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A few weeks ago, I got the worst text of my life.

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My dad, who had seemed to be in good health, passed out cold in a bank. He was rushed to the ER. They discovered his kidneys were failing.

To say the past few weeks have been challenging is an understatement.

I’m here with him and my mom now. He’s on the mend but he’s still got quite a road in front of him with surgery, treatments, etc. (And yes, we’ll take all the prayers and healing vibes you’re willing to send.)

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Naturally, I’ve been thinking a lot about the fragility of life lately. I’ve also been thinking a lot about time. How we spend it, and how absolutely precious it is. Because once that resource is spent, we can never get it back.

One of our MarieTV viewers asked a question that I’ve heard a lot, but haven’t answered until now. “Marie, what’s the one thing you wished you knew sooner?”

My answer is in today’s episode. It speaks to how I wasted an enormous amount of time early on in my career struggling with something that, ultimately, didn’t matter.

Once you’ve had a chance to watch this week’s episode, I’d really love to hear from you.

Is there something you know now that you wish you knew a little sooner?

My hope is that we, you along with our amazing community, can share some of our hard won wisdom (and hindsight silliness!) with each other.

Remember to share as much detail as possible in your comment as thousands of incredible souls come here each week for insight and inspiration. Your story may be just what someone else needs to have a breakthrough.

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All my love,

XO

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  1. Marie, I am very sorry to hear about your dad. Sending you and your family prayers for strength and healing. 🙂

    • Yes! Big prayers for your whole family, Marie!

    • One thing I know now that would have helped me sooner is not to sporadically and willingly swoon over the lust and lights of certain people. I sacrificed my time and energy to do things and I get nothing in return but seeing their true colors. I am disappointed. But I will tell my younger self maybe like a month ago – it’s okay to say NO even to the top dog! And finally, Marie send lots of love. <3 Truly.

    • First, Marie, you and your family have my blessings, I hope your dad gets better soon <3

      Next, there are a few things I wished I'd known sooner – one is you can't just put up a website and expect people to find you. You have to be visible, put yourself out there so you can reach as many potential clients as possible (this was a big challenge for me, it took me forever to even put my photo on my Facebook page!). Also, figure out how you stand out from everyone else who does what you do – this was another challenge as well, it still is, I'm still trying to figure out my uniqueness. I've also struggled with the elevator pitch, what I do, who I am; I can say it's always evolving and re-emerging as I follow my path.

      Thanks so much for letting me know I'm not alone, Marie 🙂

      • Joe

        Hey Marie ~ Well, isn’t that the $64 question! If I had only known then what I know now. I really TRY not to have regrets but anyone that says they don’t, didn’t really live–in my opinion. I have a garage full, even though, like yourself, I DO believe that that everything that happened along the way has helped me to some degree. I have many, so I will only give you my TOP 5; 1. I would have taken better care of my money, saved more for later. 2. I would have gotten a better education. 3. I would have followed up on many of the great projects I let get away from me. 4. I would have appreciated and done more with the opportunities I had. 5. I would have FOCUSED on ONE project at a time.

        I do think about each and every one of the above and look at them, not as regrets, but as LIFE lessons. Because I firmly believe “It’s never too late to be what you might have been” –George Eliot

        Hope this helps anyone who reads it…….Joe

        • Sharon

          Yes, Joe it helps me! Your list looks exactly like mine. It seems we all struggle with the same stuff. Sorry to hear about your Dad, Marie I hope he is well soon.

          • Chris

            Joe, thanks for that – my list is very similar, and this has helped me rethink them as life lessons. I usually just mull over them and feel regret each time I think about them, better to turn them into things I can learn from.

      • Yes, I can so relate to this. I’m still figuring out how I stand out from the crowd.

    • Marie, hoping your dad has a full and speedy recovery. These are scary times and they will pass. There are many things to be optimistic about regarding kidney failure now.
      May you and your family be safe
      May you and your family be healthy
      May you and your family experience ease even in the midst of challenge.

      • Theresa Malone Clode

        Blessings of Light, Love and Peace to you and your family, Marie. Thank you for the trust you have in your ‘tribe’ to share your vulnerabilities as well as your strengths. We are all with you now.
        Like you, no regrets, but happy I know now that every day is the gift of a new beginning. Didn’t get it right yesterday? Today is your time! Got it right yesterday? A whole new world of opportunities today. Greet every sunrise with gratitude, it represents a clean, new slate.

    • Marie,
      Love and affirmations of healing to your family during this time. Great topic!! I really appreciate you answer straight from the heart too. If I could have a conversation with my younger self I would say “Worry is a waste of imagination and time”. In the past I have allowed worrying to rob me of being present for the moment, and truly patting myself on the back for how far I have gotten in such little time.
      Tracy S

  2. First and most important, best wishes to your father and family.

    Next, thanks for sharing what you did because I’ve been struggling with that for years. Even though I can narrow down what I do, I’m constantly revising my elevator speech/differentiation statement.

    The one thing I wish I knew earlier is that I don’t have to have it all figured out before proceeding. Move forward with what I know and trust. What I need next will make itself known. Chill.

    And, love the Landslide rendition at the beginning. lol

    • “Move forward with what I know” that’s so hard when we “don’t know what’s next”. It’s especially hard for fusion creatives. 🙂

      • I completely agree with what you are expressing Emelia. I just keep putting myself out there and moving forward with what I know now and I trust that I will be guided in the direction I need to go.

      • That is great advice. I love that term, “fusion creatives.”

    • Karené

      “You don’t have to have it all figured out before proceeding” thanks Emilia, that sums it up for me. Just need to do it. I think there is so much advice our there on how you need to do stuff online to make it perfect, so many details like Marie’s elevator speech to deal with – that I end up wasting time and hesitating instead of just getting on with it – starting and letting it grow and evolve.

    • Milda

      “I don’t have to have it all figured out before proceeding. Move forward with what I know and trust.”
      This is the exact words I need at the moment. A great opportunity has come and my heart tells go for it and take a risk and trust. The mind is trying to protect me and gives millions of reasons not to go for it due to uncertainty what will happen afterwards 🙂
      All I need is courage and trust in Universe to help me sort things out during the way 🙂
      Thank you Marie for being and Emelia for sharing your thoughts.

      Read more: http://www.marieforleo.com/2015/06/if-i-only-knew/#ixzz3crLD7yVo

    • Lisa

      “Move forward with what I know and trust. What I need next will make itself known. Chill.”
      AMAZING words of wisdom! I’m making this my screensaver……:)

      • Chelsea - Team Forleo

        Love it!!!

      • Lisa Nelson

        I agree with you Lisa and all the others that responded to these words… I am a student at IIN in the Health Coaching program and up until yesterday I was feeling stuck with fear of not knowing enough and not wanting to start doing health histories with people that are not my classmates. I have my first one scheduled on Sunday and these words will be my new mantra to get me through the nerves and feelings of inadequacy. Thank you Marie and speedy recovery to your father all my good vibes coming your way!

  3. Marie,

    I love this episode! What I wish I had known sooner was that you will always want more. I can’t tell you how many times I was actually somewhere amazing in my business and I didn’t live in the moment to celebrate it because I was too busy worrying about not being at the next goal. I realized that this took away from my personal happiness in any given moment AND it slowed down my momentum to moving towards the next goal.

    Ultimately, if I had of realized that this whole thing is just about being happy, so I should get happy now no matter where I am in the journey, I probably would be farther along due to less time in negative energy versus the positive energy of awesome that I was always in. lol live and learn!! haha

    • This is so very true Jennifer! It happened and is still happening to me!

      • Sharon

        Yes, so true. It is because our minds are so future focused. It’s really difficult to get out of that mindset and live in the moment. I keep reading and re-reading Eckhart Tolle’s Power of Now, it’s become my bible. I have underlined all the passages that speak to me just so I can quickly revisit and get myself back on track. It helps!

        • Sharon,

          It’s great to have a resource at hand!! Remember that you will always be progressing forward because that is life but you must also marvel in the now because it is all you have and for us ‘A Type Go Getters’, it actually helps you manifest what you want faster by being in the energy of awesomeness!! Woo Hoo!! Good luck 🙂

      • Rivor,

        What helped me move past it is this: remember that life is always moving forward. Wherever you are, there is always somewhere you are moving towards because that is life. Making progress is natural and healthy. The trick is to find the balance of enjoying the now and being healthfully excited about the future. Meaning, basking deliciously in the now, knowing that the future will unfold in perfect timing.

        When you can make peace with that, you will find a new enjoyment in life and live more in the now of it all!

        I hope that helps. 🙂
        Jennifer

        • joni metolius

          Balancing act….be in the moment, do what’s to be done for the best possible future, and the the Universe does have plans for us. Spiritual humor :o)

    • Tatiana

      Jennifer, I so much agree with what you say. Thinking back I realize how much I missed up in life agonizing about the future & not being” here & now”, not appreciating what I had at each given moment of time.
      I would certainly tell my younger self to be more in the present & to value each achievement i’ve made no matter how small it seemed . That would have given me so much energy I always lacked due to berating myself as well as negative thinking.

      • Tatiana,

        I hear you girl! I did the same thing. But now I celebrate lots of things!!! haha… I get better at is as time goes on and life is much more fun over here. 🙂

  4. This is such a great episode. I’ve been researching different creative entrepreneur types and originally thought there were two, but discovered there are THREE and “multipassionates” fall into the third type – the “fusion” creative – who often struggle with the “pick one thing” problem that other creative entrepreneurs don’t seem to deal with.

    The thing is, we’re not supposed to pick one thing, but instead, love our unique tapestry of awesomeness, and keep sharing it with the world in our unique way. Eventually (after YEARS of practicing), 2-3 things will move to the front and become our “lead singer” in the band, while the other stuff we love becomes “back-up singers” that support our lead singers.

    I WISH I had known this when I was younger, because I would have been less tempted to hone in on one thing and more willing to experiment, try new things, and see how they all fit together. Just because the world wasn’t ready for Fusion creatives doesn’t mean the world doesn’t need us. In fact, we are very critical to bridging the gap between the other two kinds. I’m working on a book on this right now and would LOVE to interview Marie at some point for it.

    This has been a big game changer for me because now I’m more willing to be “wrong” as part of my learning and exploratory curve. It’s given me more confidence to just show up and be myself more authentically.

    • Hello Lisa,

      Thank you for this comment. As you described the fusion creative something inside of me clicked. Looking forward to the book,

      • Yeah, me too!

      • Cool! I’ve just finished an assessment to help people identify their type and started testing it to make sure it’s working. My subscribers will obviously be the first folks to learn more. 🙂

    • Lois

      I like this comment Lisa Robbin Young

    • Iwona Buziak-Mohamed

      I love this episode, it makes me fill I am not alone looking for a label for myself. I hate labels. Limiting, hard to find the right description, especially for “multipassionates”.
      Until NOW !!!
      Thanks Marie for this video and thank you Lisa for this GREAT Label ( which I never knew ) – Fusion Creatives. I think I will now be able to deal with my Elevator speech much better. I will grab it, if you don’t mind.

      • Help yerself! Just be sure to give credit where credit is due. 🙂

        I just finished the first draft of the quiz for creative entrepreneurs. Looking forward to testing it with my tribe!

    • Lisa that was SO beautifully put and I needed to hear it. I seriously avoid networking events because I HATE the question “What do you do?” What I do is so much better SHOWN than told but I still feel the need to have an answer to that question!

      • Yep. We have a cultural expectation to answer the “what do you do” question with one, simple thing… and humans (especially Fusion Creatives) are complex by nature. Labels simplify things, and Fusion Creatives really aren’t designed to be simplified. 🙂

    • I have to agree with the others. Thank you Lisa Robbin Young. Beautifully articulated. I can finally feel comfortable explaining what I do and what I am.
      And thank you Marie. Positive thoughts, prayers, and energy are flowing to your dad and family.

    • Love your comment Lisa, because this is exactly me, thank you so much for sharing.

    • THANK YOU, Lisa, for the NAME of what I am!! Fusion Creative! I make healing crystal jewelry, and aromatherapy products, and I practice Reiki and I’m a singer/songwriter, and a writer writer, and I love them all so much I can’t focus on just one and hence, don’t really feel “LEGIT” because I’m MULTI-PASSIONATE. I’m just going to keep doing what I’m doing and let the whole choir sing.

      • Laura, that’s a great analogy: let the whole choir sing. Like a choir, not every part sings all the time, nor at the same time. It’s an ensemble. Like a great ensemble movie, each character plays an important role – each is needed, and not everyone gets to be the leading role… but we need them all or the story wouldn’t work. 🙂

  5. Marie, thank you for sharing about your dad. It’s a hard text to receive and a hard thing to go through. I currently work at Davita, a kidney dialysis provider and if I can help in any way, it would be the greatest pleasure.

    Your message today are words to live by! The strength we build up by our experiences – as wonderful or crappy they are, catapult us to the lives we are supposed to lead. I wouldn’t have been pushed into following my dream of having a coaching biz had I not gone through a horrible year personally and professionally and realized I have only one life to live – live it with no regrets and just like Nike says … Just Do It!

  6. Danielle

    Marie – so sorry to hear about your dad! Sending hugs and prayers your way. xoxo

    • richard silbert

      I wish your dad a speedy recovery. My prayers and healing for him.

  7. Hi Marie,

    Thanks for sharing about what’s been going on with your father, sending him lots of healing prayers.

    Great episode here! One thing I would tell myself is to stop spending so much time worrying if I’m “doing the right thing or on the right path” and just give myself permission to put things out there more quickly than sitting in fear that it’s not the right thing. But it’s been helpful because when I see my clients struggling with the same thing, I can help them see where they may be stuck in the same issue I was in before. Plus I’m able to catch myself if I ever get in that worry mode that sets in once I’ve gone ahead with a prophet or idea.

    XO!
    Christina

  8. Lisa Fiorvante

    I’m so sorry to hear about your dad, Marie. My heart goes out to you and your family – I know it’s a rough time. I hope everything goes smoothly with the surgeries and treatments, and he’s up and at ’em in no time. Myself and everyone else in this amazing community you’ve created are thinking of you! <3

  9. Hey Marie! Sending LOVE to your fam 🙂 Hope your dad is ok xo

    LOVE this episode, I can totally relate, I spend a lot of time trying to explain what I do. I usually just forget about it and keep doing my work, but it always pops back up. grrrr

  10. Marie.. you nailed it this time.. Woman, Ive been going nuts finding that elevator pitch.. jajaj Thanks ..

    I will love to see you doing more hip hop.. prayers out to your family and hoping your dadyy gets well very soon.

    xoxo
    María

  11. Ahhhh… what I wish I knew then… appart from some of my more dodgey haircuts (jeez looking back at those pictures, what WAS I thinking).

    Seriously, I wish I’d known that it’s totally OK just to be me.

    When I hit 40 I realised that so much of my life had been wrapped up in making myself what other people wanted me to be… but no more! I’m cool with who I am and I allow the whole of me to be out there all the time. No more hiding. We’re not designed as human beings for everyone to like us… that’d be really boring if you think about it.

    Much love to you and thoughts and prayers for you dad Marie xx

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Cat, I almost laughed right out loud about the “dodgey haircuts” bit — too funny (and I totally relate)!

      I love what you shared about being okay with just being you. I think that’s something so many of us struggle with for far too long, and once we reach a point where we can just be ourselves, it’s so freeing. 🙂

      Thank you so much for your kind words and well wishes! xoxo

  12. Sorry to hear about your dad, Marie! <3

    One thing I wish I had learned sooner is that it's okay to be right where you are in this moment. Looking back from here, you've already accomplished so much, and there's no need to beat yourself up about things that haven't even happened yet.

  13. Joyce

    I wish I had know that I Am Enough.

    • Janelle

      Agreed! This is something I can honestly say I still struggle with daily. Knowing that I am enough is so important because before giving and helping others, I must give and help myself. Thank you Joyce and thank you Marie for sharing! Love and prayers to you and your family.

  14. Sorry to hear about your dad. I think I’ve always had wisdom, b/c I was born with a terminal illness. What I do wish I did sooner was start helping people with my knowledge. I was just too ashamed about my experience to go forward with the idea. Now, I’m older and wiser and am able to teach people how to cope and not care about what other people think. Lots of people tell me they’ve found peace in life because of my stories, inspiration, and motivation and that feels amazing. 🙂

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Beautiful, Josephine. It’s such a gift when you can take your experience and bring light into other people’s lives. <3

      • Thank you, Caroline! It definitely has been a lesson learned. I now know how to turn lemons in to lemonade! 🙂

  15. My favorite is just because I CAN do it myself does not mean that I should!

    Knowing that it is OK to hand off and hire people that not only do things that I don’t like to do..they can do it faster and better a lot of the time!

    Marie – this was a great video for me. I struggled against the “coach” label because I knew it was not true to what I actually deliver for my clients. That made it harder for prospects and connections to quickly place my services. It has paid off now, though it took persistence AND consistency!

    • Yes. I have gotten caught up in tasks – and even career paths – by clinging to the fact that I was good at something. Even if I hated it. Glad I recognized that and made changes.

  16. Sending you and your family love and light. Thank you for today’s episode. So helpful. So what I needed to hear right now.

    Xo

  17. First, Marie, I’m so sorry about your Dad. Sending positive wishes your way. What I wish I knew sooner is to not be so caught up in how I’m going to make money and market my new business and just focus on developing my skills and allow life to unfold naturally.

  18. Hi, Marie. I picture your dad healing in the perfect way and in the perfect time. Fear not!

    One thing I wish I had known years ago: When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Take a more positive and productive look at anything you’re facing; it will help with any challenge.

    All the best to you and your family during this stressful time.

  19. Sending lots of love, prayers, and healing vibes for your dad from down here in Houston!

    I just launched a website for my second business and can definitely relate to the question of how to talk about myself at networking events!

    What I wish I’d known “then”, that I know now is that everything really does happen for a reason. I used to get down on myself for having a crazy resume, but now I see I’m uniquely qualified for the job I really wanted all along, the one I’ve hired myself for 🙂

    One thing that really helped with this feeling was reading The Art of Work by Jeff Goins. I highly recommend it to anyone struggling to find their calling. And for a shortcut, there’s a great interview with him on the entrepreneur on fire podcast.

    Thanks for a great episode 🙂

  20. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you, Marie, for sharing!

    These are two things I’ve been struggling with myself: grief and elevator pitches. So, thank you for the inspiration and permission to focus on creating an awesome business and product.

    Sending lots of love and healing vibes to you and your family!

  21. Hi Marie – Ahh! The fragility of life. We are here for a moment, then onto glory for eternity. My prayers are with you all.

    Recently, I heard a saying from the Mary Kay cosmetics founder that truly rang true for me.

    “Girls from 16 to 40 need good looks. Girls from 40 to 60 need a good personality. And from 60 on, they need money.”

    I’ve had the looks, I’ve got the personality and I’m working on getting the money sorted.

  22. Sorry to hear about your dad. I’m sure with all the love and support from you and your community he’ll pull through.

    I wish I had started a more solid career sooner – struggling to build a business with 2 young children that need so much is sooo hard, you’re constantly torn between your business/passion and the kids. My advice is to be smart and build something solid before the demands of a family force you to put your life on hold and you end up feeling resentful. This is still the harsh reality for many women, don’t let it catch you offguard.

  23. Marc Durand

    Blessings to you and your father….that you can stay balanced during difficult times. You are an inspiration to so many.

    Years ago, at a top level soccer coaching clinic, a very successful and wise coach began his talk: “The first and most important thing a coach needs to do is to get rid of the jerks. No matter how athletically talented they may be, a player with a negative, destructive attitude will drag the whole team down.” This is another version of “don’t send your ducks to eagle school.” As much as we “coaches” want to and believe that we can positively influence everyone, there are people and situations that must be eliminated from our life…and sometimes they are family members and relatives.

  24. Marie, I wish your dad a very speedy recovery and a continued long and happy life <3

  25. Thank you very much for sharing this, Marie!

    The one piece of knowledge I would have loved to know sooner is this: stop watching at what others are doing and use that time to create new products and services that will help you be unique and reach more clients 🙂

    Cris

  26. Thanks for the awesome video!! Blessings to your family xxoo

  27. Prayers on the way for you, Dad and family.

  28. Sending your dad lots of healing energy and prayers for his recovery and for his continued healing. Sending you and your mom healing energy, strength and lots of love!

  29. Hi Marie,
    Sorry to hear you’ve been having a tough time lately. Here’s hoping your dad is better really soon.
    What do I wish I’d known sooner? Gosh so many things. But the most pertinent for me now, having recently completed B-School and launched my business, is that if it’s financially possible, I should have a go at doing what I really want to do. To do that I also need to be open to discovering what that or those things are. I never really knew what I wanted to do, so I followed very established corporate routes to bring in the money to pay the bills. It never occurred to me to take a risk and do something that I was passionate about. B-School gave me that courage and while I may be a bit worried about where the money is going to come from, I’m having a whale of a time setting up my business. Thanks Marie.

