been living frustrated for several years, and I’m no further ahead than I was in 2007 when I began.
    Because of our financial situation I work a day job I love (thank God), and lately I’ve had the revelation that I need to create for joy in my free time and stop trying to force the creative life I want to happen.
    This was confirmation for me to just BE…. because making art based on what others will buy/like kills creativity.

  245. Antony Liberopoulos

    Thank you Marie for this interview! I will buy Mr Guillebeau’s book, because I feel that I will get more insight on what I might be doing really well! Thank you for your great personality and great work!

  246. “Quitting is a valuable skill.” So much truth!

  247. Hi Everyone,
    As many of you, I turned 40 recently.
    However, I KNOW what I want to do, but I need a salary too, so stick to a job that I do not like, but it gives me salary.
    Meanwhile, I’m writing a book on Confidence and wanting to grow a business to coach people feeling stuck.
    I also train groups on doing business with multi-cultures.

    The issue is that I ‘m absolutely not earning enough to live from, but the stress of the job is creeping up on me 🙂

    Thank you Marie & Chris & everyone here for writing so much.
    Rachel

    Rachelsmets(.)com

  248. As I watched this awesome video, I blurt out a big, resounding YES! This spoke so well to how we often have to challenge much of what we are taught in conventional school , work, and even in the advice and personal development spheres. Marie, Thank You! I love all your content, delivered with joyful enthusiasm. I am one of the many “multi-passionate” entrepreneurs/people out there, and WOW is it refreshing and reassuring that I am both a) certainly not alone (actually among some pretty brilliant company) and b) very well and likely am on the verge of something tremendous. May the blessings you bring to the world be multiplied back to you many, many times.

  249. My biggest take away? Learning that it’s OK to quit when it’s not working and giving me joy. Knowing that I can give myself permission to stop and move on is so helpful. Thanks, Marie, as always for rockin my world 🙂

  250. P.S. I LOVE your new website. So chic !

  251. becky

    Wow, this was a great episode and very timely for me. Recently – I have been feeling like my career of 20 years (which has been AMAZING and taken me all around the world), is not for me anymore. There’s a part of me that says I’m crazy to make a change now, but the other part of me has accepted that it is ok to explore other ideas, to find what feels good. And it feels so good to admit I am ready for a shift, and to give myself permission to try other things. Thank you so much for validating that! It’s scary, but I going to to follow my fear. You guys are the best!!!

  252. Tonya

    Fantastic interview. I have always subscribed to the philosophy that with grit and hard work you can push through anything. As I continue to grow and expand personally and professionally I have realized that grit and hard work can only get you so far – you need joy and flow to move to the next level.

  253. Really love the notes about broadening focus and then narrowing, and that winners quit all of the time. I have freedom to experiment!
    Thanks, Chris and Marie!

  254. Thank you for this video Marie & Chris! Quitting is a valuable skill – one that I’ve misunderstood and underestimated. Just hearing those words and explanation about perseverance being good for some goals, but not all already makes me feel lighter and more motivated to keep true to my heart. It also has helped me feel better about the decision making I’m doing to keep moving forward this week. Right now I’m in between leaving a job a was super passionate about (the job changed so much I needed to leave for my own good) and finding/creating a new work for myself. My journey has been a mix of new experiences, learning, and growth and wonderful moments I didn’t even know were possible and times of feeling lost and doubtful and beating myself up for quitting. I know in my heart that leaving my job of 15 years and working on recreating myself was the absolute right thing for me to do. There have been so many magical things that have worked out since I’ve taken this leap, yet my internal critic can still be hard to silence and it creeps up on me, getting me down, often saying “You quit at something you loved. What makes you think you can do anything else successfully?” This steals my energy to move forward. I am not going to let myself feel bad anymore for quitting. I am a really hard worker, so quitting is one of the most uncomfortable things I’ve ever done. Thank you for allowing me to see it in a better way. It was a necessary step I needed to take. I was great at my old job, but I’m becoming even better for myself and others with what I am becoming. Thank you again for your video today and all you do. You’ve put some wind back in my sails today!
    Much gratitude & love,
    Mary

  255. Tricia

    Thanks for the video. I was so excited when I saw you were interviewing Chris Guillebeau. I love The $100 Startup, it sent me on this journey of entrepreneurship. I most enjoyed the comments about following a few things in the beginning and limiting them later on. I have struggled to try and narrow down my “niche” that I was getting discouraged . Thanks for the encouragement that it’s okay and that it’s all apart of the journey. I’ve retied my shoes and am back on the road.

  256. Pamela Schmidt

    Great episode and LOVE the new site! Marie – it resonated with me when you said what you wanted to do as a child. I always wanted to teach, but as I grew up, being a teacher (as in a school teacher) didn’t resonate with me at all. I have had many careers and found my passion in my 40’s and guess what? I’m teaching! I teach (coach) people about health, wellness and achieving abundance in their lives. I get goosebumps when someone tells me I have helped them and it brings me absolute joy.

  257. Only minutes before I watched this episode I was having a serious talk with my brother about his future. Career goals and such. Sending this to him now. Excellent message! Adding his books to my to-read list. 🙂

  258. The timing of this is great because I am 3/4 of the way through his “The Happiness of Pursuit” audiobook, so it was fun to hear his voice as opposed to his words through the voice of an actor.

    I loved this because I am one of those individuals who ‘reinvented’ herself several times over, beginning with working for a television / theatre director, to being a corporate administrative assistant, personal trainer, office manager of an architectural firm, MELT instructor, massage therapist and MELT Master Trainer.

