Change-makers Tammy Tibbetts & Christen Brandt dream of a world where every girl is educated, respected, and heard. A world where women are able to create change. A world where girls everywhere are safe and loved.
For 11 years,they’ve worked toward that vision, leading social change through She’s the First — a non-profit I’ve supported since 2014 alongside Michelle Obama, the United Nations, Diane von Fürstenberg, and more than 200 campus chapters worldwide.
She’s the First finds, funds, and supports local organizations to educate and empower girls, so one day we can live in a world where every girl can choose her own future.
Feeling inspired? Profound change only happens when we turn our inspiration into action. In the comments below, let us know your biggest insight and how you plan to act on it now.
If you’re not quite clear on your vision of the world, try this exercise to discover what Christen and Tammy call your “North Star.” It’s one of my favorite chapters in the book, which goes deep into uncovering your personal experiences and how they’re connected to the change you want to create in the world.
Close your eyes and think about the world you want to see in 10 years. Then 20 years. What kind of world would you hope to see 100 years from now? See it vividly like a movie in your mind.
Now on a piece of paper, write down your answers to these two questions:
Describe in detail your vision of the world you’d like to see in 20 years.
What are the biggest differences between your vision and the world we’re living in right now?
Your path of impact lives in the gap between the world you want to see and the world you live in now.
Use that clear vision as your goal, but don’t be overwhelmed. Progress happens one tiny step at a time.
As Tammy says, “If you have a setback, don’t feel discouraged. This is a long game, and it will take a lifetime. You’re building a legacy.”
When I read traditional success and career books in my 20s, I was bombarded with the same advice: Choose one thing. Focus. Do one thing so well you become known as the best.
But I couldn’t choose just one thing. I had multiple, deep passions — personal development, business, hip hop, fitness, spirituality, marketing, you name it.
I spent years tearfully journaling, angry with God. Why couldn’t I pick one thing to do with my life?
And then I got a gift. The phrase “multipassionate entrepreneur” appeared in my brain.
For some people, the advice to “choose one thing” makes perfect sense. My partner Josh knew he wanted to be an actor since he was a little boy. Some people just pop out knowing exactly what they want to do in this world.
I’m not one of those humans, and since you’re here, I’m guessing you’re not either.
We’re not weirdos, weak, or unable to focus — we’re multipassionate.
What Does It Mean to Be Multipassionate?
If you’re wondering if you might be a multipassionate entrepreneur, here are some telltale signs:
You don’t fit neatly into a conventional career box.
While some people struggle to find one idea, you have a zillion things you want to try!
You have a whole list of passions, interests, and hobbies that light you up.
Pursuing a single avenue career-wise sounds suffocating.
We’re the scanners, slashers, multipotentialites, and renaissance humans of the world.
In this clip from my Australian book tour, I explain this idea in more detail with an entire audience of other folks who can’t seem to draw inside the lines.
If you have many passions, interests, and talents, and pursuing a single thing as a career just doesn’t feel right in your soul, keep reading!
We’re not given many tools in our traditional education systems to parse through our strengths and apply them to create a meaningful and fulfilling career.
That can leave us with a lot of shame about not doing what society expects.
We need a reframe.
Over the last twenty years of my career, I’ve learned some critical tips that’ll help you thrive in an outside-the-box life and business. But first, you must embrace the fact that you’ll never quite fit the mold — and that’s a good thing.
When I was starting my business, I was bartending and waiting tables seven days a week, figuring out how to build my life coaching practice during the day, and eventually teaching fitness classes and working as a professional dancer.
When people would ask, “What do you do for a living?” my answer was something like, “Well, today, I’m…” I didn’t have one good society-approved answer for how I made money or what I did with my life.
Until I started saying, “I’m a multipassionate entrepreneur.”
That one glorious word, multipassionate, lit up my world and gave me confidence to create exactly the kind of life I wanted to live, not the one society expected of me.
How to Thrive as a Multipassionate Entrepreneur
A major struggle we often face as multipassionate beings is finding a clear path forward, especially in business.
When you’re passionate about so many things, how do you decide which to pursue in your career or business, what to put on hold, and what’ll define you?
There’s no clear cut answer to any of these questions. As you might have figured out by now, we don’t do well with one-size-fits-all formulas.
Thriving as a multipassionate entrepreneur is about embracing your many passions, understanding your goals, and taking consistent action to find clarity.
To get you moving, here are five tips to thrive as a multipassionate soul on an unconventional path.
