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Let’s talk for a minute about what it takes to accomplish something important.

Like…

Writing and selling a book. Starting and running a profitable business. Reaching your ideal weight, and staying there. Working your buns off to create lasting social change.

You know. Bringing any seemingly out-there or even “impossible” creative idea into physical reality.

Most of us start new endeavors with total optimism. We’re either super confident. “I soo got this.” Or at least, enthusiastic and hopeful. “I think this could really work!”

But during any project, there comes a point when the proverbial shiz hits the fan.

Plans go haywire. You get sick or creatively blocked. Key players disappear, have accidents or meltdowns. Technology decides not to work. In other words, you get slapped hard by Murphy’s law.

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It’s usually around this point when the thought of giving up crosses our minds. We wonder…

“Is this really worth it? Is this some weird cosmic test to see how truly committed I am or is this a sign from the Universe to cut my losses and get out?”

If you’ve ever struggle with the question, “Should I commit or quit,” you’ll love today’s episode of MarieTV.

I’ll tell you about an expensive meltdown that happened in my business a few years back. One that made me realize I should absolutely quit (and I’m sooo happy I did).

Plus, you’ll learn two specific strategies to help find your answer to the often agonizing quit or commit dilemma.

Today’s topic is really important, especially for us as creative risk takers. Logic isn’t always the best guide for the quit vs. commit question. Your heart is.

Following your own gut, even when other people think you’re crazy, is a key strength to cultivate in life. Especially when you’re taking risks creatively, personally and professionally.

Now, I’d love to hear from you. Do you subscribe to the notion that quitters never win?

Have you ever faced the choice: commit or quit? If so, what helped you decide?

Leave a comment below and let us know.

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With all my love,

XO

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  1. One of my favourite strategies ever is the 10 year test because when you apply it—or at least when I do—the response is almost immediately. I can tell right away whether to keep going or to call it quits which is so valuable because it allows me to stop procrastinating and stressing out about it and just continue working on the damn thing. Awesome strategies, Marie!

    • Yes Demetria!

      And stress is a no go for me 🙂 I like to ex stress at any chance I can get. It can lead to so many other nasty critters.

      Brandy xo

    • Hey Marie ,its a while back since i mailed you ,to cut a long story short ,my first self published book went on sale on sunday ,you said to let you know if i ever went ahead and actually done it ,well i did ,thanks for your inspiration to keep going to build a life you love ,A Spiritual Guide For You and Your Horse is now on sale from amazon ,hoping its the start of getting my message out and knowledge to the world .Lots of love Jen xxx

      • Caroline - Team Forleo

        Jen,
        That’s incredible news – congratulations! Thanks so much for leaving a note to let us know, and we’re sending you tons of best wishes, cheers, and Team Forleo love!
        xo

  2. Particularly for multi-passionate entrepreneurs, I’ve found that chasing multiple rabbits ultimately ends in quitting something – or at least scaling it way back.

    When it comes to deciding about quitting or (re-)committing, the “soul goal” approach can be really helpful. But if you’re not sure, if you’re feeling like “How do I know if this will be a big mistake 10 years from now?” I recommend my clients look at the other areas of their life and see how this piece fits in. If it really doesn’t fit, then it’s probably not going to fit in 10 years – unless some MAJOR changes happen.

    • Marie, Lisa and everyone,

      YES! When you’ve committed so much time to a passion and it’s just not working, how hard is it to just say “Enough!”.

      I find having someone else come in (coach, mentor, consultant) to look at what you have going on and giving an objective view really helps.

      Also, when you take a lot of action, the results (or lack thereof) show up pretty quickly so if you’re listening to what’s going on IN your business, you can make better and quicker adjustments.

      Lisa, what you mentioned really resonated – if this piece doesn’t fit now, for sure it’s not likely to fit in later.

      Happy Tuesday! 🙂

  3. Good points, as usual, Marie. Great point with the word “flow.” I love to use it but not in the typical way. Flow refers more to the way I respond to things than in the way things go. The unanticipated will happen, because, well…life. But if I get wrapped up in the obstacle, it’s not impeding me. I am.

    The things that I need to quit are the situations where I can’t seem to get out of my own way. Where I’m able to step back and recalibrate, all the while maintaining my desire for the goal, lets me know to stay on the path. If my desire is easily lost or is based on some external parameter (status, sense of power, saving face), I need to kick it to the curb.

    • That’s not always easy, Emelia. How do you “kick it to the curb” and keep it kicked?

      • Emelia – LOVE your concept of FLOW and how it can be applied when chatting with others. Sometimes, I get this “…yeah, but life’s just not that easy for everyone…” response and how you propose FLOW (or at least how I took it) is not about external things happening, but how you are responding to it and going with it (or not going with it!) – LOVE IT!

      • Continually working that out, Lisa. 🙂

    • I agree with you, Emelia; sometimes I get in my own way with even how I THINK. I need to open my mind to broader POVs.

    • YES! Kicking to the curb the easily lost desires or the ones based on external parameters (status, sense of power, saving face) – these will easily lead us to more pain as we put in more blood, sweat and tears to fulfill after hitting that shiz fan. What a great insight Emelia!

  4. Marie – This is such a hard one. I do subscribe to winners never quit, so it is so hard sometimes to let go of things that aren’t working, especially when I’m invested, my engagement for example.

    What helped me quit was being forced to do so by the Universe. You see, I asked the Universe to help me. I knew that the relationship was over, but I was holding on to it for dear life. I was invested. The Universe helped me, but not in the way that I wanted. I had to reconcile that, but I learned a valuable lesson: be careful what you ask for and that the Universe is working in my best interest no matter what. So will I look back on this and have regrets about quitting? Hell no. It brought me closer to my best self. Great advice, Marie!!

    • Fabulously said!

      I have also found in my journey that the Universe is quite powerful and loving. Once, when my energy started to shift about a job I had many years ago…I didn’t ever realized how toxic it was getting for my own spirit. I felt trapped and unheard.

      But, the Universe stepped in and vola ..No more job. Not my choice. And it was the best decision that I NEVER made…lol. A week later, I had two job offers and I was back to work.

      Thanks for sharing Ms. Pilloz

      • I have to agree with Ms. Pillowz and Brandy, sometimes the Universe comes to our rescue and forces change on us. I am in the middle of that now, I am holding on to my business that has changed so dramatically that I do not enjoy it anymore, the income level I used to get has dwindled and I have been trying to resuscitate it for years, I hate the idea of giving up but my passion is being snuffed out to the point where I don’t even want to answer my phone- well, now I am being forced to change as my husband is being moved clear across the country for 2-3 years, so we have to move. I know this is the best thing for me as it will force me to make the change I should have made years ago. Hmmmm the possibilities that lay ahead! I am so grateful for this change that is being forced on me!

        • Elizabeth H.

          Lisa – I was in much the same boat with my business after 18 years. I was stuck in being scared to let it go but not enjoying it. I knew what I needed to do but dragged my feet. Went to an energetic healer who asked me what I did for work and I told her and she said “but you are done with that” and when I reiterated I still did it she said “well you are done with that, right?”. Enough said. Sold my business within a few months of the reading and am so glad. Not everything is meant to last forever! The universe sends us signs, if we refuse to pay attention it takes it to the next level. Congratulations on being free of old stuff and getting to see what the next great work thing is!!

      • I love it! Best decision that I never made. Ha!

        Loved your story!

    • Sometimes, the road we’re on may at first seem to be heading in the right direction, only leading to a dead-end. We can always turn the car around. I have had more failures than I care to count. “Living is being born slowly. It would be a little too easy if we could borrow ready-made souls.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Flight to Arras, 1942

  5. Nicole Tate

    I had just been awarded my LARGEST contract of my business life. I had been working hard to get to this moment. However, I was also getting sicker and sicker despite going to the doctor and taking medicine. I knew it was time to dip when all my friends and family said “It is time for you to figure out why you are so sick all the time”… I had to give up my newly acquired contract, go through months of testing, and put my business on hold. After the new year I decided it was time to dip… guess what? I don’t miss it and it has freed me up for my next opportunity.

    • Daniele

      Wow, thanks for sharing. Your story really resonated with me as I found myself in that very same situation. I thank the Lord for giving me the courage to take the same actions.

  6. Geoff

    Are you kidding me? Unreal. Thank you!! lol. Today is the day I’ve decided to “quit” my job and focus 100% on my business. I know it’s not exactly what you’re talking about, but too funny. Thanks Marie, you just made the choice so much easier!!! YOU ROCK!

  7. Maureen Susan

    Marie,

    Thanks for this Marie TV segment. I have lost my job and I am on my way to senior citizenship but need additional income. I started writing a book and have been experiencing reader and writers block. It feel like an impenetrable fire wall…Now I will look for a writers workshop and coach to bring me through this block. Wish me well! And a part-time job!

    Frustrated writer on Cape Cod.

    • Maureen, hang on in there! Good luck 🙂

      • Maureen,

        You may find Steven Pressfield’s The War of Art helpful to blast through “writer’s block.”

        All the best to you!

  8. Oh, hello there!
    Sometimes giving up something that you have worked on a lot is difficult and here is a strategy I learned from a teacher of mine, her name is Mariane Gille and she used to say to us:”Oh, come on, Kill your darlings!”. This has helped me a lot of times to overcome the internal frustration I have felt.
    Once again Marie, I love your work and I am happy that you are doing your thing in the best possible way 😀

    • Hey Anelia – we say that all the time with copywriting too. Sometimes you have to let go of some ideas, paragraphs, etc. if they’re just bloating your writing.

  9. Kris

    Thanks for a great reminder Marie about Soul Goal! If I don’t feel it in my Soul it ain’t worth a Goal. I’ve blown myself off course so many times in life because I haven’t trusted my inner compass. Now I’ve been paying attention to what “feels” right, rather than what I “think” is right. The heart never lies. I’ve been practicing Lead with heart, follow with Smart and it’s made the world of difference!

  10. Thanks for this, Marie. I’ve been struggling with this regarding two projects. One I “quit” at the end of the year. I fired my main freelance client (for the last 16 years), and quitting was a decision I agonized over for a year. The day I quit, I felt that sweet rush of freedom. So even though I’d closed the door on good, steady income, I knew it was the right decision. As you mention in the video, it freed up a lot of my mental and emotional bandwidth.

    The second one is a project that’s been a labor of love (and sucker of money) for two years. It has not even come close to the financial aspirations I had for it. But I’m not sure I’m ready to quit that one. Yes, I’ve invested a tremendous amount of time and money. Yes, I likely should quit.

    Instead, I’ve decided to pivot. I’m changing the project as much as I can to allow me to continue working on it, with a twist. I’m going to see if I can still keep it live and thriving while using far less of my time and money going forward. I’m hoping if I can succeed, it will be a fun and worthwhile project again. (If I’m still stuck in a year, it may be time to quit or sell at that point).

    That might be another option for anyone stuck between “quitting” and “sticking” to a project that’s become an energy vampire.

    • Charlyn, this is very interesting. If you’re willing, I’d love to hear specifics on how exactly you’re pivoting this project. Could be super instructive for a lot of folks. Thanks!

      • Sure, Marie, I’d be happy to. I think it comes down to my vision for the project differing from what my customers really want. Now I’m adjusting my approach to meet them in the middle.

        Some background: The project I’m talking about is an app for people vacationing in Disney World. It started as an ambitious project, with the promise of “Find anything, anywhere” in a vacation destination twice the size of Manhattan. I took great pains to list everything in every shop, every menu and bar item, every attraction…It was a labor of love, and a stunningly ambitious undertaking.

        Customers have responded well, and lots of people use it every day. But when I look at what they’re searching for, it’s much broader. For example, they don’t care that I’ve painstakingly added 42 different kinds of margaritas, which brand tequila is used in them and exactly where to find them. They just want a margarita, and now! It’s actually counter-productive to have too many types of margaritas listed.

        On the other hand, some things ARE searched for by brand. For instance, having “charm bracelets” wasn’t enough when customers wanted to search for a apecific BRAND of charm bracelets, “Alex & Ani.”

        By listening to my customers, and giving up on my vision of having *all* the detail, updates to the app can take less time (and with a far smaller staff). I will no longer drive myself crazy trying to list every. single. thing. I’ll focus on broader categories, and only include details when it serves the customers.

        Lesson learned: Just looking at your pet project from the customer’s point of view (and letting go of your utopian vision of that project, no matter how painful) can really change your perspective. Suddenly, instead of being overwhelmed by my own expectations, I am recharged knowing I meet customer expectations without driving myself crazy.

        • Charlyn, this is brilliant. Truly brilliant. Thank you a million times over for providing such detail and sharing your pivot. What you shared here is pure gold. Please keep us posted on your progress, we are cheering you on!

          • Chris A.

            So beautifully articulated and explained, Charlyn, I appreciate you sharing this. For me, your story is a huge reminder to watch my ego and be prepared to respond to shifts and changes rather than dig in to a static dream. Awesome lesson. Good luck to you!

          • You guys have made my day! Thank you! Inspired to roll up my sleeves and make this pivot work.

        • Elizabeth H.

          Sounds like your pivot is already working! You now understand where too many choices are counterproductive (frequently are with humans!) and where the detail pays off. Sounds like a win-win as you have an easier task that should come to fruition. A great idea by the way, congrats.