    I truly believed my calling was to be a famous actress. When I was young, I wanted to be known as one of the very most talented. I wanted and Emmy, Tony, Oscar AND a Grammy!

    Now I look back on that girl and thank the LORD that none of that came to be.

    However…

    I would say the time I spent in my 20’s working in Hollywood and Broadway paved the way for the creative work I long to do now. Sitting (and rotting) at a desk taught me discipline and practical skills. Being a bodyworker and MELT instructor has opened my soul and belief that anyone can be what they want to be if they set their mind to it.

    Now I am in B-School, learning and creating. It is invigorating and infuriating as I have idea babies growing inside of me and I want to birth them all now, in my typical impatient way.

    But there is no rush… this is a continual process and the journey IS the destination.

    Thank you, Chris, for your book, experience, observations and teachings.

    Thank you, Marie, for being the exact mentor I need right now at this moment.

    p.s. my website is in the process of moving from it’s currently home to a Square Space site. I need new photos and WAY better content. No judging if you choose to click on the link! 😉

  259. Panto Thenic

    Marie, site problem! Went to the main page showing you and Chris G. Underneath, I clicked on the link that says “Watch Now”. Nothing happened, no video popped up, nada, nyet, nein, zip point doo doo.
    I use the Firefox browser, if that matters. I’ve heard Firefox doesn’t always handles things well. I’ll catch it on YouTube. Keep up the good work.

  260. This was so awesome and I felt a big sense of relieve, because I am from Germany where they make you focus on THE CAREER by the time you are only 16 years old. I also had my kids watch this, because Marie TV and some things in B School are part of my homeschooling curriculum….Thank You Marie for ALL you do!

  261. Shiellah

    The thing that resonated the most with me from this episode was that giving up is OK. I have changed many jobs and have been offered several opportunities to “move up” and make more money in life, which I am grateful for. But the dangerous thing is the mentality that I have to stick with it, no matter if I feel it’s for me or not. I have the habit of getting into a depressing rut in my jobs that, when I finally leave them, I wonder what took me so long. It’s a strange sense of responsibility to something that does not afford me the joy in this equation. Much food for thought. Thanks so much for this powerful episode!

  262. I’ve explored your new and improved website and absolutely love it! Matches both your elegance and your slight bit of craziness! Thank you for this interview. I was in one of the cities Chris visited on his last book tour and enjoyed hearing him speak. He’s one of those people who make me feel there’s really “good stuff” in this world. Of course, you are another one of those people, Marie. Thank you so much for caring enough to create these videos. They are a joy!

  263. Jessica

    Loved this episode! I cannot tell you how much I need help in this area of my life! The biggest thing I’m taking away from this today is really following what I find joy in – I recently was contacted by a recruiter for a job I wasn’t excited about but would pay me more money, and now I see that I need to let this one pass me by. If there is no joy in it for me, it’s not right for me, and I need to listen to that inner part of me more often in order to find what is. There is no point in replacing one soul-sucking job for another. It’s time to get off this merry-go-round.

  264. Jen

    In the second half of my life I too feel anxious about figuring it out. But I have become very good lately at trying out things I think I’d like to do and letting them go when they don’t feel right. And I will take your advice to push something into the hobby category if I’m not quite sure yet. And pick up the book! Thanks

  265. Melanie

    This couldn’t be more fitting today! I’m 29 and still feeling so lost about my career, and am at a huge crossroads not knowing which path to take. However I’ve had the courage to try different things previously which has lead me to this point today, which in turn have added to my life story. As I read today “Keep angling until you find your angle”! It’s frustrating but how else can you grow, trust the path you’re on.
    Thanks so much for the video!

  266. I love all of your interviews and videos Marie, thank you for this one. I did read Chris’ first book and loved it. But today throughout the video I kept saying to myself “yes yes! always remind myself to think like an entrepeneur! and keep going! I had a career before my daughter was born, it was great…I liked it a lot, but I knew it wasn’t my path forever. I took a big risk when I was still single and moved to Mexico, and really discovered while living there what I was meant to do. I met my husband, our daughter was born, and I lost my job. That was 5 years ago. Since then, my husband and I have worked so hard on our vision, but just can’t seem to make it happen. We are so passionate about it, but are side tracked by having to work jobs we don’t love in order to just skim by and pay the bills. So my question is….what would your advice be, in this same talk, to people who know the paths they want to follow but are stuck in the financial rut?

  267. Betty

    So awesome and helpful thank you

  268. This is amazing. And I love the new interpretation of the Wayne Gretsky quote!
    I am a college instructor. I very much get into the flow of my work. It is, for sure, what I was “born to do”. I see students often who seem lost in life… heck, I see all sorts of people my age (40-something) who struggle with this, too.
    Shared on facebook and will share with former and current students! All sorts of great advice… and I’m *always* telling people to try a lot of different things! (Took me a while to settle, too.) Thanks, y’all!

