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(singing). Hey there, it’s Marie Forleo, and you’re watching Marie TV. Yes, the place to be to create a business and a life that you love. And this is Q&A Tuesday, that means we get Q’s and we have A’s. And today’s question comes from Ms. Lori and she writes, “Marie, you’re awesome and I love your work.” Thank you so much. “I’m clear on my goals and take daily action towards my dreams, so motivation and productivity are not an issue. However,” and this is a big, however, “I’m bothered by this constant uncomfortable feeling gnawing at me, reminding me that right now I’m not where I want to be. I know it’s important to stay in the present, there’s probably no there so to speak, but I have a hard time not being annoyed and dissatisfied with the present when it does not match my overall vision for my life.”
Thanks Lori. Lori, fantastic question. I really love your nod to the fact that there’s no there, so to speak. Very wise and very true. I also really relate to your struggle because when I was first starting my business, I spent years bartending and waiting tables and doing personal assistant work, and finding myself totally frustrated that I wasn’t where I wanted to be yet. So I remember back in those days just feeling completely deflated. And you know what? That repetitive thought pattern was actually what was holding me back. I didn’t realize it, but I was training myself to be both miserable and mediocre. But then everything changed once I realized what a huge mistake I was making with that ants in my pants attitude. Here’s why, it’s because of this tweetable.
Showing up fully exactly where you are is the fastest way to get where you want to go. Here’s the reality check that hit me like a ton of bricks, all of the joy and excitement and fun that we want in life, never comes from external circumstances. It always comes from the energy and the attention and the consciousness that we bring into each and every moment. So Lori, I talked about this a lot, and if you really want to solve this problem, I need you to go read page 10 in my book, Make Every Man Want You. It’s all about making, is-ness your business. So what does that mean? Making is-ness your business means that you show up in each moment and you do this moment like you friggin’ mean it. That means you bring your A-game, that means you bring your full enthusiasm, your attention, your love to whatever you’re doing, wherever you are, and whoever you’re with.
Why? Because all pain and frustration and annoyance in our life comes from resisting the moment, it comes from saying this moment isn’t how it should be. But guess what? The moment all ready is, so you only have two choices in life, you can either resist it and be fricking miserable or you can engage with the moment and have a damn good time. In fact, make it an engagement party. You guys, I’m engaged with the moment.
Oh, that’s impressive.
That’s right, you got to love the moment, put a ring on it. Because the truth is, you can feel fully alive in any situation or you can feel like total crap in any situation. It’s not the circumstances, it’s actually what you bring to them. Once I really got this, I was so much happier, I was performing in my jobs better, and ironically, everything that I wanted to create in my future started happening a lot faster. So that was my A to your Q, Lori, I really hope it helps.
So now I’d love to hear from you, a little two-parter for us today. So where in your life can making, is-ness your business really support you? And number two got any great stories to share about where you’ve really honored where you are and where you want to be? As always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at marieforleo.com, so why don’t you come on over and leave a comment now. Did you like this video? If so, subscribe to our channel, and it would be amazing if you shared this with all of your friends. I’d be so grateful. And if you want even more awesome resources to create a business and a life that you love, plus some personal insights from me that I only get to talk about in email, come on over to marieforleo.com, and make sure you sign up for email updates.
Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on Marie TV. B-School is coming up, want in? For more info and free training, go to joinbschool.com. Boom shakalakalaka, boom shakalakalaka. We’re all good in the hood. They’re so puffy. Cut. That’s a wrap. That’s a wrap.