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A few days ago I was heading to dinner with a friend in Soho and we walked past a restaurant called Lure. I said, “I used to work there.”

He said, “You worked there? Really — not that long ago?”

Yup. That wasn’t the only place.

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At that particular time, I had three other gigs — outside of my online business — that helped me keep it all together.

One of the biggest obstacles that holds many people back from starting their own business is the fear of not being able to make enough money.

I completely understand that because it was my fear too. That’s why I chose to put my ego to the side, hustle my ass off, and leverage the power of bridge jobs along the way.

If that money fear has ever held you, or someone you know back — watch this episode of MarieTV pronto. While it may not be the right move for you, it may be perfect for someone you know.

Don’t know about you, but I learn best by hearing how other folks tackle issues. So in today’s comments, I’d love to hear from you.

Have you had a bridge job while building your business?

If so, what’s the best thing about it for YOU?

Conversely, if you’ve built your business another way, tell us about your journey.

There are many, many paths to success and it’s vital we all find the path that works best for us.

And, if you haven’t made the leap yet — tell us the one specific insight you’re taking away from today’s episode that will support you on your journey.

Thank you, as always, for being so wise, specific, fun, generous, and kind in the comments.

xox

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  1. Boundaries. They are SO important… for the work we do, the dreams we have, and the people in our lives. Ultimately, the shame comes because of some sort of judgement of “less than” that we put on ourselves – or perceive that others are putting on us.

    The shame thing is huge. I’ve had clients who were ashamed of having to “go back to work” – and I’m looking at that option myself right now. I want to grow something healthy, and it’s easy to get wrapped up in the trap of the “success illusion” – where we LOOK successful but we’re struggling like crazy. It’s so much easier to have the cushion of a bridge job – so long as we stay clear on our goals boundaries… else our bridge job becomes the job that sucks all our time away from growing our business.

    • Hi Lisa! I just watched this amazing TED talk about vulnerability yesterday! http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
      It’s by Brené Brown, the author of Daring Greatly where she explains shame! It’s helping me a lot! Hope you like it too!

      • You should check out the last two Lifeclass on the OWN network. She was talking about it there too! Love her and that is one of my fave TED talks. Thanks for sharing, Galina!

      • Yes Galina! One of the best speakers on shame and vulnerability!

      • Galina, I LOVE me some Brene. I read her book the Gifts of Imperfection and it rattled my soul in a deep way. Good stuff!

        • it’s so awesome she is so famous and helping us 🙂

      • Thanks for sharing! Must check this out today 🙂

      • I am so glad I subscribed to this list! Always something inspiring here. To the topic at hand, It’s so important to define oneself outside of societal molds. There’s nothing to be ashamed of if you are working towards your goals! I was lucky that I didn’t need a BJ, I had a little bit of cash saved away, but I did other things like sell all sorts on eBay, just to keep the cash flow going. That also helped with practising customer service. By the way, That TED talk is spot on!

      • Thanks for that link Galina.

      • Thank you so much for this video link!! Really appreciate it. Great Ted talk!!

      • Thanks for sharing http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
        Just watched the video. Isn’t it amazing how truth just feels right intuitively; I had few aha moments watching it 🙂

    • I feel you sister!!

      When I was in training to become a life coach I actually chose NOT to have an official bridge job because I am one of those people who works better with a fire under my ass. It was much easier for me to ask for $$ for my services when I needed to survive. I was, however, still acting which was my passion before I found my purpose and a few gigs here and there helped me stay afloat. Before I became “the coaches coach”, I served creative artist’s, so every time I did an acting gig I tried to pick up a new coaching client.

      My clients, who are life coaches in training, struggle with this and I have implemented lots of support in the Mentor Masterclass life coach training program to help them decide if a bridge job is necessary while they are learning the techniques to become a life coach and building their online coaching business.

      I’m a yes for only doing work that fulfills you. I do see how a good bridge job can do the trick.

      One thing I set my clients up with is connections to some of my friends who are currently rocking their wellness business and in need of good assistants or VA’s (and I have many who are still looking so please contact me if you want to assist a coach). This is a GREAT job for aspiring coaches because they get to learn the back end of running a coaching business AND they get paid.

      The more you can visualize your desired life and the clearer you are about your life purpose, the easier it is to come up with bridge jobs that can strategically support you and make survival possible while you are building your purpose driven career.

      LOVE THIS VIDEO MARIE! Always on point.

      Jey

      • Alanna

        Hi Jey,

        Great post! I am currently getting my life coach certification and am interested in assisting a coach who is currently rocking his/her business! What’s the best way to contact you? Thank you for being so generous with your connections 🙂

        With love,

        Alanna

        • Alexis

          Jey, loved reading your insights. I have been interested in personal assisting/assisting a life coach and love your suggestion of that as a bridge job. I personally don’t want to be a life coach but know I have the skills and passion to assist one. Was wondering where someone like me can find life coaches in need of an assistant! Thanks so much!

      • Mickela

        Thanks to this video I can finally put words to why I am SO READY to go back to work (at a BJ) while I build my new business. Just closed shop on a successful one. Long story. The shame thing is huge – I am so appreciative of this content and the forum! Jey – I am a Registered Dietitian building a health and wellness business. I’d be interested in assisting a coach. What is the best way to contact you? Many thanks!

      • Hi Jey!
        You’re so cool! I’m a Physician Associate and I’m getting away from traditional Western medicine to start my own wellness practice. I would love to assist a wellness/health coach who is thriving in this world. Thank you for offering this to us! How do I contact you?

        Erica

      • Hello Jeannine,
        I am very interested in this position.
        Thank you,
        Sarvasmarana

      • Yes!

        I currently do work as a VA while I’m taking your masterclass Jey! Building my business around life coaching & working for a life coach is incredibly beneficial. It’s amazing to see the back end of how successful coaches run their practice.

        I would say get a bridge job that you absolutely love that supports you while you build your business on the side.

        Marie, I totally agree, bridge jobs do ROCK!

      • Jey,

        I’d love to get more info on coaching assistance as I’m currently building my health coach practice 🙂

        In Health & Love
        Portia Joyce

      • Joanne

        hi Jey

        I’m interested in learning more about how you became and lifecoach and acted and made good income. I definitely want to head in a similar direction like yourself.

      • Nuria

        Hi Jey,

        I am a coach in training and would love to work for another coach as a VA. It would be really great if you could contact me with further information about this opportunity!! Thanks,

        Nuria

      • Jay Griggs

        Hello Jey,
        I loved what you had to say and I’m very interested in a VA position. Please let me know how to reach out to you.
        All the best,
        Jay

    • Lisa, I think that’s such a huge point. Thanks for bringing it up. I notice the shame that comes up for me when I’m introducing myself as a coach, but then also feeling like I need to explain that I also work somewhere else when really I don’t. It’s this weird feeling of having to “out myself” as an entrepreneur who hasn’t “made it” yet.

      Anyone else feel this way?

      • It’s a practice thing, Demetria. As we start to embrace our value and STOP equating our value to what we do in the world, the easier it is to just stand in our value as a human being and what we bring to the table by just sharing our gifts and being ourselves.

        One of the things that helped me was to NOT say “I’m a coach” and instead say “I’ve started a coaching practice.” That took the pressure of “BEING”” off – and allowed people to empathize with the start-up nature of my entrepreneurial activities. 🙂

        • Lisa,
          I want to frame this response and look at it daily! So true! The shame comes in b/c we’re equating what we do with how much value we have as a person/human being. “Standing in our value as a human being”!! yes!!! Thank you. I had a lightbulb moment. 🙂

    • I’ve had a bj and not had a bj. When I had a Bridge Job in real estate I still showed the clients how to get rid of judgment and live a more loving life, they became long lasting relationships and have joined me at http://www.ILoveYouAsIs.com to continue the journey.

    • Lisa, you touch on such an important point here. I’ve found that I was OK with my job… as long as I kept my eyes on the prize. My focus was my business, and I knew that the job was only there for the financial security it provides (and to keep me sane and not worrying about whether I can pay rent or not). It’s a temporary thing, and that’s what keeps me going. Before I made this boundary clear to myself, I was coming home every night exhausted and despairing over the fact that “I would be there forever”. It’s all in your mindset!

      • Right on, Laura. It’s the focus that’s important. It can be really easy to get lured away from your biz goal when you get wrapped up in the drama of doing the day job…. AND i’d like to point out that it’s also completely okay to fall in love with the day job and decide it’s more in alignment than the original biz dream. Some people feel equally guilty about loving their job more than being an entrepreneur. It’s all about judgement, yo! 🙂

    • Aline

      Marie, thanks!

    • Good point Lisa about the boundaries. I had a great job that couldn’t be a bridge job. It was all consuming. I think it’s important to figure out what kinds of jobs lead to developing biz skills while allowing time/energy to keeping working on your own stuff on the side.

      I’m working on my biz 100% right now and don’t love the pressure of limited $ coming in. The great part though is the time to learn and try all sorts of different things.

      • Definitely, Marcy.

        It’s nice to have a six-figure paying job, but it almost always comes along with a huge time commitment that doesn’t lend itself well to a side hustle. On the other hand, working for minimum wage may offer a lot of schedule flexibility, but not enough income to pay the bills.

        So yes, striking a balance can be challenging, and its good to have clear expectations going into it.

      • Diana

        Marcy, I’ve totally been in the same boat before, where my “day job” was so all-consuming that I had no creative, emotional, or mental energy left at the end of the day to do what I actually wanted. So I went part-time, and– nope, it still wasn’t working, especially since I had to put even more energy into learning everything that went into this new part-time role. But THEN, I had an epiphany and realized that instead of doing 5 hours, 4 days a week (and therefore still having to spend time most days in the “BJ” state of mind), I would condense all my BJ hours into two and a half days during the week, and the rest of the time I could really focus on building my dream. That simple shift has given me WAY more energy.

        And honestly, I also felt guilty for a long time, because I felt like I “had” to give my BJ a certain amount of energy, or else it would mean I’m being a half-ass. Glad to report I’ve gotten rid of like 75% of the guilt now

        P.S. Only Marie can make “BJ” sound so professional… amiright? 😉

    • Great points, Lisa. Sometimes, I feel impostor shame…that I’m not living up to the ideal of where I want to be. It’s that little voice that occasionally questions my significance or authority. The voice that says if I were the “real thing,” I wouldn’t be doing such-and-such on the side. Intellectually, I know better. But this is the struggle of humanity – to continually remember your Divinity/greatness.

    • Thanks for such great advice. It’s so true that having Bridge jobs can feel almost like you’re going backwards in your career in some ways. However, I always find that I learn and grow in so many unexpected ways in the process. Keeping my goals constantly visible ( and some food in the refrigerator 😉 ) ultimately leads to the words I’ve happily said soooo many times with gratitude and tears, “My dream is now my reality! 🙂 “

  2. It’s one of the best tips that I got from you, Marie! It has helped me to like my not that likable job ))) I’m so grateful that it allows me to work on creating the life I love and invest in my business and education!
    I love that I can relate to you! Thank you 🙂

    • I also love that I can relate to you Marie. In fact, not only is my bridge job supporting me financially, but it is also teaching me discipline and the true art of persevering through tasks that aren’t the most inspiring in the world. I know that even in my own business, my TO DO list won’t always include things that inspire and invigorate me, so I consider the training from my bridge job as valuable to success as any other!

  3. I definitely struggle with this feeling and I still have a FT job! This feeling makes me feel like I won’t be able to ever leave here.

    Today’s Q&A has helped me put a different perspective on things. I have this “all or nothing” thing going on. Either my business is thriving or I am a complete failure. A bit dramatic, I know, but there is no middle of the road and that isn’t healthy. My business can be doing so-so, but that is not a reason to think that it’s a failure and start panicking.

    A side hustle to my hustle can keep things a float and do wonders for my feeling out of control or unstable. Thanks for this as always, Marie. (You can borrow that, “Side hustle to my hustle” line as long as I get credit. :p)

    • I agree completely Ms. Pillowz. I’ve been having a lot trouble being grateful for my current “bridge job” but this video has completely reframed things for me!! Thanks Marie 🙂

      • I totally understand. Being grateful for the BJ can be a tough order sometimes, but to make it easier think about all of the things that the BJ allows you to do like invest into your hustle to afford paperclips and highlighters and it allows you to keep your hair and makeup looking fab, because it is! lol That’s usually what helps me when ish starts getting real in here and I’m ready to snap.

    • It is just about how you look at it. If you think of your BJ like something that you dread that you’ll never get to leave, you may in fact manifest that for yourself. But if you see it as a way to build a solid foundation and to make space to do what you really want to do, you’ll be more likely to transition out in the future! Tough to do but it’s all about mindset!

      • Wow… that was perfect. Thank you for this reminder, Heidi!!!

    • I can totally relate, Ms. Pillowz! I see my business very black and white (complete success or complete failure) and I think it is a total mind f*ck that keeps me from being confident and fearless in growing my biz. I know better, but catch myself thinking in ridiculous ultimatum terms…

      • Exactly. We’ll get it together thanks to videos like this and supportive and helpful comments from everyone on this page! 🙂

        • Yes! And it is also just nice to hear other people say they think or do the same thing. Makes it all seem easier to overcome.

  4. Such an amazing video Marie! I love that you said that BJ’s aren’t something to be ashamed of and hearing that you had so many makes me (and I’m sure everyone in this community) feel normal and not alone. I’ve had so many bridge jobs whilst building my business. I teach, have published multiple books, write several newsletters and run an online business- it ain’t easy but it is necessary… for now. Also, I love being a bootstrapper because it gives me 100% ownership of my business(es) and it allows me to grow at a slow and steady pace.

    • That’s amazing, Vicky 🙂 Especially since you sell a physical product! You should be extremely proud of yourself. Keep striving, lady!

      • Thank you so much Mariah! Love your site btw 😀

  5. This is so time appropriate! I would slowly die if I had to get another job doing the same thing that I have had for the last 6 years! I need to learn so much more. I completely agree with what all the points you said, especially “getting more done” when I am doing everything else plus some. Now with a little help from the Universe, I’ll find the perfect BJ (haha). xo Ritu

  6. Ugh…I was so desperate to quit my BJ and get on with my business. Except my business was still unfolding and revealing itself to me (and SO not paying the bills.)

    I’ve really had to grow personally over the last few months since launching my business. I had to find the good in the bridge job (physical therapist) and turn my attitude around 180 degrees. Since doing that, I’ve noticed a 180 degree turn around in my patients, too, and we’re all the better for that! Also, I’ve really had to stop comparing my business growth and trajectory to that of others and to stop forcing things that don’t speak to the business I’m discovering and the value that I hope to offer my ideal clients.

    YAY!

    • I hear you, Deane! Also, it’s so hard not to push yourself when you hear so many success stories of people making ridiculous amounts of money in just 6 month in business…That brings us to another episode of MarieTV about overnight success stories.

      Wish you all the best 🙂

    • Me too. I’ve actually been on my BJ for quite sometime…some people would call it a career and about 1 year into launching my business I became very disenchanted with the BJ even though they are a key component to financing my business. I’m only just beginning to get my attitude back in check. It’s a fair exchange of services – I do my best while I’m there…they pay me to do my best…I finance my business and position myself to execute my exit plan.

      • Priscilla

        Karlotta,

        I am with you 150%. I found my purpose in career and life coaching after 13 years empty years of working in corporate America. Today I understand that my current position as a mortgage debt collector was God sent because I hit rock bottom with my feelings and it forced me to seek my true purpose. At the moment I too choose to focus on the fact that this FTJ is just an even exchange of services and that the money I am making with this not-so-positive job is going back into the world for GOOD as I invest in building my coaching business. Good Luck 🙂

    • Virna

      I am all about a “BJ” or two or three. lol I am an event planner with a focus on fundraising…as luck would have it I’m having an event at a temp “BJ” I had last year…and the “BJ” is giving a great donation. Win win…BJs rock!

    • I can relate. I feel like I will never be able to quit the hospital based system I work for and have the time to devote to my very slow growing business as a physical therapist and wellness consultant. I have signed up for B school and am so looking forward to it. I struggle with fear, doubt, anxiety, overwhelm, and then just plain being tired. Deane, would love to make contact with you. I think we are in the same boat. Marie, thank you for this forum. You are amazing!

  7. I find that having another income stream that’s unrelated to your dream can help take the pressure off building the dream job. I secretly want to make running my food blog- cooking, photographing, writing my primary source of income one day, but I’m a long way off, so to keep things going, I still operate my client-facing branding business. And it takes away the stress of having to build my food blog quickly, which would make it less of a dream, and more of a slog. Great episode Marie.
    (And fantastic dress by the way)

  8. I am such a big fan of Bridge Jobs and I call it “Hustling”. I am a hustler by nature. My bridge jobs went from being a Task Rabbit, Survey taker, Personal Trainer and Fitness Instructor. The lessons from having bridge jobs and hustling is HUMILITY. I am not ashamed of doing something honorable and legal to get paid. I don’t care about the job because the money is as green as the money the president gets paid. I learned to be patient, how not to treat people, to chose my battles and when to walk away even when the money is good.

  9. I have a bridge job in marketing. I am always so embarrassed reaching out to potential clients and networking with colleagues because I’m afraid the won;t think I’m serious about my business. Like Vicky O. I feel normal and not alone by this video. And maybe unlike some of my colleagues, I’m saving hand over fist for the day I walk away from my BJ 🙂 My BJ also happened to pay for B-school (the best investment of my life!)

    While I’m still not comfortable shouting from the rooftops that I’m in a full time career-track job, I won’t let worrying about it take up so much space in my heart and head 🙂

    As always, thanks Marie, and the Marie Forleo Community!!!

  10. Danielle

    Wow, Marie, amazing video as always and very timely for me! I really love the concept of a bridge job- sometimes though, I think I get in my own way with it i.e. I feel “guilty” for pursuing something outside of my bridge job, even though I have excellent work ethic and always give 100% to my work whether it’s my business or employer. How can I get over this guilt Marie? I also don’t know how to handle this with an employer (or prospective employer), do you let them know or do you keep the biz to yourself… help please!

    • Ms. M

      Hi Danielle,

      There’s no need to let your current or prospective employer know about your business. As long as you are giving them 100% during the hours they are hiring you to work that’s all that matters. Also let go of the guilt, many people today have a side business or job of some sort. I have a full-time job, I freelance doing makeup and hair for weddings and I’m building my business. I use my time wisely and live stress free.

      • Danielle

        Thanks Ms. M, you are absolutely right!

  11. Sara

    My bridge job is still my career of the past 13 years…and that’s not working very well for me. Too much stress and responsibility — in fact, I just got a promotion! So now I’m working with my hubby to lower our living expenses, get out of our underwater condo and get set up financially so that we can survive on less income. That’s a full-time job in itself. 🙂 But I believe we can do it!

  12. Hi Marie – thanks for the talk about bridge jobs. Wow — yes yes yes we don’t have to take it as an embarrassment about what we do in that bridge job. Instead it can be so enriching. Knowledge is power!!!! I am a note taker for the hearing impaired for colleges and I monitor.and get educated at the same time on a part-time basis. It’s fun, keeps me youthful and engaged and up to date on what’s happening in the world of teaching. To the great work you do Marie to motivate the entrepreneur spirit in us — Brilliant! Cat!

  13. Mirella

    Thanks Marie! For sharing your story and making us feel good about our BJ’s!

    I was in B-school this past March and still working slow and steadily on my business. I work 25-30 hours a week as a lunch chef and I love it! First of all, the steady income helps me not to stress out while I get my business up and running. It’s also very nice to be amongst people because I know I might just start to feel alone and depressed all day at home and not get anything done. But another great reason is, because my business is food-related, I get to experiment with recipes and it doesn’t even cost me a dime! ;-). So for sure some good reasons to keep the job for now.

    Much Love, Mirella

    • Lindsay

      Mirella, this is so helpful to hear! I’m in a similar spot but I’m currently doing marketing consulting as my BJ and it’s not steady enough/too stressful. My business is also food-related, although I don’t have any culinary training, so I’d love to chat with you about ideas and see if there are ways to collaborate!

      Thanks to everyone for sharing their stories!
      Lindsay

  14. This is sooo nice to hear – I had a bridge job for a couple of years working in a shop, and it was so useful to me. I did really feel like a failure though for doing it, even though it was super helpful. I’m totally focussed now on making my business work and it’s thanks to a lot of the stuff that I learned in my bj!!!

    thank you!

  15. Great topic! I think BJs are important…LOL but I would encourage entrepreneurs to not get distracted by them. Have your exit strategy in place. Work towards quitting the BJ so you can focus our your real business.

    Wow, hard to keep it clean on this topic!
    Much love,
    Stephanie

    • Great point, Stephanie! It is indeed really easy to get distracted by the full-time day job. An exit strategy is a must! I’m still working full-time and moonlighting my personal training business, but I had to put a self-imposed deadline on myself to commit to start transitioning from the day job. It has really changed my focus about my business and I’m even more determined to make it work!

    • So true Stephanie. Know that line that when you reach it, you’re out (if that’s what you want). I love the idea of an exit strategy otherwise you will feel like you’re hustling and working and hustling and working, endlessly.

      For myself, my BJ turned into something a little more permanent but I was able to transition to very part-time. It provides me with a whole different sense of security so I can focus entirely on what I love!

      • That’s exactly why I quit my bj – I realised I wasn’t giving my nutrition work the focus it required to get it to grow, and since I left my bj, loads of really cool developments have miraculously happened!

  16. Have been a graphic / web designer FOR-E-VER and am really sick of it. Since some health challenges for my family, my passion is now health and wellness. However, my freelance rate is $75/hr versus waitressing or doing a minimum wage gig until my business picks up. It seems responsible to keep doing the better paying old website job, but because it’s deadline oriented, really interrupts what I’ve planned to get done during the day, clients can be a pain, etc. I just want to break free from it. Advice?