  269. Thank you guys. I am glad you took the twenty minutes that it’s ok to different because it didn’t used to be. God gave me an insatiable curiosity and too many talents with limited discipline. I now know there are others like me and one thing is I’ve been blessed at helping others ( a lot and little as needed).
    When I was young I wanted to be in movies and dance on stage and started with tap dancing and ballroom dancing at 8 but money dried up. I did get help on the side too! My mother was a concierge of sorts at Hotel Syracuse. From 5 yo I met Johnathan Winters, Phil Silvers, Bob Hope a number of times! Ann Margaret with him from a show ? SU ? Last time I spoke with him was maybe 1966. Sherri and Lamb Chop, and too may to remember. Did that start my desire? I play gospel, classic and all sorts of other music and if I like it I dance, hum if I don’t know the words. Now at 60+, if I had a chance to go and act with fair singing and dancing I’d run and not walk! Summer plays or whatever!
    My point for all this I was told can’t or to be quiet or as you say focus! We all can for awhile and some of us have to jump into a different pool and then come back … yes? I stopped my brothers creativity at about 6 yo. I never forgave myself for that and a few others.
    I now listen, coach, nudge … ALWAYS ENCOURAGE! My grandson Evan likes to sing and dance. I even made arrangements for his to take dancing … he’s in all the school plays. As time goes by he gets messages of ‘focus’. I don’t believe it’s good. Yes school work is good but so are so many more things.
    Well, I’m like Jeff Goins ( The Art of Work ) or he’s like me in regards to ‘over explain’. Maybe he and I should go get some therapy together and share the expense! =)
    Now he’s too busy and ‘has a job’ like he was getting away from, but like you Marie … Chris I think he wouldn’t do anything else now!
    Sending blessings to you both and always prayers! Rick!

  270. Love the idea of expanding and then eliminating. I’m just starting a business at 49 (a bit later, like so many others commenting here) after a whole career in health working for employers. With several business direction ideas it’s tricky knowing what is going to work best. I don’t want to limit options that might turn out to be just right for my business. So I’ll try the things that look promising now and be free to let them go if they don’t bring joy, money and flow. Very encouraging.

  271. lina

    As always, I am grateful for your empowering videos and emails and life-cation (life education). As many of the folks have already commented – I am so in need of this video. I am 44, always was and am creative and very capable and well, you described me and my interests when you described yourself Marie.

    When I was 6 or 7, in school we were asked why we wanted to do when we grow up. I said be the president of the US. That day my parents were called into school because the principle thought I needed to be in Special Ed because of my delirious ambitions. I was gutted and have since then had a burning need to prove them wrong. I wasted time doing things that really didn’t serve my potential or interest. Nor did I ever really go for what I wanted because I couldn’t pick and that deer-in-headlights effect remained so strong that I never finished 3 universities because I couldn’t pick an “acceptable major/career.” (Chris – I took and failed accounting and most business classes so many times because I couldn’t stay awake in the class – it was so not me but I kept forcing it.)

    I feel ready to start thriving and hope that the book and more interviews from MarieTV help me find creative career possibilities. I find that stress is no longer my driver and I cannot do the simple 24 hour per day workload anymore 🙂 Not to mention, I became a mama in my 40s so my capacity for stress and overtime are not what they used to be.

    Do you have any tips to help me find what skills I really possess? I really love and now use your tips on “feeling” if I love something – my body caves in or opens up and expands when I talk about it.

    Finally, I just want to say that when I am feeling frumpy and tired and blue, I instantly get a boost when I look at your great hairdos! ahahahahaha I know it’s superficial (my apologies) though it reminds me that it sometimes takes a team to produce some results. Thank you for being a strong woman and an inspiration to me and many others. Much love!!!!!!!

  272. Squigg

    Two things I took away:
    1. Never give up on life or love
    2. You’re always free to let go of whatever is just ‘okay’ in life or love

  273. Michelle O'Brien

    Hi Marie
    My sister sent me the link to this episode and I would love to share with my young adult daughters who are right at the being of what should I do with my life, I see that they will gain so much from this conversation and allow themselves to shine, but before I share with them can you please clarify for me the definition of entrepreneurial thinking? I have half an idea but I see you are very articulate and would truly appreciate clarity for my daughters and myself.
    kindest regards
    Michelle O’Brien

  274. Lina T

    Hello Marie,
    This is my second video after I signed up for email notification and I truly enjoy your energy. Today’s interview I took away a few tidbits! Today has reaffirmed my path of self awareness, why I am on this path and how my mindset with empower me from the inside out.
    “think like an entrepreneur”, “crack the system”, “joy, money, flow”
    Being in the present moment to ask yourself why and being open to whatever the thought or action that comes to you!
    Thank you for sharing and pushing forward.
    Lina T

  275. Susanne

    SO great ! Thank YOU !

    So interesting these two questions:
    Am I still happy with it?
    Is it working?

    Many things made me happy, but didn’t work out so far .. .. .. haha, let’s see what the future holds in hands !

    Much Love & kisses,
    Susanne

  276. Ken Robinson wrote a book, The Element, in which he gives the idea that one’s ‘gift/talent’ is that thing you would/could do for hours without looking at the clock and without thinking of a meal until you are very hungry, because it is so joyful and connecting to your spirit/inner self. A most difficult challenge for me to overcome has been our cultural belief that one must slow down dreaming or stop altogether because “it is impractical” when thinking of the time it might take. I find I must convince myself of the truth that I am as capable and able to build a dream as anyone twenty to thirty years younger than me. It is skills, determination, talent, connections to tools and like minded people that make it all work, not age.

  277. Chau

    Marie and team, thank you SO much for creating this episode! This was the precise topic I wished Marie can enlighten for me in the Insider dispatch feedback I took part in. I’m in a new chapter of my life, and while it is exciting and brimming with possibilities I can pursue, I had a hard time figuring out where to put my energy and focus on. My biggest takeaway from this episode was “eliminate ideas that don’t bring me joy when I think of them”! That is my decision GPS right there. Also, the great reminder to take my time and figure it out – this is time I’ve afforded myself and I can forget it when I put the pressure on myself to figure it out asap. I feel refreshed and good to go again. Thank you for all the work you do!

