Do you ever feel torn between different parts of your personality — especially when it comes to how you represent yourself in the world?
After all, we humans have multiple personalities, so to speak. At different times we can be humorous, inspirational, sarcastic, kind, angry, authoritative, blunt, poetic, direct, friendly and a million other things too.
Whether you write (a blog, book, newsletter, social media updates, articles, etc.) or speak publicly on behalf of your company, it’s important to consciously choose the tone and language you use to communicate your message.
But with all these different parts of your identity, how do you choose which voice to use out in the world? And is it really wise to show your real personality in a professional setting?
This is the topic we’re diving into today on MarieTV. You’ll learn two simple keys to consciously choosing a genuine brand voice that best represents you, and helps you make the difference you were born to make.
I’m happy to be back in New York after spending a few weeks in Paris and Morocco.
Now the vast majority of my trips in recent years have been work related — speaking, conferences, seminars. You know, productive stuff.
While I love all kinds of travel, I have to say that being completely off from work the past few weeks has been massively healing for my mind, body and soul.
It was also deeply nourishing to spend extended, almost non-stop quality time with Josh. He’s someone I cherish and absolutely adore experiencing the world with.
98% of the time, we get along like gangbusters. But, like any couple, we get on each other’s nerves, too. You should have seen the fiery little exchange we had in Paris getting lost during my relentless hunt for the perfect croissant !
Conflict isn’t fun for anyone, but it is a natural part of life. The better we can get at dealing with it, the easier life becomes.
In today’s episode of MarieTV, you’ll learn two magical words to help you ‘win’ almost any argument, fast.
Can you relate?
You said yes to a major project with your full heart. You felt good. Excited. Ready to dive in. You believe in this thing and the other folks involved are thrilled to have you on board.
A bit of time goes by and your life takes a turn.
It’s all good, but things are different now. Less time, less bandwidth. The truth is you stress even thinking about this project and what it will take to pull it off.
But, you already said yes. You gave your word. People are counting on you (lots of them) and you pride yourself on being someone who honors commitments, no matter what.
Enter a stormy, emotional mix of guilt, inadequacy, panic, and fear. There’s the fear of looking weak, the fear of disappointing others, and the fear of damaging your reputation.
Do you suck it up and try harder, or, do you call it quits?
If you’ve ever struggled with saying no after you’ve already said yes, this MarieTV is for you.
Most of the time, we only get to hear about people’s successes.
The highlight reels, so to speak. We see the big moments. The impressive stuff.
While I’m all for celebrating wins and focusing on the positive, it’s vital that we don’t feel shame about our mistakes or missteps either.
Because let’s face it. We all stumble and fall. We all have errors in judgment. We all do things from time to time that, in retrospect, make us cringe and say “What was I thinking?”
The truth is, in order to experience growth and progress in any area of life, you’ve got to take risks and put yourself out there. Consistently.
That means you’re going to stumble. You’ll find yourself embarrassed from time to time. And yes, you will have flops. Guaranteed.
The only real question to ask yourself is this.
Let’s get down to it. How much do you really care about what people think of you?
As social creatures it’s nearly impossible not to care — on some level — about what people think. It’s a core human desire to be accepted, acknowledged and loved.
But on the other hand, caring about what others think — especially about how you look, dress, talk, write, who you love, how you behave, decisions you make or what you do for a living — makes you a volunteer for a caged life of misery and mediocrity.
Lao Tzu said it best here:
Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. – Lao Tzu
In today’s episode of MarieTV, we’re answering a question from a young woman in New Zealand who has big dreams, but is feeling crushed under the opinions and doubts of those around her.
If you ever feel like you may care a little too much about what people think of you, this one is for you.