For many of us, a change in season breathes life into our ever-growing list of hopes and dreams — things we want to experience, achieve and accomplish.
But what happens if that’s NOT true for you?
What happens when you’ve actually achieved your goal, and you’re left wondering…
Is this all there is?!?
What the heck are you supposed to do after your big dreams come true?
We humans need more than goals to be happy. We need to constantly challenge ourselves, learn, grow, and contribute to others.
We need a compelling vision for our future to keep us moving forward.
How to Create a Clear Life Vision
Want to avoid an “Is this all there is” moment? The MarieTV below will help. A young viewer from India wrote in and asked…
Since I was a young girl I wanted to start my own business, travel the world, and make a name for myself. Today at 31 I’ve achieved most of that. So my question is, what do you do after your dreams come true? How do I get the same drive and passion I had when I was 24 before I achieved all my goals and realized my dreams?”
As Harvard professor Rosabeth Moss Kanter said, “A vision isn’t just a picture of what could be; it’s an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more.”
I believe each of us has a deep hunger for more. To discover your own inner hunger and create a vision for life, ask yourself these questions:
What’s your long-term vision? What would you like to see, do, and experience over the next 5, 10, or 20 years?
What do you want to accomplish? Do you want to make an impact in the world? Is there a problem you want to solve? What’s important in your personal life, your professional career, business, family, and community?
How do you want to have lived your life? Imagine yourself on your deathbed (hopefully far, far, far into the future). Describe the kind of life you want to look back on. How will you have spent the precious time you were given?
What does the universe have in store for you? If you believe in a higher power, I suggest asking for guidance and being open to receiving it. Here’s a simple mantra: “You gave me gifts, I’m here to use them. Please show me the way.”
The Difference Between Visualization & Dreaming
If you’re thinking, “This sounds great, but does visualization actually work?” Look, nothing works unless you do. But here’s the truth. Visualization doesn’t have to be airy fairy.
Don’t get hung up on the word. Call it creativity or simply making a plan. Whether you’re getting the keys to your new home, a big bonus check at work, or starting a business, you’re visualizing your future.
Done right, you can create the life of your dreams. In fact, I bet you’re already visualizing — you just don’t know it yet.
The key difference between dreaming and visualizing comes down to a simple script flip.
Instead of thinking, “Wouldn’t that be nice?” tell yourself, “That’s a done deal.”
Now doesn’t that feel better? Can’t you just feel the confidence and power that comes with knowing you’ll get it done, rather than agonizing over whether it’s possible?
And here’s the thing: Once it’s done, you have a framework to tackle your next big dream. Then the next one and the next one.
You Don’t Need a Long-Term Life Plan
While I’m a big believer in creating a clear vision for yourself, sometimes life just doesn’t work out the way we want. And that’s okay!
A failure might be a cosmic redirect, guiding you to a better, bigger purpose.
You don’t necessarily need a long-term vision to achieve success. Sometimes you just have to take the first step and gain clarity from there. Bring your A-game to everything you do. Trust me, a clear vision will eventually emerge.
Do you think I had a clear vision of what my business would look like when I first started? Of course not!
I loved so many things, it felt paralyzing. I couldn’t envision my life more than six months into the future. Not having it all figured out didn’t keep me from starting, though.
Instead of one grand life vision, I started with mini, immediate goals, like:
Fill my hip hop classes and experiment with new choreography.
Get my first coaching client.
Write a consistent weekly newsletter.
I didn’t have a long-term vision. I just took the next right step every day and did the best I could. I worked hard at each of my passions until I eventually found convergence for myself and my passions. (Hello, multipassionate entrepreneur!)
How to Envision the Future & Still Live in the Present
At first glance, training yourself to be present contradicts the whole notion of planning your future. But it’s not! You can absolutely balance being present with planning ahead.
You just need to know the difference between planning and worrying.
Planning keeps you in the present moment. Worrying takes you out of it.
For example, think about rain on your wedding day.
Worrying about rain is a future-based anxiety about something you can’t control. Planning, on the other hand, is about being prepared just in case it rains. It helps keep you in the present, because your preparation lets you set aside your worries about what will go wrong in the future.
Any time you find yourself worrying over your vision for the future, stop. Bring yourself back to the present, and redirect that energy into planning.
Look, achieving your goals is awesome, but real happiness comes from growth. Embracing the challenge of working towards your goals is far more fulfilling than achieving and checking them off your list.
Again, you don’t have to have every step figured out. Conjuring up a vision for your future stimulates your imagination. It’ll help rediscover old dreams and ignite your passion so you can head in the right direction.
Now, let’s turn this insight into action.
Grab a journal, and take 5 to 10 minutes writing your life vision statement — in reverse. Imagine yourself on your deathbed, and describe the kind of life you want to look back on.
What will you have achieved? What will you have spent your time doing?
It was as though all my good stuff was locked inside and the world couldn’t see it. The worst part was I sooo motivated and clear I had a purpose, but I had no idea what that purpose was or how to share my gifts in a way that mattered.
Now here’s the good news.
My guest on today’s episode of MarieTV says that the key to really unleashing your power, your voice, and your self respect lies in one simple decision that you can make right now.
If you suspect a limiting belief may be holding you back, pay close attention.
Because your beliefs drive your behavior.
It doesn’t matter how much you say you want it, if you believe somewhere deep inside that success equals some kind of pain (loss of freedom, loss of time with your family, loss of love, rejection, embarrassment, vulnerability, or shame) you will NOT let yourself do what it takes to succeed.
The great news is I’ve got your fix.
You can actually reprogram your brain to embrace success. My brilliant friend Dr. Cathy Collautt calls it, “getting your subconscious on board” with your conscious goals.