  278. Min

    This is really interesting. The reality is that the companies always look for candidates who have years of experience in a focused. If you ask recruiters, at least 9 out of 10 will tell you they prefer someone who focuses on one thing to someone who has a broad range of professions. it is understandable but how can a person really try new things when it is difficult to get in without experience in the field? Start fresh from intern?

  279. Thanks Marie for this week’s show.

    I loved especially when Chris said there’s not necessary just one path for everyone. I believe also that it doesn’t matter if you miss one chance, you can always get back into the game again by connecting with your own wisdom.

    Thank you Chris and Marie!

  280. Thank you for the discussion of quitting. I recently quit my marriage, and I am experiencing a lot of guilt for WANTING to quit. But Chris makes it so simple – the marriage wasn’t working, and wasn’t joyful. Done. I feel like in our culture the people who go the distance, stay in a career for 30 years, stay married for 50, are the ones who get credit, but I know now from taking the leap that it takes a fucking strong person to quit.

  281. James

    Yeah, super on time. The message, and questions about whether I feel Joy, Earn Income, and experience Flow, which I read one experiences when they do something challenging and their highly skilled at. I’ve been changing jobs almost monthly, and I’ve had a string of interviews, preceded by years of job changes and unhappiness. I keep thinking if the place changes, I’ll be happier. Now, the question I’m asking myself after the most recent interview, is whether this is the right career for me. I’ve asked myself this, my entire career, and have searched for different ways of doing it. I wish I could use these skills to support my personal passions instead of clients, whose work I’m not passionate about. But their work pays, and mine not so much (yet or if ever). That’s the hardest part. Either way, great video, and has me thinking about things in a different way.

  282. Yesenia Villalta

    It reaffirmed the place I’m in and headed :). Living this way is counterintuitive and not as socially acceptable so it’s refreshing to hear this!

  283. Ankur Varshney

    Feeling lucky to have watched THIS episode early in life, and as a student (22); my faith in my calling has been consolidated today. Thanks Marie and Chris!

    Sorry for joining late in the discussion 😉

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Ankur, we’re THRILLED to hear that. You’re not late in joining the discussion at all, and we’re so glad you watched this episode too!

  284. i like the video and its a lot more insightful.

    i think its human nature to want to be successful and happy in whatever area in our lives especially when it comes to the aspect of livelihood, you know career, life and love. its a good thing you did this episode and a book has been written because part of the human journey in achieving these things requires an important factor which is ‘due process’. after the great discovery of maybe say who you are and what you wish do, we then lack the appreciation of due process. when my father passed away in 2010 the world turned upside down for me and had to learn how to be a man on my own. part of the lessons ive learned up-to-date is that even when you know that you need to step up, in that moment thats when the process begins.

    my contribution is once you eye your big break or aspiration, get a mentor or something, an education is key too but most importantly understand every goal or target has a process and many a time the process equips you with the tools necessary to develop, sustain, appreciate and expand that goal when it has been achieved.

  285. Katie

    Big thanks to Marie and Chris. Great episode and could not have come at a better time for me. I’ve been trying to switch careers for almost 2 years now and it’s been a longer than expected journey and it continues but videos like this one keep me inspired that I will eventually find what I am meant to do. Picking up Chris’s book this weekend.
    Katie
    PS love the new site. well done Team Forleo!

  286. Chantaie

    My favourite Marie TV episode ever (and I’ve been watching for years). Clear guidance, insight and inspiration. Thank you. I plan to share with a number of friends who have been struggling with finding their way. It also helped me see that, though it’s been non-linear, my path is the right one for me. #joymoneyflow! So grateful for this episode.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Chantaie, we’re SO happy to hear that!!

  287. What a sigh of relief! Thank you for saying that you don’t have to find your niche and that it takes time to figure it out! Just what I needed to hear. Experiment! best advice I’ve heard in a long time.

  288. What a wonderful, inspirational video! I am 27 and just started my business. I am a lot like Marie in the sense that I have so many things I am passionate about and have a hard time picking just one. I loved having this reassurance that diving into all of these things will provide the experience I need to maybe one day, decide what is perfect for me. In the meantime, bring on all the adventures that will lead me to where I am meant to be!

  289. Yvette Chabrier

    Awesome job!!!!! Marie and team, I love the new format.
    Exciting and fresh. Of course the content is always so valuable. You are such an inspiration. Thank you so much for following your passion and sharing so much. I am forever grateful and a complete sponge for all the resources you make available.
    I am a 2014 B School alumni and currently reviewing the course. The lifetime accessibility was brilliant; my experience is ever so evolving .
    Looking forward to your new book Chris, your last one was an absolute joyous journey. Keep up the amazing great work.

  290. I really loved this video and have just ordered the book!

    I am super lucky to have found what I was born to do but I absolutely loved that you and Chris talked about using the book to really think about projects within your business/career. This is where I can easily go off on the wrong tangents, so I’m really looking forward to reading the book.

    Loving the new site too Marie. And B-School is wow! xo

  291. I truly liked the two criteria for going on or giving up: it works and I’m happy doing it. In my first business project, we were quite successful at the beginning but came a day when I didn’t know where we were going and my business partner was very stressful. When I decided to give up (a good choice because the business didn’t go anywhere else after), it was such a relief… and this experience helped me in my second present project…

  292. Fantastic episode. Food for thought! New site is so visually crisp! Love it!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Thank you, Laura — we’re thrilled you love the new site and this week’s episode!