    • Tammy….I feel your pain! I’d love to leave my BJ as a physical therapist, but no other job would pay me as much, so I had to figure out how to make it work. My solution was to cut my expenses and go part-time. I work every other weekend for 3 10-hour days with 11 days off in between.

      Can you brainstorm your way to any other options besides $75/hour job you hate vs $10/hour unrelated gig? Can you screen your clients better? Take on fewer clients? Limit yourself to a certain number of hours a day? Get that $10/hour gig in the health/wellness industry and LEARN, LEARN, LEARN?

      Last week I went on a podcast binge, and here’s one from Derek Halpern that speaks to your question. http://socialtriggers.com/decisive-dan-heath/

      Best of luck to you!

  17. This came at the perfect time – I was literally just writing some checks to invest in my growing business…and the money came from my bridge job. I’m very appreciative my bridge job because it’s still in the field I’m launching my business in, so it’s great experience and the chance to build connections.

    • And that’s when BJs are really valuable, Lauren! Glad you’re getting such great experience and the chance to build connections.

  18. Before I started my business I decided to start a Freedom Fund. For me, that was a savings account with one year worth of expenses. I felt so drained of energy and enthusiasm at the end of the work day, there was no way that I could start my business on the side. I knew that I would have to commit to it full time. But I was scared. That savings account was my speedstick for the soul! It’s been a year and a half since I said good-bye to my full-time job, and somehow I’m not on the streets yet! I still keep the bj option open to myself, but the desire to stay out of a cubicle motivates me a lot!

    • Delilah

      Fayloa!!!

      I love that idea! A “Freedom Fund” is something I will be starting as soon as I find a BJ!

      • Delilah

        Fayola*** I’m sorry about that. 🙂

    • Priscilla

      Fayola! I too am doing the same. The first step I took was slowly eliminating any debt I could so that I only have my basic things to save for. It feels GREAT to know I have something to fall back on and not ruin my credit in the process. A plan is necessary 🙂

    • Fayola,
      I love the idea of “Freedom Fund”. I too have been doing that for quite some time: building my savings so that I can my speedstick to my soul. My plan is to work part-time next year – don’t know how that’s going to happen yet, but I have faith it will. That way I can focus on my building my business.
      Thanks for sharing!

    • I love love the idea of a Freedom Fund, Fayola! Thanks for the inspiration! Definitely putting that into action!

  19. I’ve had many bridge jobs – and I really think they are important too. I didn’t love what I was doing, but I started to view it as an assignment, that I was meant to interact with the people that came in, and it really helped me get through what could have been some unpleasant times.
    I slowly weaned off from additional income, which took time, and I was terrified to do so, and I did regret it for a bit. But I think business is all about stepping back and re-assessing when something isn’t working and making adjustments.

  20. Hi Marie! Its funny how the universe and the power of the divine shows up with answers when we ask. I was having this exact conversation with a friend yesterday over lunch. My girlfriend asked me “What’s your plan B?”, I looked at her and said “I have none. I think after being in Iraq I unlearned to have plan B’s. Life is too short.” She looked at me and said “I can’t say I understand but even I have a plan B.” We left the conversation there.

    The conversation stuck with me, I even spoke to my boyfriend about it. When I did some soul searching, I realized I equated having a BJ (bridge-job) with showcasing failure. Today’s episode was refreshing to know more of your story than I heard you tell it before. Thank you for sharing it, it was the message I needed to hear and give myself permission.

    Stay Warm!

  21. Glad to see you talking about this more Marie. I think new entrepreneurs worry too much about damaging their credibility if they’re not “all in” with their business. I run a really successful coaching business and up until recently I did web design as a side business that not only allowed me stable income, but it allowed me to be really selective about the coaching clients I took on (thus, avoiding the “but I need the money” excuse even when I knew the person wasn’t a match). It was genius! It allowed my primary business to explode because I was helping my Right People and they’ve become a small army of free marketing for me, referring a constant stream of new clients. Many of them never even knew that I did web design on the side, and those that did, didn’t care at all. No brand dilution issues whatsoever. So to anyone who’s worried about it, DON’T WORRY. You need to make money. Period. Just make sure that regardless of your bridge job, you’re rocking (and over-delivering) your Great Work as well.

    • Heather,
      Thank you for your comment – I’m just experimenting with the same thing (I’m a digital marketing consultant in my bridge job while building my business as a singer-songwriter) and I too am finding that my digital clients are genuinely interested in my music – they’re usually really supportive and curious (and some are coming to my single launch later this year as a result!), and also they are referring contacts and new ‘clients’ my way! I love the fact that you said your bridge job ‘was genius!’ – one of the things I have been doing is digital marketing consultation for musicians so that is expanding my network as well…pretty great!

      And as you say…at the end of the day, as long as you’re rocking (over-delivering) on your Great Work as well, having the bridge job to help tide you into the transition is NOT something to stress about! Thank you!

    • Monica

      Heather – How did you market yourself as a web designer without diluting your brand as a coach?

  22. Great video….I have no shame in having a bridge job and I am getting SO much out of it. I know that I am just “perfecting my craft” as a health coach. I love my real business and I love my bridge job – so there! LOL. I definitely have some CGH and I am not afraid to use it! Like Steven Pressfeild says…. “do the work”. Right on.

  23. Marie, you don’t even know how perfect the timing of this video is for me. I’ve been thinking about getting a B.J. (lol) for a while, so this really made me feel like it’s time. I don’t know how you’re in my brain, but thank you!

  24. I have two jobs on the side! I am a part-time theatre instructor and professional performer as well. Its great because my schedule is flexible. I have to say though, I’m ready to make Glowing Oasis Pilates my entire income! Just keep chugging along!

  25. I call my Bridge Job our Primary Investors. They invest in our company on a consistent basis so that we can build our dream business. It actually saves time and money that would have been spent on convincing “potential investors” to front money for our dreams. A BJ is a very predictable agreement – in exchange for my time and doing your work you give me money. BOOM!

    Having a BJ helps to take the pressure off and allows us to expand our business and take bigger risks financially. If things don’t work out with a project; we know we won’t end up on the streets – our primary investors are very consistent – which is very reassuring.

  26. Bartender, magazine editor, brand consultant… each of these jobs were small-but-essential steps along the way to building a career as a successful creative professional and artist. Any one of them could be considered a “real” job (I’m still working in two of the areas), but for me they’re bridges to give me the safety net I need to move on comfortably.

    I have to say, bartending has been the most unlikely boost to my profession. It gives me a chance to interact socially with a huge network of people, creating a really powerful opportunity-loop.

    Luv ya!

  27. This is an AWESOME topic!

    Although I’m not doing it anymore, I used to work as a cocktail waitress and it was the BEST jobs I ever had. (And I’d had “real” jobs before then, like economic consultant.) I met SO many people–customers, who were complete strangers!–who ended up becoming friends and helping me move forward in a big way in life.

    I also learned what NOT to do when being an employer. More than what TO do, in fact!

    Great video as always, Marie! Also, love the new backdrop you’ve been sporting these past few weeks. 🙂

  28. Marie! Marie!

    I just did a video very similar to your video titled: Is it okay to have a side hustle? http://ow.ly/pBOJO

    You know the saying great minds think a like?!?!?!? What are the FREEggin chances? This just makes me so happy!!!

    I am happy because I realize that there is more than enough room for EVERYONEs perspective. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Marie I am so glad I found you.

  29. I’ve always thought getting a bridge job would be embarrassing and because of this, ironically, I’m embarrassed to say that I’ve never actually had a real paying job before and I’ve just turned 22. :/ I tell myself that I’m still at uni and I should be focusing on that, but deep down I know I should be getting another job on the side, because quite frankly being a student and starting a business are neither easy nor cheap. I’m also a bootstrapper so I never ask for money, I want to do things my own way, and I think that’s another reason why I never really got a job because I want to be in control… I think my mission for this week/month is to get myself a small job on the side, maybe a campus one because I am so ready to go on to the next level of my life! Thank you Marie for being an awesome mentor! <3 x

  30. Wonderful topic and very timely. I consider my bridge job my investor. I am grateful to have! It allows me to build my business at the pace I want and not feel “desperate” for money. It also motivates me when I am having a crappy work day and fuels the fires to be successful and be my own boss.

    It’s truly that I feel incredibly productive when I am at my job. It forces me to structure my day/time etc!! I managed to do an industry trade show around my vacation days. Business phone gals during lunch or after work for west coast people. Also I get up early and do business emails before work as well as after! Yes my investor is contributing to my future business success and am very grateful for that!

  31. I think the best thing about your Q&A Tuesdays are that, they always seem to be relevant to me ALL THE DAMN TIME!

    I’m currently looking for another part time job, or a BJ as you’ve now coined it, and wanted to quit my other one. But perhaps I’ll juggle more.

    The point is, it’s OK and acceptable to have multiple jobs but the main thing is, it’s FANTASTIC to know your dream career and actually chase it. I think I’m realising in my own way that jobs are there for a reason, and you can’t manipulate time or money to get to the place you want. You do have to be patient, build it carefully and enjoy the process through out.

    Thanks for the highlight and to everyone else who shares this common thought pattern.

    Happy Tuesdays everyone!

    Jeanie

  32. Anja

    Thank you Marie! I found your website and videos this summer and they have already inspired me soooo much. I almost tear up every time cause it seems your words are exactly what I need to hear 🙂

    Idd I have felt embarrassed at times about my bridge job, but you just helped me realize I should let that belief go right now! Thank you.

    I’m a musician and the best thing I’ve learned from my bridge job is that there’s more to me than music. It’s nice to get out of your regular circle of people (in my case often musicians) and talk to very different people with different interests. It broadens your perspective. It has made me realize I am valued not only for my ‘music’ but as a person in general. My musical identity doesn’t define my worth. This may sound obvious but at those moments I really notice that 🙂

    • Hi Anja,
      I saw this comment earlier at work and had to come online later at home and reply.

      I’m a musician too and have had exactly the same thoughts about my bridge job – when in reality it is actually very complimentary to my music and can help me reach the people I should be serving through a multiple number of ways! I’m a digital marketing consultant and not only does that provide me income, but I’m also learning all the flippin’ time, in fact it’s my JOB to stay up to date with digital trends – very important for us musicians these days!

      I also think it’s really, really important for us musicians to realise that we are worthy, unique, valuable human beings regardless of what music we make or how (to the outside world) ‘successful’ we are. In fact that’s something all human beings need to remember – again, that might sound obvious but it is sometimes, unfortunately, easy to forget.

      Thank you, Anja, for your comment – and please reply here with any links of your music, should you wish!

      Hazel x

  33. I have a bridge job and I am grateful for it. I can pretty much arrange how many hours I would like to work. That gives me time to work on my own online business without the pressure of having to pay the bills. Too much pressure can hinder progress and lead to procrastination.

    I do look forward to when I can be totally self sufficient, doing what I love but until then, thank you real world job 🙂

  34. Totally needed this today. I’m currently back in retail while I build my business–a retail and brand consulting firm–and boy am I struggling. Instead of seeing it as a bridge job I’ve been complaining and fighting it because I kinda don’t like it or my boss, but your advice to look at it as a learning opportunity really helped me shift my perspective. Every bad boss, nutty coworker and inefficient/ineffective policy is giving me tons of to dos/never dos for clients and my own business. It’s all about how you look at it. xo

  35. LOL….thanks for that Marie. I have definately experienced the short comings of going full time on a start up business before and needless to say … yikes! This definately puts things into perspective by not expecting (and stressing over) an overnight success of your business. Love all you videos…they inspired me to give business another try( im smarter now, with your street smarts). This is my third try at starting a business ..lol and im gonna take your advice all the way to the bank. Going to school, saving on rent by living at home and little side gigs is the way to go.

    You are awesome!!!

    Hope

  36. Very timely indeed. I have been working on my own business for the past couple of years, while also working nearly full time, writing my first book and being a momma. So, even though I really like my job-job, I gave notice this week so I can begin to devote 100% of my time to my own biz. I’m a bit risk adverse, so here are the things I’ve ALREADY done to prepare:

    1. I took b-school!
    2. I’ve hired a web designer and paid for it! (found her on b-school)
    3. I’ve saved a couple months salary, and still have until Jan 1 to save more cause that’s my end date.
    4. I’ve started making money already with my biz.
    5. I’m using the skills from my current job- I’ve already counseled hundreds of folks here, so confident in my skills.
    5. I’ve written my first book, comes out in June 2014

    BUT, I’m not comfortable with winging it around money- So, I’ve decided that after the first few months on my own, if I haven’t got enough to more than pay the bills, I will happily get a bridge job- BUT there are requirements-

    1. It has to pay at least what I was making with my last job.
    2. It has to do with something I’m working on now- so blogging, writing for magazines, teaching online courses, home decor, personal styling… I won’t be doing stuff that doesn’t get me closer to my new career goals (like teaching Spanish, I don’t want to do that!)

    I’m very excited! Will let you know how it goes 🙂

    • Hi Desha,
      I like your plan. I’m going to take B-School next March. How did you find your experience with B-School?
      Thanks for sharing.
      Vanessa

    • This is so helpful, thanks for sharing what you’ve done!

  37. Hi Marie, the above website is my bridge biz. Am planning MY BIG IDEA which I know to have huge potential. I’d like to hear from you about how to go the investor route. What’s the process? How do you find investors? What kind of investment plans are there? How do I protect myself? I’m a B School 2013 grad, livin and lovin it! You rock! xo

  38. I took off the summer to write and promote my writing. I got the extra pounds you spoke of (PB&J and sweet potato fries were my go to!). I also went through a lot of my savings with not much written work to show for it. I started a BJ in September feeling the embarrassment/shame of “failing” this summer. Thank you for this post to help remind me I’m on the path…AND that I got a whole lot of writing done at the jobs where I was most busy!

  39. Hi Marie,

    Wow!!

    I needed to see this video, sooo timely.

    Currently working in direct sales while building a naturopathy business, bridging with her mimic direct sales, vague connection with health, and bridging a steady one day a week sales job for another naturopath.

    Lately wondering if it is all too much, and whether I am splitting my endeavours and energy too much. Yes this aspect does need managing, however

    Your six points fit my situation exactly. And yes I am meeting awesome people as possible clients and as fellow practitioners, and so supportive they have all been. Very grateful for the expertise these awesome s have injected into me and my businesses including the direct sales colleagues and managers. Yes I am busy, and getting a lot done. And yes I need to manage that busyness to make sure that I fulfil obligations, as well as develop my own business into viability and sustainable income in its own right.

  40. Such an awesome video. very important topic. Also have a Bridge Job and love it. I teach english online and it connects me to being in my power/wisdom and continuously brings income so i can structure my dream work without rush and with complete total devotion and love and commitment. Plus i can manage my teaching schedule so can take any time off i want – its amazing. Thank you for the Video. Keep your wisdom coming! <3

  41. This is perfect timing for me! A couple weeks ago I quit my full-time job to do a coding bootcamp and also work to create health/coaching personal training business. After the 8-week bootcamp, I am wondering how I will sustain myself while growing my health coaching and personal training without going back to a full-time sales job. While doing the bootcamp, I am planning to rent my place on Airbnb on weekends (at least) and hopefully cover a good portion of the rent. I am also considering being an Uber driver since I live in the city (Atlanta). I have begun thinking about what part-time jobs I could do to generate income to cover my expenses. I’d like to still utilize the many years of new business development so I am open to biz dev consulting/contract work. Ideas?

    • Stacey

      Hi Marie! Love all that you do, what if your BJ is a career? I’m looking to create my dream job while I’m working my career with benefits and a pension. I’m a teacher. I want to continue to teach but not to HS kids and not my current subject matter(Spanish) health and wellness is my curriculum of choice. I get scared bc people think I’m CRAZY wanting leave the “security” of the benefits and pension. I hold back I think bc of it. Any advice? Thanks!

  42. Awesome video! This was so timely for me, thanks! I’m in a position where I want to expand my business, fitness/yoga/nutrition, I work independently, but I was also working at a gym to supplement so that I could have some security to grow on my own. I had plans to work on my own business simotsnously, but it didn’t work out because that ‘bj’ was so draining emotionally and energy from management. Luckily I learned how not to treat people, which is a not an ideal situation, but immensely valuable for growing a business. Now…..even though I thought my waitressing years were long past, I will most likely get a ‘bj’ waitressing to have less financial stress and more freedom to focus to help other while building my business. Thank you for your support! 🙂

  43. Hi Marie and other business ladies! A message from Belgium here.
    I’ve been working on my retreat business for one year during a sabbatical break.
    And no… I did not put on weight, but my bank account definitely got lighter.
    As I still did not make any money, I decided to go and work for a business that is related to mine. I will learn how they do things, meet my future clients and partners and spice that bank account again.
    I believe by taking this BJ, that I’m actually giving my business a chance!
    Oh dear paradox.
    Thanks for posting this one: makes me feel supported in my decision and long term vision.
    Ladies: I wish you all the best with your business and life!
    Greetings,
    Evi

  44. Thanks for the video, Marie! Sometimes I think family and friends think I am so scattered because of how I piece together those good BJ’s. I love how Marie emphasised good BJ’s because bad ones just suck the life out of you.

    Because I’m an at home mom, a good BJ for me is one I can do from home. I teach for an online university part-time and do project management from time to time to make sure enough money is flowing in to pay my bills while steady legs grow under my business. I honestly didn’t want to do it this way, and sometime I pout about the distraction of the BJ, but I do find the Speed Stick really helps when I’m out networking.

    Thanks for the positive spin on the BJ, Marie!

  45. Love the part about not feeling like a failure just because your business isn’t fully supporting you yet! Thanks for sharing some of these insights and transparency into your own history of BJs 🙂

  46. I’ve got to hand it to your, Marie – you’ve got some of the best email subject lines – had to click right away! (Cracking up at CGH too) 😉

    Very great advice. It can take a while to build your passion business. In the meantime, you have to pay the bills, right? This is something I talk to my clients about all the time when they want to chase their dreams.

    I run a successful technology company, but in recent years, I’ve been pulled in the direction of writing and coaching & teaching others. One is my bread-n-butter & the other is my true passion. I can’t just quit my tech company & go write & coach all day … not yet anyway. 😉 I am currently in the process of making my dreams come true. It takes time, persistence, & patience. (Not to mention self-sacrifice & a super-efficient way to work and get it all done). But, it will happen! We all have the ability to manifest all of our desires.

    Thanks so much for sharing your innate wisdom, Marie.
    xoxo

  47. This was my favourite line: There are so many paths to success and it’s vital that you find the one that works for you. You can spend more time worry about what to do than actually doing anything. I’ve always had BJ’s in restaurants and when I know it’s just a short stint to keep me going then I can enjoy it and be grateful I have it. Thanks for sharing Marie!

  48. Yet another amazing topic and vid from you, Ms. Forleo! In June 2012 I hatched my idea for how I would bring my passion to the world in the form of a business. I was working for a wind-down company at the time so I wasn’t uber stressed at work, which was nice.

    My job ended in Oct. 2012 but I had saved enough to last me a year to a year and a half, which would enable me to focus full time on my business.

    I feel like I’ve been busier as a self-employed person than when I worked! And while I have created a lot and grown my online audience, I’m not generating revenue from my work. That’s what I have to fix or it’s off to a “bridge-job” for me!

    I’ve been thinking about your BSchool…maybe I should check it out!

  49. SO MANY business owners have a side job, especially during the start-up phases (and some even during the “not-so-great” phases too), and can I just stand up here and salute them all please!

    I’ve never had a bridge job in my time at business (I’m a sink-or-swim gal), but so many entrepreneurial friends of mine either had a job on the side or were building their businesses while working their way out of full-time employment. Word to the wise: It is HARD. You’ve just got to get up, get on it and be extra-super mindful of your time. You will have to constantly ask yourself, “What am I doing here on Facebook? Is this helping me?” or “Do I really need to go out tonight?”.

    I’m not suggesting that you don’t have to have a social life or ignore your friends, but be prepared to hear things like, “Oh, I can’t believe you’re not coming out tonight! That’s so boring to sit in and write that proposal!”, learn to listen to yourself.

    For those who can stomach it, it gives you such an amazing amount of time management experience as well as all the other points Marie mentioned for yourself and your business. Props to all of you who are out there doing it!

  50. I really love this topic because I think it’s really challenging for a lot of people because they don’t take their “bridge job” seriously, but it serves a very specific purpose! These are great tips! The one I could most relate to was “You meet awesome people” because in my conventional day job (which has turned into a bit of a bridge job) I am surrounded by like-minded individuals. They’re not life coaches so I get a totally different social fix from them. As a life coach, I generally work alone in my office and mostly connect with people via phone and internet so it’s really important that I still feel that human connection outside of my passion work. I keep my bridge job for that reason, and a million others (money, stability, benefits etc).

    Love the dress Marie! Awesome blocks of color!

    – Heidi xx

  51. This is an AWESOME episode…thanks Marie! I currently have a bridge job…and while I think I might want to work for myself FT someday, I’m in no rush to get rid of my BJ right now. I am a social worker…and recently graduated with my Master’s in Social Work last April. I like being able to use my degree and build my clinical skills. I think my job is very complementary to the coaching practice and writing career I am trying to build for myself. I am in no way embarrassed by my BJ, so I feel very grateful for that.

    For me, I feel like slow and steady will win the race. If I ever get to the point where I can support myself, I’ll certainly take it. But I like not putting that extra pressure on myself. I like setting monthly goals for myself, but not having to reek of desperation and hustle every second of the day. I find what’s really helpful is being fully present in what I am doing at the moment. That helps me to not get down on myself for not doing things I THINK I’m supposed to be doing. Right now I feel pretty good about my BJ. It helps me enjoy my side hustle even more.