How to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind for Success
Scientists believe that only about 3% of your brain’s processing power goes toward your conscious mind — the thoughts, ideas, and decisions you make every day.
The other 97% is used for subconscious and automatic functions, like digesting food and breathing. Your habits and beliefs also fall under that 97%, which means your subconscious is pretty freakin’ powerful.
In other words, you could have the most well intentioned conscious thoughts and ideas — but if your subconscious isn’t on board, then you’ve got a problem.
Enter, Dr. Cathy Collaut, a metaphysician and manifesting consultant who helps people — like me! — create powerful lasting change in their lives.
In the MarieTV and blog post below, you’ll learn Dr. Cathy’s five-step process for reprogramming your subconscious mind so that your conscious goals are fully aligned with your deeply held beliefs.
Trust me, this is life changing work. You don’t want to miss this.
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Long term, your beliefs determine your destiny. If you keep longing for something, but fear or overwhelm keep holding you back, pay attention to that. Because nine times out of ten, that’s a subconscious belief holding you back from reaching your conscious goal.
Stop waiting to find the courage to unleash your special gift into the world. Take action now — and start by using Dr. Cathy Coullat’s five-step process, listed below.
Here are five simple steps to reprogram your subconscious mind for success.
1. Listen to the Wisdom in Your Resistance
Notice some resistance in your subconscious? Instead of blaming it for ruining your life, be humble instead.
Don’t assume you know why you’re resisting. Trust that the resistance in your subconscious has wisdom to share with you, and be willing to listen to it.
2. Interview Your Subconscious
Next, you want to get specific details about what your fear is telling you. Get curious, and ask your subconscious for more information.
What are you afraid of exactly? Success itself isn’t exactly terrifying — it’s kind of awesome. So what are you associating with it that you want to resist? Is it a lack of freedom, busyness, responsibility, expectations, exposure, or something else?
What is your subconscious trying to protect? Are there things in your life that you value that are threatened by the changes success would bring? Maybe you’re afraid to sacrifice time with your family, self-care, fun, travel, or creativity.
Get quiet, and listen to what that inner voice is telling you. Let it make its case. There’s priceless wisdom in your fear. It’s reminding you what matters most to you and what you truly want.
3. Promise to Make It Work
Now that you know what matters most, commit to looking out for it.
Let your subconscious know you got the message by promising it that you’ll make it work. Promise you won’t go after any version of success that means you’ll lose what matters to you. You’ll only go for it in a way that’ll feel right for you and stay in alignment with your values.
This step is magical, because it makes your fears a non-issue.
Those things you’re afraid of? They’re not inevitable. You can intentionally remove them from the equation.
Making this promise lets your subconscious mind embrace your dreams and create space for you to pursue them. The promise means you’ve listened to your inner wisdom and you’re honoring what’s truly important to you, so you can let go of the fears that are holding you back.
4. Gather Positive Case Studies
Your subconscious probably has a lot of examples of all the negative things you associate with success — people who are overworked and unhappy.
Counteract those negative thoughts by dousing your subconscious in the opposite. Find positive examples of people who’ve found freedom, joy, and expansion in success. These can be anyone — figures in history, someone you know personally, or people you don’t know.
The more positive stories you can tell your subconscious mind about success, the more you’ll believe a positive outcome is possible. These examples create and reinforce a positive association with success, so your automatic reaction is no longer to fear it.
5. Remind Your Mind
The real work of reprogramming your subconscious mind is ongoing repetition.
You have to embed your new beliefs into your subconscious. Remember, we’re talking about 97% of your brain. That’s a lot of brain power propel you toward your goals.
Folks into manifesting generally call these new belief repetitions “affirmations,” but Dr. Cathy says to think of it more like a reminder. You don’t need to convince your subconscious of these positive notions; you just have to remind it of their validity.
Give yourself affirmations or mantras to remind your subconscious of the promise you’ve made and positive examples you’ve found.
“Everything you dream of exists in the growth zone.”
Your mantra should include whatever messages you need to remember. Maybe you need to remind it that success will help you increase your time with your family or your freedom to travel, or that you have the power to resist busyness or the pressure of other people’s expectations.
Repeat your mantra as often as it feels good to you, but especially at times when you have the most access to your subconscious mind. Some of the best times to tap into your subconscious are:
Right after you wake up.
Right before you fall asleep.
Right after meditating.
Upgrade Your Subconscious Programming
Your subconscious mind is a force. It has the power to stop you from dreaming big and moving forward — but all its power comes from the programming you put into it.
As you become aware of your dreams and as they change, use the steps above to continually debug, program, and reprogram your mind to keep your subconscious working in alignment with your conscious goals.
I’ve done this for years and can tell you: This stuff works.
It’s so amazing what happens when you approach yourself in this gentle way, not fighting your inner beliefs or forcing yourself on in spite of them. Instead, you use this compassionate introspection to hear your inner wisdom and move forward in alignment.
Trying to achieve your goals through sheer willpower and determination is like trying to roller skate uphill. You can do it, but it’s a tough road with a lot of backsliding.
Reprogramming your subconscious mind for success is like strapping a rocket booster onto your back — it’ll lift you to the top before you even realize where you’re headed.
Now, let’s turn this insight into action
Grab a notebook, and spend 5 to 10 minutes interviewing your subconscious to mine for inner wisdom. Write your answers to these questions:
What subconscious beliefs are getting in the way of your success?
How can you use these five steps to reprogram your mind toward success?
Remember — you’re brilliant. You’re powerful. You’re wise. You’re so much more than your ego and your conscious mind. When you harness the greater wisdom and insight that lives within you, you are unstoppable.