Today, I wanted to tackle a topic that most of us can relate to — especially during the holidays. Between travel, parties, gifts, and extra time with family…
It’s inevitable that at some point over the next few weeks, the hot topic of money will be front and center.
No surprise here, but how you think and feel about money may be very different than the people around you.
Everyone is their own person of course, but research has shown that we’re more affected by our environment than we think. No where do we feel this more than with money.
So — are we royally screwed if our friends and family are stuck in scarcity? Do we need to focus on changing them in addition to changing ourselves?
A few days ago I was heading to dinner with a friend in Soho and we walked past a restaurant called Lure. I said, “I used to work there.”
He said, “You worked there? Really — not that long ago?”
Yup. That wasn’t the only place. At that particular time, I had three other gigs — outside of my online business — that helped me keep it all together.
One of the biggest obstacles that holds many people back from starting their own business is the fear of not being able to make enough money.
I completely understand that because it was my fear too. That’s why I chose to put my ego to the side, hustle my ass off, and leverage the power of bridge jobs along the way.
Have you ever felt torn when it comes to the idea of “competition?”
For example, how do you respond when someone in your industry asks you to open your business kimono — so to speak — and spill all of your hard-earned secrets?
While most of us know that there are more than enough customers, love, opportunities and success to go around, and we love to help others…
We also have the right to choose what we feel comfortable sharing, when and with whom.
Like most things in life, there’s not one right answer here. So much of it is about context.
But the real reason I wanted to tackle this question is because it’s something many of us secretly feel ashamed, conflicted and embarrassed about.
Especially if we’re on a spiritual path.
We worry that wanting to keep some things private makes us ultra-competitive, scarcity-minded, stingy, less enlightened or somehow a “bad” person.
Not true at all.
I was once told by a psychic that it’s something I need to be aware of.
Now this particular psychic specializes in animals (yes, I’m a person who totally believes in pet psychics), and she was specifically referring to my boundaries around my dog Kuma and me not smothering him with too much affection.
Apparently, my snuggly ways aren’t always good for his ability to be independent.
But it’s understandable, right?
When you share the same space with other sweet souls, it’s natural to want to hang out and play together.
But when you work from home and share your space with others (cute pets and cute people alike) — boundaries are, indeed, essential.
Today we’re heading into some tricky territory.
I can only imagine the amount of feathers that will be ruffled, and the upset that’ll be directed my way.
But the truth is, this topic affects a LOT of ambitious couples — most are just too ashamed to talk about it.
Left unexamined, this struggle leads many otherwise happy relationships to spiral down into a painful path of fighting and, ultimately, divorce.
Because when your significant other feels like your business is more important than they are, it’s a recipe for disaster.
When it gets to this stage, whether you realize it or not, your relationship is in decline. And if you don’t take action, it will only get worse.
Look. The only way to transform any pain point in your life is by bringing it into the light.
Talk about it. Get curious about it. Be compassionate with yourself and others and realize there is a solution…