    XOXO,

    Akirah

  52. Kathleen

    hmm, I’ve actually found out bridge jobs don’t really work for me. Maybe it’s because my previous career was preschool teaching…not gonna learn a whole lot about business there. Plus I’d come home way too drained to do anything relating to a business (I’m a huge introvert so 12 kids demanding my attention is not so great).

    I was laid off from my last teaching gig which was a major blow but my parents were there to catch me. I’m going to school again for graphic design and sure it’s not glamorous living at home and I’d LOVE to be supporting myself but I really need to focus on learning design right now. I’ve realized this is what I need to do – dive in headfirst, concentrate deeply. I will get there in the end.

    great thought provoking episode, Marie. I imagine in the future I’ll have a bridge job, once I have my design degree.

  53. Great Video. I agree with using a bridge to cross over to the other side. One of my mentors, Dr. Lissa Rankin taught me about using my strengths with my strengths that viewing it as choosing one or the other. What I mean is this:

    My background is in Science, Health and Wellness. At one point I thought about leaving the Scientist behind because the Creative me needed my attention, however I believe we are complex beings…and in my case I can embrace the latest “Scientific American” or “Vogue” or “Firestarter Sessions”

    The bridge can take you from point A to point B. *Remember, it can take you from point B to point A too 😉

  54. Hey Marie!
    Love this video. Over the last 2 years while I’ve been exploring what lights me up, I worked as a religious school teacher, taught an after-school cooking club program, babysat my ass off, did private chef work for busy moms, worked part-time at a non-profit and the list goes on 🙂

    My biggest take away (that I learned from you) – Clarity comes from taking action!

    The more I did, the more I learned which pieces of the work I was doing that I loved and didn’t love. I loved empowering others (in my cooking club) but didn’t like the high stress environment & politics of working in a school.

    I made amazing connections that continue to support me today and give me a fresh perspective when I get stuck. We can learn something from everyone 🙂

    Having these bridge jobs have allowed me to volunteer my time with potential mentors, connect my ass off and pay for things like B-School and RHH Live without feeling overwhelmed and stressed about $$ 24/7

    AND I also realized that as soon as I started owning up to having these BJ’s – I actually connected with people more in the entrepreneur world because I realized so many other people had them too! Just no one wanted to be the first to say it 😉

    Jess

  55. I think of you every time I serve a pizza or a beer Marie! I mean it – I have a server job right now and I remember you saying you did the same thing, so if your success is what I have to look forward to, I’m down! 🙂

  56. I totally agree with the point about desperation.

    The last thing you need when, trying to make a good business decision, is to be worried that if you turn down business that is not a good fit, you will not have money for food or rent.

    I remember having a former client in my office bragging about how he basically kept his last vendor’s lights on. Clients are well aware of that kind of desperation. I remember saying to myself ” no one will ever be able to say that about me.”

    In the beginning, I had an all or nothing attitude and it coat me and my family a great deal. Then, I realized that my hobbies could also be money makers for me. I quickly jumped on the BJ’s!

    Sound advice Marie!

  57. Jen

    I was just recently laid off from my bridge job and debating on getting something else part time but then that still leaves me without all the benefits. So…I’m concentrating on my business full time!

  58. I actually built a bridge business! As I was building my health coaching business, I discovered that so many other coaches needed tech help, and I have the skills and the patience to help them. So I created Your Computer Girl, where I show health coaches how to create their online marketing – websites, social media, and email newsletters. Your Computer Girl allows me to work at home, build my coaching business, and help hundreds of coaches who will, in turn, help thousands of people get healthy! It’s the perfect bridge job.

  59. This video could not could have come at a better time. This past week I realized that I had to get a bridge job in addition to what I am already doing. What is that, you might ask? I am a freelance event photographer, full time doctoral student (loans are no longer available), part time yoga instructor, and most of all single parent to a 12 year old boy. I have been trying to hide my desperation, but that just made me depressed in a very serious way. The reality of having to totally switch gears and get a full time job has been a difficult pill to swallow. However, watching this video helped me realize that it is my ego getting in the way. I love the confidence a steady income gives me and it will most likely be reflected in the quality of writing I produce as well as in my photographs. Thank you!

  60. I LOVE this video and am going to share it on my blog, which has approximately 18,000 hits since I started it a year and half ago. I’m a author and playwright and I learned to write while being a litigation paralegal with some of the best attorneys in the city, and I still moonlight doing that so that I can produce plays, self-publish books and take care of my family. But I have often felt shame in this and am going to blog about that and share this video today. So…freeing. Thank You. You can see trailers of BELIEVE, my current production, at http://www.thebelieveplay.blogspot.com.

    xo,

    Meme

  61. Kim

    My favorite thing about my BJ is folding t-shirts.

    Crazy, right? But, folding t-shirts for hours a day gives me a TON of ideas to implement in my business. In fact my desire to leave my BJ lead me to create an entire program devoted to helping moms with their day jobs, their dream jobs and the money in between.

    So, now my BJ has turned into an entire minivan empire with a passion for helping moms, and giving back to the world. And, if I hadn’t had all those pesky t-shirts to fold, I’d never have been so bored and would have been super happy to work at my BJ for forever and ever.

    I’m so happy that by the end of 2014, I’ll be leaving my BJ and the only t-shirts I’ll be folding will be the ones inside my house.

  62. Nicole

    Oh Marie, this video just reminds me how much I love your authenticity!

    This has been the BIGGEST obstacle for me over the past three years since graduating college and attempting to not only actualize my potential as an artist, but to also launch my own business.

    My first lesson in this came with working full-time for nearly a year before realizing that constantly being on call (we’re talking 7 days/week) robbed me of my time, focus, energy and concentration needed for both creative and entrepreneurial work.

    The moment I quit my full-time job, I thought to myself, “hmmph! I don’t need a job, I’m an artist and entrepreneur by nature, I’ll just do those things, and I’m sure success will find me……..” ….well, as you probably know, unless you have a trust fund or huge amount of savings, that idea dies quick when you realize eating ramen every night is not exactly helping you become your “best self”.

    After a series of diasters, I moved to NYC where I thought I would try my luck at the big apple, only to discover that while I pulled in a lot of really cool flexible gigs, people really only wanted to hire me as an intern or un/lowpaid “staff” in industries in which I had no real experience. This was the dark night of my life in which I felt blessed to have parents who still sent me (barely) enough money to eat, pay rent, and afford the train.

    I left New York after 6 months, lost, confused and sleeping on my brother’s couch in San Francisco. I had NO idea what to do… I couldn’t even get a job as a nanny at the time because I had no experience working with children.

    Finally, I had an idea to return to my roots of dance and movement and get my Pilates certification so that I could create a parallel, non-interference side career to compliment my dream career. I thought, “oh, this will be simple, its just Pilates!”

    Well… it was not. First, the cost of training… while less that grad school, it is still quite the pretty penny… cue parents (I hated to ask but I literally would have been destitute without my family during this time… not only could I not figure out anything else to do, mentally I was so broken down it was difficult to get up in the mornings).

    Training was tough, empowering and beautiful. I felt like with each step along the way I became stronger and stronger. I loved the metaphor for my life. My body was getting stronger, my financial life would soon too. I dreamed of moving back to Los Angeles and working as an instructor while building my business. I thought about it every day.

    Finally, I finished the first phase of training but was not yet certified (as I had to take more training before taking the exam)… I moved back down to L.A. and got a part-time, as-needed-based min. wage job working trade at a studio. I tried and tried and tried, but could not manage to get hired as an instructor until fully certified (with Pilates, my training was pitched to me as something that you could complete in parts and work your way through the rest of it, which was not the case)… alas, I had the insight which has acted as my true bridge…. SAT Tutoring.

    I wish I would have figured this one out YEARS ago! It would have helped so much to figure it out sooner, but alas, it is the journey to overcoming obstacles that truly counts. Now, I can actually pay my bills – on time too! Tutoring is steady, it pays me well and on time… its flexible, the pay rate is high ($40/hr)… it requires intellect, I’m meeting people who may become clients both for my independent Pilates practice as well as people to add to my mailing list as a creative/entrepreneur.

    I’ve finally bridged the gap!!!! And it feels phenomenal.

    However, this video has come at a very poignant moment for me as just last night I was getting down on myself as I looked at the success of my peers and former classmates. For a moment I did feel shame at JUST being a tutor… at not being able to hold down Pilates work… and not getting paid for my REAL passion just yet. This video has inspired me and reminded me that I am right on the perfect path meant just for me and there is no shame in doing what you gotta do to play the game. (Sorry just wanted to rhyme at the end)… THANKS MARIE!!!! xo

  63. I bought my truck on the off chance I’d end up having to live in it as I made my way to writing fame. Mind you, I have a FT job but there was nothing guaranteeing I’d have the job long enough to support me as I got my writing off the ground. Then, there was the idea that I’d live in the truck anyway so I could funnel the cost of living indoors (rent, heat, water…etc.) into attending writer’s conferences and what not. Guess what? I’m still working, still living indoors, and have not yet moved into my truck.

    The lesson I’m finally learning is successful boot-strappers swallow (I couldn’t resist) the misconception of failure and use their BJs to get where they want to be. I’m just 46, I’ve (hopefully) got plenty of time to make the leap into being a full time novelist (while hopefully avoiding that living in my truck scenario.)

  64. i had a bridge job for the last 2 years but only started building my business in the last 6 months at the job but being a food service job in my small town i couldn’t stand working there and had to quit, thankfully im still young (recently 21) and live at home with supportive family while i build my strength and movement training business with perhaps a side business in photography because people seem to like my photography too.

    while i can definitely see the benefits of a bridge job Eliott Hulse had a great thing to say on this matter, he said that in this country we’ll never truly go hungry. There are shelters for a roof, food stamps for food in your belly, and you can even live out of your car. the worst that can happen is not always as bad as we think it is. So i’m spending all of my time and energy on my businesses and hope to be successful soon ^_^

  65. I just love you, you are so up beat and say so many wise things 😀 It is so nice to have a word for what we are a bootstrapper 🙂 I have had my company for over 6 years and during that time I have done a lot of mistakes but I have also finished university, BS in Business and worked 1 or 2 extra jobs mainly waitress and bar tending because that you can do in the evenings and nights. I have always been unconformable when I meet people that shop with me in my extra jobs but I am gonna stop feeling like that because with out this jobs I could not be working on building what I love to do and that is building my retail business 🙂 So thank you for this last video 😀 Greetings from Iceland

  66. Marie,

    Aside from being an amazing career/life coach, I’m pretty sure you are a mind reader. I’ve been having this inner battle since *counts in head* yesterday, on whether or not to get a loan to build an awesome website. My fear has been $$$. I keep thinking, what if my business is a total bust? Then I remember, I am currently debt free, what’s the harm in taking out a loan. I work a normal full time office job that pays well, but not well enough for me to write a $10,000 check to build a website without hesitation. When I received today’s newsletter, I thought… is Marie Forleo eavesdropping my thoughts? Your video has inspired me to look for a 3rd job (I also work an MLM job for small cash on the side). Why take out a loan when it’s so nice to be debt free, right?

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  68. Thank you Marie for this video! You are so cute and I love the way you talk from the heart! No shame in BJs. A Rich Girl knows that multiple streams of income and saving are the true keys to wealth!

  69. Jenn

    I love this, I’ve done some retail/food service “bridging” in my day and the last two years it’s been a bit more like my fluffy day job was my bridge while I dabbled in my freelance work and forged some real relationships because I didn’t NEED the business I gained. NOW I’m going to be cutting the cord to go fully freelance but because I may have a hot minute until my income meets what it has been I’m already casting out feelers for ways I can gig and get some one-time project cash pops to accent the bigger work I’m securing. I’m just excited to be free and to have a legitimate fire under my ass to make things happen!

  70. Elizabeth

    This video was so useful for me to watch this morning, as I had to DRAG myself out of bed to go to my current full-time job. I want to stay in this job as I’ve already proved myself here and I have a good amount of flexibility / independence, but it drains my soul to be here and makes me exhausted each day. I just don’t fit with the mission of this place, and I have a terrible boss. In a situation like this, is it better to stay where I am for a few more years and build my business on the side without the added pressure of a new environment, or look for a new job where I’d have to hustle in the beginning to prove myself, but might be happier and therefore more productive overall? ah the conundrum.

    Best of luck to everyone building their businesses! You’re great motivation.

  71. A bridge job and some degree of economic security is absolutely critical. I think it’s important to ensure, however, that the BJ doesn’t take so much out of you that you have no energy left to develop your business. I had a full-time BJ for many years that, well, blowed, and I finally had to quite because it was leaving me a shell of myself. A mixture of part-time jobs might be better because it adds some variety to your life and might also increase your networks. Also, being in different venues during the week can help enable your ability to think “outside the cubicle.”

  72. Thank you soooo much for this video Marie! I am learning how to become a personal stylist and writer, and my bridge job is running a dayhome (home daycare) which allows me to save and earn in multiple ways. I do not have to fork out the money for childcare, plus I get to watch my children grow. I was going to quit and give all my people notice, so I could “focus” on my business, but you know what? Then I’d lose the income that allows me to buy equipment and get training I need for my personal style business! So for now I am going to continue the bridge job and building the business as a bootlegger!

  73. Simone

    Marie this video came at the perfect time for me! I’ve been going back and forth about doing another BJ but figured I wouldn’t because I love my freedom. But having more income would allow me and my partner to get to our goals so much easier and faster. Thanks for the wisdom.

  74. Delilah

    I think a good BJ is key in starting a new biz if you just don’t have the funds or gonads to risk it. I personally will be launching a new biz soon, and I want the freedom of being SELECTIVE. I don’t ever want to be settled upon because of my competitive price. Even more importantly…I will ONLY work with select people in order to give them my best work. A good BJ will allow me to be that way until people are blowing me…up! lol

  75. Kudos to you for admitting you had a bridge job. Most people see the *end result* and don’t realize that entrepreneurs, actors, actresses, etc. had bridge jobs. They’re under the impression that people are overnight successes.

  76. Marie, I want to first say Thank You for this! I can totally relate to feeling like I’m not succeeding if I need a BJ (hilarious, love that abbreviation and gonna use it all the time to refer to my bridge job) I have actually been going back and forth in my mind on whether or not to get one, because I’m fearful I won’t have time to work on my business, but in reality, I’m probably not doing anymore now than I would be if I had a BJ. So thanks for the encouragement to step out! I am so excited to start B-School in March and learn even more! Thanks Marie!

    • By the way, I totally used to have that Crunch Hip Hop Dance workout video you played a clip of during this show! Amazing!

  77. Ashley

    Thank you so much, Marie. You have completely shifted my view of “bridge jobs” as you call them. I’m currently searching for a new job to replace the one I have now (it’s a contract that’s over in less than a year). Actually, it’s more like I’ve totally been dragging my feet and avoiding the job search like crazy, because even though I want a safety net, I felt like searching for a day job meant I was copping out on my dreams of owning my own business.

    After watching this video, I am now viewing it in terms of making great contacts, learning about the business side of things, and investing in my own business! This video lifted a TON of resistance for me today and I’m going into my “bridge job” search with renewed enthusiasm! Thank you for opening my eyes to the BLESSING that a bridge job can be!!!

    • Ashley, you put it so well in terms of lifting a resistance. Why is it that we stop ourselves from things that can actually help us, because we fear what people will think of us. Great insight!

  78. Kate Lindsay

    Setting myself up to get out there and get a BJ now. THIS video could’t be more timely for me. Message from the Universe 🙂

  79. Marie!
    Thanks so much for this great reminder. I launched a new business in January (your B SCHOOL will have to be next year!) and I am a Professional in Residence at a regional University teaching exactly what I am doing. It allows me to be on the cutting edge of research and industry while contributing meaningfully to my clients and my students. #greatlife

  80. I have a bridge job while I start my copy writing business but I don’t have it because i’m afraid of failing, I have it because I have other goals outside of my career. I want to buy a house and to do that I need a stable income that allows me to save and get a mortgage easily, my bridge job allows me the time to encourage my real passion while learning and reach other goals on my list! There are days when I feel like giving it up but I know it will allow me to do bigger things in the future!

  81. Hi Marie!
    I love my BJ!! It has helped in so many ways, all of which you share in the video! Thanks for making me (us) feel better about it!

  82. Marie,

    You so rock!
    The part I have experienced as have so many others is “desperation”.
    Before I left to live on a sailboat I sold real estate for 20 years. The first 10 years were difficult while I gained the self confidence needed to treat each client and myself with respect.

    It was a huge weight off my shoulders when I could look someone in the eye and say “no, I can’t negotiate my fee, this is how I feed my family”. That is confidence.

    I don’t want a sex change, but I want to be just like you.

    • Delilah

      Awesome!!! I had some lady ask me “How much of your wedding planning fees do you keep?” Ummm…She seriously thought that I used the money to supply items for the wedding and just kept like 200.00 for my part in planning a whole wedding and executing it on the wedding day. I wasn’t at the confidence level to say, “ALL OF IT”…but I hope to be one day soon!!!

  83. I was just having a heart to heart with a friend about this last night. I’m working a 9-5 and trying to manage my two websites. I recently began selling ad space and it’s going well. I feel like if I quit my 9-5 I would be able to earn a decent living from ad sales. But after watching this video I think I’m just going to put a little extra oil in the tank and manage the 3 jobs for a while longer. Though I’m commuting an hour and a half back and forth. I feel confident when I make plans and my budget for my business. I know that I will get paid and I will be able to complete certain tasks. Selling ad space is great extra income that I can turn around and reinvest into my sites and marketing.

    Thank you so much for your advice. You also know how to keep me on track!

  84. I had a Joe Job (pun intended) in a coffee shop while I built up my Yoga classes. I needed a job that didn’t take much brain power, and had flexible shifts so I could work around my classes. I have also bartended, and waitressed for the same reasons in the past. Even though it is always hard work having more that one gig. It meant I could only take The Yoga Gigs I was excited about, I didn’t have to take everything offered to me to pay the bills. The way to go for sure!

  85. “There’s Power in a B.J.”
    by Jai Louys 2013

    Marie is breath of fresh air…When “few” seem to care about the journey we take to Success Street…Imagine each step and follow your “Dreams”…The passion is actually in “You & Me”…Invest your time and educated that “beautiful mind”…Commit like it was your “Wedding Day”…The many jobs may seem exhausting, but meditate about the day you long to see…That business will grow from a simple idea, so remain focused in MarieTV…As she would proudly say, “The place to be, to create a business in life you LOVE”…Obstacles seem BIG when fear takes hold, so stand firm and focus on that above..NO ONE said it would be easy, but what in life truly is, when it’s attached to such universal prestige…Dreaming, Creating, Owning, and Running a Business is what the average person would consider the “Major Leagues”…So, “bootstrappers” tie those laces and get prepared to take this “nice & slow”…Most of the time, we let “shame” distract our way or the judgments of others who criticize where “we” want to go…But, be encouraged to know, that what seems to work best is perseverance when life sends an unexpected “test”…Let confidence guide you…And, never doubt the Power of Great “B.J.” when you feel stressed out and want to go the other way…I believe in “You” and as the “Wise & Beautiful” Marie would graciously say to you today…Hands down, and we’ve ALL experienced it…

    “There’s Power in a B.J.”

    XXOO

    Jai

    __________________________________________________________

    [BONUS POEM]
    (from the epub by Jai Louys “The Bridal Chamber: Where Dreams Become Reality ISBN# 978-1-4566-1987-9)

    “I’D LIKE TO GIVE A SHOUT-OUT TO…YOU”

    To the deserving couples who “struggle” in the constant face of judgment by others who just don’t understand that “Love” has always been “color-blind”…To all of the women who found the strength to “forgive” their husbands for the “smallest” of wrongs, let alone, the “wrongs” that separate the closest of “friends”…To all of the “Men” that loved their “Wives” enough to overlook “bad choices”, including the kind that incite the “heat of passion”…To all of the interracial couples and mixed children whom awakened “numb” to the “ignorance” of the brain-washed fools that has missed the “new beat” of the World…To all of the “modern” women who proudly wear the hats of wifey, mommy, and bread-winner in today’s economy…To all the “modern” men who proudly play the roles of bread-winner, daddy, and a hubby that helps around the home to insure “happiness” for the entire family…To all the men that understand the “concept” that making love MUST be forever treated like a “skilled profession”, so that his woman will also find “satisfaction” when they enter the bedroom…To all of the “women” that practice the same “concept” with loyalty for her “Man”…To all the couples that “gladly” invest in their relationships “growth and development”, while knowing that billions of men and women will never fully satisfy or be satisfied, due to lack of proper preparation…To all of the “people” who, God knows, tried to get their partner on the right course, but had to regrettably “walk away” to find their “real” soul mate in life…To all of the couples that had “no idea” of the level of maturity needed to properly develop a “relationship”, thus were “forced” into abuse, heartbreak, and depression…To all of the commitments made by “lovers” that have NEVER been broken to the point of NO RETURN…And, to my “soul mate” where ever “You” are, whom ever “You” maybe, just know, “I love you” NO MATTER your race, skin-color, economic status, education level, baggage, weight, or looks…Last, but “not” least, to ALL my Loving Fans…

    ​“I’D LIKE TO GIVE A SHOUT-OUT TO…YOU”

  86. I turned to a bridge job to help me get out of a 12-year, award-winning PR career where I was tied to the billable hour. My bridge job turned out to be my next CAREER, far surpassing anything I could’ve imagined for my professional life. So don’t be ashamed of your bridge to something better. You never know, that bridge may turn out to be the something better.

  87. Wow – very timely message for me. I just launched a new web application on my site that cost me $15k to build. So far I’ve made $9 back in 2 weeks. I know it will take time and I am definitely seeing results in terms of traffic, user engagement and opt-ins. The sales will come as more people discover the app and I create more designs to go into it.

    Meanwhile, I am still doing web development for some high-end clients and that keeps the money rolling in. This morning I was starting to resent having to do client work once again rather than working on MY business, but I am grateful for the work. Thanks for the reassurance, Marie!

