Let’s get down to it. How much do you really care about what people think of you?
As social creatures it’s nearly impossible not to care — on some level — about what people think. It’s a core human desire to be accepted, acknowledged and loved.
But on the other hand, caring about what others think — especially about how you look, dress, talk, write, who you love, how you behave, decisions you make or what you do for a living — makes you a volunteer for a caged life of misery and mediocrity.
Lao Tzu said it best here:
Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. – Lao Tzu
In today’s episode of MarieTV, we’re answering a question from a young woman in New Zealand who has big dreams, but is feeling crushed under the opinions and doubts of those around her.
If you ever feel like you may care a little too much about what people think of you, this one is for you.
I’m always fascinated by a little “behind-the-scenes” action.
For example, I’ve loved hearing about all the mechanics that went into creating the Oscar nominated movie, Gravity. In general, I just really enjoy hearing how people come up with big ideas.
So today, I thought I’d take you behind-the-scenes in my own thinking process and share a simple but powerful tool we use on my team to spark our best creative ideas.
You can use this exercise for business or personal reasons (which is why I love it) and it’s especially fun to do with people you love.
This has been the most epic B-School scholarship contests we’ve done yet.
Emotionally, it’s been really challenging. We’re big-hearted, sensitive folks and we care very deeply about what we do and who we serve. There’ve been lots of tears, smiles, heavy hearts, and laughter over the past week.
Most of all, there’s been an expanding well of shared love and respect. Thank you for being so brave, so creative and so passionate — and sharing who you are with us and the world.
Thank you for so wholeheartedly supporting each other, and being kind and incredible in our community.
We’ve watched close to 2,000 entries and have made our selections for this year. Before I get to the recipients, I want to share a few things. Most importantly:
Your dreams aren’t made, or broken, by anyone but you. You are enough. You have wisdom within you that you can never learn in any text book, classroom or program. You are creative, and loved and divinely blessed with capabilities beyond what you can imagine.
Ever faced a big life decision and felt unsure about which way to go?
Whether it was leaving a relationship, moving to an unfamiliar place, quitting a safe job or spending a large amount of money — many of us find ourselves facing big life decisions with little or no tools to help us make the best choice.
Sure. You can ask family and friends for their opinion, but often you leave those conversations more confused than when you started.
There have been times in my life that I’ve felt like my brain was broken.
Whether I’ve had too many ideas swirling around and couldn’t focus, or I just started to feel crushed under the weight of everything that “had to get done”…
I’m no stranger to the frustration that comes when you can’t seem to get your potential to match your performance.
Many folks who are highly creative and intelligent have a hard time channeling all that ambition and energy in a way that’s both productive and satisfying.
Some of us fall victim to destructive, addictive behaviors that harm ourselves and others.
Other times, we stay trapped under a fog of frustration that never lifts, unable to reach the greatness of our full potential.