  293. I have always enjoyed so many things throughout my life, so it’s been a long time coming, but I finally know what I’m really good at. The problem I have now is losing track of time. It’s great to love what you do, but don’t lose other important parts of you in the process. Also, I firmly believe that you’re never too old to find your way and learn new things. I would encourage everyone to keep looking until they find their place in the world.

  294. inez

    Don’t know if anyone else resonates . . but . .
    This topic just breaks me to the core. I’m that god-awful mix of ambitious / overachiever and rampant diabolical failure. I’m one of those people who’ve always worked so hard trying to find “it” but it’s like catching fireflies with tweazers. Sadly I work in the arts in the absolute bottom rungs. I’ve done Marie’s wonderful course but through the filter of me manifestation just can’t happen. I’m 35 and the hope is officially stamped right out – years of failure wears you out. But that said I’m on this site right? Big love to anyone else who feels this way. Totally understand how no hope for the over-ambitous just breaks one to the core. Will read this book. x

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Inez, I’m so sorry you’re feeling so hopeless. I can tell that you have huge ambitions and dreams – please, please don’t lose sight of them or let them go. Your hopes and dreams matter. You matter. We’re rooting for you. xo

  295. Hi Marie and Chris: Loved this talk and will deffinately get this book, not for me but for my son. (Im a 2015 B Schooler). My son ben has been involved ina new Inovation Center at the University of Western Australia called ‘Bloom’.

    From his involvement with this amazing group of young (and some not so young) people he has been invited to speak to groups of young ‘pending euntrapenurs’ all over the city and he is the youngest person to be invited to speak for ted Talk Perth. The centre has been a hub for people to gather together in a co working space and share their ideas and get advice. My son has just been appointed as the president of a new branch of Bloom at the Curtin University in Perth WA and just yesterday he was talking to me about the problem of how to help the members ‘find their passion’. of course I told them to reach out to B School but this talk in particular was just so opportune. Im going to also get a copy of the book to donate to their new library. Attending the events at Bloom has given me such a wonderful feeling that the world is lucky to have all these wonderful enthusiastic young people with our future in their hands! Thanks Moya

  296. I loved this thought the most:
    “Everyone should think like an entrepreneur” — whether or not you’re thinking of starting a business.

    I think “thinking like an entrepreneur” means taking control of your life, and being responsible for the choices you make (and the ones you don’t), being responsible for your path in life.

    Loved the interview. Thanks Marie and Chris!

    • Terra Palewicz

      I totally agree! I think the world would be filled with more happy people if we were taught this way of thinking from a younger age!

  297. Karla Tamayo

    Thanks for a great video!
    I loved the concept of joy─money─flow. I know that personally sometimes I forget that happiness should be a part of my working experience.

  298. I just love this! Thank you! I am currently trying to find what sets my soul on fire, and to me I think finding joy in your work is so important. I have found it surprising how many people say, sometimes you have to just pay your bills and enjoy the rest of your life. It wasn’t until I discovered Marie Forleo and this whole world of entrepreneurs that I realized they’re people out in the world who think like me. So I love the think like a entrepreneur even if you are not starting your own thing.

  299. I especially loved this episode because of the two questions: Is it working? Does it give you joy? I’ve been in a self-employment situation (although I’m 66 and retired) where I absolutely love the company and products, but trying to build a team is not bringing me joy. It deals with health and wellness which is my passion. And I absolutely believe in the products and want to share them with people. But I think I’m ready to let go of the idea of building a team. And that I don’t need to feel guilty about that. Thanks!!!

  300. jeannie

    Yay!
    I gave a free presentation last week and came home to say to anyone who would listen “omg – I was born to do this”. What a feeling. I am so thankful I found B School and Marie which in turn has set me upon a path that I didn’t know I wanted.
    Jeannie

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Amazing, Jeannie!! That’s the best feeling, and it’s so lovely to hear that Marie and B-School have been such pivotal parts of this journey for you!

  301. Dewi

    Dear Marie,
    I have been watching your video like having a course at college, it’s like my education moment to watch your video. This video is such a spirit booster for people, including me who are still in the process of shaping life’s career. The thing that really inspired me from this video is the part where you talked about “Expanding the experience then limit it, once we knew what best for us”. Since I am a human with multi passion things, *I didn’t say it just to copy it from you Marie :), I ever felt frustrated with people who keep pushing me to get focus, and be practical and pick “Real Office Job”. I used to followed that advise but I can’t because it’s not me. I was recently in my great depression moment where I just turned 26 this year, recently got laid off from my stable job as an IT consultant (I have been wanting to quit as well since I never liked IT but I was too scared to leave), and now I am in my Grad School to study economic for public policy just because I love people as society and I do have concern about what happened in the world and society so I decided to go back to school and study about it. Besides my “Go-back to school decision”, I also start doing my blog regularly because I also LOVE WRITING and then I just started having dancing course again just because I feel energized when I dance. I put “Personal Growth” as my biggest interest and I also envision myself as someone in a teaching position to share the value and the knowledge by teaching and also I want to share that stories, values and knowledge that I had by writing a book (I always wanna be a published author). People around me, including my family and friends see me whether I was an alien or a crazy girl and really push me to do what they think as a valuable thing such as get a stable (9-5) job , get married and becoming a “Baby Toaster” (Especially in a developing country, getting married at a certain age is crucial). Found your site and youtube channel is like a serendipity for me, like I got lost and still struggling to find the way “Home” and you just like my compass to help me to keep walking without anxiety. Thanks for being such inspiration and show me that Multi passion people is exists and they can be success as well. I share your channel to everyone I know because it is a valuable resource of education that people should know.
    Hope I can really gather all my passion and interest as my base platform of career.