  88. I never really thought about this until I saw this video today… When I started working (doing what I TRULY love) I went all in and never looked back. I was going to make it work no matter what it took…

    So I guess that tells a lot about my personality as far as risk aversion (what risk aversion? lol) I used to think that we are all equipped to do it the way that I did, and it’s simply not true. It really boils down to your personality, and no way is the exact “right” way. There’s many paths to the gold! Thx Marie 🙂

  89. Steve

    This video really helped give me a different perspective on my 9-5. I feel like all of my jobs have been BJs. 20 something BJs later and 14 years, I’m wondering what I’m missing?

  90. This is a great message! As someone who has owned a branding business for the past 20 years I can admit there were a few lean times. Especially after 9/11 when the world stopped moving. It was during that time that I took a part/time job nearby to even things out. There is absolutely no shame in this as you can also learn about an industry you hadn’t known much about before. Today with an economy that is not only slow moving, but a government that shuts down, whatever it takes to give entrepreneurs peace of mind is the right action. I’ll pass this onward for sure!

  91. Elisa

    Holla:)
    Thank you for this MarieTV episode. I am actually struggling right now with my BJ!!! As much as I want to be secure in my money and home life, I am finding that because of my bridge job my creative flow is suffering!! I am a nanny as my BJ and as a nanny the work environment is less then professional and very time consuming. The reason I started with this family is because the situation seemed to be more flexible then other positions, but now as I start to move forward and things are starting to happen for me in my own life and with my dreams, my employers seem to be holding the reins much tighter, for example by not giving me that extra hour off to go to an event, so I can network! Yet they have no problem coming home from work an hour later with no notice. I want to end this, so that I can just focus on me, my hearts says I should do this, but I have the fear of not being able to take care of my bills and things like having the freedom to go to CA for Brendon Burchard:) So amazing you were there!

  92. God bless you Marie Forleo, you are the best mentor I’ve ever had and this episode totally reflects my current reality.

    Ok, so it’s a long story. My dream as a kid was to become a doctor, go med school, graduate with honors and start working with organizations in Africa to save kids from hunger and health issues all of that while teaching them tools that will serve them to become sustainable and be agents of possitive change. When I 16 and the day came when I had to take the exams and start my studies in university, I realized that even if I am super passionate about good health, nutrition and the power of our human bodies and minds to heal and create… well, that I really didn’t need to become a doctor to help others and that I would def need help from the business and organizational part to run this up, so I put it on a balance and decided that I will study something that will serve me directly achieve what I wanted to see in the world. In the end I became an Industrial Engineer, I joined AIESEC (www.aiesec.org) and started traveling, connecting with people, organizations from the private and non-private sectors and actually run my first project, I created a system to tackle different issues and support social entrepreneurship. Fast forward today, I am working in a big company that produces copper and my work as an engineer is awesome, I totally love it, but I have totally clear that this is a BJ and that while I am building what I’m supposed to do in this world, I am enjoying working the crazy hours, doing the corporate work and involving myself and the people around me into the work that I want to do. It takes time, sometimes it’s hard to realize the prize that I’m paying for this, expending the best years of my life (I’m 29, single) working far away from the city, from my family and friends and doing my best here.
    Yesterday I was just thinking about this “prize” that I’m paying in order to achieve my dreams and I came across an interview with Mastin Kipp and felt that I was on the right track. I’m totally aware that this track may not be the best option for a lot people, but it makes totally sense to me and I am willing to live my life with passion and purpose and I so enjoyed this episode and the reasons why having a BJ is so awesome today, for people that are working on something bigger and while we are doing that, we are also contributing to each countries economies and we are proving value to the organizations we are working with, and the people who are surronding us.

    Thank you Marie, this episode was just on time. I know that I am becoming the person that I need to be in order to achieve all I want and YOUR help and the help that I get from this beautiful community is priceles. Am very grateful for it.

    Lots of love and keep doing this, keep rocking the world, we want a better world and we are a lot of people who are taking the leap of faith and we are making it happen.

    Big love Marie, to you, to your team and to everybody in this community. This is the best time in history to spread ideas, love, tools and services to foster human kind to a nicer, most compassionate, loving, awesome level. Count on me on this.

    Besitos desde Perú!
    (Kisses from Perú)

    Karla

  93. My bridge job was unemployment insurance. 🙂 It worked SUPER well for growing my business, except for the part about meeting new people and learning about business because I was in one.

  94. While working the Bridge Job, I’m rocking the helping people easily build their own personal and/or business websites gig!

    Why?

    I truly have a heart for the “lowly” entrepreneur and small business owner who wants to find success online and in their biz. I swear by eportfolio websites for people wanting to stand out in the job market. And I want to make professional website building easily attainable for businesses without big budgets for websites. Feel free to check out my podcast.

    For most people, a bridge job is the best way to go. Do the day job, then hustle like crazy the rest of the time. You can take more (calculated) risks in your passion biz, while still paying the bills. Like Marie said, it’ll be slower, but you can still find success. And even if we DO quit the bridge job, we, unfortunately, often find ways to fill the time we have (even when it’s NOT productive.) 🙂

    On the other hand, some people need to lose their job with their feet to the fire to actually DO the thing they were MEANT to do! If you have a clear plan in place for taking the leap, and know for a fact people will buy what you’re “sellin’,” then going “all in” can be perfect for many people as well.

    All the best in whatever your journey may be.

    ~Michael

  95. Doris

    I’m looking for any bridge job for a year now, one where I could learn a lot because I know I need to learn a lot before I launch my own business. I have great ideas, I’m very ambitious and I can work really hard when I want to, but I’m too artistic about it, I work when I feel like to and when I don’t, I do nothing. I need to get used to the routine of 9 to 5 job, to setting realistic short-term goals and keeping deadlines. Unfortunately, I can’t get any job. I’m overeducated and underexperienced for jobs like waitress, and I’m underexperienced and not the best candidate for office jobs or HR. I don’t want to waste time on unpaid internships to get to a bridge job. And on interviews I have to lie that my long term goal is being a senior something in their company, because you can’t tell anyone that this is just a bridge job. It sucks, and it influences my motivation to build my long-term business.

    • Hey Doris,
      Not sure what your skills are from your post, but maybe consider getting a bridge job that is more aligned with your skills. Also if you’re ever asked about your long-term goals, you can avoid lying by actually setting some goals that will be beneficial for you and the prospective company (i.e. learn xyz, strengthen my knowledge of xyz, etc.)
      A bridge job is simply a job that gets you to where you really want to be, but it doesn’t have to be a job where you are over-educated/under-experienced and it doesn’t have to be a 9-5. It just needs to be a way for you to use your skills to make consistent money. Hope that helps you. Maybe brainstorm with a couple of friends/associates to see how you could best utilize your skills. But I have a feeling that changing your mindset may help you tremendously. There is a bridge job out there with your name on it Doris! Believe that first, then seek jobs that align with your skills. Even if it’s a job you already know, going in with a learner’s mindset will help you see things you may not have otherwise seen. But seek a bridge job with your current skillset would be my encouragement.

      • Doris

        Thank you very much, your words are very inspiring. Generally I try to apply to places where I could use my skills, since I have had some short term jobs where I could use them before (customer service, translation, making Internet research, working with Microsoft Excel, organizing student conferences). I know I should work on being more flexible and proactive, I have many psychological barriers. But I also lack hope. Every rejection crushes my spirit. So thanks for your words.

  96. Hi Marie,
    This was THE BEST video ever!! At least for me anyway. Def in my top 3.

    I have been trying to get my coaching practice off the ground, write a book and I’m building the platform online and it requires lots of time and some budget. I’m about tapped out on all the freebies and I need to start investing in my biz to get it into thrive mode.

    I Recently picked up 3 evening classes as an adjunct at ITT Tech and hallelujah!! I can see my marketing light at the end of the tunnel. And I can eat too and keep the car from being re-poed!!

    Bridge Jobs Absolutely Rock…GREAT MESSAGE TODAY MARIE!
    THANKS

    Truly,
    Cindy G.

  97. Great Marie! I had a bridge job for 8 months – I was a clerk in a Gas station because it’s all I could find at the time. There were days that weren’t the easiest but it was good for me. I earned a little money and had time to study the Akashic Records and develop into the healer I am today.

    I’m SUPER excited this week because I’m going to be going on an awesome international spiritual growth centered radio station first as a guest then with my own show!! 🙂 I’m so excited to get the message about Financial Healing out to the millions of people who need it!!!!!!!! Whoo Hoo!!!!!!!

  98. Marie! Sometimes I think you’re a mindreader. I have been talking about this exact issue for the past few weeks now– thinking, “I don’t want to have to get a part-time gig while I start up my health coaching practice.” Like it represents some how that I’m failing, just because I don’t have 8000 clients right away. But you know what? Having a steady income certainly is speed stick for the soul as you put it and will be one less thing to stress about. Thanks so much for this! xo Alyson

  99. Thanks Marie for the great post as always. Yes, there are us men out there that enjoy Marie’s insight into business as well :). My journey took me from a comfy white collar job that felt incredibly repetitive to walking in the door at home one day back in 2008 to tell my wife I was quitting and venturing out on my own. I have an all or nothing type of personality at times and when I make up my mind, I want to get moving rather than dwelling on the decision for too long. Of course that has proven to be a blessing and a curse at times, but that’s just who I am. I realized that I have a passion for wanting to help others feel better about themselves, wanting people to see life as a one-time journey rather than something you have to just endure. As far as we know, we don’t get to come back and do it again, so why not make the best of it while we are here? Easier said than done of course, but nothing more rewarding and satisfying as far as I’m concerned than rolling your sleeves up and living the life you want to live, not the life someone else thinks you should live. Keep up the good work Marie.

  100. I seriously just applied somewhere at the end of last week and am going in today about a job. As much as I was job adverse, I literally listed every benefit you just went over in this video and decided I wanted a side/”bridge”-job.

    I also have all of these plans for my business that I want to spend money on, and yet I haven’t had steady income for the last 5 months. I keep reminding myself that I am lucky to have made ANY money in my business by this point, and that a part time job won’t kill so much of my time that I won’t be able to work on my business.

    Anyway, great timing on this video! Thanks!

  101. I feel that this is soooo on point for me today! I am still in my bridge job and I have been really putting it down and feeling the effects of that. This really made me take a look at what I am spending my energy doing and being full of gratitude for the opportunities that I have.

  102. I currently have a BJ that I enjoy and I feel I learn a lot from. The danger of it is that I feel like I often put it before my business because it is a steady paycheck, where as my business doesn’t make money yet. I’m trying to find that balance between the two right now.

  103. As a Z-list ‘celebritea’ who’s just applied to be one of Santa’s Christmas elves over the holiday period, this video rocks with me.

    I’m doing it both ways – bridge jobs and also keeping my living costs to a minimum by living in a trailer. They can both have a useful place, and if you keep your living to a pleasurable ‘simple’ you can help the environment and be boosting your finances as the same time!

  104. Amanda Rogers

    Hey Marie! Thanks for this wonderful advice. I love your videos. I almost shot water out of my mouth with the workout instruction video clip.

    This is such a great topic, especially since having a BJ brings a lot of people down- I can relate! When starting a project, it’s really easy to want to put everything else aside and focus strictly on what you’re working on. Of course you need to, you know, eat. But also as a practical job skill, you really learn how to organize your time. You mentioned that busy people get more done: I think it’s because busy people teach themselves the necessary skills to get things done.

    I am at the beginning of starting a publishing company, and in the mean time I do steady freelancing (which I’ve been doing for many moons now). I meet a lot of wonderful people through one of my gigs, and I can feel that in the future I will be speaking with them again through my business.

    Thanks again! xoAmanda

  105. This video is definitely on point. For those of us who are in corporate jobs that haven’t made the leap yet, we consider these our BJs as well. But I do remember a time when I didn’t want my clients to know that I was working. I even wrote a blog about it because I learned so much in B School that made me realize that I needed to be ME in my business.

    http://fonjames.com/a-life-coachs-confession/

    Now you’ll notice that when I wrote this article, I had a different niche focus than what my website currently reflects, but that is the power of B School BABY!!!!

  106. I am thrilled that I found a wonderful seasonal BJ that enables me to learn about true marketing from a high end company. I work on commission, love the interaction with people, learn so much, receive a paycheck that is steady and hope to continue with this position after the holidays. I am grateful to be working part-time and building my business at the same time.

  107. Leanne Richards-Williams

    After going through B-School 2013 while unemployed, it was not long after I realize I NEEDED TO GET A JOB in order to pull my idea off a little faster. I wanted to get the ball rolling, so I went on the hunt for a job and a got a decent paying one -online job as a matter of fact.

    Now I’m in the hunt for a second and third bridge job! And I have this inner fear that I am being “greedy” to want to do more jobs. But things-to-do list and the bills I need to clear so that I can meet my biz goals will require me to get more jobs in.

    So thanks alot Marie for boosting my confidence….I have an interview in a few days (as a result of my TV presentation about B-School back in March ’13!)

    <3
    xoxoxoxoxox

  108. Hey Marie!

    Thank you so much for this today. I do have a bj right now that I had a negative attitude about. I felt like it was pulling me away from my REAL business but this episode really helped me see how great it is to have that side job I can use to pull in the cash while I build my business. BJs ARE GOOD FOR BUSINESS!

    THANK YOU!
    XOXOXOXO

    Dana Leipold – Write Well. Change the World. Writing coach and creative collaborator!
    http://www.danaleipold.com

    • I totally relate, Dana. I like my BJ but it definitely pulls me away from what I feel like I should be doing. On one hand the BJ helps pay for things, but on the other hand it is slowing progress for my business. Double edged sword!

  109. I can’t begin to say how much I appreciate this message! Thank you!!!

  110. Such an important topic Marie! My bridge job saved me from the wrong focus in my career. Seven years ago when I was starting my Acupuncture business, I had a bridge job at a fertility agency. I thought that was going to be the focus of my practice. A year later, I realized that I didn’t want to work in the field of fertility. Now, I do work I love helping women let go of their food cravings and excess weight using Acupressure over the phone, not even with Acupuncture. So glad I found out before getting into the wrong field for my unique talents.

    Also, when I finally made the jump to quit my bridge job a year later, someone came into my office within days and said, ‘I’d like to buy a package of treatments, how many can I buy?’ She helped me make up the gap in income that month, and my healing business has been my only source of income since.

    Bridge jobbers out there, keep going, you will make it if you don’t give up 🙂

  111. Having money coming in while building a biz gives you great peace of mind.

    Even better if you work on something related to the biz you’re building, I did and still do sometimes things like create wp websites, landing pages and other online biz related tasks 🙂

    Great advise desperation is never a good adviser.

  112. Dear Marie… I wish I knew you before I started my business! 🙂

    I didn´t plan as well as I should… I sold my car, asked for money to my family, and opened a holistic business with 2 more friends. Today (2 years later), they are doing great, but I still can´t pay all my bills with the money I receive from patients. It is still hard not to feel insecure e comparing myself with them.. and asking why am I not doing as great as they are… when I look back I realized that I needed to plan better this shift… but instead I got excited with someone elses dream.. and she was way ahead of me… so now I am organizing my activities and making a path for me, different from them… hope that I can enroll myself in B-School next year to learn more from you.. Kisses from Brazil! 🙂

  113. Wow. Perfect name for what I’ve been doing. I’ve never had anyone name it. My bridge job started, before I considered it that. I originally thought it would be my career. I’m good at it. I’m told daily that I can never leave, ’cause the place will fall apart.
    But as I discovered that this isn’t my passion, it became my 1st bridge job. I was glad I still had it when my husband lost his job. It is comforting to know that it is still there, clicking away as I grow. I recently had a friend tell me, “you are good at everything, there isn’t anything out there that you can’t do in a successful way… but those things don’t make you happy long term.” Since then, I’ve been taking on various bridge jobs, I have 7 currently….as if I’m doing a case study. Watching people. Listening to their needs. Feeling what their feeling. I still haven’t figured out WHAT I’m doing, but I feel like there is something big coming from it all. When things don’t work out, I push less to fix it. I just let it be. I’m learning to be more patience, less critical of mysself and others and thankful that even in Michigan’s economic crisis–I have bridge jobs finding me. The bits and pieces of white space inbetween will end up being my passion. I can feel it coming.

  114. How about when you have small children and are a single parent?

  115. Melanie

    I totally have a bridge job! Jumping in and starting a bakery was not my vision nor did I have the funds to do it. So I work with my husband in his general contracting business, while I am growing my clientele with baking gluten-free goods and selling them at farmer’s market and other events. Since I already have the business background from being the CFO of my husband’s business, I was able to really focus on my recipes and providing the best tasting product ever. I have learned so much by taking it slow, marketing, packaging, meeting new people, and staying focused on my goals (not what others think I should be doing).

    Growing slow is not a bad thing, and I don’t feel like just because my product is not selling on the shelf of a major supermarket that I have not succeeded. Every day is a new chance to see where you can go with your product, and it’s quite an adventure!

  116. whooo-l o v e, love it! This vid is perfect timing as I’m considering a B-job right now. After investing thousands of dollars, (including doing B-School and your conference 😉 ) on my biz, the stress of worry about (((steady))) income is detracting focus and positivity from my work. When I finally decided it was okay to have a BJ and nothing to be ashamed of, things actually started clicking for me and I have a new level of excitement about building my biz, I didn’t have before.
    I think as women we tend to forget just how resourceful we actually are, and need to remind each other when faced with “make it work” moments, we always pull through. It IS a journey that takes time, and patience, and also the “art of being flexible,” in order to achieve ones dream!
    Thank you Marie!

  117. Hi Marie,
    Great topic. Love the Q&A Tuesdays!
    I like the idea of BJ too and your video today gave me an insight to start seeing my day job as a BJ. The difficulty is in managing time so that I can focus more on my business and not feel so sapped by the day job/BJ. That’s where my growing edge is: how to keep myself energized to give more to my own business.
    What I have been doing is building my savings and I’ve signed up for B-School! Looking forward to it and specially in making connections with other like-minded folks.
    Thanks for sharing!
    Vanessa

  118. This episode was so on point! Just what I needed today. I’ve been contemplating this idea but was also wrestling with the thoughts of failure and embarrassment. Thanks so much for sharing Marie and reminding me that this can be a good thing and is only a season in my life. #MovingForward

  119. Jacqueline Lara

    I see every job that I’ve had thus far as a “bridge job” because each and every one continues to help reach the next level. When I was getting my Real Estate license I worked at a resort and continued to cocktail in the lounge at night while I worked during the day at a brokerage training to become a Realtor. I knew that I would eventually be able to stop working nights and be a Realtor full-time, but I couldn’t afford to leave my stable “bridge job” in the meantime. I eventually started working for a new home builder in sales and now I’m with my second builder going to school part time to get my degree in Interior Design. I eventually want to own my own design firm and sell houses simultaneously. That is my dream, and until then I will sacrifice my weekends to do homework and work 12 hour days between work and school to get to the next level of my professional career.

  120. Kyah

    Love this! I am a recent college grad. and am locating meaningful bridge job(s), while I start my business. I love your mention of working as a personal assistant. I love organizing, scheduling, planning, writing and supporting others, thus I believe that I would make a fantastic personal assistant as well. If anyone in the community knows of any personal assistant opportunities, I would greatly appreciate any information or links, thank you! 🙂 I sincerely appreciate you, Marie!

  121. I’ve taught high school English for 17 years. My students were actually the inspiration for TaTa Totes. Additionally, the steady paycheck is a comfort when I lay awake at night wondering just who in the hell I think I am starting a business from scratch based on a product that has never existed before.

  122. Alexandra

    I needed this today Marie! Thank you! My company has been rocking over the past 3 years and every year we have double our number of clients! But we are still in the start up phase where we are working through our growing pains, hiring new employees, etc. Bridge jobs have been what has kept me going but I never want to let anyone know I have a bridge job because it might make them think the business is not doing well or that I am not as committed. But the company is growing daily and I am more dedicated than ever! Thanks for the video!

  123. I started my business a year ago and now I am financially strapped, it is not too late for me to consider the BJ. It’s really tough right now to even get any job in my country. Marie, thanks for sharing your message.

  124. Kym

    I had to rewind the fitness video splice three times. Hilarious lol

  125. Great episode Marie, your video with the “Choo Choo” was hilarious. This advice couldn’t have come at a better time for me (can anyone say severance package-which I got in the mail today).

    Loving everyone’s advice on this topic. Keep it up.

  126. Great message, Marie! I’ve had investors in several businesses, both successes and failures, but am now bootstrapping my online dream business. There are definite trade-offs but I’m strangely encouraged by the ‘pay-as-you-go’ growth plan and feel it provides a deeper ROOT SYSTEM, if you know what I mean. I thank God for my bridge job, but it motivates me like crazy to keep building my escape vehicle! Thanks again.

  127. This is an excellent post. I currently have a full-time job and there are days where I wish I was working in my business full-time. Or sometimes I would be envy of those that not having a job would lite a fire under their behind (doesn’t work for me).

    Being at my job allows me to want to grow my business more and it’s also my investor so that I can get the help I need to grow my business.

  128. Talk about great timing! I was just having a conversation with my husband last night about getting a BJ. I’ve been wanting to do it for sometime now but have been holding back. I feel that if I get a BJ that its some sort of sign of failure which I know is crap. Thanks Marie for your video today. I really needed this and your timing was impeccable.

  129. When my team and I were making our app game
    I was working in a bar at night. I would get up
    At 7am with the crew to shoot all day and when the sun
    Was going down I would strap on my apron and work
    Till 2am. The pure excitement of creating my project keep me
    Exhilarated through my sleep deprivation!!
    The key to surviving a survival job is loving what you
    Do on the other side of that job.
    Everyone who is successful has done it in their lifetime!
    It’s worth it!!

