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Today’s episode may fall under TMI and, admittedly, my approach may seem crass to some.

But it’s my honest answer to what appears to be a staple of modern life: a massive and ever increasing pressure to do more, be more, create more and achieve more.

Between all the things you ‘should’ be doing to be your best (meditation, juicing, working out, etc.) and the professional demands on your time (writing, selling, marketing, working, social media, etc.), and the responsibility you have to family, kids, pets and friends…

It’s no wonder many of us feel like we’re barely staying above water. That’s why I was excited to hear from Angela, who wants to know my personal method for getting everything done.

When you know what’s important, it's a lot easier to ignore what’s not. Click To Tweet

While we’ve talked about productivity a lot before (and will continue to) I’ve never answered in a way that was quite so personal.

*Headphone alert for parents watching with kiddos or readers watching at work. Some bleeped out explicit rap lyrics appear in this episode.

While we had a lot of fun making this one, don’t let the good times gloss over the importance of the message. This episode shines a spotlight on one of the most crucial building blocks of living a full and meaningful life. A lesson that sadly, most of us don’t learn until it’s far too late.  

You must know what’s truly most important to you and live accordingly.

Time is your most precious resource that once spent, you can never get back.

Now, I’d love to hear from you.

If you’re like most creatives, you have a near endless list of things you could work on or create. But if you could only have 3 top business priorities right now and 3 top personal priorities right now – specifically, what would those be?

Bonus: if you had to sing some Big Sean to 3 specific projects or shoulds, what would those be?

“Thinking about” your answers is not enough. Writing them down helps you find clarity and gets you one step closer to implementation. Leave your answer in the comments below.

Remember to share as much detail as possible as thousands of incredible souls come here each week for insight and inspiration. Your story may just be what someone else needs to have a breakthrough.

Important: please share your thoughts and ideas directly in the comments. Links to other posts, videos, etc. will be deleted as they come across as spammy.

Thank you, as always, for bringing your open and generous heart to this community. You continue to inspire me each and every week.

With so much love,


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  1. Being the Queen of NO! LMAO I say no a lot!!! My energy is so precious and getting ultra clear on my vision and energy is very important!!! Being a jack of all is exhausting. That’s why streamlining what is successful matters. The rest if it don’t make me feel excited then it gets a BIG hell no!

    • Couldn’t agree more, Bernard!!

      If it doesn’t resonate, release.

    • Linnea

      Wow. I was so totally NOT EXPECTING THAT! LMAO!
      Marie, I love you. LOL.
      Thank you for the reminder that it’s ok to say NO!

    • Oh my gosh Marie, THANK YOU!!!!!

      I have started saying No a hell of a lot more not just in my business, but in my work and in my life. And let me tell you, some people are NOT HAPPY about it!

      I think people think I’m being too difficult or being a bitch because I don’t kiss ass “like I should”. But too be honest, I’m caring less and less. And Big Sean’s song is EXACTLY what I’ve been singing when feathers are getting ruffled!!! Hahaha.

      Thank you! <3

      Elise xo

      • Anastasia

        So true! Some people are not happy at all. Also I feel guilty saying no. But Big Sean’s song!!! It’s exactly what I need. Thank you so much=)

    • Kai

      This was a great post, thanks for the boost this week! So many great ideas from your video blog, nice to drop the ball on some of them (and keep at it with the right ones) Aloha =)

    • Oh Marie, I needed that so much. I’ve had a lot of pressured requests of late. Thanks for reminding me of my power to say NO. xx

    • Eva Villalobos

      Nail on the head!! “You should be waking up at 4 to write your morning pages” hahahaha so good. Love this.

  2. Hey Marie you are too crazy!

    The moment you started saying… “I should be on Medium, post more on FB, blah, blah, blah even the organic veg… it was like deja vu.

    Three biz priorities would be… blog daily, network more, revamp my site
    Three personal priorities… meditation daily, exercise 3 days a week and once a month have a ‘me’ day dedicated to my hobbies.

    What I would say IDFWU to is surprisingly just the #1…which is social media management. It sucks so much time and there is always a new one popping up. I just find it boring

    Thanks Marie and Team

    • Feels like this year a new one came out of nowhere every few weeks. I agree Naomi, trying to manage all of them (or even a few of them) can get kinda tedious.

    • Suzie B

      Hey Marie

      Sooooo i freaking love love love this. Working in PR and being a networking addict alongside being more of a yes before a no kinda gal…i definitely need to up my rap rap rappping game!!!

      My 3 biz priorities right now are…launching myself as a health coach, earning enough money to cover the essential bills AND enjoying both. Whereas my 3 personal priorities would be…staying sane, keeping my health in tip top condition and get regular ‘me’ time that’s not related to a zero business and self-help zone!!!

      My 3 IDFWU would be…social media, work projects that stretch my time too far, social engagements that aren’t a hell yeh!!!

  3. UH

    Unfortunately, Youtube does not play this video in my country due to legal issues because of the music it apparently contains. That’s really sad, since the topic sounds like just what I need!

    • Yes! Same here… I can’t watch it aswell. Too bad!
      Anyway… since I’m already writing a comment : Marie, you rock!! Keep doing what you do. You are so incredibly inspiring, it almost hurts :-). Love you!

      • UH

        I found a little something called “ProxTube” for Firefox that – once installed – allowed me to watch it (but only directly via Youtube.

        • UH

          Oh, and now taht I had a chance to watch: This was perfect!
          Only yesterday I wrote down my four top priorities (business and private) and determined my “Thank you, but no thank you” distractions.

          I had felt overwhelmed and anxious that I would not get it all done. Getting my priorities straight helped a lot.

          Then today, two coincidences made me feel even more relaxed: The little paper thingy on my teabag read: “Relax and know that there is time for everything.”

          The other one was this episode of Marie TV. Thanks Marie, as always, great advice!

          I found especially useful that you said it was not a person or an opportunity you said “no” to, but the distraction as such.

          • Caroline - Team Forleo

            Hi UH – so glad you found a workaround! We realized that YouTube was blocking our video in Germany because of licensing for the song we used (oh technology!)

            So glad you were able to watch it 🙂

      • Susanne

        I can’t watch it either…and I don’t have firefox … so sad!

        • Susanne, if you don’t have Firefox, you can download Hotspot Shield, it’s free and whenever you’re connected your virtual location will be the US, allowing you to watch this video 🙂

          Marie and team Forleo, thank you so much for this episode – exactly what I needed! xxx

        • Caroline - Team Forleo

          So sorry for the trouble, Susanne! I just zipped off an email to you with the episode 🙂

          • Nara

            Hey dear team Forleo.
            do you mind to send me the episode too.
            I am also from Germany and would
            love to see it. Thanks a lot.


          • Nara

            Thank you! 🙂

          • Bianca

            Hi Team Forleo,
            I have the same problem – could you shoot me an email, too?
            Thank you so much – love your work!

      • Caroline - Team Forleo

        I just sent you an email Caroline! So sorry for the trouble.

        • same problem here – do you think you could send me an e-mail as well? that would be super awesome 🙂

          • Chelsea - Team Forleo

            Hi Melanie! Absolutely, just zipped an email off to you now.

          • Sabrina

            As I´m watching from Germany as well… could you send me an email with the episode? Thank you Caroline!

          • Caroline - Team Forleo

            Sabrina — I zipped off the episode to you! It’s not letting me reply directly to your comment, so hopefully you’ll see this 🙂

        • Tabitha

          Would you mind sending me the email as well? I’m also in Germany and would really like to watch. For some reason the ProxTube add on isn’t working for me.

          • Caroline - Team Forleo

            Just sent you an email, Tabitha! 🙂

        • Hi Caroline, I’m also in Germany and can’t watch, could you also send it to me in a mail as it’s a topic I’d love to hear more on!? Thank you 🙂

          • Kristin - Team Forleo

            Email coming your way, Jane!

        • Mary Hall-Lagerstrom

          Dear Caroline,
          Same here. Please would you send me the link too. The video is not available here in Germany. Thanks, Mary

          • Kristin - Team Forleo

            Mary, absolutely! Sending that to you right now.

  4. Wow — this was perfect timing. I said No to something this morning and kinda felt bad — but now I’m justified!

    • I need to say no more often. And that’s exactly why I don’t. I feel so bad. People ask me for fliers, and website help, and resume help and get their friend a job. And I’m like.. “Uhh, suuuuree” when really I’m like “can’t you see I’m busy?”

      • Exactly especially if I am caught off guard… I need think-on-my-feet lessons! Maybe improv? But I think making conscious choices about what I do/don’t want to do when it’s just me present helps. It gets you in the practice of feeling out what you truly want and taking those steps so when you’re approached it is hopefully easier to stay in your power and have a clear but respectful response of “no, thank you.”

  5. Ooooooohhhhh! I sooooo need to hear this for dealing with the distractions. And I will be downloading that song right now 🙂 I have a great “6×6” list already – 6 focuses for 6 weeks – Bill Hybels method. And, I kicked off the year with Michael Hyatt’s Best Year Ever. Oh, hey, this reminds me, the biggest distraction I need to say no to is more training! It’s execute time in my life.

    • he he… almost clicked through to those names you gave… then caught myself! For today, it’s a “no” and I am making note for another time 🙂

  6. Oh my THE QUEEN OF NO. Awwww yes (or no hahahaha :D)

    One useful practice is your YES/NO list, where you prioritize what you say yes and no to! It’s such a useful little tool that keeps you on track and lets you wave buh-bye to distraction!

  7. My own experience as an illustrative designer has taught me that saying no at times when someone wants immediate response from you gives yourself professional credibility that you are not at someone’s beckon call. You have other important business going on and so you should schedule that person in when you have had a chance to weigh the pros and cons of the request. And by the way, family obligations are just as important as business obligations.

  8. Oh, God. I needed to hear this. Ha. You crack me up, Marie!! Thank you for addressing this issue! I’ll probably watch the video 5 more times just to let it sink in (and to laugh a little more)! xox

  9. Angie

    The focus for me is often daily but often for life at the same time. If I can achieve them daily I can bring them into the rest of my life. Yes they change and adapt but the daily things that are specific but the focuses are all goal encompassing for the rest of life. 1. Taking care of my body. Doing one simple change and making it regular then adding on gradually- (not over night but gradually). This can be anything. I like things with patterns and repetitiveness but tweaking it as I go and building on it as I need. 2. Be passionate about the things you love at heart. Love your work -do it with a zest, an energy a compassionate -a posistive vibe no matter what it is your presently doing or not doing. Remember to detach from the toxins of the stresses it brings- again that comes back to number 1. . Number 3. Be whole, present and fully a-tuned to your environment and remember to laugh and smile and find a sense of calm. Be it at work, people you know, love , connect and your environment indoors or outdoors or in an activity you desire. Remember we are only human, we have one life, and were all fighting battles that are blind to other eyes and within our own minds bodies and souls. Take care of you and life will open up to you as well .

  10. Love this! Clarity rules. I just introduced getting really clear with “yes’s” and “no’s” into my EFT Tapping practice – works a treat 🙂

  11. Learning this was one of the hardest areas of business growth for me. I appreciate you sharing this and more importantly remodelling it for us. It took years for me to work this out for my business but learning this was a change that allowed me to be more present, less distracted and overwhelmed.

    Top Business Priorities.
    1. Increase revenue from half a million to a million
    2. List growth- through periscope and free trainings
    3. Continue to create best in class results for my clients

    Top Life Priorities
    1. Cook healthy dinners weekly
    2. Dress and feel beautiful each day
    3. Spend time every day fully engaged with the people that matter, laughing, loving, and enjoying the gift of life

    Song to sing when I need to say no to someone else’s agenda
    I love it. I don’t care!!!!!

    Thank you Marie for being a role model for my business.

  12. I learned the hard way to say no more than I say yes. I was running the rat race and trying to keep up with other bloggers who appeared successful and I got burned out.

    I stepped away for six solid months, and when I felt ready to come back, I did so under my own terms. I’m defining my own brand of success and setting rules and guidelines for myself to keep my priorities in check.

    The result? More success in one year than I had in the 3+ years prior to stepping away! It’s amazing how much difference it makes to follow your own path, know when to say “no”, and stop feeling guilty that you might be letting someone down. It’s freeing!

    Thank you for this video Marie. I’ll be sharing with my FB group today!

  13. I don’t give a …. about you or anything that you do!

    Love the clarity you gave about targeting the spirit of distraction. We have to be focused on our mission and be “present”.


  14. saira

    ooooooooh this killed it! It’s absolutely by FAR is my favourite video! I wrote a blog only last week about saying no to everything that comes your way – it really resonated as i see this time and time again with my clients… it’s taken me a LOT of practice to but i’m locking it down – and now – with a brand new rap! Haha. Love it and Love you Marie x

  15. Bb

    Seeing no newsletter, I had to come to your website to watch this Tuesday’s episode (that is a classic for my Tuesday late breakfasts). Yet I noticed I had my bfast early today and got the mail right after watching it!
    This one came at a perfect time (as usual)! I pulled out my notebook and wrote 3 top business priorities and personal priorities, then noted the steps to do them (or markers in some items). I needed this overlook right at this time to get myself re-organized, re-evaluate my shuffled priorities before the new year starts and give a boost to my business.
    Heading to my (home) office in a such clear mentality now!
    Thanks a lot -as always- to you Marie & Team Forleo!!!

    Ps. Making people to wait for newsletters or go look out for them themselves is an incredible achievement I want to reach one day!

  16. Loved this! What a great, actionable way to remind yourself that something is a distraction and not in line with what you need to be doing to move yourself forward.

    Top 3 things to prioritize for me:
    1. Following the learning plan I’ve set out for the programming language I need to get under my belt
    2. Keeping up with a blogging schedule with any kind of consistency
    3. Doing better about meal planning for the week instead of doing it so ad hoc and wasting so much money eating out

    What would I sing Big Sean to?
    1. Any of the daily dramatic interactions that seem to pop up
    2. That my house should be clean(er) all the time
    3. That I should be putting more energy into my own fiction writing

    Thanks for giving me a reason to think through these things, Marie!