  30. T. Vaughn

    Prayers sent up for your dad and family.

    I wish I had realized that I could only live this life for me and me alone when I was younger and jump on my path to being happy following my dreams instead of going on the path family said I was suppose to take. Now I’m 31 years old trying to figure out how to do what I’m passionate about and take care of my son. But I’m getting there… I think.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      It’s never too late to find your path, T. It’s great to hear that you’re getting there, and we’re wishing you so much success in finding and pursuing your dreams <3

  31. Marie,
    So sorry to hear about your Dad! These are the times you might feel broken, and vulnerable, but these are also the times you will treasure the most. My prayers are with you and your family!

  32. Marie,
    Sending huge intentions for peace, courage and your dad’s speedy recovery.

    The one thing I wish I had known sooner? I am wicked smart. I did poorly in school and thought that meant something about my intellect. It wasn’t until I got into the professional world and worked side by side with those who had copious amounts of “higher education” that I realized I was just as smart as anyone else.

    Now I say, smarts = self awareness!

  33. Shona

    Hi Marie,

    Thanks so much for all your Q and A Tuesdays. They always seem to arrive at just the time. More importantly, sending lots of love and healing vibes to your Dad and you and your family. Huge hugs and thank you 🙂

  34. So sorry to hear about your Dad, Marie. Best wishes for a good recovery for him. And thank you so much for all that you do.

  35. Don’t feel guilty, because your give you power to someone else
    Do what you’re born for, event it’s not normal.

    Thanks for sharing your experience for finding a name on my job, it still a question for me ( sometimes), so I can remove it from my to do list ( 😉 on your workshop that you put on FB today).

    Big gratitude, you’re a real inspiration for me.

    Lot of energy, light and love for your family.

  36. Hi Marie,

    Hoping you and your family are holding up as well as you can. Sending lots of healing love & energy your way!

    There are 2 things I wish I had known sooner. The first, I wish I realized how important having a 401K was when I entered the workforce in my early 20’s. I only realized it in my 30’s and saved a little bit but had I understood the importance back in my 20’s, I would be in a much more secure place now, financially.

    The second, is that I wish I knew that I wanted to switch careers when I turned 30, not 40. I am extraordinarily happy I did it at 40 (I am now 42 and building my business and career) but boy, it is THE most challenging thing I have ever done. And it relates to above. I used what little life savings I had at 40 to go back to (plant-based) culinary school in Austing and I am now back in LA finishing up my certification as a Holistic Health Coach.

    I’m basically doing this on my own with some help from guardian angel sister. It would be a lot easier if I had saved more money to support me through this career change until my business is financially stable.

    I am honestly so happy I am creating a career and life I love, just wish I had more stability financially so I wasn’t so stressed about it.

    I will get there!!!!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      You’ll totally get there, Briana. We’re cheering you on! 🙂

    • Kim Boguszewski

      Briana, I’m cheering you on, and your story sounds A LOT like mine!

      I was let go from my 17 year career at 39 years old. I wasn’t happy there for a long time, so I knew it was my opportunity to do what I Love and what I’m naturally good at – bodywork! So, like you, I have also tapped into retirement funds to bring my dream alive. I wish I would have saved more in an actual savings account, but I didn’t, so I did what I had to do to get where I want to be. I started my Orthopedic/clinical Bodywork business last year at 41, and I’ve never been happier. I help people recover from all kinds of orthopedic conditions with this truly amazing work. I still have a way to go, and money to recover, but it’s my passion so I’m confident it will happen.

      One thing I wish I would have known before is that I’m actually a lot smarter than my previous employer and coworkers treated me to be. NOT a healthy work environment!! And it was only when I was let go when I realized that I AM smart, and I can do anything, AND I dont have to put up with any of that anymore. I also did the Strengths Test recommended by Marie in B School, and my top 5 are Maximizer, Futuristic, Learner, Strategic, and Empathy. It’s no wonder Orthopedic Bodywork was calling me. It’s a perfect match! I am enjoying every minute if being my own boss and having a business I truly LOVE.

      So, keep on going, Briana! I’m with ya, sister.

      Marie, blessings to your family and positive energy and thoughts of healing to your dad.

      • Thanks for the cheers Caroline & Kim! I appreciate it.

        And Kim, yes, our stories are similar! So happy that you found something you love and are understanding and appreciating your self-worth. Good for you!

        I will continue doing my best to grow my business. Unfortunately, I had a big blow since I wrote. My one consistent private chef client had to terminate my services because she is in some financial difficulties. I am now left with no consistent money coming in.

        Honestly, I am kind of terrified having never been in this financial position before. This kind of insecurity is incredibly stressful. However, I am doing my best to have faith in the Universe that this was meant to be. That by this client leaving, it’s opening up space for new possibilities for me that are bigger, better and more in alignment with the direction I’m headed.

        I’ve just sent out invites for my first Women’s Wellness Workshops (this one is on Stress & Adrenal Fatigue) and have an event this weekend that I’m hoping will lead to clients so if you could, please send out some positive juju for me! I would be greatly appreciative! 🙂

        Wishing you great success in your new business and in all your endeavors!

        x Briana

        • Kim Boguszewski

          Briana,

          I can only imagine how stresseful it is with not having consistent money coming in! But I think you definitely have the best mindset – that the Universe is somehow aligning bigger and better things for you. I would LOVE to hear about your progress.

          I think your Wellness Workshops are right on time. I have no doubt you will make some great contacts with these! I know that sometimes things take time to develop, so stick with it. No doubt you are a talented and have a lot to offer!

          Thank you for your well wishes! Business is going fairly well, but learning some tough lessons along the way. I wouldn’t trade it for anything.Since I’ve been self employed, I am happier and healthier than I’ve ever been, despite the ups and downs.

          Sending you TONS of good juju from good ol’ WIsconsin (SO funny – I use that term as well!) at your workshops and always!

          Best,
          Kim

  37. So sorry about your Daddy, I am close to you at this difficult moment.

  38. My heart reaches out to you and your family, Marie.

    Like you, I’m not into regret. After decades of learning to trust my intuition and live a creative guided life, however, I would like to tell my younger self to enjoy the journey more. Even with all the proof Spirit has provided me along the way, I still chose to get stressed, trying to control the details. That’s OK though – I’m still learning and get to blog about it now. My latest series of intuitive painting on the Twelve Universal Laws is bringing this lesson home and hopefully inspiring others on the way.

  39. Hi Marie!

    I can’t imagine how proud your dad is of you- as he should be! ; ) Best best wishes for his recovery!

    I have been in business for 20 years and I, like you am sooo grateful for wearing so very many hats, which has made me uber diverse.

    But the one thing I wish I knew is that it’s not only OK, but it’s super respectable to talk about $$$! I wasn’t raised that way but NYC kicked my a## and I simply had to ask for it, be comfortable with it and sometimes be a pitt bull about it. Now I am a very nice pit bull and very respected. Whew! It’s a good thing! : )

    OXO and thanks for all you do!

  40. Through life, love and business my biggest breakthrough has been “Don’t sweat the small stuff, pick your battles. Life is too short so limit the drama with your spouse, kids, friends, co-workers, business partners and customers.”

    Figure out what you need to do today to ensure your life grows into what you want tomorrow. Then go with the flow to have the people in your life that will grow with you and don’t waste any of your precious time on people that do not share your dreams and goals. If you can’t help each other grow then you aren’t doing each other any good.

    So, give each other a break. You don’t have to like everyone and not everyone has to like you.

  41. Josephine

    Thanks for today Q&A I always have to remind myself to focus on filling my time with things I enjoy spending time on and with people who resonate with me and the rest will unfold organically – I cannot force anything! The more I try, the more the universe fights back! Thanks for your words and love your Tuesday Q&As – a definite highlight of the day.
    I am sending you lots of positive vibes and love to you and your family from the UK x

  42. I would have not allowed my reticence to try something outside of my ‘known’ . I would have trusted in my abilities more often. At 64, I am finally doing projects I’ve talked about for over 10 years.
    Healing vibrations are being sent to your family – physical and emotional.
    Best wishes.

  43. Many blessings and prayers for your dad, and you and your family, Marie. <3

  44. Hi Marie,

    So sorry to hear about your Dad and sending healing thoughts and prayers to him for a speedy recovery and your family for strength and support.

    The one thing I wish I had known sooner? Keep learning and master skills that make me happy, especially with marketing. I have learned and implemented so much from B School as well as other experts you have mentioned.

    Thank you, you are amazing!

  45. Marie,

    Sending love, prayers and a request to the angels for healing on all levels for your dad. Peace to you and your mom as you walk through this with him.

    (Now, on to watch the video – had to say this first.)

  46. I wish I’d understood nutrition sooner, so I’m glad you are turning out 1000’s of health coaches. I regret not changing nutrition for my whole family sooner – so my kids grew up with better eating habits, making better food decisions. Being overweight makes it difficult to step up and say much on this subject and have your opinion be valued.

    Inventing and all the work I spent on my biz changed my life completely, but I do regret all the time I spent on this and volunteer work, meetings, etc with little time for my kids when they were young. And I’m saying that here, as I’ve said in the FB group – balance that biz with family time. I’m very happy to say that it’s all turned out ok (my youngest just graduated this weekend), but it has been a rocky road. Nothing ever came together as expected, but I’m great at switching gears, swapping dreams.

    You will have plenty of time for that biz when the kids are in school, but they are your legacy, and these days there are even more distractions than when mine were little. I see parents everywhere buried in their phones when spending time with their children (and we are all guilty of it). The good thing to know is that relationships are repairable, don’t think any are too far gone that they can’t be revived, if you communicate.

    I’m sorry about your father, I’m glad you have time with him now, I bet he is incredibly proud of you. I hope he understands that this is your baby, and your legacy, and what you have done is incredible.

  47. Denise

    Wishing you and your family well and your dad strength, Marie.

    I wish I didn’t worry so much what other people think and listened to my inner voice about what I wanted. Distraction messed with my intuition. As I get older, external judgement bounces off as my internal talk is stronger and more positive.

    P.S. Love the outtakes in the videos.

  48. Marie –

    I’ve gotten so much from your wisdom and have recommended you to dozens people, but have been shy on your forums.

    I’m moved to reach out today to say I’m sending healing thoughts and wishes for strong recovery your Dad’s way, and sending wishes for your family to get through the challenging time.

    Been there — and feel that with all the heart you put into things and put out into the world, your Dad must get some of the credit for the way you turned out.

    So thanks to you both — the good vibes are en route…

    Valerie

  49. Sorry to hear about your dad, Marie.

    I myself wish I’d realized sooner just how ill I am. I keep trying to hold myself accountable for things as if I’m well, as if I’m healthy. I’m not, and I likely have never been.

    Admittedly, a lot of that confusion about my own lack of health isn’t my fault, but that’s reason to work at the conditioning that causes me to damage myself to avoid inconveniencing others, not reason to succumb to it.

  50. Marija

    Dear Marie, sending you love and healing wishes for your Dad to recuperate quickly – I imagine it’s an emotional time for you.

    I absolutely resonate with your views on regrets (i.e. not having any, as they are all part of the experience of what has made you who you are today).

    If there was one thing I know now that I wish I knew a little sooner, it would be to fully live, breathe and understand: I am more than what I do.

    This would’ve allowed me to recognise the value of the time spent changing nappies, feeding and playing with them (outside of cultural and societal definitions of ‘achievement’).

    Knowing this, I would have enjoyed my time with my children even more when they were young, and not felt I had to ‘achieve’ or ‘do’ to feel worthy.

  51. So sorry to hear about your dad.

    I love this video and I’m looking forward to sparking a discussion on FB with your thoughts.

    I wish I would have known how little the opinions of others (especially strangers) matter. It’s the people we care about who matter. I wasted so much time trying to get strangers to like me my first 2 years of Keep the Tail Wagging that it created a ton of drama in my life and nearly ended my blog.

    Today, I accept all feedback, but when a stranger jumps down my throat about something, I just shake it off.

  52. Marie,

    I too never regret, though sometimes it seems it would be just to do so…

    If I knew earlier that I HAVE NOT TO FIT in the frame of profession, in the frame of corporate psychology, in the frame of suit and tie self made millionare and so on – I would not waste a lot of time and money trying to be who I am not 🙂 Although, all my experiences before led me to who I am now 🙂 And I am kinda gratefull for everything that happened, but the truth is – I should know one thing – I am a derivative of universal integral. A point with now beginning and no end – energy, which here on earth is manipulated by what I put in and what I give back 🙂 I am what I eat, I am what I think, I am what I do, I am who I mess around with 🙂
    Peace, Marie – love you as you are 🙂

  53. This video is so encouraging – the more I learn, the more I realized there is SO MUCH I don’t know! But one thing I wish I’d known sooner was: build your email list! I blogged for about a year and a half without realizing how powerful the email list is. And now I appreciate it more!

  54. I’m thinking of you, your dad and your family, Marie. Sending lots of prayers and good energy. Your peeps are with you! 🙂

  55. Corrie

    This episode really sannggg to me – so much of my early to mid-20s have been spent worrying and wondering about how to define myself based on my resume (which is what all employers really look at…right?). This idea was shoved down my throat for a while – and I bought it. And of course, it is important, but I let myself believe that it was what defined me. SO not true. And then I looked around me and thought that everyone else had it figured out, except me. And then I would get mad at myself for not having a better understanding.

    Except over the past couple of years, I’ve realized that all of the people that I thought had it completely figured out, had no idea what they wanted or were too afraid to go after what they really wanted. While I was living abroad, volunteering, working in corporate NYC, going to graduate school in DC, most of them were staying on the same path…and usually the path of least resistance. Sure, I could have done the same and be making slightly more money now, but then I would have missed out on all of those amazing experiences, people, places and life lessons.

    So, one thing I wish I knew sooner…No one has it completely figured out and it’s okay to make mistakes and fumble around. Exploration is the key to discovery right? I did not take the easiest path, but I chose the most rewarding one for me.

  56. Hi there Marie
    best wishes for your Dad’s speedy recovery.

    I wish I’d known when I was younger that to avoid misunderstandings and upsets especially with family and partners, I needed to get over my lack of self confidence and SPEAK UP!! In a kind way of course and with thought and clarity. Doing it now – it’s never too late!

  57. Marie,

    Many prayers and best wishes for your Dad and family. I hope that the positive vibes make for a positive recovery!

    I am only one year into a professional career at 23 years old, and I wish I had spent less time on my GPA. Yes, it can be important, but I wish I had spent college making more lifelong memories and spontaneously traveling rather than hunkering down every Friday and Saturday night trying to achieve a 4.0. In advertising, you either have the skill and talent, or you don’t. Most employers don’t emphasize the need for a great GPA. I spent a lot of useless nights worrying about it.

    Thank you for this episode! 🙂

  58. Hi Marie! Praying for strength and healing for your dad and your family. My dad has been ill the last couple of years, slowing losing muscle mass and strength and no one (doctors) can tell us what is going on (he has been to 14 different doctors). It makes life challenging and sometimes in crushes my creativity. BUT, I keep pushing forward and just take each day one at a time! Thank you for sharing your upbeat and positive messages.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much for your kind words and well wishes, Debbie. We’re sending lots of love and healing thoughts and prayers right back to you and your dad.

  59. Demiera

    Marie,

    I’d like to first send all of the warm wishes and prayers for good health I can toward your father and your family.

    Every week I come here on Tuesday morning, and every week I find something in your videos that inspires me. Today’s inspiration was the idea that it’s okay to be multifaceted. It’s okay to not fit in a little box.

    My father used to say “never apologize for who you are” and it wasn’t until he was gone that I finally understood the importance of his words. That being “who I am” means more than just my job title or the collection of skills others see in me.

    It is inspiring to see that you manage to share your resources and knowledge with us despite what’s going on in your personal life. For that, I will always admire you.

    Best Regards,
    Demiera

    • Prayers and lots of love for your dear dad, you and your family. There’s so much love for you in Marie’s World that it’s bound to speed up his recovery! 🙂

      This video SO resonated with me. At age 61 I’ve given up trying to fit myself into a box – artist, holistic health practitioner, etc. etc. Frankly, it’s one of the things I love the most about myself and I think it keeps me young and excited about my life. Funny thing is, the two things I’m doing now that seem to resonate the most with people (photography and writing) are both areas that I wasn’t professionally trained in. So there you go.

      It’s also one of the reasons I gravitated towards you, Marie, and your community, which seems to share this inclination towards diverse talents.

      It certainly keeps life interesting and who needs a one-size-fits-all title?

      xoxo, Barbara

      • Caroline - Team Forleo

        Right on, Barbara! Life is so much more exciting when we’re all embracing our unique gifts, so keep rocking it <3

  60. Marie,

    Sending your dad the most positive energy and vibes. He is lucky to have you and your whole family.

    I wished I’d known earlier that when you have courage and put yourself out there in any uncomfortable way – the worst that happens is far less worse than you imagine it will be. Maybe you will get a “no” and move on. Or maybe you’ll end up right back where you started. But the worst case scenario is just not that bad.

  61. Jen

    Sending you lots of prayers and positive vibes to you and your family!

  62. All the best to your whole family! <3

    And I wish I'd known sooner to speak to customer's benefits, instead of rumbling on about features of my products 🙂

    But, as you said, no regrets!

  63. connie curtis

    How to move forward when everything changes. My long term relationship ended and I have business. I havent been coaching long and my niched is around gluten intolerance and food allergies. I have so many blocks around different areas. I am working through them. I have had one paying client and I keep pushing to put more of me out there. I thought I was doing that but realized I wasnt being vulerable. I realize that I wasnt overdoing my promoting but not doing it enough. Its a fine line on doing too much and sharing others stuff. I am working on it. I get scared, fear, feel like I have no one that has been here before. I keep networking but havent found anyone I connect with that has a business. Its rough right now. I have a coach. Some days I just wonder will I make it through this and other days I am really good. I am in uncharted territory for myself. In every area. I have had some big mind shifts.. I am sure in months myself and business will look so different and yet I know i have to work through this to have the business and life that I want.

    • Achilles

      Connie, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re in this path. I feel you’re living through something that I myself have been struggling with in the recent past: that episode when you KNOW what’s going wrong in your life and in your head/heart, you KNOW what you have to do to make it through, and you KNOW that things will change and be awesome. But you also know that to get there, you have to fight a little more.

      One of the hardest things I’ve ever heard and learned is the in/famous: the only way out is through. And what I realize was that either way, ahead or back, would there a fight. So I chose the finish line and everything I wanted that would be there.

      Connie, do it, fight through. You have to and you can, dear.

      And remember one thing: in a world of 7.2 billion souls, you’re not alone in the loneliness either, other people ARE fighting somewhere else to “get there”. And whatever is your “there”, it can be beautiful.

      Love,
      Achilles

  64. Prayers for your dad from our farm headed his way! So sorry.

    The thing I wished I’d known sooner?

    That when I’m worried about all the people that were looking at me with critical eyes at the way I dressed, how I looked, what I was doing, probably wasn’t even happening! And if it was it was about “their” stuff, not mine. Took way too many years for me to get that.

    Love everything you are, Marie!

  65. Marie,
    Two things – first, blessings to you and your family in regards to your dad. My A to your unasked Q about your dad, is to listen carefully so you respond as authentically, as you can in current time = LOVE and wise choices.

    Second, thanks for the talk today. I’m the multi-talented tortured one in the same boat as you, and it helped me relax. You’re right – most coaches suggest you get the speech down so you can be clear — I just haven’t been able to do it, either.

    Most grateful to you. Sending those blessings ~

  66. Thank you Marie for this HONEST video about something that so many of us creatives struggle with (or have struggled with).

  67. Who is teaching us that we have to follow ONE passion ONLY?

  68. Jen

    The thing I wish I had known when I was younger was that worrying doesn’t make things any better, and doesn’t accomplish anything. If I had worried less, I could have enjoyed more!

  69. Hello Marie,
    I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. I just went through this too. My dad is recovering now and it sounds like yours is on his way. I’m so happy to hear that. Blessings to him and your family!

    On a lighter note in response to your video today, you must have been sitting on my shoulder! Nailed it. I actually wrote a rap/rant/poem on the topic last week, in response to my work in B-school with you and my very own “walks on the beach” of who the F am I after 25 years in this game??