  130. Hi,
    I have always had a BJ even when I had (successfully sold) a profitable business. I have never felt bad about it. However, being a radio personality for the BJ and then doing something completely different (gift baskets and now resume writing) people did not see me as a business owner. They pigeon holed me into radio and am still struggling to rebrand myself. As with many entrepreneurs, I have tried a few different types of business and so I fear that people see me so scattered. My huge person Facebook is full of pepole from businesses past and present and I fear taking any new BJ’s because they will think I am scattered.

  131. I love this video Marie!! I was just having a conversation with a friend about this very thing. I call these BJs “Supporting Your Hustle.” I have been in my BJ for going on 16 years and just decided to launch my blog this year. I finally did it just last week and it has been so eye-opening to watch the journey unfold.

    I, like someone else mentioned in their comment had to revamp my attitude when it came to my BJ. I had grown increasingly uncomfortable and then the climate change at my BJ didn’t help matters any. I’ve never been fond of asking for anything, especially money, so I had to find a way to appreciate where I am right now. On yesterday as I walked in, I said “Thank God it’s Monday.” I am all smiles today as I walk on campus at my BJ and enjoy this Fall weather. Life is good if you let it be.

  132. Girl – I feel like my life has been a series of bridge jobs culminating to this point in my life where I am now (at 36) finally seeing my destiny. I have always wanted to my name to be my brand so I have always worked my tail off at every job along the way; which includes, but is not limited to (haha – so legalistic): Gymnastics teacher, waitress, cocktail waitress, basketball referee, online ad sales, door-to-door sales, COO of a real estate development company, furniture store owner, home builder, etc.
    Now I am finally building the MsRachael brand on the side. I am working to build that business by using my experiences in all of these businesses to become a public speaker, teacher, trainer, and consultant.
    I have learned from women like you to be myself, sometimes traditional, othertimes not, sometimes funny and silly, and sometimes so very serious and strict. I love building my brand behind closed doors and kicking ass at my bridge job(s) in the meantime. Wait 5 years and I will have a success story to share too!
    Thanks for the great video.

  133. I love this video Marie!! I was just having a conversation with a friend about this very thing. I call these BJs “Supporting Your Hustle.” I have been in my BJ for going on 16 years and just decided to launch my blog this year. I finally did it just last week and it has been so eye-opening to watch the journey unfold.

    I, like someone else mentioned in their comment had to revamp my attitude when it came to my BJ. I had grown increasingly uncomfortable and then the climate change at my BJ didn’t help matters any. I’ve never been fond of asking for anything, especially money, so I had to find a way to appreciate where I am right now. On yesterday as I walked in, I said “Thank God it’s Monday.” I am all smiles today as I walk on campus at my BJ and enjoy this Fall weather. Life is good if you let it be.

  134. Wow thank you so much for this video, Marie! I feel like you helped give me some extra “boost” that I needed now. I was working before while going to school, but I absolutely HATED my last part-time job and whenever I applied for new jobs I didn’t get hired and I was always left with the feeling of “I’m just not meant to work for other people”. Through this, I created my own business.

    The problem that I’m running into now, however, is finances. I’ve invested quite a bit but, of course, it’s taking time to build. I’m also wanting to purchase some other things to invest into the business to help it grow, but I don’t quite have the money without that extra income. Yet, there’s that part of me that was like “Well, I started this business because I DIDN’T want to work for anyone else, so getting another side job would be stupid”. Then there’s also these beliefs of “I won’t do enough work in my business if I’m busy with other work”.

    Your video here helped me to fully realize that neither of those things are actually true. Based on what you said and some of my own more recent experience, I’ve seen that by having a bridge job it can HELP me with my marketing by reaching out to more people. You also reminded me of the concept of “busy people do more”… which I have found to be SO true in other moments of my life.

    So, even though I’m kind of cringing to myself at the thought of it, perhaps I should be getting out there to find a bridge job so I CAN do more and invest more with greater ease. I guess my only hope is that if I get out there and start a bridge job that the universe will give me one that I do truly find joy and benefit from.

    Thanks again for the video!

  135. Couldn’t agree more with this video/philosophy. I was working 5 days a week as a barista when I went through my coaching certification program, and, in the 2.5 years since getting certified, have been weening myself off those hours and am just there 2 weekend morning shifts a week. This has kept the pressure off to, as Marie said, keep desperation at bay while I get my feet on the ground as a professional coach. And this job has helped me build community and network as a coach and hugely helped stave off anxiety re making “enough” money to live off of as a coach. Slow and steady has been the perfect way to go for me. So grateful to have had this great BJ 🙂

  136. I love the bridge job idea. However, my bridge job I had to let go. I just learned by watching this that I may have juggled too much too soon. I am now realising that I have I can only juggle one thing at a time especially when you may end up supporting someone else. I have a major decision to make. I am not selling any of my books which pushed me to use creativity means. I forgot to plan my marketing finances in with my production finances and I literally ran out of money. I now must decide before end of October to close my dream idea for now of wanting to be an author or keep going. Here in AR I have to pay a business tax, if I choose to keep it open. I’ve been working on various financial avenues and one is in the works but waiting for a response but our government is shutdown. The Goddess have blocked me from taking any job outside of my divine mission of healing, spirtuality and so forth. So what do I do w/o a bride job or bridge source? Anyone’s got ideas please share them with me.
    I am here for a higher calling and certain this is my path.
    Ketina, author of Celestial Serendipity.
    Love and Light!

  137. OMG! This is exactly where I am right now. I had no idea that working 2 bridge jobs right now was not only common but smart. I was feeling so embarrassed working these other jobs while building my dream business. I thought I should be further along in my career at 30 years old. This episode made me realize that this risk to live a life I love might take some time and having some alternative forms of income is nothing to be embarrassed about. I should be proud that I am doing my best and gradually building a business on my dollar. I can confidently say that I am a “bootstrapper” and proud of it.

  138. Hi Marie,
    I love this topic. I’ve had a few coaching clients who when they first came to me where anxious to quit their day jobs or bridge jobs, in order to launch their businesses.

    I always share with them that having financial security will help them launch their businesses faster, because a LOT of the anxiety of making it to the end of the month won’t be there.

    I share that in order to manifest our dream businesses, we need to start bringing the LOVE into the situation that we have today, and let that energy of love expand and takes us into more abundance.

    So, for example, if you have a bridge job that you want to quit, then try to bring gratitude to your current work, as it is supporting you on building your bigger dream. That energy will take you faster from your bridge job into your dream job 🙂

    Besos and thanks for sharing such a great truth!
    Mercedes Maidana

    • I agree with you completely Mercedes, and thanks for sharing the tip on gratitude! Will definitely try that one 🙂
      Cheers,
      Mirkka

  139. This was filled with juicy goodness! 😉 I love the part about taking bigger risk in your business while working! I never thought of that! I work for the Postal Service and I call it “The business loan I never have to pay back!” So I guess it’s a government grant LOL!

  140. Thank you for this Marie. I’ve been working on my business more or less full-time for the last two years and getting increasingly stressed about money, which isn’t helping me think straight. I think it’s pretty clear I need a BJ… It’s good to hear you had 7 years of them, ’cause I think you’re right that there’s shame attached around your business not supporting you from the get go. This is a huge lesson. Thank you. I’m off to track myself down a life-changing BJ 🙂

  141. I really+really+really love you girl!thank you so much^super hugs form Italy**

  142. Ah, YES….the bridge job. I’ve had two since starting my business 14 years ago…one was temporary. Cleaning someone else’s home. OH YUCK… I don’t even love cleaning my own toilet, let alone cleaning someone else’s!
    I was already on baby #4 and thought I was done changing diapers. NOT SO! I was housecleaning for a woman that had adopted handicapped Dachshund’s and she had 4 that dragged their hind legs, which meant that as they were scooting about their little private parts were dragging on the ground which caused them to piddle all over the place so they wore newborn human baby diapers…Guess who got to change doggie diapers on cleaning day? You guessed it! ME.
    Another bridge job I had that was supposed to be temporary and only part time was at a home improvement store. That ended up being a full time 7 year gig. I learned SO MUCH! Now when my husband tells me something can’t be done to improve my home I know better! Best part is that I was able to save a bunch of money while there and I participated in the employee stock option plan which grew and grew and grew! I’ve got money to spare! I LOVED my BJ so stayed there longer than I intended. AND the best part…I’ve got a lot of people that I met while working there involved in my business now. Ya just gotta love a good BJ!

  143. You rock, bottom line. Thanks for this inspiring speech Marie.

  144. My first bridge job was… being a daughter! I just finished college and decided to start paying freelance taxes to work as a translator, even if I didn’t have that many clients yet, because I knew that even if I didn’t make any money one month, it wouldn’t be that terrible as my parents would still be feeding me.

    Next I became a tourguide in one of the most famous sites in Barcelona, the Sagrada Familia Church, where I discovered my passion for sharing the local sites. Thanks to the fact that I was still with my parents and still paying the freelance taxes, I was able to start getting tourguide gigs outside of the church, too.

    Little by little, I build a reasonable business until I was ready to move on my own. Now I can say that I have been a successful tourguide for over 13 years (and have had my own apartment for 10 years now), and after I joined B-School 2 years ago my business has doubled and I’m already a member of the 6-figure business-owners club.

    I have been blessed by opportunities in my life, and I have been quick at catching them and flowing with them, making the necessary investments, and then harvest the results.

  145. Nope, I haven’t had a bridge job, BUT I started my business after my first year at the university, which means that my student loan money supported me during the first two years of starting up the business. The goal was to have the business support me when I graduated and it worked! =D

    Before I started studying on the other hand, I worked as a bus driver, and I knew I could always go back to that on the side if I needed to. But, since driving a bus is so mindnumbingly boring, every time I’ve started worrying about my business or money, all I’ve had to do is think about a bus and then I get aaaaall the inspiration I need to do what I need to do to get moving with the business. 😉

  146. Sylvi

    This episode is just great ,as always. Thanks Marie. I’ve had a few AHA moments whilst watching it and reading the comments. I was getting a bit bored in my BJ but now I know I can contribute to that company in many ways and learn a lot from them too.I’m sure that if I start being grateful for what I have at the moment, even if it doesn’t feel ideal , will open up a whole lot of other possibilities and options I can’t even imagine at this stage.

  147. This episode spoke to my SOUL! I have a BJ that I am increasingly embarrassed by (I’m a housekeeper, an amazing one actually) but even though I’m making slow steady money with my copy writing business I’ve been feeling like having a day job made me more of an amateur. But after this episode I feel so much better!
    I love the security that having a day job brings, and in hindsight I don’t think I’d do anything differently.

  148. Hello Marie,

    I could only laugh when I saw this video today for a few reasons. First I love your sense of humor and attention getting strategy… Awesome! Second, I am a BJ expert, have many and just grabbed another today!! I am building my business as an executive coach but also pose as a fitness trainer, adjunct professor, and just today a home watcher, loI. I could not agree more with your six reasons. Getting BJ’s has allowed me to reinvest in my coaching practice and recently start creating a new brand and professional video, soon to be released. Also, to come see you speak with Brendon Bruchard in Nov. I really admire your business model and strategy and lookforward to seeing you live and hearing your story. Brendon has inspired me to change my business model and I am in the process of reinvention now. Thanks for sharing and making me feel normal :))

  149. I totally agree with this! My bridge job at a small recruiting company was way cheaper than an MBA 🙂 I was fortunate to have my boss teach me everything she knew about running a business, much of which I use since venturing out on my own.

  150. Marie, you were a strip tease instructor. I *knew* I loved you for way more than one reason!

    I’ve done so many of the same things… bartender, server, dancer, and now my bridge jobs are closer to what I want to be doing in my business: writing.

    I am a professional freelance writer and editor, focusing on local, purpose-driven businesses and making them sustainable. I think there can be bridge jobs that feed other interests (like dancing!) and ones that are closer to your intended dream business, and they’re BOTH great for different reasons.

  151. Thanks Marie! Great video 🙂

    I’m in midst of ‘bridge job’ land and love it.

    I started my business with the intent of moving into it full-time (and I’m sure at some point, I will have to…) but I’m also actually enjoying my day-job more and more with having my creative biz on the side! Sure, I work A LOT but I enjoy my days and my nights so much more!

    Also, having my business on the side, has helped ironically build my confidence at work and opened up new doors and opportunities that I never thought possible.

    All for the B-J’s!

  152. Ryan

    As usual, fantastic! I’ve had a million and one bridge jobs and have always felt a bit ashamed. Thanks for the kind kick in the rump to remind me there’s nothing at all to be embarrassed of and to keep doing what I’m doing 🙂

  153. Now my problem with a bridge job is it can be draining. I worked as a part time dancer/dance instructor/yoga instructor/health coach and I found it draining. These part time bridge jobs burn me out. They did add many lifestyles that has been totally worth wild.

    But for me, I find setting the fire for myself with the freedom of my schedule without the stress of keeping the bridge jobs afloat has been a safer choice. Instead I have cut my expenses and I am living as minimal as possible.

    Currently, I am in the process of my 4th season for my annual Earth Day event Trashion Fashion Show (Hartford/DC/NYC)and creating a Benefit Corporation with my sustainable event planning company Sweet Collaborations.

    I needed more freedom and space for my creative process and time for clarity. The money will come.

    • Jen

      Amy, I posted a similar comment and I’m glad I found yours. I think with a bridge job that has to do with putting yourself aside and focusing on others’ health issues can be “draining” too consuming. Because I’ve been in the natural health industry for most of my life, I’ve wanted to break away from that completely to do something creative, self expressive, rather than helping others. It’s a completely different focus…. If only I could get a job waitressing. No one would hire me because of my education and experience.

  154. Hello Marie,
    I’ve been subscribing to your Q & A Tuesdays for a couple of months now and they are so helpful! I especially liked this one about taking on a Bridge Job! I’ve been feeling so guilty thinking about working a side job because I feel like all my energy should go to getting my business off the ground (I have one partner). But, if you are worried about your mortgage… it’s hard to concentrate or feel motivated. I think all your thoughts on the positives of a bridge job are right on! Thanks for this one and for being so inspiring and happy.

    Sheila

  155. I started a boutique a few years ago from the ground up – I had a lot of confidence in myself that I could pull it off and used my own money to fund it. My husband & I both worked there full time and it was a success. However, when we decided to relocate and close our shop, I changed professions to an Organizing Consultant and did marketing on the side to fill in the gaps. I feel much more confident with my “day job” to fall back on during the slow times and to fund all of the fun things I need to expand on my blog/website, etc. ~ Renee

  156. You are pretty funny in this episode Marie!

    Anyways, I guess that the point number 6 is actually one of the most important reasons in there – that you don’t have to look desperate in getting sales for your business, if you do have a bridge job, and thus be able to more comfortably do what you do, without looking too needy in the process.

  157. Who doesn’t love a good BJ?! 😉
    Just like Marie, my waitressing gig has helped me pay for training, invest in myself, hire a designer for my website, promote my business, and take B-school!
    Now that things are picking up and I have clients and money coming in…I’m moving close to transitioning into full-time coaching, but I would not have been able to do this without money coming in for the past year.
    Also it seems very true that the busier I am, the busier I am. With hyper focus I get so much done!

  158. Elisha

    Marie,
    This video hits close to home. Been attending a school for the last few months that is amazing, Institute for Integrative Nutrition! I spent the last five years looking for a school like this. I quite my 45 hour/week job that was stressful and overwhelming with little pay. Found two great part time jobs that offer better quality work, more pay and I’ll be working less hours to focus on school and getting my business launched. The two jobs will also offer great training in health/wellness and business/ entrepreneurship. And… my boyfriend and I just moved into a brand new beautifully designed one bedroom. I have been doing personal growth workshops since I was 18 (I will be 26 this weekend!!!) and I am just starting to see that all the yuck that I have been letting go of and all the ‘work’ (completing w/ people from my past, nourishment and gratitude) I have been doing really does compound over time. Feeling so blessed. Thank you Marie for your inspiration to keep moving forward and believing in myself. XO

  159. I’ve been a stay at home mother for 10 years. I started my company in 2008 after my divorce. Writing is my passion, as well as helping people find their purpose and follow their dreams.

    Recently I had to take on a part-time job to keep everything working. At first I was embarrassed and felt like a failure, but this job has been such a great experience for me! First of all the company totally works around my schedule with my children (this is HUGE!). It’s a high end clothing store that has been a landmark in our beautiful city for about 100 years selling Armani, Hugo Boss, Basler, Dennis Merotto etc. When I am working there, I am doing much more than selling clothes…I am building relationships, I am networking, I am building an amazing wardrobe one piece at a time (bonus!) and I am more determined to work daily on my business more than ever!

    This is the first time I have heard of this term “Bridge Job” and I love it!! Thank you for sharing this! Have an excellent day!!

    Gwen

  160. Jen

    Thanks for your honesty Marie! My challenge is that my bridge job takes a lot of time away from the business creation. I’ve been in this situation for several years torn between the two. I’m a therapist & health coach and so work with people personally. I consider this my bridge job because although I love it and great at it, I know it can not sustain me and my growth. I want to make my business remote & passive, but my bridge job takes too much precedence and time. I wonder if I’m the type who should just put myself in a swim or sink situation?

    • Oh Jen, I feel you! I took on a few clients to have that BJ but in all honesty – it was completely robbing time and energy from me that I could put into my business. There is a very fine line and it’s so hard to find that balance. I ended up firing my clients completely and just left a very part time BJ that I absolutely love. It just energizes me even more. I do have a husband who puts food on the table and a roof over our heads so my situation might be different from yours. Whatever you do – don’t quit. Hustle hard, and smart – success is around the corner!

  161. In my case I am supporting myself and my business with a healthy but dwindling investment portfolio that I accumulated while I was working for other people. I often debate getting a bridge job to keep money coming in and I really like the learning and social aspects as well. Yet in my experience it takes so much work to get a mediocre job in my area. I’d rather spend my time and energy on my business waiting for the big payoff rather than get lost in a pool of applicants and face rejection for a position that my heart is just not set on. If I had a bridge job, I would keep it. But as long as I have another way to make ends meet, I will keep pursuing my dream business.

  162. My b-job is using my b-school training! I am doing business and marketing strategy for a yoga teacher, which I had no clue about before doing B-School this year. I am learning so much by implementing the principles outlined in that training for HER business, which is farther along than my own. All that knowledge will pay off when my biz takes off.

  163. I love how you always have a term for everything! I have a BJ! Actually – it’s not even considered as a BJ because it’s I’m practicing my speaking skills and it’s moving me forward. Having that extra cash that I can invest into my business feels so so good! Thank you Marie for another great episode! xoxo

  164. Marie,
    This video came just 24hrs after a very difficult night. I actually realized, I must make that exact decision to get a BJ in order to keep funding my business. Thank you, for sharing and helping me to feel less shame and more empowered. Bringing in some funds will keep me excited about my business again, instead of just giving up and not knowing what to do. The funds will provide what’s needed to make my vision come to life. You rule!!

  165. This is a very timely video. I have one business that is phasing out, mostly due to the economy and partly due to wanting something new to focus on. So I have gone back to my art roots and have been very fortunate that my work has been selling, even though it has only been a few months. I do however recognize that i need more money than i have at present. It is hard to be creative when you are using up a lot of energy worrying about paying the rent. So your video encouraged me to get out there and find that bridge job…for the money but also for the creative stimulation of being out in the world and meeting new people!
    thanks Marie!

  166. Crystal Howard

    This video inspired me to answer the question that’s been pondering my mind, do I get experience and work for someone or go in my own on the side. I’ve had a hard time deciding but now this has helped me go for it on the side, my current job has inspired my side business idea to flourish and make my event planning biz unique, being exposed to so many new vendors I’m meeting through my current job helping create unique aspect to the service I plan to offer!

  167. Kacie

    TOTALLY needed to hear this today.

    I’ve been working my BJ for almost two months. I was sure that I would be able to set up my coaching business and run within three months. Hasn’t happened. So my new husband (as of two weeks ago) said – get out there and make some cash! We have four kids and we paid for our wedding! We’re broke!

    Anyway, lighting my fire once again and moving closer to being a coach. One day at a time. And still earning a very small paycheck to keep my man satisfied (well that’s PART of how I keep him satisfied) and my kids fed. 🙂

  168. My favorite part about this video is the “real” you dish out! Sharing that you had a BJ for 7 years let’s us self deprecating fools realize it takes time! Thank you for the honesty Marie.

  169. I love hearing about your journey, especially the reassurance that not every amazing, successful person has it happen FAST. I have been feeling really resentful about my bridge job lately, and this was just the perspective I needed. THANK YOU!

  170. Christine

    Thanks for sharing this Marie. I LOVE you sense of humour.

    I am in a situation where I have a university degree and had the best job in my field. Then I was in a car accident and have not been able to work for a very long time. I have enrolled in your B-School this coming up March (very excited). In my situation I am looking to create a business I love because I am unable physically to do the job I used to do (which breaks my heart). I don’t think that I will be able to take on any bridge jobs. I have learned in your live in the moment -booty camp…..that everything is exactly as it should be at this moment, so I am slowly wrapping my head around that 🙂

  171. This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear! I’m at moment at my life of where I need a bridge job to keep a roof over my head, but I felt so ashamed and felt like such a failure because I wasn’t able to get my own business off the ground right away.

    I’ve been at the old routine of sending resumes and updating my résumé. I’ve been hating it, but now the idea of it doesn’t sound so bad. THANK YOU SOO MUCH for this video!

  172. Monique

    Interestingly enough, I work on call at a crisis center and would come back so burnt out that I had nothing left to build my biz. My health isn’t what it used to be. Since I am married, I’ve decided to quit my BJ and to spend the next 6 months going crazy to build my biz. Now, instead of coming home from a stressful day at the office, I’m sitting at my laptop for up to 10 hours a day. It’s only been a week, but I’m more pumped and hopeful and feel more in control of my future than I ever have. If someone has the health for it, the security of a BJ is a great idea. It was costing me my biz. Probably because I’m over 50.

