I was at dinner the other night talking with a friend about what’s happening in her career. She told me about a significant dilemma she recently faced, with high stakes (potential income, reputation, etc.) that involved either:
- trusting her gut, holding her ground and being willing to walk away from a crucial deal if it wasn’t right (compensation, contract, collaborative partners, etc.)
- saying yes to what was on the table out of her desire for security and work, even though she knew she wouldn’t feel good about it
After a non-stop series of earlier setbacks that shattered her confidence, I could see how tough this was for her. It made me realize that we all face these kinds of crossroads in life, don’t we? Whether it’s in our careers or our relationships, it often comes down to this…
Do I choose the safe path or the inspiring one?
No matter what you’re focused on creating right now, I think you’ll appreciate today’s episode.
Because we’re tackling a question from a reader struggling with the daily battles of fear and self-doubt in her business. She’s wondering…
How do you keep selling your business (your products, services, ideas, mission, etc.) when you don’t feel fully confident in yourself?
To be clear: this doesn’t just apply to business owners. It applies to anyone who must share and express their ideas, their beliefs and their work in the world on a consistent basis.
Especially on days when your self-confidence is down in the dumps.
Since this is something I have personal experience with, I wanted to share a little trick that serves me well.
There was a time when reaching for my checkbook was an anxiety producing act.
Once I opened it up, I became engulfed with guilt and fear and shame. “There’s not enough this month. I don’t know how I’m going to do this…”
Eventually, that pattern became unacceptable to me. Other people were able to effectively manage their money — but clearly, I wasn’t one of them!
So I did what I always do when I find myself in pain. I promised myself I was going to figure this thing out. That I was going to do whatever it took to educate myself, change my patterns and finally create healthier and wiser money habits.
I became a woman on a mission. And one of my very first teachers was a man named David Bach.
He didn’t know he was my teacher, of course. But I chose him, likely for his perfectly-written-for-me title, Smart Women Finish Rich.
Over the years, David went on to pen 11 consecutive national bestsellers reaching millions around the world, all with a singular devoted focus: helping normal people like you and me get our money lives in order in a way that’s aligned with our most treasured values.
Today, I’m thrilled to have David on MarieTV. It’s one of those full circle moments, and a rich conversation filled with practical information for you and those you love.
We humans are complex creatures.
No matter how good your intentions, you can pretty much guarantee that at some point or another, you’ll hurt those you love.
Naturally, you’ll feel hurt by those you trust and love, too. And when you feel you’ve been wronged, that’s where things get tricky.
Because as conscious, loving and growth-minded people, we all know we “should” forgive. Forgiveness is vital to maintaining long-term relationships. (A fact we cling to when we’re the ones hoping to be forgiven!)
Studies also indicate that forgiveness helps us lead happier, healthier lives. But sometimes — that whole “forgive and forget” thing doesn’t quite add up.
There’s a pattern of transgressions. And, something deep within you suspects that just “wiping the slate clean” is not the wisest or safest path ahead — emotionally, spiritually, financially or physically.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you really need to forgive and forget, this episode may give you a fresh perspective to consider.