    6.2.15
    Who am I?
    A rebel, a dreamer, a visionary,
    someone who has trouble staying in the lines of life.
    A healer, a painter, a courageous cowgirl and Jewish American Pioneer, named that by her mom
    I am a multi-facted, multi-talented and multi-passionate woman.
    I have embraced these parts of myself and I am drawn to those who are similar. My tribe.
    This is who I want to serve
    The dancers
    the dreamers,
    the gypsies,
    the rebels,
    the visionaries,
    the creatives,
    the courageous, the vulnerable,
    the meek, the strong
    the fearless and fearful,
    the artists, poets, writers and musicians,
    the think tankers,
    the wanna-be’s…especially the wanna-be’s
    The aged, the ageless,
    The I’m suffocating or drowning in this box I’ve created,
    the I need the key the turns the lock to my heart(s)
    And so what if I said, H**L no, I won’t give up any of it, no matter what anyone else says or does or thinks I should do.
    No matter if it’s a recipe for disaster, or failure or never making 6 figures. What if I listened to that stubborn truth in my heart that believes that ALL OF ME, is ME.
    That all of these crazy passions and dreams and different ways of working with all sorts of multi-passionate people have kept me in the game for 25 years.
    That every call or meeting is a prayer to the Divine, where magic is woven because there is room, because there is flexion and because there is
    ME.
    The truth of ME. The Authentic ME.
    The rebel, the artist, the author, the dreamer, the multi-faceted, multi-passionate and multi-talented, DreamWEAVER.
    H**L YES and against all odds. I know you’re out there.
    I am one of you.

    • Hi Sheri,
      Thanks for listing many of my feelings and thoughts. Have you ever been called a “Renaissance Woman” ? That’s the one “title” I love after years of hearing ‘strange, weird or just different’. I am reborn daily to a new and forming world that needs my spirit to thrive and give to others. I now smile and say thanks. We are divine individuals meant to bring our Light to this planet. We are doing that daily in OUR ways and I echo your H**L YES!

  70. Hi Marie and Forleo team,

    I wish I’d knew sooner I can’t reach perfection, because it only leads to frustration and feeling as a looser.

  71. Dorothee

    Marie sending you and your loved ones blessings and best wishes.
    Everything happens at the right time. This is your chance to support
    your parents as they took care of you during childwood.
    My father passed away two years ago. Since then I take care. The time
    we spend together and her smile are gifts of life.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Dorothee, I’m so sorry to hear about your father. It’s really is such a gift to be able to spend time with, and care for, our family members. Sending lots of Team Forleo love and thank you for your kind words.

  72. Marie, I want you to know that my prayers and wishes are with you and your family.

    The one thing I wished i had known earlier (and am still learning ) is that perfection is over rated. With everyone being as unique as they are, tge idea that to be perfect you have to fit a mold is ludicrous. I spent so much time looking for the perfect career, the perfect relationship, the perfect body, and trying to be the kind of person evryone wanted to be with that I stopped listening to the inner me. I missed out on so much good & growth. It’s taking time to hear her voice and understand her (my inner me) again. But that experienced helped me to understand her importance and purpose in my life.

  73. Luci

    I wish your father a good treatment!

  74. Marie, sending you and your family my good thoughts. May the Lord give you all strength and poise during this challenging time.

    What I wish I knew sooner is : Relax, do not be afraid, everything is really alright. I wish I had this kind of real, unwavering faith so that I had taken more risks or made more “mistakes”.

  75. This is really awesome. I’m filled sometimes dwelling on what to call myself and this is great insight I needed to hear. ; )

  76. So sorry to hear about your dad! Praying for his recovery!

    Wow, thank you for this one! I have always felt out of place because I am one of those “multi-passionate” people. I have always had a hard time defining what I do. I’ve been slowly realizing that not having one specific identity is ok! And I’m starting to figure out how those various gifts and abilities I have been given can be used together to help people.

    But that being said, listening to you share this revealed to me a hidden belief that I have held… that I’m not going to be successful because I can’t narrow it down. So you’ve given me great comfort and motivation to be ok with the multi-passionate person I am and find a way to rock my business 🙂 Thank you!!

  77. Just agonizing one more time about this today! I still don’t have that one title thing down. I made the commitment to myself right before finding this episode in my inbox to use Psychic Vibrational Healer and Marie I feel even better about that decision now that I saw this. Thank you!

  78. Brenda

    I would tell her that everything is perfect as it is and to not worry about what everyone else thinks. Be yourself, have fun, and trust each decision, as you will grow from the good and the challenging.

  79. Jesse Dunfield

    Thank you, thank you, thank you Marie for this message – I too have struggled w/ what to call myself and I appreciate the encouragement and advice on this topic – this was just what I needed to hear 🙂

  80. My comment to myself is short and sweet, ” just do it, you’ll figure the rest out as you go.” I create a form of procrastinating by trying to over anticipate what I need to do… Just do it… To quote your Nike background!

  81. Joyce Lofstrom

    Marie,

    Thinking of your dad and your family as he speeds on to recovery!

    My thought on your question -what do I wish I had known earlier in my life/career? It comes from John Lennon (I am a huge Beatles’ fan): “Life is what happens when you are making other plans.:

  82. Aliana Soto

    Marie–Prayers up for your dad…I just donated my kidney to my dad so I know first hand the journey you had ahead. I wish I knew the value of all the training that was available to me at all of the big corporations. I didn’t understand the relevance to the various trainings and how to apply it. 12 years later I wish I took more advantage of it, as I would be much further in my career had I understood how to use that knowledge as a tool in my toolbox in the future.

  83. Sarah Zickel

    Marie,

    This episode came at a particularly perfect time. I’ve been stalled in the past few months, struggling between two passions (stage acting + health coaching/entrepreneurship) and fearful of taking action for either, which in all honesty zaps my passion for both.. I’m only 23, and feel immense guilt when I stumble over my words trying to explain to others what I want to do — because I don’t know! I’ve been looking for some sort of sign from the universe to let me know which path to pursue, when in fact that’s the wrong question altogether. Thanks for the reminder that the important thing is constant growth and action — not the pretty little bow of words we use to describe our work + purpose.

    Learning to make peace with not knowing while always growing toward a more fulfilled and purpose-driven life. (My slow progress through B-School has helped me with this lesson immensely!)

    Thank you!

    • Sarah Zickel

      And of course, sending healing healing energy to your dad and family!

  84. Madhu kumar

    Hey, iam sorry to here that, howz your dad now???

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Madhu, the last we heard he’s doing well — thank you so much for asking. I know there are a ton of healing thoughts and prayers being sent his way right now!

      • Madhu kumar

        that sounds great..hope your dad get well soon..

  85. fab episode Marie!
    I’ve been through so many random names for my biz, and I have thought about changing it recently – but you’re right, as long as my work is good it doesn’t matter!
    Sending my love to you and your family xx

  86. Best wishes to you and your dad, Marie, and the rest of your family as well. I hope all works out for the best for all concerned. I lost my dad when I was 20 years old, but carry a lot of him with me. My heart really goes out to you, because I know how scary it can be.
    Like you, I don’t look back with regrets — I seem to always learn so much more from my so-called “missteps” and “mistakes” than I ever do from the things I get “right.” I would not be the person I am today, or where I am today — which is exactly where I need to be — without every crazy twist, turn and detour along the way.
    Thanks for all you do, all you give and all you are — B-School 2015 was a blast, and I learned a ton!! (And I’m 50 years old, just starting to create my first real business!)
    With love, appreciation, gratitude — and deep sympathy —
    Diane Letchworth

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      I’m so sorry for your loss, Diane, and thank you for your well wishes!

      So happy to hear you enjoyed B-School and are starting up your first business. Please please please keep us posted!!

  87. Marie,

    I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. I hope his recovery is as easy as painless as possible.

    I wish I would have known that sometimes the least selfish thing you can do is to be selfish. That you do not need to suffer to do good work. That you don’t need to muscle through the most difficult path. That it’s ok to choose you first.

  88. Dear Marie:
    God help us through the power of prayer. Extraordinary things happen when a group of people agree together in prayer.
    I will do that for your father at 3.00 p.m. Miami time for this week.
    The best for you and your father

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much for that, Carmen.

  89. Ruby

    Marie, what I regret most is that feeling of “I don’t know enough, YET” that fear of jumping in. Just do what ya know and it will be ok!!

  90. Sending you positive healing vibes for your father and family. Thank you for the episode. xoxo

  91. First off, of course, I’m wishing all the best for Marie’s father. <3 <3 I am glad he has his loving, supportive family there with him.

    What do I wish I knew sooner? Recently I was glancing through some of my old journals. As I re-read my past self's thoughts about the struggles and stresses I was dealing with, my current self realized…most of that crap I can barely remember now!

    And so what I wish I knew then is that most stresses and struggles are fleeting. It is a sap of valuable energy to get overly invested in them. In the overall picture of life, most of my worries are nothing but teeny tiny bumps. My energy can be MUCH better invested in things other than ruminating on worry.

  92. Becky

    Thinking of you and your family. Keeping you all in my prayers.

  93. Stefanie

    Sending good vibes for your dad and your family.

    I wish I had known earlier to follow my passions. I felt that the things I loved, books and art history, would never make me any money, so I switched my entire focus. Yet, surprise, surprise, I’ve never made any decent money and I’ve never been happy with what I been doing. Many, MANY years later, I am finally starting to follow my heart although my true loves were buried so deep, it took a couple of years of therapy to dig them up again. That is the one piece of advice I give all the kids in my life: Do what you love even if you have no idea how it will serve you in life.

    Thanks for all you do, Marie. And PS, I am really enjoying The Copy Cure email tips.

  94. Caroline

    I wish I had known that the anger, sadness, and frustration coming from those around me had nothing to do with me. I wasn’t responsible for those emotions; it was futile to try and fix it, fight it, defend against it.

    That was a jolt to hear about your dad. I lost mine in my early 20’s. Prayers to you and your family.

    And thank you for the video 🙂

  95. Deneen

    The one thing I wish I’d learned sooner was acceptance of myself. I spent a lot of time trying to fit in to whatever… the culture of a business, a group of friends, etc. Over the past 3 years..(going through a divorce)…I’ve learned so much about myself. I learned to Love myself as I am… striving to be better everyday. I learned that I am enough!!

  96. Keeping your dad, you and your family in my thoughts. You’ve been an inspiration to so many, and you wouldn’t be the person you are today without him.

    Also, thank you for this video & words of wisdom – this is something I definitely needed to hear today! I fall into the multi-passionate category without a doubt and have been struggling a bit lately with summing it all up and explaining it to people, while maintaining consistency. BUT I’ve been trying to focus on creating massive value, making people feel amazing by sharing love and inspiration and building my list. I know this slow and steady will win the race, and it’s always nice to hear a little reassurance.

    Thanks again and best wishes to you and your family.

  97. Sending healing and positivity to you, your dad and family.
    Totally understand what you mean by no regrets. I believe everything that’s ever happened to me makes me the person I am today. In business, the thing I wish I knew way back is ….. ‘Done is better than perfect’ … all the time wasted on getting something ‘perfect’ could have been spent on taking action first and tweaking later. It’s been a great learning and one I’m really glad I went through, so I can support others now on their journey. Big hugs x

  98. Taking time for self care does not slow you down in fact not taking time for self care is ultimately what will slow you down the most.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      SO true, Alexia. Beautifully articulated!

  99. Lesley

    I <3 u, Marie. You bring learning, light, insight and fun to my inbox.
    Sending healing energy and blessings to your dad.

  100. Rashid Saeed

    Marie, Awesome piece and very inspirational way of teaching the “Social Mirror Concept”. i really appreciate the way you make things simple, interesting, real time and fun to learn .. Great Going

  101. Lin

    Hi Marie,

    I wish I had started my business earlier, but then again when I look back everything seems to fit in its right place in time. Today my mantra is ‘I HAVE COURAGE’

    Sending lots of positive vibes your way.
    ♥ Lin

  102. Dearest Marie
    I am so sorry to hear about your father. I know you have the strength and grace to overcome all obstacles. You and your family are in my prayers.
    All the best,
    Erna

  103. Peter Schwartz

    Hi Marie…VERY sorry to hear about your Dad. Such a sudden event must be very scary. I don’t pray, but I’m sending good thoughts your way.

    If I had only one thing I wish I had known way back when it would be that I really am just like everyone else (basically) and that what I was feeling many other people were feeling, too. Now I assume other people are probably feeling what I’m feeling.

    So, in a way, your theme about everyone being unique is a bit misguided. But of course, when you think of your friends, you enjoy them for being the particular people they are and vice versa. They don’t go to Bill when they want to hear from Peter, and so on. So the two truths dovetail.

    For a long time, I searched for the one thing that made me unique and that “only I can do or have” and I haven’t found it. I think it’s not to be “found.” You just have to do what you find fun, interesting, fulfilling or necessary, and there you’ll have it.

    Some people are lucky because there’s a “job for that,” but a lot of people aren’t lucky in that way. They have to cobble together a life from what they have at hand. I might also tell my younger self to “do what you want to do, not just what you think you can do.” I think I closed down a lot of unknown options by doing that. I fear some are closed down, in fact, because I didn’t know that sooner.

    Let’s face it, Marie: You are young. When you grow older, you’ll see that that really does make a difference.

  104. I feel like I wish I started sooner with my business because it’s so easy to start (I know hard work once you start, but to start, you just do it). I wish I knew that.

    Basically, I’m the only one holding me back, and when being your own boss, you can try whatever you want, and if it fails – oh well, on to the next.

    Woot woot!!

    Sending well wishes for a speedy recovery. Those texts are the worst. xxoxo

  105. So sorry to hear of your Dad’s health. I would love to send you my description of his numerological life path. Many times it helps with the healing. Just respond with his birth date. I think you will be surprised. The life paths are more telling with the young and the seniors.
    My the way, I loved your video today!

  106. Beth Luwandi

    This could not have come at a better time as I am launching private practice…but also write fiction, cook food, make music, and am passionate about advocacy within my profession, (Licensed Professional Counseling) getting certified in two different life-coaching areas, mid-life dating and mating, as well as body image and eating disorders, making art, and living to the fullest. Talk about taking time to try to focus the marketing for the practice! I’ve wasted more than a few romantic walks with my man!
    Thanks, Marie. You’re a hoot!

  107. I wish your father to get well soon.I have attached My prayers and blessings with this comment. 🙂 . Thanks for the episode !

  108. That your dad get well soon!

    I wish I could have splitted up with some guys in my life a little sooner, because I knew it by Intuition.

    petra

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thank you, Petra! And isn’t it funny how our intuition always knows the right thing to do?

  109. MARIE, I’m sorry to hear of your dad’s health problems and wish you all the very best.
    Now SERIOUSLY, there is something that I wish I knew at an earlier age.
    (I,m 73)

  110. I would tell my younger self life is easy ~ all you need to do is to live in your pleasure.

  111. Sending so much love to your family and your Dad. I’m sure he’s a tough cookie like you and I know he’ll be just fine 🙂 Praying for his speedy and comfy recovery.

    If future me could talk to me in the past, I’d tell her, “Don’t worry about all the widgets, gadgets and shiny objects of the internet. Focus on what you do, who you help and how and the rest will flow.”

    In other news, can I start the hashtage #SelfActualizationRulesTheNation because I almost passed out when I heard that. Hilarious!

  112. Sending lots of love to you and your family, Marie! <3

  113. Kimberly Roemer

    As a not so confident young woman, I spent too much time worrying about my circle of friends and my dating life, worrying if I would get married “in time”, blah blah blah. Now, when I look back, I know that I was pressuring myself when it wasn’t necessary. At the time I didn’t really feel like I wanted to find a husband but worried that it would be “too late” for me if I waited to pay attention to marriage until later into my mid to late thirties. Although I found a nice guy to marry, I know that if I’d waited, I would have paid more attention to what I needed from a relationship, and would not have obsessed so much about being the woman he wanted. I would have listened to myself more, the net result of which would have been my making sure I took care of myself and loved myself enough to wait until I felt the timing was right according to MY clock, not society’s clock.

  114. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
    For Kirsten for asking the question and Marie for the perfect answer. This has been a “struggle” for me the last few months- how to wrap me up in a snappy, snazzy one liner or twoworder. Thank you for relieving me of this non- needed stress.
    Focus on service! Yesss !
    Ahh freedom 🙂

  115. Marie, Healing thoughts to your father!

    I know I have wasted way too much time trying to make everything perfect in my mind before launching into the world, but I’m learning that actually taking action is the only crucial step to doing what you want to do.

  116. Johan

    So sorry to her about your dad Marie, praying for strength and and a early recovery. Many thanks for all the fantastic programs.

    Take care,

    Johan.

  117. Camilla

    I wish I had known how to love myself, show pride in who I truly am and not stay small i all aspects of life. I know that now, but the years gone by can sometimes still feel like a waist of life and opportunities more that a lesson….

  118. ✨✨ may your dad and your family be always filled with love and light no matter the storms that come. ❤️

  119. Eboni

    First and foremost sending prayers and healing vibes your dad’s way!

    Second I just had the best feeling hearing that it’s okay to be a multi passionate person. I think that often times we feel like we have to get that elevator speech just right so that we make those important contacts but knowing that you still made those contacts and managed to be successful without nailing that speech lets me know that staying true to myself is always the best bet!

  120. Aloha Marie, I enjoyed your message today. I spent 17 years working with people who got the massage too late! I published my book “SHOULDS! DON’T COUNT” in hopes of providing an early warning system and an after the fact recovery plan. Thank God your father is recovering! I missed you when you were in SoCal a few months back. Please let me know the best way to contact you or “your people”. Much Aloha, Diane C Williams, Author, Realtor, Mother, former Physical Therapy Provider, and lover of Growth with the Least pain necessary! Aloha Works

  121. I wish I’d known sooner that it is only through owning my story that I can write the happy ending. I sustained a traumatic brain injury 14 years ago and for over a decade I flew under the radar in the workplace, living in shame, not wanting anyone to know that I have cognitive deficits out of fear of being judged or stigmatized.

    I now proudly own my story (so very freeing!) and 6 months ago started my business advocating how anyone going through significant changes and/or a life altering events can create a life they love. I know this to be true as I have done it and am living a life I love.

    I’m sending positive thoughts and energy your way for a successful recovery for your Dad.

  122. Dee Ann

    Dearest Marie,
    Thank you for sharing where you are right now, sending so much healing love and light to your Dad, you, and your entire family circle.
    Thank you again for sharing your wisdom, “time is of the essence”
    I think I never realized the beauty and truth in it…..
    oxoxoxo,
    Dee Ann Federico

  123. Sorry for what you and your family are going through. I send lots of strength and health your dad’s way.

    As far as what I wish I would have known sooner…That it’s not circumstances that get in my way, it’s me that gets in my way. And since I am in control of me, I can choose to clear the path instead of being a roadblock.

    Take Care and God Bless,
    Teena

  124. Hello! This is exactly the loop I get pulled into. I know that I waste a lot of time trying to figure out my elevator speech when I just need to keep creating more content. Ahhh its crazy making and so good to see that it all just shakes out. Thanks!

  125. Kat

    So sorry about your dad, I would be a mess if anything happened to my dad. I can barely stand if he gets a cold.

    The one thing I wish I knew way back when was that not everyone will like you, your message, or ever accept you. You have to be OK with haters. Make peace with them and learn to live in a world where YOU ARE NOT FOR EVERYONE. That’s the most important lesson I need to teach my daughter especially before she starts high school.

    Imagine all the relationships both romantic and friends that are toxic and can save us so much grief if we just accept that we are not for some people and we just have to keep looking until we find the right people for us. We need to build our lives with the people that already accept us as we are now.

    My heart goes out to everyone I see still trying to make things work with people that will never find them good enough or never really like them. It’s human to want to be accepted, but it’s smart to know when to move on to easier relationships.

    Wishing you peace with this time in your life. xo

    • Silvia

      Hi Marie,

      Love your work. Wishing your father lots of healing energy and soon recovery. Big hug and lots of strength to you too.x

  126. What really matters is what is happening in the present moment and to do the best we can with what we have. Your father’s condition is another example of that. I am sure he is doing the best he can through this present experience. This doesn’t mean that to send someone love and healing thoughts is not needed (People who are strong and resilient are too often left alone and without support), quite the contrary since on a ride where all of us are, on the road of healing our Self. It is when a healing crisis is a bit overwhelmed that the need for support is so important, regardless of what the nature of the crisis is. It might be a physical crisis, an emotional crisis or an existential crisis but we are definitely on a path to self-love and to love. Lots of love to your father from the rainy season of Costa Rica. A soothing time of the year.

    One thing that I would have done differently? Is to send more love thoughts/expression to people in need instead of putting energy on impermanent things.

  127. Great thought starter today! There is a wonderful poem by Mother Teresa, I believe, that encourages taking risks, doing things in spite of the possibility of pain, failure, disappointment or the disapproval of others because in the end, it was never about them anyway. All those outcomes are so necessary to really appreciate the difference between failure & success, disappointment & joy, and so on. My Dad, who has been gone for 14 yrs now, was very wise. He always said ” no experience is a bad one, if you learn from it”….among other pearls of wisdom”! He taught me there is never any down side to life, only growth, although growth can be tough sometimes, it is through it that we find the most mind bending joy, witness lose your breath beauty & eagerly commit acts of kindness. Thanks for the topic today, Marie. I’ll be thinking of you, your Dad and your family!