  173. I’m still in the day job ,because my ‘new’ job isn’t really a business yet. So I think what I took away from your video Marie, is that it’s OK to build things up slowly. I know I’ve considered stopping my Blog several times over the past year, because I feel I’m not achieving anything. Truth is, I am making strides, just slowly. It would have felt even slower if I wasn’t bringing in any money with my bridge job, and I really would have had to ditch the Blog. That’s where you came in Marie, because although I can’t afford B School, I can take your ideas and research them, and do it in my own time at my own pace. If I implement something and it doesn’t catch on as quickly as I’d like, so what?

  174. So on point about having a bridge job. It helps you concentrate on providing great service to your clients as opposed to letting your desperation for income come across in your meetings.

  175. A truly valuable piece…. so many folks struggle with how to go about designing and living the life they love. The ‘conventional wisdom’ is that one has to ‘burn the boats.’ But this so often leads to stress and frustration and disillusionment… and failure. The support of a good ‘BJ’ allows the space to nurture one’s dreams and allow them to grow organically. Our best lives take time to grow… Thank you for speaking this truth.

  176. My BJ is acting work. While I’m building my coaching business, radio show on BlogTalk and creating workshops I take on background extra work or commercials. Just played a lawyer last week on The Good Wife and met up with another actor on set who actually used to direct me on ‘As the World Turns’. “Turns” out.she’s taking a class in video editing and production and presently I am interested in creating videos of my coaching. I shared what I was up to recently (coaching with the angels) and she’s totally interested in interviewing me one of her videos.

  177. I love your dress!

  178. Thank you Marie,
    I turned down my bridgeJob because of that exact reason thinking I was a failure, however a month later They called me back and said, are you shore you don’t want to work for us! So I took it, And i am so happy for my decision, and totally right, I am learning so much and observing every day, and meeting and networking with so many awesome people.
    Thank you again,
    With Love
    Philippa.

  179. Marie this is awesome.

    While I don’t have a BJ I have integrated two very different parts of my life. Through the tools I teach in my coaching practice I created the job of my dreams – cruise ship dancing.

    Its awesome, I do what I love and am practically paid to drink on the beach 😉 which also leaves me tons of free time to work my business – how does it get any better than that?

  180. I decided to start my own business as a Wedding Planner & Designer three years ago, and I still have my BJ. I can´t mention how much this BJ had helped me to build the business that I want and love, financially speaking. But sometimes I feel so desperate, because I have so many things to do and I don´t want to concentrate in my BJ and I´m constantly thinking “Am I ever going to take the leap?” I want it so badly that I feel frustrated and stuck! I just can´t leave my job until my Buz give me at least the same money that my BJ does, but I know that is not going to happen until I work full time on my Buz.. What can I do?

  181. Marie,

    I actually had a dream with you in it last night, I bumped into you at the library and you were all dolled up with your glitter eyeliner. We became fast friends as I know we would 🙂 and this morn I get an email that you will be at event that I am attending – premonition? i think so 🙂

    So now getting to the topic at hand, just like with all BJ’s I think it depends on whether you like them or not and who you are giving of yourself to 🙂

    Some BJ’s may hold you back and some may serve you.

    I was a hardcore overachiever with lots of letters behind my name and in the academic world at the same gig for 10 years. When I finally woke up by almost losing my son (my angel) I realize how much I was blocking nourishment to my soul by settling for work that did not fill me and therefore blocked nourishment to my son (why he was born severely underweight and was s preemie).

    I was the sole bread winner for my family but I literally quit my job with no plan ( I know not everyone can or needs to do that) but I personally had to make rooms for miracles and it worked!

    Within 3 weeks my husband (who did not work for 7 years and was a stay at home dad) got a job in his field ( with benefits – my biggest fear) and a program I started at a clinic got a contract to get paid for after 10 years of me doing it for free (kid you not)

    I negotiated a 20 hour work week and in less than a year, have knocked the same job down to 8 hours with double pay by just shifting my own self worth. So I went from getting paid nothing to quite a bit for doing the same things as I step into my life mission and grow my own business.

    Sometimes a BJ helps but sometimes it just keeps you small. Just like with anything else – you need to know yourself and your patterns to understand what will give you what you REALLY want (because that is what you are supposed to have)!

    Thanks for letting me share….
    sweta
    http://www.drsweta.com

  182. Pam

    Marie,
    I definitely need to hear this, sometimes I resent my bridge job because I have to work so hard at it, but it does provide good income and benefits so it’s a must for my family. I felt embarrassed about it for a long time, but I realize there are so many other health coaches that have bridge jobs as well. I may have this bridge job for a long time depending on my family needs but you’re right, it does make me more productive when I have time to work my coaching career.
    Thank you for the perspective as always!
    xoxo,
    Pam 🙂

  183. Cassie

    Thanks Marie! I needed this one, very timely for me. My issue is similar but my bridge job has been my career for >18 years. I’m in a position of high authority and proud of my journey; however my passion is evolving elsewhere. I am developing my new company and looking to launch next year, but debating on how to tell my current company. It’s not competitive in fact its quite a departure of industry; but it gives me pause this could be a risk in losing my ‘bridge job’ and forward potential I had in my current company. It’s not what I want long term, but I still enjoy it and the safety financial blanket for me and family is nice. Any advice to share?

  184. Im currently building my coaching practice and I have a great BJ. I work as an executive assistant for a financial advising firm. The best part of it is I am virtual! Yeppers i work from home so it make building my own biz easier.

    I also love to garden so for extra money I would “play in my neighbors dirt” haha! . Its play for me cuz i love it, not to mention good therapy and they end up with a beautiful yard. It was a total win win.

    Thank for this message it came at a good time as i was considering ditching my BJ so i could build my coaching biz more. But after watching this vid I feel more relaxed about keeping it and I realize how lucky I truly am to work for some amazing business men.

  185. Thank you Marie for this video. I can totally relate. I took the summer off to work on building my business with no other job and I had a really difficult time getting things done. Since I took an evening job at a restaurant I’ve been able to utilize my time much better and have more focus on energy in building my nutrition consulting business.

  186. Great video! I scrubbed toilets – the pure fear of having to do it long term spurred me on to work harder on my business so it was the perfect “BJ”!

  187. Excellent video, Marie! I’m an experienced hip-hop dancer and life coach (just like you!) but not big and famous like you (yet). 🙂 I had a crappy but great-paying bridge job that allowed me to get a fancy website up and running with an active client base. I’m also a food journalist (like Food Babe) who loves to blog about my experiences and share recipes of all the foods we love using healthier ingredients.

    Well, I just got laid off from my crappy day job and have 3 months to fully focus on developing my businesses. Then I will need another bridge job or two to keep me afloat until the businesses take over. Only this time, I will supplement my coaching, book publishing, and films with bridge jobs I enjoy more, like teaching hip-hop and working in the food industry (maybe write a food column for a magazine?).

    Thank you so much again for the great advice and encouragement!!

  188. I agree and on another point I’m finding it a bit tricky to navigate whether the bridge job should be in a different area to your business. Right now I can’t ethically talk to clients at my bridge job openly about my own business because it’s in the same field and I do not want to steal them away ( oh but how I would do a much better job lol) And I remember my painting teacher at art school saying don’t do a creative job if you’re an artist, save it for your art. So that’s my predicament right now. As much as I love people I dislike selling ‘products’ in commercial stores and when I waitressed for 6 months I never cried more in my life. So when I’m disengaged, I can’t fake it. Has anyone else been in a similar dilemma ? Thoughts appreciated 🙂

  189. I loved this video and I am glad I am not the only one working a bridge job! Btw I did not even know there was a term for what I was doing in the first place. I just started as a real estate sales assistant a few weeks back and so far I really enjoy it. Not only do I get to witness what it’s like to run a business from home but I also get to learn skills I know I would not get from a corporate environment. This job actually motivates me to work harder on what I want to build which is something other jobs never did for me!

  190. Hey there Marie

    I love your weekly posts and always get something positive from what you say. I have a bridge job at present as a Psychotherapist but have recently launched a new business and an App called Change Your Vibe which is due in AppStore this week – Exciting! 🙂

    I found your post today very timely, as I have noticed myself in the past week feeling less than enthusiastic and this was the kick in the butt I needed to remain grateful for my BJ whilst I’m building my new biz.

    There’s just one thing though, I’d just like to let you know that, no disrespect to the men out there, but I prefer my growth hormone to be ovarian! 🙂 In my business, I’m always telling my female clients to grow their ovaries. We can embrace our power as women and not become pseudo men.

    Love ya heaps
    Odette

  191. Courtney

    This was a great video. I have a question: I want to move to a new location and start a wellness center there. Is it a good BJ to get work in the location in OTHER people’s wellness centers, so I have time to scope out the scene? And then after about 6 months launch my OWN center?
    Thanks,
    Courtney

  192. Courtney

    Also, do you give any scholarships to attend B-school??

  193. Ah! The BJ! Although I am a top income earner at the top rank of my direct sales company, I got burned out & lost touch with reality…which in turn greatly affected my business. My emerging myself into the corporate world, I quickly realized WHY I loved my freedom and business in the first place. I know I can do anything for a short period of time, I learned a lot, and I found my mojo. I highly recommend a BJ when you need a shot of reality and motivation!!!

  194. I’ve got two bridge jobs and I’m not ashamed of it! Marie is completely right that having extra jobs while I build my business is a great way to meet contacts. I’ve even made a few sales that way. Thankfully, I have bosses who understand that I have a life outside of their job, and on days that are slow, I am able to write blog articles, write emails, and promote my biz on social media. I love having the security to afford what I need in my business, and while I don’t see this lasting forever, I know that I am slowly but surely building a business that will support me full-time. The most important thing for me is to set clear boundaries (like being clear with my bosses that I can only work four days per week) so I can still work on my business tasks.

  195. Marie, sou sua fã. Assisto todos os episódios. Fiquei tão empolgada com o seu programa que criei um também, que vai ao ar no Brasil toda terça-feira. O nome é Marcia Luz TV e procuro fazer o mais parecido possível com o seu modelo pois considero fabuloso. Assista o episódio de hoje: http://marcialuz.com.br/blog/salvador-perseguidor-e-vitima-desmonte-o-jogo-ou-ele-desmonta-sua-equipe/ E qualquer semelhança com o seu programa NÃO terá sido mera coincidência!

  196. Wow. This video is hitting home for me today, Marie. I have been an entreprenuer for as long as I’m alive. This time around, I want to do it from the heart and soul. (Inspired by you) No rush, solely derive from inspiration and creative wildness.

    As an entrepruners for many yeas, I’ve learn that one of major reason why businesses fail is that they lack of capital, to hire adequate help and supporting growth. That is why I recently took a “BJ” as a application developer to the very same reasons what you mentioned in this video. Although coming to work seem like a drag at time, but it’s not all that bad like most people think. You have a sence of accomplishment. You feel special because you are needed by the organization hire you, and yes, you get to meet awesome proffessionals in the industry.

    As long as I constantly remind myself my true purpose and learn as much as I can from my “BJ” and connect to as much sources as I able to, my business will flourish soon enough.

    Thanks again, Marie for all that you do, and be our voice about the important subject matter that affecting our lives yet often overlook it.

    Many blessing,
    Vanessa

  197. It’s so great to hear someone acknowledging the importance of being supported – yes, some people thrive in a sink or swim environment, and this is often glorified as the only way to go if you’re serious. As someone who tried quitting my corporate job and ended up in a lot of debt when I couldn’t pay rent or buy groceries, I can’t speak highly enough about my bridge job.

    Now I’m working three days a week back in the corporate world, which is enough to cover my rent and other expenses, and I also have the time and freedom to build my business on my days off 🙂

  198. Hi Marie, this was so timely for me! I started my perfect bridge job yesterday, working two days a week at a health charity. My business is health and wellness coaching so there’s a great synergy. I had hoped that my corporate job would bridge me, working part time, but it was just too tiring and stressful. This new job will give me the perfect balance of doing enjoyable work, making connections and leaving me enough time and energy for business development. Thanks x

  199. Maybe I’m the only one here, but I despise jobs, I really do… I consider myself pretty much certifiably unemployable…I have applied to jobs recently because people have made me feel like that’s what I should do for the “steady income” until I “get on my feet”…but I always secretly hope I don’t get the job….

    I don’t like “supervisors” and their ” I’m the boss, you’re the servant…I mean employee” attitudes, they pay usually any much more than I can earn on my own working from home…. I value having control over my own time and prefer to maintain my 1099 status where I get to choose who I want to work with, when I work with them and at what rate I work with them….and the key phrase is work WITH them, not FOR them….

    When I’m sick, I can be sick and take the time I need to better myself, work when I can from home and rest when I need it… same for if my child is sick, I’m not asking someone if I can go home to take care of them or rushing around trying to find someone to be with him…

    …Yes, it means things are really tight as I’m building my business and independent gigs don’t come in as fast, but I just can’t see giving away 5,6,7 hours of my day for $8 – $9 an hour, when I can be focusing those hours into my work at home and average about the same earnings per hour or more…I still have other responsibilities to my child and to myself and for me having a job is just another responsibility on the pile, another stress on my mind and another demand on my time.

    • Leanne Richards-Williams

      I know your story and share the exact sentiment when I left my steady job to chase the dream of working at home. And God be praise: the dream came through!

      But please note whether at home or in a cubicle: a bridge job is a “bridge” job -j–it’s there just to get you connected with your potential reality.

      So like me, you realize it’s more productive to work from home and on your biz…. so to hell with OPEs (other people’s expectations) and chart the course you know will enhance your talents and bless those around you!

      All the best. <3

    • Hi Unique, you’re doing a great job. I think the point of the BJ is to generate income while building your business. If you are working your business from home and it generates income that you’re satisfied with, mission accomplished. Some folks don’t spend focused time on their business each day, the same as they would at a j-o-b where they clock in and are expected to work. If you work your business each day, then congrats to you. And besides, if you work your business this way now, then you notice you need revenue rather than time you can always give the outside bj a try. Namaste

  200. OK I knew there was just somethin’ bout ya gurl! 1st of all we talk alike, I’m a snarky girl and love me some hip hop…which brings me to my new found discovery about YOU! My daughter is also PRO hip hop dancer, lives with an actor (Hi Josh!), and works 3 bj’s (bridge jobs) in L.A. to sock away money to start her own hip hop fashion brand. She works for Melody Ehsani, at Comme Ca and CUT (Wolfgang’s new place in BH). She is you! Sending her your goodies now, to get her even more motivated! Can’t tell ya how much I LOVE me some MarieTV, xo

  201. Marie, I cannot explain how perfectly timed this post was for me today!! I have just moved to Portland from Chicago because my fiancé is starting a master’s program here. I came here without a job lead, but was excited because one of my old friends said he might be able to get me a full-time writer position (hellz yes!) with his company and in the meantime I could be a freelance writer while he worked out the logistics.

    The freelance compensation was wayyy less than ideal, but I had faith that a good offer would come of it so I figured I could deal for a couple weeks. Today I got the offer and the pay was…the same per piece of writing (just with the promise of a certain number of assignments per month)! I told the company that my writing was worth more than what they were offering and asked if we could negotiate. They basically laughed in my face!

    So here I am feeling worthless, defeated, and doubting my own abilities. I was panicking because I don’t have a backup plan and I need money to survive, but I don’t want to compromise my worth. I jumped on craigslist and applied for every job available (that I could feasibly do) and was immediately contacted for a FT cafe position. Again, I was unhappy because this wasn’t what I wanted to do in my heart.

    I jumped to my reader to catch up on some blog posts from the inspirational people I follow and yours jumped right out at me telling me GIRL, TAKE THAT JOB! YOU CAN BUILD UP YOUR FREELANCE WRITING ON THE SIDE! So, I think I will 🙂

    Thanks Marie!!

  202. Been there, done that. MANY times. HATE day jobs. I am not the kind of personality that fits in well in “corporate”. I’m Stone Cold Steve Austin with the WWF Championship while Vince McMahon keeps trying to “mould” Austin into the “corporate champion”.

    Unfortunately, my business requires a LOT of capital up-front. So, you suck it up, and you do it, while you do the work that needs to be done. It blows. Without a doubt. Never had a day job I was “happy” with. It’s the necessary evil.

    I also probably screwed up by trying to do things with ONLY the business for a while, and it hurt, because I wouldn’t do the equally necessary paperwork that went along with it, treating the biz as a hobby every so often. Those days are DONE. My focus is to hold down the day gig as long as need be, but make sure every other waking moment is spent making this business a success, with the ultimate goal of being able to get the hell out of the day gig.

  203. This was great and encouraging! And at the right time. I am currently working my BJ and I have to keep reminding myself that this is part of my journey and only one stepping stone to getting me where I know I’m supposed to be! Thank you!

  204. i JUST decided to take on a bridge job.. it’s pretty perfect for me at the moment. I’ve been reeking of desperation because I have such high expectations just starting out AND need investors to accomplish many of the projects I have planned. But I avoided investors for the exact reason you mentioned.. I am a bootstrapper through & through. I was feeling a tinge of guilt for not being able to support myself, but now I recognize the hidden treasures of having a bridge job. This is such a timely, fabulously-made video. Thank the stars you grace this world with your gifts Marie ♥

  205. In 3 days I finish my 14 month BJ! Replacing someone on mat leave. Can you say busy and lack of sleep??! However, so many huge benefits!!! I completely changed my mentality around money I used to be so stuck in poverty consiousness “There is not enough money” was my constant mantra, Now it is “Wow, look at alll the different sources of money I have coming in from so many places, and there is always amore money coming in.” Prosperity consiousness, Priceless!!! And yes, the extra cash has allowed me to pay off my credit card, join 2 networking groups, and hire a totoally kick ass coach to skyrocket my business. My Naturopath business is taking off big time! Havign a BJ was very challenging, as I worked 40 hours in my BJ, and nights and wknds growing my own biz, but I am really reaping the rewards.

    • Leanne Richards-Williams

      I like your story Sue-Ann. I too had poverty consciousness but the more I embrace the “My-Father-is-rich-in-houses-and-lands” thinking I am better off.

      Someone once said to me that money is a wild horse that cannot be tamed…Just let it do the work for you (at least the work you are not able to do yourself – I would add).

      🙂

      • Thanks Leanne,

        I`ve never heard of that expression, but actually my father is rich in houses and lands, although he has never helped me out 🙂 Interesting, I also teach yoga and with meditation we say that the mind is like a wild horse that takes time to be tamed, best, Sue-Anne

        • Leanne Richards-Williams

          lol. 😀 Interesting indeed. And no coincidence either.

  206. Maria

    Hi Marie, and everyone in this forum. Thank you so much for bringing to the table such an illuminating topic.
    Every time I get surprised of what a great timing your videos have, exactly when I´m in front of that particular dilemma.

    Well, I have a BJ that has nothing to do with what I´ve studied or done before, sometimes even the language used there (lawyers) is soooo different form creative business.
    But, trying to get away from the boredom I sometimes feel of seeing so many WORD documents with no color on them, I decided to search for a niche inside that job. I found a great niche, a great way of selling to them without the expenses of a formal shop, and I´m getting tons of marketing data, consumer´s habits, etc.. while making some more money.

    If I didn´t have this BJ I would probably wake up at 12:00 am, loose 3 hours on social media, and get extra weight and depressed.

    So I totally agree, being busy, socialising with different people, gives you more ideas, boosts your creativity and you make more.
    I kind of call it the recess phenomena: after 5 boring hours of class, you headed off to recess with your energy at the top!!!

  207. Marie! One year ago September, I left my job to pursue a side business. I had complete support from my husband (he’s amazing) but unfortunately after 3 months the business wasn’t producing the way we needed it too. So, after some not-so-easy conversations I picked up a part time retail position. I remember being sooo embarrassed! You see, I had left a good paying engineering position to become a customer sales rep at a bridal store.

    Your post has given me so much joy! I always knew there were people in my position, but I never considered my simple part-time jobs to be bridge jobs while I pursue my dreams and passions! I am now working as a server for a brunch restaurant. This schedule is great for me because I am up early and out of the restaurant by 3:30pm at the latest. I get more done before 6pm than I ever have before. Another positive is that my relationships with the important people in my life have improved significantly! I have more time to spend where I need to instead of where I had to (at the office).

    Thank you for putting a positive spin on what I once was ashamed of and embarrassed about! I have only followed you for a couple weeks & you have already inspired me so much!

    Blessings, Laurie

  208. Kerry Doyle

    Hi Marie,

    I am all about the bridge jobs while I start my business!! I have a tremendous amount of financial responsibility on my shoulders to support my family so I have several bridge jobs at once. How do you balance the demands of the bridge jobs and the time needed to start your business without becoming exhausted and emotionally depleted? Would you structure your day that you work on your business ideas before you go to your bridge job so you are fresh? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks!!

  209. Dana Williams

    Marie,
    Have you been reading my mail? Your “finally” comment at the end made me burst into tears!
    I just accepted my bridge job this week. I keep trying to remind myself of positive reasons and ways it benefits me. The comments you made are exactly the things nagging at me. Thanks for the validation! Also, thanks for some new points to add to my benefits list.
    Can we please start B-School next week? March is way too far away! 😉
    Dana

  210. My bridge job helped me fund my website, and other promotional materials to help me launch my biz! I worked at a restaurant for 2 years & now i’m working for a small social media firm. At first, I wanted to do only my business, but I quickly realized the only way for me to sustain & fund it was for me to work somewhere else until the profit rolls in. I met a lot of people on my job who have helped me with my biz!

    I too am figuring out how to balance it all – but i’m always more productive when I’ve got a million things going on so hopefully nothing will suffer!