  17. YES to top 3’s! I just finished Greg McKeown’s book Essentislism and saying no is my top priority right now. After getting clear on my values I am comparing everything to them and determining if my true answer is a hell yes. Top 3 business priorities, building a community, defining my message and sparking interest in others. Top 3 personal priorities, working on my gremlins, walking my talk and doing things that make my heart sing. Some big 3 shoulds that I ain’t going to get sucked into: getting on periscope because it’s the newest and “greatest” thing, spending hours in the gym everyday because it’s the “only” way to prove I care about my body, I’m not going to focus on “hustling” for 1:1 clients because that’s the “only” way to make money at what I love. I’m ignoring periscope, I will spend 1/2 hour in the gym two days a week max unless I can find a fun class or activity to do in place of gym on those days, whether it’s on my Facebook group InJoyMeant Productions or in person I am focusing on building a community of like minded ladies and asking them what they need to stop juggling and start grasping life by the booty and squeezing the heck out it!

  18. Courtney Ashby

    Haha- hilarious and so true.

    But what if you have a lot of things you want to say yes to and still don’t have the time?

  19. I didn’t like this video Marie… I LOVED IT! It was pretty freakin awesome and the message, as always, hits right between the eyes. Here’s some of my IDFDUBS LOL! I have not been on Periscope for a week because I definitely find it distracting when there are projects to finish. Speaking of which;

    3 Top Biz Priorities
    -Get a product to the marketplace
    -Come up with branding for local marketing agency
    -Get some admin help around me …. because I dislike all the admin stuff that goes along with this crazy biz.

    3 Top Personal Goals
    -Start Tracking finances better
    -Enroll in fitness class (nothing crazy)… more than likely Zumba
    -Get more ISH done! #imjustsayin

  20. Best video I’ve seen! So so on point. The funny thing is that just this morning when I woke up- I was so exhausted from social media messages that I deleted all of my social media apps from my phone and in taking a one week break from it so that I can breathe. This is on point . Thanks!

  21. Wow! That is so impeccably right on
    Ooo I needed that little hug of encouragement that I am not the only one who suffers from overwhelm and distraction.
    PLUS THAT rap has a whole new helpful meaning to me ?tthanks Marie you truly are the best!

  22. 2 words + 1 punctuation mark = serenity.
    Priorities and capacity + the comma= Self fulfillment
    Continue to shine your beautiful Light along our Way.
    Thanks for the gift of you, Marie.
    Many blessings of peace and prosperity.

  23. Angie

    What a great episode! I have so much going on sometimes that my head could explode. I also have a problem saying no to new ideas or projects that pop up in my own head. Staying focused on one thing at a time is key and COMPLETING that one that is so rewarding. Thanks for the reminder Marie!

  24. Top Business priorities:
    *Grow my e list for my e-letters
    *Find more opportunities for writing
    *Write daily!
    Top Personal priorities:
    *Make personal time!
    *Get outside more
    *Travel more (which takes me back to opportunities for writing)

  25. Hey Marie,

    First, I have to say, Marie, that you are my Spirit Animal. I, too, have Big Sean as my internal “Attention Delegation Officer”.

    3 Big Priorities: Email my list 3 times a week. Test VSL. Promote webinar

    3 Big Shoulds: Email my list everyday. Social media. Start building out women’s funnel.

    Thank you for all that you do. You rock!

    with gratitude,


    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Love it. Thank YOU for tuning in.

  26. Wow.. Loved the video. Lol.

    To your questions:

    I’d like to focus on recording more podcast episodes, setting up email marketing funnels, going to the gym 4 times a week, and spending more time with people that matter to me.

    The distractions that often come up are the FOMO things that everyone else seems to be doing. I really want to be doing Periscope but it’s not aligned with my goals right now. The same with video marketing. I have a baby on the way so it’s really important that I only focus on the things that have the biggest impact.

    This episode really hit home. Thank you Marie.

  27. Great fun video! Now I can’t get that song out of my head!

    Lately, I’ve been asking myself two questions before completing any task…”Does this bring me joy?” and “How will this get me closer to my top 2 goals?” Those two questions really put things in perspective for me.

    My top two biz priorities at the moment are: 1. Finish my free email money challenge course so people find more money in their budgets before the holidays. *smile* 2. Work on my find your valued based career course.

    My top two personal priorities are 1. Closing on a home this month. 2. Taking a vacation after all the home/reno work. Haha!

    I’m saying no to taking any new courses for two months. It’s time to implement what I learned and not be a constant student. This is such a relief that I finally allowed myself to jump in with two feet.

  28. Clare

    Marie, you’re hilarious! Thanks for a fun and useful technique to say no to distractions. This is one of my favorite episodes!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Thrilled to hear that, Clare!!

  29. RIGHT ON, crouton! You go sista. Love the rap song bleeped out. I 100% agree, it’s about what you can let go of!

  30. Thanks for this video, Marie!! I have to tell you I have a huge concern for looking good – so disappointing people is scary land for me AND I know it needs to happen so I can get sh*t done. My husband and I were just talking about how this needs to happen in our lives so we can move forward with what we want and live a more satisfied life. Top three business priorities are: going to local stores and creating partnerships to get more yogis in the door, getting my yoga studio to Baptiste Affiliate status, and getting more members. My top three personal priorities: spending time with my hubby, practicing yoga/meditating, and dropping sugar from my diet (and it’s been tough – 60 days strong). Three IDFWUs are saying yes to partnerships that don’t grow my business, answering emails/phone calls, and Twitter (because I have literally been trying to figure it out for 2years and it’s not working!!). Thanks again Marie for sharing so generously so that we can have insights to implement into our daily lives. Also – if you haven’t seen the video with the 12yr old and 14yr old dancing to this song – I highly recommend it – they kill it!

  31. Thanks for this one Marie! Just last night I decided to say a permanent NO to two big time sucks which don’t feed my artwork or my business much at all. I’m a 40-something fiber artist (tapestry weaver) and guilds are something that there is a fair amount of pressure to be part of. One local one is sucking the life out of me this week and I suddenly realized that I could just say no. I don’t even need to make excuses. I said no to an executive director position from the other organization a few months ago but now feel free to say no permanently to the other “volunteer opportunities” that they continually offer me. It feels great! It is unbelievable the expectations that retired (mostly older women of means) can put on someone like me who is working 60 hours a week to run a business and make her art. It seems crazy I didn’t say no before.

    What runs through my head at times like these is the Hermione Granger (from Harry Potter) blog from Buzzfeed that was running around the internet awhile back. “The girl who gave literally zero fucks.” This is helpful to me as I was a little Hermione Granger know-it-all when I was a kid and I can picture myself as Hermione looking at someone and saying no. I will always be polite and kind, but my goal is to stop giving myself away to other people at the expense of the things that are so important to my life and my family.

    Thanks a million! I’m off to make some art and run a business that is really starting to do well (thanks in large part to BSchool).


    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Yes, Rebecca! Good for you — it sounds like it was absolutely right to let those two things go.

  32. Marie… You hit the nail on the head today. I have been working on becoming a lot stronger in saying the word NO… IDFWU! It is a skill I have been practicing and learning how to use more and more. And it honestly works if you work it. Keep up the great work and inspiring us the entrepreneurs of the world.

  33. Hey Marie,

    You are definitely the best distraction in my inbox today. After that advice, I’m giving myself permission to say NO to myself.

    1. So top of my business priority list right now is to focus on completing the 21 day video series I’m in the middle off, whilst being kind to myself in the process.
    2. Complete the mini video coaching offering I’m putting together for singles who keep asking ‘why am I still single?’
    3. Uncover the secret to attracting and finding the people I’m here to serve and contribute to with no budget…..I’m serious any tips would help!

    On a personal note I deeply desire to spend more tickle and laughing time with my toddler, spend more downtime with hubby and getting more sleep. Sleeping at 3am because you are working for yourself and walking up at 7 is not sustainable. I don’t even notice the time go by but that doesn’t make it right.

    For the rest of the projects, I’m just simply not going to over think it and listen out for the divine delivery 🙂

    Thanks Marie,
    Love, Light and Blessings.

  34. I really like this tip! I tend to put too much pressure on myself and I typically allow some of my personal priorities to fall by the wayside as I focus on business priorities. This stems from the pressure to feel like I need to do more faster in regards to my career transition. I’m definitely going to create a list of my top 3 priorities in each area and eliminate some time wasters from my list. Life isn’t technically lived on a timetable and I know it’s time to let go of my self-imposed fear of not accomplishing enough, fast enough. Thanks for this tip, Marie!

  35. Great Video today Marie I can think of that song whenever I get distracted

  36. YES thank you Marie! I needed to hear this, and today. I’m going to be singing that song for the rest of the day now. 😛

  37. Last night I realized that I am probably doing too many things. I also realized that all of it feels totally and completely aligned with my goals. I’m working two part-time jobs (one for the money and one for the experience/network building), building a business, running a free program (to build relationships with my audience and develop my own skills and knowledge), volunteering (practising coaching and helping people reach their creative goals, connecting with important people), taking dance classes (an incredibly nourishing hobby) and going to Toastmasters (building skills and overcoming limiting fears). Not to mention spending time with the people I care about, exercising, drawing regularly, and eating healthy meals. While right now I feel excited about all these things, I really hope I don’t have to crash and burn to figure out what I need to say no to!

    My business priorities:
    1. build a wider community/network
    2. connect deeply with my audience through free content
    3. creating and workshops and events to help people connect with their creativity

    My personal priorities:
    1. maintaining a solid relationship with my partner
    2. journalling every day and dealing with limiting beliefs
    3. getting 300 minutes of exercise every week

  38. Saying no to business-related pop-opps (*opportunities) is getting easier all the time. But lately, all the core people in my life have something really deep and painful going on; even I am processing some deep, transformational stuff right now.

    So how do we stay present with future goals AND present for those closest to us who are moving through something deep? Up to this point, I’ve been splitting my brain and heart into two identities – sensitive, nurturing friend & on-it business lady. So far so “ok” but I know compartmentalizing isn’t the answer to me feeling whole.

    I’m starting a M.A. in Mindfulness Studies in January to help myself and women like me juggle being a sensitive, present sister-friend AND a successful businesswoman.

  39. This one made me giggle; I love your song choices/dance breaks! Unfortunately I don’t have the problem of too many people or businesses wanting to make plans with me. Though, when I am approached by people who won’t help my vision, I will be prepared to think it over and politely say no.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Absolutely, Katie, and for now, it might even be about staying focused on your goals or not giving yourself too many to-dos. Our scattered focus and overwhelm can be created by us as much as it can be by agreeing to external commitments, so perhaps there are ways of applying this to maintain focus on what you do want to be working on now. Hope that helps!

  40. Amy

    Ahhhh this is so me! I come into work every day with my own agenda. I teach 8th grade ELA. But throughout the day, I am constantly interrupted by my colleagues, administrators, and parents (via face to face or via email) for different requests. Then I end up feeling completely overwhelmed! I face the same thing in my personal life. I am trying to balance my marriage, my kids, my health, and my own personal projects….and usually it ends up with me at the end of the day on the couch watching Food Network Channel and nursing a huge headache! I really do needs to pare things down, but I get so excited to try all kinds of new things and to make sure my kids have a lot of fun experiences!

    3 top professional priorities:
    – Time to develop my units
    -Time to work on my professional goal with my colleague
    – Time to upload my artifacts to the evaluation system (personally, this is a huge time waster and I would rather use that time for more important things like parent communication, but this is a state mandate)

    3 top personal priorities:
    -more time in nature and/or being creative with my kids (we do this on the weekends)
    – more time hanging out with my husband (we barely get to talk at all)
    – the tarot and spiritual group I participate with on Facebook
    (but I still need time to exercise!!!!)

    3 things I would like to Sing Big Sean to:
    -the summer reading committee
    -cleaning my house (who wants to be my maid?)
    -meditation (I know it’s important, but I’ll just make time to color in a coloring book instead)

  41. smart

    just to let you know: in germany your video was blocked by youtube.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for the heads up. We discovered that too — if you’d like a link to the episode, please drop us a line at info AT marieforleo DOT com and we’ll be happy to help!

  42. Great video
    I said no to DANCE! And trust me I loved it
    Now even if I dance it’s rare and lost touch
    I said no to meeting friends 3-5 a week since I got married
    I said no to being the Giver! As my finances have..

    I said Yes to more Family time
    I said Yes to being there for my Parents over MONEY!!
    I love bikes and cars still learning to say NO

  43. Do u read all these messages???

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      You bet, Ronnie/ Manoj! Every single one 🙂

  44. My worst distraction is always starting a new craft… it’s not that I’m artistic or anything. I just love all these little crafts, but seriously don’t have the time…

    Business priorities
    – Focus on growing in-person sessions on days at the wellness clinic (I decided to start working a few days from a wellness clinic to reach people who are not comfortable working by phone)
    – Continue to attend one or two networking events per month
    – Improve website by hiring a copywriter

    Personal priorities
    – Small morning workout 3 times a week
    – Hire a housecleaner
    – focus on daugther’s homework and support with math

  45. Marie,

    You Crazee!

    Aaaand I love you for it
    Always inspired by U


    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      HA! 🙂

  46. I honestly just found it so relieving to see the exact same distraction voices haunt you and then how easy it is to say no no no!

  47. Killin’ it Marie!
    I’ve always felt bad about saying no, even to things I actually have no interest in doing. It seems that this tends to be a much bigger problem for females than it is for men from what I’ve seen.
    Learning more and more every day that it’s not “mean” to have priorities. It’s smart. Going for a dance break now. 🙂

  48. Ashley

    I LOVE your message about fitting it all in, “Don’t try to, and don’t care to!”

    I follow my intuition now for what to work on. Sometimes, what your “intuition” or “gut” or “higher/inner self” (whatever you prefer to call it) guides you to do may not always make sense, but in my experience, it always leads to success and happiness, for you AND for others. It always makes sense in hindsight, so I have learned to trust and listen to my inner guidance.

    Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE making lists and checking things off, but with this new mindset, I naturally gravitate toward the things that will provide the most benefit to myself and to others. Then at the end of the day/week/month, those things that never got done don’t seem to matter anymore.

  49. Funny as hell!! Thanks Marie for that much needed laugh! Your energy, and quick doses of reality and humor are what we all need.