  128. I wish I’d learned to be comfortable with taking consistent, imperfect action. My tendency for perfectionism makes me want to stay put until I have everything in place before I pull the trigger. I still struggle with it but am getting better.

    Thanks for your great resources and I hope things turn around quickly for your dad.

  129. Doug

    Hi Marie,

    Big hugs from South Africa. Like so many others, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hope that your Dad is recovering well.

    Thanks for your fantastic content! I love your tweetable this week- and taking that attitude is far more valuable than dwelling on what cannot be changed. So, as a recovering perfectionist, maybe if I had realised earlier that my mistakes were actually the golden opportunities I had for learning?

    Doug

  130. Eva

    So much love and energy to you, your dad and your family, Marie!

    Thanks for this episode! I can really relate to this. A lot of people have a tough time understanding what I do. I work on brand storytelling, branding, product design, inspiration, fashion campaign and collection conceptualization, and as a copywriter. I’m a journalist and write for magazines as well. So you can imagine.
    So, when people ask, I say I’m “like a brand therapist: I research deep down into the brand’s soul and personality, and help it bring out its uniqueness”. I think it’s working, LOL.

    Again, my energy goes to your family 🙂

  131. Sorry to here that Marie. Prayers go out to you and year family stay strong.

    Noreen Green
    Bekidstoronto.com

  132. Marie –

    Wow all of our prayers and super healing vibes are being sent your way because it can really take the wind out of your sails when your parents’ health is in jeopardy! I thank you so much for all you share with us and am super impressed that despite it all, you are STILL sharing your awesome advice with all of us like clockwork and hit a chord with me again with this message! You are such a great inspiration – I wish I could be as dependable (and funny) as you are! 🙂

    ((((((HUGS))))))))
    Jen Petty

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much, Jen! xoxo

  133. If I could tell my younger self one thing it would be that life is short and precious so enjoy your TIME above all else, especially with others. I wish I had been a little less focused on success and more focused on forgiveness and family. My hard earned wisdom has come in the last few years. In 2012 my older sister passed away suddenly and less than 2 years later my mother passed away suddenly as well.

    While I don’t have many regrets in life, I sure wish I had more time with them. I had spent my 20’s consumed by work and higher education. While they are both valuable, I have slowed my life down considerably to make sure I stop and smell the roses and spend time doing things I love and making time for the people I love. All the success in the world doesn’t matter if you’re not fully living your life. And I intend to LIVE very fully because my mother and sister didn’t get the chance.

    Namaste!
    Tori

  134. Hi Marie,
    I would tell my younger self to trust in my own unique Sparkle and not pay too much heed to other people’s negativity and judgments.

    I also send you, your family and your dear father much love, healing and blessings!

    Liesje

  135. Ivy

    Nothing.
    I am with Multi-passion and was so confused and u happy when people asked me what my purpose in life.
    I still don’t know that ONE purpose in life but I know I don’t have to crack my head to answer that.
    Even if I get to know this earlier, situation might not change as I might not be wise enough to understand it then.
    Every timing is the right timing.
    Do what you have to do.

  136. Sending healing thoughts and prayers your way. Marie. Wishing your dad a full and speedy recovery!

    There are too many things I wish I knew sooner. Don’t squander your talent or your youth. And don’t wait until you think you’ve learned enough to get started. Just start. It’s okay to screw up. Your “Tweetable” says it all.

  137. Thinking of you and your family Marie. xx Love this video as I always do, great advice!

  138. Healing energy, light and love to you, your mom and dad, Marie. I remember when my dad was sick, and then died — big wake up call to love up my life, for sure.

    What I wish I knew was to find the path to my own internal security first and foremost as the most important focus of my life, before anything else. Every choice I have made from a place of inner insecurity has created more of what I don’t want. And, as you say — I needed to make those mistakes so I could learn the lessons along the way. But damn, it would have been so much easier if I had been coming from a place of internal security all along. Love to you sister.

  139. Thanks Marie! I wish I had known my dad would pass away in his slip at 58 without an explanation. ONly later did we get an autopsy that he basically stressed himself to death and was living an unhealthy lifestyle. Though he thought he was, low fat diet, trying to walk when he could, not drinking… but fact is stress and not eating truly healthy or getting outside and being HAPPY will kill you. Don’t work yourself to death girl! Always love your advice and these kinds of events that happen to our loves are what turn advice into wisdom. God bless your family!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Emily, I’m SO sorry to hear about your father. Thank you so much for the well wishes for Marie and her family! xo

  140. Hi Marie,

    I’m sending love and prayers to your dad (and you + your mom too!). Wishing him a speedy recovery.

    XO,
    Heather

  141. asha k nair

    it was the realization that expecting that people esp your close relatives or friends would be like this like that. then getting depressed when they don’t do the way you expected. getting hurt. now the realization has come-expectation is the greatest sorrow. don’t expect anything,carry on.do whatever you can.respect yourself. forget the rest. universe will take care.wish i had known this way back. it would have avoided so much sorrow. now i feel so free.

  142. KJ

    Hi Marie,
    I’m sorry your dad is having a difficult time, I know how hard it is to see a love one suffer. My father just passed away 2 months ago after a long struggle with alzheimers. We were blessed to have had the privilege of caring for him and he died at home surrounded by loved ones.
    There are a few things I wish I would have recognized sooner – one is that life is short and should never be taken for granted; trust yourself – if you truly believe what you are doing is right for you at that time, don’t let others opinions de-rail you; if you don’t know what your passion or purpose is, don’t stress, there are lessons that needed to be learned along the way first before life brought it to me – there are times when it is found simply by living.

  143. Sam

    One thing I learnt is that once it’s out there, it’s out there…you really can just chill out and not worry about the how. You have to believe it’s possible so your goal has to be really clear, but I used to get really specific about my goals, put them out into the universe, then frantically do loads of things I didn’t much like, stressing it wasn’t happening yesterday. These things almost got me burnt out and hating what I was doing. So I stopped doing it all and I made plans to go have fun instead, and suddenly it all started showing up. When you worry you block the opportunities from entering!

    I’d tell my younger business bod to believe, take some nice positive action that I enjoy, then go have some fun. A watched google account does not bring emails!

  144. Francine

    Oh Marie,

    I just want to reach out and give you a huge hug. I’ve so been there in situations with parents encountering major health issues. Although I know that everyone experiences these things so personally and differently, I just wanted to offer you so much empathy in my own way, and many supportive thoughts to you and your family.

    One of the realizations that was the hardest for me to manage initially during those times in my life was that it felt like the “invincibility” factor of my parents had been stripped away. I think so many of us can carry this quality about our parents in our hearts without realizing it, and then when something happens with them, it can be so difficult for us to see that quality challenged. It’s almost like a big shift can happen with our role relating to them, especially if we’ve had their care for many years. They’ve cared for us, and now we may be able to help care for them if circumstances allow. It can definitely be such a big shift, though.

    So I wanted to let you know that from one person to another, I’m here for you, as well as are your loved ones and this wonderful community you’ve built up over all these years. It’s okay to feel whatever you may be feeling throughout this time–and any time, of course. You give so much to us every week and in so many other ways, and we gladly support and stand with you. You really show how you live your teaching, too. You give us “that special gift that only you have.” Thank you for so bravely sharing what’s been on your heart.

    To answer your question, truthfully, I don’t think I really wish I would have known anything sooner, having looked back on my path and where it’s led and what it’s taught me! There are certain things I would have never have wanted to know, would have totally panicked about unnecessarily for years, and would have mentally created endless future potentials about–potentials that didn’t ever happen! And there are other things that it wouldn’t have mattered if I would have known them sooner, because I wouldn’t have been ready to hear them any earlier, and definitely not ready to accept them–lol! So I think I’m with you on this one. One day (sometimes one hour, one minute, even one second) at a time, and everything in life gives us a chance to learn something that can help us grow, even if we don’t see the lessons until much later.

    Big hugs!

  145. I’m sorry to hear about your dad. I had a stroke when I was only 50 that affected my left side so I had to learn to walk again — and I did! It took 20 months before I was able to look for clients again. Your dad has a long recovery ahead of him but he WILL make it.

    I’ve been self employed since 1980 (when I heard you say that you started your biz “a long time ago” I chuckled 🙂

    When I started my first business there were no business coaches like you — or even the internet! I felt isolated except for my biz partner and we had no friends with their own businesses. So we took successful customers of ours to lunch and asked them questions. We both loved to learn and soaked up everything we were told.

    I also took personal development classes in the 80s and I think that’s where I learned “life lessons” that I put to use in my biz knowledge/ life. I would say that there was no one thing I I wish I knew then – I had a positive mindset and looked at problems as opportunities. Taking those classes was the best thing I ever did for my biz!

  146. Marie, so sorry to hear about your dad. Sending love to your family.
    Thank you so much for this message. I will be turning 30 in a few months, and though I’m trying not to freak out about it, honestly I’m quite disappointed with life lately and myself. Still, I know I have so much to be thankful for and just need to relax. Thank you for these great reminders!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Lori, I have no doubt 30 will be an extraordinary year for you!

  147. First of all, blessings to you & your family Marie, and wishing for your Dad a quick & full recovery!

    As far as what I wish I would have done much sooner in my life is to have honored my own likes, dislikes, intuition & heart leanings. To have placed a higher value on these would have allowed me to arrive sooner at the home of “me” much, much sooner. No regrets though – because the rambling path has had so many useful & valuable insights! The twists & turns have helped me gain much clarity – so it’s all good, really :-). Peace xoxo

  148. Sending big hugs, love, prayers and healing vibes to you and your family. With gratitude for all you do and how you show up in the world, the world definitely needs YOU.

  149. What a super episode and glad to hear your father is dong well. My friend’s husband just passed away last week suddenly from kidney failure. It’s scary and perspective producing stuff how quickly people we love can exit from life.
    The thing I would tell my younger self is to trust the flow of creativity and intuition that flows so very strongly thru me. That ideas come and go and to see those that I thought were DA BOMB! that then lost their wick of inspiration, even after monies and time spent developing them, were all part of the process of finding my truest calling. It’s a big part of who I am and the reason why I can so deeply support and do soul translations for those who crave to trust their inspirations and how to create and identity around your heart’s calling:)

  150. Fernando Rojas

    Hope you and your family get tons of energy waves and peacefull to your hearts!

    And about the topic today, I only wish to know earlier in my life that I was always capable of doing all the things I wanted to do, I guess the biggest obstacle in our life is the one we build inside our mind, and our heart desperately screams toward ourselves to let us know that we can and that it is possible to pursuit our dreams, but our “logic” side tears that down.

    Great topic Marie, as always!

    Love from Costa Rica to all your family and all your community!

  151. Hi Marie,

    Biggest and strongest prayers your way. I admire your ability to press on and through in today’s interview. Even thought I had tears in my eyes during some parts b/c my heart was breaking for you. Stay strong dear!

    I wish I had known sooner to really laser focus my time in completing tasks. Looking back I spent so much more time on the computer than I needed to, b/c I thought I just had to. Here I missed out on a lot of fun. It’s still a struggle today, but I am more able to get in and get out w/the most important work of the day and then enjoy the peace of it. Thx you!

  152. nichole

    Hi Marie
    One thing I know now that I wish I knew sooner was to not sweat the cost, just take the vacation.

    I’ve taken weekend getaways and day trips but some bigger trips I had the opportunity to go on I didn’t go because I felt like my job was so important. I was concerned that if I wasn’t there, my company would not see my value and let me go.

    I was laid off recently and again, I didn’t take the trips last year or this year worried that they would…lay me off.

    There will always be work. But the time to take the vacation may not be the same at at a later time. Instead of “Just Do It”, I say “Just Go.” Now to take my own advice.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Nichole, I love that you say, “Just Go” now instead of “Just Do It.”

      My parents have recently started taking trips more frequently to places they’ve always wanted to go. I’m following their example and not putting off the experiences that feed my soul. There will always be a reason to skip a vacation, but I agree with you — Just Go!

    • nichole

      And praying for your dad, you and your family and those taking care of him.

  153. Lots of love to you and your family Marie!

    Great episode and I love to read all the comments.

    So funny how I have felt Im the only one that cant find the clear and short pitch that will make me successful : D Lol!

    I want to tell my younger self to trust times of chaos and unstructuredness…..structure and clarity comes….and thats how you function.

    Marie and all of you commenters….I will now just throw my self out there 🙂
    Thanks for inspiration and courage!

  154. Don

    Marie I am so sorry to hear of your fathers illness and I will certainly keep Him in our Prayers and I will put Him on our Church prayer list. That should give him 10,000 to 12,000 prayers a day Now for a little help for you. I have been living with Kidney failure for several years now and with proper eating and proper care a LOT CAN BE DONE but one has to pay attention to the Doctors and nutrition. God Bless and keep your head High Don

  155. I’m sorry about your dad, Marie! Hopefully he will have a quick recovery.

    The biggest thing I wish I knew (and believed) sooner is that you don’t have to take the well-tred, 9-5 college/grad school/job path in order to be successful. I don’t feel like I’ve wasted time and money per say, but I’m now pursuing my passions with the intention to create a career that is outside of the traditional realm, and now I know that I didn’t have to wait!

    Allegra / hintsofjoy.co

  156. It’s not exactly what I wish I knew as my younger self that I’m concerned with, it’s those things that I know now, but I still don’t apply to my daily life. This video hit me hard because one of those things is dwelling on things like the elevator speech instead of just taking action. Another thing is focusing on helping other people so much that I’m not focusing on taking care of my self; physical, emotionally, and career-wise. Thanks so much Marie.

  157. Joanne Brown

    Gain strength from the hard conversations. Sounds like you’re having them. Now I am grateful that a doctor told me “At 7-10 years old he’ll lose his ability to walk and 20-25 years will be his life expectancy.” At the time it was a punch in the gut because he was referring to my five year old son. Luke died last month, he was 20 years old. To live with intention and feel a deep sense of connection was my goal and I struggled when I lost sight of it…during hard times I needed to breathe, cry, shout, and connect (the rules are yours to write). The path you are taking with your parents will bring depth, clarity and deeper love. I know you can embrace life through this unique lens.

    P.S. I felt so trapped by an elevator speech – thank you for the freedom!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Joanne, I’m so deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your son. Sending you waves of love!

  158. Dear Marie,

    Great episode! xxx
    Sending you and your family truckload of Love. My prayers are with you and your family. Remember that you are not alone, we are with you, and WE LOVE YOU!!!

    Best wishes,
    Elizabeth Ananda

  159. Achilles

    Hello Marie and everyone,

    The one thing I wish I had knew sooner is: I don’t have to be afraid to learn. It means two things: I don’t need to be ashamed of not knowing something and I can’t be scared to ask.

    I dropped college to work sooner in a company I idolized, but I made the huge mistake of being ashamed of my inexperience, ignoring the part that I was there precisely to learn. And not in theory!, as I would have in class.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      You’re so right, Achilles. I see so many intelligent people who are insecure because they don’t have a formal degree, yet those people are often much smarter than the people with degrees because they have hands-on experience! So glad you did what you knew was right for you.

  160. Marie, I’ll say prayers for you & your loved ones, especially your Dad. My Mom used to say, “Don’t worry, everything will be ok.” & it usually is.
    Big hug, Roxanne

  161. Antigone

    I’ve been struggling with this one for so long…and still do sometimes..”How do i describe what i do?” 🙂
    Thank you marie and marie team for everything you are sharing. it makes so much sense to me!! Very precious!!!
    What I’ve learned recently instead of questioning my value is to trust and share my voice no matter what! 🙂

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      So true, Antigone. Having a title isn’t a prerequisite to sharing your gifts and talents with the world. So glad you put yourself out there and shared your voice. 🙂

  162. Ginger

    I wish I learned two things earlier.

    One, don’t sweat the small stuff and two have a mentor for everything you do.

  163. Sending waves of healing light and vibration to help all of your dad’s cells remember their original and true role….returning to their pristine functionality…and calming his systems into a resonant state of harmony.
    Blessings to you all, Marie.

  164. So very sorry to hear about your daddy– sending good vibrations!! Like the beach boys– AND!!!

    Omg!!! I loved your rap today!! Thank you!!

    One thing I wished I had learned sooner in life is that “Shit Happens” is the truth– it’s part of biological function and daily living function and GIRL — like 4 REALS “it’s all good!!!”

    Xoxo! JML

  165. I wish I would have known sooner that less is really more.

  166. Lori Glier

    Dear Marie,
    Sending healing love light prayers to your dad!
    I have worked tirelessly on building my company.
    I guess to the point that I am missing out doing what I love to do and some how get paid for it.
    I Would love to hit the beach for the summer to enjoy beach life write paint and just rejuvenate.
    Yet my financial situation won’t let me do so.
    So I continue to climb up the ladder being the CEO when I just want to say hell no and become my own Creative Executive Officer and begin creating.
    Heaps of love!
    Lori

  167. Theresa M. Gorski

    I would say trust your gut!
    If its a bad or not the relationship for you, get out. If the job compromises your integrity get out asap.

    Love Ya!

    terry

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Definitely good advice on both accounts!

  168. Hi Marie,
    I really agree with this statement of yours:
    If you could avoid all your mistakes, you’d miss everything you learned from them.
    You know, when I was giving the lessons on colleges here in Netherlands about drugs addiction and telling my story, some kids asked me the question: Do you regret what you deed?
    And my answer was: I think, it was my way to go, to survive and to find the Truth. Was I not going this way, I would never be staying here in front of you and telling you my story to learn from.
    Marie, I am praying for your Dad.
    Vera

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      This is such a great insight, Vera. Every step, even if it looks like a misstep to some, leads us right to where we’re supposed to be and gives us what we need to share our unique gifts with the world.

  169. I wish you all the strength for your family. Exactly a year ago I got the same message. Today, a year later, I got a message that everything was good, finally after a year. I hope you will get the same message in a year from now (or sooner of course).
    I don’t know if I’m an online marketeer, nutritionist, horsetrainer, well-being advocate, something else I didn’t think of yet, so I loved your message today. Thank you; it’s great to know I’m not the only multi-passionate person.

  170. Hi Marie!

    First, I am so sorry about your dad. I am finishing up an herbal medicine certification and if you would like any recommendations on some teas and herbal remedies for him, please reach out to me. You have helped me in so many ways, I would love to help you and your family in any way I can.

    I totally agree with needing to make mistakes to learn…I currently have a successful website design business and am now giving it all up to pursue my dreams of being a nutritionist and help people on a much more personal level. Going into the second business I have such a clearer vision and feel so much more confident as I now know what it takes. But every step and “mis-step” along the way pushed me into this direction, so it all kinda needed to happen the way it did.

    But a few lessons I’ve learned that maybe will help others…
    1 – be confident; you probably know more than you think you do.
    2 – Trust your path; if you know in your heart what you want to do and put it out there with all you’ve got, doors will open where you didn’t even know they existed. And don’t freak out about how old you are or why you didn’t do this sooner. We are all on our own path with our own timelines and just because society pressures us to have it all figured out at 18 when we go to college, most of our timelines don’t work like that. Trust that you are exactly where you need to be.
    3 – There’s no reason for regrets (you hit the nail on the head with this one). Sometimes I’m like “why couldn’t I figure this out sooner?” “Did I just waste 7 years building a business that is not true passion?” But the skills I have from that experience are helping me so much with the new business. And I was able to trade those skills to take classes that I needed to.

    I am also a multi-passionate person and I have accepted that for me, life is just too short to just go in one direction the whole time. There’s so much to experience and we are all such talented and multi-faceted creatures, why do we have to only do one thing? Who made that rule? I applaud those who take that path and feel so strong about their direction from the beginning, it seems a lot easier…but if that’s not the case for you as it isn’t for me…it’s ok. Let’s stop beating ourselves up about it.

    BTW, I love reading everyone’s comments here, what a great community you have brought together!

  171. Marie! I am sending you so much love and healing juju! There is just nothing like loving our parents, and being there with them in their healing and times of transitions. That is one thing we would all regret if we missed out on the love.

    Happy to say I did not miss out on any of these times with my own parents who have been gone for just over two years. And I do agree that I would have never learned all that I know if I had not made plenty of mistakes in this life.

    Thanks for all your candor, your honesty and your love.

    Allison

  172. The one thing I wish I had known on a deep, deep, deep level is that I am whole, resourceful, capable and creative AND that the Universe is conspiring toward my success! Love that I may be one little light in the Universe but All the Universe is out there working for me.