    Thanks for this timely post, it was the confidence booster I needed to work hard and move forward!! 🙂

  211. Erika Avellaneda Celis

    Currently, I work as a waitress in an awesome restaurant. It keeps me motivated and since I start at 5pm I have literally all day to work on my business! Thanks Marie for this video, it just solidifies what I am doing.

  212. Over the past four years, I’ve worked several jobs, usually together, while building my photography and photography consulting business. At one point, I was working retail at the Apple Store, customer service for a software company and juggling the other two businesses. Oh, and I have a daughter (now 4.5 years old) and my husband had a stroke almost 3 years ago. So I’ve been mother, father, caretaker and breadwinner.

    Just 3 weeks ago, I am proud to say that I am now no longer working a bridge job and it is SO SCARY. But I’m here and SO PROUD. But I am also so proud to say that I’ve done what I’ve done and what I’ve been through.

  213. This is an encouraging video. I part time nanny and am beginning a photography business. You made some really good points about how a BJ can help take the desperation feeling for clients away.

  214. Marie,

    You nailed it for me today! I am in an AWESOME sales job while building The Irreverent Sales Girl.

    I have come to realize that the REASON people LOVE The Irreverent Sales Girl is that I am actually someone who sells!

    I sell by day, and fight sales crimes by night.

    I am right now in the middle of working with my company to find ways that The Irreverent Sales Girl can be a full-blown business WHILE I keep selling for them!

    I love a good BJ! (And I’m really good at it!)

    Thank you for this video.

    Love it UP!

    The Irreverent Sales Girl

  215. For the past year I was working part-time in a national marketing role, but found my dream of owning my own business became side-lined as I became more and more involved in my job. I packed it in and two weeks later got my first client and through some local networking I’m slowly building my biz to become a super-biz!! Now my bridge job is looking after my kiddies…which I should be doing right now!! Love you Marie, heart, heart!

  216. Thank you for your impeccable timing! I have been getting wrapped up in the stress of my BJ and have only just begun to refocus on my coaching. This reminded me of the benefits of my BJ and not look at it as a burden.

    I have to say that my BJ has helped me feel comfortable in setting my rates as a coach. I know the going rates as a coach and the teeny insecure voice whispers to me, but then I am reminded of my years of studying and paying attention to the fitness industry and knowing the value of my time. Our time is precious and having the security of my BJ makes it easier to stand in my truth and know my personal value and what I have to offer.

  217. I like it ‘nice & slow’. The most memorable BJ’s came unexpectedly. I am talking about ‘Bridge Jobs’! Just watch out for the trap of getting stuck in a rut, where all your time and energy is spent on your ‘regular’ job and you have nothing left over to pursue your passion. I remember doing a photo shoot for a magazine ad (I was in front of the camera, not behind it) for a home security advertisement in an upscale home design magazine. It was a long day (Saturday), but, we had a catered breakfast and lunch and I also got to see how the Art Director, photographers and clients interacted. I also got $500.00 for the day. Not all BJ’s are that great, though.

  218. Thanks for this video Marie.
    Just 3 weeks ago I started a bridge job. This video confirms that I did the right thing. I am less stressed out now and not desperate.

    Damayanthi

  219. I completely understand that people want to have a side job as a “back-up”, and I tried that too for a few months.

    However, I found that because of that job I wasn’t able to put 100% into my dream job, and I didn’t work hard enough because I had something to fall back on.

    Once I quit that job I suddenly HAD TO MAKE IT WORK because there was NO BACKUP whatsoever.

    Sure, this put a lot of stress on me, but I believe that things always work out one way or another, and sure enough I came through it in the end.

    I believe that if I hadn’t had the courage to leave, it would have taken me far longer to get where I am today.

  220. Bindu

    Hi Marie, I love how all your videos seem to talk directly to me. (Er, and of course, a million others but primarily me) I am currently in the process of launching my estore and received a job offer that I know I can deliver on, but wondered whether accepting it would mean I was copping out and losing focus. I am already doing a freelance gig for a company, and they pay very well and so, I wondered whether I could juggle three gigs and do justice to all. I feel confident now that I can. (Note to inner voice: Marie could, so why can’t you? *wags finger*)
    Initially the idea of doing a bridge job was embarrassing and that was the biggest part holding me back but I came around to the idea pretty soon. Your video just affirmed my faith in the power of bridge jobs. A very warm thank you from India!

  221. Milena

    Hi Marie, thanks for the great insights. The specific insight I’m taking away from today’s episode is that “So many people are embarrassed and feel shame about their bridge jobs. As though you’re a “failure” if your business isn’t fully supporting you — yet. That’s a load of horse crap.“ I’m building my business, making some money but still not enough to support my life and I really feel as a “failure” because of that. And I know this is stupid, but sometimes I really have difficulties to talk about my business because of that – as if people will ask me how much money I make and judge for my business and me based on that. And when friends ask me if its going ok and it is still not the way I want I really feel embarrassed and this makes me even not wanting to talk about the my business. Like I first need to be successful and then I could talk about it, but in the same time if nobody knows what I do than how is the business supposed to grow. So thanks for sharing that there are other people feeling like that and that it is a load of horse crap. I am working already to change my thinking.

  222. As always, spot on!

    When I started my business, I quit my demanding ad agency job and took a much easier 9 – 5 corporate job (still doing the same thing: writing). It took me about 6 months to meet my financial and growth goals and launch into the business from there. I’m sooo glad I didn’t jump in with both feet in that case, as financial stresses would have taken away from the time I spent seeking out new clients, networking, etc.

    Now, I’m making another career transition, but this time – with a bigger bank account and more experience in business and life – I’m jumping in without much of a bridge. And just like last time it felt so right to have that bridge job, this time it feels so right to just leap off the edge.

    Thanks for putting so many smart tips out into the world.

  223. Thanks Marie,

    Getting my online program to a higher level has been my goal, but it wasn’t until I took again a bridge job in consulting, that boosted my efficacy so that the program is getting ready in no time 🙂 Thanks for pointing that out – now I can “enjoy” the bridge job and know that my own business is taking leaps at the same time…
    Brilliant!

  224. Hey Marie,
    Loving this post today, it’s so good to reframe the bridge job in such a positive way. I wrote a post on this a while ago, called why self employment makes you and breaks you, where I recalled explaining to friends about my new business whilst cleaning a pub floor 🙂
    (http://dexterousdiva.co.uk/2012/01/05/why-self-employment-makes-you-and-breaks-you/)

    Thanks so much for the inspiration as always x

  225. Natalie

    …I really needed to hear that. Thank you so much!!!! You are such a inspiration for me.

    xox

  226. THANKS MARIE!!! This is so so so so important for new entrepreneurs to know! It took me 3 years to get to the place where I was okay with having a bridge job and it is so nice to have this reminder 🙂

  227. Thanks for this great insight! I have long held to the value of a bridge job and have been using one help me to build my businesses since I began my business five years ago. It definitely has given me peace of mind, confidence, and has actually helped me be a more effective entrepreneur because as you say. I don’t stink of desperation! I can actually have fun and enjoy building my business rather than being desperate for survival.

    I don’t plan to be at my BJ forever of course, but it has been such a blessing in so many ways. I’m a single mom of two kids and the steady income of my BH has helped take the pressure off so I can be both a better mom AND a better business person. Thanks for normalizing the BJ for me!

  228. 2 years ago I found 2 great things Marie Forleo and a great place to start my new business TRX TrainStation. I watched all Marie’s video and built a great business from the ground up. I kept my expenses really low by using a great resource for a space to work through a connection I had. Now my space has been rented out leaving me S.O.L. However the gym renting the space has promised to hire me (cause they love me) or the money they see me brining in. I am stuck. Do I sell out all my hard work??!! or get a bridge job BJ and keep going on my own. It can be a cold lonely world out there on your own sometimes. Thanks Marie for all the great videos and passion you put in to them.

  229. I’ve thought about getting a BJ to help with the bills, but as I was watching the video I realized my business IS my bridge job! I started my business three years ago and its doing OK, but I’ve recently decided I want to take it in a different direction. So, while I’m working on my new business model, the old one helps support us.

  230. I’ve tried 2 ways. My first business I built with a bridge job as an event designer,while gigging on the side. It was nuts and difficult to find balance or real energy and inspiration. I had to dig deep because I was tired and it was challenging to have a steady business. But you do what you have to do to quit your day job. It’s doable.
    My second business building an Arbonne organization was a different experience. The system and tools were all in place with this turn key business, so I could just start generating cash flow and it didn’t require nearly as much time. I knew my goals and had mentors who could show me how long it would take to reach them and what I needed to do. With this time frame, my husband and I could plan financially, and so while I built, he took on the financial responsibilities and we depended on one income while my income was reinvested back into my business or became extra money. Now that we have financial security in my business, my husband is able to cut back his BJ, and focus more on building his dream business. Is this the best way, who knows. There were some sacrifices to our lifestyle for a short time, but the lifestyle we have now is worth it. And really it’s just a short time investment in having the life you want. Most of those “sacrifices” were things we didn’t really need anyways to have a happy life. But we have them now. Just keep your eye on the prize no matter what method you choose.

  231. Great video as always! & Thanks everyone for sharing your ideas, so inspiring!!
    I’m just about to go back to my old job after 8 months of education (B-school!!!:-) and more. I’m pretty sure going back to (that) work will get me much more efficient in building my business and most important it will light a big fire under my ass to get my business up and running so I can get away from those corporate 9-5 hours!

  232. The best thing about my bridge job is there is zero stress! I can keep a clear mind to focus on building my personal training business. Question: How do you know if/when it’s time for a new bridge job?

  233. Great video as always, Marie!

    When I first started my own business, I worked as a waitress for a bridge job. However, when I recently moved to Boston with my fiance, I decided that if I REALLY wanted to make my business work I was going to focus on it completely, and set an income goal for myself. That added pressure has actually really paid off! However, I have found additional streams of income which is very helpful.

    xo
    Alexis

  234. Oliver

    Ms. Marie Forleo,
    This epsiode taught me not to expect much free time as I transition to entrepreneurship.
    It also inspires more confidence to change current job to another job if it helps increase my business investment capacity.

  235. Hi Marie –

    Wow – this came at the right time for me! I opened my Virtual Business Support business (Emerald Support Services) in August with my own funds after being laid off over a year ago. I recently started looking at my options to make some additional $$ as it is not pulling in as much as I would like yet. I have always been a hard worker and want to make sure that I do something that invigorates me instead of sucking the life out of me. After figuring out how much I would make doing certain positions, I have decided that it would be best to hustle and advertise more, as well as try to freelance on some popular sites. I have noticed when I mention this to people I know, they automatically think I should give up the business. I know this is what I am supposed to be doing and love that your message coincides with my thinking. I look forward to your videos each week. Thanks so much for doing what you do!!!!

  236. Victoria

    Very inspiring video. I think Bridge Jobs can be amazing. The struggle I find is that either the jobs pay me a food to mouth subsistence (I live in London, living in NY I’m sure you can relate) or take up all of my time, plus a lengthy commute. I now have a job that some would see as a career job, but that for me is a bridge job. My modality of bridging is different. I do Training/IT contracting for a few months, then work full time on my business for a few months, then start again if needed. Having a steady pace would work better for me, but I can’t seem to find part-time jobs that pay me a living wage… Does anyone have any ideas about how to get past this?

    • Hi Victoria,
      Have you considered reducing your living expenses? London is expensive but other parts of England aren’t. It’s an approach I’ve used a lot over the years and meant that I could have a great lifestyle outside of big cities and pursue my dream business full time.
      I’ve another friend who doesn’t love bridge jobs and so is creating her dream business while housesitting for people. She therefore has very few living expenses, gets to see lots of great places in Europe and gets to work on her business most of the time.
      Another idea is that if you could take up a bridge job which let you work from home or online, you might find you could more easily flow between your business and your bridge job.

  237. I recently bought a B+B with my husband. That might not seem like a bridge job, but after working as a freelance storyteller for 10 years, this is actually much steadier work. I’m amazed at how much more creative I feel now, and how much easier it is to consider what kind of art and performance I want to do, because I know I have my bridge job, which takes care of our housing expenses.
    I hope artists, especially young ones, won’t believe as I did that you have to be 100% supported by your art in order to be legit.
    Thanks for this video–timely. I’m sharing it with my creative friends.

  238. From the bottom of my heart, thanks for this video! I’ve been struggling with sharing the fact that I still need BJs while I am still building the foundation of my business. I have a specific question for you, and please feel free to answer in a personal message. You mentioned that it costed you approximately $10,000 to publish your book. Wowzer! I am planning on publishing a book as well and this number is scary. How long did it take you to get your ROI?

  239. thank you for the link!

  240. OMG I have had SO many bridge jobs and I’m a HUGE fan of these. I feel like at every level of building my intuitive coaching business, if there’s ever something that I want that feels really out of reach financially, that means it’s time to ADD MORE VALUE in the world.

    Among my top 5 favorite bridge-jobs?

    1. I was a Dora-The-Explorer performer for kids’ birthday parties! (yes, neon outfit, wig and boombox in hand!)

    2. I was an extra on the set of “Pursuit of Happy-ness.” for 4 days=lead to the Dora the Explorer gig ironically and I met a lifelong friend.

    3. I babysat for a sculptor and musician’s little boy while they worked their magic in their home offices. This was super fun and very lucrative.

    4. I ghost-edited a book to help lesbian couples have a baby.

    5. I sang in Spanish at a 15-year old’s quincinera (I had no clue what I was doing but they loved my voice and paid me 3X what I asked for!)

    Thanks for this video Marie!

    Much Love,
    Diana Dorell
    http://www.DianaDorell.com/ Intuitive Relationship Coach and Spiritual Mentor

    • Diana, your bridge jobs sound AMAZING! Being on the set of the Pursuit of Happy-ness must have been incredible and being Dora the Explore- super cool! Just goes to show that bridge jobs don’t have to be boring or dreary, they can be fun too!

      • Thanks Vicky! Yes, it was amazing. Will Smith and Jaden are the two nicest, most grounded people (well at least in my opinion on set!) Thanks for the support!

  241. This may be one of my favorite Marie TV episodes ever. I’ve done all kinds of things over the years, and you should never apologize for earning a living. Thanks for helping make people see things differently.

  242. I am going to start coach training in January and I’m offering to barter to help her coaching business for reduced cost of the training. I’m still in discussion with her since she just started and is working out price details but I told her I want to honor her and pay her but also learn from her because I value her work and expertise so that may be a good way to go, too.

    I also am working to jobs, one full time and one part time while I’m working to build the THIRD one which is coaching. It’s brutal. But we have a goal and that is to start our family next year so we got 9 months til i leave this job next summer and hopefully soon thereafter have our family started so we need to light a fire to get moving! But I’m not going to feel pressured if i am not working and the coaching and business is still taking off. I have the p/t job and i am going to have faith that my hard work now will pay off next summer. We’re trying to pay down some debt now too and work on those things to help us create vision. I have a mentor coach working with me on my third business too who is also a coach and i highly recommend it!

  243. Thanks Marie! My concern about bridge jobs is how it might look to potential clients that you are working in a field unrelated to your business in order to pay the bills. My concern is that it sends the message that business isn’t so good, otherwise you wouldn’t need this other job to keep things afloat. What are you thoughts on that?

    I had a great bridge job while building my business, and though things aren’t flowing exactly as smoothly as I’d like them to just yet, I let my bridge job go when I knew it was starting to get in the way of my expansion. I believe the timing was right, and even though things can be a struggle at times, that sparks my creativity and ingenuity to keep my offerings fresh and expanding.

    • I’m curious about this too. I hate to tell people that I have a bridge job – that I wait tables AND I have a business. I always awkwardly try to separate those two things, have people only know about one or the other. Cause if I’m a server…well then I mustn’t be a very good coach.

      I, myself know that I’m a great coach, and a lukewarm marketer (getting better by the day), but …you know..

  244. I think this is so true! I nanny on the side (my bridge job) while doing my business. It has helped me so much, especially since my business is teaching KIDS theater. I have made so many connections! Loved this video!

  245. This segment came right on time. I just launched my life coaching/personal development company March 2013. I originally started funding it via my corporate job and then in August I was downsized. I have been struggling with the notion to get a bridge job because I wanted to solely profit from my business, but I learned that in order to run my company the way I envision, it needs money now. I am totally like you. I am a control freak and I believe in self funding it all myself (hence that is what I have been doing from the start and it feels great). So a bridge job is the best fit for me until I am in complete profit mode. And not feeling or acting desperate is a biggie. Thanks for this Marie.

  246. Krista Kankula

    I can’t tell you how much I appreciate the timing of this video! I’m working on launching my business and often I’m embarrassed to tell, especially other entrepreneurs, that I’m keeping my current job while I build my business.

    I can appreciate the fact that having a day job and still building your business makes you appreciate and utilize the time in between or your lunch hour so much more wisely.

  247. Great video! Thanks Marie 🙂
    I have a bit of a different experience to most.
    I didn’t have a bridge job but am definitely a bootstrapper when it comes to growing my business.
    The way I did it is that I saved up a bunch of cash from my days as an employee and from property investments. When I looked at the pot of money I had, I thought about investing a bit chunk or all of it in the business but was pretty sure that I still wasn’t 100% clear about the direction the business was taking and I really didn’t want to waste my hard earned cash and realise later that the path I’d invested thousands or hundreds of thousands of dollars in wasn’t for me.
    So I went another route – I bought myself an apartment near the beach and cut my living expenses by an enormous amount because it meant no more rent or mortgage for me. I was confident that investing back into the property market was a better business decision for me at that time than investing in my then fledgling business.
    What it also meant was that I could earn small amounts of money in the early days of my business and still live a comfortable life because I really didn’t have a lot of personal expenses.
    As I got clearer and clearer about the direction of my business and felt more comfortable with what I was offering to the world, I got more clients and students and could reinvest in the business.
    This whole approach now means that as more money is coming into the business I can really invest significantly in the business because I still have those very small living expenses!
    I guess it’s an unorthodox way to build a business, but I’ve always been really happy with the choice I made to invest in my lifestyle first and then grow the business organically. For me it works 🙂

  248. Did you make this episode for me?? Great timing since I sometimes doubt about the BJ since my time is very limited now. But I get so much done!
    The best part of the BJ for me is…my boss paid for B-School!! I am an honest person and totally focus on my job going through B-School; it takes a long time to implement stuff in a big company, so I can’t go very fast, but it works very well. And I’m learning so much!!

  249. MM

    Thank you, Marie, for this video. In past I had a bridge job while I was working for my Ph.D. It was very difficult, it sucked me totally. I didn’t had the clarity back then to put limits or just quit of the bridge job. The result was that I lost very-very valuable time of my PhD cource and finally I droped off. I suffered so much after this. Time passed, almost 15 yrs after that, and I now I am in a similar position: Recently, I lost my job due the economic crisis in my country. I have started a business that means a lot to me and I’m on the process of buildinhg it, BUT, everyday needs have to be addressed. I applied today for a bridge job. Today, I have the clarity. where to put my efforts and priorities but on the same time I am so, so scared. Will I manage the work load? Will I be able to stay true to myself for all the promises I have given to me?
    And my question is: How to you manage the worlk load when you have a challenging bridge job and a challenging new business to start up?

  250. LisaR.

    Love this topic and Love the new set! Thanks Marie for your positive energy and wisdom. To the marieforleo.com group: Have a fantastic weekend!

  251. Love the Speed Stick analogy!

  252. Rebecca

    I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this! This is a HUGE help in thinking about my future dreams and finding a way to make it. Thank you Marie, I can’t wait until my finances are right for B-School cause just these little funtastic videos has helped me so much. I am so grateful for you.

  253. BJs are great if you can actually find one in a down economy. The lack of BJs in my area is what actually prompted me to start my own business. I sell things on eBay & etsy to help with the bills, but I’m actually getting more income through my own business than through those avenues. I’m not where I’d like to be financially yet (it’s a good thing I had saved up from previous jobs), but I love what I do (helping people heal with food) and I have faith that more and more will find value in what I offer.

  254. andrea

    in my case, I want to start my own clothing business, but I have no time because of my job and I’m afraid to stop working because I need the money to support myself, and my business would have to start from scratch. this video helped me clarify a bit my mind.. I think I should get a job where i would be able to support myself, and that left me the necesary time to invest in my business.
    thanks marie
    p.s: im from venezuela, my english is kind of shitty sorry about that 🙂

  255. I have a high-level, high paying dream job in my current profession. However, my true calling is to be a writer and peace blogger, so I’d like to quit my current job, but I’m worried about the money. It doesn’t feel right to quit my current job to take a different BJ, but my current demanding job is robbing me of mental energy at the end of the day needed to write. This is my quandary. Any advice?

  256. Thank you, Marie.

  257. Marie, this is an awesome message, as usual you put it in perspective. I love that you have always bootstrapped, we are the same way and it’s great to be able to do what you want without someone telling you how it needs to be done.

    Thank you!!!

  258. Yep I had a BJ. I decided that cleaning houses would be a good bridge job because I could set me own hrs and work that around my new business. Looking back on this now it would have been better to have a BJ which put me in front of more people. House cleaning is very isolating.
    Lucky for me my biz is going well and I no longer have to clean homes. Not even my own as I have a housekeeper….one of the best things I could have done for myself and my biz.

  259. Thanks, Marie! So timely for me. I am no longer going to feel ashamed that I STILL HAVE to do hair three days a week. How can I even complain? I am an independent hairstylist, so I am my own boss still and only do it three days a week, while I am building two different product brands. I am a total bootstrapper! I want to build it from the ground up, without borrowing a dime from anyone. I meet so many amazing people, promote my brands and can afford to not only keep a roof over my head and food on the table, but also grow, expand and fund my businesses. And plus, I couldn’t ask for a better bridge job, it is pretty dang fun on top of it all. I loved all the six points! Thank you, everyone, for making me realize I’m not alone and I have a whole new outlook on my situation and I know I will look back and realize how essential my hair business was for me during this time. 🙂 Thank you!