    Wish me luck Marie.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      We wish you SO much luck, Dewi. I can tell you’re an incredible person!

  302. Julie

    I have been following both Marie and Chris for a while so I was jazzed to see them together! ! I have been blessed to have been on a career path that I love but at times I have hit road blocks. I am in one of those places now and while that always leaves me a little unhappy and discombobulated at times, I know this is just a catalyst to push me to the next thing or level in my career. What I know for sure is that the next step needs to involve me using my voice, I need a job where I am an entrepreneur and/or I have to exercise entrepreneurial skills and I need to be working to connect people to nature. So we’ll see where my path turns next!! Thanks Marie and Chris for continuing to put some much good light out in to the world. You both help and inspire more people than you likely will ever realize!!

  303. My two favorite mentors in one place!! 🙂 Thank you for this video!

    My favorite take away from this video was the advice on when to give up.

    I’m currently reading the book right now and it couldn’t have come out at a better time. I’m trying to align myself on the best path that’s right for me.

    Marie/Chris – How do you know when going back to school is the right path for a career switch? This is the biggest battle I’m fighting at the moment.

    Thanks again!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Cindy, that’s a great question! While I don’t think there’s necessarily a right or wrong way to answer when it’s the right time to go back to school, I wanted to share this episode of MarieTV in case it helps you make the decision 🙂

      http://www.marieforleo.com/2015/02/make-better-decisions

      Good luck to you!!

      • Thanks for this Kristin! I should watch this and the intuition video linked with it daily! Both are areas I’m definitely trying to improve at the moment.

  304. Fantastic! I preordered Chris’ book via Audible and am about 25% through. Also, behind with email, so this video is spookily timely even though I just watched for the first time today! I have accidentally found the work I was born to do and have been doing it for two years. It is not yet paying all the bills, so I am constantly looking at new ideas for income streams. It had not occurred to me to use this litmus test for new projects within my work. That makes so much sense!

  305. Joe Falzon

    Thank you so much Marie and Chris! Great interview! Thanks for introducing me to yet another amazing person Marie! Joy, Money, Flow . JMF. Your Purpose isn’t complete without all 3. It’s a Great bar to measure against. Thank you Love and gratitude to both of you. Keep up the Brilliant work!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much, Joe! We’re so happy you enjoyed this interview. We’re big Chris Guillebeau fans! 🙂

  306. Tricia

    I will be turning 70 this year. I have renewed my dental hygiene license every year since I retired in 2006. For some reason I couldn’t let go. I kept renewing INCASE I wanted to go back. This video today gave me permission to let go!!! It wasn’t working and I was not happy in the end of my career. Burned out. I want a second career. Yes, even at 70 I want to be useful in this world. So, I will not renew my license this year and I will find a new career that gives me joy and purpose at this stage of my life.
    Thank you. I was so stuck. It feels good to be unstuck!!

    Tricia

  307. Ngozi

    I Enjoyed this episode and really appreciate that idea of asking your self the two questions of “If it is working” & “If I’m happy and still enjoying it”.Even though it’s still challenging & confusing on what to do when both answers are mixed. but I appreciate the fact that it helps in making the right decision.Thanks Marie.

  308. This has spoken to me on a day I really needed it, thank you Marie + Chris!

  309. How you know when its time to quit:
    1. Is it working? 2. Does it still bring joy?
    My answer to both of those questions for my career is “meh, sorta”.
    It was wonderful to hear this because I recently decided that this would be my last year as a personal trainer. When I made that decision it felt extremely liberating to have an end date in sight. I have been an independent strength trainer for 9 years now. I enjoy working with my clients and I do pay my bills. However, fitness just does not light me up anymore and I feel like I am surviving financially instead of thriving. Im not sure what the next step is quite yet although just giving the space for quitting to be ok is opening up all kinds of creativity. Like perhaps I want to travel more and teach workshops and online classes instead of one to one in person clientele? Or go back to grad school? Hearing this really resounded with me though. My life is one of many paths.

  310. Carine

    I love this topic. Especially the two questions; Does it work? Do you feel joy?
    I will definitely keep this in mind.

    Hug

  311. Ruth

    Its funny to find this topic on my email today because my husband and I were just talking about it last night and I had decided to stop trying.

    I have given up on so many ideas in the past that I felt like I was a loser but thanks to you guys I understand it’s part of the dance. I just haven’t found my “thing” yet.

    I just have to get up, dust off and keep trying. I know I am very talented and will find my niche. Thank you so much for your inspiration.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Don’t give up, Ruth. Follow the things that tug at you and make you curious and excited – I have no doubt you’ll find your niche!

  312. sonja

    Your videos are always very good and insightful. I’ve used some with my students, but the challenge with a lot of the advice is that I’m not at the beginning of my career and don’t have a whole lot of choices…so now, it’s more of how to get out of a rut when you feel left behind? When you don’t see a way to do what you want to do? Who can I talk to? Where can I find help in that?