  173. Hi Marie
    I can relate to your Dad having kidney failure. Three years ago I was diagnosed with CKD. A year later my kidneys packed up. I was on dialysis for 15 months then 9 months ago I was given a new kidney by my dear angel Karin. Now I’m recovering still but starting to work again. It has been quite a trip. So much to share with you. Thinking of writing a book about the whole experience. The one thing I wish I knew sooner is that I had CKD in the first place. Apparently there are 41 million people in the USA with kidney disease and most people are not aware they have it. As you there are no symptoms until the late stages of kidney disease it’s hard to be pro-active about it. I wish I had known sooner. But … the thing that needs to change is people getting regular check ups, say annually to detect for kidney problems. To date that simply does not happen. Hence the shock when i was first diagnosed. Your Dad will be fine I’m sure. It will just take time to get through the various steps to recovery. And please do get a kidney fro him from a living donor. That way he won’t have to wait years for a cadaver kidney. Dialysis is hell. If you want to know more about my experience please contact me. I’l be happy to share more detail. Much love to you and your dad. Michael

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m so glad you’re recovering well and are able to work again. I know it must be such a relief to have your life and schedule back to normal! Thank you so much for letting us know about your experience with kidney disease and the importance of regular checkups. I hope it’ll help people get diagnosed earlier and get proactive care.

  174. Hi Marie,
    I am sending healing vibes to your Dad and hope he gets better as quickly as possible! I am sorry to hear what you have all been through.
    Thank you for your video this week. I CAN relate! I have ruined many a ‘romantic date’ with my hubby obsessing over something, when I should have just let it go. We are lucky to have such patient guys! I also want to thank you for your honesty about being a multi-layered lady with many interests. I have struggled in the past with thinking there was something wrong with me, that I could never focus on just one thing – and that I would not be successful because I kept jumping around. I am an artist, but I also love sports, and nutrition, and being a mom….Well, the reason I was jumping around was because I wasn’t yet doing my true calling. Now that I am, I don’t feel the need to keep changing my work – and I am also free to nurture all my other interests – because of course, most of my interests relate back to my work! Now I know that you can be many things, be a bit crazy, and have success. Thank you for your on-going honesty and support. Heidi.

  175. Azzy

    My Prayers and good vibes to the girls dad and family )))

    Thanks for the wonderful message…Life is too short to have regrets about your past…
    It does not mean what ever happened for good or was perfect, It just means you accept your self as you are, and you would not exchange your place with anyone else…

    Thanks again…

  176. Sending you and your family loads of love Marie! <3

    I love your learning Marie as this is something I used to struggle with too! I'm a Happyologist®, a happiness coach, a trainer, a blogger, an author, a writer – and also a competitive horse rider! I used to obsess about getting my elevator pitch right and then just realised that it's about me being naturally in the flow and saying whatever I felt like saying at that moment in that conversation. I know who I am, what I love and the why behind I do – so that always shaped my answer into something clear and catchy.

    What do I wish I'd known sooner? If I don't take care of myself, I won't be able to take care of anyone else. In the corporate world I used work myself to the ground to deliver everything that was required from me. Eventually I had enough and decided to set up my own business do something more meaningful – and to again work myself to the ground… It took me a while to realise that as a 'one woman show' I am the key asset of the business and if I'm not functioning, neither is the business and then I won't be helping anyone. After two mini burnouts and lots of self-reflection I'm finally at a good place – I'm sleeping long nights, eating well and doing loads of exercise. Yoga and meditation have been the biggest productivity boosters for me! I'm also allowing myself to have days I'm tired and not beating myself up for it. After all, you can't be a 'superwoman' every damn day.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      This is really smart advice, Susanna! It’s funny how we condition ourselves to think that we’ll get more done if we work long hours and deny ourselves the things we need, but in fact the opposite is true. Taking time to meet our own needs and listen to our bodies gives us the energy to ultimately get more done.

  177. Katerina Vasilaki McKay

    So sorry to hear about your dad Marie. I hope he is doing well and that he feels like himself soon. Let us know how he does.

  178. Marie – sending lots of love and prayers that your dad, mom, you and all your loved ones in the ripple effect will receive exactly what you need to get through this.

    I spent a lot of years trying to be “perfect.” I’ve learned I was more focused on other people’s definition than my own. Now I try to focus on just being me and giving my best to everything and everyone, including myself.

    Blessings!

  179. Ah, Marie. Thinking about your family and your dad!

    1. Things don’t need to be 100% perfect. Move forward anyways.

    2. Stay true and be confident with what you know and love.

    3. TURN PRO!!! <<<< No 1/2 assy. Go all in.

    Thank you everyone, you inspire me! 😀

  180. Thanks for sharing Marie and know that I am sending light and love to you and your family. I wish your Dad the speediest of recoveries and how fortunate is he to have you in his life and by his side.

    So glad to hear your perspective about the elevator speech. I really struggle with it, too. I don’t want to be in a box and I know that what I do will continue to evolve and I want that to have room to breathe. I want to continue to trust my journey and enjoy the ride as I put one step forward as I know what to do and trust the universe to bring me the next lesson at the appropriate time.

    You continue to be so helpful and inspiring to me.

    Lot’s of love coming your way.

  181. I wish I had recognized how fluid life is. It’s not an upward straight line of success. It’s those dips and loops that provide a rich experience and greater engagement in my life and business.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      So, so true. That’s certainly been the case with every entrepreneur I’ve ever met!

  182. Hello Marie (and team)!
    First, sending you and your family lots of love and positive energy Marie. May your father’s health get stronger and stronger every day.

    Second, thank you for this video! As a multi passionate entrepreneur (I have a lifestyle website, run a business coaching company, teach yoga) I’ve struggled with my “elevator pitch” for a while. It is difficult when people ask you what you do but you know what, who cares? As you said, the important thing is to do our work well and focus on that and not what other people think. Of course our offering and mission need to be super clear in each venture we have but we shouldn’t be wasting time worrying what others think of our roles and how to define ourselves. That’s all about labels, ego and the “outside world” Keep inspiring and guide us Marie, we love you!

  183. Alex

    Marie – so sorry to hear about your father. Sending love and prayers to you and your family.

  184. I’m sending you and your family lots of positive energy and some huuuge hugs!!!
    The thing I wish I’d learned a little sooner is that it’s totally safe for me to live the life of my dreams and to follow my heart rather then listening to fearful thoughts. I’m grateful every day that I know that NOW and am so excited about my new life :)!! Love over fear!! Marie you ROCK!!

  185. Sending you tons of love and light to all your family. If by chance you read this, one thing your whole family and your dad can do to feel good is keep positive thoughts at ALL times. Mind what you focus your attention. Focus on seeing your dad healed. Per Louise Hay’s book You Can Heal Your Life, a kidney problem stems from Criticism, disappointment, failure, shame or reacting like a little child. It may be a time to refocus if these are some feelings your dad may have experienced especially towards himself. He is a powerful manifestor and he is capable. He must do it from within first. No one else can create for him.

    I like you do not regret anything in my life. I see that all moments were necessary for my growth. If there is one thing I’d tell my younger self it is to make your happiness the most important thing. Forget about what others think and want. Be true to yourself and will blossom with love.

    Thank you for sharing your life with me. I hold a beautiful space for you.

  186. Sheri

    Sending ease for your family…
    What I wish I’d known sooner is that just b/c I understand someone’s behavior doesn’t mean it’s acceptable.

  187. Lady V

    Something I wish I would have known sooner: that you have to push past fears & insecurities to become the best person you can, or person you want to be. If you don’t push past those fears, you’ll never know how great you could be, or learn lessons that can make you stronger.
    That said, I am 43 yrs old now & a new Mom to 2 little girls. I can’t tell those little girls to “go for it” if I’m not pursuing my own dreams. I have to show them to push past fears & have courage to persevere & follow dreams. I just got into law school at 43 yrs old. I’m pushing past my fears of being deaf, having Adult ADHD, being older. You name it. I push everyday, & everyday I learn that I CAN do it. Prayers for your papa. p.s. luv your site. I love the variety and sense of humor. You never needed to have that “elevator speech” bc you were/are doing your “own thing” and when you are pioneering or paving a new road, you can’t try and put yourself in boxes that are already there, but create your own box of labels.

  188. Keeping your Dad and family in my prayers!

    What do I wish I had known earlier? That I already had everything I needed to live my best life, help others and be truly successful!

    Michele W

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      This is such a beautiful share. Thank you so much for this wisdom. It’s so empowering to know that everything we need is already within us.

  189. So much love and healing energy to your dad. Holding you and your family gently…

    What did I wish I knew earlier? That my often feeling like an outcast in school (elementary through high school) was because I do think outside the box…and because that is a HUGE benefit to me in all areas of my life. However, years and years ago being picked on and bullied or left out just did a number on my self-esteem and made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. It took a very long time to overcome that…and it can still rear its ugly head now and again.

    Much love,
    Janelle

  190. First of all, I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Sending my love and prayers!

    Looking back, I have little regrets even though my entrepreneurial journey has definitely not been an easy one. I’ve learned many lessons, and I wouldn’t be where I am today if I hadn’t allowed myself to explore as much as I did. In fact, I think I am an explorer by nature, so that will always be part of my path.

    A few things I wish I had known sooner:

    1 — Trying to make everybody happy is a waste of time. Focus on what YOU love, and you’ll automatically attract those who resonate with your work. These are the people you REALLY want to work with, not the ones you’re trying so hard to please.

    2 — Finding your niche doesn’t mean having to focus on just one thing while sacrificing everything else. You CAN do everything you love. What matters most is that you allow yourself to be yourself a hundred percent. Focus is important, but being alive means constant change, so follow your heart and go for your dreams in spite of what everyone else may be saying.

    3 — If you’re not sure where to go and what to do, just take that next step and see what happens. Same thing if you know what you want but believe you’re not ready. Trying to see the future is pretty futile because your path unfolds as you walk forward one step at a time. Don’t over-analyze. Just take action, even if it’s only a tiny step, and everything you need to keep going will fall into place naturally. Including clarity.

    Thank you so much for all that you do and share, Marie. I enjoyed this week’s episode as always.

    Lots of love to you and everyone else here,
    Anna

  191. Lisa

    Marie – love and hugs to you and your family. I’m thinking about you and sending good thoughts your way! The most freeing thing I’ve learned is to OWN everything you do in life – meaning take credit for the good things with grace and for the bad things with the confidence that hindsight brings. I used to labor under the delusion that “other people” had caused me to make bad choices. Once I made the shift to the idea that I made bad decisions on my own, it is totally liberating! It means that you also have the freedom to make good choices and that you are master of your own destiny. Added bonus – you don’t have to think about what other people do or think of you! Awesome!

    Thank you for another great episode of MarieTV. Love ya – L

  192. Maria I love your hilarity I learn and I laugh. Great combination. And your comedy is just as funny as mine. 😉

  193. Marie, praying for and sending healing love and light to your dad and your whole family.

    Thank you for this, I was just thinking about something similar today. Right on point, love and light!

  194. Lilo

    I wish I knew sooner that loving myself is pretty much the answer to everything!!! <3 Thank you so much Marie!! And Im sending so much love from Mexico to your Dad, his kidneys, you and all of your family.

  195. GOOD ONE Marie 😉

  196. All the best to your Dad, Marie. I wish you and him well in the upcoming days.

    What a fantastic question and a fantastic answer! Here’s my two cents. If only I had known…..
    1. That life is short, so enjoy it today and see the beauty in things every day
    2. That anger and worry are a complete waste of time and energy
    3. That moderation is key to working, eating, exercising – everything really
    4. That I need to be comfortable in my own skin and with my own thoughts
    5. That I must always try to be the best version of myself
    6. That happiness is a result of gratitude, compassion, openness, a free and strong mind and tons of smiles – not money or power or status
    7. That I need to follow my heart & live the life I choose. What others think what I should be or what I should do is irrelevant. I am the only one who will live my life

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      These are all really good ones, Tikiri! Thanks so much for sharing these with us.

  197. First of all, thanks for showing up with this great video despite your dad’s health. Lots of healing thoughts sent your way.

    Second, I think Josh and my husband should meet as they would probably have a lot to talk about re: elevator pitch drama 😉 I have been struggling with this myself for some time now and ruined a few nice walks too (Cape Cod beaches, what a crime!). I like the fact that this issue didn’t hold you back. This is the pit I fall into: I have to define what I do in a very clear way before I can move forward. As a numerologist yogi, a Desire Map facilitator, Sherlock Holmes of the minds, a gold soul digger and inspirational jewelry creator, there is no easy answer. That being said, I am a lot less self-conscious about it and I actually adapt to the people I talk to based on my intuition of what they will be receptive too (or not if I don’t want to engage in a conversation…)

    Thanks again for this video, exactly what I needed to hear (to embrace my quirkiness, move forward and feel like I am not the only one who cried on my partner’s shoulders over this very topic).

    Mona

  198. I am in such a place of limbo right now that I don’t think I can answer that question. I am at a cross roads. Do I keep going for my dreams. Do I stay at my job. Do I get a new job and leverage my salary to continue going for my dreams. Do I just give up and climb into a cave. A friend told me that when things are most confusing that’s when you should strive even harder. I can’t wait to be on the other side so I can say that’s true. #frustrated.

  199. Meg

    Your family is in my prayers, Marie!

  200. Carolina

    I’ve been thinking exactly the same thing! I’m engaged in different projects and when asked what to do I found myself sighing, not knowing where to start, what to focus on and what to comunicate.
    I guess in a couple of years I’ll be saying the exact same thing to myself “the time you wasted!…” but that’s life and we have to enjoy every lesson it gives us =)
    Thank you for the show & for this week’s one =)

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      You’re so right, Carolina. Sometimes the time we think we’ve “wasted” is really spent learning and preparing us for the next adventure or stage in life. It’s hard to think of all that time spent learning from experience as wasted when we shift our mindsets!

  201. Hi Marie!

    First of all, I pray that your dad will recover soon. I also pray that your family will stay strong and grow closer during this difficult time.

    As for me knowing something sooner? My husband and I have been in each other’s lives for over half our lives! During that time we dated other people and then one day I realized that my husband was the one for me! I wish I had known he was the man for me years ago. We would have done so much more together.

    However, during that time apart, my husband and I grew as people and today we have a beautiful strong marriage. Everything works out in the end.

    XOXO
    Mirley (meer-lay)

  202. Marie,

    This newsletter you sent was the most beautiful and heartfelt ever… not because you shared a scary moment, but because you shared your love for us….and most importantly, you feel the love from us.

    Seeing our loved ones get the opportunity to continue living and being able to experience their love and give them ours is the most quintessential blessing of all.

    Big hug! 🙂 <3

  203. Sherry

    Marie, I am sending my most positive healing thoughts for your dad, and strength and comfort for you and your family. I hope he is feeling healthy and well again very soon.

    Thank you for this episode. As it seems with ALL of your videos, you’re in my head again! I have been talking with a very helpful and kind woman from local “small business association,” as I build my freelance business, and one thing she said I should have is an elevator speech. But I freeze up! Because I feel like I’ve been all over the map when it comes to my life’s direction (grocery store cashier from age 17 through college years, spa receptionist, accountant, returning-to-college-as-adult student, and now web site designer, plus my side “hobbies” as a fiction story writer and a singer) so I feel like I’m one of those people who has a variety of skills but is an expert in none of it. So I doubt myself and I don’t know how to explain myself. (Or feel like I should, somehow.)

    It’s a maddening thought process! If I could somehow learn to let go of this need to explain myself or present myself as Something Special (and let go of the inner fear that I’m NOT anything special at all), I think I’d be a much lighter, freer, more joy-filled person. I wouldn’t be so afraid to be new to something, I wouldn’t be so afraid to try things or fail at things.

    I wish I could tell my younger self not to worry so much or try to be things for other people. I wish I could tell my younger self to acknowledge the fears but recognize that no matter how stressful or scary something seems, I always find a way through and it’s never as bad as I build it up in my head to be. Focus on the present, not on what could or might happen. Because most times, the bad fears don’t happen, and I’ve wasted so much time working myself up worrying about it for nothing.

    Actually, I need to keep telling that to my “now” self, not just my younger self. It’s an important lesson I need to keep absorbing and putting into practice.

    Thanks ALWAYS for the positive reminder. 🙂

    Take extra special care of yourself, Marie, during this difficult time. Not that I really need to tell you this because I know you already know, but: take heart in knowing you’re surrounded by so many people who love and care about you. We’re here, and we’re sending out all the good vibes for you and your dad. xo

  204. Hi Marie, sending prayers of healing to your dad.

    The two things I wish I had known and acted upon sooner:
    1. First and foremost, to just believe in myself.
    2. To not allow those around me to change my core values and beliefs.

  205. Dear Marie, I’m sending prayers, healing light and reiki to your dad, to you and the rest of your family. May the love that all your community feels for you lift you up during these tough times. We love you.

    As for something I would tell my younger self (though I doubt I would have listened!) it’s this: ” you are not what you do. your career doesn’t define you.There is more than one way to be of service, there is more than one way to be happy.” I used to define myself first and foremost as a lawyer. Then life gave a smackdown and I lost that, and I learned that there are so many other things that I can, and be happy. Now I feel free, and I hope to pass this lesson on to my kids.

  206. Dear Marie,

    Thank you so much for sharing your struggle with labelling yourself. I’ve been going exactly through the same doubts, and my combo is pretty close to your Life Coach / Productivity Coach / Business Coach dilemma!

    I’ll take your advice to your younger self, and call myself a Women’s Success Coach for now. I guess that’s broad enough.

    As for my own advice to my younger self, I would tell myself to trust the Universe more. If things don’t always work-out the way I want them to, typically there’s something 100x better reserved for me along the line.

    With this, I wish you and your family a good rest of the week. I’m one of your newsletter subscribers, so I hear about your dad. I sympathise and wish him a speedy and full recovery!

    Warmly,
    Elsa

  207. Christy Oliphant

    Marie,

    Just said a prayer for your dad and your family. I hope he makes a full recovery very soon. I know how scary those calls and texts can be. Hugs.

    One thing I wish I would’ve learned earlier in life is to not take my time for granted, especially when it comes to spending sacred time with loved ones and following my heart to pursue my dreams. I lost my dad a couple of months ago, and looking back, I think about how many times I should have visited more or called more. None of us are guaranteed tomorrow so we need to treasure each day we have and make it count.

  208. Sandra

    Dear Marie,

    I send all the best of wishes, love and kindness. Prayers for a quick and full recovery, for strength concerning your mother, you and the rest of the family.
    All the best and lots of love, Sandra

  209. I Totally Agree, I Love that I have experienced What Ive experienced because of the Growth I Had! “Forget about the Speech And enjoy the Beach” YES!! You Just taught Hundreds of entrepreneurs To BE AUTHENTIC!! Love it!!

  210. Dearest Marie,

    So sorry to hear about your Dad – sending e-hugs and positive energy your way for his speedy recovery.

    Take care,
    Lisa

  211. Hi Marie,

    Thanks for sharing about your family. Glad to hear your dad is on the mend.

    About my business, I wish I had known sooner that my vision was perfect and success would come — and that I should just keep putting one foot in front of the other. To trust the work!

    Actually, B-School is what helped me see that I just needed to do the work, instead of fretting, “will it actually work out?” Me of 8 months ago needed to hear, “you’ll never know until you do enough tasks — and once you do those tasks, you’ll know, ’cause you’ll be there!”

    <3 Thanks, Marie.
    -Corri

  212. Here is what I learn, I wish I knew this before: Never look outside of yourself for anything. Always stay in your center. Wait for an ”Inner Yes” instead of saying yes to everything. There is no where to go. Seek harmony within FIRST before taking care of your outside world, the opposite will never work.

  213. Bethany

    I will be praying for healing for your Daddy!! My best piece of advice that I received just recently is to only take the advice from people who have achieved or experienced what you yourself hope to do or be. For far too long I listened to everyone! Now I realize that the wisdom that I need personally comes from only a handful of people. This allows me to avoid the critics and naysayers who usually don’t know what they’re talking about or make decisions based on fear. It has been a joyful revelation!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Reading your advice made me want to clap and say “PREACH!” I think people have good intentions and want to help, but you’re so right that it doesn’t do good to listen to everyone. If someone isn’t or hasn’t been where you want to be, their advice is a well-intentioned opinion at best.

  214. Marie… I know you probably won’t personally see this but one of your right hands… ;)… yet please know that Heaven is being stormed with prayers for healing!! Miracles upon Miracles.. may they never cease.

  215. Diane

    I so identify with this! Trying to fit myself into a one elevator speech kind of life has resulted in me, at times, convincing myself that it’s wrong to be multifaceted (interpret as “unfocused”) and I should stick to one thing to be masterful in that. Renaissance men and women honed many skills and expressed many of their talents. They were seen as brilliant! What I got from your video is to keep expanding in all of the expressions of ourselves that we are. This provides peace and freedom. Thanks!