    I agree; I teach, train, and inspire teen girls to develop and practice having a STRONG no. It’s important, so that when they are women they can say it from a place of confidence and power, not guilt.

    Fortunately I am a no longer an addict to people pleasing; it used to be church, work, family, you name it, now it’s no, sorry. We have to put ourselves on the list, and not at the bottom of it.

    Thanks and keep inspiring.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Thank you, Danielle! 🙂

      Good for you for getting out of the people-pleasing pressured state. It’s no bueno for anyone.

  50. Yeah! Getting on the no train!

  51. Going to be sharing this today. Thank you!

    Just before I opened this video, I had yet another request to be an affiliate partner. I love the opportunity and I’m flattered but they really take away from my priorities. Then when they do happen, I always feel bad because I can’t quite do anything well.

    I see so many people launching things one after the other. I don’t care how they do; it’s not my game.

    My top 3 business priorities:
    1. Launch my program & deliver amazing results.
    2. Increase clients to 9 clients a week (through packages).
    4. Write a blog/video a week. 1/2 hour a day on Social media.
    5. Manifest continuous 10-15K months.


    1. Up my vibration every single day. I don’t care how.
    2. Eat more raw.Just more raw.

    I have no social life.

  52. Anna Caroline

    Dear Marie and Team,

    FYI from GERMANY::::
    Unfortunately, this video is not available in your country because it could contain music from UMG, for which we could not agree on conditions of use with GEMA.

    much Love
    Anna Caroline

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      I’m so sorry for the trouble, Anna Caroline. I just sent you an email with the episode! 🙂

  53. Love it MARIE!!! lol still laughing at your song over here! Made my day.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      HA! We LOVE making your day, and sharing some laughs. XO

  54. I love this! Thank you.

  55. 3 biz priorities
    – Sales course
    – Grow the awareness of the J’Ouellette® Intensif program
    – Consistent revenue as I committed inside of my course
    3 personal priorities
    – daily yoga, meditation, beliefs
    – weekly meeting with friends
    – include singing and dancing in my every day routine
    3 distractions i can eliminate
    – all projects that didn’t prove lucrative before
    – people who don’t encourage my path
    – the thought that I should move with my house

    Done and done!
    Thank you, Marie and Universe 🙂

  56. HILARIOUS!! Okay, I just started having this conversation with myself after this weekend – having worked all week including Saturday on my business, taking my daughter trick or treating for the first time, and then deciding I should make a breakfast bake, pumpkin bread, and homemade spicy chipotle chicken chile for my family. Talk about cray-cray!!!!

    “Keep the main thing the main thing.” -Jewel Diamond Taylor

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Amen to Jewel!

  57. Hi, Marie!
    I was so glad to see today’s topic waiting for me in my Inbox. I can’t imagine how many demands and requests come your way, and it’s good to know that the answer is “no.” Getting past the idea of hurting someone or not living up to an idealized image of being there for everyone is liberating.

    My three personals are to meditate regularly each day, clean up the junk in my office and closet and make time to paint flowers. My three business goals are to spend four hours a day on writing, two hours a day on building my list on social media and the rest of the time on taking care of whatever comes up. I continually underestimate how long something is going to take me, especially in building an online business for the first time. All my previous experience has been in inventing products and selling them to brick-and-mortar stores.

    My no’s involve letting go of obligations from the past and structuring my days with focus on building my business. Most of my friends are retired so they have a lot of time, and frankly, I wish I had that much free time, too. I need to pay attention to the tightening in my stomach when I say yes to them, and I know I shouldn’t. Not to self: true friends will understand and want me to succeed in my business.

    The loudest no is to negative thinking. It’s just fear, and as Elizabeth Gilbert says in Big Magic, fear is always there, but it has to stay in the back seat and it never, ever gets to drive.

    Thank you so much for your inspiration and uniqueness.

    Mary Lou

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Yes, Mary Lou. Love your share and that you brought in that idea from Big Magic — it’s so true.

  58. Arlene

    Thank you Marie and team. I am a 40 year old woman who still loves rap even though I’m not supposed to…
    1. Work just enough to save money to start my business
    2. Direct energy in a focused, consistent way towards my business plan and training
    3. Rope a clear boundary around these activities to keep personal time precious and important.
    1. Spend time with my husband and son every day where we laugh and play
    2. Include physical exercise every day even if it’s the 7 min workout
    3. Reflect and meditate every day, again the amount is not as important as the consistency.

    Say no to:
    1. Allowing myself to direct energy towards other people’s drama
    2. Coffee and lunch requests where I listen to people complain
    3. All things that seem urgent because I feel lack

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Those 3 no list items will be very freeing, I imagine, so good for you!

      P.S. You are always allowed and “supposed to” love rap 😉

  59. Diane Arias

    Business Goals:

    >Create Proposal to implement myself with part-time job as Marketing Manager at Northwest Indiana Gymnastics and Cheer Spring 2016
    >Study current design technology available with Adobe products
    >Continue to maintain design skills by providing free work to family, friends.

    Personal Goals:
    > Ensure there is good, solid fun in my family life
    > Decluttering my home using the konmari method
    > Re-style my entire home (3 / 14 rooms are finished)

  60. Haha, excellent vid, Marie. Thanks.

    My six top priorities this week are as follows (business and personal are kind of merged -bit of a grey area- in points 2 and 3)

    Finish a big translation for a client by Friday
    Write 1666 words of my novel every day (NaNoWriMo-ing and loving it!!)
    Get on top of my admin
    Write two blog posts this month (so maybe draft one post this week)
    Have fun and chill with my hub and kids (gotta keep up the fun factor, and chilling is always a priority)
    Swim 3 times this week

    Thanks for the clarity! Aargh! What am I doing here?! I’m supposed to be writing!!! Byeeeeeeeeee.

    Get my kids through the week, happy as poss, fed and peaceful. 😉

    • Yikes, that last line was an out-take, obviously…

  61. Jeanette

    Loved this post! It spoke directly to me! Thank you so much! ☺️☺️☺️

  62. Melinda

    Oh Marie, your timing is superb! Thank you for this dose of clarity and insight. And, thanks for reminding us about the importance of good boundaries! How can we say no to all of the things that natter and pull if we have not placed importance or energy on the things that most matter to us?PS-a feisty rap song is the BEST way to shuffle things back into priority!
    Thank you!

  63. Diane Arias

    OOH!! What do I have to say NO to???
    > Posting on my OLD Youngest of Twelve studio FB page (I’m hanging on)
    > Habitually NOT putting myself on my own calendar
    > Disguising my domestic laziness (it is NOT fun when we are NOT ontop of our responsibilities)

  64. Marie, you are so, so fabulous! Thank you for this. Great advice. I am weeks away from launching my site, (and a B School Graduate) and still have a full time 9-5, plus social life, being healthy, keeping up with friends and family, traveling, the list goes on! This is a great reminder to say NO – and keep my eye on the prize. Outlining 3 things that are important to me in business and personal is a great idea – and to continously plan my day and time around those things so that when I’m not focused on those things, I can be more present and in the moment rather than trying to juggle being the “perfect thing’ to everyone I know. .. Thank you!

  65. Thanks – I needed this to focus. Now let me go do my 3 most important things for my business and life.

  66. What a bummer! I can’t watch your video in Germany, Marie!
    Here’s the massage I get on Youtube:

    “Unfortunately, this video is not available in your country because it could contain music from UMG, for which we could not agree on conditions of use with GEMA.”

    Is there anything that can be done about it??
    Greetings from Berlin, Germany,

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      So sorry for the trouble, Tatjana — I just sent you an email with the episode!

  67. Cant watch it in Germany because of the music content (copy rights)

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Hi Suzan, so sorry for the trouble. I just sent you an email with the video for you to check out, so stay tuned to your email for that to appear soon!

  68. Marie, on point and HILARIOUS!!! I think it was Brene Brown that spoke of how especially for us women, our shame is wrapped up in this idea we have to do it all. I call BS! Since giving up on that idea and learning to have grace with myself, life is much sweeter 🙂 the No-train helps too, choo-choo!

    3 business priorities:
    1) Website redesign with my new service offerings
    2) refining my client on boarding system
    3) Giving the 3 web design and promo video projects I currently have this month my full attention, so they are launched before our cross country move at the end of the month!

    3 personal priorities
    1) downsizing our stuff to 1/3 over the next three weeks (this may seem like a big project, but I’ve already started and promise this is realistic)
    2) sticking to my bedtime and morning routine
    3) ordering and fulfilling orders for our band merchandise

    3 things to say no to
    1) client work I KNOW I don’t want but entertain anyway.
    2) any new project whatsoever before January
    3) working past 6pm and on Saturdays

  69. Marie, you rock. I don’t know why but I teared up a bit when you cut to the rap. I guess I need a little off that. Thank you!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Katrina, we’re so happy the message sunk in deep for you. That’s a beautiful thing.

  70. Mohammed

    Hi Marie,
    I’m one of your latest fans. And, I must say I loved the “Lessons learned from 252 episodes”. And then, this episode just literally came too close.
    Thank you.

  71. Another GREAT message Marie — thank you! I often feel like Dug from Up when he sees a squirrel — so easily distracted by all the things that “need” to get done. Anyway, my big three are:
    1. finish The Copy Cure
    2. rewrite my About, Sales and web pages
    3. redo my website (I am currently reworking it in the background and plan to unveil before the end of the year).

    personal goals:
    1. resume my morning quiet time before heading off to may day job.
    2. prepare meals at home a minimum of 6 days a week
    3. call family members and friends to chat or get together, instead of just texting or sending emails.

    Things to say, “NO” to..
    more training. I get so easily distracted by the shiny “new” thing that comes along. I need to focus on the basics!

    thanks again Marie, and have a lovely day!

  72. MaGURL! Just shared your magic and wisdom with my colleague Tiffany. We were at a breaking point this morning at the Party Singers office in Los Angeles. Time to put that song on and have a dance party! (And then write down what’s truly important.) THANK YOU THANK YOU!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      YES! 🙂

  73. Fer.

    Thanks Marie!

    Indeed saying no to me it’s the basis of getting MY things done, not depending on someone else’s agenda, but mine!

    Thanks for all ur posts!

    Greetings from Costa Rica!

  74. yeni

    HI! Thanks for your useful videos. I cant find the links to the Other topics about time management you mentioned.

  75. Thanks so much for this. It’s so easy to think that the people who are out there getting it done are superheroes getting it ALL done. That you admit that you also have to prioritize and say no makes you even more of a superhero to me!

    My personal takeaway today is “Be fully present for the things you say ‘yes’ to”. Too often my mind wanders to the other things I “should” or could be doing. 🙂

  76. Daniela

    Oh no, Marie! I can’t watch this one in Germany: “Unfortunately, this video is not available in your country because it could contain music from UMG, for which we could not agree on conditions of use with GEMA.”
    How can I sleep tonight? :/

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Daniela, I just sent you an email as we have a way for you to watch it!

  77. Ahh! I seriously love this! BRAVO! (tosses roses on your stage)

    Since the days of Ally McBeal, I’ve had theme songs and music set as the internal background of my life’s events. While I’m questioning my own song choice for saying no (because “IDFWU” is on fleek!), my mind’s jukebox plays a ditty to the tune of Black Eyed Peas “No, no, no, no, don’t phunk with my TIME.”

    3 business priorities:
    1) More frequent blog posts (at least 1 more per week)
    2) Mastering Facebook Ads – determining how to never have an ad rejected by their funky (and inconsistent) algorithms
    3) Start filming for my vlog (Risin’ up, back on the street
    Did my time, took my chances…Just a gal and her will to surviiiive)

    3 personal priorities:
    1) Meditation EVERY day, rather every few days
    2) Running on days I’m not in gym (“I gotta get through this”)
    3) Eating Clean 5 days per week with no exceptions

    3 things to say no to:
    1) Negativity – Ain’t nobody got time for that! (“Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth”)
    2) Overthinking
    3) Fast food

    Again, loved this video! (Toe touch “You’re #1!!!”

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Love it. (And roses were accepted — thank you!)

  78. Anne

    Dear Marie and Team,
    Unfortunately, this video is not available in Germany because it could contain music from UMG, for which we could not agree on conditions of use with GEMA.
    Could you send me an email with the video, too?
    Thanks a lot

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Hi Anne! We uploaded it to Vimeo so our German viewers could see. Check it out here:
      password: Germanyrocks!


    I LOVED the whole “Queen of NOOO”.

    I do that too.

    My energy is precious and limited. I am extra careful to the things I say yes to and take on. I only say yes if it won’t interfere with the time set aside for my private clients, group coaching clients, mom responsibilities, and ME TIME. And since it usually does….I say no with respect and kindness. I adore helping people in whatever way I can, but I matter just as much too. And in order for me to be fully present and energized, I have to say no frequently.

    Life is short, and my time here on earth is limited. In order to make the most impact, I need to focus on that which matters the most to me and will make the greatest positive ripple effect. This perspective helps me stay true to my inner “Queen No”.

    Top three business priorities:
    1.) My Food is LIFE group coaching clients
    2.) My private clients
    3.) Creating quality and valuable content for my Connieville community

    Top three personal priorities:
    1.) Daily meditation
    2.) Weekly Yoga sessions
    3.) Evening gratitude practice

    Thank you Marie and Team Forleo for another wonderful episode!

  80. Fabulous episode and so timely! I was cracking up during the rap song. Are you reading my mind Marie??

    It was also such a great reminder to me that I don’t need to get it all done. I am on the “No train” lately and it has made me soon happy and freed me up to do work that I love, with clients that I love. I find that I am also doing better quality work. This is something so many of us struggle with. Just yesterday I ignored an email to join a webinar because I realized that although it may have been great info, it was not a priority for me at this time. The biggest thing I have been doing lately is putting things on my “Stop Doing List” instead of my “To Do List”. Anything that’s also not aligned with my vision, I put on hold. Going to share this with my community. Thanks again for all you do!