Passion isn’t something you can go find because it doesn’t exist outside of yourself. Passion isn’t a singular, external object for you to discover. It’s the fire that lives inside.
To live a life you’re passionate about, you have to train yourself to bring passion to everything you do.
I mean everything.
When you get up in the morning, be passionate about making your bed. When you make lunch, be passionate about making lunch. When you do the dishes — yep, be passionate about those, too.
Why? Because passion is contagious.
When you’re passionate about everything you do, people will take notice. You’ll exude passion, and they’ll want in. Opportunities will fall into your lap. Take action on those opportunities, and you’ll walk into what you’re meant to do in this world.
2. Stop Thinking, Start Doing
So many people tell me they’ve struggled to find their passion for years. Years feeling torn, stuck, undecided, and unsure.
Why? Because smart, intentional people tend to make the same big mistake — overthinking.
As you try to discover what you’re meant to do in this world, remember: You can’t find your passion by thinking about it in your head.
I wasted so much time in my early 20s doing exactly this.
I was trying to decide whether to go for it and become a professional dancer, but I kept it all inside my head. I worried I was too old, that dance wouldn’t be a stable long-term career move, and I wouldn’t make that much money.
Finally, I got smart and enrolled in a freakin’ dance class, and I learned a vital lesson.
Clarity comes from engagement, not thought.
As I warmed up in the studio for my first class, I actually wept tears of joy, because it felt so right. In that moment, I knew there was no way I wasn’t going to try and make this a career.
If you’re trying to find your passion about — stop thinking, and start doing. Volunteer, get a job, take a class. Whatever you have to do, get your buns out there, and do it.
Pick a step, even a teeny tiny one, and take it. Notice how you feel. Are you energized or deflated?
You don’t need to know every next step. Just keep moving in the direction that makes you feel energized.
3. Know Which Passions Are the Main Act & Which Are the Backup Dancers
When you’re a multipassionate entrepreneur, building a brand around those passions can get complicated.
The key to branding yourself is to get specific. You’ve heard it: Niche, niche, niche. Find one thing your audience needs, and do it better than anyone else.
That sounds a lot like traditional success and career advice, doesn’t it?
Here’s why that’s great for multipassionate entrepreneurs. No one in your niche can bring what you bring to the table.
But let’s be real: A lot of people put on a business and marketing show. What those people don’t do? Throw in the occasional hip hop dance class to keep the audience (literally) on their toes.
Being multipassionate isn’t your Achilles heel, it’s your superpower.
No, I’m not doing everything all at once — selling online business programs and teaching weekly fitness classes and doing life coaching. But conquering a niche doesn’t mean I have to ignore all the passions that make me who I am.
As you build your business or career, make room to pursue all of your passions, and follow the paths that most light you up. At different times, different passions may take the spotlight — let the rest play backup to form your one-of-a-kind brand.
4. Get Crystal Clear on Your Goals
You have so many ideas! So many talents! So many people to serve! So many paths in front of you!
The thought of starting a business as a multipassionate entrepreneur can leave some people immobilized by choice and others overextended and frazzled trying to do it all.
Does being multipassionate mean you pursue all your passions at once? It can, but it doesn’t have to.
You can choose to walk one path at a time, knowing you’re never stuck, or pursue a few at the same time. Here’s the difference.
Following a single passion and building your platform for one business now probably means you’ll grow faster and have a greater chance of higher revenue more quickly. But it would mean setting aside other ideas that might be burning a hole through your heart. And maybe getting bored.
Following multiple passions to simultaneously build two or more businesses at once means you’ll be able to strengthen different skills and learn more about what you like and don’t like. On the downside, you’ll probably grow each business more slowly, make less money for a while, and life will be a little more messy and chaotic.
To decide which direction makes sense for you, get crystal clear on your goals — both short and long term.
Is fast growth and revenue important to you right now? Or can you afford to build more slowly? Has one idea captured your heart? Or is there a passion that you can circle back to down the road?
Remember: Even if you decide to give your all to one business right now, you can always start a second business later or pivot along the way.
5. Master the Mid-Life (or Anytime) Career Change
One panic-inducing worry for multipassionate souls is the thought that you might wake up one day and realize it’s too late to try something new.
You’re never too old, it’s never too late, and it’s never the wrong time to do something you love.