  216. Deanne

    Marie, you are beautiful to watch grow. I am praying for you and your family; especially for your dad’s health. So, this is separate: When my father died I had a very unexpected experience. I was married, a mom, a lifestyle and career I enjoyed. My father and I loved each other and had nothing left unsaid – no regrets. When he suddenly died I realized I was an adult woman. No one would ever love me as their little girl like my father. My husband, friends… love me yes. I didn’t have to see my dad all the time. I just knew he was always there. He always enjoyed spending time with me, thought I could do/be anything, in his eyes I was exploring life like a playful kitten – my tumbles were just part learning (now, I think he had to hold back a smile as I shared so many times how “horrible this is!”). My dad died 20 years ago. I still miss him – with a smile. If I could go back in time, I would have started sooner being someone people will truly miss, instead of ‘the best, most accomplished…. I still passionately pursue those! I could have saved myself a lot of mental and emotional energy of trying to figure out ‘what I wanted to be when I grow up’. If I had just embraced being a responsible adult, enjoying my relationships and pursuing my passions with abandon. I always tell my kids, “If you know what you are doing is right, It doesn’t matter what anyone thinks.” I love you Marie! Deanne

  217. Diane

    Sending love and healing energy to you and your family. No matter how talented or successful we are, our humanity is universal.
    Thank you for this video. Trying to fit my life into an elevator speech kind of life has resulted in suppressing the whole of who I am in order to “master” 1 or 2 areas. For me this means as a fine artist, not revealing my cartoons, or my writing, or my music. This paradigm leaves me thinking I’m “unfocused” rather than multifaceted. I appreciate who you are and what you share.

  218. Marie, my kid’s Dad, died of Pancreatic Cancer one year ago today. Kent Cumbo. Even though I married twice more after Kent, he was my kid’s dad and he was 7 years older than I, so he helped to formulate me (by our life of travels, alternative living, spirituality) after my parents stopped trying.
    This morning I was feeling grief and crying for some of the things left unsaid, and I sent Reiki to the past situations and sent forgiveness to my younger self; I did Ho’oponopono for self-forgiveness. And a calm swept over me.
    Watching your video was a perfect SIGN of completion that I was asking and looking for. Thank You. Hugs. Smiles. And a few chuckles. Kym
    P.S. What is your dad’s name, I will add him to my Reiki Grid of healing. : )

  219. Gina Su

    MARIE, I feel so NOT alone after watching this video.

    I’d say, the last month or two was my personal experience with figuring who I was in terms of my brand. Am I a life coach? Do I sell funky yoga pants and flash tattoos? Am I also a teacher who teaches makeover courses online? The best part of your video is when you said that you spent hours with Josh about it. Seriously, just yesterday, I spent the entire dinner conversation with my partner Jeff about my pitch!

    Your video was a wake up call right at the perfect moment. I now realize that I dwell on this a lot and sometimes it slows down my progress and confidence to show people what value I can bring. (Back during B School was live, I even asked you a question about if it was possible for me to sell yoga pants and be a coach, remember?)

    I’m ready to let this go but still stay serious about my skills and offerings. Thank you so much Marie!!

  220. First, sending prayers to you and your family, Marie.
    As for what I wish I learned earlier, I wish I didn’t waste so much time trying to be what other people thought I should. Figuring this out now is better than never at all, so I’m grateful for that. 🙂

  221. Marie!!! Feel that warm wave of loving thoughts sweeping down on you? That’s from all of us thinking about you and your dad right now.

    I have tons of regrets. If I live the way I want to, regrets are followed by insight and growth. Regrets are valuable and are proof that I am learning and improving as I get older.

    I wish I could tell my younger self to believe in my ability to handle struggles.

    I wish I would know to perform for myself first. My most important audience is me. I am the CEO and the sole shareholder of ME. Once I learned that I could create an authentic life and a product I was truly proud of.

    I wish I knew then to give myself time. If things seem too difficult and too forced, it is usually a sign that I am traveling in the wrong direction. If I would just stop and wait, easier solutions would appear like magic.

  222. Interesting question – I didn’t know what to say… but then I thought about my biggest, most dramatic regrets, and I realized they came over some friendship or relation that I had lost. And what I know now is that, if someone disappears from my life that only means that they zigged while I zagged, and my path is important for my growth and health. Now, does that give free way to relationships to never stick? You’d think so. But I would rather think about it this way: it gives a guarantee that toxic relations won’t stick: when someone is meant to stick, he will!

  223. AK

    Hey Marie,

    Hope the Universe accumulates some positive energy and wills your dad back to health again.

    There’s not any one thing I think I should’ve known. There are a whole bunch of things I had known for a long time, but did not understand until I was ready. I think that’s the case for most of us.

    There’s a reason people are discouraged from studying the Kabbalah until 40. And in Russian we say ‘you cannot jump over yourself’.

    Most of us accumulate enough maxims in our heads to last for a lifetime. We carry them like a meaningless jumble of words until the sheer experience of living shakes them into place. That’s when you say ‘I wish I had known…’ But, the thing is, you DID know, you just didn’t understand.

    Thanks for the post.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I love, love, love what you said: “You DID know, you just didn’t understand.” That’s such a beautiful way to look at it — that understanding always comes eventually, we just have to allow things to come full circle.

      • AK

        Thanks, Mandy. You are right, patience is the name of the game.

  224. Angelique

    Marie,
    Another great video, as usual! I will definitely keep your family in my prayers! One thing I know now that I wish I knew way back when is that everyone struggles and suffers. I used to look at people around me and be absolutely convinced that they had life all figured out while I felt like a mess. Now I know that even the people that look perfect are not perfect. We are all doing the best we can.

  225. Sorry about your Dad, keep your head up! Will send up a prayer. Thanks for today’s episode. It couldn’t have been easy working on that while thinking of your Dad. Take care!

    Melanie

  226. Great answer Marie. I do have some I wish I’d known 20 years ago: Don’t hang on to what isn’t good, and don’t let other people tell you who to be.

  227. Marie, I am so sorry to hear about your dad and wish him a quick and full
    recovery. One thing I wish I’d learned earlier is something a friend once
    told me that has now become one of my “mantras” . It’s this: “What other
    people think of you is none of your business.” What IS your business is whether you are acting with integrity and are true to yourself. What other people think really shouldnt matter (I know, easier said than done).

    I used to get really worked up and waste so much emotional energy worrying about how I came off in a particular social setting or meeting, and now I realize that dwelling on this really doesn’t serve me, and more
    importantly, there is no “truth” so choose to love yourself and how you are
    in the world. Don’t give the power away!

  228. Katherine K

    Hi Marie,
    This video was great and perfect timing for me as I feel that I am going through exactly what you described on your beach walks. I also have no real regrets and feel I learn through my miss-steps.
    Thanks so much for the message and I am sending healing energy over to your dad and your family.
    (the rap part made my laugh out loud!)

    Thank you!

  229. I tried to fit into the corporate world when I was younger. I realized after a while, I didn’t belong. I admire people who do well in that environment but I wasn’t one of them. Instead as the years have gone by, my greatest happiness has been found in in writing. Oh well, sometimes it takes years to discover who we really are.

    Best to you and your family. Hope your Dad feels better.

  230. If I could go back and tell my younger self to throw in the towel on trying to be perfect, and please other people, and start doing things for myself, I still would have probably made all of the same decisions (a few definitely not) but they would have been executed with a whole heck of a lot more joy and peace.

    Grateful for every stressed out an anxious step that lead me to realizing that none of that stress and anxiety were actually helping me though, as they now allow me the compassion and insight to help others dealing with those same perfectionist tendencies to relax and enjoy this moment.

    Sending healing love to you, your dad, and your family, Marie 🙂

    <3
    Sarah

  231. Pantothenic

    What a great question. I wish I had known when I was 10-15 years old what I load of shit working for other people is. I wish I had started on building my businesses back in high school, and there were even resources available there. Good news: I did eventually start, have run 2 successful businesses, lost everything (not through any fault of my own), took my lumps, moved on, am rebuilding, will succeed. And I’ll take that risk (that I could fail again) any day over working for others. I may still have to do it occasionally, but running my own show is the place for me. Thanks, Marie.

  232. Marie, I’ve been watching your videos for a very long time. You are so inspiring to me. When I saw you on Oprah, I just KNEW what my calling was. I am now pursuing that calling and hope to be blessed to meet you and work with you in the near future. I’m sending prayers and healing vibes for your father, and loving energy him, for you, and all your family and all who love your dad. Praying for his full recovery so you can enjoy him for many more years to come. You keep rawkin’, girl. You are a sparkly, beautiful light!
    ~LD Juarez

  233. Bente Hartelius

    I love your expression: multi-passionated person, it describes me so well. And I related so easy to the inner-discussion about the elevator-speech. Thank you so much.

  234. Robyn

    Marie and all,
    That dress rocks!
    One thing I wish I knew back when is I didn’t have to figure it all out on my own. I wish I’d asked more people to help me with my career and path.

    Thanks for this episode.

    • Oh my goodness Robyn, this is such a BIG one. I’m so glad you’ve shared it here. Asking for help can make an epic difference can’t it. I think we need to stop looking at it as a sign of weakness. In my eyes, it’s a sign of integrity and strength! x

      • Mandy - Team Forleo

        Yes, yes, yes! It’s miraculous to think back at the resources and people who could’ve helped us on our journey had we not been so bent on doing it all ourselves. But we can always reach out to others going forward because there’s always more to learn.

  235. Rachel

    Really sorry to hear about your Dad.
    Please don’t take this the wrong way but did he have a flu shot prior? The nephrologist Dr. Suzanne Humphries noticed this was a contributing factor in many of her kidney patients.
    Wishing him a speedy recovery.

  236. Maddy Gray

    Dear Marie and the team & community, I’m here listening & going in, my vision is becoming clearer and I have begun to create balance in my body & life. I am holding your hand on this wonderful journey called life, and I am ready to serve. Please know that all your posts, videos and b-school continue to inspire and guide me. I also think josh and his programs are pretty wonderful too! HIt’s to your dad for a healthy recovery. Keep doing what you’re doing…..
    I wish I knew about balancing my body and mind through yoga, meditation and nourishment, sooner- so I could get it out to the world sooner.
    Love to everything nothing and back. Maddy x

  237. I wish I had known earlier how to exercise playing guitar:
    not mind mistakes in the beginning of learning a new piece,
    keep very patient and trust the fingers that one day they
    will know their place in each second – if i knew 25 years ago,
    I think I would have become a famous guitarist – let’s see,
    what the next 25 years will reveal

    Although english is a foreign language for me, I like these Q&A videos,
    thank you!

  238. There are two parts to this question–While many decisions I’ve made in my life have brought me to an amazing place currently, a specific career has always eluded me. I worried so much about the main stream and making money that I forgot about what I loved. Granted I never made much money in my previous career life, but I obtained a Master’s degree and took jobs that never suited me. Instead of being the writer that was inside me all my life, I was too scared to take that leap. Now an entrepreneur and a writer full time, I wish I had told myself to take that leap back then. I feel so far behind for my age, and I recently turned down a very high paying job in a cubicle to write full-time. I am trying to find a literary agent for a novel I have put my soul into and not having much luck, and I’m trying to make freelancing financially viable. Thank God for my husband!
    Part two– I would like to fast forward to my future self and see how I’m doing so that I can tell my present self that all this blood, sweat and tears is going to pay off. My family has so much faith in my talent, and I do too most days. But when I can’t see the path before me, or when it’s going to curve drastically–well no one ever said being a writer was easy. A thought for another day……

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m so, SO glad you’re following your dreams of writing! Your dreams are important, though some people in our lives (even well-meaning ones) like to tell us otherwise. Best of luck with your novel–it’s clear you’ve put a lot of heart into it and I know your readers will appreciate it.

  239. iri

    …halo Marie

    wishing your daddy a speedy recovery…our heart’s and prayers are with you, and your family.

    If I were to go back in time, I wouldn’t change a thing-I was dearly loved, I simply, share the love! Have a MAGICAL day!

    lovingly,
    iri

  240. Ada

    Marie, I hope your dad recovers soon.
    I wish I had known that whatever negative things people said and thought about me were not true. When I was a teenager people would call me names like lazy or boring and I used to immediately assume they were right so I believed it!!!! Later on I learned that how see myself is the only opinion that truly matters.

  241. Laura

    Hi there:
    Marie , I just want to send you lots of hugs, because anybody feels like you and anybody will learn as much as you do about your great family and dad!. I hope better times for all of you. I’m thankful with you and all the people that takes time to leave a comment and for sharing thoughts and feelings.
    To identify what works with us at any point of life, is the most weird thing to do , because we were born with a lot of gifts as well. The cue is to find out the one that make us feel like children, enjoying the road, learning about others , being honest with ourselves and sharing what we have learned from each situation. The other stuff like, money, clients and promising future will come. The clue is to be responsible with all the things we do and all the people we are committed.

  242. Dana

    Marie!
    Of course love, prayers, and hugs your way for you and your family!

    Thank you so much for this episode! Just the last two days I’ve been struggling with exactly what you’re talking about in this episode. I’m definitely a multipassionate person too and can’t seem to wrap myself in a defined statement. You’re right, we DON’T have to be defined by just one thing and we don’t have to let that hold us back. #movingforwardwithmybadself

    Thanks for being awesome!
    Dana

  243. Marie, thank you as always for your love and spirit that you share so generously with us.

    There’s a whole bunch I wish I had known sooner like standing up for myself and knowing my worth…the funny thing is, I think I can stand up for myself now but there are still times I lose that faith in myself or doubt my ability as a parent.

    Now that I write this…I’m thinking that may be why I started my business…to help bring mamas together so that we can support one another… Many of us know what’s best for our children in terms of nutrition, patience, love…but sometimes we’re not perfect and I guess that’s ok.

    I guess we’re all a work in progress.

    Much love to your daddy…x

    • Oh Bamik, I love what you have written here, especially your WHY. Bringing Mamas together to support one another. Just beautiful.

  244. Marie – first so sorry about your dad! Will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers and healing thoughts for sure for your dad!

    Your advice is spot on as usual. What I’ve learned most is to be true to myself and to follow my passions. I am still pretty much all over the board (even at nearly 62) but I’ve recently come across a serious passion for “Unicorn SPiT” , which is a fabulous colorful furniture stain that brings me to my happiest place when flipping furniture. What I wish I had done when I was younger was take that creative side to its fullest while enjoying time with my wonderful kids, much like the creator of the “Unicorn SPiT” is doing now. She has the most wonderful story. My kids are now grown and moving to other parts of the country and you just can’t get that time back. It took me a while but I’m ready to retire to what I love and stay true to what I love.
    All the best to you and look forward to each new episode!
    Make each day great!
    Susi

  245. Oh Marie, I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad – I will most definitely be sending you so many healing vibes. I remember being the one to call and text my family when Dad was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, and just thinking how horrific it must have been for them to receive, hear and experience that news.

    As for the one thing I wish I’d done sooner – Stop thinking. Start acting. I spent so much time trying to figure out how all the dots fit together before taking a big leap in a new direction. In my head, confused. I wish now that I had of just taken a step, acted, seen what doors opened – much much much sooner. That’s when clarity started to evolve!

    So as you’ve said in another episode I think: “Clarity comes from engagement, not thought.”

    Thinking of you and hugs from this stranger on the other side of the world.
    x

  246. Marie,
    Big hugs & love to you and your family. <3 <3 <3
    Great post. Thanks so much for sharing. I've always been such an obsessive learner, but am realizing more & more that I've been searching for the "right" thing to do, but the advice is all over the map, & often the traditional approach I know is not right for me. I don't fit into a box either. Never wanted to. But a lot of the coaches I follow keep pushing me to narrow my focus/pick one thing to be known for, and then also tell me to figure out what makes me unique so I'll stand out. Can you say, contradicting advice? I've wasted so much time obsessing over details trying to do things "right" that I've put out so little content because I keep redoing everything to make it "perfect". UGH! No more. Time to just be me, get myself out there big time, and let go of worrying about what everyone else says I "should" be doing. Thanks for your post. It helps what I've been feeling really sink in. Well wishes to your dad. <3 <3 <3

  247. Catherine

    TRUST THE PROCESS & don’t waste time overthinking it. Just stay focused on the greater intention of helping others by sharing your talents.

  248. pippi hepburn

    I am praying for your Dad, your Mom, you and your family. He created a beautiful, loving and sharing daughter. May all that love and care come to him now. Bless you all.

    I wish I learned to not just work for a goal, achieve it and stop. I have 3 degrees, had 3 great careers then just worked with no plans for the future. I even worked, saved and moved myself to Paris, France, simply for a change of life and to learn French. I did that, stayed 3 years, started a business, then got lazy when it got challenging and now I am starting over again. As my Dad told me and I did not listen, “work on something that you can continue to work on, enjoy and make money forever.” So wish I had learned to create a business and stick with it. I will now because I love fashion and am learning lots about sales online and off. That is neverending, haha! Thank you and be well.
    Lisa

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Those are really wise words from your dad. I’m so glad you’ve found the type of business you love and are ready to make those dreams a reality. 🙂

  249. Move towards your fears, rather than away from them.

  250. Sarah

    No joke, I just paused “landslide” on my Pandora so I could watch this episode. CREEPY! Ok, watching it now…

  251. The main thing I wished I learned is to trust my intuition, however, it seems that I needed to not trust it in order to get it clear when it comes to me. I believe like Marie that there are no failures, more opportunities to learn. I am so grateful for all my failures, I am also really happy that I now know how to trust my intuition. Amanda

  252. Belinda

    Hi Marie,

    Sending you and your family lots of love and my prayers. I hope your dad is doing better and continues to improve with each passing day.

    Belinda x

  253. Tim

    I’ve learned that innate wisdom is more useful than knowledge. The more knowledge I accumulate, the more I envy who I was when I knew less and followed that inner voice without all the analysis.

    I suppose that’s tied to sense that there is now more to lose, but staying in the moment helps push those concerns away. It’s still not easy, but what can’t be over-learned for me is to stay in the moment.

  254. Your Father will be up and about soon Marie – have posted a speedy recovery wish just now. Thanks a lot for Sharing and keeping this site alive + thrilling.

  255. Lisa A

    It seems so simple, but I wish I would have realized sooner in life that happiness is a choice….one that has to be made every day! I can either be a ray of sunshine or one who spreads gloom and doom. Sunshine is so much better!!

    • Agreed, Lisa!! I love this!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      So true, Lisa. As Marie likes to say, “There’s no pre-requisite for happiness.” 🙂

  256. Sending lots of positive vibes to you, your father, and your family.

    I’m so grateful for this video because this is something I struggle with all the time (and I have also ruined romantic trips with my boyfriend to talk about this topic). Am I a yoga instructor, health coach, wellness coach, health and wellness coach, health concierge, corporate wellness consultant, blogger, on and on and on. Truly appreciate to hear you struggled with the same, and still turned out okay. : )

    The thing I wish I had known sooner: Waiting on others, deferring to their opinions, or seeking the answers to your questions outside of yourself are never going to work out long term. Eventually, your core will know you are not on the right path and try to pull you away. You have to take control of your own life.

    I wish I knew earlier that if you truly follow *your* dream, rather than the “shoulds” or “supposed tos”, you get to live a brilliant life that is uniquely suited to your beautiful unique self.

    Thanks, as always, for the amazing work you and your team do.
    Sam

  257. Lin

    Marie

    My prayers go out to your father to get well soon. My Mum has been unwell recently and I suddenly realised that she isn’t as indestructable as I had thought she was. I don’t have regrets because I know that, given the same set of circumstances I would do the same things again. However I do try to use events where things didn’t turn out as they should as lessons in what not to do again.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m so sorry to hear your mum has been unwell. We’ve got our fingers crossed that she’ll be feeling better soon. Sending love your and your mum’s way.

  258. OMG!!!!! This is what I needed to hear because this is what I have been struggling with. I admit it….I’m a multi passionate person. I can’t describe what I do in one sentence. I have tried and tried and tried. In fact, I just hired someone to help me fine tune what I do because I want to ramble on….. LOL! The best thing I could come up with is that I have a prenatal wellness site. Helping families get healthy, one mom and baby at a time.

    Thank you, thank you, thank you!

    If I was in front of you I would give you a big hug… because I’m grateful for this video and most important…. a hug cause I think that you could really use a good one right about now.

    I’m sorry to hear about your dad……. that’s a very scary text to get. Having your kidneys issues is no joke. Wishing you and your family love, strength and healing. xoxoxo Keep us updated.

  259. Opps… meant to say, having kidney issues is no joke.

  260. Annette

    Lovely Marie,
    You bring joy to so many people each and every week. Like COUNTLESS others, I now can’t imagine how much I would miss the wisdom, humor and invaluable advice that appears in my inbox on “Q&A Tuesday’s”.
    I wish your Dad a super speedy return to good health, and your family all the love and strength they need at this challenging time. In return for the joy, positive energy and confidence you instill in us, I hope you feel the love and support of your community channeling right back at you during this time. Thank you for being you, and for giving us the confidence to go ahead and do exactly the same for ourselves! God bless, you’re in my prayers xx

  261. Oliver

    Hello,
    Not to be bitter when the people you are working with do not meet your expectations.