  81. Love dat song yo’

    Great question about the 3 business pri: writing content, designing my courses, creating marketing plan

    3 personal pri: time to sit or lay and just be (i.e. Stop doing doing doing!), heart to heart time with friends, exercise outdoors 3x / week

    Thanks Team Forleo – inspiring, funny and relieving as always

  82. I’m glad I watched this. This is exactly what I did yesterday and today. I said no to two marketing events, bc I looked at my calendar and realized I had 4 scheduled in one week (plus my kids, exercise, sleep, etc.)! I picked the two marketing meetings this week that are the most valuable to my business and said no to the other two. I really listened to my intuition each time. If my inner voice said “no”, I followed it. …And I have not regretted the no’s. I thoroughly enjoyed my downtime on purpose to rejuvenate.

  83. I am so easily distracted. If only I could build a business around my distractions then I would be….oh look over here, have you seen this new website….

    Another great episode, Marie. It’s a tough one for me to crack.

  84. Haha I love you!!!! Seriously. You are YOU. It’s amazing.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      We love you back, Sarah!

  85. I have a fear of saying no because I’m afraid I’ll miss out on a great networking opportunity!

  86. I am going to book mark this episode and watch it once a month!

    I totally suffer from distraction syndrome or SOS (shiny object syndrome). I need to just get super clear on my priorities so I can say “NO!” more often.

    Top three business priorities:
    1. Finish creating the content for my first online course.
    2. FOCUS on the value of the content…DON’T GET DISTRACTED.
    3. Send email to subscribers about new course.

    Top three personal priorities:
    1. TAKE BREAKS! I sit for HOURS at the computer and its wreaking havoc on my back.
    2. Cut out sugar and junk food.
    3. Meditate for 10 minutes a day.

    THANK YOU MARIE AND TEAM! I look forward to every Tuesday like it’s Christmas morning. SERIOUSLY! XOXOXOXO

  87. Linda

    “Unfortunately, this video is not available in your country because it could contain music from UMG, for which we could not agree on conditions of use with GEMA. ” So sad. 🙁 It won’t play in Germany. I would have loved to watch it. Your work is such a blessing and so amazing. Thank you for being you and all you do! Linda 🙂

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Linda, I just sent you an email because we have a way for you to watch it! Thank you so much for your kind words too.

  88. oliver

    Three (3) Top Business Priorities are:

    1. Create a newsletter for the Condo. Association to update three (3) other occupants on tasks requiring attention and completion.

    2. Get bills signed and turned into vendors. Update QuickBooks so that all PNC bank transactions filter into it.

    3. Set-Up EFT system so that I and the remainder of building residents are no longer tending to the task of waiting, processing and signing bills for payment.

    Three (3) Top Personal Priorities are to:

    1. Finish online training necessary to meet prerequisite for promotion in the military.

    2. Start the Plymouth Volare station wagon and rotate tires.

    3. Fill out and review promotion packet paper work before handing it over to a noncommissioned officer in charge (NCOIC) for final evaluation.

    Three (3) IDFWU projects are:

    1. Invoke a stay on giving any and all assistance to my worksite’s labor union leadership and members.

    2. Cease to participate in any advisory neighborhood commission (anc) events until all condominium association goals are met.

    3. Allot a portion of habitual daily social media time for one (1) hour of reading a book in my field or one (1) hour of participating in a social activity with other human beings.


  89. Cyn

    Omg marie I fuckin love you for posting this!!
    And the SONG!
    For some reason that song gets stick in my head and find it weirdly empowering, n that fact that u do too is awesome!!
    It will forever remind me of this great episode

    Thank you ?
    I always need help in the stop trying to ” do it all” department

  90. Thanks for the episode. Thanks for asking about the top 3 personal priorities. I hadn’t thought about that in a while and those were a surprise. Easier to head prioritize them if I know what they are!

    Enjoyable and helpful as always.

  91. I felt like you made this video just for me. I’m an information junkie. I read a lot of things, but don’t implement them. I’m always learning something new. Gotta give the Big Sean treatment to too much info and taking on new hobbies.

    Business priorities:
    Join Bschool
    Blog every day.
    Vlog 2x week.

    Personal priorites:
    Do my laundry!
    Have 1 hour of quiet time every day.
    Read more.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      You’re not alone in being an information junkie here!

      And we’d love to have you in B-School in 2016 if it feels like the right fit.

  92. Wow did I ever need to hear this! Man that song is going to become part of my life now haha. That little old “need to be a pleaser” always tends to creep in where I’m saying Yes to WAY too much, and I end up over my head. Time to do some scaling down and get comfortable with NO =) Thanks Marie!!

  93. Oh my gosh, this was THE BEST Marie tv episode. (especially thanks to that rap video)

    Marie, great tips to saying no and reanalyzing all the things that are on the table to either be distractions or priorities. I’ll be spending some time writing out all the things that take my attention each day and put them on priority lists or say no to them.

    Amazing video. I can’t tell you how amazing and inspiring it was ;).


    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      YAY – we’re delighted that you loved this episode so much, Lauren.

  94. Oh my goodness gracious alive…not only is this the stinkin’ truth I am in the mist of this right now and couldn’t figure out for the life of me how to get out of this vicious cycle. This made me cry and laugh at the same time. Thanks to Angela for asking an a great question and thanks to Marie for the incredible answer.


  95. Loved this one, Marie and Team Forleo! 🙂 I’ve gotten lots of practice in learning the hard way with saying no to what doesn’t serve me!

    Top 3 Business Priorities:
    1. Keep tuning in to my intuition.
    2. Do what feels right for my business, when it feels right.
    3. Allow for any “room” (empty space) that may seem to be happening now, so it can be filled later with what I sense may be to come. (…Wow! Just had my own a-ha with that one! So that’s what’s going on!) 🙂

    Top 3 Personal Priorities
    1. Keep tuning in to my intuition.
    2. Do what feels right in my life, when it feels right.
    3. Repeat numbers 1 and 2.

    Top 3 Things to Say No To:
    1. Everything that doesn’t seem to serve my higher purpose, as determined by tuning in to my intuition on a moment-to-moment basis.
    2. Yep–that about covers it!
    3. See number 1. 😉

  96. Oh I LOVE getting a ticket for the NO train, Marie!!
    That video you made in B-School stuck in my head forever!!
    I say no to what I don’t need so I can say YES to me 🙂

    I’ve come up with a great filtering system for all new information and opportunities that come my way so I can stay focused!

    Thanks again xo

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Fantastic, Laura! We love that the no train video will be stuck in your head. 🙂

  97. Jen

    Thanks Marie!
    Once again great advice! It’s so hard to grab a hold of the rollercoaster of ideas that go through my brain every day and pick one to focus on, I want to do them all. I’ve gotten to the point of writing the ideas down as they come and then look at what’s possible at the moment.

    My top 3 business priorities:
    1. Produce product for an upcoming craft sale.
    2. Prepare for a regular YouTube show I want to put out in the new year.
    3. Put all the new product I have into my Etsy store.

    Personal priorities:
    1. I NEED to get some exercise in each day.
    2. Get rid of an accumulation of clutter in my house which makes taking care of the house more manageable and therefor more time to do the above.
    3. Allow myself to say I’m done for the day both mentally (the never ending to do list) and physically and just enjoy my life.

  98. Joelle Lynn

    I love you Marie and team!!! Thank you for this!!!!!

  99. Marie – your episode today just happened at the right time. I was upset at myself this morning trying to be “nice” to everyone and have been getting a lot of distractions by not being clear and direct. As a new online gallery owner, I have a hard time saying No to artists since I respect them all. I’ve tried to be indirect and hope they’ll get it but I’ve been getting a lot of distractions from people who keep sending direct messages about their works which do not fit with our program direction. So, now I have a new perspective towards being CLEAR and DIRECT. THANK YOU, Marie. You rock!

  100. 3 top business priorities:
    1. 1 new ebook quarterly
    2. Launching Retreats
    3. Networking and growing my sales

    3 top personal priorities:
    1. Move more daily, short walks to get out from behind my computer
    2. Love more — give my husband the time and attention he deserves
    3. Have more fun.

    3 specific projects or shoulds, to say bye to:
    1. Narrowing down my social media channels (Instagram and video)
    2. Meeting with everyone who asks to meet with me.
    3. Trying to do it all.

  101. Kristin

    Okay everyone, at the end of each video, who also says this in unison with Marie? “Stay on your game, and keep going for your dreams, because the world needs that special gift that only YOU have. Thanks for watching and I’ll catch you next time on Marie TV.” I do it every time. PS I love that song IDFWU! I sing it frequently.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Kristin, I think we’ve been hearing you say it with us! 🙂 Thanks for tuning in.

      • Kristin

        🙂 !

  102. Thanks for these questions. Very thought-provoking.

    Professionally I just have to keep doing what I’m doing. Personally, however, I need to give myself more latitude. I need to be gentler on myself, take more breaks and give up caffeine! It really helps when I do all three. Thanks for the reminder.

  103. Sees

    Hi Marie!

    First and foremost, you are the bestttt! I have been a long time follower of yours, but I have never commented or reached out. Today’s topic was so good that I just had to – because I am pretty sure this video was literally sent from the heavens to my inbox!

    For a long time, saying “no” to projects made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. Like somehow, I should be able to handle everything. I work in an environment where the priorities of those in charge often conflict with each other, and I feel like I need to be able to say “yes” to it all in order to do a good job.

    A recent personal transition (getting engaged 🙂 ) made me evaluate everything from a different perspective, and it has forced me to prioritize the projects that I feel are most important in order to make room for all the exciting personal events ahead of me. This video was such a reassurance! Thank you SO much for the work you do in the world. It is so important. You are such a light!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving your first comment, and a HUGE congrats from us on the engagement!!

  104. ?? Oh Marie… I freaking loved this video! So damn true. Do what is right for you and your business. There is always something new commanding attention. #JustSayNo

  105. ROBERT


  106. My top 3 business priorities are:
    * Sign a new client design contract this year for $50,000.00
    * Choose which company to partner up with between 2 great options I have now.
    * Create time in my week to sit and be creative for the brand only.
    My top 3 personal priorities are:
    * Continue loosing weight, exercising & eating right (Lost 20 pounds in the last 3 mos)!!
    * Celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary on 11/11 with a 3 day getaway
    * Spend as much time possible with my kids.
    My 3 “IDFWU” are:
    * Wasting time on social media
    * Saying yes to much
    * Getting rid of (1) design project that doesn’t pay but I’m doing it because I feel I “have to”.
    Thanks this was great to actually write out!

  107. Thuy Straight

    Marie, you’ve done it again!!!

    This is not only entertaining but so true to what I’ve been experiencing, especially while trying to pave a path nobody around me has really travelled.

    So I understand getting bombarded with so many differing opinions and requests of my time and often don’t know which way to walk.

    This episode brings clarity that the only path to walk is by following MY OWN intuition and heart.

    Marie, you’re a rockstar, keep doin’ it to it! 😉

    Love ya beautiful lady!

    Xoxo Thuy

  108. One thing I do is make sure the things I do take on are super organized. Like reply to leads every Tuesday. Only reply to clients on MWF. Or Periscope on Tuesdays and Thursday’s. This is also helpful bc ppl get In the habit of knowing what to expect from me as well because I’m consistent.

  109. Wasn’t expected this at all but it certainly made me laugh.
    Marie has a point. It’s hard to say NO because we feel guilty or rude but honestly if we’re not getting what we need to get done how can we be fulfilled enough to finally say yes to a plan and enjoy it.

    My 3 Top Biz Priorities
    1. Register in the NLP Course Today (even though it’s pricey)
    2. Make Videos for my personal page
    3. Schedule out Social Media Posts

    My Top 3 Personal Goals
    1. Meditate & Exercise at least once a week!
    2. Talk to more people. ( Get out of my comfort zone)
    3. Get a crystal clear plan about how I want my life to be

  110. Fun. Didn’t expect it but it make so much sense. I have the hardest time to say no to things… At least I should be able to prioritize.

    – Create the best online EFT weight loss class there is 🙂
    – Be able to quit my day-time job and be an EFT professional full time
    – Make at least $10k per month

    – Be in a committed relationship with the man of my dreams
    – Lose the extra weight (with my amazing EFT weight loss program)
    – Not fear hard work to reach my goals

  111. LOVE this creative and humorous approach to tackling it all. Who says wisdom can’t be fun. You know I am going to be dancing my way out of the should’a could’a would’a from now on! Being an entrepreneur, I get bombarded with should-ing on myself. No more baby! Thanks Marie!

  112. 3 top work priorities:
    1) Kick ass delivery on my key project
    2) Develop mental health supports for my workplace
    3) Be present and supportive in all interactions, build relationships

    3 top personal priorities:
    1) Yoga and meditation practice daily
    2) Work directly with fear, develop trust
    3) Sustain solid connections with friends and family

    Bonus: if you had to sing some Big Sean to 3 specific projects or shoulds, what would those be?
    1) Other projects at work I’m dragged into
    2) Obsessing about what will happen next year with work / training
    3) Perfectionism

  113. Karem

    I honestly didn’t like that song until now.

  114. Suzana


    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Suzana, absolutely! I just sent you an email as we have a way for you to watch it.

  115. Cat

    Hilarious and much needed advice! Did not expect the kicker at the end, very funny. Glad you spelled it out and didn’t ‘pretend’ that everything was under control. xxoo

  116. I needed this today! Being a new mom and in my second year running business I always feel like I have to “do it all”. My top three business priorities are: 1-update business cards, 2-create new brochures 3-update website. Personal: 1-move daily in some way 2-plan meals 3-have time with my husband.

  117. This is exactly what I needed to hear this week as I was struggling with honing my feelings about a project I took on and later realized that this is not something I really want to spend so much time and energy doing.

    My three top business priorities: weekly updates on my website, following up with potential clients, delivering enjoyable and well thought out classes to my current students.

    Three top personal priorities: daily reflection time (journaling), meditation, and language learning and practice

    Three things to sing Big Sean to: reduce social media to once a day, checking and answering emails to twice a day, any other projects that are not aligned with what it is I want in life.

    Thanks Marie and Team!! Looking forward to the next one 🙂

  118. hi team forleo, I can´t see the episode – pls send me an email too. thx!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Absolutely, it’s zipping your way now!

  119. As always, you killed it!!!

    I love and respect people who create personal productivity systems for themselves and share them with others. It’s what I try to do myself and I’m such a junkie when it comes to finding new ones and applying them…

    Anyway, my top 3 business priorities right now: writing books and blogs, building my mailing list, and learning things that will help me be better at this. My personal ones: get rests, spend time with family, and be in a constantly loving, grateful, and not at all stressed state.