All sorts of people are crushing it in new careers and starting businesses at all ages and with all kinds of experience behind them. If I’d believed the “I’m too old” narrative, I never would have started a dance career at 24, and I never would have become a Nike Elite athlete.
Here are a few things you need to know to master the mid-life career change:
Nobody cares how old you are but you. Yes, ageism is a real thing. But forget what’s happening outside of you, and get a grip on what’s going on inside. What’s right for you in this moment?
You’re not starting from scratch. Your multipassionate superpower lets you carry over all the experience, wisdom, and strengths from your previous career into your new one. You’ll be able to see creative angles and opportunities for innovation that those who’ve been in the same industry for a lifetime are blind to.
It’s going to feel daunting. Any big change will yank you out your comfort zone, and that’ll be scary. But you can’t let that stop you. You don’t need to know all your next steps in advance. Just focus on the next right action step, and take small steps every day in your new direction.
Enjoy the Smorgasbord!
The bottom line, my multipassionate friend, is that you have a menu of delectable choices in front of you. All of them can be satisfying and fulfilling in their own way.
The secret to making the best choice is to step back, get ultra-clear on what you most want in your heart, take action to move toward it, and have total faith that you’re on the perfect path.
If you’re stuck trying to decide among different careers, business ideas, or passions to pursue, try on different futures. Imagine yourself 5, 10, or 20 years from now, after pursuing one path or another. How do you feel? What do you regret not doing?
Communicate with your future self to get clear on how you define success. Which goals and values make the difference between a fulfilling future and a disappointing one?
Embracing your multiple passions and understanding how to incorporate them into your life can help you create a custom-designed business or career that’s perfect for your strengths and the life you want to have.
Now let’s turn this insight into action.
Trying to decide whether to pursue a particular passion or not? Take the 10-Year Test.
Grab a notebook, and write your answers; don’t just think them.
Imagine yourself 10 years down the road. When you look back on your last decade, do you regret not having done the thing?
Don’t shy away from your multiple passions, and never feel ashamed for choosing more than one. If there’s anything I wish I could say to my younger self, it’s this:
Trust those impulses, follow your intuition, and fall in love with your appetite to do so many things. Being multipassionate is your gift.
Know that feeling? When life keeps piling on problems one on top of another?
Maybe you’re strong enough to handle the first few. But then another gets thrown into the mix. And another. And another. Before you know it, you’re drowning in a sea of stress and overwhelm. You find yourself thinking, “Seriously!?! I can’t take much more. How the heck am I going to overcome all these challenges?!”
In the face of massive problems — or even a pileup of tiny ones — it’s natural to feel defeated. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings of disappointment and even despair.
Next time you need to overcome challenges in life or business, experiment with one or more of these mantras. They help you lower stress, regain your personal power, and call forth the fortitude and creativity you’ll need to move forward.
1. “Everything Is Figureoutable”
This first mantra is more than just a fun phrase to say. It’s a practical, actionable discipline to help you operate at your best and overcome life’s thorniest challenges. Live it, breathe it and use it daily. I promise, adopting this as a core belief can make you virtually unstoppable.
Not unstoppable in the sense that everything will always go your way, because we know it won’t. Problems and difficulties are guaranteed in life.
But unstoppable in the sense that no matter what obstacles or problems come your way, they won’t permanently take you down. Knowing everything is figureoutable means trusting yourself enough to know that you have what it takes to find or make a way forward, no matter what.
In my life, whenever things seem to keep going wrong and I problem after problem stacks up, I repeat this mantra: “Life happens FOR me, not TO me.”
It’s a potent reminder that you and you alone are in charge of assigning a meaning to any event that occurs.
Every challenge, obstacle, and unfortunate situation contains the potential for positive growth, if we’re willing to look for it. No matter what the situation, you have the power to learn something, become stronger, gain wisdom, perspective, and understanding for your future.
For a powerful reminder of the importance of finding the hidden gift of growth in any moment, especially those which are most painful, most difficult, and most heart-breaking, watch this MarieTV with Holocaust survivor Dr. Edith Eger.
Next time you’re faced with an unexpected challenge and find yourself thinking, “Why me?” pause and say, “Okay, this happened and it’s awful. But now what? What’s the potential opportunity? How might this situation help me grow stronger or better in the long-run?”
If you’re ready to train yourself to find the gift of growth in any and every challenge, embrace this mantra — life is happening for you, not to you.