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Sonja, I’m so sorry you’re feeling that way! I don’t know that I have answers to your specific questions, BUT I did want to share this MarieTV episode that I think will give you some food for thought: http://www.marieforleo.com/2013/05/feeling-lost.

      I hope this helps, and remember – we are cheering you on every step of the way!

  313. andrea albarran

    This is pretty cool. What really got my attention is when Marie said to never give up on love. I like that.

  314. Jodie

    I love that it’s ok to quit, and that actually it’s a skill. I too often keep going at something – thinking I just need to push through and that I am some kind of failure if I quit. So great to hear it can be healthy and productive to finish something. Thank you!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Yes!

  315. I love this video. It totally resonates fora situation I was in a few years back when decided to leave my acting career. I thought I’d always be an actor as long as I was happy, but it came to the point where I realized I wasn’t any more. I decided to step away but it was one of the hardest things I did. I knew in my heart it was okay to let go of a dream that was no longer serving me but it was still a hard process. I wrote an article about it for Tiny Buddha because I’ve heard that ‘never give up on your dreams’ stuff. And like you both say in the video the caveat to that statement is ‘unless it no longer ales you happy.

  316. rafa

    THE NEW DESIGN IN YOUR BLOG IS JUST CRAZY!!! WOW!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Thank you SO much, Rafa! We love our new digital home too 🙂

  317. Rouz

    I want to ask if the element of fate or destiny is really a true thing to believe ? Just like time for everything ” …time to plant and time to ….”. Does that really hold our future or we just have to mend our own instead of waiting?

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      That’s a great question, Rouz. I don’t know if anyone has the right answer – I think it depends mostly on your own personal beliefs!

  318. It’s funny that so many of us are in the 35-50 yr old age range. It’s like we are looking back and forward all at the same time. What did I accomplish to date and what do I want to explore going forward? I love this period of time! I feel like I’m coming into my own and realizing that I don’t have to do what the norm is or what is expected at all. I just learned in the last few months that letting things go is really ok, and I’m so glad I did. Getting rid of ideas, projects, people that just don’t fit or work with you is so rewarding. It has lightened my soul on so many levels. With every new thing I learn or finally “get” I’m grateful for the journey and experience. Thank you as always for a great show!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      LOVE IT, Stephanie!

  319. “Quitting is a valuable skill”…A to the Men! This made me feel so much better about quitting my first career to pursuit one that aligns more with my values!

  320. Margaret Warren

    Marie & Chris, Thank you!! I have been in a job that I enjoyed at first, but have come to hate! I have been in the golf industry for most of my life (13 years of 28 years) and I feel like I have been beating my head against a wall! My biggest take away is it is ok to let it go! I am good(not great) at my job, but it is not working. This video helped me to realize it is ok that it isn’t working and I can let it go. There maybe another path for me that I haven’t realized yet. Thank you again!

  321. Nicole

    I’m really grateful for this discussion. I work in music marketing and have been with the same small company for over 16 years (in different capacities). I’m 38 and although I still enjoy parts of it I feel very stuck – like I didn’t get enough experience when I was younger and now don’t know which way to turn, feeling like I need to make a move before it’s “too late”. I’ve been trying to find what I’m meant to do for several years now but nothing quite feels right or solid enough for me to leave my job for. I keep questioning whether it’s the job or if it’s just me. I often want to leave but I still haven’t made the plan to do so yet because I don’t know where To go. Fear of failure is huge and aversion to risk /change is also at play.

    Thanks for reading

  322. Alex

    This video has been sitting in my ‘to watch when you have time’ file for ages! Funnily enough, I only managed to find time to watch it after mustering up the courage to quit something huge in my life that a) wasn’t really working and b) was no longer making me happy. It’s so true that we’re constantly told never to give up or quit – quitters are losers, right? Wrong! If you quit with discernment you’re simply releasing things that no longer serve you. It’s such an important message to internalise but it’s also critical that you let go of any guilt or self-criticism that inevitably comes along after the fact.

    Another message I really loved was the idea that it’s okay to try stuff, lots of stuff, and let your path gently unfold as a result of this experimentation. So much kinder than some of the other kinds of messages out there on the internets: ‘Find your passion yesterday! Earn a 6 figure income now or you’re just lazy! Stop being a cubicle slave!’ Time spent exploring is also time spent refining and growing and enjoying. It is never wasted.

    Thanks Marie and Chris!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Ah, love that so much Alex!

  323. Vicki

    Hi Marie, love your videos, however I feel like they are aimed at young people up to mid 30s or so. It would be great to see more content for people in their 40s or 50s who are facing very different challenges from young people. I think there is enough out there for the young to help them on their way, but very little for the forgotten over 40s who are feeling left behind and facing looming irrelevance in this youth obsessed culture.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Hi Vicki! Thank you so much for your feedback. We try to cover topics that are relevant to a wide audience because we are SO fortunate to have MarieTV viewers in 195 countries ranging from teens through folks in their 90s. If there’s a topic in particular you’re looking for, please let us know and we’ll help you find it. You can reach us at info@marieforleo.com 🙂

      And if we haven’t covered it yet, we’d love to have you suggest it as a possible future episode (you can do that here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1jm8L5S1NdXtrM9wfoXlUOg3PMdOBSxygATVuxttfZAI/viewform)

      Thank you again for stopping by – we’re thrilled to have you here and are honored to help!