    On most days, I make it. Some days are a b*tch… 😀

  120. I agree. There is no way you can fit it all in.

    My philosophy is similar, but I come from a deep background of economics so my decision on what to work on comes from my nerdiness.

    I will try to explain this in simple terms without getting into much economics. But what I like to say is this: if you are busy, then by definition you are not creating anything of value.

    Let me explain, what are tasks that keep people busy? E-mail, social media, phone calls, small tasks like bookkeeping.

    They never stop either. They are constantly coming in and never end.

    So why don’t these tasks create value?

    In economics there is this idea that anything that is easily repeatable and scalable by definition is not valuable and therefore you will not get paid very much to do it.

    For a skill to be easily repeatable it must have a lot of people who can do it and a lot of people who can learn it quickly. Social media can be learned quickly and has a lot of people to do it, so by definition, this skill and the value it creates is not high.

    Not everyone can find market demand and create a blog that fills some existing need. This by definition is a highly valuable task, but not one that will keep you constantly busy.

    I think the important thing is to cut out all of the tasks that yield no value and focus on the tasks that only bring value.

    You will find that you have less stress and you are doing more in less time. This is the 80/20 principle in action.

  121. Flor Mazeda

    Saying NO was a bit challenging at the beginning, having a large family we are pulled a million ways. Now I focus on filling up my cup and sharing the overflow!!!
    My 3 top business priorities are:
    Sales and marketing
    RE acquisition
    Recruit top notch team players

    Personal priorities:
    Get closer to God
    Family time
    Develop Healthy habits

  122. Amanda

    Thank you so much for providing the perfect message at the perfect time… once again!

    Here are my TOP 3’s

    Business priorities:
    1. Uninterrupted time to write
    2. Find inspiration in blogs, magazines, books, fairs, showrooms, experts, mentors, masterpieces etc. => my biggest challenge (yes, Inner Random-Browsing-Demon & Mr. Day Job, I am talking to you)
    3. Reach, inspire & guide innovative designers & architects AKA what catapults me out of bed in the morning

    Personal life:
    1. Spend quality time with the people I love the most
    2. Dance, ignore elevators & stick to some other healthy habits
    3. Keep a journal

    Thanks Marie & Team!

  123. Aniva

    OMG what a great post, thank you!

  124. Krista

    LOVE this! And I COMPLETELY agree…. being “ultra clear on my own priorities” has made the HUGEST difference and had such an enormous impact on my happiness 🙂

  125. Debs

    Marie…You Rock! and are always an amazing, freakin’ inspirational to me!

    Starting with IDFWU’s:
    -Eliminate freinds with drama (the ones that give me a rash!)
    -WTF do I have 13,000 emails in my inbox…Hell No!
    -Social Media overload (FB, Twitter, Instagram, LaLaLa)…Hell No!

    Top 3 Personal Projects:
    -Fitness regimen and healthy (juicing) regimen…Yes!
    -Mediation (daily!)
    -Massages…hell yes! Twice a week!

    Top 3 Business Projects: (retired and loving it!)
    -Raise $500,000.00/year for my charity, Place of Hope (Foster Care)
    -Take position for Campaign Mgr of my favorite POS candidate
    -Manage my investments more closely

    Focus, focus, focus on what I want…Top 3!

    I always have a To Do list (that sometimes I never look at) and when I eventually look at it (a week or 10 days later), everything’s done!

    Thank you Marie for keeping it coming with real sh*t!

  126. Oooh, I must agree with Naomi at the top of this comment section!
    I feel like there’s been at least four new social media things to join this year! And I don’t even know how some do it?!

    In the back of my mind it’s “You should be more active, building community, on Twitter”, “Post more on Instagram, especially of your face and bod’, that will give you more likes and followers.”, “Read and comment other blogs”, “Maybe I should try Periscoping?”, “Now Pinterest is the new SEO, you should pin more!”
    It’s too easy to become overwhelmed -.-

    I can’t really name my top 3 business and personal life priorities, they are so tangled up together. And well, the funny thing is whatever those top 3 would be, it would certainly be those I’d be singing to 😉

  127. Ayo

    Marie thanks so much for creating this video because I believe we are living in a society pressured to juggle multiple things at one time. This will all lead to the ultimate BURN OUT!!

    1. Build subscribers for upcoming magazine
    2. Finish book
    3. Tweak Social Media Plan

    1. Eat clean 4 days a week
    2. Pray and Meditate daily
    3. Travel and Network More

  128. sheri4l

    This is great! I always would say to my sales reps they need to take my course on saying “No”. Sales reps are the worst at this and think that saying yes to everyone and everything is going to get them more business when actually it can backfire on you and possibly lose business!

  129. Thank you Marie! I am really working on this same principle and also avoiding the noise from media in regards to all that is good or bad for you. Very timely for me. Great reminder!

  130. LOVE this one! Couldn’t agree more, and needed this!!!
    Thank you. 🙂

  131. Lynne

    You’re so funny! Thanks!


  132. Marie, you are so AWESOME!

    You help me remember again what my REAL PRIORITIES ARE:

    My NO list:
    #1 to spend to much time on the FB,
    #2 to keep buying new courses,
    #3 to check emails all the time.

    My personal priorities:
    #1 to SLEEP MORE
    #2 to MOVE MORE.

    Funny, I use the capitol letters, but I think is more FOR MYSELF…
    So, I think I will copy/paste this, print it out and pin above
    my desktop 🙂

    Love and Peace,

  133. Work easy … personal not so easy! Here are my 3 top business priorities right now:

    Finish 2 books, find editor and designer. (The question still remains how to test my market to see if the books are what is really needed and will sell).

    My 3 top personal priorities are: health, wealth and romance. In that order!!!

    Love ya Marie xo

  134. Hahahahaha! Totally best vid ever Marie! Thanks for the affirmation, I recognize this in myself:) No is a good word and simple is the best, Hehehe TY

  135. I’m going to join in and shout mine out.

    Business priorities:
    1. Build my platform online
    2. Finish the short story I’m working on to send out to contests
    3. Scrivener my e-book

    Personal priorities:
    1. Baby
    2. Husband
    3. Health

    Bye Felicia:
    1. Work drama
    I’ve already cut back on everything else.

  136. Wowww..
    I resisted the urge to comment earlier today, after being a little uninspired by this episode of MarieTV. I thought, “are you kidding?? This doesnt help me manage my time better and accomplish more. I’m ALREADY over my head & drowning!”
    Fast forward about 8 hours, and I’ve already caught myself saying no to 3 things that I normally would’ve added to my to do list! I hadn’t realized how many little things come my way that I add to the pile. For the first time in a little while, at the end of today I’m feeling like my hefty pile has shrunk a little!
    Thank you Marie!!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Awesome comment, Daniela! We’re so glad to hear that your to-do list has shrunk a little bit. Sometimes all we need is a little reminder of something we already know 🙂

  137. These are my business and personal goals=

    business: 1. finish all my DEMO songs by 2016 a left handed guitar
    3. read music fluently
    personal: 1. keep up strait A’s for the whole year
    2. make new friends
    3. learn to manage stress better.

  138. Business
    1. get branding and jewels website up
    2. get 30 retailers to take my jewels
    3. blog once/week

    1. daily meditation and swim
    2. daily workout
    3. get taxes and money in order

    1. distracting things in the middle of my day

    If anyone wants a daily planner I have an excellent daily one I designed for a workshop I run. I have a weekly and a daily version which sets up your 3 priorities, tasks even tracks your water intake and what fun thing you will do this evening. Email me if you’d like a copy I’ll send you a pdf or embed it in a word doc for you x

  139. Thank you so much…You’re just my hero every time

  140. Marie! That’s one of my fave tracks from this year! Love this video.

    3 business priorities would be:

    1. Improving my automated system so my online business could flow more, which would save me a lot of time I could fill with…time for me.

    2. Getting my regular monthly blog posts done 3 weeks in advance to decrease my stress around deadlines.

    3. Finish my course so I can start implementing new skills and benefits into my business asap.

    And 3 personal priorities are:

    1. Make my own low FODMAP granola as part of my new gut-healing diet. (I’ve had CFS for 2 years and diet is one of the keys to healing.)

    2. Make broth every week and store it in the freezer.

    3. Spend more quality time with friends, even if it’s just on Facetime.

    3 ‘Shoulds’ to say NO to are:

    1. Write an eBook.

    2. Get more fans on Facebook.

    3. Do instructional videos on YouTube.

    Thanks Marie for helping me get clear! I feel really positive about what I need to focus on now. 🙂

  141. Tatiana

    This is exactly what I needed to hear this morning! Thank you!!! 🙂

  142. This is awesome, totally love it!

  143. OMG!! This came at the PERFECT time!!! I love how the universe works.
    Let’s do this:
    3 biz priorities
    – Write Holla Productions Biz Plan
    – Build client database
    – Create Performance Series
    3 personal priorities
    -yoga / fitness 5 times per week
    -weekly date nights with my love
    -save to start biz
    3 distractions i can eliminate
    -negative people

    X’s and O’s,

  144. I remember when I first started watching these amazing episodes, it was the shows on 6 Pillar Map & 13 keys to a successful business. They inspired me to create my own academy on self-mastery fundamentals towards creating a spirited-dynamic way of life for others. I have had a lot of support from mentors in direct and indirect ways like watching Marie Forleo TV. I have been embracing both the light and dark side of becoming an entrepreneur which has been an amazing journey so far. I love your content, peoples’ comments, and I just send huge blessings of happiness & fulfillment to everyone on here.


  145. Aparna

    Work Projects – now till May 2016
    1. Straight A’s in my three seminars
    2. Build up a professional Journaling habit – daily Field noting
    3. Write Professional papers

    Top 3 Personal Projects
    1. Get a flat tummy – By making better Food choices, Following a regular Work out and Meditation schedule consistently
    2. Build our life together with Vinod in San Fran
    3. Develop a watercolor sketch a day habit

  146. So timely!

    I do an ok job of saying no to others and need to improve with saying no to myself. So many fascinating bright, shiny objects out there…

    Current Business Priorities
    1) Market/Sell my new eGuide: Real World Resume Transformations.
    2) Complete my next online course w/i 2 weeks.
    3) Finish redesigning website by end of month.

    Personal Priorities
    1) Express appreciation – to loved ones (more than just in my mind)
    2) Practice yoga daily for 30 days
    3) Create a stick-to-it-able schedule and stick to it

    BTW, would you consider sharing YOUR schedule Marie. You seem like you do all those things mentioned in your video (work, play, yoga, juice, dance, butter-n-toast, sleep, etc.) I’m curious about a week in your life…

    Thanks much for your thoughtful & hilarious videos. Most inspiring.

  147. This is one of my favorite all time MarieTV episodes. Thank you so much!!

  148. LOVE this Marie! In the past few months I’ve become the queen of saying no, and I find it amazing how much it’s grounded me and the way I run my business. Thanks for introducing some funky tunes to go with it as well, will definitely use this as my healthy reminder!

    • Victoria

      Well three stress relievers I use when feeling like there’s too much on my plate is to eat at least five Reese’s peanut butter cups, drink a Dark and Stormy and take a three hour nap.

      • Caroline - Team Forleo

        Hahaha! That sounds awesome, Victoria — definitely stress relief 😉

  149. This is great advice Marie. But I have a question – I understand that it’s good to say ‘No’ to things that aren’t worth your time but what if you don’t know it’s not worth your time? For instance, I just uprooted my life and moved to a new city. I’m working from home and building my freelancing business as well as another business idea. So coming to a new city and now knowing anyone makes me feel like everything that comes my way I should say YES to. Because I need to build rapport in this new city. So I feel like I’m kind of stuck on the ‘Yes’ train while I build up my life here so as not to miss any opportunities.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Great Q, Lindsey! Sometimes we do have to test things out before we decide if they’re legitimate yes or no. One way to do that without going into overwhelm land is to dedicate a certain amount of time to networking opportunities per week or month and try to stick to that.

      Or you can decide what your priorities are for networking and select your opportunities based on that — like if your goals are to meet other entrepreneurs, you might select certain events whereas if your goals are to meet potential customers or people in your specific industry, you might go to different ones.

      For a little more info, check out this great MarieTV we did a while back:

      Just for fun, I thought I’d mention a couple networking episodes we’ve done just in case that helps make your networking more effective. One of them is primarily for introverts, but Susan Cain’s networking tips are awesome even if you don’t define yourself that way:

      As you get to experience certain events, there will most likely be ones that emerge as things you really love and want to keep doing, whereas other ones might end up falling on the “No Train” side, and that’s okay! It’s all about experimenting to find what our priorities are and ducking out kindly if it’s not a good fit 🙂

  150. Yulia

    Thank you, Marie! Lately I was saying NO a lot and it felt weird, but now I’m sure it’s okay and you made me feel more confident!
    It’s hard to choose only 3 aspects, but I’ll try my best.
    In work it’s working with clients that I already have; writing beauty reviews and progressing in brows design (then it will change to other areas of work that needs to grow).
    Personal is yoga, French language and my sweet home to be organized and renewed.
    Now it’s a lot more easier to imagine! And everything is possible and not stressing me out.
    Thank you for all advice on this show, they are very important.

  151. Elena

    Hi Marie!

    Thanks for this amazing video .

    To answer your question, my 3 personal priorities are: daily sport/ daily healthy food/ daily 8h sleep.
    My 3 professional priorities are: progress in my study/ social time/ travel the world.


  152. I just went and bought the song. To remind me to say NO more often.

    Thanks Marie (and Big Sean)

  153. claudia

    In Germany I can’t watch the video, because there seems to be music in it which causes a problem with GEMA. Very sad…

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      So sorry for the trouble, Claudia! I just sent you an email with the video so you can check it out 🙂

  154. Marie, you are SO perfect for my life 🙂 THANK YOOOOU! So needed this reminder RIGHT now 😉 haha.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Awesome, Hadarah!! xoxo

  155. Marie,

    Im going to go buy that song NOW! haha.