        • Amy

          That’s great Charlyn! The most important reason we start doing what we do is to serve others and it makes a ton of sense to sit back, take it all in and revise to make it even better for them… bonus for you that it made life easier 🙂 I wish you the best on it!!

          I loved the 10 year test as well. It made me realize that I should make a change.

      • Charlyn I am so with you right now! End of 2014 saw me wrap up a major energy sapper and 2.5 year project that proved it was not gonna generate me a decent income for my resource investment. I decided over the course of the year too, and now my husband and I have our weekends together again which was an added-value reason for ‘quitting’…

        Freeing up that time also means I can reinvest it into my new blog and the studio I set up to work from home with my clients, with a view to writing a book and online course content. The trickiest part is holding on financially whilst making this transition, especially as we just invested in furnishings for the studio. BUT as Marie points out, this is a total heart-task and feels so right.

        Here’s to a dynamic, deeply fulfilling and abundant 2015 for all of us committed to sharing the skills we have to contribute to a better community and humanity. In love and amazement xo

        PS. If anyone would take the opportunity to read and comment on my first couple blog posts, I would be so deeply grateful. It helps to have amazing women and men who are like-minded to kick-start the positive vibe and get the feedback flowing. Plus I’d love to know if what I’m writing is of value to anyone out there!! Many thanks xo

  11. I love to be reminded about the 10 year test! THANK YOU!!

  12. Totally agree feelings are essential informants for action (or in-action! Ambiguity has its place in every creative process!) I add to the deliberation about “hard things,” typically those things beyond my control that are most challenging my resolve: Is what I’m encountering a speed bump to glide over, a hurdle to jump, or a wall to stall? This helps me recognize the resources required to move forward, and whether in addition to my gut check, I have the intellectual fortitude to continue my commitment or whether this encounter is leading me to another route.

  13. Linda Lee

    The 10-year question works, but you have to be able to visualize yourself in the gig…see yourself doing the work, and then push it out 5 years, 10 years. Ask yourself whether this thing you’re questioning is worth 5 or 10 years of your life energy after you’ve visualized yourself doing it. Have you reaped what you hoped to? Have you learned what you wanted? Have you become a better person as a result? These questions all help me to make these big decisions of whether to quit or commit. And sometimes the answer still is “I don’t know”. When this happens, ask your gut…it knows.

  14. A very nice and above all “realistic” video….! Sometimes I fall into a too deep self judgemental critic, while the “reality” is showing me a very simpler explanation. Reality check is the point for me. Thanks for underlying that!

  15. How timely this video is! I was praying this morning over a project. It is a BIG one-with time and money involved-I was considering “throwing in the towel!” I literally used those words with my husband a few hours ago! The emotions swirling in my brain around this are non-stop AND I missed an important trip and meeting around it because I was…you guessed it!…SICK! Which pushed me further into should I stay or should I go land. All I know is I need to get off the indecision bus soon!!

  16. I was faced with a commit or quit situation in the third year of my Ph.D. program. I had a mental health breakdown and was diagnosed with multiple mental illnesses, so, obviously, therapy and other treatment had to take precedence over my research. A year later, my advisor was willing to help me work past the 12 months of horrible academics and research results I’d (not) produced because he knew my health situation, but I finally realized that I needed to quit and put my life back together.

    Now, telling people that I quit my Ph.D. program to rediscover my life and career is part of both my story and my business’s story, but, back then, it felt incredibly shameful. Owning my decision has made all the difference.

    • Inspiring story Mallie, thanks so much for sharing it.

      • Thank *you,* Marie, for opening this space up for stories like my own.

    • Daniele

      Thanks for sharing your story so openly. There is great power in owning your truth. You really inspired me thanks a lot

  17. Hard Happens! Thank you for that Marie. When “hard, really really hard” happens, I look inward and start to believe it’s due to my own fallibilities or not being good enough. You just gave me my knew mantra for when HARD hits. Hard Happens…it’s not just me.

    Muah!

    Jody

  18. This was an interesting topic for me. When thinking about answering the question of whether I have ever struggled with when to commit or quit, I had a dumb founded blank stare on my face. Why, you might ask. Because I could not think of a time were I quit something…And then, then I thought “this can’t be right…I stopped and started things many of times”.

    I thought about what others have said about my journey “how I am always jumping in with both feet” and “Are you still doing …..?” and my answer being “No.” or “Not really.” So, I wondered. Why do I feel like I have not quit. It brought to what Marie mentioned and it was “reframing”. Powerful.

    I realize now that I feel that I have never quit cause my dreams are so big. My focus has always been on the bigger dream. No matter what I have done or stopped doing…I am still moving towards happiness, serving the planet, joy, changing lives, enlightenment. I realized that I am using how I want to feel as my guide, not what I have or have not done as a guide. Wow, Marie, Thank you for helping me see this today.

    On a smaller scale, in November, I said that I was going to create and put out an eCourse this March (2015). I even took a whole course on how to launch an eCourse. Come December, I said, “Girl, you are not going to deliver the quality you want by March. You have too much on your plate. Do you have to do this right now?” The answer was a resounding “NO”. As Marie mentioned, that answer created so much bandwidth in my mental and emotional state.

    This also taught me to slow down and focus on one or 2 things at any given time.

    Thanks Marie! And ladies (and gents) thanks for letting me share!

    Brandy xo

    • Thanks for sharing this Brandy. The ability to focus on high quality for a few things vs. feeling scattered on many is something so many people struggle with these days. Kudos to you for recognizing that less can often produce more!

      • Your comments, Brandie and Marie, reminded me of an image in the book, Essentialism by Greg McKeown. It’s a picture of two circles with the word “energy” in the middle. One circle has 12 short arrows pointing out from the circle in 12 different directions like sun rays. The other has one very long arrow going up in one direction.
        The point is to focus on the essential few things and make major progress rather that the non-essential many.

  19. Great tips, and spooky timing!

    I’ve been wrestling with a decision for well over 6 months about doing something similar to what Charlyn, above, mentioned: letting go of my main freelance client (and main source of income) to free up space to work on my business and begin working with clients who are a better fit for me, and to begin a creative project I have my heart set on. Just last night I had a 2 hour conversation with a friend about this, which gave me some much needed clarity around the issue.

    I could not agree more with this: “Following your own gut, even when other people think you’re crazy, is a key strength to cultivate in life.” Because while your friends can give you wonderful advice, you still have to follow your gut, and sometimes your gut tells you to do something very different from what your friends suggest. : )

    I find that journaling daily really helps me figure out what to do when I’m whipsawed by indecision. When I go back and read my journal from the last 6 months for example, I see that my body has been sending me signals for months about letting go of this client. Because every week when it’s time to give them the 20 hours per week I’ve committed to give them in our work arrangement, my stomach gets tied up in knots and I don’t sleep well. And when that 20 hours is over? I get good quality sleep, my stomach behaves, and I feel fine again.

    So, journaling — I highly recommend it. : )

    Thanks for the right message at the right time to help me get even clearer on what I need to do, and when!

  20. This came just in time. I am struggling with the decision to continue or close up shop. I just got off the phone with my mother asking her when do you know it’s time to continue or just keep going. Looks like I have a lot of thinking to do!

  21. Hello Marie,

    I am glad for you kind words and amazing videos. You are so inspiring. Women leaders are so needed and there is still just a few of them in the world. Anyway.

    I had lot of shitty moments in my life when I had been asking myself. Should I quit?

    I wanted to publish my first book (poems) and from the very start I felt something weird. I couldnt say what it was. Just a feeling in my belly that this is not a good idea. Or the right time. But I went on anyway. And it was a disaster. I ended up in a huge debt and the people I worked with stole my money and didnt do the graphics for the book. Yeah. It wasnt nice but these things can happen sometimes.

    What I want to say is that I didnt listen to my guts. I didnt believe myself enough and look what happened.

    I was quite depressed for a looooong time. I closed myself from the world and wanted to die. But then I took all the money I had left and also borrowed some from my parents and went to DWD to see Tony Robbins.

    I came back and started over. I watched all your videos and worked. I have no debts now! Yeah. And I do what I love. I write and teach. I have a great team of amazing people who want to change the world.

    I hope I will meet you one day to tell you in person how much your work means to me and how it saved me when I was really down.

    I believe in myself, I love my life and I cant even sleep because I write like crazy every evening.

    Keep up this great work and thank you. Deeply from the bottom of my heart. I am sending you my hugs from the heart of Europe (Czech Republic).

    With Love
    Michaela

    • Michaela, this comment truly touched my heart and is soo instructive for all of us. When the mind wants to push push push ahead — despite what our body/soul/gut knows to be true, we learn some pretty valuable (and expensive) lessons. I’m giving you a standing ovation for getting yourself back on track, getting out of debt (what an amazing feeling, right?!?!) and creating a life that you truly want. Curious – any specific habits or practices that helped you, especially in the early days when things felt dark or down? The reason I ask is that I’m certain folks will read this thread who find themselves in a similar place to where you were. All my love xo M

  22. Hi Marie,

    My partner and I are at that point in our business where we are asking that question. We have been open two years, but we have now no income and debts are piling up. I just forwarded him this video and I think it will help.
    I want to give it more time even though it is scary to be struggling for money. And he definitely doesn’t want to quit.
    The 10 year test is great. I do feel if I quit I’ll regret it. Riding this wave is scary though.
    So right now I’m looking for other ways to earn income outside the business so we can keep going.
    Thank you for this video!

  23. Marie! Love Love Love the brilliant and simple reminder to ask for guidance. I teach it, and sometimes I forget myself .. haha really. Perfect timing for me.
    Then I got on to your pain topic. I do have a way to get out of pain now that has proven quite effective, I even call my course Get out Of Pain Now Transformation. I loved the simplicity of the Tonglen. How quickly its effect. I experienced enough to take the time to comment and urge myself and others to make Tonglen an automatic habit. Many people deal with the pain of an angry boss, or relative. It is good to seek their greatness and speak to it, once the defense is diffused with compassion. Thank you so much for your brilliant simple fun way of life. I appreciate it.

  24. I have been struggling with learning a new piece to my business and dealing with some hard personal life issues that interfere with having enough time to really learn the new stuff. this has me thinking off and on of quitting or at least quitting the new piece. When I think of quitting my business due to time issues, I want to cry – this tells me it’s not the right direction. When I step back from the new things I’m trying to learn, I find I’m still compelled to bring it into my practice, even though I’m not so good at it yet. This also tells me I’m on the right track and to just be patient with my progress.

  25. Yowzas! The big Q that isn’t always so easy to define. Thanks for this, Marie. I hear my own voice in Julia’s and know that it is never a black and white answer. Especially when you are in the middle of it and trying to fin a sense of objectivity around it.
    Thanks for the great insight into what to consider!

  26. I have considered this concept many times. I tend to get incredibly inspired to start a project, I forge ahead and invest time and money, and then it inevitably pops up… the dreadful should I stay or should I go…. and this insight has been greatly appreciated. http://www.northerngal.ca

  27. Adrianna

    Hi Marie,

    This comes at the right time for me. I’m making a decision on whether to stay the course within my field, or break out and transfer my skills to another profession.

    Very true about asking yourself for some guidance. In this busy world, we forget to slow down and take care of ourselves.

  28. That’s not funny, I just saw your video title and I am just at that point after 18 years of trying so hard to keep it together that I am breaking in pain. Should I quit or commit. I already committed for so long why quit now? But the pain is great.

  29. Manisha Kulkarni

    Marie,
    I am so happy to have found you through YouTube. I love your personality, presentation and approach to life.
    A lot is going on in my professional life right now and all your videos are helping me in one way or another.
    Thanks!

    • Louise - Team Forleo

      Manisha,
      I’m so glad that YouTube led you our way, we’re delighted to have you here and so happy to help. We have some of my favorite episodes ever coming up in the next few months – can’t wait for you to see them.

  30. Oh Marie – You are speaking to me!
    Not sure if anyone here can top my 14 year journey…. but THIS is the year it will happen. I absolutely believe in my product, and had a VC group that believed it (and we) would make millions per year – and they would have it licensed within 6 months. That was 2006. 2006!! (there is no all caps for numbers!) Anyway, I had to step away at some point to save my sanity.

    March 2014 I was able to buy my patent back and now fully own it. I’m so glad I didn’t quit – parts of this journey have been excruciatingly painful, but huge personal movement forward. B-School has been a big part of my learning curve. And I have a rich and juicy book to write.

  31. Yes.

    This is EXACTLY what I needed today! I was literally having a conversation with my roommate last night about letting go of my blog for a bit while I work on a writing project that feels WAY more important to me right now. I’ve been expending a lot of energy trying to do it all and feeling really weighed down when, deep down, I KNOW exactly what I want to be working on. For the past few months, I’ve felt the green light to make it a reality. I like my blog, but right now doesn’t feel like the time to be blogging as much as it does to be writing this book. I need to let my heart sing and focus totally on this project.

    Thank you, Marie for this helpful, helpful post. I’m a firm believer in the concept of letting go of what weighs you down (even if it’s an idea you love) and committing to that which feeds your soul.

    Much Love,
    Giuliana

    • Giuliana

      Also, the fact that my name is Giuliana was definitely one of my signs. I’ve also been guided by several friends recently to read Seth Godin’s book, so you’ve been a serious channels for two divine answers today. <3

  32. I feel that same as the lady. I feel that I should quit but then I know that I have not put enough efforts into things to make things happen. I agree that you need to let things go sometimes to move on other things. I feel that I am trying to keep going all my projects.

