My mom has this amazing quality.
She goes out of her way to tell people, especially strangers, genuinely kind things about themselves.
I notice it most often with wait staff in restaurants. But I’ve also seen her spread the love to taxi drivers, dog walkers and construction workers.
The burst of life and energy she brings to others with just a few kind words always inspires me.
Probably because rather than just thinking a kind thought about someone else (which we all do), my Mom stops in the moment, focuses completely on the other person and makes sure they hear a few honest words of appreciation.
Which is why I was excited to answer today’s question from a reader named Nischala, who’s struggling with feeling undervalued at work.
If you ever feel like all the hard work you do goes largely unnoticed, watch this now.
There’s something weird that used to happen to me for years.
Whenever I made a big leap in my life (especially as it related to my career), I’d get super sick. I’m talking head-splitting migraines, debilitating nausea and one of the worst of all — nearly a week of being so weak and sick that I could hardly get out of bed.
While everybody gets a bug now and again, the timing of these illnesses right after something big just happened in my business was just too strange.
Plus, after doctors ran all kinds of tests and repeatedly told me, “Marie, I can’t find anything wrong with you.” I knew I had to look deeper.
That’s when I learned about a concept called “upper limits” and the unfortunate link many of us have between self-sabotage and expanded success.
If you ever find yourself with the urge to run and hide, pick a fight, or somehow stir up trouble when things start to get really good — this episode is a must watch! You’ll learn a simple practice to stop self-sabotage for good.
This 15-year old girl’s email really touched my heart. What she’s struggling with right now is something many of us wrestle with — no matter what our age.
What do you do when you feel completely useless and alone?
It doesn’t matter what you do for a living, how many friends you have or how “successful” you may appear to be.
We all feel disconnected from time to time. And if we listen to (and believe) the voice in our head, we can quickly spiral down into darkness.
In today’s episode, learn three ways you can get back on track anytime you forget your intrinsic value and question your worth in this world.
Over the weekend I had a chance to hang out with my (very awesome) parents. Josh and I took them to this little 1950’s style diner in Venice beach.
The kind of place with James Dean posters on the wall, where you can get a real chocolate ice cream soda and outstanding homemade apple pie.
My dad said, “Remember that time you called us crying because you wanted to quit your job on Wall Street, but you didn’t know what else you were supposed to do with your life? And remember what I told you? Doesn’t matter how long it takes. You got to find something you love. Look at you now…”
Yeah. I know that ‘find something you love’ may sound like trite advice, but I believe his words hold truth.
Because I knew in my heart that no matter what I wound up doing in my professional life, I’d work really, really hard to become the best I could be.
It made sense that if I was going to work that hard, I had to find something that really aligned with who I was as a human being.
Over the years I’ve gone from being a one-woman shop to now leading a virtual and growing team of star players.
We’re all sprinkled across time zones and spend at least 80% of our time working independently.
Every day I take time to appreciate the beautiful souls I get to work with and I’m constantly looking for ways to improve our company’s culture. Why?
Because no matter what you do for a living, being a part of a healthy, high-functioning team is vital if you want to feel fulfilled at work.
Now your team may be your family. Or fellow writers, designers, agents, managers, assistants or programmers.
Or even fellow employees if you’re working within a company.
As technology continues to erase the confines of the traditional 9-5 work environment, it’s vital that we all learn ways to become better, more caring leaders.