    My 3 Business priorities (I started writing 4 and then was tempted to put a point in so it wasn’t technically a 4 point.. gash)
    1- Get clear on 2016 marketing direction
    2- Get my blogs done for the rest of the year/first few weeks of 2016
    3- Do a big project proposal.

    Life priorities:
    1- Enjoy my up coming time with my mom (without being distracted or fearful of whats happening in my Biz)
    2- Eat dinner at he table with my husband
    3- Get a good hair cut

    I want to say F off to:
    1- Posting to social media so often (at the detriment to my actual work)
    2- Going to all 4 days of an up coming expo when I actually just want to go to 1 day.
    3- Replying to every email as it gets into my inbox!

    Ah that feels good!
    Love Rebecca x
    P.S where can I submit a Q for your A?

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Great priorities and F-offs, Rebecca! Regarding Q&A Tuesday, you can pop any questions in the form linked near the bottom of our Contact page:

      If you have any Q’s about that, please let our team know at info AT marieforleo DOT com!

  156. Love this and it came at just the right time, I actually only just wrote about the importance of saying ‘no’ because as a professional blogger, I was feeling overwhelmed by requests and you are right, you must prioritise what’s important to bring your A game!

  157. OMG! this is an AMAZING episode. just what I needed:). All the time I was there for every request from my clients, having more clients that any reasonable person could have just because of the feeling ‘ hey, they need my help’. From today on – I am gonna say NO more often! with love and respect of course
    Thank you

  158. Katya

    Hi, I cannot watch the video in Germany because of some Gema regulation pertaining to the music you use in it :(. Is there any way to solve that?

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      So sorry for the trouble, Katya — I just sent you an email with the episode!

  159. Dilara

    yes it is ok to miss out 🙂 we shouldnt try to be perfect.. it is a mind game that has been inserted in our minds that we must be perfect..
    who defines perfect? you just should select as you like what to do or what not to do… you dont even need a to do list 🙂 time is enough with no lists 🙂

  160. I love being reminded about the “No Train” and after watching today’s video I decided I needed by own song or refrain to remind me of the need to say “No.” The first song that came to mind was one that my daughter and nieces introduced to me many years ago from Sesame Street called “And the word is No.” The beauty of this song is that it’s simple, has a peppy beat to it and is easily customizable. You can find it on You Tube. Warning: Once you hear it, it will be difficult to get it out of your head!

  161. Tatiana

    Hi Marie,

    Unfortunately, this video cannot be watched in Germany :(, it says that it contains music from UMG and terms have not been agreed by the country. First time this happens with your videos though…

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      So sorry for the trouble, Tatiana. I just sent you an email with the episode!

  162. Karin

    Top 3 business priorities:
    1. Finishing my psychologist training without pressuring myself to do more than I can or want.
    2. Learning to communicate what I believe or stand for and take up some more space – because I need to remember that I’m allowed to do that as much as anyone else.
    3. Look out for future jobs what will allow me to work more with the positive aspects of the human psyche (or maybe doctoral studies).

    Top 3 personal priorities:
    1. Getting relaxed to sleep at night by not initiating any time or energy demanding activities 1 hour prior to going to bed (which will take some planning).
    2. Doing more “analogue” activities – away from the computer or TV or phone. Maybe painting or reading or taking a walk or take time to cook something nice.
    3. Being honest with myself and what I need to feel good – and letting myself take time to just relax.

    3 things I want to say no to:
    1. The “should” aspect of physical exercise.
    2. Negative thoughts about the future, doubting my abilities and likeability and so on.
    3. Stressing with getting everything in place in our new apartment – it will come together, in time.

  163. julie

    Thank you, thank you! I was just having this discussion with my husband. And then your email. It was like an answer to my internal dialogues. The timing was cosmic for sure. Loved your advice and your honesty! I especially loved all of the pictures of you that represent the many voices in our heads. Loved it! Thank you for all that you offer!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Wow, so glad we arrived at the perfect time, Julie! I love it when that happens ^_^

  164. Kate

    Let me start by saying I work full time, have 2 part time jobs, homeschool my daughter, have a not-so-helpful-around-the-house significant other, and am starting my own business—with it’s own time consuming projects. Unfortunately, the only one I really don’t give a f*** about (besides housework) is the one that pays the bills. So right now, it’s just a hustle state that will be ending in 6 months (so help me god).

    So, my 3 business priorities are…
    Getting started—mainly website and licensing
    Getting work—marketing and sales
    Getting focused—quitting my full time job to focus on my business

    My 3 personal priorities are…
    Spending more time with my daughter
    Getting the housework on an easier to maintain schedule
    Being more consistent with taking care of myself—eating right, working out, meditation

    The ones that get kicked to the curb are always taking care of myself and then housework.

    I definitely need to work on the “no” thing. No more church councils or time consuming things. Sure, I’ll read the scripture on Sunday morning (prep time—about 2 minutes to scan for hard words), but no, I will not be able to head the ad hoc council.

    In addition to my billion hour a week schedule, I’m trying to read A LOT of books. I *try* to treat it as relaxing, but with my pen and notebook, it’s more like work. 😉 That said, I take away a lot of valuable information from them, too. Like Tim Ferris saying take a week off of technology. I work with computers, so I can’t take a real week off, but I can eliminate a lot of the time sucks. I went 5 days with no social media, no every-ten-minute googling a question, no compulsive email checking. I’m still doing these things a whole lot less, and it’s been a month.

    Thank you for this, it’s definitely something I need to work on. Maybe I should just take myself off the priority list for a bit and stick “say no” at number three. It’d probably get me to take better care of myself in the long run.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      I love the idea of making “say no” a priority, Kate. It sounds like you have your hands full! There are definitely times where we have more legitimate priorities than we would prefer, and it’s true that sometimes the hustle state just has to be a reality for a bit.

      As a super busy person myself, I totally hear you on finding things to drop without dropping self-care. In case it’s helpful, one thing that’s helped me a lot in that regard is to stick an index card above my desk that says, “is what you’re doing moving you closer to your priorities?” That way when I’m about to switch to another task, I can ask myself that question.

      Sometimes that means I don’t do the dishes one night — or I leave a pile of unsorted stuff in my living room for a week. The perfectionist in me doesn’t like that, but if we spend time on the RIGHT priorities to help us move our truly meaningful work forward, a few dishes won’t matter 🙂

  165. This could not have come at a more perfect time for me! As a new mom with a full-time job and side business, I need to adopt this matra ASAP! I’m gonna take action today.
    Thank you, Marie!

  166. A thousand thank you’s, Marie, for this episode. This has been my year of saying NO to anything that’s not on my priority list. I haven’t always done it gracefully, but I’m learning, learning, learning. You are one wise, talented, conscious woman. Thanks for sharing todays treasures. I don’t always have a moments to watch your videos and respond tell you, but today I’ve made the moment and am glad.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Lovely, Cheryl. We’re so grateful to have you tuning in, and it’s wonderful that you made the moment to comment today — that means so much! xo

  167. Thank you!!! This was therapeutic! Simplify! Say no! No guilt! Got it.

  168. This is just another awesome episode from you Marie. You just nailed it with the song . Love the way how you integrate humor with each of your suggestions. Your presentation is just super cool . Thanks for sharing Marie !

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much, Tanmoy — we’re glad you enjoyed it! 🙂

  169. Wow! I needed this one today! I’m a writer, who has two part-time jobs, so I really have no time to spare. Lately, I’m getting frustrated that my writing is getting shoved on the back burner, while someone else’s ‘project’ is being kind of forced on me. I don’t mind helping, I don’t mind giving my opinion, but lately I feel more like I’m a business partner (which I’m not) whose time is being DEMANDED. It’s kind of pissing me off. I’ve been biting my tongue because it is a friend involved, but it is really getting to the point where I have to draw the line in the sand. Thank you because your blog made me see that if I continue doing what someone else wants, that I will lose a part of myself along the way.

  170. Tina

    So needed this today!!

  171. Laara

    Great video, as always, Marie!
    You mentioned you would post your favorite productivity tools below the video and I don’t see them, would love them.

  172. Hi,
    This was spot on and perfectly timed for me. I just wrote about why I am no longer trying to find life’s balance. I would love to know what you think of this perspective.

    I look forward to your email every week. Thanks!

  173. Corina Vanana Valcan

    Hello Marie, you listened what`s here for the present and now the better doing and each next better creation and lesson means one advance. And there are afterwords the following advances. Love the video and every next Marie TV.

  174. Sonja

    Sorry, I’m late –– I only just tried to see the video today, but I’m in Germany and also can’t see it. But I’d love to – could you please email me the video, too? Thank you so much!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Hi Sonja! Check your email — I just sent you the episode. 🙂

  175. Melissa

    My favorite video so far. Hilarious AND helpful. 😉

  176. Marie,
    Such a precious episode! As you see from the comments, almost 100% of us can relate to this issue of distractions and overwhelm of the modern world.
    Thank you for being authentic, and honestly admitting that you are not even trying to fit all the busy chatters of the mind in the schedule. Simplicity is definitely a key!

    Three business non-negotiable priorities for me:
    1. Create an on-going valuable content (important: not to write or design social media posts, but actually have bullet points with ideas, and outsource writing, designing, and making it neat and pretty to someone, who can do it better that me)
    2. Be in charge of marketing campaign ideas and new distribution outlets, and delegate crafting them and executing the plan to someone else.
    3. Constant learning of new strategies in business development.

    Three personal priorities:
    1. Morning routine and preping myself for the day (mentally and physically)
    2. Daily movement (exercise or connecting with Nature)
    3. Nutrition (only real food)

    Three big fat no’s:
    1. Committing to way more than I can chew, or at least schedule it rationally (product manufacturing and delivery, I manufacture my own raw food bars).
    2. Don’t go to the next learning curve without full implementation of what I already have.
    3. Over-scheduling the day (Important vs Urgent is my king, thanks to your video, Marie!)

    P.S. I will actually copy, paste and print what I just wrote here and put it in front of my computer for a daily reminder. Don’t want to write another self-promise and never follow up or look at it again!

    Thank you everyone and good luck in our journeys!

    • Incredible Inna. You are a superwoman. Xx

      • Thank you Amber! Your comment is like a big warm hug of support! 🙂 Love back!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      So many great insights and helpful practices! Love it! 🙂

      • Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment dear Mandy 🙂

  177. Margaret Easton

    Loved it Marie and so apt right now as people are advising me to sign up for Social media and wanting me to go in directions with my business that don’t sit well with me at the moment. I love the fact that someone as successful as you is advocating not being pressurised into doing things you really don’t have to do.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      So glad this episode was timely! It’s impossible to be everywhere at once (especially if you want to be everywhere at once AND do it well), so definitely only choose the things you’re most enthusiastic about. 🙂

  178. Awwww yay homey Marie!! Well said! Way to direct everyone to do what is best in their own lives and also say no to what is not feeling important in the moment. You nailed! I love ya! Keep it rolling sista!

  179. Faith

    yes, YES, YES.

    What resonated with me most was Marie’s observation that “Everything takes more time and energy than you think.”

    So true!

  180. Great advice and reminded me that I need to say more a little bit more. I find myself sometimes wanting to veer off.

    “When you know what’s important, it’s a lot easier to ignore what’s not.”


  181. Jack

    Awesome! Thank you so much for sharing. Good stuff!

  182. It was really hard saying “no” to playing the dance-off section several times. I will work on that 😉

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Teehee. 🙂 Dance breaks are hard to resist!

  183. Thank you for the episode Marie. Am thrilled. Allow me to start by my top three personal priorities:
    1. Meditation goes first as this touches the core of my life. It helps me
    connect with higher power for guidance and blessings.
    2. Health – a health body bubbling with life allows me to do everything i want
    to do including the work that i do in the world without any stopping.
    3. I need to be loyal always.

    Business Priorities

    1. Improve customer experience and exceed customer expectations.
    2. Increasing market readiness.
    3. Be sociable and work with colleagues well.

    In general i use priority classification to make sure i start with the more important work. That is immediate, urgent and normal. This is working for me and it leaves everything done at the end of the day.

  184. I figured this out a few years back and it changed my life. Way to go Marie.

  185. …what a pity: due to german laws concerning the copyright of music I’m not allowed to watch the video…
    my gift to the world is my blog and it’s my most important private goal to run it constantly.
    I will define further goals 🙂

    In some comments here is written “LMAO”, what does it mean?
    Thank you.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Not to worry — we found a workaround and I just sent you an email with a link to the episode so you can check it out!

      (LMAO is a slang acronym for “laugh my a$$ off) 🙂

  186. Marie, great video! Your advice is very helpful for me. I tried for YEARS to fit everything I wanted in one day, but then I realized it’s just a huge waste of my time! I was loosing my productivity and desire to do anything.
    Than I’ve found one great advice from Forbes: while saying no, try to help person who is asking you with something else you can! This advice have changed my life! I stopped to feel so guilty)

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s good advice! Or if something just isn’t a good fit for you, recommending someone you know who it would be a good fit for is also helpful.

  187. Stephanje

    Thanks Marie! Really feeling overwhelmed right now and needed this messgae. Thank you for all that you do. Xo

  188. Hey Marie and Team

    As a Fine Art Student in Western Australia it is very hard to say no as is it like a big country town and everyone know everyone. However, as a young lady with lots of creative ideas all your productivity strategies are a go to when I’m feeling the overwhelm. I’m so grateful for the ideas and opportunities but respect and love myself to know that every choice I make that feels good means I made the right one.

    Three business goals:

    1. Write a book before I’m 25 ( 16 months) about how to rule after school for people getting out of school and feeling stressed because they don’t know what they want to be and therefore don’t know why they want to do.
    2. Finish my honors in Fine Arts in Perth in 2016.
    3. Continually work on my website to build an authentic audience that aligns with my artistic, entrepreneurial and personal vibes and values.

    Anything else I’ll be putting my blinkers on.. so I can focus on completing and winning these three races. It’s feels like #ease #flow #peace #joy when I choose what I focus on and become.

    Three personal goals:

    1. Daily Deep Belly Breathing
    2. Handstands
    3. Telling my legs daily how much I love them ( Body part of the year for 2015)


    Amber Hope Norrish

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      This is AWESOME, Amber! It sounds like you’ve got a solid plan for success. We’re excited for you!