  260. Thank you so much for this video Marie! After running my business for 6 years I have recently took on two bridge jobs to help pay the bills while I make some huge changes in my business. At first I felt really sad that I had to leave my business for 3-4 days a week to go back to the 9-5 but now I am enjoying learning new things, meeting new people and being part of a team again. It can be quite lonely sometimes being a business owner so it’s nice to be in a team again. I am finding it is also making me more productive when I am in my studio and giving me the confidence to to move my business forward. Here’s to bridge jobs helping us to build our dreams : )

  261. Love this. It’s important, to me, to be grounded and to not feel desperate. And, I do want to be able to experiment with my sexuality education business and writings. It is the way I can be true to myself and not have to do something for my business just for the money.

    Working on the discipline and saying “no” so that I can actually be productive with the little time I have left. 🙂

  262. Marie, Thank you so much for this video! I’ve been feeling embarrassed about my bridge job. I have a great one but I really want to do my own thing. It’s a sweet gig tho, I set my own hours and like what I do. I will transition to full time doing my own thing eventually, but until then I will think about how my B.J. is helping me along the way instead of resenting it. Thanks!!

  263. Once again, thank you! 🙂

  264. Yes! My bj has been really necessary.
    My side business is writing vegan cookbooks.
    I also want to pursue photography (products, food and people).
    I am a restaurant consultant for a vegan company and I have learned a TON in my years with them. Not only has the business training been awesome, I have met a ton of relevant and awesome people who have played a role in my side business dream job!
    My current bj started out as my job job until I wrote my first cookbook and then my life shifted and my priorities and goals changed. I kept my job job but don’t kid myself that it is my bj.
    I am so committed to my side business that I signed up for early enrollment for B-school. I am so stoked to take my business to the next level!
    Thank you Marie and team – awesome q and a as usual!
    xo
    Molly

  265. Marie,

    I am so happy you posted this when you did. The night before I received your email with the BJ vid I was struggling with the fact that all I really wanted to do is build my business 24/7, but I still have bills to pay. I made a really big life decision and packed up my life and moved down to Mexico to liver healthier and cheaper. I have a part-time job and I was struggling with the fact that I’m not really passionate about it. After watching your video I realized that it doesn’t make me a failure and that I need to be grateful that I have income coming in.

    Thanks for being amazing as usually!

    xo

    – Shay

  266. Thanks so much for this post. I wait tables while building my coaching business, and I do feel shameful about it! Colleagues of mine who are more successful (perhaps?) come in the restaurant and ask me how it’s going. I feel like I’m a failure every time I’m still there – working that job.

    However I do love not reeking of desperation. I live simply, track my finances and get shitloads done in my free time. And when I think about it, I’ve met amazing people and made amazing business connections during my time there.

    Thanks also for mentioning that you worked bridge jobs for 7 years! I’ve been working mine for 2-3, have dabbled in various careers and feel like I’ve been ‘dicking around’ for WAY too long. But it’s my path and doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s.

    -Suzanne

  267. My bridge job is teaching snowboarding two kids 7 to 14. It includes learning about teaching learning about learning, learning about how to coach and teach, learning about how to learn, learning about how different people learn, it’s an excellent bridge job. It’s also helped me create an understanding about people spheres including my own and how to guide people into and through their fears. And working with kids makes it easy to create a very imaginative environment it’s very fun.

  268. Interesting! I think I’m addicted to BJs — been doing it for years. I have been totally content in my current business to let it grow slowly. I have 3 other BJs as I teach at the university level at 3 schools (2 online – 1 f2f) and I still do other consulting work designing newsletters/campaigns for a client I’ve had for almost 20 years. The business – the current one is providing CPR/First Aid certification for the American Heart Association. I have an MBA and teach for the business department at the local college here – I got into the CPR/First Aid certification because of having been the ED for the AHA where I live until the AHA closed all its regional offices. My husband and I saw a need and volia – we both are CPR instructors. Ironically, my office at the university where I teach part-time on campus — is …. in … the Nursing Department. How perfect is that?? When I need to do a one-on-one skills check I gain credibility because the person has to find me via the Nursing building. All the nursing faculty refer me to former students for re-certification and anyone who missed their group class.

    I think BJs rule — some of my closest friends and most interesting experiences in life have been because of some stop-gap something to do while I worked on something else. And with the varying economy – I don’t have to depend on any one employer and can shift my energy and focus to what’s the most lucrative.

  269. Yukiko Sakata

    Hi Marie,
    Thanks for the wonderful video posts, I can’t believe you had seven bridge jobs! I have many blocks to have multiple jobs, I constantly feel like that is something I shouldnt be doing.
    Really looking forward to come up with good business ideas and nice bridge jobs. I totally agree that once you feel secured financially, you can then finally focus on whats on the next level!

    Thank you so much for sharing!!

  270. I never had a BJ, per say…my husband was a huge supporter of what I wanted to do and we were fortunate enough to get by on his one full-time salary while I put my all into my own business. I guess he was my bridge!

    We didn’t just “get by”, though- we ended up cutting out a lot of unnecessary spending and simplifying our lives, which I think helped us focus on what was really important to us, like spending quality time together. Underneath all the stuff we thought we needed, we found true happiness. <3

    Thanks again, Marie, for the opportunity to share. And to the other readers for sharing, too!

  271. Jodi

    I had trouble finding a GOOD bridge job when I needed it most. But I persevered and now I have a ROCKIN’ gig. Desperation sucks and people can smell it a mile away. Do yourself a favor and get a BJ. Marie hits all the important points on the video. Watch and learn. Thanks, dawlin’.

  272. I love this, it’s something we always face when wanting to start a new project, we want to get out of our current work to start with the new, but we need investment capital and we have to continue to generate revenue to keep ourselves, you need to have a bridge work.
    In addition to meeting other people helps us to have a greater number of contacts that can be useful when our project and is working.
    WORK · MEET · LEARN · EARN

  273. I am a waiter. THAT’S A BRIDGE JOB ! On of the more popular ones in America. I’m also getting into travelling commission sales. I am an entertainer, and last year it’s all I did. I had to get a bridge job, but now that I have it, I can travel with it and network all the places I’ve already been and more. Totally love the way you shine light on the bright side of things. Wait, did that make sense or did I just sound stupid. That was a bridge comment .

  274. Thank you so much for this video! After going back and forth from fully freelance to many BJs over the years, it was exactly what I needed to hear right now and has made me realize a few very important things:

    – Framework and perspective is SO important! For years I have called any work I did outside my business a “J-O-B” with a negative connotation any usually eye roll. I think that came from some inaccurate idea that my business was not real since I didn’t work it exclusively. So I would brush off my J-O-B in conversation like I was ashamed of it. How silly! I love he positive language and understanding of a “Bridge Job” and…

    – I LOVE my Bridge Job! I am happier and more productive now with my BJ than I was last year without it. I have great friends at work. The financial security frees my mind up to be creative and to get even more clear about the direction I am headed. Everyone at work supports me in my goals. It couldn’t be a better situation.

    – I think I may always keep some kind of BJ. I used to think freedom (one of my core desired feelings) came from having a completely wide open schedule and doing whatever I wanted in a given moment. But I’ve come to realize that freedom is something you create in each moment with choice. I choose to have a BJ because of all the wonderful things it provides me. I think the structure suits me and I can create freedoms within the structure (even when my business is making all the money and I go to work for he fun! ;).

    Thanks Marie!

    Does anyone else think they may keep a BJ of some form while running their business?

  275. Hmmm…Bridge Job. Love the term. I have had a “BJ” for the last 6 years on and off during my career as a real estate agent. I will say that it definitely helped financially because the real estate market is so up and down. With 3 kids (two in college) a mortgage and other bills, it sure did help 🙂 Challenge I had recently is that my “BJ” of 2 years just was actually keeping me from growing my real estate and home staging businesses. So…I had to give it up. Well, now cash is getting low, the closings I had on the books are being delayed, new business cards are needed and Mama is getting worried. I have been thinking how I would love to get another part-time gig …oops… I meant “BJ” (smile) to help the household but I just can’t envision doing it again. Where do I find a “BJ” that really doesn’t take away from growing my business? Any suggestions?

    • Hey Stacey,

      I saw your comment because I got an email notifying me for some reason, so I decided to read it. I grew up in a real estate family, and my dad still going strong has seen his ups and downs for sure. He always wanted me to get involved because I’m great at sales but I was scared because I saw how hard he worked and how when it was good, it was good. But when things weren’t good it was tough.
      In the end it turns out my calling was in sales, and I couldn’t be happier. I’m a mom of a 2 year old with another 1 on the way. I started my business when by daughter was born so I could have more freedom and flexibility, and more cash flow without working more. As time goes on, I actually make more now and work less then when I started. Being a mom and business owner, it’s really important to find opportunities where you can time leverage so you can spend more time with the ones you love, and less time stressing over finances.
      If you want to know more about my story, I’d be happy to share. Who knows, you might be interested in what I do. Or it might jjust be nice to connect with another mom who knows what it’s like juggling the tasks of mom and business owner.
      Cheers!

  276. marina

    Great video…one question i have though about getting a bridge job…In all the interviews I have been to for a part time job that I wanted to get to support me while building my i business i was asked “so what is your 5 year goal?” so the companies that were hiring were looking for someone who can support their work for a long time – how do i deal with such questions ? do i tell them that i just want this job for money so i can support myself while i am building the business? i do not want to lie…any help is appreciated…since i think the companies sensed that i am just in for the money and i never got the offers.

  277. My bridge job is personal training. But that is practically what I sell online.

    I find that it keeps me sane and also gets me a lot of business as the online option is better for some of my clients.

  278. Love this video Marie. Many people in my industry have bridge jobs until their business is able to sustain them financially. Takes the stress and strain off so they can enjoy the process of growing their business.

  279. rakesh

    awesome Marie. Thank u so much!

  280. Nice video marie. Great to hear how you started out. Bridge jobs can be great to keep you busy and can definitely financially support what you love in the mean time.

  281. Nathália

    Good Night! Today I am employed in my first job! That’s right, first! I say that with the ropes. Not because I’m a bad worker, on the contrary I perform my job well. But my company spending cuts in the worst way, cutting employees. Every case will enter a new employee in the company and I have the task of teaching it. Not sure what I will be fired, but the function that I exercise is simplistic and one person can exercise it without problems. The excuse is that she comes to help me, we know not. Anyway I see this situation as an opportunity. Planning to teach next year (my dream) and for that I’ll need to adjust the hours I dictate the particular school. Besides I want to study more to provide tender, strong position in my country.

  282. I’m currently working my “ho” job to afford life coaching classes for certification AND a networking business on the side. It’s helpful, but disheartening at times because I feel like I’m so exhausted from huffing it out here that I don’t have the time and energy resource to commit to my passion business and purpose pursuit. I have people in my life that have made the transition though and that makes it easier to see that this is just a means to an end.

  283. My bridge job was working at a boutique. In the end, this part-time job helped to build my marketing consulting business because in addition to my B2B expertise, now I also have retail expertise.

  284. OH Man I’m the person that gets embarrassed of my bridge job. Right now I’m a promotional model which means I hand out samples of vodka and tequilla. haha!

    Also I’m a Yoga & barre Instructor and promote a healthy lifestyle. I can’t wait till I can end my bridge job and go full force with my passion.

    Thanks Marie

  285. Apres Ski

    For those of us who are Boot Strappers or DYI, Do It Yourselfers, this is the first time I’ve heard of something saying it’s OK to have a side job. Finally, I can sleep tonight and start plotting and planning my escape to my Other Life, my online computer classes.

    Your video has been an inspiration and I plan in getting things up and running as soon as I finish typing this.

  286. Christel

    How do you figure out which bridge jobs to take? They definitely have to be some sort of part time job so you still have time to focus on your business, right?

  287. I had a bridge job. It was a fulltime web design job in a museum and you know what I was more productive working my fulltime job and my business at nights.

    You just reminded me that bridge jobs can be very beneficial, especially for that extra bit of security and allows you to take more risks.

    Hmmm lots to think about…time for some reassessing, me thinks.

  288. This video came at the perfect time! Thank you Marie!

    I am 19 years old and I recently published my book – ‘#SUCCESS’ which is a personal development book written for young adults.You can read all the inspirational quotes in the world, but until you embody them and put them into action, they’re just words. What I tried to accomplish with my book is go beyond inspiration and actually empower readers to move from habitual tendencies of self destruction toward a more positive and productive mindset. It has been a massive learning experience and without a bridge job – my dream of publishing would never have come true.

    I think the stigma with being an employee whilst owning your own business is viewed in a negative sense, however, if it helps you turn your passion into profit eventually – GO FOR IT! Either you make it happen or you make excuses as to why you can’t follow your dream.

    Thank you for your constant words of wisdom Marie, you are my most prominent female role model! xx

  289. Hi, Marie and everyone else!

    I had multiple BJs for more than 10 years, while building my acting career. That didn’t pan out easily, so I started my Parisian French Coaching business which started to support me from the second year.

    I had enough of promoting the Starving Actor image and I use the acting techniques to help people easier and faster learn a foreign language.

    Is this business supporting me? Amazingly, yes!

    I’m in my 3rd year of full-time business and I’m forging at it.

    Would I like to have more time to produce my plays and web series? Of course! However, the world is full of actors who rely on other people to do the business side of their acting career so I don’t mind waiting another year to be able to learn enough business to support both the sides of mine.

    I feel that I produce best under pressure, but I also paid my dues for 10 years in BJs that seemed to make me feel a little too comfortable..

    You are right, there is a certain je-ne-sais-quoi in everybody’s choice that is only theirs, and I feel I’m onto my own unique formula 🙂

    Thanks again,
    Llyane

  290. I’ve a pretty high threshold for risk, but mostly lots of confidence in my ability to generate fast loads of moola when I need it (some quickie tactics compliments of b-school promo vids!) But in the early days I had two bridge jobs that taught me how to leverage publicity (Hallmark), and how to support human resources (Sprint.)

  291. Ana

    Marie,

    This was very empowering and liberating, thanks!
    Also, I ADORE your dress, would love to find out more about its provenance… In fact, wardrobe credits would be most appreciated as you always look fantastic!

    Ana

  292. Katherin Burnett

    I definitely agree with having a bridge job while starting my dream business. Right now I am trying to start my business while working in a factory. I chose a factory because I have a set schedule, I get paid well and have good health benefits….I am making enough money to put into my business and pay my bills which is really awesome. However, I totally hate my job. I work long hours on the graveyard shift, it’s really physically demanding work, and I feel like its putting a strain on my personal life and causing me not to have as much energy as I would like to put into my business. So I guess my question is, should I try and stick this job out and not have to worry about money? Or should I try and find another bridge job where I probably wont get paid as much, but will be happier?

  293. Ha! I never know what to call my job that currently pays the bills… I felt like I would be dishonoring my up and coming business if I called my job my “real” job, but now you’ve given me the perfect thing to call it!! (even if I did only recently start my business and have worked at my bridge job for 20 years. lol)

    p.s. loved your dress too! 😉

  294. My last bridge job was at Office Depot. It was actually a fun job. I worked part-time and it’s intention was just to bring in a little extra something. The best part of that job was, I didn’t feel tied down to it. My business does OK and it is growing but, sometimes it’s nice to do something for a little change up in routine.

  295. Hi Marie!
    I am a B-schooler, and a Committed Impulser. This episode definitely spoke to me, however I am still having a bit of a dilemma. I am currently in the process of building my dream business, as an Enneagram Consultant. Realistically, I think it will take me about 3-5 years until I am able to fully support myself in that business. In the meantime, I have been waiting tables for all of my post-college and post-graduate school years. The positive sides are that I am able to call my schedule, I have a very consistent pay-check, I get health insurance, the environment is beautiful, we serve delicious, organic food, we have a high-profile clientele which always keeps things interesting, and for the most part I enjoy the people I work with. The negative sides are that everyone I work with is about 10 years younger than me and in a different stage in life, I am no longer interested in going out and meeting guys. I am engaged, and looking forward to getting married, and excited about having an adult life. Also, everyone I work with, managers included, is completely drained by the job. In the next couple months, half of the staff is leaving. Also, the customers have gotten very entitled and lack grace and tact. But, mostly, I am just DONE. For the past year, every time before I go into my shift I meet so much resistance. It is always struggle, and is very soul-sucking. My current dilemma is: do I stay at the restaurant, and continue to pour all my energy into creating my business? Or do I search for a new bridge job that will give me more sanity to continue to work on my business for the next 3 years?
    Any advice is much appreciated.
    Thank you so much!
    Elizabeth

  296. Knowing that working for myself has always been my end goal, I kind of view every job as a bridge job. But I agree, you can learn A LOT from just keeping your eyes and ears open in those jobs.

  297. Nat

    Marie, thank so much for this amazing video!

    I was crying today because I was feeling guilty and ashamed for being forced to look for a bridge job again (financial circumstances). I felt like a complete failure and scared, but then your encouraging words made me feel so much better.

    After watching the video, now I’m able to look at my current situation from a new perspective, and so I feel more calm, centered and deeply grateful.

    Thank you, thank you, Marie! You’re awesome. 🙂

  298. Delsy

    Watching this episode of Marie TV was perfect because a bridge job is the exactly what I need right now while I decompress from my last job and begin to work on building a business that I am passionate about!

    There are a lot of emotions involved when you can’t instantly do what you’re passionate about and have to delay your dreams a bit to pay your bills, but after watching this episode I feel so much better!

    Thank you, Marie!!

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Delsy,
      Thank you so much for checking out our episode and commenting.

      I absolutely hear you that it feels so hard to delay your dreams to make sure bills get paid, but fortunately a bridge job can be a part of the process to follow your dreams. I’ve had bridge jobs so many times myself, and like Marie shared, I like to use them as little “training grounds” for continually improving myself.

      We’re sending our best wishes to you for both your bridge job and following those exciting dreams you have!

  299. Victoria

    Hello Marie,thank you so much for your inspiring TV, I like it very much. Can I know the brand name of the dress you’re wearing for this show, thank you~

    • Caroline - Team Forleo

      Hi Victoria, thank you for your note, and we’re so glad to have you tuning in! Marie’s stylist usually picks out her outfits, so I’m not fully sure where this particular dress came from, but some of the lines she chooses frequently are ASOS, H&M, and Bar III from Macy’s.

      The dress looks a bit like ASOS to me, though any of those lines would be great places to find fun outfits like this one.

      Hope that helps 🙂

      • Victoria

        Hello! Thank you for your reply.I’ve watched many of Marie’s TV shows and I really like the style she dresses up every time. I’m just wondering are there any chances you can ask Marie the brand name for this colorful dress. I’d appreciate for your help. I’ve searched from ASOS already, but couldn’t find it.
        Also, can Marie tell people the brand name of the clothes she is wearing each time she is on TV show? They’re really special outfits!

        • Chelsea - Team Forleo

          Hi Victoria! We don’t currently post anywhere what Marie is wearing for each episode since it’s usually a collection of things and each episode is filmed in advance of it airing. If we ever decided to do that in the future, we’ll absolutely let you know. Although we don’t recall where that particular dress came from, we so appreciate your kind words about her outfits! Her stylist, Elsa is amazing.

  300. Kiki

    great Video! Thanks Marie!
    It confirms my choice to get a part-time Job after college in order to pay the most important bills. Unfortunately I find it difficult to find a BJ: I don’t know if that only happens in Germany, where I live, or if it is a global thing, the crucial problem I’m facing since my last college years is that bosses always say: “I’m not going to employ you because, you will soon leave for a better Job. I need someone on a long-term”. I can understand that in some way, but that doesn’t change anything about my bills and that I’m running out of time… a part-time Job was meant to guarantee a more relaxed way to find my vision and not to ask my parents for money anymore… now finding a part-time Job is a stress itself.

    I’m wondering, if there’ s a way to:
    – be more efficient to find a part-time Job
    – making this more about what I can bring in the part-time Job (even if it’s “just” a typical auxiliary position as a sales aid or waiting tables) and more about the needs of my boss and less about me, me needing money, and me leaving soon (and I don’t even know how soon I’m leaving)
    any ideas?
    I’m always looking forward to discover new videos on your page 🙂

  301. Ana

    Hey guys,
    I am currently working as a customer service assistant in the company of my in laws. I don’t see myself working here for my whole life and I don’t particularly like this job, but as a BJ is great, because it gives me freedom. I have always dreamed of becoming an interior designer and home organizer. The small problem is the fact that my fiance and his parents hope that I will be in this company for ever, of course not as a customer service person…
    I can cope with the ideea of a bridge job, but I can’t cope with this idea of working here for ever.
    What do I do? Any advice to relieve this pressure and stress that I managed to create in my own mind.
    Lots of hugs 🙂

    • Kristin - Team Forleo

      I’m sorry you’re feeling such pressure and stress, Ana! The answer to this question definitely comes down to what feels best to you, but it might be a great idea to be honest with your family about your longterm plans. Maybe you can tell them that you’re happy to work in the family business for now, but you also have aspirations to run your own business eventually. Hopefully they won’t have any trouble supporting you as entrepreneurs themselves! Good luck!

      • Ana Brad

        Hey Kristin,
        Thanks a lot for your support. I guess that I’ll find strength to tell them some day and I think this would be easier when my interior design plans will happen. Any further advice for my future design business? I have to say that since I was little I felt that this was my calling but I got distracted by the idea that I would not be able to earn any money doing it and so I studied finance in college. I feel that my intuition is crying every day a little because I didn’t listen to it…

  302. Ana Brad

    Hahahaha, Kristin, I just watched the episode How to make your best decision when your gut and logic don’t agree and I was very surprised and amused to see that Marie’s book was published in Romania. I’m from Romania. What a nice coincidence. Or was it really?
    Thanks again for your support and kindness.
    Hugs!

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