Personal Growth

Feeling Like A Fraud? Stop Self Sabotage with This Unexpected Technique

October 23, 2012

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My palms were sweaty and my heart was racing so fast you’d think I just chugged 10 spiced pumpkin lattes.

Then I heard a voice say, “Let’s go Marie – you’re on.”

I took a deep breath and started walking.

During the five seconds it took me to get from backstage onto center stage to deliver my talk at the Lobero Theater in Santa Barbara last week, my mind generated the same old self-sabotaging thoughts I had when I first began speaking over a decade ago.

“You have no idea what you’re doing, and now they’re all going to know!”

“Your talk isn’t that special — people know this stuff already.”

“Everyone is going to be disappointed in you.”

Does this sound familiar? It should if you’re human. Self-sabotaging thoughts are normal. They’re a function of having a mind and a nervous system.

It doesn’t matter how much experience you have, or how spiritual you are. If you’re putting yourself out there in any way, shape or form — there’s a high likelihood you’ll feel the fear of not being good enough.

Many of us make the mistake of believing we need to overcome our fear and get rid of our negative thoughts in order to be successful.

But that’s not true at all!

The real trick is to learning how to reprogram our minds to make our negative thoughts powerless. Click play for this simple, but highly effective strategy that will help you cure your “fraud factor” fear once and for all.

DIVE DEEPER: Don’t let other people’s expectations drown out your dreams and desires. Here’s how to be true to yourself even when following your own path isn’t easy.

Remember, being present is a muscle that you can strengthen each day. The more present and engaged you are in what you’re doing, the less “room” there is to indulge in self-sabotaging thoughts.

In the comments below, I’d love to hear from you.

Are you ready to take our 7 Day Screen Saver Challenge? If so, leave a comment about how training yourself to be more present will make an impact in your life.

Got more tips, ideas and strategies to deal with self sabotage? Tell me all about it in the comments.

As always, thank you so much for reading, watching and contributing!

P.S.  This is a whole new way to think about dealing with “the fraud factor” and your “negative thoughts” — and I know it’s really going to serve you.

If you have a friend that’s struggling with feeling like a fraud, forward this post to them. They’ll thank you for it!


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