    • Omg Amber I would totally read that book! I remember getting out of school (and leaving my intense university job) and not knowing who I was anymore. Fab idea!

  189. Marie,

    Great video today. Remembering that we can say ,”No” is so important. I especially valued hearing that everything takes more time than we think. I am at the beginning of creating a chiropractic practice where I take care of people and animals and I have 2 kids of my own and am raising my niece and I have a husband and three cats, too. I’m a busy woman and yet I still love to say “Yes” to everything that comes across my plate. Slowing down my creative mind to consider three top priorities is the balance that I need in order to truly focus my attention on what needs to be. I really appreciate you reminding those of us who want to do everything that some focus on a few things will lead to greater satisfaction and productivity.

    Lastly, I want you to know that tonight during dinner I’m going ask my family to do this (something I saw during your interview with mama Gena):

    Generate a: BRAG

    I think the work you’re doing is paramount for children to understand so they can shape their lives on truths that make their heart sing. My thought is that we condition our patterns of thinking early in life and that exposure to the ideas you propose, during the beginning stages of developing how we see ourselves in the world, can have a major impact on a person’s life. BTW: my kids are middle and high school age and will be able to understand the concepts outlined above.

    Here’s my Brag. I brag that I’m disciplined and brave to continually regenerate my love for bringing Chiropractic to the masses. I have stepped out into the vast unknown (but with experience to back it up) and have jumped into starting a new business with both feet.

    I’m SO grateful for the support that I have in my friendships, my family and my community, of which you are a part. I’m always finding people who inspire me and support me, I’m so grateful and blessed.

    My desire is to focus on my objectives. I’m so interested in every aspect of what it is to live a healthy life. That includes, nutrition, exercise, mindfulness practices and of course Chiropractic care and other forms of body work. Where does a girl stop and not be everything to everyone. My desire is to zero in on my natural abilities coupled with learned skills and focus on offering that! And to not forget to make it fun otherwise my desire will be squelched.

    Thanks for listening Marie, et al. Keep doing your amazing thing.


    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      What a lovely share! I’m so glad you’re doing brag/gratitude/desires regularly. It’s wonderful that you’re sharing your gift of chiropractic medicine with the world. Keep up the great work!

  190. I loved this video Marie! I may have kinda busted a move during your song 😉

    I’ve been doing A LOT of saying NO for myself for years. It’s the only way I’ve kept myself sane. Sometimes people don’t like that I have my boundaries so clearly set, but I think that has more to do with them, than me.

    And basically, your video today sums up the core of my business. I coach women through making sustainable lifestyle changes, one step at a time. It all begins with determining what’s a priority for them, and what can get tossed aside as priorities for others that they just don’t need.

    It’s this feeling that we actually have to do everything, and yesterday, that puts us into that place of overwhelm.

    Thank you for giving us permission to be Queens of NO!!!!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      This is fantastic, Christine! I’m so glad you’re helping women come into their power and stay sane by saying no and prioritization. Sometimes I think women are conditioned by society to constantly say yes and it’s just not healthy or productive. Thanks for showing women that there’s another way.

  191. zimt-peppermint

    “Unfortunately, this video is not available in your country because it could contain music from UMG, for which we could not agree on conditions of use with GEMA.” 🙁

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I just sent you an email with a link to the video so you can see it, so that should be in your inbox now. 🙂

  192. Whana Eddy

    Dear Marie,
    It seems like it’s going to be a very helpful video for me just like the rest of your videos, however I can’t watch it due to YouTube says it’s not available. I really wanna see it..

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Not to worry, I just sent you an email with the video so you can see it!

  193. Hi Marie,

    Great video! I can relate to the overwhelming and distractions you mentioned, which is why I try to stay focused on PRIORITIES.

    Top three business priorities:
    1. Add valuable content via social media
    2. Walk my talk
    3. Tell my stories

    Top three personal priorities:
    1. Spend quality time with my husband (no distractions allowed)
    2. Meditating and reiki
    3. Healthy eating and exercise

    My IDFWU projects:
    1. Saying “Yes” when I really want to say “No”
    2. Procrastinating
    3. Spending extra time on social media



    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Nice! These are all super good and helpful. We’re cheering you on. 🙂

  194. Samantha

    What a great tip! Done with such originality (as always) and with direct, helpful and entertaining content. I love you Marie!! Clearly you found your passion and paving a way for us still searching for ours. Happy Day!

  195. Thank you so very, very much for this. I love how much of yourself and style you put into these videos Marie!

    What is most useful for me is your call for us to put our priorities here. If someone asked me if I had clarity around my priorities I would say yes. But actually writing them down makes me stop and think, so obviously I need to hone in on them and keep them at the forefront of my mind.

    I love no. I love you celebrating no!

    3 Business Priorities:
    -Get more hands-on experience in communications
    -Write daily and pitch at least 5x per week
    -Make dat skrilla

    3 Personal Priorities:
    -Have a boss time
    -Listen to my body
    -Play outside more

    3 IDWFWU items:
    -Social events that I’m not jazzed about
    -Compromising my boundaries and newfound sense of self when I return to old environments over the holidays
    -Allowing anxiety or fear to decide jack sh*t

    Ah that feels good!! xo

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Yes, yes, YES. I can relate to all 3 of your IDFWU items. Sending positive thoughts your way!

  196. Francesca

    I must become the queen of no!!!
    I am always seeing what is new and what should I be doing, and its exausting, plus I pay less attention to what I should be doing!!
    I recently decided that I was not working on a big project that I had, and it was awesome and helped a lot of pepolpe but it was not making me happy, but I am still thinking I should not have quited so I keep on doing some work there!!
    I just don’t want be a quitter but it was not fulfilling me… 🙁
    So right now my 3 business priorities are:
    Launching my health coaching pages and bussines!!
    Doing my own eBook and Courses!
    Opening my health related restaurant!!

    3 personal priorities:
    1 Healthy eating and excersising
    2 spending time with my man and growing our relationship
    3 Practice my gratitude

    3 things i need to say no to:
    1 Procrastinating in social media
    2 reduce my newsletters suscriptions
    3 have a better concentration!

  197. Thank you so much for this video!

    It has actually challenged me to sit down and work out what my business and personal priorities are – I actually have no idea!

    I have sooo many ideas, passions and things I want to do and be involved and sometimes I find it hard to decipher what’s my priority and what’s someone else’s.

    FOMO can hit me really bad sometimes and I although I hear the whisper in my heart of what I ‘should’ be doing, I can’t help myself and end up over filling my plate. This video has really urged me work out my priorities, figure out what MY yes’s are so I can so no to everything else that sets itself up for distraction.

    Thanks Marie and team.

    Chloe Somerfield x

  198. I am slowly learning to say no more often. Such great advice. x

  199. Wow Marie, talk about feeling on the same page. This year brought plenty of distractions my way. Yup-fell right in that overwhelming zone. Ding: I failed at saying NO. Recently I’ve had to dig deep and apply my own integrative nutrition health coaching tools to not feel the guilt to say no, ridiculous to even feel this, one really shouldn’t. Including allowing myself to get to that point. Seems as setting priorities will really stop creative thoughts from detouring from the golden path. Little did I know how good and focused it would feel by getting out of my chair and singing IDFWU to all my distractions. LOL Boom, you did that right there- Thanks Marie, your fabulous and an inspiration! ((Hug)) Now pass that mic, time to hit replay and blast these distractions. ;o)

    • Andrea Rand

      Thanks!! Yea, sounds like me!! Hard to learn to say NO but I’m stressing gal!! Moving, selling house, moving to boat, starting a new job, meanwhile, I just want to curl up with my bad cats. Love how you are so direct!!’
      You RULE!!

  200. UJ Ramdas

    It’s incredible what you’ve built over the last decade. You’re such an inspiration!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much, UJ! It’s been an amazing decade.

  201. Great video and a great reminder! As always, Marie is in my head! I had to laugh when she mentioned getting up at 4am to write morning pages (done it), feeling I need to be on Medium (doing it), plus almost every other “should”. It’s so much but it feels like I have to if I want to “play”.

    I agree that focusing is important, but the hard part for me is when I am just starting out, everything looks like it’s shiny and what I should be doing to get out there. I guess the question for me is, how does one know what to be laser focused on?

  202. Dear Marie, in Germany it is impossible to watch your video, it seems youtube has copyright issues with the music included. Could you maybe publish a “music free” version? This usually doesn’t happen, I can watch all your other videos … and would love to see this one, too.
    Cheers, Stefanie from Germany

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Stefanie, we have a way for you to watch it! I just sent you an email, so be on the lookout for that in your inbox shortly.

  203. Laughter at that beautiful innocent looking face rapping those lyrics! I won’t question my expletives again!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo


  204. Dear Marie,
    I love your videos. There is so much truth in them! 🙂 And they do help! Since I’m in Germany, I’m also not able to watch this one. Too bad!!! Do you think, you could send it via mail?? Thank you so much!! All the best from Heidrun

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Hi Heidrun! We do have a way for you to watch it, so I just zipped an email your way with how. Hope you enjoy it 🙂

  205. Lmao thank you so freaking much for this! I’m downloading the song NOW. The only person I need to say “no” to is moi! I’m a newish health coach just getting my web presence out there so I can … Coach! I want to help people, 1:1… For now, yup, that’s all I want. But in the meantime my head is spinning with all the others shoulds to do especially more and more social media. So I’ve been trying to do it all when I only need to say ” no–to myself–you don’t do that until you do this first! Your energy sucks right now because you’re spinning way out of control and that makes you of use to no one! “. Ha! Love this! Thanks much!

  206. Hey Marie!

    Love this post! Big thank you for inspiring us all.

    My 3 top business priorities are:

    1. Preparing for launching my crowdfunding campaign for a TV pilot I wrote/created called Life of Groupies.

    2. Taking your course, The Copy Cure

    3. Pitching my new reality TV show concept to specific networks and production companies in LA and NY.

    My 3 top personal priorities right now

    1. Meditating

    2. Reading

    3. Blogging

  207. Thank you Marie. Exactly the right message at exactly the right time. Keep doing what you do! Love your style.

  208. Lynn

    My top priority this year is turning around my financial situation, stopping over-spending and starting to save. In line with this I’m:
    – working hard in a new job, learning it well so that I can be efficient, calm and happy
    – getting back into planning and cooking good meals so that I’m not wasting food, time or money
    – maintaining my house so that it’s in good condition and the furniture and fittings that I’ve got look beautiful

    My other priority is getting into the garden every day, even if it’s just to pull out a couple of weeds, or stand and look at the sky. It’s a good thing to do.

    Thanks for the great episode Marie and Team Forleo – it’s great to hear you saying NO.


    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Those are such great goals and priorities, Lynn, and I love thinking of you getting that garden time daily. XO

  209. Tizita

    Dear Team Forleo,
    Since I also live in Germany, I cannot watch the content, for which I have been so hungry. Could you please send it to me too?
    All the best,

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Absolutely! I just sent you an email so be on the lookout for that arriving in your inbox soon.

  210. MacKenzie

    Just a tip: this video won’t play in Europe due to the type of music used in the video. It’s not released for use outside the USA.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Hi MacKenzie! Thanks for reaching out. I’ve sent you an email with a way for you to watch the video, as we’d hate for you to miss it. It should be in your inbox momentarily!

      • MacKenzie

        Thank you sooooo much!!! You guys are the best. Going to watch it now!

  211. Krissy Smith

    Love this so much…I am a distraction diva…I create busy work to distract me from my busy work…this was so needed…you need to sell the song on iTunes 🙂 I need it on my playslist!

  212. I love this unconventional advice! It’s true- we certainly can’t fit everything into our time, and that’s okay. Thanks for the tips, as always!

  213. Anastasia

    Hello Team Forleo, I just wanted to watch the episode and I’m also not able to watch it in Germany. So sad! Would it be possible to send it to me via email? That would be lovely. I noticed in the comments that I’m not alone with this problem.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Yes, absolutely! There’s an email making its way to you now, Anastasia. 🙂 Enjoy!

  214. Hi Marie,

    I could not agree more! After completing B-school in 2013 my To Do List is always being updated – But I am loving the journey! The process is the product, thanks for your amazing work, you have changed my life – xx Sammi

  215. Hi Marie,

    I could not agree more! After completing B-school in 2013 my To Do List is always being updated – But I am loving the journey! The process is the product, thanks for your amazing work, you have changed my life – xx Sammi

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  216. Thank you, thank you! This is exactly what I needed to hear this week. My priorities need to be creating my YouTube channel, finishing my Amazon book, and setting aside time for self care everyday. Tabs are getting closed, emails will be ignored and this phone is going on silent!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Woohoo! Closing tabs, a silent phone, and (temporarily) ignoring emails is so cathartic. It’s wonderful that you’re being more intentional about self-care. 🙂

  217. OMG you are so hilarious and I love you.

  218. Oh, I am all about NO right now!! I used to believe that I needed to take on everything that came along to get ahead with my blog and freelance business, but it just left me miserable and overstressed because I simply didn’t have time or energy for it all. Now I’m being much more mindful about what projects I take on. As you said, knowing your goals and only selecting things that help you work towards those goals really works wonders. Never feel guilty about declining something if that’s what’s best for you at the time!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      That’s so smart. Marie is a big fan of saying “If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no,” and I’ve found that philosophy super helpful.

  219. Wow, this post came at just the right time because we are getting into holiday crazy times. I had been contemplating a lot of these points myself and even wrote a blog post on my website called 5 Tips For Holiday Season Self Care to try to counter the overwhelm.
    But these points really helped a lot. Thanks for your honesty and insights, as usual, Marie!

  220. Hooray!! A woman after my own heart who gets it! This year my 2 business(s) have grown by leaps & bounds! I am have to say NO to petty networking events that do not bring value to my clients nor to me. Bringing value to my clients and to my life, my family is priority! THANK YOU! Marie ~ Keep Shining

  221. For the people-pleasers of the world, myself included, this is especially hard! “No” so often equals disappointment for others (which, I loathe), but since having my son last year, my priorities have sharpened. I don’t want the time I spend time with him loaded with distractions that take me away from giving him my full attention. I’ve been able to parlay that into the rest of my life and I can tell you, no is a powerful tool! Like you said, no with respect and kindness (even if the thing you’re saying no to is yourself) can be a game changer. I would also add one additional thing.. make sure your no is “guilt free” otherwise, your no’s will start weighing you down. Give yourself permission to choose what matters most to you!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Exactly! “No” can be a beautiful thing. 🙂

  222. ABSOLUTELY loved this! I often find myself accepting too many projects because I don’t want to miss out on the opportunity. In the end, I am overwhelmed and I don’t feel like I’m doing the project justice because I just don’t have enough time for it! That rap was perfect for combating anxiety about missing out or having too many things to do. Thanks!!!

