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Well, That Escalated Quickly: A Conversation About Race With Franchesca Ramsey

May 22, 2018

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Have you ever read a book in public and laughed so hard that people give you the side eye?✋?

A few weeks ago, that was me. I was on a flight and could not put down my friend Franchesca Ramsey’s brilliant new book: Well, That Escalated Quickly.

The foot-in-mouth moments. The painful honesty. The insightful and transparent lessons. The searing humor and I-can’t-believe-she-said-that-did-that-and-overcame-that situations. BLOWN AWAY is an understatement.

As you’re about to see, my copy has a bajillion underlines, highlights and pages flagged.

What’s more? Her sharp and instructive book directly tackles some of the toughest areas we’re navigating in our culture: race, gender, identity, and power — and the pitfalls of having those conversations in the unpredictable public sphere of the internet.

Yup, we’re talking social media rants, trolls and flaming call-out wars. All of which Franchesca has dealt with. Multiple times.

Her book is required reading if you create anything online. In this must-watch episode you’ll discover:

  • What Franchesca learned from being ripped to shreds for not knowing how to be ripped to shreds — from folks across the entire political spectrum
  • How she became a hater herself, then wound up at an intimate dinner with the very celebrity she was critical of
  • Why the phrase “check your privilege” makes Franchesca wince and a different way to open up this important conversation
  • The difference between “call outs” and “call ins” and the 6 questions to ask before doing either
  • Why creating meaningful work online does not require a social media addiction and what you should focus your time on instead
  • The very real dangers of compassion fatigue and why self care is vital for survival
  • Why “I don’t see race” is the wrong thing to say (plus other “cringe-worthy” comments about race and identity that should be retired ASAP)
  • How to apologize without making matters worse, and ensure you move the dialogue forward rather than backward
  • And SO much more

Franchesca’s gift for bringing compassion, humor and unbelievable candor to important topics like race, gender, identity and activism is rare and transformative. She’s sharp, clear, informed and warm-hearted.

Now, I’d love to hear from you. Which part of today’s conversation meant the most to you, and why? Leave a comment below and let us know.

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While thoughtful dialogue is always encouraged, any comment that can be perceived as threatening, hateful, accusatory, inflammatory, mean or bigoted in any way will be removed. Thanks in advance for continuing to keep our community forward-moving.

P.S. I’m co-hosting Franchesca’s book launch party in Los Angeles on Thursday, May 31st. Come see us in person if you can — RSVP here!

With so much ❤️,

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