  324. Michael Kragh

    This was one of the most valuable videos I have watched in a long time.
    I actually played it twice, just to get my head around this profound information and take it all on board ( took notes as well)
    I’m also a multi-passionate entrepreneur and I sometimes feel I am all over the shop 🙂
    going in all directions. So listening to this video, helped me a lot.
    The advice and tools given are truly great, thank you so much Marie Forleo and Chris Guillebeau.

  325. Love this episode – you two are so inspiring! 🙂
    Joy + money + flow – totally agree with that. Everybody who found his/her purpose totally lightens up, when they speak about it. They have a great income and it’s easy and fun for them, what they are doing.
    Gotta check out that book.
    Love,
    Susi

  326. Thank you this is exactly what I needed to see, hear and am ready to get this book as it resonates so strongly with where I am right now. Stay Awesome friend, people are taking notes!

  327. Video was great! It helped me to review my path in a different perspective. But I can not answer if I should continue to pursue the career of my dreams. Life keeps trowing things at me, putting me on different type of careers (that I’ve never imagine working on, ever!) and I keep drifting away from the one I love. I gave it up once and I decided, after so many years, to try it one more time. It went fine for a year, but now I’m back to the start. Also I am afraid because of my age (40) no company wants to hire me as a junior designer. ( I understand everyone from the comments!)

  328. This one was really pinging for me.
    For me, the freedom to experiment didn’t come until I was older and my daughter had left home. Before that, taking care of her was my highest priority. Now, I’m trying all kinds of things, and finding so many ways to enjoy myself. One of the interesting things I’ve discovered is I can love more than one thing – so much I’d do it for free – and I don’t have to make that my sole means of income. I CAN make a business out of doing a little of this and a little of that, and staying true to my introvert self – being more behind the scenes than always out in front.

  329. DD

    Hi I’ve just come across your information. I need help I’m so overwhelmed with frustration, lack of money lack of lack everything is lack in my life. I hated corporate I worked there to put food on the table. I never prospered some ppl don’t like intelligent women. In short it was hell.
    I’m in my 40’s and I’m freaking out that I’m going to die unfulfilled and penniless, I made mistakes of hanging around lifeless people who have no passion only for themselves. Even writing to you now I feel the anxiety and desperation and the tears just keep falling. Help me please. My heart has been broken through so many years of disappointment and being undervalued and humiliated and just treated like I had no worth..I’m dying inside because I’m not living I’m existing.. I’m so lost and in such a desperate place. I just want to live my heart, I just want to Love and be Loved.. I’m so tired of being broke and broken. Help me please..

  330. Christine Ong

    I’ve just finished watching this. Thank you for this episode Marie and Chris. I’ve been so depressed and wrecked inside for months now about my job. This is only my 6th month and I know it is still kind of early to most people(?) to quit – especially from my parents or my boss, but I’m really not happy there. I’ve been planning to quit for 2-3 months now but I don’t know why I kept delaying it. Until this week that I’ve had enough. I had decided to resign tomorrow.

    This episode made me feel better and I’m so going to stick these quotes near me whenever I’m feeling lost again.

    “When you’re starting out, expand your options and do everything you can to have a lot of different experiences. As you become more successful and experienced, you limit.”

    “Eliminate ideas that don’t bring you joy when you think of them.”

    “The way we figure out when to move on and give up or keep going is by asking two questions:
    1. Is it working?
    2. Am I happy?”

    “Have the courage to experiment, take time to figure it out for yourself.”

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Christine, I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been feeling depressed and wanting to quit your job. It’s so tough to be in that position and quitting is never easy. Honoring what brings you joy and seeking a job environment where you can be happy is so important, and I personally believe there’s absolutely no minimum (or maximum) amount of time — when you know something isn’t working, sometimes it’s better to get out sooner rather than later.

      We’re sending so much love your way for your transition and new opportunities that are a much better fit!

  331. Maria Stenvinkel

    Really loved this video, Marie! I actually just put together an article on the same subject (which includes an answer from Chris Guillebeau actually, lol).

  332. andy

    Very Good!

  333. Syvanna

    I love this video! Thank you, Marie and Chris. I’m a college student and have just switched majors from pre-medicine to psychology. Similar to Chris, if I had been mediocre I definitely would have stayed with that course of study. Looking back in retrospect, I am grateful for having the courage to step into a different major.

    It’s great to hear that it’s okay to change courses and take the time to figure out what works and what brings joy.

    Your videos are always a source of inspiration and strength for me. Thank you, Marie.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much, Syvanna. We’re so glad to hear that you’re following your heart in your field of study, and that this episode really resonated with you!

  334. It makes think…Does this deserves my time? Very good question.
    Thank you.

  335. Nicole

    Thanks yours share about the video, there are very useful for me.
    Recently, I am considering a career change.
    Sometime I confused what can I do.
    My favorite passage that Chris says: when you’re starting out, expand your options and do everything you can to have a lot of different experiences
    As you become more successful and experienced, you limit.
    Just like marie, I like to dancing, writing, learning new language, I hope I could go abroad in the future, therefore I learn dance and new language on holiday, sometimes I write some article on my blog.
    The important thing that I have to spend much time to do these things.
    Thank you

  336. Another great interview with Chris. For me, I gained a deeper understanding about the importance of having great, ongoing and different experiences. After all we learn from making mistakes both in life as a wife, mother, parent, teacher, entrepreneur (before it became trendy) and in business. I started up three businesses and I’ve stuck with the first one I started in 1989. Learning all the way and enjoying the freedom to choose live chats on the internet courtesy of Mark Z facebook. For me it’s building on connections and #connectivity. Love Carolyn X