  223. I think this is so great. I know with a great deal of people one of the questions that pops up a lot is how to say no. What do you guys find to be the nicest ways to decline requests?

  224. What simple and beautiful advice.

    Personally, I am always tempted to do WAY more than I physically can. I am constantly tempted by the fear of missing out, but I end up sacrificing and everything I do becomes mediocre. When I learned this skill of saying no to distraction, and saying yes only to the things that are most important, my life and business changed. It’s amazing what happens when we learn to do a few things really well, instead of trying to cram it all in.

    Thanks for this incredible reminder!

  225. B

    OMG! OMG! The Universe knew I needed to watch this video. I am on the brink of overwhelm. Things are slipping through the cracks and important s**t is not getting done. I needed this so bad Marie! THANK YOU for your honesty. Seriously this changes everything!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      B, we’re thrilled you found this episode just when you needed it. It sounds like it’s time to get on the “no train,” as Marie says. 🙂 We’ll be rooting for you.

  226. It’s been a long time, but as always Marie you’re chosen advice is so timely for me! Just today one of my Biz BFFs & I were chatting about making decisions and trying to figure things out for what we should individually be doing with our work… *Why didn’t I see this earlier?!*

    I love that you are the Queen of No and that you recognize things as distractions from what’s really important!

    My top 3 priorities for *right now*…
    1. Focus on getting my content creation calendar set! (I can’t test out the new system till it’s drafted & ready to go!)
    2. Draft out the copy for my latest design. (It won’t be listed till this is done anyhow!)
    3. Stay present in the work that I am doing. (This takes daily & necessary practice, but I get better & better each day!)

    Personally speaking…
    1. Finishing up my konmari journey tops the list (it’s been great, but I’m ready to wrap it up!)
    2. Work on digitizing my manuscripts. (This has long been on the list, time to get it done!)
    3. Settle out gifts for the holiday season! (As a maker I tend to put my personal plans last, not this year!)

    Lastly…what is coming off the list…
    1. Catching up on old listings, it’s better to just start fresh. So much less guilt this way!
    2. Reaching out for guest posting. It’s time to focus on home base for a little while & that’s a okay!
    3. Re-vamping old projects…again more than enough to take care of right now without digging into the past!

  227. Great episode, just got a chance to watch last weeks right now. I love this one, saying no without feeling guilty is hard because when you say no, sometimes people really try to push for what they want at your expense. I have had to say no to giving away my work for practically nothing to clients, I have had to say yes for charging what I need to to actually make a living. I have said no to feeling bad that I’m not where I thought I should be by now, and yes to being grateful for all of the lessons I learned along the way. I know I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be, but I can see a bigger vision and I appreciate the reminder that to get to that bigger vision of a business and the life that you love, you’re going to say no to a lot.

  228. PS, the gal that had a goal from going to half a million in sales to a million, I want to chat with her. Lol.

  229. Leah Alexandra Goldstein

    I just burst into tears when you started the song — what!? This really landed for me. Thank you Marie and team!

  230. Kristin

    This has got to be my favourite video of all time from you Marie! I’ve been watching you for a year now and you have helped me in so many ways. This one was a real breakthrough!

    Please, if and when you get the chance listen to “I’m off that” by Pitbull. It is full of NOs and being Off that. It’s all about distinguishing!

    Thank you so so much!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Kristin, thank you so much for letting us know that this was your all time favorite, and we hope it helps you focus on what you really want to.

      That Pitbull song is a great “no” song too. Happy saying no!

  231. Djuro

    Marie I love your answer to this question!
    You’ve got every question right answer!

  232. I feel like learning balance got better for me when I began to write my priorities down for ALL areas in my life, and then schedule and set aside time for each of them. It is easy for business and work to overtake creating and maintaining relationships, at least for me anyways. Especially when you are so excited about the work that you do.

    My number one goal right now is to invest more in relationships- family, friends, and networking. I have to intentionally plan it or it just does not get done.

    Always learning 🙂

  233. Here’s my list. Thanks for the inspiration!
    1. schedule and DO 1 hour a day on new biz
    2. get writing for blogs
    3. promote lifestyle coaching
    1. 30 mins a day FUN
    2. buy a yoga mat
    3. order a new mountain bike

  234. Perfect timing for this video. I was just offered a great opportunity today and was considering taking it. After watching this video I know that I will politely turn it down. Singing Big Sean 🙂

  235. Coco

    Hi Dear Marie & Team! This episode sounds so great! I really can’t wait to watch this – but as many others above I am living in Germany! Would you mind to send me your “wonder-email-link” too. Many thanks and love to you all! CC

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Coco, I just sent you an email and it should be arriving shortly!

  236. Unfortunately I couldn’t watch this episode. It says it is not available in my country because of Gema!!!

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Lidwine, we have a way for you to watch it as we’d hate for you to miss it. I just sent you an email with the details. Enjoy!

  237. Alexandra

    You look really good.

  238. My 3 big business priorities RIGHT NOW:

    1. Write my book
    2. Write content for my coaching practice
    3. Re-do my services pages

    My 3 personal priorities RIGHT NOW:

    1. have a self love routine daily: meditation or tapping, some stretching or yoga for a few min, going to bed earlier, eating regularly, take care of my skin: makeup, cream, shower
    2. do only what I feel like doing and what makes me happy and joyful
    3. focus more on being a great woman for my boyfriend, than making money. Noticed that I am more relaxed and work less and he is more successful this way – which makes me happy, because I feel safe

  239. Nia

    Awesome video!
    3 business priorities: blogging, social media and building clientele
    3 personal: family, health and self-improvement

  240. Wow video
    Business blogging, social media and building clientele to include this video. Individual, family, health and self-improvement have been told about. Thank you for sharing.

  241. Great advice as usual Marie. xxx

  242. I’m not really one for the f*bomb unless it is really necessary. But I do sing this song after a friend taught it to me when things are getting to that, “hell no!” point.

    I LOVE that you put this in here. It gave me the best belly laugh! <3

  243. 3 business priorities:
    1. Announce website relaunch and fix up some blog posts
    2. Create and sell online course
    3. Get more coaching clients

    3 personal priorities:
    1. Consistently follow healthy diet and workout plan
    2. Meditate daily
    3. Make all daily prayers on time

  244. Top 3 work priorities: 1) finish opt-in product and add to website, 2) build my list, 3) networking with local farmers and restaurantors to see what high-end food products we should start growing now.
    Top 3 personal priorities: 1) make time to read for leisure daily, 2) run at least 2 miles a day, 3) qt with the hubs

  245. AWESOME!! I too am a professional No person! Love it!!

  246. YESSSS!! I needed this today! Marie, you always have just the right advice.

    This has encouraged me to sit down today and figure out my top three priorities and then my top three IDGAFAY!

  247. I am new to Marie Tv (I found you after watching soul sessions!) but all I can say is I love it!! It´s just what I need right now for myself and my business. I´m a serial list maker and always get overwhelmed of all the things I have to do. But saying NO to myself is probably one of the things I haven´t done yet. THANK YOU SO MUCH for all your inspiration and practical advice. You are so refreshing…and that Susie woman on the video on prioritizing can stuff it…haters gonna hate. Lots of blessings to all of the Marie TV team. Keep it up!!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      So glad you’re in the MarieTV community, Paola! We’re thrilled you’re here and that you’re enjoying Marie’s work. I’m a serial list maker too, so I totally hear you. Saying no (even to yourself) is really hard. If you’d like more tips on this, I think you’ll like this blog post from Marie: It’s from a couple of years ago, but those tips are still gold.

      • Paola Rojas

        awesome! Thank you so much!!

  248. Ohh Thank you for this… I need to declutter all that junk of doing this that and every other thing that pops up.. The distractions right now is through the roof and I think my first step is to DECLUTTER my life!! Starting noww..meanwhile I will be singing that

    xx Menellia

  249. Oh Marie, I needed that so much. I’ve had a lot of pressured requests of late. Thanks for reminding me of my power to say NO. xx.

  250. LOVE THIS.

    3 top business priorities:

    1. First book.
    2. Weekly love letter to list.
    3. Consistent social media sharing.

    1. Daily exercise.
    2. Daily meditation.
    3. Sleep.

    1. Excessive social media use.
    2. Drinking/late nights.
    3. Over-consuming online content.


    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Awesome list, Lula! 🙂

    • Enny

      I love your list, Lulu. Excessive social media use definitely resonates with me. And I just imagined how it would look like having to explain the IDFWY acronym to a passerby! Lol

  251. Lisa Calder

    OHHHHH My Lordy!!! This Is your best video Ever!!!
    You sure made me laugh with all the crap the ego says.

    Top 3 priorities
    1. ZERO inbox!!
    2. Start a blog!
    3. New business plan for 2017!

    • I’m right there with you! The hundreds of emails alone are staggering!

  252. Jennifer

    Love the energy and the message! OMG- hilarious because it is so spot on!
    I feel so incredibly blessed to have the opportunities that I have thanks to a satisfying job, great colleagues and a supportive family, but year after year I say, “this is my limit- I can’t do more” then I do more because I love it all so much and don’t want to miss out on something that could really change the lives of the kids I teach and wonder why I am near burnout. Despite the great effort that went in to returning to college in my mid 30’s and finally finding a job that has been the right fit at the right time- a job that literally saved us- I’m day dreaming about what’s next because I don’t think I can keep up the pace (or maintain the passion) where I’m at right now (and this is something that I have created for myself- I’m totally not placing any blame on the inherent demands of the job). I’m barely present for anyone because my schedule is spread so thin. This video has snapped me back into the present, helped me to reevaluate my priorities AND helped me to LMAO for a change!!! What a difference a five minute video can make- thank you!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Wonderful, Jennifer! We’re so glad to hear this episode helped you reevaluate your priorities, and of course that it made you laugh too. I hope this helps you get really clear on your priorities and next steps — we’re cheering you on!

  253. Enny

    This is so timely! Big Sean’s def going to come in handy when I’m fighting my own tendency to stay in my comfort zone. There are so many personal and professional goals I’d like to meet this year that singing big Sean’s song to my self-sabotaging tendencies is EXACTLY what I need! Thanks, Marie!

  254. Katie N

    I never leave comments, but I am the Queen of saying yes to everything. Definitely needed the reminder. Marie you’re a rockstar. Xoxo

  255. Top personal priorities :
    – marketing and selling my book
    – my upcoming holidays
    – my savings

    Tops say no’s to:
    – extra networking events or commitments
    – extra social commitments
    – new job offers?

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Awesome, Beatrice! Thanks so much for sharing your lists with us– we hope this episode gave you some strategies that will help make prioritizing a breeze. Thanks for stopping by!

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  257. A.L.P.

    If I could only have 3 top business priorities and 3 top personal priorities right now, what would they be?
    1. Finish writing 90 minute play for October staged reading
    2. Work on music – whether it be piano, writing new songs, or putting those songs on sheet music
    3. Figure out how to improv can be part of my life again on a regular basis;
    1. Pay off credit card debt / build savings
    2. Bring lunch to work every day; make dinner; avoid ordering in
    3. Keep home clean / organized

  258. Soooo after 38 years of teaching (and working 2 additional jobs), I retired early & made myself the priority. I workout 6 days a week & lost 20 pounds! Wooohooo!

    The problem is, after being so busy for so long, I can’t seem to get focused on my 2 new projects when I come home from the gym:
    1. Bree’s Book Bus- a nonprofit whose mission is to bring free books to kids living in ‘book deserts’- those places where there is no access to books, and
    2. Dog With a Bone – my educational consulting business.
    How do I work from home in a focused way?

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks for stopping by, Gail! Huge congratulations on this exciting new chapter of your life. It’s wonderful that you’re implementing some healthy new habits and that you’ve already seen such positive results. It’s clear you aren’t afraid of hard work and investing in your goals and we have no doubt you’ll be able to bring your business dreams to life. It may seem counterintuitive, but we often experience the greatest resistance and fear around the things that are the most important to us. This is actually something Steven Pressfield talks about in his book, The War of Art, which is a longtime favorite of Marie’s:

      You have such a deep passion for education and a heart for lifting others up which are beautiful gifts for your clients and students alike. As Marie often reminds us, “clarity comes from engagement, not thought” and it’s always about “progress not perfection” so we’d love to encourage you to focus on the small steps you can take toward your goals. To help you get started, Marie delivers another dose of wisdom inspired by Steven Pressfield’s new book, The Artist’s Journey, that may give you an extra boost:

      Finally, if you haven’t already or if it’s been a while, we’d love to encourage you to listen to Marie’s powerful free audio training, How to Get Anything You Want which is packed full of insight and action to help you work toward your goals with greater clarity:

      We hope that’s helpful, Gail! Keep going for your dreams, we’re cheering you on.

      • Gail

        Thank you so much for taking the time to not only respond, but to provide such insightful guidance & kind words. Marie is truly a wonderful & supportive place!

        I will work on engagement for both Bree’s Book Bus by fundraising to get a Book Bus so we can get to neighborhoods & provide more books to kids & engage more teachers & instructional coaches so they can help more struggling readers.

        I very much feel & hear the cheering coming through loud & clear! Thank you!

  259. Thank You So Much!!
    This comes at such a perfect time in my life!!!

  260. Sometimes it’s hard to say ‘no’… well.. depends with who we’re talking… It’s even harder when you know that when you did not say ‘no’ it means your decision.

    • Renee – Team Forleo

      Hi Marta. You’re right –– it can be very difficult to say no, especially if you’re conditioned to always say yes to everything!
      You might enjoy this episode with Marie and Bob Burb. It includes scripts on how to say “no” kindly:

      • Thank you Renee :*

  261. Tracy

    Thanks! ?

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