  262. Hi Marie! Thank you for this! I’ve really been struggling with some things lately and it’s like you’re reading my mind with these videos. I know you don’t bring your personal life into this very much and I respect that, but it’s an area I’m struggling in so I’m going to ask. You say Josh is super supportive and so is my man. He is my #1 cheerleader and my biggest fan and I’m eternally grateful for him. But I often feel like he gets the shaft when it comes to our relationship. How do you balance making time for your man with your business? Do you include him in your business or is that the kind of thing that stays at the office? I’m curious because I’ve always been a lone wolf so I want to make sure I’m the best I can bed for both my amazing man and my business. Thank you for all of your amazing info!!

  263. MARIE! Thank you for this, I seriously was just stressin’ about my elevator speech because I’m ALL over the place both personally and with my business…ethical fashion line designer, life coach, speaker, and nursing student but what feels good and right to me is exactly what you said…continuing to focus on my growth and helping more and more people along the way. So many many thanks! And my prayers to you, your dad and your entire family. I love you.

  264. Jaime

    Marie,

    Many healing hugs and loving thoughts for your Dad’s speedy recovery.

    Today’s episode! Wow Marie, perfect timing for me

    I have so many interests and so many more passions so I know what this is like. Thank you for sharing

    I’m still deciding what action to take next personally but I love your inspiration.

    Much love
    J

  265. Anna

    First off, prayers to your dad and your family. Thinking of you!
    Second off, I’d tell my younger self to find more of the good in people rather than the bad. I would apply that to myself as well. I was so hard on myself at such a young age and that made life really difficult.
    You’re right though, you live and learn!
    Thanks for another great Q & A Tuesday!

  266. This is liberating! Things like the elevator pitch and all that stuff that boxes us in has really held me back in the past.

  267. The one thing I wish I had known sooner is that becoming my own best friend is the key to a truly fulfilled and happy life!

  268. Obu

    I wish that I had not spent too much time studying and spent more time having fun!

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Life is funny like that sometimes… I think a lot of people who spend more time having fun wished they’d studied more! 🙂

  269. Sending you and your family so much love!

  270. Sherry

    Marie,

    First and foremost, I am sending prayers up for you and your family as you all go through the this tough time. I would also like to wish your father a speedy recovery. God speed.

    What do I wish I knew sooner? I wish I knew that my period of preparation was not a punishment. There were times in my life when it felt like a punishment. However, now that I’m older and a bit more seasoned, I realize a delay is not a denial. You have to keep the faith while you press toward the mark.

    Thanks,
    Sherry

  271. Marie,

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad. Healing energy/Reiki on the way. I hope you all remember to take care of yourselves as you care for him.

    I wish I knew it was OK to be just myself so much sooner. I have spent so much time to fit into other people’s boxes/labels/ideas of who I should be. Like you though, I don’t necessarily have regrets about this. I have spent many, many hours finding my spiritual path and healing myself and I wouldn’t be me if my life hadn’t unfolded the way it has and I am finally learning to love all of me, including my imperfections.

    Once again, thank you for sharing your amazing self and gifts with the world.

    ~Monica Wagener, LAc

  272. Shauna Schmitt

    Marie,

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad. It hit a little close to home as my family just lost my father very very suddenly to a heart attack. It’s something that you never think the universe is going to throw at you and at 21 I never thought that I would have planned my dad’s funeral as my grieving mother was beside herself.

    Continue to cherish every moment with your family because you do never know what can happen.

    – Shauna

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m so, so sorry to hear about the recent passing of your sweet dad. Please accept our most heartfelt condolences for you and your family. Sending lots of love your way. <3

      • Shauna

        Mandy,

        Thank you for your condolences!

  273. Aimee London

    There are so many things I wish I’d known.. I’m 32 and I’ve allowed myself to be bullied and abused in the workplace for 7 years (verbally, emotionally and psychologically). It threw me into a debilitating depression for a long time, and I had to first address that before I could even think about getting out and re-setting my frame of mind to attract the positivity and respect I deserve (that everyone deserves..). For a long time i felt that nearly my whole 20s went ‘down the toilet’ due to this waste of youthful exuberance, enthusiasm, passion and energy. I still struggle to overcome this feeling. If I could go back a few years ago and talk to my younger self, I’d say: “just walk away. believe in yourself and back yourself. money will come from somewhere, just know that you’re doing the right thing by walking away even if you think you’re unemployable. It’s just the abuse talking. Get out!”
    Now I’m wondering what’s available in the universe for me… and what I’m really here to serve. Cos a job is just a job at the end of the day. I’m still trying to figure that out. It’s been a long journey, but I’ve accomplished a lot despite it all and I am learning to be okay and just sit with that: that I’m okay as i am now in this moment.
    Finally, Marie, I hope you’re Dad pulls through this okay. Love and light to you and your family at this time. X

  274. Great post – and I love your tweetable! There is a quote by Caroline Myss that has really resonated with me lately: “Life is a journey of being turned upside down so that your inner world becomes more prominent than your outer world. So that you work on the world from behind your eye instead of what is in front of your eyes. You let energy turn into matter instead of matter turning into energy.”

    When we have scary things happen – like the kidney failure with your father – it can turn our world upside down. On top of that, we have the day-to-day drama that we spend all our energy on. We freak out at the emergencies, and we focus our energy on the outward presentation. We struggle through chaos and try to frame our approach by looking at the outside (what others are going to see) vs. truly looking inward.

    This quote really struck home because I think it encompasses both aspects – the personal family emergency you are dealing with as well as the question of the week. If I could have known something when I was younger, it would be to CHILL OUT. To not take on the weight of the world, not stress about that which we cannot control, and simply work on our own inner peace – because if you want to take on the mammoth task of “world peace” in its entirety, you have to start on yourself.

    Allow yourself to grow and develop, and don’t get lost in that which you cannot control (others), or in what you want to present to others. As you are authentically you, your niche will be defined, and your impact will be greater on the outside because of the amazing growth happening on the inside.

  275. Marie, wanted to let you know I’m sending prayers,one and light to you and your family. I don’t comment much but am consistently impressed with your brand, mission and kind heart. Thanks for inspiring me to be a better business women, wife and person. xo

  276. This is my very first comment after always been your silent reader. This is because it resonates with me a lot! I’m a 25 yo girl from Indonesia, and have so many things that I’m passionate and good at! From traditional dancer, ayurvedic therapist, designer, singer, event organiser, blogger, marketer, and always be someone where people asked to when they have challenge in life (guess that’s a sign that I might call myself life coach in the future 🙂 ).

    Thank you so much for making this video, and sending love and healing vibes to your dad and your family!

    xx Zia

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Hi, Zia! So glad you put yourself out there and shared your talents with us. You’re always welcome to join the conversation any time. 🙂

  277. Trina

    Thanks for sharing what you are going through and what is coming up. I wish I would have accepted myself as I am and yes, enjoy the beach, knowing everything will fall into place.

  278. Many prayers to your family! Great topic but I still STRUGGLE. As a multi-passionate, multi-certified entrepreneur, my LEAST favorite question is “what do you do?” It feels limiting. And trying to answer it literally makes me feel like I am clawing my way out of a box. I avoid networking events because I dont know what to say. How did you answer the “What do you do” question??? Thanks and love to you!

  279. I have made many mistakes; I have many regrets. Without getting into the sordid details of the soul-wrenching ones, I have also made financial mis-steps. I shouldn’t have gone into debt for a college degree, for one. I have fallen for too many false promises. My thoughts are with you and your family, Marie. “Beauty is precious, you see, and the more beautiful something is, the more precious it is; and the more precious something is, the more it hurts us that it will fade away; and the more we are hurt by beauty, the more we love the world; and the more we love it, the more we are saddened that it is like finely powdered salt that runs away through the fingers, or is puffed away by the wind, or is washed away by the rain.” ~Louis de Bernières, ‘Birds Without Wings’.

  280. Maureen Cioni

    One thing I wish I knew then was that I was truly on the right path back in college. I would tell my myself to stick to that path and don’t listen to the naysayers.

  281. Karen Hinckley

    Sending prayers!

  282. If there was one thing I know now that I could tell my newly graduated self 5 years ago, I would say, “Be patient, take your time and enjoy your school projects.”

    Prayers go out to you and your family, Marie.

  283. I was was told by a wise man that the definition of prayer was to be carrying someone in your heart. And so I am carrying your dad, you and your family in my heart. Many blessings Marie. <3

    I look back on my past, I don't stare or regret it. It's all about the journey, not the destination.

  284. Spend your time more wisely on what you’re passionate about earlier than later…time doesn’t stop for anyone.

  285. Hey Marie ~ So sorry to hear about your Dad. I hope his health is quickly sorted and your family receives the love and support needed along the way.

    Unexpectedly caring for parents seems to throw things into a whirlwind, doesn’t it? This one hits home as over the past year I’ve been supporting 3/5 parents in my life and it’s certainly a wake up call. I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and it has made me slow down and re-evaluate my goals in life and spend more time with family and friends. Something I’d lost sight of as I’ve been building my business. I’m sure it’s doing to the same for you too.

    As for the “if I only knew”… I wish I ‘knew’ YOU earlier!!! Your honesty-infused business for kind-hearted creatives has re-fueled my passion. Thank you. 🙂

    Another, ‘if I only knew”… The old school ‘elevator pitch’ along with outdated processes was a huge hangup for me. I wish someone had said ‘do it YOUR way’ a long time ago as I was trying to fit my creative mind into stale, corporate business practices. I’m SO happy to see many new creatives exploring new ways and finding their voice. I’m learning from them and eager to share as I continue growing.

    GIANT hugs and healing vibes flowing your way… <3

  286. Sally

    This is going to sound bitter, but it’s really not… the one thing I would tell my younger, more naive self is that even the people you think you can trust the most aren’t necessarily going to be fair or treat you with the respect and understanding that you afford them. People aren’t nice because you’re nice to them. They don’t share just because you would share everything with them – so don’t give away your ideas and your intellectual property. Yes, I’ve been burnt. In a big way. BUT I wouldn’t trade the learning experience either. I’m not naive anymore, and although for idealistic me the realisation that you cannot rely on people who you thought were lifelong friends to not screw you over for their own selfish reasons was a hard pill to swallow, it was (eventually) freeing.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much for sharing this, Sally. I’m really glad you were able to take something positive away from experiences that sound like they were really painful at the time. You’re so right–what goes around might come around, but what you give to someone isn’t necessarily given back. We can love others and allow ourselves to be close to them while still protecting our magic.

  287. Irina

    Marie! I’m praying for your dad that he would be healed and have strength to go through all treatment and therapy. I pray for all your family to stay in faith. Bless you.

    Life is very fragile. We need to treat every moment of it well.
    I have only one regret that I’ve wasted some time on feeling sorry for myself. And my life is not about myself, but about beauty around.
    I was digging inside, wondering around. Couldn’t find who I was. But the truth is I’m right here right now, not somebody else and not somewhere else.

  288. Irena

    Hi Marie,

    Sorry to hear about your Dad. Sending you and your family loads and loads of love and strength and I hope he makes a good recovery.

    What I wish I had known sooner, is that it’s okay to choose yourself and do what makes you feel better, even if that comes with feelings of guilt. Like so many, I have a tendency of worrying too much about how someone else feels about something I do or say. I’m learning that you get over the guilty feelings. What you can’t get over, is cutting yourself short.

    Love,
    Irena

  289. Marie,

    First thing first: Prayers to your dad for a smooth and speedy recovery, and you and your family be strong, yo!

    Like you, I’m grateful for all those detours and missteps that I’ve taken and for the awesome people that I’ve met along the way, I wouldn’t exchange anything for them. There’s nothing which I would want to know earlier because if I did, I wouldn’t have gone through what I went through (incl. depression and anxiety disorder) to be able to share what I know so profoundly as I am able to now.

    But what I will share now so people can benefit from my experience is this — success and happiness take the same work.

    Unambitious people (like I used to be) think that just because we don’t hanker for great wealth or fame, we can cut ourselves some slack & lead an easy life. But not achieving the best we can and keeping ourselves small actually erodes our self-esteem, which will ultimately lead to unhappiness or sub-happiness. Conversely, the process in reaching a high goal, which boosts our self-esteem and self-confidence creates a lasting sense of pride and joy that no hedonistic pursuit can match. Success, then becomes a natural result for having given our best to something.

  290. Hey Marie, Great episode! Prayers and positive intentions to for your father and your family.

    What I wish I had known earlier? hmmm…probably that all the things I thought were a disadvantage actually turned out to be an advantage.

    You see, my single mom was killed when I was 7, making me an orphan. I went to live with my grandfather and very abusive grandmother. I left when I turned 18 and worked hard (sometimes 3 jobs) to put myself thought college. I had this idea that a college degree was my ticket to freedom, prosperity and abundance.

    In essence, it was. Choosing to go to college got me out of the destructive environment I grew up in. It was the launch pad to a greater life. While my degree was in Biology and I’ve done Marketing for the last 12 years, it still gave me the separation I need to define myself.

    At times in my life, I’ve looked back and thought life would have been much smoother had I been born to a loving family with wealth and advantage. I’ve worked very hard for all I’ve achieved.

    However, I’ve come to realize that all my “adversity” helped me develop laser sharp intuition, self-confidence, and a “get-it-done-no-matter-what” attitude. It’s given me a great perspective on what really matters in live and I tend not to sweat the small stuff.

    At this time in my life, I have no regrets. Only gratitude for the path that has led me to where I am now.

  291. This was amazing, Marie! This message really resonated with me. I’m sending all my good thoughts, love, and vibes to your dad and your family. I hope he recovers quickly! If there’s one thing I could tell my younger self it would be that worrying about my dreams and desires is actually preventing them from happening. I spent so much time worrying about whether or not things would work out and in the end, things always happened as they were supposed to. The journey however could have been different and I could’ve spent a lot more time chilled out and not anxious had I known that “every little thing is gonna be alright.” <3

  292. Thinking of your family, Marie.

    If I could tell my young self anything, it would be this: There is nothing wrong with you. I spent decades feeling like I would never measure up and that I wasn’t anything enough: pretty enough, smart enough, talented enough, thin enough, exciting enough… Two years ago I finally got to a place where I could see that this was all BS and that I’m just fine the way I am. I’ll never be perfect, but that’s okay. That’s great! I’m me and I wouldn’t change it.

  293. Sending your family lots of love.

    The one thing I wish I knew sooner my mother was and still is right; you will never make money working for someone else.

    All of the times I got fired or quit a job it was a clear message from the universe “Do your own thing”

    In the words of Nas- “The World is Yours”

  294. Marie,

    Much love and prayers to you and your family. I know how difficult this can be, but know you have all the love in your heart.

    When these things happen, we realize life in its fullest. If I could tell my younger self anything it would be – don’t give a crap about what people think. Follow your heart’s desire even if it doesn’t seem lucrative financially. You’ll find your footing if you follow your bliss.

  295. My hunches are my internal “hollers” that should never be ignored! Holler!!!!

  296. Linda

    Marie, Thank you for your inspiration! I really admire that even when you are going through something so difficult, you still take the time to inspire others. I look forward to your videos and I am truly grateful to you for that. I hope your dad is feeling better every day. Love & Blessings to you and your family xo

  297. Yes, thank God for our mistakes, they get to teach others not to them.

  298. Oh, Marie this was one of the episodes when I was nodding all over the places and thinking “that’s SOOOO me”.

    Man, I just can’t figure out who and what I am! I am a copywriter, a writer, a marketer, a designer, a blogger, a teacher….It’s like I am all of these things and really can’t get to choose. But I realize the more I do the one, the less I can focus on the other, so I must choose eventually or find a way to mix them altogether in a smoothie that will taste good….

    I have always dreamt of having a business of my own and started with a handmade design business, but then got a day job as a teacher, and since then my writing has been my main focus, as now I work almost full time as a copywriter but still trying to maintain my shop, blog and volunteer my knowledge as a teacher.

    It’s hard but I wouldn’t give up any of it….In fact it gave me great courage to see that you were as confused as I am 🙂 And still giving it all you’ve got and making people’s lives better!

    Thank you so much for this video, it meant the world to me!

  299. Jai

    Thanks for being inspiration – even when life has thrown you a curve ball. Sending you love and light for a speedy recovery for Dad
    Jai xx

  300. Megan

    Marie,
    First, I was sad to hear about your father, and I’m sending him & your family lots of love & light to speed his complete recovery.
    Last week, I attempted suicide. Somewhere between swallowing the pills and losing consciousness, I called my boyfriend and pleaded for him to help me. I’m not sure how long I lay in my bed, but the next thing I knew he had me in his arms, crying and begging God to let me live. In that moment, I realized that I wanted to live… for him. Him, and all the other people in my life that I loved: my kids, my parents, my family… I hadn’t given any real thought to the pain my death would cause them, mostly because I couldn’t see past the darkness that I was living in. I’m still fighting the darkness, but now I’m doing it for others instead of giving up on myself and trying to do it alone. This is the first time I’ve talked about it with anyone but my boyfriend…
    What I wish I’d known before I tried to end my life is just how important and precious life truly is. Every breath is a gift, every beat of our hearts, every morning we wake up and see the sun. The setbacks, the frustrations, the daily what-am-I-gonna-do’s mean NOTHING in the grand scheme of things. Had I died, I wouldn’t have had the surprise and deep joy of being proposed to 2 days later, on our 3 year anniversary, nor the pride and intense happiness of my fiance’s kids calling me Mom. When I tried to take my own life, I felt alone and afraid. Now, I have more love and support than I’ve ever known in my life. If I had just looked, I would have seen it long ago.

    • Mandy - Team Forleo

      I’m so glad to hear you’re still with us and are receiving so much love and support from your family, boyfriend, and friends. I know the darkness clouds our vision and can make it hard to see the beautiful things before us, but please know that you are loved by many and would be missed terribly. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us–I know it wasn’t easy to do. Sending lots of love your way. <3

  301. I wish I had known about your channel sooner! But no regrets, because now I can binge watch.

    Your Dad and family are in my thoughts; I wish him a smooth recovery.

  302. Marie, I send you and your Dad and your Family Light and Love.
    I hope he will recover soon!

    All the best
    Elisa

  303. Thank you so much for this Marie!

    I run a women’s networking group and so many of our members are hung up on this exact point – once their pitch is perfect THEN everything else will fall into place. Well, I STILL don’t have a pitch and as a multi-passionate business owner it was lovely to see your take on this. I will be sharing it with our group!

    H x

  304. Hi Marie,

    Best wishes for your family and hope your daddy gets better soon.

    I’m not a person of regrets and i believe there’s no better way of learning than mistakes. Since we can’t go to the past to reach out our younger selves, we can take this question from another point to help us; what would be our advice to ourselves for the future? We all know aging brings experience and knowledge but if we dig deeply it also blocks our risk taking, our fragility and many more. It, of course, depends and varies on every single individual. But if we take a deep breath and concentrate on our inner cycle and try to figure out our own SWOT, it may affect not the past but the future!

  305. Mirriam

    Thanks so much for continuing with what you do despite having a family member who’s ill – more than I could ever expect. Well done, thank you, and sending good thoughts your way/

  306. I think if there is just one thing I would tell my younger self:

    – keep on working on your dreams – everything will come into place. 🙂

    Although, I am not [yet] where I dream to be [owning a 6 figure business], at least I can afford my own little place and work for myself [even if I can only pay the bills now and nothing else]. Last year, after graduation I was so lost, making no money and having a seasonal job, wishing that soon I will be able to quit and work for myself — one year later, it happened.

    So, what I am telling myself NOW it’s to be patient and to keep on working, it will pay off, pretty soon 😀

    Is here anyone like me?:) I would love to know I am not alone 😀

  307. Love this one Marie!

    Big love to you, your Dad and the entire family!!!

    I almost spit out my coffee this was so totally speaking to me! I walk a few times a week with my fiancee and I am always doing this to him! I literally laughed out loud!! I am so conflicted. Who do I want to be? I love so many things and have a few key passions. Speaking, Emceeing and Improv Theatre. But then I also love hip-hop, productivity and spirituality too. And in my work, like you, I always find myself blending them all together. Because after all, I put myself into everything I do. I want it to feel authentic. Real. Honest.

    So this has given me a “hall pass” to start enjoying those walks and chill it out. To keep going and trust the process.

    Big love and thanks for inspiring me every single week!
    XO
    HOLLA!

  308. Laurie Smith

    I’ve wasted so much time on this exact thing!! What a relief !