  33. Jone

    I learned this lesson in high school, when I over-committed and ended up having to drop a class and some extracurriculars. I felt terrible, even worked myself into being sick – but once it was done, I felt a huge sense of relief. I could focus on getting good grades in the rest of my classes and contribute in the areas I really enjoyed. I still feel terrible when I quit, but I also know that it’s sometimes necessary and, most importantly, the world doesn’t come to an end when I do.

  34. This came at the right time for me. I’ve been struggling to start a biz that makes money for 4 years now. I know what I want to do, I just haven’t created an offering. I’ve put hours into a website and a blog, but haven’t received any MONEY because I don’t have an offering.
    I had a baby last year and have pretty much put the whole thing on hold for about 7 months now. This morning I really thought about it, do I want this biz, do I want to continue. The answer is YES. This is really important to me, in 10 years I would truly be down on myself if I quit this. So, I’m back on it and the first step is to build an offering, then redo my marketing materials to sell that offering. Rather than waste my time doing it backwards.
    Here’s to a new biz and a new me in 2015 🙂
    Thank you Marie, this is the kick in the pants I needed this morning.

    • Krystal this is awesome! Love that you have a renewed kick in the pants and are honoring your future self that wants this business! It’s hard starting a business and juggling a new baby! You rock it!

  35. Sue

    Back in 2010 I was forced (by the economy) to give up the business of my dreams. I had waited 21 years to realize that dream and had barely gotten started (opening right before the market crashed). I had to “quit” when I ran out of money. I held on probably longer than I should have, looking back, but I never WANTED to quit. I cried for 4 years. I started another business last year that is totally different and is really not going anywhere. In 10 years would I care if I quit? No. But it is getting harder and harder to give so much of myself to something like I did with my dream. I can never do that one again (money-lost it all and then some). So it’s VERY hard now to be able to objectively know how soon to quit this one, based on my other experience. Ugh!! Help Marie.

  36. Great advice! Sometimes it gets really hard but that’s when you have to ask yourself, is this really what my heart wants or what my brain wants?

  37. Kimberly Roberts

    Marie,

    Girl you sooo rock! LOVE, Love, Love your take on things!

    Being an ‘ol gal from the farm’ I definitely come from the Quitters Never Win stock so this has always been a hard lesson for me.

    A couple of years ago, I was heart and soul deep into my first entrepreneur project, and it wasn’t going as planned. I turned that Rubics cube every which way I could think of to make it work, and kept plodding along…dropping many of my own coin along the way, ugh! My boyfriend, whom I respect immensely, gave me a big “Duh!” moment, that it wasnt working, wasn’t going to work, and it was OK to walk away from it. If he hadn’t smacked me with that concept that it was OK to stop, I would have kept wasting time and money beating a dead idea. And more importantly, likely wouldn’t have moved on to bigger, and better projects! Whooo hooo!

    Thanks for sharing its OK to as those gals from Frozen say (like everywhere, right?)….”let it go!”

    Keep on keepin’ on! Thanks for being you Marie!

  38. Ana Helena

    OMG i literally have chills all over my body as I am sitting and home and just yesterday I had a sit down with my boss and let her know that I wasn’t sure this new promotion was what I wanted for my life or even if I wanted to continue in banking.
    This is like one more sign guiding me in the right direction.
    Will watch the video now…

  39. This is exactly what I needed to hear today! I’m in a dip. Thanks Marie.

  40. I was planning to give up on my business after the new year if my launch during December wasn’t successful. The launch wasn’t successful. HOWEVER, I did a ton of things I’ve never done before to promote the launch like get my article published in a popular online journal, write amazing copy for the sales page, newsletters, and build my list. I even had a bunch of people come up to me and tell me how much they enjoyed my article and how much it helped them with binge eating! The positive feelings I felt from having learned so much in the process of the launch and helping people from writing my article far out weighed the negative feelings of having done poorly on my launch.
    It made me realize that perhaps giving up on my business isn’t the best strategy, but maybe going in a new direction or offering a different product and service for my next launch is the right path.
    Your advice about looking ten years down the road really helped Marie because I would indeed be wondering how many more people I could’ve helped but didn’t because I threw in the towel way too soon. Thank you.

  41. Hi Marie!

    This couldn’t come at a more timely moment. I currently work at a high demand job, own a business and started Arbonne. I wanted to do Arbonne because I wanted the perks that came with it- the paycheck, the free goodies, and it was so much easier to promote than my own business because the marketing, product, etc was all right there! Unfortunately, instead of taking the time to hustle people into the business (which I’m not into), I decided to buy some product to SELL LATER in order to make my goals.

    A big no no. I’ve realized tht I need to say NO to this before I dig a financial hole and focus on my own thing. All good things do not come easy and I enjoy the work.

    Love hearing from you and looking forward to the new collection you will be launching!

    • hey Andrea ~ what is your “other” business?
      and yah, I agree…. buying & selling “later” is not always the best way to get ahead in that industry!
      Are you still doing Arbonne or did you “quit”?

      Love to you!! xx M

      • Andrea

        Hey Mair,

        I will be quiting or at least going at my own pace. I find there’s a lot of pressure.

        I sell natural lifestyle products, candles, bath and beauty, plus conscious commerce items- items that give back to those in need.

        Thanks for your comment!

  42. Hi Marie! I’ve been following you for months and I love all your videos, but this one really spoke to me. I finally decided to ditch my former project to launch a brand new one that I think has way more business potential.

    Even though I already made the decision, your advice is still super encouraging. I know what you mean about “receiving the signs.” I made my big decision when I got back from vacation and realized I was dreading working on my side project. I listened to that feeling and then realized I was ready to move on, but hanging on because of everything I’d invested into it. It feels so freeing to let it go and start fresh.

    Thanks for the inspiration!

  43. Hey Marie & family….
    This is fabulously aligned with what I was speaking to this week with my audience. Making the decision to commit or to re-evaluate and make a different goal. (aka, quit on the one that wasn’t so exciting). I made a goal for myself this time last year – and I really wasn’t jiving with it. My body, heart and soul wanted something totally different than what I “thought” I wanted. I made a few shifts and rocked out the stuff I truly wanted- and let go of the goal that wasn’t a fit at that time. Fast forward to today- and that exact goal is what is lighting me up NOW!! I am so committed to the end result, that I am barreling through all of the daily actions necessary- and by barreling I mean, no whining, no hesitation, no feeling of deprivation, and doing it with some serious kick-@ss love!! I had to get into some serious REALITY about what I TRULY wanted. (not just what “society wanted”) and by honoring that- I got it. So the “tips” I leave you with, are, always get real with yourself, listen to what you really desire- look at the steps necessary to achieve it and see if THEY light you up then go for it- and commit!! If you don’t like anything about the process you’re gonna resist even getting the result!! You have to commit to the daily actions that a successful person does (w.r.t. your goal). You have to BE the person (even with all of the challenges & triumphs!) who already has your goal. If you aren’t prepared for that, then commit to something else.
    A final thought- As an athlete, I hated the word quit. But when I know something is not what I want, and I don’t want to just stay in it because I said I was going to- then I look at it from another perspective- I am ready to let this go…. so I can use that energy for what I really want!!
    Commit or Let go. Language works wonders for me.
    Love & Bruises…. and Success to you!! xx Mair

  44. Haha… have struggled with this issue for probably the last five years. I’m a photographer in a small niche industry. With all the changes in photographic technology, good equipment is now far more accessible than ever before. This means that people are doing on their own what they used to call me for. The quality of what they produce may not be as good, but they’re attached to it because they created it. Fair enough.

    On the other hand, professional photographer organizations are still pushing the old business model of high-dollar sales and “educating the client” with regard to the “immense value” of what professional photographers do, and pushing large, expensive packages and railing against the do-it-yourselfers.

    I couldn’t jive with either of those things. I all but took the last year off, to the serious detriment of my business. I didn’t care. I wanted to see if it would just die alone in a corner somewhere. It didn’t. It wouldn’t. There was still a small but mighty part of me that kept feeding it and visiting with it.

    So, I decided to strip down to the barest minimum: one price (that seemed to be just above what I was getting per client before), a set number of images and amount of time, and no prints. I’ve actually just decided this within the last two weeks. We’ll see how this works, or doesn’t.

    The other part to this is that now my business will allow me to create the images I’ve been thinking about, instead of working really hard to make images for other people. This is the part that wouldn’t die, and hopefully now it will flourish.

    • Wendy

      Just an idea: have you thought of changing your focus to teaching others? If people want to do their own photography, what better way to learn than from a professional? And in a group setting (maybe that includes some outings) it could be really fun & the students could learn from each other. Just a thought.

  45. Catherine

    Hi Marie,
    I love this topic as I have been faced with this hard decision process many times. I particularly appreciate you putting in perspective the famous infamous: “Winners don’t quit”. I remember reading in one of Mike Dooley’s book a story about him finally quitting a project which opened up is life to the journey of becoming a writer…guidance, courage and self-love, these are the ingredients to not only a good decision but the best decision in all things.
    As always thank you for being you.
    Catherine

  46. What helps me and my clients the most with this topic is trying to make sure that the projects that are taking up the most of your time are in alignment with your core values. For example, my two main projects are my coaching practice, and I’m also the founder of what will be Chicago’s first inner city boarding school. At first glance those seem quite unrelated, but they actually are both in direct alignment with my most important core values. When I get a flashy new lightbulb idea moment, I often run it through my “core values test” and upon further assessment and reflection find that it’s actually not something that I should be focusing my time on, after all. Works like a charm!

    • Love this!! And would love to hear more about your boarding school!!!
      I am also a coach – and have a long term goal of opening a “leadership school” of sorts. Would love to chat xx

  47. Best advice ever is definitely to tap into that heart space…. FEEL – rather than over-analyze with the logic…. USE those DCF’s as your guide! *I love your interview with Danielle LaPorte about this. Probably additionally helpful for readers/ viewers: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ch_ny_6vu90

    If it feels expansive, energizing, exciting (even though it may feel a tad scary due to the ‘unknown’ factor) – you’re moving in the right direction for you. If it feels tight/ claustrophobic/ a pit in your stomach – probably not your best move. And yes – definitely ask for guidance! You’ll start to see all kinds of neon arrows 🙂

    Also – I like keeping in mind the fact that I can always change my mind again! At the end of the day – we all truly answer to ourselves, right?

    I had this experience last year – when I decided to let a photography business go, and place all my focus on my new venture. I didn’t want to ‘regret’ letting it go…. However, I realized that it felt very limiting and didn’t fit in line with my recently-discovered CDFs. It also didn’t mean I had to let go of the art that I so appreciate; I’m just using for my own soul-soothing purposes now, rather than for business purposes. And lastly – if I decide to take it up again one day – I can.

    However, in letting it go, I felt light, free, a huge release & relief! I realized immediately that I made the right decision. I was also tested a few times, by people inquiring if I still ‘do anything on the side’…. I wondered if it was a sign, or if I was simply seeing that I needed to be ‘sure’ in my own heart. I’d reply that I either needed to be all-in, or all-out [not somewhere in between.] I was opting for the latter – with an emphasis on the new biz venture. FREEDOM. FOCUS. CLARITY. All worth it – BOOM!
    ~D

  48. Great episode, important question 🙂
    Asking for Guidance rules!
    And also, am I doing it for the end result because I think it will bring me happiness and peace of mind, or do I really enjoy it?

    Much love,
    Sandy

  49. Jen

    Any advice about how one determines when the best time to make the “swap” from long-time corporate gig into dream business built-from-scratch? Having difficulty determining whether should stick it out longer and longer at corporate gig, save tons of $ but loss self and creativity in the process, or just make the jump now into dream building and business-making. If I follow my feelings I want to quit but that is seeming impulsive and escapist and not sensible…

  50. I think that sometimes there needs to be a third option, beyond quitting or pushing through. A re-framing, or softening. I’ve been taking bellydance classes for a few years and loving it. I’ve fantasized about being a professional dancer since I was a kid but figured that it was out of my reach without years of training or innate flexibility. Last Christmas after our recital my teacher pulled me aside to tell me that the owner of our dance studio was asking if I would be interested in dancing in restaurants. She thought I had what it took to dance professionally. This blew my mind. I had never thought this fantasy was within my reach and here was someone telling me that I could do it.

    I started taking more classes, and more challenging classes, and practising and performing more. I’m also working on building a business so I knew it would be challenging to try to fit dance in as well, but I did the 10-year test and got a resounding yes. I would absolutely regret it if I didn’t at least try.

    After 5 months of pushing myself, I found the joy was starting to go out of performing. It didn’t give me the same high it had before, I got more nervous than excited, and I beat myself up afterwards when I messed up. Whereas before dancing had been purely for fun and an absolute joy, now it was becoming a way to heap pressure on myself and was not much fun at all.