3. “Clarity Comes From Engagement, Not Thought”
Sometimes when you’re working to overcome a big challenge, you get frozen in fear. Analysis paralysis, as they say. Not wanting to make the wrong move, you make no move at all. But being indecisive and can waste tremendous time and cause more harm than good over time.
Early in my career, I spent years wondering if I had what it took to be a dancer. Could I be one? Should I be one? I even fantasized about what it might be like. But I never made a move, until I did.
My biggest mistake? Searching my head for an answer that could only be experienced through my heart.
That experience taught me this crucial lesson: Clarity comes from engagement, not thought.
When you’re trapped in the hell of indecision about the best way around an obstacle, do something about it as quickly as possible. Take some kind of real, tangible action. Make a phone call. Speak with an expert (or 3). Take a class, volunteer, test a possible solution. Doesn’t have to be a big step, just a step in any direction.
This next piece is important. You don’t need a huge master plan for solving your problem before you take action. That’s not possible or necessary. Start exactly where you are with one small step. Then take another. Then another. Stay focused on engagement, not thought. Feel you way forward. The insight and information you gain from taking action will inform your next steps, and ultimately a more comprehensive long-term plan.
4. “Everything You Dream of Exists in the Growth Zone”
99.9% of the things you need to do in order to overcome challenges and improve your life are things you haven’t done before. That means it’s natural for you to feel uncertain, insecure and uncomfortable. But as the world’s most resilient and successful people will tell you, one of the best things we can do to overcome challenges is to get comfortable being uncomfortable.
In other words, get out of your comfort zone and enter your growth zone. Your growth zone is the place just beyond what you’re familiar with. It’s the place where yes, you will be uncomfortable (because it’s unfamiliar), and, it’s the only place you can possibly learn new skills, perspectives and develop new capabilities.
Look, I get it. Life feels safe in the comfort zone, because you’re accustomed to the patterns — even if they’re stressful, dysfunctional, or painful. But dreams are only realized in the growth zone. Everything you dream of becoming, achieving, or experiencing exists in this space (a.k.a. the discomfort zone).
This uncomfortable, vulnerable, unfamiliar growth zone is the only place you acquire the skills and strengths you need to overcome this challenge. The growth zone is where you’ll cultivate a new level of inner resolve and find a way forward from this setback.
Then get ready. Because when you spend enough time in your growth zone, something marvelous happens. That previously uncomfortable growth zone becomes your new comfort zone. And you grow stronger, wiser and more capable as a result.
Bottom Line: You Have What It Takes to Overcome Challenges
Yes, what you’re facing is tough. But guess what — you’re tougher. Decide right now that nothing is beyond your reach. Success doesn’t happen by chance, it happens by choice. So make the decision right now that yes, you do have what it takes to overcome challenges.
Just for a second, ignore what your friends, Instagram feed, culture, and coworkers say you should value. Because if you get quiet and ask your soul? I bet we’re not that different.
“At the core, all of us want to be true to who we really are, make a contribution that matters, and be well-compensated for the contribution that we make.”
When today’s MarieTV guest, Rha Goddess, said those words, it struck a deep chord.
After starting her career as a “starving spiritual artist,” Rha became the CEO and changemaker behind Move The Crowd, a coaching and consulting firm that’s been featured in Time Magazine, Variety, Essence, and Fast Company.
She’s a social entrepreneur, activist, and author of the brilliant book The Calling, a step-by-step blueprint for finding your purpose and making your highest, most profitable contribution.
Whether or not you believe you have a calling, don’t miss this conversation.
2:59 — How Rha went from starving artist to world-changing CEO. 7:30 — Six spiritual steps to transform any area of your life. 10:32 — How to release the victim mentality… for good. 11:38 — An unpopular truth about abundance. 19:23 — What 2020 is trying to tell us. 23:28 — Rha’s go-to daily journaling routine. 30:39 — Three sacred practices to create lasting fulfillment. 34:00 — Why you should STOP searching for your purpose (and what to do instead).
If you’ve ever longed for a purpose, you’ll love this episode.
Rha speaks with such presence and poignance. You’ll see me shout, “I love you!” throughout our conversation, because I just couldn’t contain my adoration.
Hit play to watch now or listen on The Marie Forleo Podcast.
Know what time it is? Yup, it’s insight-to-action time, love.
Rha believes generosity is our natural state of being and contribution is a fundamental human need. She says, “When you align with the truth of who you are, you’ll have no choice but to give. You can’t stop the giving, because when you are fully realized, that’s all you want to do.”