  309. Kristina

    Hi Marie! Sending lots of healing vibes to your dad and your family, and a BIG THANK YOU to you for being so inspiring! I can so relate to what you discuss in this video! I think the world is SLOWLY getting used to people having serial, parallell, intersecting, blended and super creative career types, but sometimes we bump into old school teachings or persons that make us panic and think we MUST come up with a one line title that fits nicely on our business cards or in an elevator pitch…. In the same way that the “old school” myth that you MUST have EVERYTHING figured out before starting your own business, whether you are investing in a laptop or a production line. Knowing your risks and worst case scenarios and being prepared for how to handle them (should they occur) are the keys. You will never be ready or have everything figured out. Risk management thinking instead of absolute knowing set me free to take the plunge. The rest is about growing and learning and meeting the challenges as they come! All the best from Kristina

  310. Debbie Jenkins

    Oh Marie!! I am so sorry to hear about your dad, I can totally relate to your situation. My dad went into the hospital on April 1st, 2015 and our April was a very rough month!! Sending healing prayers your dad’s way!!
    I love what you shared about each thing we wish we knew in our younger years being a life lesson! That is Awesome! Without those lessons we would not be who we are today for sure!!
    I have one, it is to be confident in what I know and know that I can share it know matter what if I truly believe what I am saying. That was a big revelation for me. So with that being said I am going to step out of my comfort zone and ask you, if I knew of something that could help your dad, would you want to know about it? if so please email me at debjenkins32@yahoo.com

  311. So your Dad is in the hospital and you realize you should have just enjoyed the beach? Ok, I have to admit, I was waiting for something really profound. Sending prayers for healing.

  312. Pravin

    I wish you and your family blessings Marie, I hope you Father gets well soon..

    One thing I have learnt, that I wish I knew as a teenager is get up everyday do what you love, and love what you do!

    No matter what anyone says of you, to you, about you, or forces upon you…

  313. Giovanna

    Hi Marie,
    Sending light and love and healing prayers to you, your Dad and your family. It’s never easy to go through this with loved ones.
    I love your funny video’s, always a hi-light for me! One thing I wish I knew as my younger self…..stop judging yourself so harshly and experience life. I never spoke up and never felt confident enough to be who I was meant to be. Your faith should be greater than your fear. Thanks for a great Q and A, as usual 🙂
    xoxo
    Giovanna

  314. Clare

    Sending your family well wishes of comfort and healing!

    For the A to your Q….I wish I had chill-laxed and realized a career is built over a lifetime, not in a few days. Years of action build a career.

  315. Sending prayers for your Dad and your family Marie. With this in mind and my own B-School journey creating a business with my Mother I wish I had known earlier the change in our relationship this would bring. Embracing and supporting her in helping her fulfil her legacy has deepened our relationship and brought more joy than I could have imagined – could it have happened earlier? Owning up to who we truly are, includes in my case, the family I am are part of – I’ve found it very empowering. Fusion Creative – I love it and shall try it out when someone is wanting to pigeon hole me!

  316. Marie,

    Thank you for another wonderful message. I identify with your term “multi-passionate” so much! In the online world we are encouraged to develop a niche, but I find it difficult to narrow in too specifically when I have so many interests and passions. On the other hand, as a family physician, I have had to be very broad in my knowledge base so I do appreciate the idea of being more specific with my website. I too have spent a lot of time tying to define my online presence in a succinct way. It was reassuring to hear your journey in that regard.

    Warm thoughts of you and your family.
    Sara

  317. Jessica

    Looking back, I also do not regret anything in my life. Everything has unfolded just as it was meant to — beautiful, complicated, sometimes messy.

    What I had wished I had know sooner was the notion of trusting my gut. In this past year, my life coach helped me to clarify the difference between living life out of obligation to others and for my own true purpose.

    Being a highly intuitive, emotional and empathetic person often leaves me confused between the two. If I ritually place moments of stillness into my day in which I check into my body, my breath, and my true self, I find that I make more decisions based on what’s authentic for me.

    Trust your instinct, gut, inner self….whatever you want to call it.

    That’s what I wish I had know sooner.

    Thanks Marie….for everything! I truly enjoy your content 🙂 Makes me laugh, cry, and want to move mountains.

    Jessica

  318. jennie

    Iv’e pretty much lived my life without regrets but the question did inspire me to look within and answer …I would have married the person who loved and appreciated me. I was always waiting for the knight in shinning armor and didn’t realize that I didn’t look deep enough to find the gold!

  319. Hey Marie.
    My dad’s dying of pancreatic cancer right now.
    So I understand. And send you SOOO much love and healing.
    One of the things I discovered in this process is that when my folks and I say “I love you” now, we really truly mean it. We say it like it could be the last time, every time. None of what we fought about in earlier days matters. Not my obstinance. Not their OCDness. Not politics. Not religion. Not the state of the broken world we cannot control…
    Only love. Only honesty. Only not being alone. Only being together. Only letting our wings out and doing our best every day to make sure we are living our light… only these things matter.
    I’ve applied them to every aspect of my life now – from friendships to work to regaining my body after seriously damaging it by sitting still and writing my book for many months while being too depressed to eat. So I eat delicious and healthy foods now. I make time for self care. And my life is shining. My body is happy. My spirit is fulfilled. I feel and give love with everything I do. This allows me to work harder. And be braver. And inspire more people to do the same.
    I wish I’d known sooner that so much of what we spend time on is a waste of it. Like you said, the elevator speech can wait. Growing, and for me – loving and living my light out loud – is what I’ll be spending my time on now.
    Thanks for the reminder, and chance to share.

  320. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad and I’m so glad he is on the mend. Sending healing prayers your way! On another note, I LOVE the hip hop in your videos. I can’t get enough of it.

  321. asaidurai

    First, let my blessings and wishes reach your father to get cured very shortly without even having tolerable pain !

    Perhaps, whole heartedly, if I wish your father to have an eternal life, then, howmuch strength my blessings will have ? Actually, Eternal life is an all time greatest punishment !

    Therefore, even if I wish and bless your father for his wishing time death, then also, the strength of my blessings become doubtful ! Why ? Admiriring the Nature and its course, our wishes and blessings must arise and emerge accordingly and should not go beyond the possibilities !
    What I mean is even we should not torture the nature to act according to our wish because nature is not a slave to us ! It has its own soul and its own living style ie. functioning style to satisfy its soul ! Because,
    ” NATURE IS GOD ! ”

    It is a spritual knowlrdge that is to be realized that the Almighty also struggling to find a meaning of HIS life by continiously and frequently changing his character and attitudes in many different ways by facing a greatest uncurable disease of ETERNAL LIFE ! THE GREATEST PUNISHMENT ! Who is going to save HIM ? Just think how pity he is !
    And think how sorrow and sad he is ! LONG BACK ITSELF HE BECAME A ” SADIST ” ! Think…. what we can expect from a sadist !

    We all are praying for our peaceful, painless, sorrow-free and struggle-free life but who is going to pray for HIS cure ! And where and whom we are going to approach ?

    The Universe or Multiverse has equal amount of Logic and Illogic things !
    Logic is SCIENCE Illogic is PHILOSOPHY ! If we cannot bring things of our daily happenings within logic, then, we have only the other option of finding reasons in illogic ie. in PHILOSOPHY ! Start to End whole thing in GOD CONCEPT is illogic…ie. PHILOSOPHY !

    PHILOSOPHY is full of woners ! ( cannot find logical reasons )
    SCIENCE is not at all a wonder ! ( can find logical reasons )

    ENOUGH !

    LET US STOP COMPLAINING EVERYTHING !
    LET US START APPRECIATING GOOD THINGS !
    LET US REALIZE THESE TWO ATTITUDES LEAD US TO GET PEACE AND PROGRESS IN OUR LIVES EASILY !

    Now our only duty is honestly we have to face all future surprises how good or bad they are ! Also, we have to act accordingly and honestly !

    I mean if you have to cry…CRY !
    if you have to laugh…LAUGH !
    if you have to pardon…PARDON !
    if you have to sacrifice…SACRIFICE !
    if you have to help…..HELP !
    if you have to struggle…STRUGGLE !
    if ypou have to love….LOVE !

    Marie ! Believe….. NOTHING happened to you !
    And EVERYTHING happened for you !
    I know UNITED prayer pays definitely !
    But, just for two years only we will be benefitted !

    If the above mentioned my personal suggestions hurt you, please, I beg your pardon ! These elaborated words thrown by me is only because I wanted to be FRANK with you atleast in this situation !

    DON’T WORRY ! BE HAPPY !

    With warm Regards,
    Asaidurai. A. R
    ____________________________________________________

  322. Thank you so much for sharing, Marie! I’ve been so inspired by you lately with your broadmindedness on business and life. I’m sending your father sincere daimoku (chanting nam-myoho-renge-kyo) for his health, happiness, and protection. Please take care!

  323. Skoch

    One thing wish i had known sooner…has to be three things:
    – love God
    – love people
    – save as much money as you can when you’re young cause when get older, (50 or so) you’ll finally have the wisdom and knowledge to know what to do with it

  324. My younger self would have a lot to say about “if only I knew then what I know now” but my now self knows this is impossible because if I had been ready to know it I would have. Still, if it were possible, I would have told my younger self to relax. It’s all perfect even when you don’t think so. This knowledge would have saved me so much unnecessary suffering and anxiety.

    Much love to you and your family during this challenging time.

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      So true, Silvia and thank you so much for the love and well wishes.

  325. Traci Ahangarzadeh

    Also sending prayers for your Dad, Mom and you!

  326. Great topic Marie! I remember HATING trying to identify who I was, because I knew it was much more than an “organizer”. Funny, how we get caught up on such minor details. Thankfully, as most people probably already notice…we eventually get over it and move powerfully forward!

    Yay! Have a great beach walk.

    Melody

  327. Marie, I wish you many moments of peace and connection during this difficult time. So hard to have a parent facing illness. As for me, what I wish I’d known sooner was that success has myriad definitions, and the most important one is my own. Thanks for a great episode, as usual.

  328. Kylie McConnell

    Ky,

    “Being yourself is more important than anything else.”

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Love it. Amen.

  329. Thank you for your supportive and uplifting videos – I am looking forward to delving into all of your videos to help support me with my work and getting my name out there to the world.

    Healing and buckets of love to you and your family, I will keep health and wellbeing in mind for you all.

    Much love

    Goddess Babalon (Babs)
    x

  330. Vince G.

    Dear Marie:

    How sad to hear of your dear Daddy being ill. My heart goes out to you and family that he may heal quickly and that he enjoy good health once again.

    I also have to thank you about sharing the Upper Limit idea in an earlier blog. Exactly correct! If not careful we can Upper Limit Ourselves and this applies to careers as well as health. Please stay healthy, happy and may God keep your amazing and vibrant soul alive with new ideas:))

    • Chelsea - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much, Vince.

  331. Katy

    Marie,

    My heart goes out to you. Like always, I’ll be sending positive energy your way. Don’t worry though. I’m sure you’ve already given your father the greatest happiness; you’ve made him happy by being his daughter, and by becoming successful by doing you.

    Thank you for this video Marie. As always, it was FANTASTIC 🙂
    I was wondering though if it might be possible for you to make a video on how you stay organized. I always feel like there are so many things I want to do, but so little time. I understand one can only do so many things, but I also know that great organization skills can help you fit more things in a day. I was wondering then if you had any tips.

    Thanks Marie!
    Sincerely,
    Katy

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much for the positive vibes, Katy. It means so much!

      Aaaand I have a great episode for you! It’s a mini-workshop about how to deal with overwhelm and get organized. I do this regularly myself, and it helps me tremendously:

      http://marieforleo.com/2011/02/deal-overwhelm-free-video-workshop/

      I hope you enjoy checking out that one for a few tips — it’s a classic 🙂

  332. Hi Marie! Thank you again for another amazing insight and sending the healing thoughts to your Dad!

  333. Had the same struggle and still do. Still, I keep chugging along.

    Marie, prayers and love to you and your family. May your father recovery quickly.

  334. Hi Marie,
    Sorry to hear about the health issues your father is experiencing. You are right to be reflecting on the fragility and uncertainty of life. I enrolled in B-School this year and was primed to dive head first into the modules. The weekend before the release of the first module I received a distressed call from my mother who informed me that my father had unexpectedly passed away. These tragedies really jolt ones priorities and perspective on life. My regret was not spending more time with him over the last few years. That can never be remedied now. Let your current experience be a reminder to you that life can literally change in a heartbeat. Cherish all the moments you spend with family and loved ones and let them know it!
    Speedy recovery for your dad xx

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Michael, I’m so sorry to hear that your father passed away. We’re sending our sincerest condolences and lots of Team Forleo love.

      Thank you so much for your well wishes, and we’re all wishing Marie’s dad a speedy recovery too!

  335. regina

    “forget about the speech and enjoy the beach” Marie, spot on again.

    I’m in a ‘beach’ moment, and fretting about my “speech”. Before I watched this, I prayed to remember that I am worthy, and to continue to say Yes and Thank You to what Life has to offer this day. I also always ask to be of service, and I don’t judge what that service is, who it is rendered to, or how.

    Just say Yes, and Thank You.

    Wishing ease and solace for you and your loved ones during this time, my your dear father heal godspeed.
    warm regards, always.

  336. Thank you for saying “multi-passionate” people. I can’t tell you the amount of times that I, too, ruined romantic walks or peaceful car-rides with tears or yelling about how I enjoy too many things and don’t know what to concentrate on first and foremost. It also didn’t help that in an effort to help me, friends and family would say you just have to PICK a focus. I am not making a ton of money right now, however, I am FINALLY okay with being a musician, a songwriter, an actress, an improv comedian, a writer/blogger, and a fanatic about marketing. Do they all sounds within a similar vain? Yes, but they each involved and require so much specific work that distracts one niche task from the next and it’s VERY hard to juggle. But I am happy with my choice to love them ALL. My boyfriend helped me a ton in realizing that it’s okay to “drive” all those “cars”. Because we are one person and can’t physically drive more than one car at once, sometimes those other passion-cars have to stay parked on the track, but only for as long as it takes for your first car to need a pit-stop at the local gas station. Then you hop in the improv comedy car and honk that horn for a while. I think, for now, it’s a beautiful balance that I’ve JUST started embracing. 🙂

  337. The one thing I wish I knew sooner was to have more confidence in my work. I am a highly experienced professional and I should always act professional and be confident in the fact that i know what i’m doing.

  338. Marie,
    I have been through what you are going through now. This will make you stronger and even better. Take time for yourself.
    Love,
    Erica

  339. Hello Marie, I am impressed with you even more so knowing that you are willing to share your personal experiences with us all. I am thinking of you now with your Dads recovery and shall do so each day. See him as well and strong and teach him to do the same. Kidneys can be related to ‘fear’..(metaphysically) along with other things. The love that a daughter shares with their Father is the “first true love” Allow your beautiful heart to keep expanding as you learn and grow within this very powerful life journey. Blessings, Di xx

  340. Wishing you and your fam the best as your dad recovers, Marie.

    The thing I think I am weeding my way through still – but learning more and more about as I go – is actually 4-fold:
    – Tune in (As in – follow your [innate] passion, regardless of perceived ‘rules’)…
    – Patience (Everything happens in divine time; allow it to unfold as it should!)…
    – Trust (Believe it’s all happening as it should, and trust God/ Uni to guide you.)…
    – Let Go (As in – be open to outcome. Enjoy it all – even the crap; re-frame it. Value the lessons. Keep growing! + Let go of expectations. Your life = your design.)

    *And as a bonus: I also have a hard time maintaining a line between standing up for what I believe in while also not doing so in a non-loving way/ burning bridges in the process. I’m working on that – but awareness is the first step, right? Sometimes I get too fired up to stay in practice with my live-and-let-live approach to life.

    There is a great little Chinese Proverb that resonates with me. It reads, “Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only of standing still.”

    I may be growing slowly – but I’m growing, baby!

  341. First off, sending lots of love and healing vibes to your family!! Hoping for a speedy recovery for him.

    Now regarding this super important question – I’m an actor. My industry is an especially crazy one. Cutthroat, competitive as hell, based mostly on appearance, money and luck, with supply far outstripping demand. As such, I heard over and over in my last year of school, “Say Yes To Everything.” Every job, even if it’s unpaid, even if you’re being treated like shit, even if it doesn’t align with your values, because there are a million others exactly like you and if you don’t take it someone else will. I wish wish wish with all my heart someone had told me that was grade A chicken-fried bullshit. The power of No is awesome and inspiring and cannot be understated! Don’t get me wrong, a person starting out in pretty much any field is well served saying yes to every opportunity they can get something out of. But you should never feel you have to say yes, despite disrespect or icky content, out of fear there’s not enough to go around.

    The first time I turned down a job, because the director had shown himself to be a misogynist ass in the audition room, was a game-changing moment for me. The idea that I could CHOOSE roles that fulfilled me, that aligned with my values, that lit me up, instead of subjecting myself to disrespect because “that’s how it works” – WOW. No is a beautiful word. Everyone (especially women) should learn to use it confidently and unapologetically as often as necessary.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      I’m SO cheering over here reading your comment, Emma! (Fist pumping may have been involved) 🙂

      I went to music school, and we always heard the same message. The power of “no” is indeed a beautiful thing!

  342. I personal think that everyone also want to know what is the right things need they to do to achieve their goal, but in fact how it work depend each person’s story about their knowledge and experience on things they are doing. By that way there are many people make mistake, fail in process. But people should confident about themselves that they are keep moving by taking action even make mistake or fails. The fact is we all do with all as we can, then right now we have that worth knowledge and experience that we wish before we have own. Keep enjoy, follow the dreams.

  343. Monika Lerch

    Marie, I’m sending you and your whole family lots of love, strength, patience and hope! I get how you feel so well (my father had a heart attack and we got the same kind of message), and I pray that your father is going to recover and get well soon. Stay strong and don’t lose faith, it’s all going to be okay!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Thank you so much for your kind wishes and prayers, Monika. I’m sorry to hear that you had to receive the same kind of message too and we’re sending lots of love right back! xo

      • Monika Lerch

        That’s so kind of you! Thankfully, everything turned out just fine for my dad 🙂
        Still, this is a very stressful situation for everybody involved. So I just hope that Marie can take the time she needs to take care of herself and her father and do whatever feels powerful to her. She sure can be happy to have such a wonderful team on which she can rely 😉

  344. Chère Marie,

    I send you and your family lots of love, healing vibes and virtual chocolate molten cakes. Hope you like them 🙂

    I’ve thought a lot about your question, all the mistakes or bad things that happened to me, made me stronger and a better person.

    However, there is one thing that I would have said to my younger 19th year old me : “you can say NO to your parents”. My parents always wanted the best for me, the best that THEY have thought was the best for me, based on THEIR believes. I mean it’s ok, but I would have known at that time that I could have say NO, to follow MY inner voice and not their choices.

    Thank you for your super hip-hopy video. Love it !

    Much love,
    Virginie

  345. Hi Marie,
    Great episode, and love the dress. Prayers for Dad! I always thought I was like an alien from another galaxy or something. It seemed a bit them vs. me. Now I realize we are all aliens from other galaxies, and people are open to cooperating with new or different ways if you can speak their language. Nanoo- Nanoo! or as they say in Hawaii, “Aloha”,
    David

    • Hi Marie,
      I am so sorry to hear about what you have been going through with your dad. I have been through a lot with my family and it can be all encompassing. I have just stopped and prayed for your dad and family, and will continue to pray for you as well, that God gives you the strength and renewed energy to be there for your family.
      Thank goodness you have Josh in your life, who is there for you. I don’t know what I would have done without God’s strength and great husband in my life.
      Your words about that whole situation have reminded me again that I need to draw from that strength now in the situation I am right now in with my business.
      Thank you so much for all you do. I can’t express just how much it has all ment to me. I too, wish I could ask that great question like all the others that write in, but I have no idea where to even begin! So for now I will keep watching you and keep plugging and trying, endure, pray and hope things turn around.
      I would like to add one more thing. One of the things that has touched me so much has been your struggles with how to define yourself. I too have had that in business. I have a passion for what I do, and for people, and for art.
      Thank you,
      Josie

      • Caroline - Team Forleo

        Josie, thank you so much for your well wishes to Marie and her dad.

        It means so much to hear that our work has been inspirational to you, and if you do find a question you’d like to write in, you’re welcome to do so anytime! We have a handy form on our contact page here: http://www.marieforleo.com/contact/

        Of course, you’re always welcome to continue tuning in to our episodes in the meantime too … we have lots of them to explore!

        Sending our very best wishes to you xoxo

  346. Amy

    Marie,

    I will say a prayer for you, your Dad and family. I applaud you for staying in the loop with your followers at such a time. I think we’d be quite understanding if we had to wait “an extended commercial break.” I wish I could’ve told my younger self to ” … always listen to your gut/heart – no matter what. It/they have the right/best answer for your life.”