    I started to wonder if maybe I was asking too much of myself and thinking that I might need to quit and go back to dancing casually. I took a couple months off in the summer to do other activities and really missed dancing. When I started classes again this fall I went in with the mindset that I wasn’t there to be the best and I told myself that I could take all the time I needed to get to a professional level. I don’t need to push and make it happen right now. I found that softening into it and letting it take it’s own rhythm has made all the difference. I’m excited about it again and I’ve been asked to join a student performance troupe. Now I can’t wait to see where this goes. If it leads to a paycheque, great! If not, I’m still happy to put my time and energy in because the rewards are huge either way.

  51. Ann

    I love the 10 year rule. I take it a step further and do the 10-10-10 rule. For instance: Will this still be an issue in 10 hours (minutes); will it still be a problem in 10 days; and will it be still be an issue in 10 years? I usually use this when getting over a bump at work and works every time.

    • Kimberly Roberts

      What a great addition to the rule! Love it! Thanks for the share Ann! I know I can always use a good bump removal! 🙂

    • Louise - Team Forleo

      Oooh, I really like this Ann!!

  52. Kristina

    Just what I needed today! For me the problem is that one of the “legs” of income I have tried out as the breadwinning one of my freelancing feels a bit too compromising for me, and so I lose energy there. I realize I am not really thinking about quitting my freelancing, but rather find a new stream of income that can support my more arty projects. Also the Upper Limit episode was so helpful, I can totally relate! Thanks always Marie, you are a rock in my life these days! 😀 All the best, Kristina

  53. Great video and topic. I totally relate to this. I have had several moments this year that made me want to quit my dance company. So much work and so little money… it just burns me out. The fun and the enthousiasm that I had when I started 6 years ago are fading… At the same time, I do feel I am facing some big monsters here that I need to conquer anyway in this lifetime. Such as setting boundaries, having selfconfidence and to stop people pleasing. What if I use the lessons from the struggles I have had up till now and make it into a financial healthy and abundant company where I can actually grow and express myself in? I am still wondering if continuing now is the right thing, so that I can actually get the benefits from years of hard work and making mistakes, or that it has been proven by now that it ain’t gonna work…. . Will the same things that I struggle with hear anyways turn up in other things I would start? Just had a look at ‘The Dip’, the book you recommended. Defenitely gonna read it. Thanks a lot Marie!

  54. Hi, Marie,
    As always, thank you for your insight.

    Like Michaela above, deciding to quit was a lesson in learning to listen to my gut. Whenever friends and acquaintances came to my farm, they would say “oh, you should open a B&B or an agritourist inn, there’s funding available.” For many years the idea of being an innkeeper appealed to me although I’d always worked in a different sector (marketing and event planning for high-tech and publishing companies), I thought my skills would carry over. I spent over two years researching the funding, making contacts, attending seminars, downloading and studying RFP guidelines. I managed to get a small amount of funding for a related project but the B&B was always farther out of reach. A friend introduced me to a friend of his who was launching a consortium project that I could join; he promised finagling for the financing and managing the paperwork. I had an icky feeling about this person from the get go, but thought I should trust my friend. After handing over the business plan and budgets that I had written and paying an initial fee to the manager-type (which I later found out was an illegal move on his part), I spent a sleepless night worrying about the project, listening for an answer. I am not a worrier and that sinking feeling was the answer I needed. I called the next morning and withdrew my participation, and while I thought he would refund my deposit, he told me he wouldn’t charge me the additional amount for time he’d already spent!

    This was the third in a series of “listen to your gut” episodes in which the price kept getting higher. I wrote the expense off to experience and realized it was a small price to pay compared to how much the whole project would have cost. At that point, I stepped back and really thought about whether or not I wanted what I’d been after, if it had not become a case of moving forward because it was something I’d started, and I came to the conclusion the answer was “I’m ready to quit.”

    Shortly thereafter, with my time and mind freed, a book writing opportunity came my way and many others followed. Although it’s work and it’s hard at times, I feel relaxed and joyous doing it.

    And, when someone suggests opening a B&B or finding funding, I smile and say it’s not for me.

  55. Cecillie

    One of my biggest “commit or quit” moments was when I decided to change my career during a time that I was doing particularly well at my job. It was very emotional because I had invested so much time and effort into being far more ahead than other people my age, plus I loved my coworkers, pay rate and meaningful work.

    And, although I could keep up with the requirements of the job at the time, I knew that in 5-10 years, with the addition of starting a family (and that I struggled with carving out time to take care of myself anyway), I would be sinking, instead of swimming. For a while, I weighed heavily whether this was (1) just something I needed to tweak about myself/habits/time management/definition of happiness, or (2) whether I had chosen a professional route that I could be good at instead of the profession that was meant for me.

    Ultimately, I decided the latter. So, I made the decision that it was far less devastating to change careers now, than it would be in 5-10 years. It wasn’t without consequence; I still struggled with some shorter-term feelings of identity loss, insecurity and isolation around my decision, but the short-term loss was necessary for a longer-term “right fit”.

    So now, I’m embarking on my “right fit”, which so far has led to tremendous personal growth/clarity and the space to create the balance that I wanted for myself, while still incorporating the elements of what gave me such meaningful gains from my previous job into extra projects and organizations that I support. 🙂

  56. When my brother died, I spent two years quitting and committing to everything in life from friendships to my career choices. My grief made me numb to societal standards and influences, I was so happy to be alive that I no longer “gave a shit” about what other people thought of how I lived. It was, still is, the beautiful light that came out of such a horribly dark time.

    • Louise - Team Forleo

      Lauren,
      I am so sorry for your loss but how incredibly beautiful that you found light in the darkness. I know that your comment is going to help a lot of people see the good in what might be a challenging or painful situation. Thank you so much for sharing!!

  57. Don

    When we are put on earth God promissed NOTHING but he put oppertunities out there for each and every one of us in one form or another, WE have to make the choice of what we are going to do with our life. I made my choice and that was in the automobile industry and became VERY , VERY successful and all of a sudden, WA LA. Devorce and then cancer. TOTAL wipe out. BUT thankfully there is always hope Does one quit or do they put on another pair of running shoes. In this great country of ours there is ALWAYS a way if you want to continue. GOOD PEOPLE NEVER QUIT I think a person needs to look to the heavens and find a good successful person or persons to look to as a roll model andsay I CAN DO THAT and go after it. two of my favorite roll models are Marie Forleo and Amy Porterfield. Thank You Don

  58. I recently said goodbye to a business I co-founded 3+ years ago and actually had NO idea my leaving was about to happen…until, in a come-to-Jesus meeting with my business partner in which I was getting some back-up issues off my chest, I said, “I’m not saying all these things because I’m leaving. I’m not going anywhere.” And as the words were coming out of my mouth, a part of me popped up and said, “WOAH. That does not feel honest! Holy sh*t!” Once that happened, there was no going back within myself. I wrestled with it and got a lot of clarity over the coming weeks, and shortly thereafter, offered to sell my half of the company to my partner. Thankfully, she agreed, and now I’m free! It was the best of times, it was the worst of times…it was the times. And I’m grateful to my truth-ometer for popping up at just the right moment. It woke me up to my truth!

  59. Jess

    Hi Marie!!! My biggest fear for leaving my brokerage to work under a different brokerage was the “judgement of others” wondering what will I say, or what will they think? Taking a closer look at my reasons of why I’ve been pulled in this direction shows me that Change is good, change can be embraced… I need to be in an environment where I can be inspired and mentored to my fullest potential. Choosing to see the growth and becoming a role model for listening to the love instead of fear has helped me actually “Quit” and “Recommit” Feels like I’ve moved 100 miles in the right direction! Thx for this message. Bless you all 🙂

  60. Hi Marie,

    I sooooooo love your show. I listen to it during my breaks when I’m working my business. You’re my tea break!:-) This really hits home for me. I’ve been trying to get a direct marketing business off the ground here in Quebec City. I’m a Pampered Chef consultant and have been one for 6 years, this year. It’s a different market out here and there were times when I asked myself if this was going to work. I truely believe that this can work. I did what you said and asked myself right now how I’d feel if in 10 years about having given it all up…I know I would feel pretty bad. So , I’m putting my teeth into this business this year. I know there are people to reach and help thru this business. Thank you so much for you advice Marie. I can’t wait to see your new jewelry line!!!

  61. Great episode, Marie!

    I am confronted with this question all the time. Being in music and voice work, I deal with a lot of technology and every time something breaks down or doesn’t work, I question if this is what I should be doing with my life because, like you say, I figure if it is my path it should flow, right?

    But I also acknowledge that is my true passion and part of the impact I’m supposed to have on the world and I’ve now started to realize that a) it’s just technology and I’ve seen things happen in other studios, too, so I know it’s not just me and b) maybe it’s a sign that I’m just not supposed to be working on that specific thing right now. I can often take a break from a recording to come upon some fabulous lyrical ideas or the result of having to do something over again is better than the original version would have been. It’s all for the good!

  62. Nice post, Marie. About a year ago, I was faced with a difficult decision about a project. I had invested a lot of time and energy into it, and was worried about what I should do. The project no longer felt “right” to me and didn’t really seem to mesh well with my professional goals. I decided to go with my gut feeling and stopped it. I’m so very glad I did! It felt like a great weight was lifted off of my shoulders. I was able to refocus my priorities and move on to more important things, like finishing up my first eBook.

  63. Blimey! Thank you very much Marie.

    You just helped me realise 3 things I’ve been kicking myself over for ages for walking away from, I actually needed to walk away from. One of those things I’ve kicked myself about sticking with for too long, but I gave it my best shot.

    1 was a website I got involved in. The guy running it bs like most people breathe,and I stuck with it and when things started getting really hairy I walked, but I often wish I’d listened to the alarm bells earlier. I did get a lot from it though, so when it all went over the edge, I guess maybe I had less emotional investment than I might of other wise had.
    2 was djing at a students union. I really put my heart and soul into the place even though all I needed to do was turn up and play records and it paid off because I got to do warm ups for all the big acts that played at the balls etc. About 6 months before I quit, numbers were dwindling and it turned out the students were going elsewhere, and I tried to gave them a good kick up the butt and started to get things moving, and they responded by cutting my nights, so I walked.

    Which opened up for quit number 3. I went to South korea to try teaching English and even though I got a job the home sickness, and concerns for my mum who was ill, here in the UK, got way too much so I came home and looked after my mum.

    That all happened in the space of a year and even though I stopped djing, I’m still making music and currently working on my first remix.

    You’ve also got me thinking about relationships I walked away from. Again, another classic example of me choosing to ignore the alarm bells until it got really messy.

    I try my best, but hopefully now I can take stock a little earlier and not feel guilty about walking away from things.

    Thank you Marie xx

  64. Hi Marie,
    Thank you so much for this video. It was incredibly timely!
    After taking the ’10 year test’, I decided to take the leap and quit my corporate job a few months back to (1) devote more time to my young family, and (2) set-up my own coaching practice full-time (a long-time passion of mine).
    Six months down the line, taking my business off the ground while looking after my baby, in a foreign country with no help from the family, is proving harder than expected. I thought I was a master of productivity and time management, but combining motherhood with creating a business is pushing me to a whole new level!
    There are times when I think: should I just quit and get myself another corporate job? Am I wasting time with this entrepreneurial adventure, when I should be climbing the ladder instead?
    Today is one of those days, and that’s why your video came at a perfect time. Running my business venture through the ’10 year test’ again, I get the same answer from my intuition: Do it or you will regret it!
    So I guess that’s the answer: to just push through, even when it feels crazy hard.
    Thank you for the inspiration,
    Elsa xx

  65. Nilgun

    Thank you Marie, so helpful to figure out when to quit 🙂 so eye opening…

  66. I had this experience last November. After 8 years of launching a totally unknown product in Costa Rica , even though I had sold hundreds of rugs, I didn’t feel like this was going anywhere. It wasn’t so much the lack of income but the tremendous amount of energy I put out keeping myself on track day in and day out yet feeling like this wasn’t going to happen. I hadn’t reached the tipping point, would I ever?

    So I gave myself a deadline. I promised myself if I hadn’t received orders, or a contract by the end of February then although i wouldn’t stop doing the rugs altogether, i would look for a job or a new venture.

    So in order to back up this vow I went to purchase the canvas necessary to make rugs. I wanted to be ready and fully commit to my last few months.
    While I was in the factory purchasing the canvas I got a phone call form a woman who wanted to furnish her entire house with canvas rugs.
    And the orders haven’t stopped coming since.

    So maybe giving yourself a deadline, then releasing the stress of making the decision and putting everything you have on the line, can help with the decision should I quit?

  67. Darren

    Marie, I believe you’re right about following feelings. However, I’ve hit both a creative and financial slump in the direction of mine. Asking a higher power for help is something I’ve practiced for some time, but little has been forthcoming. Any suggestions?

  68. Marcela

    Oh well, just what I needed today!
    My boyfriend/business partner and I have been discussing quitting our stationery e-commerce, aired a year and a half ago. Although I like many parts of the job (creative freedom, beautiful products, social media work, stationery itself, design and costumer service) I found out I don’t really like working in retail and having a business that is highly dependent on suppliers. And I certainly don’t like having a business that forces me to stay in Brazil, were we live. Besides that, we are facing a big problem with a former supplier and we soon need to replace our hole product catalog, which means money, of course. And we don’t have it.
    So now we have a non profitable company with a lot of potential (I know it has), but no resources to continue.. I feel like it is growing, but in current scenario, the only way this business has a shot is if we have a planet alignment and all possibilities worked out, combined. I don’t think it will happen. Being rational, I don’t think it will. We are broke, tired from all the struggle and most of the time, hopeless.
    Plus, if we do give up, we would be able to move abroad again, which is our big dream. The thing is… what do I do with myself if we give up? I still want the same things that brought me to that business and I still love stationery! I am not sure it has a perfect alignment with myself and my purpose, but I am sure I want to work with something creative and beautiful.. and my business has that! On top of everything, I feel guilty, ’cause my in laws invested in our business and… although they are very supportive, I feel bad. In 10 years time, I don’t want to be in Brazil and that’s for sure. I don’t know if I want to be working with my current business, but I know I still want a flexible, creative, inspirational, colourful work. Will I be giving up on that?

  69. When you asked how will I feel about my project 10 years from now, my eyes teared up!
    YES I want to run my business 10 years from now, because this is what I was guided to do all my life!!!

    Thank you Marie!
    Vesna

  70. Thanks Marie, excellent episode. The 10 year test is pretty good. Also, I’ve tried the pros vs. cons “What is this going to cost me to continue/quit vs. what do I gain?” All good stuff.

  71. The 10 year concept is something my husband and I use pretty much daily. That is how we let go of things that are bothering us or frustrating us. It’s all about taking the 10,000 foot view right?

    Anyway, most challenges have a moment where you question it. I’d say using your gut is huge. I often imagine myself and my life when I make the change. If i am feeling completely relieved in the thought of quitting it means it is time to change course. If i feel regret then I know it’s something worth working at. It’s really all about gut to me. Sometimes it is just about taking a hiatus while something else is your priority. If you let it go it may come back to you later when the timing is right!

  72. This is so timely! Love this topic, and your fantastic tips, Marie!

    I’ve learned that what feels like quitting is actually not quitting on your overall dream. The opposite is also true: staying with something that’s not moving us forward IS quitting on our dreams. Does that make sense?

    Here’s a current example from my life:

    For over a year, publishers have had exclusive consideration of my non-fiction book proposal. This work is my heart, and I want to do everything I can to further its message — but things aren’t happening in the way I’ve been hoping for, through a traditional contract, which would bring juicy perks, such as distribution and an advance. But you know what’s juicier? Making a difference in the world through using our skills, passion and experience. (Love that you preach this, Marie! Er, preach may be the wrong word, but YKWIM.) By giving up the specifics of what I’d hoped would happen, I have the option of self-publishing or working with my agent to secure alternate an publisher.

    When we feel desperate and stubborn, quitting may be giving up foolishly. If our instincts say, “Don’t give up on your big-picture life dreams by sticking with ______,” quitting isn’t really quitting.

    PS I’ve been binge-watching your show as a sort of mindful entrepreneur boot camp. 😉 Thanks for all you do!

  73. Marie, I love the “10 year test”. Sounds simple, but I think this might be one of the best ways to get around ego. When we’re just looking at the “here & now” in a vacuum I find all I can focus on is what my ego says (“I’ll look so stupid for quitting, I lost all this money, but I went to school for this”, etc) but the 10 year test takes much of that short-term sting out of it and also puts some urgency into the decision. Makes you ask, “What the heck do I really want to be able to say I DID 10 years from now?” Love it. Thanks for another great episode.

  74. Melissa

    I am in the midst of giving up on a dream simply because I cannot get the location for a bricks/mortar shop. I’ve tried, tried, tried, tried, asked for help a million times, done everything I’m supposed to, but somehow, the location always falls through. I’m tired of “drawing back a stub” each time I reach out to said “universe” for help. I’ve been at this dream for nearly two years and getting the right location is crucial.

    When the exhaustion and burnout kicks in and it never seems to subside, it’s a huge sign that my dream just isn’t going to happen no matter what I do.

    Will I regret this in 10 years? Absolutely!! But what do you do? If the location just doesn’t happen and the harder I work the worse it gets, at some point, I have to say I’ve done m.y best and know that my dream just isn’t going to happen. As gut-wrenching as it is, I just can’t keep chasing after a dream. It’s a shame because my dream is really viable. Sad. So sad.

  75. Mary Altmann

    Happy New Year Marie!

    Thanks Love. You are amazing 🙂

  76. 10 year rule
    Nursing School ~ still don’t regret it
    Midwifery school ~ should of kept on the path.

    Good news! There is still time!
    xo
    Rowan

    • Louise - Team Forleo

      I love that, YES there is time! My mother always used to say (it’s the motto of one of the original Gaelic clans so I don’t think we can take credit), “where there is life there is hope.”

  77. Marty

    I have been in network marketing for a year and 1/2. To say I’ve become discouraged and depressed would be an understatement. All I want is something that will give back what I put into it and I’m not afraid to work hard. I’m a Vietnam vet. and I just want to be able to pay bills and get ahead just a little. To maybe take a vacation once a year. My life seems sort of worthless right now. I really do not want to end up like Robin Williams hanging of a closet in my house. There has got to be something out there somewhere. How much is one human life worth? 22 veteran’s a day commit suicide. what is wrong with that picture. sorry for the rant, Marie you encourage me to go on. Thanks. Should probably quit and try something else but what? Thanks again and have a nice day.

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Marty — thank you so much for your honesty. It means so much to know that Marie gives you encouragement and hope.

      My husband is a veteran, so issues affecting vets are incredibly close to my heart and I feel for you deeply. I know it’s not easy when you put everything into your work and don’t feel like it makes a difference. Without knowing much about your work, it sounds like the area of network marketing you’re in might not be the best fit for you — I wonder if there are other options that might work better? Something that gives back what you put in?

      Either way, please know that your life matters so much and if you need to talk to someone who can help you through difficult times, the VA has a resource here: http://www.mentalhealth.va.gov/suicide_prevention. I know they can also help veterans find jobs, if you decide in your heart that you’d like to look for other work.

      If you ever need other resources, specifically if you’d like us to guide you to other MarieTV episodes that might be helpful, you can ALWAYS reach our team at info@marieforleo.com.

      Sending you my very, very best.

    • Marcela

      You are worth it, Marty! Know that in your heart. As someone who lost someone to suicide, I think I am entitled to say: don’t give up. Your family needs you, your friends need you, the world needs you. Find that purpose, find your strength.. it lives inside you. Inside all of us.
      “At the center of your being you have the answer. You know who you are and you know what you want.”
      Be strong! I believe in you!

  78. Kate

    Good to watch Marie TV for the first time this year. Thanks, as always, for those salient points that having me nodding ah-hah.

    If there’s something I’m not sure I should continue investing time, energy or money into or not, I like to try and picture myself not doing it, not having that project in my life. I guess it’s an adaption of the 10 year approach.

    Last year I struggled with a massive dip in my goal of writing a fiction novel. I’ve planned, plotted and started writing 10 or more books over the past 15 years or so, but I’d never finished writing a single one. Was it time to let this dream go? Surely there were better ways to spend my time, then letting another year go by without having put in enough hard graft to finish writing one darn novel!

    When I pictured myself not writing, not letting those story ideas and characters percolate in my head, I was devastated. Everything in me was sure I could write a book, am meant to write a book. So what was wrong? What did I need to change in order to achieve this goal?

    I refocused. I went back to my original goal of writing a children’s adventure story. And while it’s not quite finished yet, I’m about three chapters from the end. It’s booked in with a freelance editor for February and I’m already planning the second book in the series. Drawing on my day job background in marketing, I reckon I’m in a good place to indie publish (self-publish) later this year.

    I’m so glad I didn’t quit!
    🙂

    • Do glad for you … I also write a book. It was never ending and yet I knew the day I started that it would be dobe! 2 years,6k later I self published!! It was and is one of my proudest accomplishments!

      Have fun finishing!

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Kate, that’s amazing!! I think if you’ve got the writing itch in your heart, you’ve got to follow it. Real writers can’t NOT write! 🙂

      Best of luck with your story – it sounds truly amazing!

  79. Hi,

    Funny to be seeing this today. Today is the day that I started a new contract!!!! It’s for 23 months!!!! Little waves of panic come up.

    When I left my job four months ago I Thought I could make my business work. I got further ahead and got a lot of clarity. I even have a 5 year plan. I also now that I can excite the plan. Requires lots of boundaries… And structure. But for the first time ever I have filled 3/4 coaching spots!! The bext next will be soon.

    building a business I’m continuous in the process of letting go: legging go ideas & plans that don’t quite work. I a way I quit a lot of things along the way. If i hadnt I’d still be struggling.

    I don’t see this job as a failure .. A stepping stone to help me get to next step. Without this job I’m not sure that would have put in so much structure. I’m shocked by how much a plan can actually set me free. I am a project manager so I know this … I can’t believe I resusted this long!
    Love & light !

    • Louise - Team Forleo

      Nathalie,
      I JUST read an article this weekend (99U has the most amazing emails, they always list the new stories and then have a section called “what we’re reading” that I adore). It talks about how your day job (bridge job, etc.) is actually a competitive advantage. Really cool, and inspiring, stuff.
      http://99u.com/workbook/37427/your-day-job-is-a-competitive-advantage

  80. Thanks!

    I love your show! Always great information, inspiring, and seems like you are talking directly to me.

    I have a business that I have been “working” on for a while and this was just what I needed.

    ~Diana

  81. My Dad has a saying, “Every good general knows when to retreat.”

    Just like you can’t go through you life quitting everything you do, you can’t go through your life never quitting anything.

    Great topic! Thanks Marie for pimping out my inbox every Tuesday!

    XO,
    Heather

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      Heather, I love that. Your father sounds so wise! Thank you for sharing his saying with us. I love the word “retreat” in this sense — it connotes strategy and mindfulness in decision-making!

  82. I love the 10 year test! 9 years ago I walked away from a biz that was generating 250K/yr that we built with our last $600. The stress was killing my hubby – the doctors said he’d be dead in 10 years if he kept at it. He’s worth it 🙂

  83. Marie,

    I discovered you about six weeks ago when I started thinking about ways to resurrect my consulting business after I had put it on a back shelf three years ago to become president of a $30M small business working on defense contracts. Although my true interest is really in building my consulting business, I had to stop working it as part of my agreement with the PEG (private equity group) to become president. After almost three years of intense struggle and conflict, the PEG and I decided to part ways last week. While I never want to be thought of as a quitter, it was clear that the direction I wanted to take the company was much different than its investors and therefore the time had come.

    It is also clear to me that my role in life is something much greater than being president of that business and although the goals we had set three years ago were yet to be achieved, I wasn’t really happy in this job and knew I was destined for something greater. Sometimes you just need that little nudge (or in this case a kick in the seat!) to recognize the obvious. Although only “unemployed” a week, I am energized, excited and eager (What I call the “three Es”) to move forward with my own venture. I am hoping to learn a lot from your website and others as I figure out the path to success online. Thanks for this video….I truly can relate.

    • Louise - Team Forleo

      Alan,
      I love your three Es and I’m so glad you found Marie. We’re honored and excited to have you here. It sounds like you have big adventures ahead with your new direction and we’ll be here to support you build something greater in any way we can!

  84. Marie,

    When I started my online biz I hired a marketing company to help me build a business plan and create my website. They convinced me that launching with a membership program was the way to go. Even though I had an icky feeling in my stomach the entire way through, I went ahead with it because they were the “experts.” Within 3 months of launching I “quite” the membership idea and shifted to product based model instead. Over those 3 months I was so stressed, anxious and overwhelmed both physically and mentally – trying to create these monthly products – that I knew in my gut that this was all wrong. The whole experience taught me a very valuable lesson. Listen to your gut! And listen to your intuition. 🙂

    Thank you so much Marie, for everything you do. xoxo

  85. Your timing is perfect! Since the holidays I have been struggling with the ‘quit or commit’. My business is deeply emotional work around child loss and, although I am my own ICA, I am finding out I can’t working this closely to with other people like myself (sounds strange, I know) because it prevents me from continuing to heal and move forward.
    I truly believe that I have the talents to profoundly help others in this situation, and in 10 years I would regret not using my these to serve others – but not with the biz model I’ve been using.
    So, it’s both – Time to quit doing what I’ve done and commit to finding a better way to deliver the message that keeps my own well-being in check!
    Thanks for a great message and the nudge to commit! 🙂

  86. Shoud I stay or should I go … deh neh neh, deh neh neh neh 🙂
    Wow Marie, this one really hit home for me. A quick synopsis, from the point of a “senior”:
    * Became unemployed three years ago.
    * Spent a year consuming myself with nothing but seeking employment; truly made it my job. In fact, felt like multiple jobs most of the time.
    * After a year of dismal results (age discrimination anyone?), and agonizing over how to proceed, I decided to do my own thing; with the blessings of my wife, of course.
    * Now, I started my own choc business (The Dusty Truffle), and independently broker/consult for others.
    * Not making the “big bucks”, yet, but enjoying the process of my passion.
    * Huge learning experience: if the PROCESS isn’t doing it for you, the it’s time to go (quit).

    Thanks for your insights, and this forum, and hope this tidbit is of some inspiration to others!

  87. Thank you for all the insights, Marie. Cannot express how much these mean to me. Most everything you cover, I’ve experienced in building my business. So grateful to you. 🙂 Cheers and a Happy, Prosperous New Year to you!

  88. Michelle Anita Wirta

    Such a great episode! Yes, I have dealt with this in myself and clients so many times! The key for me is to LISTEN. That’s the core juice of my brand. I believe we are always being shown the way if we take the time to tune in and pay attention, get under the noise and notice the feelings and signs.
    And THANK YOU for your funny unfolding farce! Flow happens, but perseverance and patience are usually more powerful. Sometimes the unfolding ease crap is just an avoidance tactic!

  89. This is so what I’m going through right now. Always wondering what would it look/feel like if I quit? Would my soul allow me to do it?

    Just wanted to add that in hebrew the money you “lose” is called the rabbigilt which means it’s the money you pay the rabbi to learn the lesson. My mom reminded me of that this year and although at first it’s like “GRRRRR”, after a minute, I made peace with it.

    There’s something I love about that. Just like losing your jacket at a party is something you pay to the party gods.

    Sometimes you just have to “pay” in order to learn what you are needing to learn.

    Always timely, Marie. Thanks mucho!

    XOXOXOX

  90. In the fall of 2014, I decided to quit (close) one of my two locations. What made me decide was my sanity and family. I no longer felt fulfilled with what I was getting in return and was putting those two very important aspects of my life in jeopardy. Being all over the place trying to jungle way too many things including my own personal life and finances was just way too much. After 8 years, not wanting to seem like a failure or quitter…I didn’t care anymore. I closed the 1 of the 2 locations and I couldn’t be happier. Wish I would have done it sooner.

  91. Hey Marie!

    This is really useful advice. I totally believe listening to intuition and relying on a higher power are the keys to success. Sometimes the road to success means quitting something that is not serving us so we can re-focus our energy. I bet you’ve read “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill? He provides the same sage advice.

    I’ve gotten better at listening to my intuition, but believe me there have been so many times I wanted to quit my business! So far, I have not gotten a “no” every time things are tough and I want to throw in the towel.

    I was making a huge documentary (spent 4 years filming it) and then suddenly felt too many obstacles to continue. So, I stopped. Sometimes I regret it but I really can’t justify the hardship right now. I have other priorities. I just can’t do anything without trusting intuition!

    Thanks again, Marie. I love your show!

  92. It’s good to be reminded of the 10 year question…And Lisa Robin Young had a terrific additional question (does the project fit in with other areas of ypur life).
    Looking back, most of what I’ve quit in my life weren’t soul goals. They were jobs, or like your example, a mere platform for my venture.
    My soul goals sometimes take a back seat because it’s just impossible to achieve them all. I have to focus on one at a time. I can’t be a writer, a recording artist, an online entrepreneur all at the same time … yet.

  93. Thanks for this Marie! Every time I do that “10 Year Test” I get an answer pretty quick. Great advice. 🙂

  94. Hello to all my fellow entrepreneurs,

    I find everything Marie says to be thought provoking, insightful and encouraging. But when it comes to “change” isn’t that what we’re all looking to create? Of course there’s going to be drastic change. I want to create an advanced skin care studio and an online membership store and I’m a an out of work aesthetician (economy crash)and stay at home mom! There’s a change coming. But my desire to be successful is two told. I want to prove to our depleted and depressed county economy that we can all have success. By supporting each other and not the big guys the little guy business will make a comeback. I’m dying to get through b-school and share with others the resource that is Marie tv and her school. I’m currently addicted to Tony Robbins new book. Grab it. It’s drastically changing out 401 and our savings plan. Back to topic. Is my website the right way to go? I feel like I won’t know until I launch it. After I lease all my equipment for my skin studio and I have zero clients? It’s leased, I’ll return it. But if I don’t try, lease and launch, I’ll be idle and that is much worse than failure. I already have a failed fitness business under my belt. The lessons are far greater than if I never tried. All my love and wishes for greatness to you each and everyone of you.

  95. Marie…thank you.
    I have been a silent fan for two years now, and I’ll be totally honest that I watch your episodes as much to see what fabulous outfit and hairstyle you’ll be rockin’ as much as I do for the stellar, brilliant advice.
    I am feeling compelled to comment not about the commit or quit bit, but about the “if it’s not easy, it’s not right” part. I have always thought that was a load of cr#p but never heard anyone say it. Of course if walls are springing up in all directions, then yes, throw in the towel (or let it unfold…sort of…LOL)…but as you say, sometimes, you gotta push through. Thanks for the reminder…I’m currently pushing, and grateful for the Flow that is supporting me and my business.
    As always, you balance the grounded and the ethereal with grace and humour. I freakin’ love you.
    Someday we’ll meet and I’ll make you sweat…with shimmies that is;)
    xoxo
    a

    • Louise - Team Forleo

      Alice,
      Thank you for watching for the last two years and I’m SO glad you commented now. Brilliant point to shine a light on!

  96. Janine

    Right video at the perfect time… All the s### coming at the same time, feels like climbing Everest with flip flops….

    Ah! Thank you Marie!

  97. Oh Boy, was this one timely, Marie. I’d been walking in circles every since the director of my play Our Voices Our Stories (OVOS) sent me a three (3) page letter with script changes that needed to be made for it to be a great theater piece taken seriously. I wanted to quit! But the 10 year test made it clear. What if I missed the right timing, which is now, for the piece. I believe OVOS is needed and the time is now so…I dug in my heels and made the changes and the play will still be offered March 22nd. Now that I feel confident about the material, I’m receiving my passion back about selling tickets and making it all a success!.

  98. Krystal

    Hi Marie!
    Thanks so much for this post. I have been considering giving up leading gospel choir since I took on the role of music minister at my church. After watching this video it is clear that this is not one of my “soul goals.” Not only am I a gifted soloist, but there are only two active members in our choir! I think that quitting didn’t seem like an option because I am worried about how my pastor will react. Wish me luck!

  99. For me, let tin go i.e. mini quitting is a chance for something good that I was hoping for to come along. Thats my theory anyway. The 10 year question really helped…I did try to quit for two years and felt like a ghost
    ! But changing strategy is definitely something I need to look at

  100. Ashley M

    I decided to quit school in the past 4 years, not once but twice. The first time it was because it was the wrong program and the wrong school for me. It was difficult because it was a highly acclaimed art school that “all the best go to.” It was a feat and half just being accepted into the program. I had to cut my losses after 2 years, although i’m an artist, it was not my medium and not my learning style.
    The second time quitting school was even harder. It was a program I loved and excelled in and the school was very accommodating to my learning style, but after 2 and 1/2 year into what was supposed to be an 18 month program I had to ask myself, if this the direction I want to go with in my career. Although I had less the 8 months to graduate I lost my energy and my drive. I was trying to graduate for all the wrong reasons. The reason; I felt like after 4 years of school I should have a diploma. It’s not a good enough reason to finish a program, even one I love. I decided it was time to take all the things I had learned (and i did lean a lot even without finishing) and strike out on my own!

  101. Tal

    When I was still working in my last job, I had a gut feeling that I had to get out. One day while working, a thought flashed in my mind that has never left me – when I have children, I’d want them to follow their dreams and live a life that makes them happy. But what if they turn around and ask “but mummy, why didn’t you?” That thought has haunted me since then. I don’t know where it came from, but it really made me think of the long-term big picture. I quit the following month.

    I’ve written the 10-year test question on a post note above my computer so I can always be reminded when I’m feeling stuck. How does my gut feel when I ask that question? Then I follow that with no regret.

  102. Thanks so much Marie. You are an inspiration¡¡
    One year ago I quit my 26 years old job. It was a really important decision. I was struggling because I knew my soul call but on the other hand the economical situation was no ideal but I meditate on it and asked for a signal.
    The answer came inmediately and touched my heart, my soul and my whole being.
    Now a year has passed and I feel great with my decision. Im doing BSchool and trying to create my own business. Sometimes I ask myself “is this going to work?” and I have no answer but I go back to “my momentum” and I feel safe again.

  103. Dale

    Last night my entire computer got wiped whilst I was working on a project I’ve been focussed on for five weeks. I mean COMPLETELY wiped. This article couldn’t have come at a better time. Luckily my Mac Time Machine backed up the last file I was working on but the situation forced me to reflect. This article comes at perfect timing. Luckily I’ve decided to commit despite the minor setback.

  104. While I don’t usually sit down and write Pros vs Cons I recently did this exercise to gain clarity on the signs I was receiving from my entire body and it was crystal clear. When I opened my heart and truly listened the decision was easier than ever. Opening your heart to your true passions and desires will always win in the end! Thanks Marie for your wisdom and colorful videos and of course, BSchool! BSchool was instrumental to me last year and I can’t wait to retake BSchool this year on March 9th! Thank you!!!!

  105. This was a great episode, Marie! I think we should ask that 10 year question all the time! About everything–personally and professionally. I mean, is staying in the game a real victory if we’re beat down and bloody? Even metaphorically? I think, too, we should ask if what we are doing is in alignment with our best selves and what is most important to us. If keeping something going is at the price tag of losing time with people we love–if this is something we value–we all know that time goes only one direction and we can’t get it back, ever. What some things cost us isn’t just about money.

  106. Your comment about ‘looking out for the signs’ is so true. When I was at my lowest point trying to bring my book into the world, thinking there was no point and who was I kidding that I could do this, a facebook fan popped up like a voice in the wilderness with a comment about how inspired she was by what I was doing. It was enough to get me back into action, that one comment.

  107. I try to listen really carefully to what my intuition / gut is telling me. Not to say that you should make all decisions based on your gut reaction, but I’ve found that my body sends very clear signals when I really truly want to do something or when I don’t. The trick then is listen closely, and try to read those signals.

    My first clue that I truly don’t want to do something is when I consider stopping, my breathing gets easier, my head clears, and I stand a little straighter. This is not the case if something is hard, but I still want to push through.

  108. Loved this video, thank you. I can never quit, and pray often. I leave my whole family in the UK to come to the US to help troubled teenagers through the ten therapeutic novels I’ve written. It costs me a fortune and I work to buy stamps and pay postage to donate sets of books to those who can’t afford them. When it sometimes seems insurmountable or I miss my family too much, I keep the many comments teenagers send me in the front of my mind. They say, “I’d be dead if it weren’t for your books,” and, “I went to bed with a big smile on my face because I finally understand myself.” These comments prevent me from ever quitting!
    Thanks for listening.

  109. Marie, you were my sign! I’ve been a follower of Q&A Tuesday and this was the first time I heard you talk about praying, asking and it shall be given.

    I prayed for enlightenment earlier for God to help me on a really huge goal I have ahead of me. Then, I opened up my computer, went straight to my feeds, and BAM! I got here.

  110. Juliana Correa

    OMG! I think this is my question! I think I’m this Juliana! This is so cool!!!! 😀 And I loved it! Loved Marie’s answers and advice (as always…) The 10 year advice is the best one. I get so much clarity from it. And I’m happy to say that I have recently quit a big dream I had been investing for a while (to be an actress in NYC) to follow an even bigger and more audacious dream (to be a writer/director in LA). About 3 months ago I took a road trip from NY to LA. It was one week on the road: me, my boyfriend, my dogs and the stuff we were able to fit in the car. That’s it! And I’ll tell you, I am soooooo much happier in the West coast! It was really hard to be honest about how I felt about my old dream… I had been so certain about for so long… But then, when I finally let it go, I realized that I had an even bigger desire living inside me. And now that I’ve “spent” tha old dream, I was free to tell the truth about the new one, which is actually older than the old… lol Ok, I might not be making sense anymore… Anyway! Thank you so much, Marie!!! I adore you and I tell all my friends about your awesomeness!

  111. I love your site but never comment. However, this episode is really what my mind has been battling all week. I do have a question though,
    How long do you think we should wait before we ask ourselves the question about ending the project? I’m a little over a month in since the debut, but spent 9 months building and draining my savings. I have had a positive response it seems but no purchases. I’m glad people think my work is pretty but I need to sell the things I make!!!

  112. Jill

    WOW! Thank you Marie,

    This is awesome.

    I had not heard about the 10 year test before and I am so grateful that you included it in this video.

    I quit a well paying, pretty awesome job in a first world country two years ago, retrained myself in a completely different career and industry, moved to a ‘developing country’ and proceeded to create a start-up chocolate company. There have been some challenging moments (no, lets say months) along the way and this very evening after encountering another challenge (a pretty big one) I was reassessing whether or not to continue.

    Then along come your video and the 10 Year Test – YAY!!

    When I applied it to whether or not I should continue on with my chocolate factory the answer was loud and instant.

    Would I regret not digging deep and making it work like I know I can – Hell Yes!

    Thank you soo much, thank you for helping make my decision so easy, it’s been a decision that has come up a few times that I have, until now, not been able to answer with absolute conviction.

    so its on with the chocolate dream – YAY!
    xx

  113. Great advice. Indeed, quitting can be like going from one step on the staircase UP to the next step.. instead of DOWN. Being a person who is experiencing constant changes in my life- as I follow the “signs”, I experience a lot of quitting. But each time, I succeed.. and that is what matters!

  114. A great episode, Marie! I think that knowing when to quit is something everyone struggles with — it’s something that’s resonant with my own life as I struggle to figure out the right time to quit my day job and take the entrepreneurial leap. So far the time has never been right, but I feel certain that that day is lurking around some not-so-distant corner.

    I find that when I’m not sure whether or not it’s time to quit, another strategy that helps me (if I have the luxury of time) is to simply set the project aside — a day, a week, a month. However long it takes for me to feel released from my frustration. Then I can come back to the problem with a clear head and often at that point it’s easy to figure out if it’s time to quit. If I return to the project and find myself full of new ideas and enthusiasm then it’s not time to quit. But, if I come back after a break and the project still feels like a horrible soul-sucking drag, then it’s definitely time to quit.

    The only downside to this approach is that it doesn’t yield lightning fast results the same way the “10 years from now…” technique does.

  115. WOW! I don’t know if this is one of many signs but I know in my heart what I truly can do if I stay the course. 2 months ago I quit my day job that cost me more $$ than what I made to drive there and so I went ahead and started my own business. Since then family and “friends” have been adding to my stress levels and I have not involved them in so many of my business matters.
    Go forward I recently took 2 weeks off, (no cell, some emails, no go out) to do some self-reflection on my skills and needs on where I really wanted to go. I lost those “friends” and close family members become rather ill of me to say the least. I understand tough love☺ I simply wrote out exactly what I wanted to accomplish in 2015 and why it was so important to me. When times get tough I have this self-plan to review upon.
    The video comes at a perfect time as I got a call last night that put me in a funk and while family may think they know best I rather take the rough road that is in front of me then not have regrets of letting one year go where I can see myself grow so much.
    In hearing the tips on the video I was in no doubt still seeing the light but my issues stem from $$$ and lack of support so it’s a double whammy especially when it’s from close people in your life. I am not able to support myself at this time/moment and I think it becomes a test of ones mental strength when most probably say why upset people who love you?
    I think the heart of a risk-taker is one of not ego or pride but one of love.
    I can’t do this vision alone and with networking meetings, to books being read and mentors to job applications as my new day job☺ I believe that a persons actions will produce great “things” in the near future if he/she truly wants it and see’s it clear as day.
    ty for the video. It was heard loud and clear

  116. OMG I’m totally here now. Thank you so much! Perfect timing and I’ll apply some of these strategies tonight – specifically the 10 year test AND asking for help from the Source!

  117. Thank you,

    This could have been written for me personally.

    Blessings Namaste

  118. Dear Marie,

    I wish you Happy New Year 2015 greetings. I wish you all the success in life. I am inspired by you. I decided to quit 7 times on occasions of critical failures from Employer & Human Resource and that proved that I am not representing myself as the 7 dwarfs in the book Snow White and hence I am not a Dwarf Star or Dwarf Galaxy. I am struggling in my eBook business & I want to write some more eBooks in the next year and also I want to sell my paintings in Artprice.com France.

    I wish you all the best in career.

    Regards
    Rohan Sarker

  119. Marie,
    This could not have come at a better time.
    I have been trying to make it in business for 12 years, and have had my current business for 6 years. Two days ago, I was ready to pack it in! I even started writing a blog on failing… again.
    The problem is, I still see potential in my business, as it’s unique, innovative and the future of bridal wear (so I think). I just don’t want to keep pushing at something, if it’s not going to work.
    I just don’t know what else to do to make it happen.

    Naomi

  120. Marie, I so wanna contribute to this topic. I like to say, if there’s only one great quality about me, it’s that I always know when to let go (LOL!), be it jobs, relationships, investments etc.

    Nothing is absolute in this world so never say never! Be humble enough to admit when you’ve made a mistake & flexible enough to make a 360 degree turn when things are just not working!

    We all have an internal barometer i.e. gut feeling to guide us but in case some people don’t trust them, go for the traditional way – list down the pros & cons of each option then see which one incur the least costs (physical, emotional, potential).

    It’s a struggle b/c every decision is a trade-off but we’ve gotta accept that we’ve gotta give up something to get something else. Bottom line: what are you willing to trade for?

    After all said and done, sometimes we’d still make the wrong decision after much deliberation. Accept it then move on. Do your best and then just leave the rest to the Universe. Things will work out. Don’t get stuck in analysis paralysis!

  121. Hmm, criteria I use to keep going:

    1) When I go to bed at night to I like the people around me? Are they helping me? Networked to me? Yes …then keep going.
    2) Do I have positive thoughts inspired by a future with my ideas? Why yes, I sure do.
    3) Can I overcome road blocks ahead? Who hasn’t had them and who hasn’t felt stronger overcoming them?
    4) Am I too old for this, should I just retire, or go gambling or live on an island? What alternative do I really have in life ??…lol
    5) Does ikt keep my life interesting? Hell yes ..lol
    6) Does at least one “hot chick” somewhere in the world like the idea? Yes, then that’s enough to keep inspiring me ! ..lol
    7) Do people think I’m nutts? Heck yes ! …a sure sign of success when most least expect it .,.lol

    Yours in service pf a better world,
    Vince

  122. Dave R. Otey

    I joined the TAXI.COM music business company over three years ago. My research of the company was detailed and I never regret having joined. But I reached a point where I needed to ask myself if this was the right direction and level for me at this time and for the music I want to produce. I had almost two thousand dollars invested over the three year period and the end of August deadline in 2014 to rejoin. I chose a weird method to help me decide. Based on TED speech, I asked members on the forum if someone would finance my renewal fee of two hundred dollars, because I really was strapped at the time and did not see this amount for this project worth over riding more necessary items on my priority list. The resulting comments to my request surprised me–50% positive and 50% negative. One said he would if he could but he was also strapped. I ignored the ones stating I had mental or spiritual problems to work out and just accepted the message this “Gideon’s Fleece” approach guided me to. I stopped my membership. I felt happier without the pressure of letting myself down in that area.

  123. Megan

    Congrats!!! try to enjoy the next I’m guessing 7 months…? it is different for everyone… so sometimes…. really not so enjoy able… but OMG…. congrats!!!

  124. Hi Marie,

    Excellent question to tackle on Marie TV!

    I’ve been in many situations when I’ve had to consider if I should quit or continue with more gusto. So this has been a big question for me over and over. How DO you decide which is which?

    I like your tactic to ask how you’d feel about quitting 10 years in the future. Great way to gain a broader perspective on how important the project is.

    I also like the idea of asking for help. Asking is sooo helpful in so many different scenarios – asking for information, for feedback, for help, for suggestions, for opinions.

    Thanks so much for the insights. I’ll try these two tactics next time I have to decide whether to quit or stick it out.

    Looking forward to your next episode.

    cheers, Lash

  125. Dawn D

    Love the outfit and hair on this one Marie! And, of course, as always, great content!

  126. Oh, this is a hard one, especially when you are working on your own business – everything looks important and you feel emotionally connected. Here is my example: On my blog I had two free self-help happiness products – the one that I thought would attract subscribers – 7 Stepping Stones To Happiness Email Course – and one I accidentally decided to start, just went with the flow and it happened – 66 Days To Happiness Challenge. So now I was all into developing the 7 stepping stones but I had just 4 sign ups! and nobody reading the emails…but I had over 50 sign ups for the challenge for which I hadn’t done anything (just a blog post)…It was clear which was going to bring more value to my readers and to my business, so I just dropped the 7 stepping stones. For me the decision lies there – is it and will it be creating value for me and my audience or is it just something I have decided to do?

  127. THIS has come at the most INSANE timing! A million thanks you’s Marie for A-ing this Q!

    After working for years on my life’s passion behind the scenes, I quit my day job to give myself ‘The 12 Month Chance’ of completing my project and ‘making it’.

    I’ve just hit the twelve month mark and although I have come a flipping long way, I am yet to reach my goal and make an income. This had caused total lock down – creativity ceased, passion ceased, insecurity and my old friend failure raised their ugly heads, so…

    I started to ask the very question – is it a sign from the Universe to prove how much I want this shindig or a sign to say ‘enough already’. So, Meditation became my friend. Every day for 21 days, and although answers did not come immediately, although I was still plagued with doubt, the ‘signs’ started appearing.

    This was definitely one of them!

    I know I have I done all I can creatively on this particular project (completing my children’s book) and even though I haven’t found a publisher yet – doesn’t mean I have failed. I keep going because the 10 Year Test frikkin says so!

    So sometimes it is perhaps not about quitting or committing but prioritising when it comes to the long haul – I have now prioritised my time, my passion and commitment and already, have created an income from using the same skills in a different way, whilst I continue to find my publisher and fulfil my dream.

    Gosh, sorry for going on – I have never commented on here before so used up all my comment quota in one go!

    Good luck all with your passions – we can do it!!!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much, Angharad! We’re so happy you decided to comment for the first time, and that this episode arrived at just the right time for you. We’re sending our best wishes as you follow your dream!

  128. OM PRAKASH

    Yes, Marie, I liked this video V much.
    Input is very useful.
    We do come to cross roads when we need to take decisions, whether to continue the direction or change.
    Your guidelines are very useful.
    Regards,

    Om

  129. Todays lesson reminds me of Kenny Rogers, ” you Gotta know when to fold em, know when to walk away , know when to run.” Not much into country, but music truly is universal. You gotta know when to walk away, be it a job, a relationship, a pursuit. I would ask the question in addition to Marie’s suggestions ; what’s my history? Am I constantly walking away? Am I always throwing my hands up? Has this become habitual? I think the answers to these questions will lead to a serious evaluation of ones self.

    Self-awareness, I believe always leads you to YOUR truth, and from there you can decide on if it’s right for you to redirect yourself.

    • Sarah

      I agree Danielle!

  130. It is an excellent topic ! Your TV is the show of the century !
    So many useful tips and creative thoughts that every person can learn from . Your relaxed way and open mind really inspire your audience .
    Thank you for all your efforts ! See you next time !

  131. Thank you Marie! When faced with a commit or quit, I do a check in and ask myself what will I benefit if I quit – anything really “soul tangible” (i.e. time, piece of mind etc) and how does it get me to my one year, five year or ten year ideal self? If it doesn’t connect with either of these, it’s cut like the dead weight it is.

  132. Sarah

    Hey Marie,
    I watched this video yesterday and it has made me think they I need to commit to bringing out a gift I have had since I was a kid. I love writing. So, your video has challenged me to NOT give up and to buckle down and to start reading and writing more. Thanks for offering these videos. I appreciate the inspiration!

  133. I love the term ‘soul goal’…that’s what stood out to me the most from the whole episode – it literally jumped out at me! That’s a great term for knowing – in my soul – which things I’ve committed to that are really truly ‘worth it’ to work thorough it all. I’m in the heart of a major ‘soul goal’ transition and it feels great! Even with all the challenges and unknowns, I KNOW, this time, I must keep going…

  134. Today, there is so much froth that it can be hard to hear your own inner voice! Thank you, Marie, for reminding us to shh… and listen.

  135. Maria, I really enjoy your upbeat spirit and wise words. We all get busy in our lives and spin around in circles, forgetting to stay in touch with our inner voice. I really appreciate your videos which always put me back in touch with MY inner voice. If we listen to that voice, we usually do know whether something is right for us or not. Thank you for sharing and keeping me grounded through your videos. They are truly meaningful.

  136. Love this episode! This has been an ongoing problem for me, from staying in a bad marriage too long to staying at the wrong job too long. I’m trying to learn my lesson without losing my balance and going too far the other way. Tricky stuff!
    The one thing that really helps me is a meditation envisioning my doing X in the future. If I can’t picture it, or it feels yucky or forced when I do, it gets the axe!

  137. Jasmine

    Hey Marie,

    I spend over $20,000 and several years preparing (and practicing) massage therapy. After several years, the idea of doing another massage (esp. at discounted costs) and showing up for other people just made me tired and resentful.

    It took a lot of courage and humility for me to say, “You know what? Maybe I am not ready to try to heal other people. Maybe I should focus on me right now, and get ahead using another path.” So far, so good, things are in the works. But I had to first let go of being therapist. I did love it and maybe it will work for me one day, but for now, I feel focusing on healing myself needed to happen.

    Thanks for you beautiful insights!

  138. The Dip, and numerous other books/people/blogs have shed light over the years on the value of knowing when to say when. A few years back I began representing a fabulous line of products. After a year of few clients, I decided to put my energy into other things. Great decision! Now I’m a coach and enjoy every moment.

  139. Great advice as always Marie!

    I was actually recently in a position where I had to decide if I wanted to quit or re-commit and I chose to re-commit because this is something I love doing, so why not just strive a little harder?

    Watching this has confirmed for me that I made the right decision and I’d like to say thank you for that!

  140. I am supposed to be going to bed, it’s 1:30 AM EST. But when I saw the topic of today’s Q&A my heart leaped for joy! So, thank you to the young lady that sent the Q to Marie – Thank You! And of course thank you Marie for knowing your audience!

    Everything I initially decide to start I end up scrapping because I come up with the millionth reason why “I shouldn’t”, “Can’t” or “won’t”. I can see the future of everything I start. But how will I feel if ten years down the road It’s not part of my life? That widened my eyes and made me feel like I was walking into a room glowing with light – at 1:30 am mind you!

    However a new question arose after considering the “Hard Happens” topic – which, I’m just now getting that joke, as I type, when all the guys responded! We talked about pushing through obstacles but what about when you are the obstacle? What if we have no problem dodging bullets from the outside or leaping over the hurdles shoved in our path? We can envision the future but that’s all we do – we never get started. Does that mean we don’t love our idea, our creation or even ourselves enough to give it a voice therefore should we quit it? Shouldn’t an idea worth pursuing be something that naturally motivates us even enough to disregard the demon on our shoulder?

    It’s now 2:11 am. It took me so long to write this I did start to think about even deleting this email. But I hope my question makes sense to anyone that can spare an answer if not Marie.

    Thanks!

  141. In think if you quit something you really care about you will know soon enough that you’ve made a mistake. If you feel relief once you’ve made the decision to quit then it’s the right decision. If all you feel is regret and sadness, then perhaps you should dig deep and pull through for a while longer. As a romance writer with a full time day job Ive often thought of giving up writing. I’d have more time for my family, and feel less guilt that I’m not writing etc etc. except when I made the decision to quit i felt so unhappy that within a month Id penned a short story. I realised I couldn’t quit. Not now and possibly not ever.

  142. Hi Marie,
    I was in a stay or leavedecision, and I chose to leave. I now have a BSB and chose to start a clothing selling business well as I had a job. I in turn got sick and was on a two year medical leave and my husband died last year. The I am in the process of searching for a job and work on my business at the same time. Looking for a job is not as quick and easy as I had planned or hoped. I am stuck can you offer some advise, please.

  143. Please reply to the help.

  144. WOW. This is one of my Favorite Videos Marie! Just Loved it. It helped and supported me soo much. And I love that you mention that it can get hard sometimes and that it is normal 😉 It’s really nice to hear!

  145. Sylvia Paramo

    My daughter sent me your blog in response to a posting I put on F/B that said, “There’s a difference between quitting. And knowing when you’ve had enough”. We exchange inspirational blogs all the time & for the longest time I’ve been watching them & saying to myself, “Oooh, I should SAVE this one for later, when I’m ready to (fill in the blank here). Today was different because I’m in the “knowing when I’ve had enough” stage. And I’m ready now. What a difference a day makes. You probably do what you do, because you want to inspire others. But in case you ever wonder if you’re making a difference, you are.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Sylvia, this is absolutely wonderful. We’re so happy your daughter sent along our blog to you and that it it showed up at just the right time for you. Thank you for your lovely note!

  146. Melissa

    I think also I have found for myself that if it is stresssing you out, draining you and making you loose your sanity then maybe it’s better to go a different direction.

  147. Akisha

    Thank you so much for this video Marie! It has helped me so much!

  148. lynn

    Hi
    Marie
    I could totally resonate with this episode. I started a business about six months ago, I picked up an idea which was most profitable instead of most exciting to me. I don’t hate my current business but I cannot feel the deep emotion in it. I have been modifying the product because I have the feeling of ” I know something better than others, so I need to share with others to help them solve their problems “but at the same time, I am constantly distracted by my passion. I just got a research opportunity on my passion which I really want to do but I worry this might distract me from my current business. Have you or anyone here had similar experiences before? how did you deal with this situation? a profitable business you feel responsible to solve others’ problems vs a passion you will regret if you are not doing; would that be possible for me to start theses two together?

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Lynn,
      These are such great questions and I’m sure you’re absolutely not alone. Having passion for something is wonderful, and it’s great news that you have a research opportunity in that field – however, I know that can be really tricky when you also have other things you’re committed to.

      A couple episodes popped up in my mind while reading your comment, and I thought you might like to see these for a few ideas:

      For being a multipassionate entrepreneur:
      http://marieforleo.com/2011/08/combine-passions-or-choose-one/

      For more on the “ten year test” and strategies for deciding what you want:
      http://www.marieforleo.com/2014/02/go-for-dreams/
      http://www.marieforleo.com/2012/09/figuring-out-what-i-want/

      I hope those help, and we’re sending best wishes for joy and success no matter what you choose!

      • Lynn

        Hi
        Caroline
        Thank you so much for your reply. This helped me a lot !!
        I choosed to focus on my current business. I watched the episode about desire, it talked about what we are thriving for is the ” feeling”. I tested my sharing more value with my current clients. felt the excitement again ..
        and one client told me, they couldnt find better solution than my business.. this gave me soo much motivation to keep doing it.. and I came up with an idea of incooperating my behaviour change and spiritual stuff in my current business .. being a Zen-like teacher .. 🙂

  149. Jasmin Aleman

    Dear Marie,
    What do I use to help me decide whether I should commit or quit? A little bit of logic and A L O T of intuition. Intuition, is a god given gift that all of us posses. Some people more than others. Often time before our minds have conceived what’s before us our bodies have already felt it. Of course, we can’t rely on feelings alone. That’s why I use a little bit of logic to help me work through those feelings and to help me decide whether those feelings are true or not and whether I should seriously be paying attention to them or not. When it comes to matters of love, the more mistakes I make the more I believe I should have listened to that small still voice (intuition) that told me some thing was off sista.

  150. This is such a relevant topic, one I have struggled with in life and in business so many times.
    I wrote a little blog about it after pondering the Kenny Rogers classic “The Gambler” – you know the one… “You gotta know when to hold em, know when to fold em, know when to walk away, know when to run”
    I think each of those seasons has it’s place, we just need to know which season we are in.

  151. Awesome! Thanks for sharing yet more wonderful ideas.

  152. This was a great Q&A. This topic was something I struggled with for years. But once I started gaining clarity, I realized that my health, mental & emotional status were not worth sacrificing. Of course there is a certain amount of frustration that comes when you’re pushing yourself. But you should see good fruits come out of those moments. And I asked myself one of the questions you said we should, which is, “Would I regret this 5 or 10 years from now?” Depending on the answer, I knew whether to move on or not.

  153. Steph

    My personal favorite frame was “Pay the freedom fee”. I’ve kept myself involved in many projects and endeavors that weren’t serving me because, well, I sunk money into them, and I need to get my money’s worth! (Don’t I?) Ever since I got willing to let the money go, quitting what isn’t right for me has gotten much easier.

  154. Wow, this was exactly what I needed to hear. Running a therapy practice can be super hard sometimes, and I sometimes catch myself comparing myself to colleagues who just say “it was so easy! The right things came to me because I was aligned with my purpose.” Maybe that was true for them, but I needed this great reminder that that whole concept is a total myth!

  155. I don’t think there is any entrepreneur in the world who never contemplated the possibility of quitting. I don’t think there is a human out there who never contemplated quitting from a … something.

    Of course, I did too.

    And I went to see what would happened if I quit. And the answer that always came was bringing back the reason why I started the business, the path in life, the project in the first place.

    If quitting would give me a bad sensation in the pit of my stomach, I knew that I have to continue. If finding an alternative way was feeling relaxing, I went for it.

    I realize that I am saying the same thing Marie said, but with other words.

    Oh, well 🙂

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      I really like this, Llyane. I think sometimes if we “try” to quit something that is truly meaningful for us, the universe won’t let us give up! 🙂

    • lynn

      I guess that is why I am still in this game . feeling tortured sometimes .. but the responsibility keeps me moving forward .. at the same time I am working on my dream.. giving it four hours a day otherwise I will spend more time on pondering and feeling depressed .. 🙁

  156. There is a quote ” if you are tired starting, don’t give up ” but if you consider what really inspire you then decide keep going or change to other things.

  157. Enjoyed hearing your perspective on Quitting. Sometimes the process and journey tells us and guides us along the way. Sometimes the pain or fear of what we don’t know or expect as a result of quitting is the very reason we should. Sometimes it is for the best and sometimes it is a mistake. One thing is certain, you will definitely learn either way. Those that leverage that knowledge to guide them on their path will find success a little easier next time.

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Such great points, Drew!

      • Laurie Seron

        Thanks Drew. That was helpful.

  158. Teneisha Robinson

    Marie,

    You are correct. Sometimes you have to “feel” the decision. Applying logic is not always the right answer. The ten year rule was a huge help to me when deciding to move forward with my business education series. It was a huge internal conflict for me because I wanted so desperately to work in my degree field (social services). I was invited to become part of the John Maxwell team. The ten year rule helped me decide to move forward with that training this year.

  159. OMG! this episode – so powerful! I have been struggling with a decision for a year – quit or stay. I’ve been engaged in a project and it was my decision to enroll, and because i am a person who always ends when I commit to do sth (probably my subconscious believe was ‘only losers quit’) am still doing it even if it feels like – its not for me, its not what i am here to do. This episode helped:) I am still struggling but the new approach “winners can quit too” is something to think about more!!!! thx Marie!!!

  160. Aishwarya

    Hi your videos are so inspiring ..I liked .
    my problem is I’m unable to talk with people especially with boys . my age is 19 and I did my schooling in girls school ..?I will start talking with them . but they will give response for what I have been asked.they won’t elongate the conversation .and why ? They will talk with others normally .but when it comes to me I wil feel uncomfortable and also they .so please help me with ur advice. how to overcome this??

  161. Laurie Seron

    This is exactly what I needed to hear. The ten year test is brilliant! I am 56 and have had a successful business for the past 16 years. The last two years things have started shifting and I’m just not feelin it! So….. Would I want to be doing this in 10 years? Hummmm…..I will be 66! Hell no!!
    I have been struggling with the ” I don’t want to be a quitter” scenario. But Marie this sums it all right up for me. Thank you!

  162. Misato

    Thank you so much for wonderful videos. I appreciate what you are doing and I have been so much inspired by you! I love all your messages and really help me move forward even if it is hard. I just started coaching business. I feel fear because I am not a type of being leader and leading something, however I am sure that I can do it and I am sure I will regret 10 years later If I quit it now. I feel so uncomfortable now buy I believe it means break through for me!!

    Thank you so much!
    and Thank you so for all the inspiring comments.

    Misato

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      I totally hear you, Misato. It’s great to hear that you’re listening to that voice inside that’s telling you that you’ll regret it if you quit. Sometimes feeling uncomfortable means we’re really pushing ourselves and that’s a wonderful thing.

      Thank you so much for tuning in!

  163. Misato

    Thank you so much for your replay, Caroline!
    Such a Wonderful team Forleo:)

    I appreciate it and believe I am doing wonderful thing.
    Thank you very much for inspiring words.

    Than you all.
    Misato

  164. Amanda

    I’m only half way through the comments so I apologize if someone else has posted about this. I’m wondering if anyone has been in the situation to down size or close their business after having a baby? I have a 5 month old and I’m not working nearly as much as I used to. I have two part time girls who do most of the hands on work (online clothing biz) but I’m losing money each month and racking up debt to keep it running. If I let the employees go, gave up my office and moved my business to my home I might be able to sustain in better or at least generate a small income. I’d have to store inventory in my garage and work around the baby’s schedule but by downsizing I’d stop “the bleeding”. I’d consider closing up shop all together but I have debt I need to pay for the business. I had no idea how much work I was doing for the business until I had the baby. I was naive to think my two employees to keep it running without me. So if anyone has experience with a small business and a baby I’d love to hear from them!

  165. Very good tools. Thank you.

  166. Juliana

    This was just crazy. I had this exact question and look at my name!! I swear it wasn’t me a while back asking the same question on Marie.tv. I knew Marie was going to have an answer, and here it is!!

  167. Jo

    Love the idea of the 10 years test. I always enjoy your videos, I’m always smiling after watching them no matter what the content was.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      We’re so glad you enjoyed this episode, Jo! I hope the 10-year test is helpful for you as you take the next steps toward your dreams. Thanks for tuning in!

  168. Thanks, Marie! You always have a way buoying up my spirit with your insights and positivities…….yes, i always thought quitting a dream business a few years back was the right thing for me to do when it wasn’t getting anywhere. Looking back, i did gain a ton of lessons there and its for my growth and greater self-awareness. I am not closing in on that dream and one day, with more adequate preparation, funds and opportunitiy, it will come back into being once again in a much better way.

  169. I’m not much of a quitter, definitely one more to push through…but there have been some groups I’ve been involved in where I had to decide, do I hitch my wagon or drive away?? What helped me was looking at the group leader’s vision. Does it align with my goals and vision? Does it suit my gifts and my energy? Is it going somewhere I want to go? When the answers were mostly no, I got out. And now every one of those groups has dissolved and I’m so glad I walked away when I did.

    • Hailey - Team Forleo

      Thanks so much for sharing, Tabitha! Nice work being proactive and asking yourself the tough questions. It can be tricky, especially as creatives, to discern between resistance and intuition but I’m so glad that you found some peace and clarity in your decisions. Thanks for stopping by this week!

  170. Melie Breton

    Hi Marie,

    I know this video was published a while ago but I am in that exact situation right now… to try and make this short, I bought a business with animals (birds) where I rescue birds and have people visit during the summer to help pay for everything. But the owners who sold it to me were not good people and gave me the hardest time of my life, leaving me drained and completely exhausted after 6 months of batteling to get the business… I paied too much and for something that has just been trouble so far… (2 years now) so much that my passion for birds is now deminishing because of all the stress it’s causing me…
    I have given everything I had and more and now I have nothing left even just for myself. I find myself wondering if I should quit this whole thing or stick to it a little while longer and finally get the best of this place. The thing is that I work with beings that are alive and not just products. It’s not easy to give up either so I would have to be sure. I tried the 10 years strategy but I don’t know how I would feel. What if in a year or two most problems were solved and the place would run smoothly? Would I be glad I didn’t quit and is it just the stress of today’s problems that make me want to give up or is it really just a pit where my energy and mental health goes to die?

    If you have any advice I would really appreciate it and I love all of your videos! Thank you so much.

  171. well done website.

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